How does one actually stop oneitis from happening?

doublecup__ · 2019-07-22T23:27:54+00:00

Abundance & Purpose.

Actually having girls that are into you provides you with concrete evidence to support and strengthen your abundance mentality. Without a rotation, you can still emulate an abundance mentality and use past success in place of current success so, no, it's not only a situational fix - it helps you down the road, too. Even if you're in a drought/moving to a new area/whatever, you can reassure yourself that "hey I've had a bunch of hotties before, I can definitely do it again." Additionally, if you a purpose/multiple passions that you're enthusiastic about and constantly work on, a big chunk of your time and thoughts will be occupied leaving less room for intrusive thoughts of your oneitis.

Finally, you need to fully accept that the glass is already broken.

Foolishoe · 2019-07-22T23:57:40+00:00

High levels of muscle growth limits your ability to feel.

Oneitis is your desire to relieve yourself of the burden of responsibility that is managing all of your own things. So many people are willing to take what you have and take care of you for a price. This price at first is given as a reward. You may have the experience of a sensual, or intense connection with the person. You may feel that overwhelming sense of relief and comfort, that now you can blame someone else for leading you astray, or worshiping them for leading you through life's random moments.

You let someone else captain and you kneel beneath them, licking the boots of the master.

What sort of life is this? There are plenty of forums for BDSM that can teach you all about being a submissive. The books and lessons on mastery are more difficult. The path to dominance in the world is the most difficult and the most rewarding.

Of course the world around you presses you to submit, the women promise they will take care of you, they give you the advice you always wanted to hear.

Stay home and eat junk food and watch netflix with me baby, I'll suck you off while you stuff your face with beer and ice cream for months. I love you for the way you are, I don't care if you stop working out, then you can spend more time with me. We can pick out furniture and decorate and go grocery shopping and do all the chores around the house together. We can do EVERYTHING TOGETHER IT WILL BE PERFECT.

Great, now she's sick of you, fucking your 'best friend' and not doing a fucking thing she used to for you, and somehow, though you gave HER control, she retaliates in all your conversations and she represses her negative complaints for months, passive aggressively lighting your relationship on fire and talking shit about you to everyone she can, especially those pussy hungry orbiters you do or do not know about.

Women are not evil, they are not out to get you, they mean the very best for you, right after they mean the very best for themselves. You manage you because you know the bullshit the world is feeding you isn't good for you, the kool-aide she's currently on is a fad, a phase, and a fucking joke.

Your path is the one that gets her hot and bothered, your path is the one that keeps you solid like a fucking oak tree.

Hand anyone your balls and they will stuff them down your throat.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-07-23T00:38:26+00:00

Have abundance and be aware of the sunk cost bias.

ATRP2019 · 2019-07-23T02:04:28+00:00

One-itis = one girl in life

Stop one-itis = multiple girls in life

HornedBul · 2019-07-23T12:04:55+00:00

Half the posts are telling you to get abundance and start spinning plates. I'll go a different route

Masculinity, and TRP, are about learning to deal with your emotions, rather than avoiding them. So, getting oneitis is not something you can completely avoid (although taking steps to avoid it is a good thing to do). Rather than wanting to forcefully stop it, start embracing it, give it some time, and work on yourself. Lifting, meditation, reading books, etc. Getting with other women may be one step to take eventually, but I don't think it's the end all be all solution to oneitis.

Spinning plates may do the thing for you (and most cases), but if you are still deep into oneitis, getting with other girls may end up just being a "wish you were her" thing, and make things worse.

deathhandmachiavelli · 2019-07-23T13:14:25+00:00

After you hook up with enough girls, the tendency to get one-itis goes away.

Red_Vet_Garageman · 2019-07-23T01:43:31+00:00

Good advice in here already so here's a quote for you:

"Best way to get over a bitch is to get under another"

Title	How does one actually stop oneitis from happening?
Author	TRPonlySubsBanTRPppl
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Date	July 22, 2019 10:58 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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