Hello Ladies, Just wanted to let y’all know to stay the course. Never, ever consider settling for a lvm.

I’ve been guilty of low vibrational thinking, such as:

  • Thinking my looks will fade and I will be alone forever (I’m only 39, I hate when I feel like this, it’s so depressing)

  • Feeling stressed that if get into a relationship, it will be like the ones I had before and feeling like I can’t go through that again. (I get so triggered because my last relationships were abusive and I feel like I can’t do it. Like they will make me do everything and I’ll just fall into a deep depression again)

  • When I become interested in a man, I think that his family will think my family is ghetto and uneducated (I’m the only one w a bachelors and a masters. I feel like lots of men I date didn’t have abusive parents. It makes me ashamed that my parents care so little about me, then and now)

  • feeling like a mess because I don’t have perfect hair, feet or my stomach doesn’t have abs (I’ve had children and am very fit but I keep comparing myself to IG models🙄 I deleted all that and only follow accounts intentionally, but I still feel weird and fat sometimes, maybe a slight eating disorder complex that lingers)

  • wondering if I can interior decorate (okay I know this is ridiculous but my house is so bare and I never want to decorate and my exhusband hated that about me)

Okay. Look, I’m working on myself. I know the above is ridiculous. I’m just telling y’all what’s gone through my mind at times. However, even with all this...I STAY THE COURSE. I’m not doing 50/50, I’m not living with another man unless married and he has to pay the rent. I’m not giving any man money (like thousands 🤦🏽‍♀️NEVER AGAIN) I’m not changing my appearance for a man etc etc. I don’t care if I’m single for the rest of my life I will never date a low life again. I’m not being a therapist or trying to process why the man I love has desires for other women and disrespects me. I could go on and on. ISSA NO.

I’m staying the course. I wrote out all my insecurities because I wanted y’all to see them and maybe relate? Also if y’all write them down. I promise to rip them to shreds.

Stay the course ladies. Don’t let “you” be your downfall.