Do you think female sexuality resembles male sexuality more than mainstream media implies or less?

dakru · 2015-08-18T01:47:25+00:00

In one particular way, I think they resemble each other more than is commonly portrayed. Growing up I had the idea of female sexuality as basically a moral force for good in the world. Men who were good, mature, moral, sweet, and caring, and just generally "upstanding citizens" were the most desirable to women (although sometimes women get tricked or set astray by assholes). On the other hand, male sexuality was seen as "shallow", concerned with frivolous or inconsequential traits that don't have anything to do with the "real you", like beauty. The male side to this was usually said more explicitly, but both sides were there.

In this sense, female sexuality and male sexuality are more alike than they were portrayed. Female sexuality is "shallow" too (I don't like that word but I'll leave that for another post) and not all that concerned with morality and goodness^1, even if tending to be "shallow" in a different direction.

(1: I think most people prefer morality and goodness in a partner, but I don't think it suffices as a sexual draw or turn-on in the vast majority of cases.)

ianturpiesmoustache · 2015-08-18T04:13:57+00:00

Far more similar than the media would have us think. Women are horny and gross, too, they're just taught that it's unacceptable and a "man thing", so they tend to hide it better.

VirgoRooster · 2015-08-18T15:48:20+00:00

The male an female orgasm experience from a sensory perspective is remarkably similar.

You likely all already know that male and female fetuses develop similarly until SRY on the male's Y chromosome becomes active turning on Sox9 leading to sertoli cell differentiation for the eventual development of the testis. And what do they make? Testosterone.

The average adult male has something like 700ng/dL of testosterone in their bloodstream whereas the average woman has perhaps 70ng/dL at most but we can see the effects in fluctuation of testosterone in women because the same leutenizing hormone produced in the man's anterior pituitary to stimulate testosterone production in the testis is also conducive to releasing testosterone from all available factories in women, coinciding with ovulation. This makes the woman "horniest" when she is most fertile.

Anyway, my point is that I think female sexuality on a visceral level is almost completely mirror to male sexuality but with less testosterone involved. I think if you gave a woman an order of magnitude more testosterone, she'd be very confused, but ultimately her sexual behavior would come to resemble a man's--but with the epigenetic imprint to be attracted to a masculine physique rather than a feminine one, as is the case with gay men (we think). I don't think they are that different beyond the effects of testosterone.

TRPThrowRug · 2015-08-18T03:08:41+00:00

Women are more cavewoman/animal than polite society is willing to admit.

Men acting like "Neanderthals", well duh, that's writ large in the media.

[deleted] · 2015-08-18T05:51:41+00:00

More. Male and female sexuality are portrayed as very different, but they are almost identical. Men and women have pretty much exactly the same drives and motivations when it comes to sex.

The difference is social dynamics and market forces that greatly differ W.R.T sex makes them respond to those incentives differently.

GaiusScaevolus · 2015-08-18T14:19:01+00:00

Sexuality is similar, sex drive is where the gap becomes huge.

[deleted] · 2015-08-18T01:31:31+00:00

Can you give us an example of mainstream media depiction. I'm kind of struggling to think of mainstreams consensus is.

Title	Do you think female sexuality resembles male sexuality more than mainstream media implies or less?
Author	cuponoodlesisback
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	August 18, 2015 1:24 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/3he184/do_you_think_female_sexuality_resembles_male/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/PurplePillDebate/do-you-think-female-sexuality-resembles-male.280253 https://theredarchive.com/post/280253

Comments