Asshole or nice guy?

318RedPill · 2019-10-12T14:36:29+00:00

You become an "asshole" if you are busy enough. Once your time is valuable, you stop doing nice guy things simply because you no longer have time to waste on nonsense. Just have a clear goal and let no one get in your way.

Terdmuffin · 2019-10-12T13:59:34+00:00

You should do what makes you happy. Life is generally not blck and white or all or nothing. Seems like you should be more like 70/30 or 80/20 but put yourself and your own desires above the desired of others.

[deleted] · 2019-10-12T14:56:57+00:00

Should I just embrace my manipulative, lying, backstabbing asshole side?

LMAO. Not being a nice guy doesn't mean you will be this. In a way, being a nice guy is already manipulative and lying. The only thing is that it isn't working.

MotiMorphosys · 2019-10-12T14:07:22+00:00

it's common for someone new to the red pill to see everything in these black and white terms and wonder which identity they are going to choose. Put that question on hold for now and focus on increasing your value. Then you will begin to see the gray.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2019-10-12T15:06:10+00:00

You don’t get it. It’s not being a liar. It’s tell the truth and not caring how people handle it. It’s not being manipulative, you say exactly what you think, Damn the consequences. Not being back stabbing. Ever. You back up your friends that deserve it and don’t bother with or help those who don’t deserve it.

In short it’s being a man. It’s control of your life. No one else has any control over you. It’s actually how you were born to act before you got conditioned to be subservient to others.

Patches0wholahan · 2019-10-12T14:34:02+00:00

Why the fuck would you want to be a nice guy?

Lambdal7 · 2019-10-12T18:42:48+00:00

This is the logical fallacy false choice. There are not only those 2 choices.

Be the nice, gentle, warm guy who creates a strong man to woman vibe and who is very good at kino (di carlo escalation ladder).

If you’re nice and know how to create a strong connection it’s often so easy to escalate.

zboo1h · 2019-10-12T16:41:22+00:00

You know the whole cliche'd thing about the two wolves, the dark and the light, etc. You have both, you get to decide which to feed. My own idea is to feed them both. I need the light one to keep me righteous and to avoid unnecessary dangers, and I need the dark one to be able to assert myself when necessary and get shit done. It isn't a 1 or 0 thing, it is in the middle.

SpicyYeetJuice · 2019-10-12T17:49:10+00:00

“My all or nothing approach to life” blow it out your ass nice guy

IXseed · 2019-10-12T20:54:56+00:00

Instead of thinking of asshole or nice guy, do this: Put yourself first.

Instead of trying to please others to hopes they reciprocate you in what you want, put yourself first and go out and get it yourself. That's the "asshole" that you wanna be.

I missed 2 past work outtings this week (a bday party and a coworkers' band gig) because I already had other plans. Now to my coworkers that seems like me being an asshole. I was just doing my own thing and putting me first. Doing that is going to naturally gonna put you in that light.

vullnet123 · 2019-10-12T23:44:44+00:00

IDK man, I run almost full asshole game for the most part, and while it works for me it causes way too many problems and arguments lol.

astonboi01 · 2019-10-13T01:31:28+00:00

Don’t conflate concepts here. Being an asshole doesn’t mean being manipulative or going out of your way to hurt people, that’s beta if anything what it means is that you have self-respect and are assertive. An alpha could be seen as selfish because he does things for himself as opposed to validating others. Here’s an example, if you were in an LTR, having your own life outside of the girl such as the gym, work aspirations, hobbies and friends might make her call you an asshole but this is attractive to them. What isn’t attractive is the archetypal nice guy who gets into an LTR and proceeds to revolve their life around their partner. Worry about yourself and the girls will come to you.

[deleted] · 2019-10-12T16:17:28+00:00

Nice guys who can’t be assholes are weak and pushovers. Look at Jesus, both nice guy and an asshole. To develop your personality you need to work on the unnatural (asshole in your case) side of yourself. So start working on it, dumbass.

Title	Asshole or nice guy?
Author	Gavin-Sangria
Upvotes	10
Comments	19
Date	October 12, 2019 1:56 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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