Hello, I'm new here so forgive me if I make any mistakes. I've tried to ask this on the relationships subreddit but the answers I got were honestly quite unsatisfactory.

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Relationship status: I'm nearly 27 and my bf is 29; we've been together for 8 years, since I was in high school. I feel I should add that, while I'm left-leaning in politics and I do consider myself a feminist, I've always been much more traditional in my own personal life. I love taking care of myself, dresses, makeup and skincare. He's been my only serious boyfriend so far and my only sexual relationship. I'm actually quite attractive (I receive compliments regularly) and people often mistake me for being around 20 years old.

We both still live with our parents (which is quite a cultural/common thing in our country right now for young people). I have a job and he's currently finishing his phd and working part time at the same time. He likely won't have problems finding a job after his graduation, so money is not going to be an issue.

I've always dreamt of getting married straight after college; my parents got married quite young and are more or less happy, and I don't want to get married at 30 because I want kids in the next few years, but I want to have had at least a couple of years of childfree married life before having them. Bf and I are pretty much on the same page about children (although I'd like three and he doesn't want more than two).

We've talked about our relationship and he always says he loves me and he wants to be with me in the future. He's a great bf, very sweet, and we get along really well. I've lurked around here a bit and he seems like a high beta maybe? But he's confrontational in public and I've always admired him for always speaking his mind, although I may say I'm certainly the more attractive between the two of us and he's never been chased much by girls.

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The issue: While I love the idea of getting married (not the ceremony itself or the party, just the idea of being married to him for the rest of my life), he'd be more than fine with just living together for the rest of our lives. He's not opposed to getting married, but he'd like to live together first, which I'm not a fan of at all. I think he doesn't want to commit yet because there's literally no one in our social circle, of our age, who is already married. A couple of friends are living with a partner, and that's it. Again, this is pretty much the norm in our country nowadays, but I guess I'm old-fashiond and romantic. Also, we are one of the couples who's been together the longest in our group of friends, so it makes sense to me that we'll be the first to get married as well.

What I find confusing is that he doesn't push for moving the relationship forward. He's always been the one to chase me, but now, although he does talk about how our life together is going to be fairly often, he doesn't do anything to actually get me to live with him. He used to be quite pushy in the past, he was always the one to initiate things, and I liked it. We even already have a house we could move in (he inherited it from his uncle). He knows I'd like to get married first, so I guess he's just leaving things as they are in hope I come around or he suddenly feels "ready". The things is, I find the idea of moving quite scary, but at the same time I feel stuck in my current life, living like a child with my parents, having basically no privacy and only seeing him when we'reboth free from work.

When we talk about it, he basically says that I "just have to say it" and we're moving in together, as soon as I feel ready. But a) I'd like him to be crazy about the idea, not just "ok"; I don't want to be the one pushing for it! b) I'd like him to propose.

Any ideas? Thank you in advance!

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TL;DR Bf is ok with the idea of moving together first but doesn't want to get married yet and I'd like him to be more enthusiastic and less passive about things.