Loving kindness meditation making me feel amazing. Desire for external validation is gone?

jjj2576 · 2019-12-17T11:50:35+00:00

Aware us on what loving kindness meditation is, I've never heard of that before?

TigerTamingSword · 2019-12-17T15:18:11+00:00

As much as some people like to fetishize the archetype of the Dark Triad psychopath alpha, every long lasting spiritual tradition in the world says that spiritual development requires the cultivation of compassion and kindness, not only to others, but towards ourselves, too. Taoists, for example, use certain meditation technique called Inner Smile, which is believed to promote well being, relaxation and healthy organs; christians seek to kill their ego and ascend to the heavens by devoting themselves to loving God and all His creations.

IME, if you dilligently practice some kind of positive emotion consciously, your mental well being improves drastically. It doesn't have to be religious, but the nurturing positive emotions cannot be neglected. It should be in the arsenal of everyone who seeks to self improve, really. You see a lot of negative self talk in askTRP posts - guys who know no other way to motivate themselves but through self abuse. You need to be disciplined and work hard, yes, but if you don't have self compassion, well, enjoy the neurosis that will inevitably come when reality doesn't meet your expectations and the hurdles just keep coming.

Managing your emotions is vitally important. If you're worried and drenched in negative emotions, you won't be able to focus, work and enjoy the opportunities in your life, since all your mental headspace is taken up by tons of irrelevant bullshit, of which oneitis is a prime example. Congrats on your improvement! This needs to be talked about more often here.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-12-17T16:39:19+00:00

Is this how.most people feel

No. Most people feel average or slightly below average every day.

IMO how you feel is how we're supposed to feel. In Western culture it's become the norm to always be moving and working fast and constantly stimulating our brains without break.

What you're feeling is basically just how people are capable of feeling when you remove the overwhelming stress and anxiety and also by being in the present moment.

itiswr1tten · 2019-12-17T20:39:55+00:00

Accepting yourself is the ultimate key to happiness. Breaking down your ego and finding fulfillment haunts so many guys, because of the internal vulnerability required to do so.

Good for you.

kingofclubsmorde · 2019-12-17T22:09:14+00:00

I stumbled on this while on LSD. Got strong vibrations through the spine while meditating. It feels awesome and gives a lot of positive energy whenever I want. Apparently I am tingling the nerve systems of consciousness. Has helped me building self esteem and getting closer and closer to perfect mental balance.

I have become more spritual and leaning towards buddhism after the first experience.

wkndatbernardus · 2019-12-17T20:08:35+00:00

Very interesting. Any good resources you could recommend? I'm definitely in need of something like this to deal with resentment.

Bam123321 · 2019-12-18T09:13:20+00:00

Thanks, this is really appreciated. I will be making it a goal to practice atleast half an hour a day now till the end of the year.

I will reply to this in the new year and report on how it had affected me.

Title	Loving kindness meditation making me feel amazing. Desire for external validation is gone?
Author	throwawaysgkwm
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Date	December 17, 2019 11:31 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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