Can't get rid of oneitis. Should I pursue or not?

Truedemocracy5 · 2019-12-02T18:02:27+00:00

Congrats on finding RP in high school. You’re a lucky man. And high school / early college is the land of oneitis - no shame , good to be self aware you have it

Right now you just need experience. Experience dating, fucking, and getting your heart broken. Go after it for sure knowing damn well that this story doesn’t have a happily ever after ending. It will hurt but you will learn from it next time you get oneitis

FereallyRed · 2019-12-02T17:41:41+00:00

Why not take her on a date and try to fuck her?

Massap24 · 2019-12-02T17:43:52+00:00

If it will keep you from fucking other bitches don’t do it. If you think you can fuck her and not get caught in your feelings then do it. I think you should do it, it will be a good test for you considering how young you are, even when you fail it will be a good lesson.

KrissVectorEOC · 2019-12-02T18:47:48+00:00

If your friends are a bunch of dudes then you're basically setting yourself up to lose this chick quick if they make a move and you've been hesitant. If yes, then I wouldn't let this be the first event to try something. Won't tell you to not smoke weed but I wouldn't make it a habit but make a move with her quick or your setting yourself up for some heartache to come.

VividFall7 · 2019-12-02T19:53:42+00:00

Holy shit. It's like a replay of my HS LTR experience. She WANTS to be around you, that's why she says only if you come. It can't be more apparent than that. Tell her you want to meet alone, just you and her, and since you don't have experience, I'll give you a line I used on my first LTR when I met with her alone (after a period of talking, to escalate): "have you ever kissed anyone?"; if she says yes, then go "teach me" ; if she says no, go "I'll teach you". Honestly I'm still proud of myself after that.

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-12-02T20:30:50+00:00

She's into you man have fun with her.

But be a player and get with other chicks too.

I didn't have sex until college for a few reasons, but if I had Just a teeny bit more game i could have.

I actually reconnected with my prom date a few years ago hung out with her, fucked her. She was asking me why I didn't fuck her in high school. I told her I was just a little too shy and even though there were girls I liked I didn't think they liked me.

She said, Phaedrus, there were lots of girls that wanted to fuck you in high school.

I ask, who? She names three girls that not only did I want to bang, but were smoking hot back then, especially by high school standards.

Never up never in. You got nothing to lose Kid, go for it.

Read the sidebar and read these posts and read the rational male and everything you can get your hands on.

Lift. Train BJJ, mma, judo, wrestling, Muay Thai or boxing.

And do yoga. Tons of horny hotties

VisiblePlan · 2019-12-02T18:22:52+00:00

Give it a shot, maybe fuck her friends. Pussy pops up in the strangest places.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-12-02T21:54:27+00:00

You need to start lifting. If you do you will have a thunderous sexual appetite!

kclanton80 · 2019-12-02T22:44:36+00:00

Cut through her bullshit. Your rubbing her ass and tits, invite her to come hang out alone with you, and try to fuck..if she declines to spend time alone with you then you know she is just teasing you for validation.

Heck...why haven't you made move while rubbing those tits!? Man up young man, it's time to get over the fear.

It's always VERY easy to determine if a woman has interest. Invite her to be alone with you. You get your answer pretty quickly. Either she says yes or if she says no she must at least offer an alternate day.

If she's not down for it go back to ignoring her. Rinse and repeat.

MattyAnon · 2019-12-03T17:20:09+00:00

Should I pursue or somehow cure my oneitis?

Don't pursue.... at this point she either gets with the picture or it's next.

This means hanging out with you ALONE. If she's not down with that, it's time for a visit from Mr Next.

Title	Can't get rid of oneitis. Should I pursue or not?
Author	c1der
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	December 2, 2019 5:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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