First Date - How to touch?

jonsmif9797 · 2019-07-24T19:11:50+00:00

I will give you a weapon that will save your face if she confronts you why you are touching her. I field-tested it and usually you get a pass for touching her.

"Your [part] is like a magnet. My hand can't help but to attach to it." Leave your hand there for a few moments after you say so and then withdraw your hand for a few minutes. What you are subcommunicating here is that you are not afraid of touching her, but you know that she is uncomfortable with your touching at this moment.

Here's how I usually escalate if I am in public.

I want to sit next to her so that I can sit back and drape my arm across her seat. This move doesn't really involves touching but you subcommunicate that you are not her friend.

Sometimes I hold her hand to examine her fingers if she paints her fingers.

Sometimes I ask is there any meaning to her necklace and say "let me have a closer look" and hold the necklace.

Sometimes if her hand is too fidgety during her talking I will hold her hand for a minute and tell her that her fidgety hand is too distracting.

If I have to sit across her, I will put my hand over her hand when I ask her questions (then withdraw after a few minutes she starts answering my question) if she leaves her hand on the table.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-07-24T19:52:03+00:00

No. Do NOT sit across. Sit next to her. In 95% of cases you should be able to make that happen.

Once you are next to her its this(its not a fucking science but many of these will come naturally with time. Also, you don't have to do all of these):

1)hold her hand(ask about fingernail polish, bracelets selection/story behind it, etc), touch her elbow/arm a bit, initial hug when greeting. Quick touch of thigh.

2)touch the small of her back a bit and lean in to whisper something or tell a quiet joke, touch her thigh, play with her hair, arm around shoulder, arm around waist. Massage her shoulders(mentioning your massage therapy license).

3)kissing, massaging, slapping/grabbing her ass(this must be done with the right vibe).

From here the next steps are rubbing her pussy from outside her pants, fingering, feeling up her tits, foreplay and sex. I love the massage technique even as foreplay. Massaging getting increasing sexual.

O--- · 2019-07-24T18:50:32+00:00

Tell her there's a fly on her cheek and proceed to slap her face.

More seriously, the games you might be thinking of might be palm reading and stuff. Just be careful that it may feel kind of awkwardly forced when just bringing it up randomly.

FarEntrepreneur3 · 2019-07-24T21:45:13+00:00

Let me give you some examples from a date I had last night

She's in my car and we're driving to the bar. She gets to talking about religion/being raised Catholic so I say to her "Oh but you're not wearing a scapular, huh?" and I touch her chest where her necklace would be. (this also led to good conversation about scapulars, religious stuff (though treating lightly), etc).

Now we're sitting across from each other and she tells me she likes my "fluff" (beard). So I tell her to feel it and she does. She says her hair isn't as soft as it used to be blah blah blah so I feel it. She acts all cute when she points things out ("Look! I think it's gonna rain!") and taps my arm rapidly and playfully as she says it. Throughout the date as I'm teasing her I might poke her in the sides a bit.

We get up to walk around the bar and explore and I put my hand on her lower back for a bit, showing her around, eventually putting my arm around her shoulders.

We switch venues and we're standing close to each other to order our drinks. I go to sit down at a booth and she goes to sit down across from me so I say "Why don't you sit next to me instead?" She says "Oh I didn't know that was an option" and gladly obliges. Now I pull her into me and get her all snuggled in, rubbing her thighs and her ass.

The car ride back I have my hand on her thigh and in her hand the whole time. Before she leaves I kiss her a few times (she had somewhere to be real quick).

That was all about an hour and a half. Keep it natural and within reason. You see how the context to all of these make sense? You almost have to recognize a kino situation when it pops up. Funny enough, she didn't have any bracelets or nail polish so I didn't have an excuse to grab her hands early on. I even considered grabbing them and saying "Huh you must not be one for nail polish, eh?" but didn't wanna push it. I guess that could be a kind of "neg" but it was still early and she was still warming up to me. Plus the light teasing I had done earlier seemed to put her a bit on defensive so I decided against it.

Cazken · 2019-07-24T19:39:21+00:00

Go strait for the kill, put ur hand down her panties, if she’s wet keep going if she’s not abort mission

cpotpie1 · 2019-07-24T20:11:47+00:00

Look up DiCarlos escalation ladder. Should be in TRP or MRP sidebar

[deleted] · 2019-07-25T00:46:06+00:00

Open with a hug, do high fives, etc. along the way. That's why you don't sit across -- because it's so difficult to kino. Sit beside. Action dates are the best for touching.

TRPmainMan · 2019-07-24T20:50:06+00:00

A move, that first may seem BP but i use a lot if the vibe is right is and the girls are all over it:

ask her if she believes in destiny (all of them fking do) and if she believes that the eyes are the mirror to the soul.

If she says no, tell her: "let me prove you wrong.", proceed
If she says yes, proceed.

Order her to give you both of her hands and hold them.

Tell her to "Only think about positive things you see in me in the next 2 minutes, i will do the same"

Just look her dead in the eyes, for a good 1 or 2 minutes

i swear all of them enthuse whenever i do that and are like "this was the best part of the night". Seriously, try it

Title	First Date - How to touch?
Author	void-z
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Date	July 24, 2019 6:49 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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