Aren't you going to pay?

Razkolol · 2019-08-05T13:36:16+00:00

If she asks this it prob went bad so "nope" is the answer here. "fuck no", another good one "hellz no" etc.

If she insists say you're a "male feminist" and you believe women should pay for their shit, paying makes you feel like a filthy patriarch.

If the date went to shit save a few bucks xD if it went fine she'll prob offer to split, you can then split/pay w/e you prefer.

ComplexProjection · 2019-08-05T13:33:09+00:00

When sharing a drink for the first time with a new date, usually I will have hinted how we will manage the payment.

Either I say "I'll pay the first one", implying strongly the second is on her;
Or I play a little game with her / bet with her and the loser pays the first round. When I do this, it's usually when I'm certain to win, so she will pay for it. I often get my drink / meal paid like this ! :D

Anyway keep it light and fun. If she is really insistent on the payment and you don't really care, you can also go for "I only pay drinks to girls I bang."

MattyAnon · 2019-08-05T14:01:42+00:00

How do I respond to this shit test? I think I fucked up prior if she even said this?

For what..... a meal? Don't go out for a meal with a girl you're not already fucking. If you do, you agree IN ADVANCE that you'll be going halves.

But the answer is simply "I'm paying half...... same as you".

Ultimately just avoid the situation in future. You look weak if you pay and cheap if you don't. Avoid the whole situation.

doublecup__ · 2019-08-05T13:38:42+00:00

"For my food/drinks/part, yea."

PotatoWatt · 2019-08-05T17:45:26+00:00

Bro, lot of advice here.

Like MANY people say, TRP is is a toolbox. You are receiving advice for several situations, for several 'type' of girls. Not everything is going to work. Its impossible for us to know 100% your situation. Always keep this in mind in your journey here.

Also remember that there are a lot of variables you are forgetting that many people here seem to forget, including that not everything is black or white.

Maybe she is a sarcastic humor type of girl and was just joking around, and if you reply "hell no" with a serious face you will scare her off most likely
Maybe she is actually a gold digger who is testing to see your bank balance
Maybe she is an alien who doesnt have any earth currency and needs you to pay

There are so many fucking scenarios, I just want you to know that. Anyway, my two cents here is: ALWAYS have fun with the girl. They are meant for fun. They were made to have fun. And the best attitude in my opinion you can have with a girl is the hot, chill, sexy guy. She says anything that can be turned sexual? You do it. She says "arent you going to pay" you say with a cheesy grin looking her deep in the eyes and say whatever comes to your mind. But this guys are right, you should split the bill most of the time. Basically you take life as a joke and dont really care about shit (idgaf attitude). Or you pay one she pays another, up to you.

Im lazy right now so I aint got time to write a proper reply but I think you got the gist of it

boy_named_su · 2019-08-05T14:42:22+00:00

provide some fucking context, christ

I would say, if i was feeling like a bit of a dick: "what are you, unemployed?"

Title	Aren't you going to pay?
Author	Clifford_Blake
Upvotes	3
Comments	12
Date	August 5, 2019 1:24 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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