LMR keeps screwing me over. How do I close successfully?

salinorum · 2019-08-21T04:34:51+00:00

If she denied your attempts to escalate, and you still continued to make out with her anyways - you are validating her without her having to go all the way with you. If she thwarts your attempts to escalate, your best defense is to simply stop being sexual with her. Go cold. Don’t make out with her any longer. But don’t act butt hurt or reactive. Keep it lighthearted. Act non-chalant. But do remove your attention. Do not validate her anymore. Say your tired and want to go home. Make no big deal about it.

This will make her hamster go crazy - does he like me? Did I do something wrong? This was so fun! And now it’s not! I’m losing him! Etc.

I had a girl over after my second date with her. The plausible deniability I fed her was that she could sleep on my sofa despite that all I have in my apartment is a desk and a bed lol.

She got into my bed before I did. Once I got in bed, I was real chill / non needy. Didn’t try to kiss or touch her. Said goodnight and closed my eyes leaving a big chasm between me and her physically / emotionally. She grabbed my head and pulled it towards hers and aggressively started to kiss me and moan. And good things followed.

When you face resistance, do be chill. Do be non needy. Do not give validation. Do be willing to go completely cold turkey even if it gives you blue balls. It’s counter intuitive but the less you seem interested in her and having sex with her, the more she will jump your bones. Be fine with leaving it at a kiss if she’s gonna make you jump through hoops. The less you care, the more she will.

Pimpcool420 · 2019-08-21T08:44:12+00:00

Withdraw sexual attention, playfully shift the activity to something else where she can escalate later (you remain outcome-indifferent).

I had this recently. Invited a girl to my place for a 2nd meeting and she rejected a kiss in the doorway. I said "OK cool, nevermind then, you hungry? There's a Pizza Hut nearby where you can buy me dinner". It actually wasn't so near, she had to drive me there and drive home. When we came home she came in to smash. Even if it didn't go well and it became a "let's just be friends", I needed to eat dinner anyways and I could have called another plate for afterwards if it wasn't going well.

wanker7171 · 2019-08-21T05:26:13+00:00

I just could not get past that LMR though. She would not, for the life of me, come back to my dorm room or take us back to her hotel.

Give specifics of what exactly occurred if you want actual help. As there's nothing to say but just general shit

What do you guys do when faced with LMR and how do you get past it?

You brush it off as if nothing was said, the key is to not react. For instance I was moving my hand up this girl's shirt and she said "What are you doing?" and I responded "I'm not doing anything" while continuing to feel her up. She started kissing me even more intensely after that because she got the lack of a reaction that she wanted.

FinancialThanks1 · 2019-08-21T06:50:55+00:00

I can’t understand why niggas be kissing girls for an hour. Just stop after a few minutes and invite her up to your dorm

nogatcord · 2019-08-21T03:31:21+00:00

There's a ton of material regarding this in the mainsub, don't be lazy.

quarternickledime · 2019-08-21T03:35:14+00:00

Why haven’t you fucked her in the backseat?

LordFlakkko · 2019-08-21T03:47:57+00:00

Whats LMR?

frontiermarine · 2019-08-21T08:51:29+00:00

I've gotten better results when i escalate back at my place and not during the date.

Title	LMR keeps screwing me over. How do I close successfully?
Author	spencg
Upvotes	6
Comments	17
Date	August 21, 2019 3:27 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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