Argument with girlfriend, how to proceed?

chadtrx · 2019-09-13T12:44:21+00:00

Stop taking her arguments so seriously. Never explain yourself & note that she is overtly bitching at you. There for she is out of other covert communication options. Look up Agreeing & amplifying or Amused mastery. Stop giving a shit. Also if you continue to argue a lot then pack your bags.

jjj2576 · 2019-09-13T13:51:54+00:00

Reset Daily. You have a bad argument? Be in whatever your frame is the next morning. I am a good vibes dude that likes puns and joking around. If my wife fights with me, the next day I greet her like I normally fucking would— joyful timbre to my voice, ask how she is feeling, make small talk— if she wants to be a bitch still, imma ignore it and go clean whatever the fuck I want in my house, because I fucking love cleaning shit. My time is valuable: organizing my pots and pans is a better use of my time than arguing.

It’s kinda like when you have a kid and they scrape their knee. If you act like something is wrong, the kid freaks out. If you get home and act like something is wrong, the fight continues. Act like everything is normal, then your partner will want to join in.

Pdubzilla · 2019-09-13T12:47:37+00:00

Pro tip: Don't argue (really with anyone). It never makes things better. Especially with women, since they are irrational.

Since it is too late for the first argument, just don't continue it. Act unphased about it, be your normal happy self. Don't be butthurt or give her the silent treatment, but also don't be overly loving with her. Don't act like you are punishing her because that normally comes across as butthurt. It is tough to do, but that is the best course.

If she screams at you, don't scream back. Calmly say "I don't want to do this" and go do something else. Call up some friends and go play pool or darts or basketball or just have some beers.

leftajar · 2019-09-13T20:21:01+00:00

Well, the first mistake was living with a woman you're not engaged to. In doing so, you've surrendered most of your ability to withdraw attention. If she wants to, she can give you the silent treatment and slow-drip poison into your home atmosphere.

The appropriate move is to just ignore her. Do what you want, at home. Don't talk to her, don't acknowledge her. Men are better at being alone anyway, so beat her at her own game.

Domebeers · 2019-09-13T21:53:16+00:00

"I don't want to waste my entire weekend arguing with her, in fact I don't want another second of arguing. "

That. That is how you proceed. Just don't engage.

Herdsengineers · 2019-09-13T19:47:39+00:00

Just tell her you're not going to engage with her if she's shouting and yelling and what not. Then, don't. If need be, leave, ignore, etc.

Tell her you'll talk when she can conduct herself like a grown up and not be so nasty. Then stick to it.

Expect her to escalate to worse before it gets better (if it does). This is when, if a chick is gonna get violent, she usually does. Be careful, if that starts happening, leave post haste, don't touch her, etc. Just leave.

DullIntroduction · 2019-09-13T13:03:10+00:00

Verbal intercourse is optional.

http://archive.is/2VmqV

Pasta1776 · 2019-09-14T06:53:51+00:00

Pee on her

Title	Argument with girlfriend, how to proceed?
Author	NervousBelt
Upvotes	15
Comments	24
Date	September 13, 2019 12:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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