Height: 6'3, Weight: 155 lb/70kg, BF: 16.8% , Virgin

Never lifted (I know I need to start, but it's more important to me to get consistent with the 7 spiritual disciplines first)

Hey guys, thought I'd come out of lurkerdom and join you all. I'm a twenty-year-old guy from an Anglo country that's not the US. I have grown up in the church and a strong Christian family, and I made a prayer of faith when I was twelve, but it wasn't until I started going to university that I began to get serious about living my life according to God's way and God's plans not my own. Right now I'm in my second year, studying with the ultimate goal of doing Bible translation. I've joined up with a discipleship group, the local branch of CRU, and I'm now in a position of leadership within the group. CRU's strongest area is easily evangelism, and I've grown enormously through their influence, but they're much weaker on discipleship. I don't really know how to do discipleship, and it really frustrates and grieves me to see that new Christians who come into our group stagnate or backslide, when they ought to be flourishing with the new life and spirit in them, so disciple-making is an area I hope this sub can help me with.

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Very recently I've started going out with a girl from CRU, and I'm excited, but it's my first relationship and honestly I don't really know what I'm doing. I've read RP before but it was only ever an intellectual exercise for me because I wasn't in a relationship. I haven't applied any of it beyond some general changes in mindset. She's a quality woman, and it's her first relationship also. We've agreed to take it slow and figure things out as we go. I'm gonna have a lot of questions for you guys, even after having read all of the sidebar, but I'll only ask one today.

But before, I'd like to thank /u/Red-Curious and the other mods for this sub and what they've done with it. I've only been reading for a few months, and I've already gained so much from what's written here. I could give many examples, but the idea that stands out to me is Mission. See this post and others: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/72f6e7/110_stay_plan_is_the_go_plan/ As a son of God, His Mission is the most important thing for me on this side of eternity. More important than wife and family, more important than my own plans and ambitions, more important even than my own life. And not only more important, but also more worthy and more joyful. I would be a fool to discard God's Mission for my own petty plans. Once I came to understand and internalise this, my whole outlook changed. I seriously considered not marrying, but it very quickly became clear that I did not have Paul's gift and should still marry. My view on relationships changed - before women and relationships were a source of stress to me, which I see in hindsight was because I was motivated by a fear of missing out and being alone. I still need a female partner, but I'm not motivated by fear, I trust God to provide all that I need to fulfill my Mission and live a life pleasing to him. I prayed to God that he would find me a woman who will help my Mission, not hinder it, and for strength to keep my need for intimacy under control until the time I can fulfill it legitimately. Whether or not my current relationship is an answer to that prayer, I know God will provide. If you do not know your Mission, read through the sidebar, it's so important. And remember God gives all good things to his children who ask.

As for my question: I have heard it said here that a good wife is built, not found. That makes sense to me, I remember comparing the wives and the girls my own age in my church and thinking that former had to come from the latter somehow. So how do I build up my girlfriend? I don't really have much of an idea, I know there's questions I should ask her, and maybe I should do a Bible study or something? I think my lack of knowledge in this area is related to my lack of knowledge around discipleship in general.