She claims she has no STDs. I make the same claim. We both would need to be tested (again, since we’ve both been with other people since we first met), but even if neither us have any STDs, the idea of unprotected anal just seems, for me, unnecessary and “not worth the risk”...

I can’t tell if I’m just being paranoid, since I’d insist on getting tested first, but even with a clean bill of health it seems risky.

She wants to “feel her boyfriend pump her full of a load.” I love hearing this and want to oblige, but something just says “no” and I don’t know what it is, or why... again, considering that we’d both need to get re-tested again anyway.

What is holding me back? Is it normal to insist on wearing a condom for anal even if both people have no STDs?