This is the first girl I've been having sex with after a long dry spell. I've made a few mistakes. Mostly I struggle with having quick responses to shit tests. There are many things I could ask about but I really would appreciate feedback on just two things.

  1. While fooling around during foreplay I've been getting pre-cum all over myself. I've hidden it in the past, but today she noticed. She said something like, "Whoa," and pointed at a wet spot on my jeans. I was getting up to get my coffee or something and just ignored it after I looked down. This will presumably continue to happen; is there a better response than just ignoring it every time?

  2. She's holding out on giving head and has continually asked me to go down on her. This girl seems loose and repeatedly asks me not to use condoms. I don't think I ever want to go down on her, but I don't always have a good response to this. I've said like, "I've never been with a girl that hasn't blown me first," and lately it's been so frequent I've had no response except to laugh. What's the best way to deflect it and get my dick sucked instead?