Frame?

thatsgnardude · 2019-09-27T18:19:12+00:00

I think analogies tend to stick with people more often then an exact description.

Imagine your mental frame being a castle. You decide when to draw the bridge, when to allow something in, and when to cast something out.

People can shout, throw rocks, call your castle shit, beg to come in, etc., but ultimately it’s your castle.

If you find weakness in your castle, fortify it and move on. Eventually your castle will stand tall and detached from the outside, and you can relish at what’s inside.

FereallyRed · 2019-09-27T18:27:59+00:00

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alpha-zach · 2019-09-27T18:45:20+00:00

Frame is your mindset and beliefs that you unwaveringly stick to and to some degree it includes your desires and the need to have some/most of them fulfilled.

Having the frame with a woman means she bends her mindset and beliefs(her frame) to fit, follow, or at least not oppose yours. And she aims to fulfill many of your desires(as far as she is capable without violating her own absolute rules.)

Think about the weak, loser guy who somehow ended up with a hot wife. He bends his will and desires to make her as happy as possible. He’ll clean up, give her money, take care of the kids so she can go out, follow her around complimenting her. He is bending himself to please her because she is the best thing he’s ever had.

On the opposite side you have the mega millionaire playboy hot guy with a descent wife at home. She would like for him to be loyal, but she’s got it so good that she wouldn’t dare rock the boat and let’s him sleep around. She is bending her will and desires for him because he’s the best thing she’s ever had.

In “normal” relationships, it doesn’t manifest itself in these extremes, but as Tomassi says, frame is fluid. It travels back and forth. Sometimes she gets her way, sometimes you do. But generally you want to be getting your way considerably more than her.

This doesn’t mean if she allergic to peanuts you make her eat peanut butter just to please you because it’s your favorite food in the world. That would be “having the frame,” but it’s grotesquely imbalanced and not sustainable. But wherever reasonable and possible, you want to find ways for her to give in the your “reasonable” demands.

When you have solid frame, it’s not really a question of enforcing, she just wants to because she thinks you’re so amazing.

Elprez91 · 2019-09-27T18:20:49+00:00

How does it come it to play with emotions such as anger, coldness etc

rpnavi · 2019-09-28T03:48:16+00:00

Here's another analogy

Imagine frame being the channel of a river. You're suppose to direct the flow of water and not break even in a flood; the water being the bullshit people (men and women) throw at you.

This-Point-Forward · 2019-09-27T18:16:32+00:00

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Title	Frame?
Author	Elprez91
Upvotes	0
Comments	10
Date	September 27, 2019 6:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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