I am female, but I might have gone down the TRP path if I were male.

roguish_rogue · 2019-07-22T21:48:28+00:00

Very interesting perspective, I am sure alot of guys could benefit from reading that, the vast majority of guys who end up identifying with those subcultures start out as genuine naive well meaning guys who just want to be loved long before they get to be jaded, angry and misogynistic after realizing that they have been lied to, things like TRP really is a bad solution more than the problem in itself, it it certainly incorporates grains of inconvenient truth with all the bs and takes real tendencies to extremes, the problem of sexual frustration and wanting to get laid is very valid tho, nothing wrong with a guy wanting more success with women thats perfectly normal and healthy but there are better ways of achieving it, they do need concrete workable strategies tho, not to be told they should want something else or to just accept their situation. Incel forums is more like a black hole of arrested development that can really screw guys if they encounter it at a low point in their lives.

I am here because I sympathize greatly with the kind of guy who would seek out something like TRP, and even with incels, tho I find them too annoying and depressing to deal with, but despite one of them snapping every now and again and hurting others that damage is minimal compared to how many of them probably kill themselves.

The whole "no female incels" thing is kinda true but its also silly and irellevant, it relies on the faulty premise that men and women are the same.

I hope you find a good guy who likes you for who you are, there are actually alot of good guys around who just want a nice girlfriend to share their life, when I was younger that was all I really wanted.

edit: Try posting this in 'PurplePillDebate' aswell, its a much more active sub.

Five_Decades · 2019-07-23T02:24:20+00:00

I think you would have become an angry incel if you were a man.

There are female incels. The male incels don't accept them, but I've seen them. I'd say 90%+ of them are incel due to mental issues. Either trauma, or low self esteem, or attachment disorders.

Also I think that generally women are more likely to self destruct while men are more likely to get angry and blame the world when shit like this happens.

t0_0l · 2019-07-22T17:55:54+00:00

I think it’s important to keep in mind that you can engage in self improvement. You’re not doomed to date people that you don’t really vibe with. What kind of person do you want to be, and what’s stopping you from becoming it? When you figure out the issues that are causing you problems in dating or whatever else, work on eliminating them or reducing the negative effects. I know, it’s easier said than done.

markyp1234 · 2019-07-22T16:04:29+00:00

Glad to know that some women would understand this too.

Rhazelle · 2019-07-23T08:45:00+00:00

Luckily, you are only 22! You're still young and you have time to improve on looks, fashion, etc. if that stuff bothers you. Being you is enough imo, but if you want to learn, there's plenty of make-up tutorials and you can google fashion tips for people with your body type etc.

On the side of being worried about hooking up or accidentally dating a redpiller if you try to date - just don't have sex with them until they're committed! That is all within your power as the woman. You don't have to hook up if you don't want to (and honestly hooking up just makes you a hookup girl, not usually long-term gf material anyway so just don't do it), and now that you know red pill idealogy, you'll know what to look out for and avoid!

From a girl who dates a lot and also isn't into hooking up, yes it's stressful when you first meet someone since you don't know if they want a relationship or just to have sex - but honestly, holding out sex with no outward indication of when it might happen and seeing if the conversation(s) flow in between dates will Really tell you. They'd stop seeing you or entertaining you with chit-chat by then if you're not putting out. You'll lose some that you may be super into, sure, but there are plenty of men who aren't into hooking up without emotional connection too and holding out for those who share your values are worth it instead of wasting your time with fukbois.

BMXTKD · 2019-07-23T14:24:27+00:00

Tell yourself this:

Punish individual crimes individually, not collectively.

Many individual men did you wrong. Call out those particular men is healthy. And you're right for calling it out because so many people in your culture, from what it sounds like, are highly superficial.

You will run into an individual man who treats you with respect. Cherish him. Treat him with respect in return.

Don't give up.

And don't take shit from other people.

Cash50000 · 2019-07-23T23:39:46+00:00

Hmm. Well I might just be the male version of you, and yet, I did not turn to red pill ideology. Why not? Honestly, I think it's because my libido is below average. I am merely uncomfortable with my celibacy, not desperate. If being a good man isn't enough, then so be it. If getting laid requires "games" and "strategies", then it's way more trouble than it's worth and my sex drive isn't strong enough to compel me to pursue it.

Title	I am female, but I might have gone down the TRP path if I were male.
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Date	July 22, 2019 3:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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