To cut a really long story short. I never really have problems with women or my sex drive, or rather, I didn't until after one break up roughly towards the end of November last year.

I was on a bit of a downer, but quickly reframed myself, and moved on but for the first time ever inadvertently began nofap. I didn't realise until after the 2 week mark that I had naturally just stopped any masturbation, and had no interest in sex in general - I put it down to post-relationship depression but decided, "I'm 2 weeks in, I may as well see how far I can go" already being aware of the nofap movement but never having taken part.

I managed to last over 2 months without masturbating, although I did have sex sporadically throughout, I never allowed myself to ejaculate... and I honestly felt great for those two months. My sex drive returned with a vengeance, and I was more on form than ever before, I think due in part to the fact that I no longer was actively seeking sex, but rather it was coming to me without effort and I was more able to pick and choose at my own leisure.

Anyway, at some point after those 2 months I eventually gave in and allowed myself to ejaculate with a girl, and a few other times as well and I was overcome with shame. Also, I was ridiculously sensitive which was to be expected but I let it knock me back regardless, and I felt like I had lost years and years of experience and sexual ability which compounded the shame I was already feeling; as silly as that sounds.

I went into a bit of a negative spiral and started to have self doubt and esteem issues over this, and consequently realised I'd probably based a lot of my self esteem on my ability to get and fuck women with relative ease, and skill and probably used them to validate me for over half of my life.

The main problem now is though, that I experienced what the nofap community calls a flatline, but havent recovered. And this flatline began at least 4-5 months ago, and I've masturbated and had sex a few times since, with no real improvement in my sex drive. Honestly feel like I'm becoming asexual. It's causing me a lot of anxiety and depression, and as a result I let myself go a little bit - although I have finally began combatting that, but I feel like nofap was a mistake in a lot of ways now. Did I just do it wrong? Or is nofap wrong? And has anyone else been through this or similar?