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Have you ever been with a prostitute?

dnlslm9

November 16, 2014
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Title Have you ever been with a prostitute?
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dnlslm9

Upvotes 8
Comments 49
Date November 16, 2014 6:01 AM UTC
(11 years ago)
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[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 51 points52 points53 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

There is an even more important question to ask: Why the fuck do you stay with a woman for eight months, who refuses to have sex with you?

[–]hb8only8 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

must be some crazy notatheism involved...

[–]HAMMURABl 26 points27 points28 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

for $12 i`d go there every other day

[–]sir_wankalot_here 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Half of the thrill is the hunt. There is no thrill with bargirls.

[–]skoobled 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This is true. I hadn't realised just how much of the experience is about conquest and tension for me

[–][deleted] 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

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[–]skoobled 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Agree with this. I've dabbled a couple of times with (very legal and regulated) brothels. It's... Ok... Quite hard to get into the different mode of the sex- it's 100% a business transaction of course, so you have to deal with the very clear knowledge that she has no interest in you other that your fee. But of course you also have no other obligation to her either. This will be a weird feeling though

In short it services a short term physical need, and pretty much nothing else. I'd say it's great for virginity, long term sexual ruts and satisfying your basic needs if your are in a "monk mode" period. I definitely think that sex with a "real" girl that you're attracted to will always be a fuller package though

[–]dnlslm9[S] -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Like I said I have a girlfriend I can get intimate with but toys with me about sex. I actually went to the brothel then to my GF house to hang out and feel find at the moment. I had sex and than intamacy not with the same woman.

[–]harkrank 22 points23 points24 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

If you're not having sex she isn't your girlfriend.

[–]dnlslm9[S] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Another reason why I don't feel guilty about my actions. She's not my girlfriend but we're not friends. It's complicated.

[–]Gimprome 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Doesn't sound complicated to me. You're not fucking her, you're an emotional tampon and she is using you for validation. Fucking do something about it.

[–]dnlslm9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't spend much money on her and hang out with her when I want. I don't mind. It's difficult for me to start new relationships at the moment and until then she's kinda of my emotional outlet too.

[–]Gimprome 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You shouldn't be spending any money on her, and no female should be your emotional outlet. That makes you look weak and will never benefit you. She will never wingman you or set you up with someone. Cut yourself loose from the situation, you gain nothing here.

[–]Endorsed Contributorzyk0s 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The only reason to wait 8 months for sex is if the girl is a virgin and wanted to wait for marriage, the wedding planned for within 6 months but then there was a death in the family and it had to be postponed.

I can't think of any other reason to wait that long. Especially if you can hire a prostitute legally. Now start showing her you're losing patience and you're going to walk away.

[–]Movonnow 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Yes. I went to my last 'girlfriend' everynight for about 4 months. I was her beta buck and she was a gold digger. She gave me her body hoping for (future) payment and she never liked the sex we had.

To me, that's prostitution.

But anyway, you should leave that bitch. She doesn't respect you (doesn't respect your fundamental need for sex), doesn't desire you (doesn't have sex with you) and you are sick of her.

[–]dnlslm9[S] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I¿m not rich but my family is and I hve more oppurtunity to get ahead than 99% of people here. I know she coupdn't find someone in the social circles I'm in.(I don't mean to brag but it's true) I'm not rich but I am getting support to open a resteraunt when I finish culinary school. My SO knows this and I feel like she stays with me for this reason.Lately I've been making a lot with my side businesess but don't want to tell her.

[–]Movonnow 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You are 100% right. If you tell her she will probably try to make you spend this money on her.

[–]dnlslm9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly. I don't want her to hold back my business with the money I would spend I could buy equipment I need and am saving up for.

[–]sir_wankalot_here 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I go to girlybars to relax, so Asian version of what you are talking about. It puts things into perspective. In your case $12 per day equals a woman who is lets say a 7. That is why feminazis hate prostitution.

[–]dnlslm9[S] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Same here.she was a 7 or 8

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[–]LAMFF 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Man, I have a bro crush on /u/sir_wankalot_here and I don't even mind when he gets bored and visits the ladyboy bars. Just for kicks, of course!

[–]Senior Contributorexit_sandman 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm currently in a relationsho´and have been going out with a woman for 8 months. She always says she wants to have sex but when the chance arises she takes it back.

Hell, even the guys at TBP would probably tell you to next her.

[–]Iknoghostmagic 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

agree with others for $12 id be going there every other day and doing fun shit for myself

[–]dnlslm9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I just went because I felt like it had been a long time without sex. I'm good for a couple of months, but I can see how others could do this.

[–]Lipophobicity 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"she looked clean"

What would it have taken for her not to pass this stupid test? All you are saying is she didn't have a face full of herpes breakout.

Do yourself a favor and assume she has something, because if she is part of the statistical average, she does several times a year. Also there is plenty of red pill material on how to deal with a woman using sex as a weapon, read it.

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[–]devilsnight132 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Just go to the prostitute. If you're in Quito go to the good places.

[–]SingAlong_Original 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Not my thing, probably a moral thing but the idea of it doesn't seem right.

Although i would say if i was in the same position as you I would definitely do the same for some intervention.

Kick the girl to the curb if she isn't fucking you.

[–]Senior Contributorcocaine_face 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

8 months without sex? I had a relationship like that a long, long time ago (10 years ago - my first non-online girlfriend).

Drop her. You can do better. If you can't, keep improving yourself until you can. There's no point to sleeping with a prostitute.

As for the question? No, not as far as I'm aware. If any of the girls I've slept with were prostitutes to anyone else, they never mentioned it. As I slept with a stripper, I assume probably though.

[–]Hirudin 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I have lived with a female roommate as she became a prostitute. Enlightening to say the least. 50 lb hamster in that one.

[+]EdsonH -10 points-9 points-8 points 11 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link

No. I have too much pride to pay for sex. I don't value it that highly to where I could handle the shame.

[–]dnlslm9[S] 10 points11 points12 points 11 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link

I don't have shame. I feel like it's like any other business and the real shame is having a girlfriend that holds sex over your head. (I don't know why I don't leave her, I'm really beta and don't want to be alone)

[–]EdsonH -5 points-4 points-3 points 11 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link

I had a girl try that. I told her to get with it or get away. I'll do a lot for a girl, I'll stand in front of her in the beta sense. But I'm also alpha enough to walk ahead if she's into manipulation and mind games.

To me, there's no shame in doing without sex. There is much shame in being reduced to paying for it. To me it would be like admitting I was invalid. And, if I'm invalid, then so is my entire philosophy, view, my ethics, beliefs, and everything that makes me what I am. I can't imagine a greater shame being possible.

No sex could possibly be worth that.

[–]Movonnow 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

You are a beta. Still BP. Please, don't post. STFU and learn instead, you are not in the position to give him advices.

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[–]Movonnow 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course, I might be wrong.

[–]dudesyouknowme 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

You don't have to like whores, but you are a pure beta dude.

[–]EdsonH 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Keep paying for sex, you alpha you! I like all the bro/dude speak. I guess I would be more alpha if I reduced my range of expression and paid for sex.

[–]dudesyouknowme 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I am not saying that payment for sex or not is alpha or not. What I am saying is that your total obsession over needing to be validated by a woman is pure 100% beta.

[–]EdsonH -3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Oh, man. I'm sorry you're mentally handicapped. If I'd known I wouldn't have responded earlier. I don't know how you get that from anything I've ever written.

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[–]dudesyouknowme 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I read this:

To me, there's no shame in doing without sex. There is much shame in being reduced to paying for it. To me it would be like admitting I was invalid. And, if I'm invalid, then so is my entire philosophy, view, my ethics, beliefs, and everything that makes me what I am. I can't imagine a greater shame being possible.

You are Blue Pill. Your self worth depends on how women react to you.

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[–]EdsonH 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

1 Be willing to lose her. That's the greatest single piece of advice I can give. When you get some alone time tonight, play out a scenario in your head in which you tell her, not ask her, not what you want, but what you need her to do. Take control.

Now imagine it all going wrong and she walks away. She's gone. Let the fear and horror of it sink in. Crush the beta glasses and assess her for what she is. Be willing to let her walk or to walk away yourself.

Once you can do that, you can be much more in control and authoritative/assertive.

I'd say your goal is to get rid of her completely, as she doesn't seem like someone who is worth having around. You may end up getting her where you want her, but the hamster is immortal and it's always in there. She's tainted and ruined.

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[–]Movonnow 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You are disrespecting yourself.

By allowing a girl to stay in your life when she doesn't deserve it, you implicitely send to yourself the folllwing message : I'm not worth of better.

Ever had some self-esteem issues? Look no further.

Listen bro, you can't let fear dictate your actions. I were where you are about 10 months ago and I feel you, I understand your position.

The reason why girls shows more interest in you when you are dating is because on the back of your mind you know there is another girl in your life. She may not be perfect, she may not fullfil you but she is there. So you give less fuck when you date other girls. You have more outcome independency and you have an abundance mentality and not a scarcity mentality.

My advice would be to honnest with yourself. You want to leave her but you are too affraid of the consequences. You are AFFRAID. You are weak and you think you couldn't handle completely what may happen if you left her.

Let me tell you what will happen when you break up with her :

  • she will not understand. "He has no guts and I can do what I want with him, how dare he?". At first, she will try to win you back and give you attention. This will stop though. This attention and having a girl chasing you will be of better help for dating other women than a women who tolerate your presence. You will have a few weeks to use that to find someone else. There is also the possibility that she already have someone else on the side and she won't give a shit about you leaving. In that case, you will be more than happy of your decision to let her go (because yes, man, let her go. She has already left)

  • You, on the other hand, will be far better off than her. At first, you will feel fantastic. You took the CONTROL back. You decided for yourself. You acted like a man. And you will have discover that YOU can turn a woman down. This will be a great thing for your future dating because you will know that in order to get a relationship, the girl must behave a certain way with you or you will be history. It will not be you qualifying to the girl, it will be both of you qualifying to each other. So yes, you may read some PUA material and say "I HAVE STANDARTS" but truth is, unless you ACT like you have and refuse to be treated a certain way, this will be useless.

In a nuttshell, breaking up with her will enable you to get hotter girls in the future. Girls who will treat you better. It will give you the confidence and the self-esteem you now lack in order to leave. I know, it's unfair. It's now that you need those things. But that's reality : in order to get them you must do the painful and difficult things first.

Oh, and she will leave you soon anyway. Or manipulate you into unplanned pregnancy or that kind of shit.

And don't forget to post this question to asktrp.

[–]zuk1 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

you do realise you're always paying for sex in some way no matter how you get it?

[+]Ferelden -7 points-6 points-5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I think that you shouldn't be banging prostitutes when you have a girlfriend. You made a commitment to her, and a man stands by his word. Bang all the prostitutes you want, just don't be a cheater. That's my two cents on the subject.

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