I’ve been talking to this high value guy for about 2 weeks. He’s 4 years older than me (I’m 20) & he’s such an adult which is a big change from guys I’ve normally talked to. I’m not sexually experienced at all & while I’m not a virgin, I haven’t had the best experiences in the past so I’ve made it a policy that I’ll only have sex if I’m in a relationship with the person.

I’m meeting this guy for the first time on Thursday. He’s not from my city, but visiting for work. He asked me to grab drinks, dinner, explore the city, and then go back & hang out at his place, chill in the hotel pool/hot tub. I know what this implies.

I’m scared that he’ll expect me to sleep with him if he pays for stuff. So should I pay for everything on my own? What if he gets mad that I won’t put out?

My friends told me he’s been texting me for a while without bringing anything sex related up, and he wouldn’t put in the effort to go on a date if he just wanted sex.

I am fine with making out and cuddling but I think I’d prefer to not spend the night at his hotel. I also don’t know how often he’ll be here for work or when the next time I’d see him is.

Sorry this is long, I’m just 20 & new to this stuff!