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| 1 | Spiraling, a cry for helpHow are you doing with your walk? | /r/askRPC | 18/04/23 07:43 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/10/23)I appreciate the warning about the IFB groups, one thing that rubs me the wrong way about them is that they pass sweeping judgement on the salvation of those not in their group, which I think is not only petty but ridiculous. Yes, they are obsessed with "being saved" and determining if people are saved or not. Obviously, there's fruits of being saved which can give us an idea, but only God knows people's hearts. Trying to be 100% right in a specific theology of being saved to be saved devolves i… | /r/RPChristians | 15/04/23 02:27 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/10/23)Read the top of this post that you're in https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/12hdxcc/oys_where_progress_is_made_041023/ | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/10/23)Praying for you, but post up an OYS so we know what you are focused on for your goals. | /r/RPChristians | 13/04/23 08:06 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/10/23)At the moment I've been listening to a lot of Independent Fundamentalist Baptists and have been nourished by their Bible-focused teachings. Avoid them. They're IFB/NIFB are very cult-like. We've dealt with a lot of them on the RPC discord. MARITAL HEALTH: My wife wanted to watch the Couple's Therapy show and after watching both seasons one thing that stood out to me was that EVERY COUPLE was geared towards fighting EACH OTHER while NOT TAKING ANY PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY (reminded me of Genesis),… | /r/RPChristians | 13/04/23 03:38 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/20/23)Due to my wife's back injury Get her into physical therapy if you can I haven't had much time in the gym the last few months. I haven't lost strength, but I definitely haven't gained any. But I've been able to get to the gym 4 or 5 times a week the past couple weeks, so this is improving. Can hit bodyweight exercises at home for the time being. /r/bodyweightfitness The other day I picked him up from preschool and he immediately says he wants McDonalds. I gently say no, we have food at home. He s… | /r/RPChristians | 26/03/23 11:37 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/13/23)Action Plan: continue daily bible study and fasting for Lent. Action Plan: Continue daily prayer and contemplation. Action Plan: Visit one church weekly, starting this weekend. Familiarize myself with the teachings of the different denominations through online research and discussing with spiritual leaders during church visit. Action Plan: learn about Salvation, by reading Bible and online sources. Good stuff. These are also things you can teach your wife and kids about to some easy leading & di… | /r/RPChristians | 13/03/23 04:32 PM |
| – | How to tell my girlfriend I want to switch to a sexless relationship?Locked until you answer the sidebar questions: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your f… | /r/RPChristians | 13/03/23 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Spiraling, a cry for helpStep by step. Pick 1 area for each of the spiritual, physical, emotional, and mental, and work on them all right now. Some suggestions: Spiritual - read through the gospel of John. If you want to learn about why God exists then check out James Tour's series on how abiogenesis is stuck in the mud. No way to get from life to non-life. Physical - Lifting and cardio improve depression. Lift 2-3x a week and run 2-3x a week. Nutrition - avoid sugars and aim for eating healthy Mental - As others have s… | /r/askRPC | 12/03/23 01:15 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/06/23)Good stuff brother. Continue to mull and think them over and start getting your mission down into words. All of those are part of the mission. What role(s) are you to play in the body of Christ? | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/23 01:08 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/06/23)Biggest thing you have flipped here is your Spiritual should be your primary focus. To quote our sidebar: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). What is your mission for God? What does God want you to here on this earth? The fitness, emotions, mental, frame all come secondary and support this. To give you some questions to think about: Jesus commanded us to make disciples of all nations. How are you playing your part? Are you connected t… | /r/RPChristians | 08/03/23 10:27 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/13/23)So, in some ways she certainly does appreciate strong leadership. She grew up with it. But she also grew up butting heads with it in a supreme power struggle. And she’s smart. There’s no out maneuvering her unawares. I’ve reached the point where I almost think the way is to outwardly announce my motives and actions. Declare open warfare in a sense. Let her know I am up for the fight and will not back down. Maybe that is what it takes to earn her respect. What’s funny is she has counseled our dau… | /r/RPChristians | 06/03/23 07:28 PM |
| 2 | What's the best way to lose 50 pounds while building muscle?Aim for: Lifting routine at the gym 3x per week full body. Something like squats, deadlifts, bench/pushups, rows, dips, pullups is usually solid. Lots of variations of beginner routines like this. 2 day split like upper and lower can be fine too. 500 calorie deficit each day 1 g/lbs protein of the weight you want to get to which is 165g Track everything you eat for a week. If you aren't losing weight, start reducing that amount. Once you get in the habit and start losing weight you can eyeball a… | /r/askRPC | 03/03/23 01:29 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on Aaron Clareys book "The Book of Numbers"?Are there any articles/posts you could link me to, on discipleship focusing a future marraige? A couple more recent ones: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2022/11/13/there-still-are-no-unicorns-and-recommendations-on-just-getting-into-dating-women/ https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2022/12/20/the-general-process-of-sanctification-with-moral-discernment-moral-agency-and-mature-theosis/ The general gist of it is that just like how you should be discipled by an older man in the faith you eventua… | /r/askRPC | 02/03/23 06:41 PM |
| 2 | First OYS / A Bit of Background – Where do I go from here?I look forward to your progress! | /r/askRPC | 02/03/23 06:40 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on Aaron Clareys book "The Book of Numbers"?I would start with statistics regarding finding this elusive "good christian wife" I keep hearing about, and then successful marriage rates and divorce rates in christian households. Do those exist in any capacity? Virginity is important: http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2012/03/promiscuity-data-guest-post.html Divorce probabilities by type: http://freenortherner.com/2013/06/21/sexonomics-odds-of-divorce/ More analysis on various divorce probability and Christian virgins: https://deepstrength… | /r/askRPC | 01/03/23 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Aaron Clareys book "The Book of Numbers"?Which statistics do you want to know about? | /r/askRPC | 01/03/23 09:54 PM |
| 2 | First OYS / A Bit of Background – Where do I go from here?“Whoever is faithful in small matters will be faithful in large ones; whoever is dishonest in small matters will be dishonest in large ones” (Luke 16:10) Why would you be entrusted with a wife when you can't even take care of yourself? You know what you should be doing, so start doing it. Pick one thing to focus on in all of the areas to start with and build your habits. Spiritual, emotional, physical, mental, etc. Your jealousy and mental health issues are pretty due to your failing in each of … | /r/askRPC | 01/03/23 09:53 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on Aaron Clareys book "The Book of Numbers"?I have not read it personally, but both Dalrock and I have analyzed a lot of the statistics on women and marriage for a long time throughout our blogging. https://dalrock.wordpress.com/ https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/ If you have any particular topic you wanted to investigate with statistics just ask and I'll see if I have anything written on it. | /r/askRPC | 01/03/23 06:10 PM |
| 1 | I'm mentally at a breaking point, with my lack of sex and my virginityWhere's your OYS? And response to what we are saying in the comments. | /r/askRPC | 26/02/23 01:18 AM |
| 6 | I'm mentally at a breaking point, with my lack of sex and my virginityTo quote the main sub. Stats? ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Sc… | /r/askRPC | 22/02/23 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Do you think Christian women care about men's body count?I just want to clarify: is this true for Christian women as well? Yes. I have this vague idea in my head that real Christian women (should) mostly care about the man's walk with God, about how humble the man is, about how devoted to the Lord he is, about how pious he is, about how much the man devotes his time towards helping others (as Christ calls all Christians to), etc. Do Christian women really care about power/status/money/etc? You're falling into a classic Christian blunder. I describe it… | /r/askRPC | 22/02/23 07:42 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/13/23)It may be somewhere around here - but I wonder how much changes post-menopause? So much of a woman's actions are hormone related, and boy do things change PM. Libido does drop, but usually women still want sex. I also wonder about how worthwhile trying to get "ripped" at 52 is going to work. I don't have time to do an hour or so a day at a gym. I think for a man my age to reach the point I understand many here are shooting for, I think it would take that or more. My life would become workout and… | /r/RPChristians | 16/02/23 03:29 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/13/23)I've read a lot about RP stuff. I've read Tomassi, A. Kay, and Dalrock's stuff. I see the issues of "marrying" RP and Christianity. The main one being that I am unwilling to consider separation from my wife in any way as viable. In fact, my covenant between myself, God and her demands just the opposite. It's not a covenant I will entertain breaking. In many ways I know that stifles the red pill affect. I also have a problem with what seems like a basic premise of RP thinking that looks like the … | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/23 07:08 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/06/23)Welcome. I wanted to ask if dread game really works? My wife pretty much turned off since we had our son. The sexual frequency was already low but now she can go months without it. I’ve confronted her about it, in a no complaining but honest way just last night. She seemed to surprised it was that much of a need for me. You're already in the wrong mindset here. Generally, both men and women want to have sex with someone they are attracted to. Most of the time, the issue of "low sex drive" and es… | /r/RPChristians | 10/02/23 05:38 AM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/06/23)I see marriage as my vocation (vs. celibacy) and have had a couple relationships as well as casually dating over 20 women, mostly Protestant and Catholic, the past 3 yrs. Dating mostly Ivy and med women might be a bad habit for me, since most are career-minded and don’t want families in my age range (20-26), and chastity and attractiveness are also important. This sounds terrible, but I’m in a bit of a conundrum since it’s been hard to connect with women who aren’t at least 80th percentile intel… | /r/RPChristians | 07/02/23 07:43 PM |
| 3 | Do you think Christian women care about men's body count?I hear secular women on shows like Fresh and Fit and Access Vegas saying that they don't care. I wonder if Christian women do or if they are like their secular sisters. What OZ says is correct. This is a slight tangent but illustrates the point. If you go dutch on a first date in the secular world, most women are pretty affirming of that. If you try to go dutch on a true Christian woman, you generally won't be able to get a second date from them. While some secular women still expect a man to pr… | /r/askRPC | 05/02/23 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Choosing the Right Girlhere just isn't much of a dating pool at churches I go to honestly, so I've finally bit the bullet and decided to meet elsewhere and then try to find out more about them. Christian women that are also "red pill"/"conservative"/"traditional"/etc. themselves are some of the hardest to find. Expand the churches you go to checking out A LOT of young adult groups. That's what my wife and I did when we wanted to get to know a lot of people, and it's a very good strategy for dating too. | /r/RPChristians | 23/01/23 01:37 PM |
| 8 | Choosing the Right GirlShe's 17, which immediately made me throw up a wall when I found out. I did find out laws in this state and surrounding/close border states are all age of consent at 17, The age gap is a bit wide (I'm 27), but she's actually extremely mature for her age, so I honestly don't really care about it or think it would affect anything. She definitely has a feminine/not try to overpower you all the time attitude too, which is extremely rare in ladies these days. While that may be true, it is also very u… | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/23 09:04 PM |
| 5 | What should a Christian Woman Be Bringing to a Marriage?Have you read your Bible? What does it say about marriage? What about the roles and responsibilities of marriage? | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/23 05:13 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on splitting financesSeems to make sense. She really does not trust my judgement at this point. Would using a financial planner or something make sense if she objects? You need to be working on excellence in all areas and act like a leader to rebuild the trust regardless of this situation. A financial planner could be a short term fix, but it does not fix the underlying issue still. IMO you should be posting your stats as well so we can help you with that. | /r/askRPC | 13/01/23 12:41 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on splitting financesI’ve been married 20 years or so and the entire time our finances have been combined. My wife has been handling the finances the whole time which has pretty much screwed me over since I have less than $100k in a 401k at 40+ years old. We also have minimal savings because of the constant cycle of charging up the credit card and using the savings to pay it off. I talked to her about limiting her spending but it did nothing to stop her. All of this is on you brother. The Lord has tasked you with le… | /r/askRPC | 13/01/23 02:18 AM |
| 4 | How to love and support a wife during PMS while still maintaining frame.You need to click reply on /u/rocknrollchuck 's so he can see and respond to it next time. Also, you can use this very example with your wife if she feels like she can't control, just change police to friends or family: If she balks at this and continues to blame PMS for her outbursts, then understand that she's choosing to be angry. Here's why: imagine you and your wife are fighting, and you're both yelling at each other. She says "I'M JUST SO MAD AT YOU RIGHT NOW I CAN'T EVEN CONTROL MYSELF!!"… | /r/askRPC | 12/01/23 03:42 AM |
| 1 | If you're single: Girls with boyfriends aren't off-limits. Dating is not a marriage-lite.I definitely did not have some kind of "Christian player" in mind who serial-pursues women already in relationships. That seems like a contrived counterpoint, if I'm being blunt. My point is very simply that a girl in a dating relationship is not off-limits to pursue, but how that pursuit occurs requires a lot of wisdom. That part was not really about your argument. It was to illustrate the point of self selecting negative traits. Even a one off scenario is an elevated risk, and a one off scenar… | /r/RPChristians | 05/01/23 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Marital fraud/adulteryMarital fraud/adultery Not adultery. Not marital fraud either. Deut 22 and Matthew 1 show what marital fraud. It is if the woman was expected to be a virgin and lied about it because she wasn't (e.g. no hymen or pregnant). Now I suppose if the woman was expecting the man to be a virgin and he lied and actually had sex then sure. But virtual sex acts is not really losing virginity per se so it's a big gray zone. A man, while he is dating a woman, participates in virtual sex acts online with an OF… | /r/askRPC | 05/01/23 06:31 PM |
| 3 | If you're single: Girls with boyfriends aren't off-limits. Dating is not a marriage-lite.Monkey-branching... I looked it up. Seems like a synonym for having serial emotional affairs? Women's general preferred mating strategy is called "serial monogamy." This has many different facets. Monkey branching is one of them where a woman will hop to the next man who looks to be a better prospect to 'upgrade' to satisfy her hypergamy better (e.g. marrying up). Other women tend to just stick with their relationships until it progresses to marriage or it ends and then go on to the next one. Th… | /r/RPChristians | 05/01/23 06:23 PM |
| 23 | If you're single: Girls with boyfriends aren't off-limits. Dating is not a marriage-lite.I agree and disagree. There's nothing wrong with it, but there are a lot of practical reasons why it's not a good idea. Another one I hear is, "If she leaves him for you, she'll leave you for someone else." She will? And so what if she did? That's her decision, and I don't want to be with someone who doesn't think I'm their best option, anyway. You're assuming that men and women value virtues like loyalty in the same way. They don't. This is at best a yellow flag and could possibly be red depend… | /r/RPChristians | 03/01/23 12:27 PM |
| 5 | Advice for a new reset on the new year?I knew something was up when she gave the excuse of family. Family is a legitimate excuse. However, a woman truly interested would make it clear that they want to keep talking to you once the situation is resolved. The Brad Pitt social experiment I referenced before explains it. For instance, "I have some family issues I'm dealing with but I still want to talk to you after I get that sorted out." If there's no expression of interest to continue, then based on women's preferred communication styl… | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/23 06:19 PM |
| 12 | Advice for a new reset on the new year?I have been trying to find a Christian woman in some of my free time to date then grow into a Christ-centered relationship. Online dating apps unfortunately are my only option now in this new area. I used the app “upward” and thought I had met a very nice girl whose values had matched mine. She seemed very into me after our second date and asked when to see me again after I kissed her goodnight. I felt that the girl had potential for LTR material. I felt as if I had played my cards right in main… | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/23 01:03 AM |
| 1 | How can I prepare my sister?In the meantime while she is building a healthy lifestyle what can she work on to be more desirable besides her spiritual life? To rehash: It doesn't matter what other women think. It matters what men think. What does the God say about the Biblical marital roles and responsibilities? How does that apply to real life? What do men prefer from a marriage partner? What types of attitudes? Qualities? Skills? Those would be good questions to ask her to see if she can answer them. | /r/RPChristians | 29/12/22 04:44 PM |
| 3 | How can I prepare my sister?She told me that other women rate her a 5-6 done up. Lots of good advice has been posted already, but this is something that stands out that is wrong. It doesn't matter what other women think. It matters what men think. Most men are going to rate obese women as < 3/10 regardless of face. If you're <3/10 it's very rare that you'll get asked out, and especially by men that she's attracted to. That's just reality. Statistics bear that out. I analyzed the data and trends in this post: https://deepst… | /r/RPChristians | 28/12/22 03:32 PM |
| – | AssertingPlease add these details to your main post to get a better response. From Rule 2 - ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you … | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/22 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Is non-hedonistic sex a sin?Inexperienced men can easily suffer through the pitfalls of dealing with the numerous women (many of whom are Christian) who hide their impurity and the baggage that goes with it. The man thinks he's marrying this person, but is oblivious to who he's actually committing to. This seems like your main issue. I've gone through how to vet women and make sure she's actually willing to follow you on my blog extensively. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/actionable-steps-to-finding-a-wife/ | /r/RPChristians | 17/12/22 01:27 PM |
| 2 | need help-marriageShe has been going through a couple health issues almost since the beginning of this year that we can never seem to find an answer for, all tests come back normal & its been frustrating to me to the point i selfishly just dont want to hear about anymore. What issues? She has faith in God & we pray together every day, but she feels like her prayers are not getting answered & i keep reminding her of how she needs to trust in God & his timing. I give her scripture to stand in & sometimes i feel lik… | /r/RPChristians | 15/12/22 08:19 PM |
| 1 | need help-marriagemission: im not sure what this means, my mission in life? or marriage? anyways, i guess mission would to be to own a home, have children & be financially stable is all one could ever really want. Both, but the most important is your mission for God. Your answer is not complete. What does the Bible say about leading a family? What are your plans to do the things you said you are going to do? Are you doing them? stats: maybe 15-20% BF, 6’, 190lbs. Workout consistently Good. reading: i havent read … | /r/RPChristians | 14/12/22 07:47 PM |
| – | need help-marriagePlease add these details to your main post to get a better response. From Rule 2 - ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you … | /r/RPChristians | 13/12/22 04:10 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with being ugly as a red pilled Christian?I'm a recent college grad who just entered the workforce. The transition from college to the real world is hard on everybody, but this past month I've felt especially depressed, and that's got me dwelling on my appearance again. I've probably struggled with my appearance more than anything else in my life - my faith would probably be a close second. I've hated how my face looks for about 10 years at this point. For at least the past five I've woken up virtually every day with the first thing on … | /r/askRPC | 09/12/22 03:13 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/21/22)Chronic low back issues have resulted in me having to avoid these lifts, I am actively working with docs to try to figure out my issue and solve it. A good chronic pain physical therapist should be able to help you. competition anxiety. She needs to know that she is lucky to have you - and if she's not actually lucky to have you, that's on you for being low value - and that other women would be happy to take her place. If the woman thinks you're lucky to have her and she's blessing you and doing… | /r/RPChristians | 21/11/22 07:14 PM |
| 8 | Heavy Self Improvement Advicedaily nicotine usage Fix this. I’m in the military so I’m restricted in my community involvement. What does that mean? You can't get involved with a Church? That would many of the stated issues above. No hobbies, I try to read but it’s boring Most things in life we don't want to do but we should do anyway. Build your discipline. | /r/RPChristians | 21/11/22 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Career AdviceI work in a industry where the moral law and integrity is extremely low. I am an excellent employee I work hard, and advance myself through licenses to become more valuable. When I leave companies they are surprised. I know me being at so many places is bad. I hate driving so far everyday and to different places everyday. I hate working with lazy people who will sit and watch. I hate that I can’t find the place that operates with diligence. I find myself depressed most days. The problem here is … | /r/askRPC | 16/11/22 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Vaginismus & Concerns About Wedding NightI'm somewhat worried because she has communicated that her sex drive has fallen since getting married (she would always tell me how "high" her libido is when we were dating, although she never actually had sex to confirm that). She says she thinks the anxiety about the initial phase kills her arousal. How is she working on that? Hopefully, she is right and things will improve with time. However, I know not to care as much about what a woman says as what she does, so I'm concerned that she is act… | /r/RPChristians | 14/11/22 08:09 PM |
| 2 | How should Red-Pilled Christians deal with infidelity (compared to other Christians)I agree. I'm of the opinion that there is no divorce too. The Matthew passage can easily be explained by the reference to Joseph and Mary (e.g. betrothal in Jewish culture required a formal divorce - Matthew 1) where the fornication/porneia broke the agreement. The Pharisees knew this and even called Jesus a "son of fornication/porneia" (John 8) given they obviously did not believe the virgin birth. Plus, there is other textual evidence like Jesus's disciple being astonished which they would not… | /r/RPChristians | 27/10/22 05:09 PM |
| 17 | Any book recommendations on being a man grounded in both RP and Christianity? Something similar to Way of the Superior Man by David Deida?My book is one of the Christian ones for men. The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QPQ9FRD/ "It's good to be a man" is supposed to be decent. They've had some run ins with Dalrock when he was still blogging and were standoff-ish and generally negative toward the Christian manosphere, so I'd take it with a grain of salt. The other ones on the sidebar are mainly secular I believe. | /r/RPChristians | 25/10/22 11:04 PM |
| 6 | Why Are So Many Christian Women Physically Unattractive?Hah, I actually went through those up to a 4th iteration: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2020/12/10/doom-and-gloom-and-the-amount-of-attractive-christian-virgins-part-4/ Generally, yes, much of the westernized Church by and large takes verses out of context such as have inner beauty to mean ignoring outer beauty and 'Jesus loves you for who you are' and such. However, I have been to some Churches that also preach 'taking care of your temple of the Holy Spirit' and encourage physical fitness.… | /r/RPChristians | 24/10/22 05:51 PM |
| 1 | How overtly should one lean into wealth and status to attract a high-value woman?Funny. Never heard that one before. It's also an ironic play on the devil's number in revelation. The 3 6s - 666 - 6pack, 6 fig income, 6 ft tall While 6 ft tall can't be done, most men can work towards a muscular and athletic physique and choose a job path that provides a bigger income. | /r/RPChristians | 22/10/22 06:54 PM |
| 2 | How overtly should one lean into wealth and status to attract a high-value woman?Starting with the bottom questions since it makes more sense. Is a wealthy Christian man supposed to disguise his true level of wealth until post-engagement via frugal living? I would suggest this if possible. While I'm not rich or had a 6+ salary or anything like that I did not tell my wife how much I made until we were engaged and I lived frugally. I have since made more than 6+ sometimes, but it wasn't a big deal to her both ways since she was satisfied with the current me not even knowing my… | /r/RPChristians | 21/10/22 06:28 PM |
| 5 | Vaginismus & Concerns About Wedding NightHow'd it go brother? | /r/RPChristians | 16/10/22 12:50 PM |
| 14 | The Atlantic asks its readers why modernity is hurting young boys and men. How would you answer?“Why are men and boys struggling? What should we do about it?” It's systemic. In this post I talk about the downfall of marriage, but these things are linked to hurting men too. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2019/05/17/the-demise-of-marriage-cause-and-effect/ Everything from: Lack of fathers and male role models, failure to teach men how to be men, Cultural trends - Women = good, men = bad; pushing women to be like men and men to be like women, Education - pushes female achievement and leav… | /r/RPChristians | 13/10/22 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022Where to find those pockets is the question? Like I said, just meet lots of people at many different congregations and see who is spending their time serving in the Church and outreach. You will get your answers. If you went through the link I posted above, it generally shows that those who are more committed to the faith (regular attenders - at least 1x/week) and even beyond that toward actually serving and likely 2-3x/week tend to have made serving Christ a lifestyle. This is also reflected in… | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/22 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022How many of those women rank 5/10 and below is the question. And it depends on which country and as you said, which area of the country. In the U.S, I'd wager its more so in the rural areas or suburbs? Hard to say. In more secularized places it's probably higher where obesity is generally correlated with more virginity. However, from what I've seen at least there's usually pockets depending on the quality of the Church communities and family groups. If you are looking for it, I would have it as … | /r/RPChristians | 07/10/22 05:21 PM |
| 3 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022Now this leads to another question I have. Do any of the attractive Christian women save themselves for marriage anymore? Or are they all sexually loose nowadays? I'd hope that there's till good ones out there in the more traditional circles. Yes, I covered this here: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2018/01/07/review-of-vetting-virgins-and-new-info-on-virginity-pledges/ Probably 30-40% of women in the 20-24ish age range are Christian virgins. Maybe more or maybe less depending on specific are… | /r/RPChristians | 05/10/22 08:53 PM |
| 7 | Vaginismus & Concerns About Wedding NightSome things that may help: Physical therapy for vaginismus Total body massage - relaxes the whole body which should help relax vaginal muscles as well. Possibly massage/foreplay to the vaginal area as well. Also can double as foreplay Don't use alcohol What everyone else has said about the experience is good though. | /r/RPChristians | 04/10/22 02:54 PM |
| 7 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022Not gonna lie here, both posts, especially the 2nd one was extremely black pilling.. enough to demoralize me from dating to begin with because it makes me think I'll have to settle, which I REALLY don't want to do. Part of the reason why I went over to Eastern Europe was to avoid that fate via Geomaxxing and because I thought that dating in America and Western Europe overall was a lost cause. Then again, I haven't been in the actual dating scene for a good 4-5 years due to focusing on my studies… | /r/RPChristians | 03/10/22 08:00 PM |
| 3 | Red Pill ChristianityThe existence of Red Pill Christianity is the first evidence that the Red Pill can be integrated into Christianity. Thousands of Christians have swallowed the Red Pill without critically having to abandon their faith. Pretty amazing. What’s more amazing - although not surprising - is that there appears to be between the Red Pill and Christianity a tremendous synergy. This synergy can be seen in various ways, but one broad way to see it, is to understand that “living your purpose” means “living l… | /r/RPChristians | 27/09/22 11:17 AM |
| 2 | My friend wants to marry more than one womanAs his main target for discipleship outside his planned family is converting young men and teens rather than those "stuck in their blue pilled feminized church ways" We've done plenty of that without resorting to polygamy, so he's clearly wrong that it's not effective. Which is illegal in most places anyway so there is that too. I understand where his thought process comes from. As I know getting a christian man that is established in the church to change is a lot harder and likely a vain effort… | /r/askRPC | 22/09/22 04:31 PM |
| 4 | My friend wants to marry more than one womanI do not think he is operating from a frame of fear. As I know the guy doesn't care about how divorce would impact him personally. He just knows that keeping custody of any children would be a struggle if the mother divorced him. And he does care about that because his mother committed adultery before divorcing his father when he was a kid. That is the definition of operating from fear. Being worried about divorce so much that you do something questionable at best. I've written on this topic a l… | /r/askRPC | 21/09/22 12:28 PM |
| 4 | My friend wants to marry more than one womanI pressed him on this until he flat out told me trusting a single woman with all your eggs is foolish. And that he wants at least some biological offspring that don't end up getting the shaft by some woman that decides to upend it all. With divorce and the family court system. If the Bible itself isn't convincing to a Christian then that's a whole other problem altogether. This seems to make it clear that he's operating from the frame of fear rather than that of God. The issue is not that he wan… | /r/askRPC | 21/09/22 01:13 AM |
| 5 | Im a depressed wife who has let herself go... And my husband isnt attracted to me anymore.Everything has been covered fairly well, but let me help you understand this part better. I know he must be disappointed that I am no longer the woman he married, but him telling me how much I changed and how he is no longer attracted to me hurt me so badly. Perhaps this is just coming from a place of hurt, but now I feel like perhaps my husband never truly loved me if he cant find me lovable because of how my looks changed. How can I get over this hurt feeling and recover my health and apparenc… | /r/askRPC | 14/09/22 04:48 PM |
| 4 | To what extent is a wife allowed to withhold sex and affection if she doesn't feel supported emotionally?Yes, I quoted 1 Cor. 7 at one point. Didn't go over well. Hilariously / sadly, these subs are moderated by so-called "conservative reformed" men. Yup. Just shows you how deep the cultural rot in the Church goes. Have you ever had your wife be emotionally hurt and want to withhold sex? How did you handle that? Personally, no. Before I got married I explicitly went over these passages with my girlfriend at the time, and we told each other we wouldn't deny each other. We haven't denied each other y… | /r/RPChristians | 12/09/22 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Praise God for this communitySidebar here before or after TRM? Any tips for submitting TRM to a biblical lense? God bless brothers I can't wait to learn from you all, be a part of this community and honor Christ. Yup, this book by me looks at the Bible for lessons on attraction, dating, and marriage. https://www.amazon.com/Biblical-Masculinity-Blueprint-Attraction-Relationships/dp/1948252074/ We generally don't try to "Christianize" the RP so it's a misnomer. See these posts on why that is wrong. https://www.reddit.com/r/RP… | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/22 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Professing Christians' Total Disregard for Biblical Gender Roles on Full DisplayThis post got caught in the spam filter. However, we generally don't like having posts about "other" subs, as we already know the typical offenders (which is one of the ones you mentioned) clearly aren't following the Bible and constantly excuse women's sin while raking men over coals. | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/22 06:03 PM |
| 9 | To what extent is a wife allowed to withhold sex and affection if she doesn't feel supported emotionally?Every Bible reading Christian knows the answer: 1 Corinthians 7:3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Sat… | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/22 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Am I Sinning?Hey brother, And I’ve recently put in effort to reestablish a relationship with God, but this fear that he does not want me to do things I enjoy is stressing me out majorly. I haven’t read any book in a week or so, I haven’t been listening to as much music. I am so scared that what I’m doing is sin. None of this is anywhere near sin, but you are deceiving yourself with your thinking. The Bible clearly states that God wants everyone to come to Him and be reconciled with Him. Casting all their sin… | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/22 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Wild at Heart by John Eldredge?This was not let through the spam filter. If you would like to have a discussion on it you should put more effort in your post. | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/22 05:42 PM |
| 1 | How does an RPChristian function in a non-functional marriage with a non-functional BPD partner?Jesus' sermon on the Mount was properly interpreting the Old Testament. Your "raising the bar" concept doesn't work in light of Christ's opening statement in his sermon that not one jot or tittle shall pass away until all is fulfilled. Christ was demonstrating what true fulfillment of the law looked like (obeying the law in the spirit and just the letter), not introducing a new law, as your position requires. You do realize the "not one jot or tittle of the law shall pass away until all is fulfi… | /r/RPChristians | 17/08/22 12:55 PM |
| 1 | How does an RPChristian function in a non-functional marriage with a non-functional BPD partner?This is the standard type of response I've come to expect from you. When I point out a contradiction or a problem, you wave your hands, beg the question, perform semantic gymnastics, and/or copy-and-paste another word bomb. Nevertheless, you write with such confidence that I'm sure it impresses the undiscerning mind. Notable examples would include your position on vows, Christ's "ability" to contradict the Mosaic Law, marriage can be "annulled" but this isn't a real divorce. That's interesting t… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/22 11:55 AM |
| 2 | How does an RPChristian function in a non-functional marriage with a non-functional BPD partner?Your article only addresses the situation of lying about one's sexual past, not general comments like this: Clearly you did not read the whole article because this was talked about in the conclusion a several times. From the article: "Note 1: Divorce, remarriage, and perpetual adultery: There is perpetual adultery if the participants are made completely aware of the roles and responsibilities and the everlasting nature of marriage. In other words, “sacramental marriage” affirmed by the Church. I… | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/22 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Physical Appeal Leagues in MenI covered Wheat Waffle's black pill analysis in this post. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2022/07/16/black-pill-analysis/ He categorizes men into 3 groups instead of 1-10 scale which I find is a decent way to do things - Chad, Normie, and Sub5. Although his system is mostly based on facial genetics since he does facial analysis for a living, I think this is a decent way of categorizing things with most vectors of attraction. For example Fame/status - Chad would be hollywood star or fairly fa… | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/22 03:28 PM |
| 2 | How does an RPChristian function in a non-functional marriage with a non-functional BPD partner?Not to restart a debate, but you seem to have taken a less hardline stance from when we talked a couple of months ago. You seem to be allowing for the possibility that a marriage can be invalid if one of the spouses has false expectations for the marriage or what their spouse is capable of. That drives at the heart of why my marriage failed. No, that's always been my stance if you have actual read the article I linked to multiple times... which if you're just learning this now then you probably … | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/22 01:27 PM |
| 2 | How does an RPChristian function in a non-functional marriage with a non-functional BPD partner?Now that her lease is up and she had nowhere to go she came back asking to move back in. I said no. I am not going to be an option of last resort. Actually, I am not going to be an option. I told her once she gets healthy, then we can restart our relationship in terms of cohabitating. I agree with this. The key thing here is that she needs help, and it's clear that you are not qualified to give that kind of help that she needs. In fact, nor should you be doing that anyway even if you were qualif… | /r/RPChristians | 10/08/22 08:35 PM |
| 1 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?You can DM me here but I don't respond as quickly. Discord or discord DM is better | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/22 07:41 PM |
| – | Please adviseLocked until rule 2. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, … | /r/RPChristians | 26/07/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?Evangelize in the gym and the bars and trust in God that a group will fall out on me? I have extensive successful leadership experience without any power but soft power at work so have plenty of experience at building up disparate groups of people into a common unity, but methinks much of that success is due to an underlying shared secular "mission" - the success of the company and climbing the ladder - expressed in myriad ways, and all I do is get people interested and show a better way. People… | /r/RPChristians | 05/07/22 03:45 PM |
| 2 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/7vhh4m/210_mission_matters_nothing_else_matters_only/ | /r/RPChristians | 04/07/22 10:58 AM |
| 2 | Just an Introduction:Brother, we're only trying to help you. But if you don't think it's helpful then you do you. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/22 01:18 PM |
| 1 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?It sounds like something I'd need to found a lay apostolate for and that runs in to the chicken and egg problem; my tradition considers solitary or cenobitic vocations or missions to be entirely legitimate and of high value, which isn't of much help here. Not really. If you know your particular calling, you can ask them for help whichever way you choose. | /r/RPChristians | 29/06/22 12:05 PM |
| 2 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?Hah, I'm usually the one telling people virginity statistics aren't bleak. I don't think they're that bleak, at least with women who have grown up in the Church. Yes, it's up to the man to set the tone for no sex prior to marriage. | /r/RPChristians | 29/06/22 12:01 PM |
| 1 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?I thank you and other posters for your replies; it has given me much to think over. It's difficult to hit the gym working 60h/wk (the benefits of being staff level!) but the work itself requires discipline so as I write this I realize it's a thin and flabby excuse given that I literally live above a LA Fitness and across the street from an Equinox Fitness. I've simply not prioritized it due to being in a extant relationship (?) even if it's mostly gone. The teeth require extensive dental (orthod… | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/22 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Just an Introduction:His mission seems as specific as it needs to be to answer the sidebar question. Seems like he's focused on his work to provide for his family and serve his church. Yup, and that's not a good mission which is why we're trying to help him get it better. | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/22 12:24 PM |
| 4 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?Thats a relief. Yeah if we take out the top 20% of ALL, who are more likely to be in other circles; that shifts everyone up 20%. So makes those women attainable. Ie big fish small pond. Thanks. Yup, that's the big one to understand for most men. It's usually even easier in the Church to become a top 20% man than in the secular world where there's more people concerned about looks, wealth, and all such things. Even commenting that women are attracted to power, status, looks, and money in the Chur… | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/22 03:28 AM |
| 2 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?If you're not going to marry her let her go as the other person said. Offer to help her get on her feet if need be, but it's not your responsibility if she's not your wife. You have the potential to 8+ SMV: I find plenty of women, but none who share my religion and politics, want many children, and aren't a significant step down. I'm probably a 5.5-6.5 in SMV[1] but my high current earning power and position of prestige increases, I would think, my RMV to somewhere in the 9s. The problem is when… | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/22 03:24 AM |
| 3 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?First thank you for the thorough article, it makes a strong case to seek virginity. Now you made the argument for roughly 1 in 8 (12.5%) of young women at churches or social clubs as meeting the standards in order to minimize chance of divorce. Could be higher or lower depending on where you are. For instance, in blue states/progressive cities it may be less, but if you live in a red state it may be much more likely. From my understanding a men's value to women is security/wealth>status>looks. N… | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/22 03:27 PM |
| 4 | Just an Introduction:Welcome. Your mission needs to be more specific. What has God called you to do for Him? What are your spiritual gifts? How are you building up Christ's body and fellowship? What are your short term goals that indicate the progress you are working on with this? Long term goals? | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/22 03:12 PM |
| 10 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?My general analysis given some data. My post on virginity statistics suggest at least in this population there is almost 40% chance a woman who marries between 21-24 is a virgin and +10% (for 50% total with oral but no PIV sex). https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2018/01/07/review-of-vetting-virgins-and-new-info-on-virginity-pledges/ Obviously, virginity is not an end all be all, but if said Christian girls can make it to 21-24 with no sex by marriage compared to <5% of secular women that's a ge… | /r/RPChristians | 26/06/22 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Basically “666” and still no genuine desire from wifeI wrote this post will explain it more thoroughly. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/eb34iy/maturity_mode_be_process_oriented_and_not_results/ Being results oriented leads to butthurt when you don't get the results you want (e.g. increased sex, closeness, etc.) | /r/RPChristians | 26/06/22 06:54 PM |
| 2 | Basically “666” and still no genuine desire from wifeOn a few other notes: K, good. Most men aren't doing that. If you are, that should give you more experience from which to act effectively. I should in an assertive manner (think WISNIFG/NMMNG/Mode One/Exhausted Wife Bewildered Husband) vulnerably and without complaining reveal my desire and when she complains remain steadfast and just keep doing what I want in the meantime (improving myself/leadership/social circles/mission/etc.). This seems to make a lot of sense to me because it’s seems to be … | /r/RPChristians | 25/06/22 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Basically “666” and still no genuine desire from wifeYou do know most psychological books are flawed because they don't understand male and female nature as good as God because he created us? Most women who are really attracted to their men want to be around them all the time. My wife hates doing anything without me. | /r/RPChristians | 25/06/22 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Basically “666” and still no genuine desire from wifeIf anything, I think the problem is that are lives are too enmeshed to provide for polarity that creates sexual charge. That's not correct. Masculinity is the polarity for femininity. One can be masculine and be with their wife all the time and still be attractive and have lots of sex. The problem is that you are not acting in a masculine manner as evidenced by your original post. | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/22 01:42 PM |
| 3 | Basically “666” and still no genuine desire from wifeWhen you say “supplicating personality” what are you referring to specifically? You're too into the concept of doing things without understanding them and inevitably make the wrong choices. For instance, do you know the meaning behind STFU? The reason why RP and MRP say to "STFU" is because most of the men coming in asking for advice are unattractive and would DEER (defend, explain, excuse, rationalize). Doing these things make you even more unattractive. The meaning behind not doing this is bec… | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/22 01:32 PM |
| 6 | Basically “666” and still no genuine desire from wife+1 to what /u/rocknrollchuck said. Everything is always about her still. You're in her frame. Mission is doing my work and helping as many people as possible while praying and seeking to speak the gospel boldly. My wife has helped me with this by challenging my thinking and helping me build a household that motivates me to provide. Fix your mission. Right now it's vague nonsense and still in her frame. What has God put you here to do? How are you spreading the gospel? How are you discipling othe… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/22 04:52 PM |
| 2 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)After death of spouse following permanent separation could surviving spouse remarry another never married or widowed person? Yes, as death in both the OT and NT breaks the marriage bond. | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/22 04:07 PM |
| 1 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)I'm not the one "honing into" the Mosaic Law, though. You are. Your entire position relies heavily the Deuteronomic background of the pharisees' question in Matthew 19. I simply showed how given your position, it reduces to absurdity: the Mosaic law allowed sin. I read all of your comments up to this point, and I do not see where you defended your position against the criticism I leveled. You simply begged the question ("you're arguing against God") and repeated a criticism of my position (regar… | /r/RPChristians | 19/06/22 01:08 PM |
| 1 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)Alright, my understanding is that your position is not exactly the same as the betrothal position. The betrothal position I consider weak, and I can see why the position isn't widely held. Your position is certainly a different take. I am curious if any reputable theologians have held to it throughout history? Not that this automatically validates or invalidates a position, I'm just curious because I may like to research it more. Strict betrothal I think is still stronger than the divorce for ad… | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/22 11:37 PM |
| 1 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)I don't have time to read all of that, but I'll try to understand your position: Matthew 19 is not talking about divorce, it is talking about putting away a spouse after an invalid marriage has been recognized. Is that correct? Is this considered the same as the "betrothal" position (namely that porneia only refers to sexual sin during the betrothal period), or it is considered a separate view? Betrothal position generally refers to porneia referring to sex in the betrothal period allow dissolut… | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/22 12:51 PM |
| 1 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)Alright. I finished adding more analysis based on Winger's points into this new post. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2022/06/17/divorce-part-8-actual-final/ If you're actually up to be convinced then go read it. If you're not then I guess we can agree to disagree, but I would hope you at least consider the evidence. | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/22 07:24 PM |
| 2 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)Most of the "no divorce" proponents like myself acknowledge that permanent separation is a viable option: 1 Corinthians 7:10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. I also think that the Catholic and Orthodox implementation of Sacramental marriage versus natural marriage is a flawed but better system (than Protes… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/22 06:00 PM |
| 1 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)I don't think its accurate to say that the pharisees were upholding their man-made traditions in these passages. The law does say not to work on the Sabbath and it does say not to eat the showbread unless one is a priest. We already know how Jesus responds to the pharisees when they accuse him of not adhering to the "traditions of men" in Mark 7. In Mark 2-3, Jesus' response is not, "You have laid aside the commandments of God for the traditions of men," but rather he points out obedience to the… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/22 03:14 PM |
| 2 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)we are, I think, victims of Greek logic. In Hebrew culture there wasn't such problem with paradoxical positions as we have now. God is three but still one. Jesus was fully God and fully human. I don't have problem with II Corinthians 5:10 contradicting John 5:24 regarding judgement of Christians, either... I don't follow. 2 Cor 5:10 is about the judgement seat of Christ (where believers are judged for their actions) and not the judgement of the "Sheep and the Goats" / believers names being writt… | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/22 03:52 PM |
| 3 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)Anyway, I am not trying to hide my position, I was just not under the impression that this is not a forum for theological debate. It is a place to discuss potential sin via theological debate because of rule 7. Promoting or suggesting sinful behavior is prohibited. That said, the viability of whether or not certain behavior should be classified as sinful is open for discussion. If anyone wants to know my position they can YouTube Mike Winger's divorce video. Yes, it is extremely long but extreme… | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/22 01:54 PM |
| 2 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)I remember reading part of what you wrote on the topic couple years ago and while your position differing adultery and fornication and your claim that Mat. 5:32 was talking only about betrothed and not actually married woman was interesting, I don't share that interpretation. Mark 10, Luke 16, Romans 7, and 1 Corinthians 7 all suggest that marriage is permanent (no exception clauses). If you take Matthew 5 and 19 as divorce is permissible for adultery then it contradicts those other passages. Do… | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/22 01:35 PM |
| 2 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)I don't agree with Piper's position at all. But I don't think this is the place to get into a theology debate on divorce, so I'll just leave it at that. When it concerns the morality of your actions before God it does. But up to you. | /r/RPChristians | 15/06/22 05:07 PM |
| 7 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)1 Corinthians 7:10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. If you truly want to pursue God, you should attempt to reconcile with your wife. . 2 Corinthians 5:11 Since, then, we know what it is to fear the Lord, we try to persuade others. What we are is plain to God, and I hope it is also plain to your conscience.… | /r/RPChristians | 15/06/22 12:07 PM |
| 4 | What should I expect in terms of dating giving my circumstances? (long)the only biblical grounds for divorce is cheating I'm of the position that there is no grounds for divorce. If you look at the context of Matthew 19 and Matthew 5, it's talking about a specific scenario (Deut 22 - marital fraud) and not actually adultery being grounds for divorce. Piper lays it out here: https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/divorce-and-remarriage-a-position-paper I go over all of the Scriptures in the Bible here: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2022/06/17/divorce-part-8-actua… | /r/RPChristians | 15/06/22 12:04 PM |
| 6 | Where have you fallen in love with the world? Let's diagnose that together.One of the most prevalent one I tend to see with most Christians is the envy of a sinful lifestyle. Whether that's seemingly "missing out" on pre-marital sex or having other sorts of "fun" that the world engages in. It all ends in agony and despair. Proverbs 23:17 Do not let your heart envy sinners, but rather be zealous in fearing the Lord all the time. 18 For surely there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off. Proverbs 24:1 Do not envy the wicked, do not desire their company 1 Corinth… | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/22 03:32 PM |
| 2 | ParentingThose are all good points. I guess I just assumed that since Christianity is a core theme of this sub, that one's identity in Christ would be a baseline from which everything else flows. You are right, I didn't explicitly state that up front - but I totally agree with all of what you said Sure, but you're working with kids who don't have the basics. And have you seen many of the posts here? A lot of the time we're dealing with a lot of people who don't have even the fundamentals of Christianity | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/22 09:08 PM |
| 4 | ParentingI don't really get your list here. We are all doomed to be imperfect Even if we were, perfection doesn't necessarily inspire patterning behavior We are all wired differently There is a natural inclination for a son to rebel against his father to a certain degree That's why Jesus didn't teach his disciples because they were doomed to be imperfect unlike Him, and Jesus' perfection didn't inspire patterning behavior to show the disciples how to live... oh wait. Actually He did and the disciples bel… | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/22 02:37 PM |
| 12 | My introductionMission: To stay faithful to my family, future wife and to God, by avoiding porn, masturbation and only interacting sexually with my wife Maybe part of a mission, but you are missing the big picture. Matthew 28:18 Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you.… | /r/RPChristians | 02/06/22 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Confidence issuesYea. The Myers-Briggs thing doesn't help either. It is nonsense and certainly not biblical by any stretch. It's like most of the lies of the world,...contains just a little truth, just enough to set the hook and reel you in. Yeah, it's not scientifically validated either like Big 5. It's trending on horoscope and astrology status now. BTW - Got your book. Haven't got to it yet. Working my way through another before I get to it. Great. Let me know your thoughts when you start reading. | /r/RPChristians | 02/06/22 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Confidence issuesI've been led to believe that I don't have any value all my life, what hurts even more is that the people who are supposed to help me find my worth didn't live up to that task. What's worse is I only met Jesus later in life although I grew up in a somewhat "christian" household. Yeah, sadly there's a lot of "Christians" and Churches in America can be really terrible and not actually care about what Jesus preached on encouraging, uplifting, and spurring on others. You're doing great so far with t… | /r/RPChristians | 02/06/22 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Confidence issuesI probably am expecting something that isn't normal. I didn't ask her out because I wasn't interested enough, also she just graduated high school and I'm not gonna go for that age gap unless I'm 100% sure she is interested (that could be the reason behind it). No use sparing a billion thoughts about it then. If she isn't interested and you aren't interested then it's just two people passing in the wind. I guess I should just start doing and less thinking. I have to admit I haven't tried asking w… | /r/RPChristians | 02/06/22 04:42 PM |
| 1 | How to handle wife of 10 yrs who wants to go tell my family instead of reconciling arguments with me firstSounds like you're well on your way then by considering the area(s) that you can get better at I do think I’m still lost on how to handle the actual blowup of her taking a small thing (me saying I’m going to the gym, literally because that’s what I wanted to do due to the value being higher than the pettiness of the moment), and exploding it by bringing family into it. Usually if you're in a "deer in the headlights" moment with any type of thing developing into an argument, you can always defaul… | /r/RPChristians | 02/06/22 04:34 PM |
| 5 | Confidence issuesToday, sometimes I feel like a changed young man. I tried to improve everywhere I could: I started lifting weights 4 years ago, went on Accutane to get rid of Acne which worked awesome (I still have scars from acne but some of theme are starting to fade away slowly) I have better facial skin now than ever before, I got braces last year (I still have them but my teeth are starting to look better already), started dressing up better and wearing perfume and deodorant. All in all, I'm really trying … | /r/RPChristians | 02/06/22 11:48 AM |
| 6 | How to handle wife of 10 yrs who wants to go tell my family instead of reconciling arguments with me firstDo you know how to integrate the fruit of the Spirit into frame? If so, why are you not doing that? The simple answer is Jesus. How does Jesus walk the line in his correction and rebuke without crossing the line into sin? In most cases, Jesus' correction and rebuke always brought their mistakes back to the faith. Although we don't have his tone of voice, facial expressions, or gestures, I think we can assume that Jesus' correction or rebuke is typically done in kindness, except in a few circumst… | /r/RPChristians | 01/06/22 11:15 AM |
| 1 | Is it a sin to stay single forever and have still have sex?Yes, it's a sin to have sex outside of marriage, Read your Bible dude. 1 Corinthians 7:1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her… | /r/RPChristians | 01/06/22 10:12 AM |
| 3 | How to handle wife of 10 yrs who wants to go tell my family instead of reconciling arguments with me first/u/rocknrollchuck 's answers are good. Remember, the goal is love for the purpose of sanctification (Eph 5). If she's being disrespectful the goal is to notify her of her behavior and help her make the change. Ignoring is like the least effective method of the fitness tests responses because it doesn't help on the sanctification path. Chuck's "what's the magic word" makes it more playful, but it also implicitly shows her that she's speaking disrespectfully/impolitely to which she'll more often g… | /r/RPChristians | 31/05/22 02:59 AM |
| 13 | How to handle wife of 10 yrs who wants to go tell my family instead of reconciling arguments with me firstHonestly it seems like OP has indexed too hard on aggressive trains and RP and less on how Christ treated his church. It's not even really too much "RP" here. Even secular MRP acknowledges that a husband being too gung-ho when starting to learn about how not to be a wimp and will instead be a bull in the China shop scenario. In this instance, everything is about the husband versus the wife when it shouldn't be that way. Obviously, this is ineffective not to mention devoid of the fruit of the Spi… | /r/RPChristians | 30/05/22 03:20 PM |
| 16 | How to handle wife of 10 yrs who wants to go tell my family instead of reconciling arguments with me firstOn /r/marriedredpill they have the "bull in a China shop" concept where everything is met with aggressive or antagonistic responses. Do you know how to integrate the fruit of the Spirit into frame? If so, why are you not doing that? Do you know the difference between fitness and comfort testing and how to respond to each? Do you know the different methods of deflecting fitness tests? If so, why not choose some that are less antagonistic and all or nothing? | /r/RPChristians | 30/05/22 02:50 PM |
| 11 | This community is starting to feel less and less Christian, and more and more like a late-stage relationship advice sub.Be the change you want to see. It takes time and effort to write good posts. Most of the more experienced members are actively doing things with their lives. It's easy to just ask a question, and every influx of new people brings a whole lot of potential non-Christians or lukewarm Christians. Over time as most places grow you get way more of the latter than the former. Most extremely popular default subs like /r/fitness or /r/personalfinance are reduced to 99% beginner questions unless the mods … | /r/RPChristians | 30/05/22 03:39 AM |
| 2 | Stop watching MGTOW videosYes, for Christians, MGTOW is dumb. Staying single and serving God is where it's at. Is the part in bold sarcasm? 🤔 No. MGTOW is dumb because the majority of them are still offended and bitter about women. Instead of actually not caring about women, they're using the "MGTOW" label as a coping mechanism. If they truly don't care they wouldn't go around posting all the time about it nor still have so much anger about it or trying to avoid women altogether. Paul recognizes women as co-workers and c… | /r/RPChristians | 27/05/22 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Marriage vs. cohabitation - what makes more sense as a man?Does sex equal marriage if the father never vetoes or there is no father present to veto? No. John 4:16 Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.” The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are right in saying, ‘I have no husband’; for you have had five husbands, and the one you now have is not your husband. What you have said is true.” The reason for witnesses is not only to show the veracity of the marriage ("in the presence of 2 or 3 witnesses" for ac… | /r/RPChristians | 26/05/22 11:43 PM |
| 6 | Christians and divorceI'll probably get downvoted but my opinion is that marriage has gone to sh1t because is because society has gone to sh1t. The divorce rate is a secondary phenomenon to the actual problem which is American culture has done everything it can to remove God from our lives. Well, yes but also no. Patriarchal societies dominate because they harness the ability of men to work together, build civilization, and defend it. Matriarchal societies get their crap kicked in by patriarchal ones. The problem, th… | /r/RPChristians | 26/05/22 10:03 PM |
| 14 | Stop watching MGTOW videosMGTOW is stupid. Yes, for Christians, MGTOW is dumb. Staying single and serving God is where it's at. 1 Corinthians 7:7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. ... 32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34 and his interests are divided. An… | /r/RPChristians | 26/05/22 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Marriage vs. cohabitation - what makes more sense as a man?I stand corrected thank you. You're welcome. (I grew up in the purity culture and that was kind of a talking point that by sleeping with single women you’re still committing adulty because you’re consummating marriage and each time you have sex I did as well, and that's absolutely wrong. It's crazy how people take stuff out of context without studying the Bible thoroughly. Fornication is a sin, but it's not adultery. Adultery is specifically having sex with another man's wife in the Bible. | /r/RPChristians | 26/05/22 12:46 PM |
| 2 | Marriage vs. cohabitation - what makes more sense as a man?With this in mind, what is your view in the rise of cohabitation? To me, is just seems to be the logical response to the times we live in. Sin. I understand the Bible condemns premarital sex, but what constitutes a marriage by Biblical standards is muddy waters. The Bible never specifies exactly what it means to be married. In Genesis 2, we can see that God acts as the first Father to give Adam his wife Eve: Genesis 2:21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; the… | /r/RPChristians | 26/05/22 12:33 PM |
| 4 | Marriage vs. cohabitation - what makes more sense as a man?Cohabitation IS marriage. This is wrong. Cohabitation is not marriage and why it's been frowned upon by Christians forever. The scientific data backs this as well. edit - More in this comment | /r/RPChristians | 25/05/22 12:44 PM |
| 12 | Marriage vs. cohabitation - what makes more sense as a man?As society trends in a secular direction, people are moving away from marriage and into committed relationships without marriage. With divorce rates hovering around 50% in most western countries and divorce courts typically favoring the lower earner, which is almost always the woman, there doesn't seem like much of an incentive for men to marry. As Christians, "society" does not inform our basis of morality or define our actions. Back in the day, men needed to get married for a woman to engage i… | /r/RPChristians | 25/05/22 12:43 PM |
| 8 | Why is female virginity valued while male virginity is not?Virginity is valued greatly by God for both men and women. Those who would argue that a man's virginity is less important than a woman's is filtering the Bible through a Red Pill lens. It should be the other way around. 100%. The desire to obey God is paramount. Both men and women should be striving for this. To add to this a little, there are secondary reasons why traditionally female virginity has been held to a higher standard across most cultures. Since men and women are different (gasp), vi… | /r/RPChristians | 22/05/22 12:37 PM |
| 3 | Bible Study Resource for Your ConsiderationAnother potential resource. If you're gonna drop some money on a Bible and are interested in why things are translated the way they are, NET Bible is my go to. They basically include translator notes with most of the passages/verses and why they chose certain English words and the intent behind the Greek translations. They'll also tell you if certain passages have certain Greek words and others that don't as there is some textual variation in the text comparing it across many manuscripts. https:… | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/22 01:43 PM |
| – | I got angry and did something awful.Also, locked until OP posts stats: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memori… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 06:08 PM |
| – | When is the right time to ask a girl if she's a virgin?Also, locked until OP posts stats: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memori… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 06:06 PM |
| 8 | When is the right time to ask a girl if she's a virgin?There's a balance between being redpill & being Christlike No, there isn't. When we talk about "red pill" here in the terms of the sexual nature of men and women, we mean how God created man and woman to be from the beginning and how that may play out in the context of various attraction, desires, and also sin. This is observable human nature. The major problem that we see in the Church is that they usually lie to men and women about things related to relationships and sex. For instance, the who… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 02:37 PM |
| 15 | When is the right time to ask a girl if she's a virgin?It's not hypocritical for a non-virgin man to pursue a virgin woman for marriage. Sex doesn't have the same effect on men and women - we don't get used for our bodies and develop emotional baggage from sexual encounters. True. Sex enhances masculinity in men No. That's worldly thought. If that's the case, Jesus, Paul and other single Christian men would not have been masculine. Masculinity in general is composed of various traits that are most often associated with men across various cultures wh… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 01:47 PM |
| 4 | Feeling jaded as a man in Christian datingYou're wasting your time by commenting I'm ranting/venting because it's frustrating you're probably some boomer who easily found a virgin who had everything else you wanted and now want to complain about a young man complaining Ah, ignorance is bliss. Maybe you should listen to what I'm saying because I actually married a Christian virgin less than 5 years ago in this cultural climate. My experiences are readily available to read on my blog which you could've known if you did some cursory resear… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 01:39 PM |
| 18 | When is the right time to ask a girl if she's a virgin?I have a second date coming up with a girl I met from a Bible study. I want to get the dealbreakers out of the way, but I'm not sure if it would be too early to ask about her past on a second date. I waited four months with my last gf before asking because I assumed she was a virgin, and I don't want to make that same mistake again. Have a post on this in my actionable steps to finding a wife series. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/actionable-steps-to-finding-a-wife/ The post on that discussi… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 01:31 PM |
| 12 | When is the right time to ask a girl if she's a virgin?Dude, I know this is red pill christians sub, but this is nonsense. The only place you can find virgins is on the kindergarten or elementary school. Even if you are "lucky" to find a 18yo virgin like I was, she could be a raven like my ex. My ex was a virgin, but she was addicted to lesbian porn. She left me to chase women. False. There's been studies done on this. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2018/01/07/review-of-vetting-virgins-and-new-info-on-virginity-pledges/ 5% rate in the world. But… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 01:21 PM |
| 9 | When is the right time to ask a girl if she's a virgin?To the newer people to the sub, virginity in women is important because of obedience to God thing which is #1, and statistical data shows there's much higher divorce risk with women who are not virgins. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2012/03/promiscuity-data-guest-post.html https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2018/01/07/review-of-vetting-virgins-and-new-info-on-virginity-pledges/ It ma… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 01:19 PM |
| 7 | I got angry and did something awful.Repent to God and stop your foolishness. Tell her. Focus on God's mission. Get in your Bible. See if you can be discipled by older men in your Church. Love and serve others at Church. Use your spiritual gifts. Get your head on straight. Reframe your thinking of sex. Read all of the Biblical marital roles and responsibilities and learn them like the back of your hand. Focus on honoring God with your body, not because things are 'fair' or 'unfair' or other BS worldly reasons. | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/22 01:16 PM |
| 15 | Feeling jaded as a man in Christian datingThis is more of a rant I feel like it's near impossible to find a woman that is a virgin or that can hold a conversation [1] it just feels like I keep running into other mens leftovers (non virgins) who don't really want kids, [2] I'm 23 I've had a turbulent childhood/adolescent years and I just want to be free, have fun, focus on my dreams and not worry about children but so many Christian women want kids especially in their mid 20s which is soooo young. Really? So you want to have your cake an… | /r/RPChristians | 15/05/22 03:21 PM |
| 3 | Navigating society as a redpilled ChristianI just struggle to identify what my mission should be in life - what exactly I should be aiming for in the long-run. Where do you fit into the Great Commission - Matthew 28. Preaching the gospel and making disciples What are your spiritual gifts? How are you using them to love and serve others? Church? How are you involved in serving and discipleship and ministries? What is your personal mission from God that he put you here to do? What are you passionate about for God? What interests you? These… | /r/RPChristians | 15/05/22 03:09 PM |
| 7 | Does it make sense to marry as a man with high earning potential?I'm in my mid-twenties and just hit a six-figure income, continually rising with experience. I expect to reach a 500k net worth within a few years. I've been redpilled since my late teens and am well aware of divorce court bias against men and the high divorce rates (mostly initiated by women) in western countries. I've read into prenups, and their reliability in court is disputable. I've heard horror stories of prenups being thrown out after the woman claims she was coerced into signing it. Wit… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/22 02:02 PM |
| 5 | Is it the "right" thing to do to ask a Father's permission to date his daughter? How about for marriage?It seems to be that many traditional communities would advocate for this as some sort of biblical norm. I never asked my wife's father for permission to date her. I honestly didn't even ask permission to marry her. I simply just told him that I was going to ask his daughter to marry me. For the record by the way, him and I have a pretty solid relationship. It seems odd to me to ask for permission for either because no one else has any place in dictating to you your relationship and marriage choi… | /r/RPChristians | 11/05/22 08:34 PM |
| 6 | 23M seeing a 17F. Should I talk to her parents before making it official?Several points to consider, and some general advice for men. You're offending modern sensibilities here but not Biblical ones. The Biblical thing to do would be to ask her parents permission and obey whatever their decision is. If it's wait then wait. If it's no and stay away then find another girl. Ask them sooner than later. Wisdom - extremely unwise to put yourself in a situation with a girl <18 but >=16 even with age of consent laws. In the grand scheme of things, perception does matter as i… | /r/RPChristians | 11/05/22 12:05 PM |
| 7 | 23M seeing a 17F. Should I talk to her parents before making it official?Why is “finding a virgin” important. It can’t be more than a “nice to have” or it’s vanity imo. Isn’t that a weird priority as opposed to life partner in God or something? You must be new here. Aside from the obvious obedience to God thing which is #1, there's a much higher divorce risk. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2012/03/promiscuity-data-guest-post.html Men would do well to marry… | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/22 10:43 PM |
| 7 | ExcellenceHow do you guys go about pursuing excellence in your career? Determine what skills you need to excel in your career. Separate out all those different skills (e.g. public speaking, leadership, studying various materials and being more knowledgeable, practicing various things, etc.) and have a plan to work on them individually Make sure your people skills are emphasized. The key to advancement in your career and excellence lies somewhat in your technical skills but mostly in your people skills. If… | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/22 10:39 PM |
| 15 | Is it unchristian to view women as expendable?Is it unchristian to view women as expendable? Is it wrong to view women in this regard? I already know the redpilled response. I am looking more from a Christian perspective. 1 Corinthians 7. Step 1: Figure out if you want to marry or not. Step 2a: If you can stay celibate and serve God wholeheartedly, don't waste your time talking with women and serve God. Women in this case can be fellow workers in Christ like Paul refers women in the various epistles. Step 2b: If you decide a a wife and chil… | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/22 10:35 PM |
| 5 | Why is marriage special if there is no ONE soulmate?Hypergamy unleashed through hormonal birth control and abortion has given us some of the most happy yet most ‘empowered women’ in human history. Our Characters suffer as a result. You mean least happy: The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness By many objective measures the lives of women in the United States have improved over the past 35 years, yet we show that measures of subjective well-being indicate that women's happiness has declined both absolutely and relative to men. The paradox of wom… | /r/RPChristians | 09/05/22 01:15 PM |
| 9 | Approaching women interested in me as a 30 year old who never had a girlfriendIf you can't stand cases like this, you don't want to help men. Men are struggling and need help. This is what ministry looks like. Jesus got down in the dirt with most of the people who were struggling and needed help and healing. 1 Thess 5:14 And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/22 02:09 PM |
| 7 | Approaching women interested in me as a 30 year old who never had a girlfriendI just feel like a mess. Should I just ignore her and any other women until I get my stuff together?Or should I just open up and if a woman really is into me she will support me along the way? By far your biggest problem right now. Mission is the Great Commission (Matt 28). What has God put you here to do for him to spread the gospel and make disciples? How are you using your spiritual gifts? Like some others have said, Adam did have a mission in the garden (take dominion over the earth Gen 1, a… | /r/RPChristians | 05/05/22 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Wife responds sexually to me being distantSo, when I’ve acted really aggressive, she tends to laugh, but has then later said she wishes I would act like “that”—like “one of those guys”. Now, I’ve tried to use spanking, tossing her around, ordering her to do things, etc. Very rarely I seem to hit the sweet spot where it clicks and she wants to be held/tied down, handled more roughly, etc. Practice makes perfect. The thing with doing this during sex is you generally don't ask. You just do it. I think you mentioned sex god method earlier. … | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/22 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Wife responds sexually to me being distantI give various types. I tend to feel when she’s in a more alpha vs beta affection mood. I also track her cycle and know when she’s most in the mood for more “manly” affection. I meant what do you actually do and how do you do it? What are the results? Actual examples. Remember, an attractive man can give a woman flowers and it's romantic, but if an unattractive man gives a woman flowers he can be a creep. The exact same thing can elicit wildly different responses in some cases, so it's helpful t… | /r/RPChristians | 03/05/22 02:59 PM |
| 2 | "Change Your Geography"I'd like to tell you that I have a grandiose mission to win X number of people to Christ and disciple Y number of men. But I guess at the moment it's just to work on myself, which sounds cliché. I want to be successful in my career without making success an idol, so that I have a solid financial foundation for a family. A little beta perhaps. Start working on that. What's your part in the Great Commission? How are you using your spiritual gifts to love and serve others? What aspect(s) are you in… | /r/askRPC | 03/05/22 01:52 PM |
| 7 | Wife responds sexually to me being distantWhen I start getting affection, I tend to show affection, but it’s not long from then that the affection I’m being shown dries up. What type of affection are you giving? Most women tend to respond better to "manly" affection such as slapping her butt or more aggressive things like pushing her up against a wall and kissing her. If it's more sappy type affection I can see how some women would be turned off and pull away from it. | /r/RPChristians | 03/05/22 01:24 AM |
| 2 | "Change Your Geography"Well, that's a large part of the problem: they aren't even willing to be taken out. When I said that there are very few decent, single, young women who attend my church, I meant that there are literally three. All three gave me excuses. One I wasn't particularly interested in (different ethnicity, to be honest) but I believed that it would be beneficial to get to know her. I saw potential with the other two. But I realized that one is too career-oriented and has likely racked up an obscene amoun… | /r/askRPC | 02/05/22 03:25 PM |
| 2 | "Change Your Geography"I'm hesitant to call a woman faithful if she isn't in the Word regularly. All of it, not just the feel-good passages, but probably with an (understandable) bias toward the NT. As such, Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3, etc. should be very familiar. Even if she is in the word regularly you still have areas of weakness. Same is true with men and porn, anger, and other areas where they struggle. To tie this back to my original post, I have this constant FOMO that I should be living elsewhere, somewhere that … | /r/askRPC | 01/05/22 04:47 PM |
| 2 | "Change Your Geography"One would think that if a woman were genuinely F and S, then she should also be T. If not, then I guess I really am unicorn hunting. Yes, but Paul, Peter, and the author of Hebrews describes in 1 Cor 3, 1 Peter 2, and Hebrews 5 the concept of spiritual milk. In particular, that in the Corinthians case they were immature to the point where they were still needing spiritual milk when they should have been eating real food. It's a very real thing that there's many "spiritual infants" in the faith w… | /r/askRPC | 30/04/22 06:34 PM |
| 2 | "Change Your Geography"With the former, I know that my role is spiritual leader. I don't expect a woman to have a breadth of theological knowledge, but she should be able to tell me, for example, if she has a favorite Gospel. I once asked that on a first date when the topic shifted to Christianity and the woman was totally baffled. Your role is not just spiritual leader but leader. You lead your wife, household, and all that it contains in all aspects. Like others have said, though, you should be looking for FAST wome… | /r/askRPC | 30/04/22 01:56 PM |
| 2 | Who should initiate the divorce processYou can begin with reading two books I will recommend. The two authors don't 100% agree with each other and they are secular. Why are they secular?,...because no Christian authors that I have ever run across knows anything about RP and most aren't that great at marriage counseling and most just serve to "finish off" the dying animal with bad advice and bible platitudes. I have formal training under a Pastoral Major and am disgusted at how Christian leaders have dropped the ball. So the two books… | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/22 05:55 PM |
| – | Who should initiate the divorce processAlso, since we forgot. Post your stats: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, m… | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/22 06:33 PM |
| 12 | Who should initiate the divorce processedited after OP posted stats: Unclear with a fuddled mind. My current wife and I would have testimony about marital challenges and the importance of faith in resolving such. Faith is suffering. Prayer down to three times per week, Really lacklustre. Reading the Bible also reduced. Getting counsel from a local pastor This is by far the #1 issue. All Christians, especially Christian men and husbands, need a clear direction with Matthew 28 - Make disciples of all nations. Since part of a husband's … | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/22 05:12 PM |
| 2 | BPD wife - I need a miracle from GodAt the moment, you are enabling her bad behavior by continuing to engage. You're also way above your head with suicide and death threats. To echo everyone else: Separation would be a good idea per 1 Corinthians 7, but this is not need at the moment if you think she could blow up. But you need to at least pull back and not engage as much. You've proven you cannot deal with this situation, and she is refusing help including medical intervention. Remove sharp objects, guns, and any other types of w… | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/22 07:45 PM |
| 2 | NMMNG Breaking Free exercise 3Based on how Christians are supposed to love others on my understanding of scripture Well agape love self sacrificial love You have a modern version of 'feel good' type of love as your definition. There's examples in the Bible of rebuke/correction/teaching/training type of love. Hebrews 12:4 In your struggle against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood. 5 And have you completely forgotten this word of encouragement that addresses you as a father addresses his son? I… | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/22 02:15 AM |
| 1 | 26 y/o maleShe did cry and say that she was having a hard time grieving her dad’s passing after we fornicated once and said that she was having sex to deal with her grief. Although, she and I did have boundaries around sex before we both fell into the sin. Ok, you didn't mention any of this in the post but this DEFINITELY will cloud your judgment of things. If she willingly went along with the sin with you that's a strike against her too just as it is against yourself. You need to be abstaining and probabl… | /r/askRPC | 17/04/22 02:08 AM |
| 2 | 26 y/o maleBut, honestly I was more impressed with how she seemed unaffected by it all and was holding everything together so well. It frustrates me why I have such a hard time accepting that these were dealbreakers, but maybe it’s my fear of being alone and also my attachment to carnal beauty. Some women are better at doing this than others. But whether she's crying at home or bawling i out to someone else, it will eventually be you if you are the boyfriend or husband. Yeah, that was something I was conte… | /r/askRPC | 14/04/22 03:35 PM |
| 5 | 26 y/o maleWell, she also had a really good personality too which is another aspect of things along with looks. Forgot to reply to this. As other people have said, the "Yeah, but..." list is long. Regardless if there is co-op parenting I highly doubt you're ready to step in and be a father to a kid already. Not to mention the fact that dealing with the tensions of a split parenting and the trauma of a divorced women (no matter how much she looks put together and supposedly has a great personality now). How… | /r/askRPC | 12/04/22 06:44 PM |
| 4 | 26 y/o malebut that’s hard to not take into account at 26 where I feel like I’m too late in finding someone… everyone tells me I’m so young and have a bunch of time and I’m only increasing in value, but I’m not sure I believe them. That's called desperation. I know several men who met their virgin spouse early 30s late 20s including myself. Be patient and put yourself in a good position to meet such women. Join a Church or group like Navigators with a college ministry and aim to lead there. You'll meet wom… | /r/askRPC | 12/04/22 05:37 PM |
| 5 | 26 y/o maleChuck already covered it. No. The only reason you are considering this is her looks. Don't get blinded by looks. | /r/askRPC | 12/04/22 02:28 PM |
| 3 | Expectations regarding a date's emotional maturityMission: My mission is to finish law school (currently a 1L at a Top-20 US law school), use my degree to work within the bitcoin community, and raise a strong Catholic family to combat our decaying secular society. Admittedly, my fairly high sex drive (I'm a virgin who's off porn but struggles on a weekly if not daily basis w/ masturbation) is a big reason why I'd like to marry before my mid-30s (sometime between 29 and 32 ideally), and I believe I'd really enjoy and benefit from the presence of… | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/22 12:53 AM |
| 1 | How to appropriately help out a dude with his appearance?Model it yourself first (make sure you're taking care of the things you're going to ask him about) "Have you ever thought about [insert X here]" - Have you ever thought about... getting a haircut that fits your style, ... a skincare routine? I used to have a lot of acne and then this is what I did to get rid of it... , etc. | /r/askRPC | 21/03/22 05:00 AM |
| – | Obedience, a Place I LiveALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, how you'r… | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/22 01:45 PM |
| 3 | How do you appropriately discipline a family member's child?My personal method of dealing with the child's tantrum was to cutely mock his crying with my own "weh weh" while continuing to repeat "these aren't for you little man, let's put them back" and "no, sorry little guy let's play with your toy." Second part yes, the first part I don't get. Mocking an upset 2 year old can antagonize further crying which can exacerbate the issue. They don't really understand the nuance of the situation either, although it can work sometimes. If they still don't unders… | /r/askRPC | 04/03/22 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Christianity has incorporated a lot of secular beliefs into their sex/gender perspectives. Christianity has been increasing feminized.The 2 sentences in the title are straight from the sidebar under "who_we_are_and_why_we_are_here" https://www.aaronrenn.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/The-Masculinist-3-The-History-of-Church-and-Men.pdf This article from the masculinist summarizes several books and literature going back hundreds of years. | /r/askRPC | 25/02/22 07:04 PM |
| 3 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)This is the exact definition of a necessary insult. The easiest frame check in the history of frame checks. A simple "Love you too babe" back completely flips this on its head. Nah. /u/Torn4_025 is correct. You already knew he had a weak frame from prior responses and wouldn't respond like that, so it's being antagonistic for no good reason. It's a needless insult and a stumbling block. | /r/RPChristians | 25/02/22 12:27 AM |
| 3 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)Yo Deep_Strength is this what your team does? I told you that there's more locker room type of talk here and you said you understand, then why are you still butthurt about it? The retard comment was appropriately downvoted. The rest of the responses seem to be tough love and are not insulting you personally. They're aimed at how you're acting. There's a difference between the two, and it's an important thing to learn. If you don't understand how a lack of mission can be a big part of the problem… | /r/RPChristians | 24/02/22 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)Stop with the needless insults. | /r/RPChristians | 24/02/22 12:50 PM |
| 4 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)Thanks for your input. Btw as a mod, is it normal to have people leave condescending and insulting comments under people's posts ?? If you can scroll through the comments, I've received unprovoked insults,been called a r*tard and comments jumping to conclusion. There is some degree of locker room talk here, so responses will tend to be more on the harsh side. Guys generally insult each other but mean well, and usually male insults are meant to help build men up. For instance, 'go ask her out you… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)Frankly, I'm surprised /u/Deep_Strength didn't mention any of this in his comment to you. Start reading the sidebar. You'll get there. Whoops. Usually do that :D | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)So that being said, in your own scenario, did you have to convince your wife to also be celibate once you started courting ? I personally think it would be risky to pursue a relationship with a woman who was not practicing abstinence before you courted her. That just screams trouble, in terms of waiting till marriage and a woman not being prepared for that, maybe even having a lover behind my back, just to appear in agreement with celibacy with me till marriage ( but not with someone else- RP aw… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on this article?They did divorce, and his take on it appears to be that, for him, it's a one and done thing. Oh, I see. Sad that he took it that way. Letting others destroy what is supposed to be a good thing is unfortunate, but some people can't get over it even if they know it's still a good thing in concept. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 06:57 PM |
| 11 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)I've come to realise I could be blocking my blessings when looking for a good wife. I started my celibate journey this year, prioritising my career and hoping to start a family in the near future. In order to do that, I would need to find a woman equally yoked as I, but I don't know how to come by this in this day and age. You're thinking of this in worldly term if you think celibacy is going to impair you. Celibacy until marriage helps you because you will see if a woman actually wants to obey … | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on this article?So he's now stuck with going without for pretty much the rest of his life. Which could be a form of torture. The parent's didn't specifically arrange the marriage outright but pressured them both into it. How is that a valid covenental marriage? Catholic and Orthodox would annul it. Even most Protestants wouldn't let that fly, especially given the duress. Even law contrasts (which were based on covenants) don't even stand up to scrutiny like that. Just get the annulment (or "divorce") in this ca… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 01:03 PM |
| – | The Torn WifePost to /r/RPCWomen please | /r/RPChristians | 20/02/22 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Have i become the gay friend?Spiritual: I pray a few minutes a day, sometimes read a chapter of the Bible. Ain't much but it's honest work. Mission: Use technology to make education more accessible to underprivileged youth, if a girl can help me achieve this goal she can come along for the ride. This is your biggest issue. Matthew 28 - Jesus says go and make disciples of all nations teaching everything that He said. Need to consider where you fall into this. How are you loving and serving others? How are you using your spir… | /r/askRPC | 16/02/22 07:00 PM |
| 5 | What demographic would a woman with little no pre marital partners exist in the most?What demographic would a woman with little no pre marital partners exist in the most? I heard it was mid to high income bracket with SAHM mom and family devoted father? What would be the best predictors for a pure woman and potential wife? Already covered this: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2020/12/10/doom-and-gloom-and-the-amount-of-attractive-christian-virgins-part-4/ At least in the Baptist Church study, about 40% of all women marrying in the 21-24 age range were virgins. Regular attenda… | /r/askRPC | 02/02/22 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Fixing Your OYS - Your Life Will Keep Sucking Until You Read and Apply This PostThere's also a weekly sticky where you can post one. This is this weeks. https://reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/sgxqxf/oys_where_progress_is_made_013122/ | /r/RPChristians | 01/02/22 01:30 PM |
| 1 | How would you handle this situation if you were her husband?It got downvoted to 0. That’s how I judged it wasn’t popular. Downvotes are not a good indicator. Like how I said to use a NP link, other subs can also illegally come into a post and start downvoting comments and the post itself. It may give the impression that it's not a good topic to discuss because of outside forces influencing the discussion or the post itself. For the future, if a lot of people are discussing it then it's a good topic to leave up. And I believe I did delete. I don’t how I’m… | /r/RPChristians | 31/01/22 10:48 PM |
| 1 | How would you handle this situation if you were her husband?Ok. I’m just going to delete the thread. It’s not very popular here. What? This post got good engagement and participation and you're saying that's not popular? If you wanted to delete it just delete it then. No need to make excuses. | /r/RPChristians | 31/01/22 05:38 PM |
| 1 | How would you handle this situation if you were her husband?No participation. So you can't interact with any of the comments or upvote or downvote. Prevents brigading which is illegal on reddit | /r/RPChristians | 31/01/22 01:57 PM |
| 1 | How would you handle this situation if you were her husband?We’re not under the old covenant so that point is moot. Paul is very clear, no divorce unless someone cheats. This is the common thought now with Protestants, but I don't think it's correct. Textual analysis of Matthew 19 indicates that fornication likely applies to Deuteronomy 22 where a wife lies about her virginity which annuls a marriage rather than Deut 24 on divorce Otherwise, Jesus would be agreeing with the Pharisees that you could divorce your wife for adultery and contradictory to his … | /r/RPChristians | 30/01/22 01:26 PM |
| 1 | How would you handle this situation if you were her husband?Exactly. | /r/RPChristians | 30/01/22 01:20 PM |
| – | How would you handle this situation if you were her husband?OP please us the "NP" link if you link posts. https://www.reddit.com/r/NoParticipation/wiki/intro If you can add the np to the URL that would be great. | /r/RPChristians | 30/01/22 01:19 PM |
| 6 | How would you handle this situation if you were her husband?What would you do exactly? Stay and figure it out or annulment? Well, I would have asked in way more detail about her sexual history: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2015/08/03/discussing-sex-and-virginity-with-a-potential-spouse-is-important/ If she lied that much I'd annul. As a single guy this stuff scares me. When you hear stories like this how can you trust any of them? It’s so easy to hide red flags and go on acting like nothing happened. The biggest thing here in RPC is to find someone… | /r/RPChristians | 29/01/22 06:37 PM |
| 3 | How would you handle this situation if you were her husband?He told me to be honest with him, and say how many guys i had been with. I gave him ballpark numbers but honestly i don’t even remember or know. When i did 4 years of college, it really didn’t help. I had a rough upbringing, parent’s always bickering and dad not giving me attention. And i try to explain to him that i’m not that old person anymore, who was insecure and looking for affection in the wrong places. It’s not my fault that i felt neglected and unwanted and that’s why i behaved that way… | /r/RPChristians | 29/01/22 05:26 PM |
| 4 | Is Biblical marriage illegal?What I was getting with tight rope is that a husband used to have more tools at his disposal to help maintain a biblical marriage. A rebellious wife is difficult to handle no matter the era, but in times past you could get a little help from your church, culture, friends, and family to assist you. Now a man only has God on his side, "Game" (which if I remember right you wrote a blog post on why it's not the solution), and "dread". I remember how my grandfather often interacted with my grandmothe… | /r/RPChristians | 24/01/22 05:23 PM |
| 4 | Is Biblical marriage illegal?It does seem like my grandfathers generation had some latitude. Now it’s like walking a tightrope with no margin for error. Next there will be no rope at all. Any man daring to marry will immediately be figuratively castrated. It is incredibly ironic that women are tempted to try to emasculate their husband but if they succeed are completely turned off. No. You're walking a self-imposed tightrope. If you care so much about what the world is doing then you've already succumbed to fear. The fear o… | /r/RPChristians | 24/01/22 03:31 PM |
| 5 | Is Biblical marriage illegal?Correct, Adam has headship prior to the fall: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/8ye7p1/biblical_textual_analysis_of_why_adam_had/ Headship-submission and love-respect was already instituted at Creation. Since Jesus is the New Creation, the pattern by which marriage is modeled after resembles the prior Creation when it was perfect. Hence, Ephesians 5 accurately models what was instituted at the beginning. | /r/RPChristians | 24/01/22 02:20 PM |
| 3 | How common is it for Christian couples to have sex before marriage?So it’s weird because I acknowledge the rules that have already been cited in this thread, but I’ve seen it do harm when people rush into marriage to sleep together, rather than basically getting it out of their system and realizing they’re not compatible before making a potentially even bigger mistake. I don’t know how I feel about it all. Yes, this is a big mistake I see that some recommend on /r/RPChristians and /r/askRPC . If someone has fallen into sexual sin there is an almost immediate re… | /r/askRPC | 24/01/22 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Slipped into sin - What next?Why'd you delete the post? I was going to say a few things. Mission is paramount. Your girlfriend and other worldly things are not a mission. The Great Commission is our mission. A wife and children can fit into that, but they are a part of that not the thing you focus on the most. What are your gifts of the Spirit and how are you utilizing them? How do you fit into the body of Christ and loving and serving others? What is your role in evangelizing and making disciples for Christ? This is what w… | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/22 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Girlfriend is Spiritually LethargicTo offer a slightly alternative view, we can often be too quick to 'next' women. It takes a little bit more effort to get people on your side than to simply remove them from your life (though often that is certainly necessary). To be fair, it does seem like OP has tried to lead by doing Bible studies, prayer, and so on but she just doesn't want to. Maybe if he's only done it a few times I'd say try again over the next few weeks but if she's still resistant then drop her. Don't need someone who d… | /r/RPChristians | 17/01/22 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Girlfriend is Spiritually LethargicLocked until you post stats: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scr… | /r/RPChristians | 16/01/22 02:54 PM |
| 1 | body countsMission: raise my family. Eventually, fostercare. Why would u question why a woman is necessary for childrearing? This is not a mission. The Great Commission is our mission. A wife and children can fit into that, but they are a part of that not the thing you focus on the most. What are your gifts of the Spirit and how are you utilizing them? How do you fit into the body of Christ and loving and serving others? What is your role in evangelizing and making disciples for Christ? This is what we mea… | /r/RPChristians | 14/01/22 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Biblical Way to Discuss Sex Needs With SpouseAny followup? | /r/RPChristians | 10/01/22 06:50 PM |
| 4 | Biblical Way to Discuss Sex Needs With SpouseIf you didn't you're sorta in a problem of your own making. If you did and she lied, that's another issue altogether. What is the right approach for this case? From my understanding of the Scriptures, that is the original context of why "except for fornication/porneia" is in Matthew 19 section on divorce. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2018/11/24/divorce-part-7-final/ Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away (apoluō) his wife, except it be for fornication (porneia), and sha… | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/22 02:52 AM |
| 6 | Biblical Way to Discuss Sex Needs With SpouseShe knew he libido was low, but we assumed that it was because of the BC she was taking prior strictly for acne reasons. She got off of it, two months after we got married. Things improved slightly, but not a lot of difference. In terms of frequency we did not talk specifics. Unfortunately, this could be a problem. https://www.google.com/search?q=birth+control+mate+preferences Women on birth control can be attracted to a man and then when she comes off she might not be as attracted to him. I gue… | /r/RPChristians | 05/01/22 09:44 PM |
| 21 | Biblical Way to Discuss Sex Needs With SpouseMy wife’s sex drive is pretty minimal. Mine is very very high. I workout a lot, played college sports and am very active. My wife is active, but not as much as I am. My wife does not like to discuss sex topics very much, as it is uncomfortable for her at some points. I focus on being patient with this as everyone is different for sure. I guess I’m getting to the point of a lot of frustration sexually. I saved myself for marriage, and my drive and passion is very high for her. Yet if she had sex … | /r/RPChristians | 05/01/22 04:35 PM |
| 5 | Biblical Way to Discuss Sex Needs With SpouseOP posted stats so unlocked | /r/RPChristians | 05/01/22 04:25 PM |
| 3 | Wife On Sex Strike Unless I Go Vegan?????I can see you’re sitting comfortably behind your computer screen arguing for the sake of arguing and that anything I say won’t convince you of anything else; you’re set in your ways and your heart is hardened. I’ve said my peace and made my point, so I won’t waste another second arguing with you, it’s a waste of energy. Right. I've given numerous examples of how Jesus taught, trained, corrected, and rebuked His disciples in the path of righteousness. He didn't do any of the nonsense that the "Ch… | /r/RPChristians | 03/01/22 05:19 PM |
| 5 | Wife On Sex Strike Unless I Go Vegan?????Remind her of the Cain and Abel offerings. God rejected the vegetables and accepted the animal offering. Veganism is Sin. This is a bad reading of the passage, much like people use Onan to justify masturbation is a sin. Genesis 4:2 Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil. 3 In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the Lord. 4 And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The Lord looked with favor on Abel… | /r/RPChristians | 03/01/22 05:48 AM |
| 4 | Wife On Sex Strike Unless I Go Vegan?????I strongly disagree with your views, sir. Theres no need for aggressive and spiteful language. Marriage is a covenant towards each other, not a document for the wive be claimed by the husband. If you look at the bible as a reflection of God’s heart then you will understand that, not see it as a old document for living the “right way”. We could take scripture out of context all day to support our own beliefs and to strike down one another, however, I do not see that being healthy or affective is … | /r/RPChristians | 03/01/22 05:41 AM |
| 8 | Wife On Sex Strike Unless I Go Vegan?????Wow, how is this nonsense getting upvoted? First and foremost, think about what it means to love her in this moment, because when we are called to be like Christ that includes in how he loved his people; that was unconditional love, so even through its unbiblical and goes against your belief, you make it clear you can’t support this lifestyle, that would be hypocritical, but on the other hand it’s not your place to change her, it’s not our job to change people, thats God’s job, and have to trust… | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/22 06:22 PM |
| 14 | Wife On Sex Strike Unless I Go Vegan?????Like most other people asking for help, your biggest issue is mission: Mission: My current mission is to have children and to build my family. For obvious reasons, I need my wife's help to achieve this. Not a mission. Incomplete at best. Since you're here on RP, you may have heard of Heartiste's 16 commandments of Poon. Well, not all of them are right exactly right theologically, but one of them hits directly to the mark for your mission here: III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, yo… | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/22 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Follow-up to Blackpill post: Is there anyone I can talk to?Feel free to message any of the mods including myself | /r/RPChristians | 27/12/21 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Had no issues with healthy masculinity, and was a member here a few years ago with another username. Took propecia, it killed the masculine in me. Please help.Sure, if there's a disruption in your testosterone or androgen levels from the drug then get your testosterone levels checked like others have said. If your labs show androgen production is messed up then you can get a doc to prescribe you testosterone replacement. Ever notice how female bodybuilders start to act/be more masculine? That's a side effect from the testosterone & androgen injections. Helps men with low T levels to act and feel more like men again. | /r/RPChristians | 26/12/21 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Had no issues with healthy masculinity, and was a member here a few years ago with another username. Took propecia, it killed the masculine in me. Please help.Thanks brother. It’s not truly a scale or dial from hard to easy, it’s more like a switch. Possible and impossible. And the switch seems to have turned the way were normal behaviour as God would see fit is disabled for me, caused by brain changes. If you've read into any brain research it doesn't work like that. The brain is very neuroplastic in that it can adapt and change to the situations. Even if your brain so-called switched and you supposedly think more like a woman now or whatever that to… | /r/RPChristians | 26/12/21 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Single, mid-30s guy need direction.ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, how you'r… | /r/RPChristians | 26/12/21 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Had no issues with healthy masculinity, and was a member here a few years ago with another username. Took propecia, it killed the masculine in me. Please help.Brother, whether things are easier or hard we're all still called to obey God. So what are you doing to improve your situation in a way that honors God? The preported cause is gene expression changes that finasteride induced. They have MRI studies which show that large portions of the population have degeneration in their spine and these people have no issues with pain and function. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4464797/ I'm not saying it's all in your head cause you could very we… | /r/RPChristians | 24/12/21 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Engaged Christians & Premarital SexIf he's not willing to get married now he's willing to willfully sin. That's the problem. The problem is he's willing to willfully sin and attempting to coerce his potential wife to do it. If he was trying to obey God then he'd have explored options to get married quicker instead of resorting to pressuring for sex. The fact that he didn't is questionable, and I personally would not recommend marrying someone who is trying to willfully disobey God without them repenting and demonstrated that was … | /r/askRPC | 21/12/21 06:07 PM |
| 11 | Breakup after my Bachelor partyYour stated stats: Mission: Bring others to Christ though my faith. Stats: 150 lbs 5'11 Reading: I have gotten away from red pill reading lately although I have been getting back into it. Basics such as rationale male. Finances: Self employed, Net 10k-20k/month bring home $3k a month. Spiritual: I spend time with God in the morning and pray throughout the day. I become more and more willing to share of Christ every day. From the sidebar: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's hel… | /r/RPChristians | 21/12/21 12:37 AM |
| 4 | Engaged Christians & Premarital SexYou're welcome. Remember, God first above all. Hope you get some wise counsel. | /r/askRPC | 20/12/21 01:20 PM |
| 4 | Engaged Christians & Premarital SexNo, I was saying that she shouldn't get married because he is wanting to willfully sin. You only said it's a big issue if he's not willing to get married now legally and willing to delay the marriage. | /r/askRPC | 20/12/21 01:18 PM |
| 9 | Engaged Christians & Premarital SexI now see that his boundaries are moving a lot, since he has more frequently mentioned more sexual activities and cohabitation. In our most recent conversations, I get a sense that not moving my boundaries along closer to his needs leaves him feeling both hurt and disrespected, and that is absolutely not my aim. I am not trying to be frigid, but I know that this is going to be a slippery slope for both of us. However, when I tell him this, he says that my choice for virginity is selfish and was … | /r/askRPC | 19/12/21 01:17 AM |
| 3 | I have 3 questions for the community only -- how much do you pray, read the bible, and lift on a weekly basis?how often do you pray and for how long? how often do you read the bible and for how long? I'm mostly a lurker and just want to know if I should feel average, above-average, or below-average compared to the other men of this community at following the advice given by the mods and from the RPC sidebar and RPC youtube channel, which is here: Matthew 6:5 “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others.… | /r/askRPC | 03/12/21 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Sales and DiscipleshipI’m here to learn RP as I’m the black sheep in my (Christian) family and like the Christian lifestyle. I even attend church with my family although I’m not a member. I’m curious how you guys handle dead bedroom situations, since you can’t cheat or have “plates” like the other, secular redpillers. So I’m here to observe and to chime in occasionally. Hopefully not causing a scene. Welcome. Our head mod /u/Red-Curious was in a dead bedroom situation for years and turned it around. He has his story … | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/21 06:27 PM |
| 9 | Sales and Discipleship"Spiritual" hogwash. Bring a verse next time or shut your dumb trap. Brother, I like that you're posting more on good topics, but you need to gain better control over expressing your emotions. Color all your responses with the fruit of the Spirit. Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/21 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Does this work for wounded wives?or perhaps the egalitarian model that she subscribes to would work in this scenario? You're mistaken about one thing. You're already doing the "egalitarian model" by trying to be a friend to her feelings. Friends are equal. How's that working out for you? Here's why my wife submits to me when I call her out on it. You have to build the foundation. https://www.reddit.com/r/askRPC/comments/r20shf/jimmy_evans/hms9xwo/ | /r/askRPC | 01/12/21 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Jimmy Evans?What do you do when wife doesn't obey your commands. This is something that is highly contextual. My wife rarely disobeys and when she does I just talk with her about it and nearly 100% of the time she apologizes and tries to make it right. However, to get to that point that was already a several year plus focus on the Scriptures and going over the roles and responsibilities of a husband and wife in marriage when dating and married, correction and teaching if/when she fell into sin, and things l… | /r/askRPC | 01/12/21 11:38 AM |
| 6 | Coming out of the blackpill, what to do going forward/how to reframe thinking?Coming out of the blackpill, what to do going forward/how to reframe thinking? Ephesians 4:21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught in Him, just as truth is in Jesus, 22 that, in reference to your former way of life, you are to rid yourselves of the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, 23 and that you are to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, 24 and to put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and ho… | /r/RPChristians | 29/11/21 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Jimmy Evans?wifeytits If you want a serious answer ask the question seriously. | /r/askRPC | 29/11/21 02:46 PM |
| 8 | FinancesYup, this seems to be a common misconception among Christians. This goes through it more thoroughly. http://www.tithing-russkelly.com/ This is one of the more important points. Tithing was taboo in the early Church because giving cheerfully and generously not under compulsion per 2 Corinthians was seen as the way: TITHING DID NOT BECOME A LAW IN THE CHURCH UNTIL A.D. 777: The earliest Christian assemblies patterned themselves after the Jewish synagogues which were led by rabbis who, like Paul, r… | /r/RPChristians | 29/11/21 02:41 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/22/21)Reading: Biblical Masculinty Blueprint - Bits and peices. God's providence evident in where I'm reading on how attraction, works & grace are interconnected. Thank you u/Deep_Strength . Excellent! | /r/RPChristians | 29/11/21 02:10 AM |
| 5 | Jimmy Evans?He defines dominance as disproportionate control. "If your marriage is a corporation, you both should own the same amount of stock." Dominance "destroys intimacy and goodwill in a marriage." The dominant person doesn't really respect their spouse. "God created us for shared control." "Jesus is a servant head, not a dominant head." Oh really? John 14:15 If you love Me, you will keep My commandments. Doesn't sound egalitarian to me. Many today would call this "abusive." Demanding that we obey His … | /r/askRPC | 25/11/21 08:13 PM |
| 4 | Wife is flirting with Daughter's gradeschool teacher online.Agree, over the past 24 hours and with the help of many here it became pretty clear that I'm the problem, not her. It may help to think of it this way: You're responsible for yourself You're responsible for how you influence her She's responsible for herself She's responsible for how she influences you In all 4 cases, at least according to your original post, you all fell into varying degrees of sin. Obviously, the only ones you can change are the first two about yourself. Be responsible for you… | /r/RPChristians | 24/11/21 12:48 AM |
| 2 | Wife is flirting with Daughter's gradeschool teacher online.For sure. You can also PM any of the mods if you want more help or want to chat in private including myself. | /r/RPChristians | 24/11/21 12:43 AM |
| 1 | If you truly believe that after death you'll spend eternity in heaven, then why obsess over temporary self-improvements during our time here on earth?All good brother. Don't worry about upvotes either. Some of my best posts have gotten negative points because they were right but it wasn't what others wanted to hear. A popularity mechanism isn't the best for determining if something is wrong or right. | /r/askRPC | 24/11/21 12:43 AM |
| 1 | If you truly believe that after death you'll spend eternity in heaven, then why obsess over temporary self-improvements during our time here on earth?Even though this is locked, I'll engage you. Looking back 100,000 years from now -- will everyone agree with me on my reddit thread today that the hours wasted at the gym to make our earthly body look more muscular is extremely short sighted when you take into account how long "forever" is? In reality, this is a very short sighted view of why we often give the advice to hit the gym. Most of the men here on reddit are unattractive to women unmarried or unmarried. For instance, improving physical … | /r/askRPC | 23/11/21 03:33 AM |
| 31 | Wife is flirting with Daughter's gradeschool teacher online.Read everyday, mostly a devotional and daily reading plan stuff and pray a few times a day about random stuff, nothing intentional or scheduled. No memory verses in years. No evangelism. No sharing of faith unless the topic comes up. To contrast my wife is an uber Christian so this is certainly one of the ways she is unsatisfied. Great. So start doing devotions and include her and actually teach her the Word. We attend church weekly in a non-denominational church, have four children and have bee… | /r/RPChristians | 22/11/21 09:46 PM |
| 3 | I need some advice/encouragementAgreed with /u/Billy_King 1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 34 Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning; for there are some who are ignorant of God—I say this to your shame. Take a step back from your non-Christian friends for now as they are corrupting you at least until you have a greater defined mission. "Great Commission" as others have said is too vague. What are your gifts of the Spirit? How are you using your gifts of the Spirit to… | /r/RPChristians | 18/11/21 05:27 PM |
| 6 | My Church has no girls my ageAs people are saying, broaden your horizons. Go to many different young adult activities at different Churches. Make friends. Network with people. Try to get some interdenominational events going too if there are none in your area. You don't necessarily have to leave the Church you are at to do these things. Don't have an all or nothing attitude on leaving a Church where you can do good work for God to try to find a wife. Conversely, if God is calling you to move on then go even if the Church ha… | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/21 11:19 PM |
| 4 | I was called soft by a girl I used to simp forAlso a good reminder, I definitely don't have oneitis for her right now, but she still occupies a place in my mind that she shouldn't. Change your frame. If she's going to occupy a part of your mind rather than fawn over her let her be a reminder that in the past you were a SIMP and that you shouldn't be. Paul reminded himself of his past that he was the 'chief of sinners' because he persecuted the Church and killed believers. But he let that motivation drive him to work harder than any of the o… | /r/askRPC | 11/11/21 02:30 PM |
| 5 | I was called soft by a girl I used to simp forMission - my mission is still to figure out my mission. I've been very influenced by the late singer Rich Mullins recently, and I want to identify with the poor and the poor in heart. I want to do something authentically human for God. Ignore women, focus on this. Should I be bothered by this? Should I learn from it and just move on? You're reading into it too much. Like others have said, her perception of you is still of the SIMP you used to be. If you're not that anymore who cares? If anything… | /r/askRPC | 10/11/21 05:37 PM |
| 5 | I made a thread yesterday but it was locked -- I want to know how bad is "emotional cheating" when you have a wife?Obviously I know I should stop and block all these girls -- but I want to ask this community for honest feedback about how sinful this bad habit of mine is? Stop worrying about other women and start reading your Bible and praying. Take a look at the Biblical marital roles and responsibilities. | /r/askRPC | 27/10/21 02:00 AM |
| 2 | LTR of almost 3 months afraid to tell her parents about mey’all take this red pill shit wayy too serious it ain’t a religion no need for me to post my stats shits irrelevant but appreciate ur help It's not irrelevant at all. You'll get the most useful if you do. But up to you. | /r/askRPC | 27/10/21 01:58 AM |
| 1 | LTR of almost 3 months afraid to tell her parents about meStats? ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, ho… | /r/askRPC | 26/10/21 01:00 PM |
| – | looking for opinions on my dilemmaALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, how you'r… | /r/RPChristians | 26/10/21 12:54 PM |
| – | Nowhere to Meet WomenALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, how you'r… | /r/RPChristians | 26/10/21 12:50 PM |
| 2 | LTR of almost 3 months afraid to tell her parents about meStats? Read this and then tell us if you think a girl who is really interested in you would do what she is doing to you. https://redd.it/a8itk3 | /r/askRPC | 26/10/21 01:53 AM |
| 3 | Churchhttps://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/ozi5f6/who_we_are_and_why_we_are_here/ | /r/RPChristians | 25/10/21 12:16 AM |
| 4 | Field report and new MAPMission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). I need affection. Or maybe I just need sex. Other than affection/sex I’m at a point where women are more of a headache than anything. It’s time for me to man up, oms, and make God, marriage, and Family a priority - so I’m starting here. This is tough for me because I don’t open up, even with friends/family, yet here I am. I’m not here because things are going well. I’ve built a ship my way and decid… | /r/RPChristians | 19/10/21 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Field report and new MAPALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, how you'r… | /r/RPChristians | 19/10/21 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Finding a wife(Your blog post isn't showing up in your flair on this subreddit) No flairs on this sub I think. How long have you been married and is it normal after 5 years for your wife to stop sexually desiring you once she has kids to take care of and works 60+ hours per week at her career? Stress can kill male and female libidos. Taking care of kids plus more than a full time job could do that. Could be other factors at work too which is why when someone asks for advice we ask them to post their stats. | /r/askRPC | 18/10/21 12:44 AM |
| 5 | Finding a wifeFor those of you who have employed the "isaac approach" of seeking a wife from somewhere other than where you're from, what methods did you use, and what pitfalls should be avoided? I heard about my wife through mutual friends. She lived in a different state and then we did long distance. Don't recommend, unless you don't have any options. I met the mutual friends from inter-church events, so branch out to different Churches if you can. Make sure you are serving in your Church and possibly other… | /r/askRPC | 14/10/21 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Sexual needs in deadbedroomALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, how you'r… | /r/RPChristians | 06/10/21 06:22 PM |
| 3 | Trying to break down entrenched covert contractsThis got caught in the spam filter so I just released it. Early on in our marriage my wife and I establish both covert and overt contracts in regards to sex in our marriage. We both believe that it is not an optional part of marriage, which has been both blessing and source of consternation. The blessing, is that sex is always available 1-2 times a week, sometimes more. The problem comes in that while my wife is willing, over the years it became more obvious that it was, for her, more of a chore… | /r/RPChristians | 06/10/21 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Non virgin GF conditions of no sex before marriageBanned. | /r/RPChristians | 04/10/21 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Non virgin GF conditions of no sex before marriageI just banned her. | /r/RPChristians | 04/10/21 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Non virgin GF conditions of no sex before marriageI must admit I have read Heartiste's 16 commandments of poon plenty of times. However as mentioned in another comment, me thinking she was a Virgin unicorn, I let my guard down/frame open. I didn't think I needed to go full red pill with her. There's a reason why AWALT - all women are like that - is a phrase. There are behavioral patterns that are similar across all women because they are women. Similarly, men have patterns like this too. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, and… | /r/RPChristians | 04/10/21 01:40 AM |
| 33 | Non virgin GF conditions of no sex before marriageI would feel like an absolute mug if i had to wait until marriage to have sex when she presented none of those conditions to the guys she met at work. Im in two minds here, end the relationship, or accept it and pretend that doesn't matter and progress the relationship, however that will always be on the back of my mind. Non virgin GF conditions of no sex before marriage Wrong thinking. You wait to have sex until marriage because you want to honor God. Her decision on wanting to have sex or not … | /r/RPChristians | 02/10/21 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Question about lust and masturbationlust. Sure, lust is wrong biblically, but do we understand what the bible means by it? It seems like the modern church has equated lust with having sexual thoughts, or even being sexually attracted to someone. Yet when I read about lust in the bible it's not always talking about sex, and when it does it's talking about lusting after either a married woman (which would lead to adultery) or a married man lusting after a virgin (which would also be adultery). I haven't done enough research into thi… | /r/askRPC | 19/09/21 06:56 PM |
| 3 | A theology of decision making to overcome ONEitisThis is something that I term the over-spiritualization of dating and marriage. Men and women peri- and post- purity culture seem to only want to do something if it's "God's will." And will seek to endless pray about something and find out so much about this girl or boy before even getting to know them or asking them out. The image they construct in their head of the opposite sex is literally an idol. An idealized version of them that you have in your head that is not grounded in reality. In rea… | /r/RPChristians | 13/09/21 09:17 PM |
| 5 | Sometimes I resent my pregnant wife because of her pastWe’re in our 20s and obviously I love her and this is something that I should have decided was a dealbreaker before we got married and I knocked her up. Correct, but that's in the past. However, I can’t help having moments where I remember our conversations early in the relationship where she told me that she’s been with others and I just feel resentment. Divorce is obviously not an option and otherwise she’s a perfect wife that does everything for me. Has anyone else had these feelings before? … | /r/RPChristians | 13/09/21 09:12 PM |
| 12 | Sometimes I resent my pregnant wife because of her pastYou are hyper focusing on the past. God calls us to look ahead and to never turn back. Your own past is filled with sin. Look at that first, if you must turn back to look. Remove the log from your eye before worrying about the splinter in your wife’s. It's a legitimate concern when choosing a spouse. There's enough girls playing the virgin after having slept around and are not actually true Christians, and then they end up marrying and divorcing. Pre-marital sex does increase divorce risk. https… | /r/RPChristians | 13/09/21 09:09 PM |
| 5 | Sometimes I resent my pregnant wife because of her pastALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, how you'r… | /r/RPChristians | 12/09/21 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Some Useful ResourcesWelcome. We have rules about posting comment namely, you should be posting about it and why you found value out of it. Just posting links is removed as is this post until you edit your OP to follow the rules. Reply to this comment when you do and I'll reinstate it. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/hxsvz6/saw_a_post_asking_about_porn_addiction_the_other/fzezpp8/ | /r/RPChristians | 12/09/21 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Who we are and why we are hereReading your own ideas and assumptions into someone else’s words or building up a caricature and then abusing it is not intellectually honest or honorable. Yup, precisely what we deal with all the time. Honestly, also what a lot of true Christians deal with all the time. Most people who call themselves Christians at least in the west/American don't practice what they preach or even read the Bible nor do their lives look like it. They actually believe in therapeutic moral deism. These people give… | /r/RPChristians | 11/09/21 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Why is modern Christianity so feminized?What is interesting is how the muscular Christianity resulted in such Anti-Christianity. I think that's cause it's easy to start going off track into focusing on that and not the gospel. We recommend lifting and such things to supplement our effectiveness in living a holy life. They are not essentials, but they are helpful and generally wise. Then there is something rotten in the Theology in the Mainline Protestant denominations beforehand. Namely one chief false assumption that before the fall … | /r/RPChristians | 06/09/21 09:48 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/30/21)Now that my wife has finished with this latest pregnancy she's decided to lose some weight. I've heard this before, and it has never lasted very long, but she's been trying for a week so far and already lost a couple pounds. Lead by example. You seem like you're doing solid for lifting and nutrition, so use that experience to help her get into good habits. | /r/RPChristians | 05/09/21 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Do you believe your exposure to RP was providential?I'm only getting to that point lately after 2 1/2 years of anger. I could barely even read here. It was bad. Talked with u/rocknrollchuck off line about it a few times and time is helping. But I am finding a personal freedom free of 'religion' and free of feminine conditioning that I have never experienced in all these years at church. Feel free to message me or any of the mods. I've been in the manosphere for > 10 years and been through the anger phase and beyond so maybe I can help you walk th… | /r/RPChristians | 25/08/21 10:43 PM |
| 7 | Do you believe your exposure to RP was providential?Do you think God meant it for you to be exposed to TRP as a tool as opposed to a random “enlightenment”? Yes. Christian manosphere for me. Made me get serious about my faith and realize it was true Enlightened me to why I was unsuccessful with women before (and mad at the Church for peddling lies either consciously or unconsciously) Would have never met and married my wife otherwise without knowledge and application of Biblical marital roles and responsibility and understanding attraction better | /r/RPChristians | 25/08/21 10:42 PM |
| 5 | Balance between the man being the spiritual leader vs. finding a partner who will push you to become a better follower of Jesus?This was something I was thinking about recently in regards to finding a partner. I recently heard someone say that Christians should find partners that push them to be better followers of Jesus. This is incomplete and unspecific. It ignores the Biblical marital roles and responsibilities. It also ignores what being a "follower of Jesus" is supposed to do. Most of the time they're referring to doing "spiritual things" like go to Church, read your Bible, and whatnot. But that's only part of estab… | /r/askRPC | 14/08/21 10:25 PM |
| 9 | What is Godly, masculine worship?Hymns are great. Gregorian chants are also solid. | /r/askRPC | 14/08/21 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Are male teachers naturally beta?Can an alpha be a teacher?The RP content that I have been consuming seems to largely associate Alpha with Wealthy. That’s one of the reasons I came to this subreddit. I don’t currently, nor want to become someone that can only measure a persons value based on their salary. Yeah, try not to read secular stuff much if at all. I was similar to you back around 2013 (been in the manosphere since about 2011 or 2012). I realized that reading all of the secular stuff was harming me. Applies not only for friends but the media you… | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/21 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Are male teachers naturally beta?Can an alpha be a teacher?Are male teachers naturally beta?Can an alpha be a teacher? I am a high school history teacher in North Carolina. I have generally enjoyed my job despite the subpar pay, long-working hours, rapid changes due to covid, etc. That all changed once I read The Rational Male and now I can’t believe that an alpha would give up as much as themselves (time, energy, etc.) without just compensation. I feel that I have to tame my full personality in order to comply with a teenage audience. I have to take on… | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/21 02:22 AM |
| 3 | How to balance being a savage with girls but also Christian?but then let's say you attract a good Christian wife, will she be genuinely sexually attracted to you or see you as BB? Don't mention how much money you have and live a frugal life. If she's after a BB she's going to be trying to bring up money a bunch. If she's enthusiastic about being with you then you should be able to tell otherwise. Problem is having badboy traits is attractive. Even as a guy I can see why it's attractive. I don't know if it's unchristian to keep them on their toes This is … | /r/askRPC | 10/08/21 09:02 PM |
| 2 | what do you thinkThat makes no sense. Doing the splits is the same position as it is in yoga. Unless you are intentionally trying to "be like a god" or "be like a demon" in your mindset then maybe I could see it, but if you're just doing stuff as physical movement or stretching I don't see it. | /r/RPChristians | 10/08/21 12:52 PM |
| – | Why is modern Christianity so feminized?We've gone over this multiple times before. Aaron Renn runs The Masculinist newsletter, and he put out a long article (Masculinist #3) describing major points of contention for how the feminization of Christianity occurred referencing several books dedicated on the topic. https://www.aaronrenn.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/The-Masculinist-3-The-History-of-Church-and-Men.pdf His article covers the past 200ish years, but several other Christian analyses like Dalrock have gone over how things like… | /r/RPChristians | 10/08/21 12:45 PM |
| 3 | what do you thinkHuh? | /r/RPChristians | 09/08/21 02:43 PM |
| 7 | Who we are and why we are hereWhy do you guys call yourself red pill when doing so gives your enemies an easy way to attack you. They simply say that you are as bad as the secular red pill guys, who advocate for promiscuity. Surely you'd want to distance yourself from such? This is answered in the OP in point #7. To quote it: /r/RPChristians was started by Red-Curious with the intent to understand and apply what the Bible actually teaches about marriage and relationships and to minister/outreach to the secular RP (much like … | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/21 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Who we are and why we are hereIt's from the same comment chain I linked up at the top of my initial post. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/21 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Who we are and why we are herefruits of the Spirit (e.g. Ephesians 4). Galatians 5:22-23? Ah, I see what you mean. who need to ditch the secular philosophies and put on the fruits of the Spirit (e.g. Ephesians 4) I mean it in context of "take off the old and put on the new" which is from Ephesians 4. But yeah, the fruit of the Spirit is Galatians 5. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/21 03:08 AM |
| 3 | In defense of the top moderator of Christian Marriage (who wrote a long essay earlier today rebuking this subreddit)A bunch of no-name lurkers who have never posted an OYS or otherwise participated in RPC are now all up in arms because "someone is saying something mean on the internet about their favorite subreddit." Yup. A good life lesson is that not everyone is going to like you even if you are doing what is right. Jesus even stated as much and experienced it Himself. That being said it's worth it to reply to the people who do want to learn. | /r/askRPC | 07/08/21 12:47 AM |
| 12 | Attention askTRP and ChristianMarriage investigators: Click HerePlease read this. Most of the points are addressed in this post which was from various comments written over a year ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/ozi5f6/who_we_are_and_why_we_are_here/ | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/21 12:40 AM |
| – | Can someone respond here? r/askRPC seems pretty low trafficRemoved for linking other subs. Please direct all comments and questions to this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/ozi5f6/who_we_are_and_why_we_are_here/ | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/21 11:30 PM |
| – | Anyone want to explain how this post is right/wrong? And in what ways? I’m new to RP and still learning what it’s all about...Removed for linking other subs. Please direct all comments and questions to this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/ozi5f6/who_we_are_and_why_we_are_here/ | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/21 11:30 PM |
| 6 | what do you thinkStretching is stretching. You don't have to talk to shiva or whoever the heck while you do yoga stretches, or meditate, or anything like that. You don't need to practice anything heathenistic about it and can still reap the benefits of bodily exercise. Yeah, I've never understood that argument especially in light of 1 Corinthians 8. 1 Corinthians 8:7 But not everyone possesses this knowledge. Some people are still so accustomed to idols that when they eat sacrificial food they think of it as hav… | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/21 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Can someone respond here? r/askRPC seems pretty low trafficWe've covered a substantial portion of this. My comment and then /u/Red-Curious has a comment after mine. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/g51gme/genuinely_curious_about_your_philosophies_not/fo15t1m/ | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/21 10:35 PM |
| 4 | Conversation Strategies You Won't Find in WISNIFG"When I say no I feel guilty" | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/21 06:01 PM |
| 5 | 48 Laws of PowerMost of the laws are common sense, but some are quite manipulative and deceitful. I have spent a good chunk of my life in search of truth, (which was a very attractive part of the Gospel, that it’s an absolute truth) but I also found Red Pill concepts also. Red Pill concepts are know for pointing out the sad but true and darker sides of human nature. I am starting to see some of that in this book. I have researched on Christian reviews of the book and all I get are just “The book is evil!”. Well… | /r/askRPC | 03/08/21 06:59 PM |
| 7 | Christian Plate Spinning (Part 2)To use some older terms from like the early 1900s to clarify the concept a bit more for Christian men and women having a bit of trouble with it. Dating - Dating is a time to find out what you like and don't like about women and see if they actually want to live according to the Bible. Going steady - Going steady is basically where you two have agreed to have I guess what some would call an exclusive relationship to see if it can lead toward engagement and marriage. One of the problems with Chris… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/21 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Dominant Sex is a Game-Changer - your thoughts?The very act of taking action and being dominant in the bedroom can actually bring out a man's masculinity. Just this one thing can sometimes be the missing ingredient to bringing THE MAN back. I have seen this in my own life and I believe many others have as well. Being THE MAN in the bedroom soon filters out into the rest of life. I agree to a good extent. I'm not saying don't do it until you have your life in order, but it tends to be more effective if you have your life in order. Men can try… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/21 05:50 PM |
| 4 | Dominant Sex is a Game-Changer - your thoughts?Once you’ve made some progress in all those areas, and your wife is enjoying your dominance in the bedroom, what’s your opinion on where you draw the line? Or is there a line? I haven’t done or attempted anything I question yet, but I have been pushing boundaries lately, and my wife’s been responding positively. If we both want some weird rough sex, is there a biblical basis for having limitations? Hebrews 13 says the marriage bed is undefiled. Generally speaking, given how God created man and w… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/21 06:43 PM |
| 16 | Dominant Sex is a Game-Changer - your thoughts?According to many psychological surveys, the percentage of women (including Christians) who want to be somehow 'dominated' in the bedroom is astoundingly high. (We will talk about these statistics in a follow-up). But a lot of husbands have a great deal of difficulty coming to terms with what this means for their relationship. Manosphere 100: "Don't listen to what women say, look at what they do". What they do - what women look at and read for porn and what type of men do they go for in real lif… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/21 05:25 PM |
| 8 | Dating a “Christian” girl - my experienceHeh, I'll respond for the women that actually want to learn. Feminine beauty is actually fairly highly controllable in many instances. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2017/04/10/feminine-beauty-is-highly-controllable-theory-and-analysis/ However, to acknowledge that would also be to acknowledge that women would have to care about what men think. To many women, especially because of feminism, that's heresy. Thankfully, my wife works out and does other things to keep herself attractive and I wo… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/21 05:10 PM |
| 30 | Dating a “Christian” girl - my experienceShe’s 21 so she wanted to go out & explore the night life. I objected this but it didn’t matter to her. She and her unchristian friends went out and it slowly trickled into a 3 or 4 times a week thing. Red flag #1 - 1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character. Red flag #2 - She does not want to be led or to follow you. Move on. She then started sleeping over her friends house here & there and would disappear the next day - no calls or texts back from her. Red flag … | /r/RPChristians | 28/07/21 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Question on getting married only under G-d and not to the StateIt depends on the state. Most US states don't recognize a religious marriage as law. Not getting a marriage license isn't against the law anyway. Most states treat a solely religious marriage as cohabitation and as long as you keep things separate, it'll be much harder for the court to take your assets. No, it doesn't. I just told you of a scenario from an actual divorce lawyer who said it wouldn't work like that. If you get a "religious marriage" and claim you are married to family and friends … | /r/RPChristians | 28/07/21 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Question on getting married only under G-d and not to the StateNo that divorce lawyer is absolutely wrong. If you intentionally do not get married but hold your self to be married in non common law jurisdictions, there is no marriage and it would be illegal for any judge to treat your assets as marital assets. It doesn't work that way man. I'm going to take the divorce lawyer's word over yours unless you have proof since he actually works in the field. If someone gets "religious married" and claims they are married when talking to friends and family and int… | /r/RPChristians | 28/07/21 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Question on getting married only under G-d and not to the StateMost jurisdictions in the world do not recognize common law marriage, and even if you do have kids with a woman, you won’t have give up your assets, pay spousal support, and finance the wife’s litigation. Heh, that's false. /u/Red-Curious is a divorce lawyer and said in a previous thread that if a court "discovered" that you stayed unintentionally married by the state but had a church or religious marriage they would still consider you married because of the discovery. Then they would come down … | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/21 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Question on getting married only under G-d and not to the StateBut if you don't have a marriage license, you have way more control in the proceedings. Heh, that's false. /u/Red-Curious is a divorce lawyer and said in a previous thread that if a court "discovered" that you stayed unintentionally married by the state but had a church or religious marriage they would still consider you married because of the discovery. Then they would come down harder on you because you tried to skirt the law. Like I said, I don't fear divorce at all but I know that it can hap… | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/21 04:22 PM |
| 1 | I’m always the “clown” of the group , any advice?You think I should just ignore it? Why would you ignore it? Dish it back. That's most of the fun in it. If you listen to the podcasts the guys bust each other's balls all the time and don't get butthurt. That's usually what a good group of male friends does to each other. Learn to dish it back. If they get butt hurt then maybe they're just bullying you and you can move on, but if they take it in kind it can be a good frame building experience like /u/praexology said. Women will do the same to yo… | /r/RPChristians | 26/07/21 03:04 PM |
| 5 | Question on getting married only under G-d and not to the StateThis has been discussed thoroughly before. I'm of the opinion that it really doesn't matter whether you do or don't because if you end up having kids and/or you reside under a gov't jurisdiction that has common law marriage or associated judgements then the government will get involved anyway regardless of whether you married under the state or not. You or your wife would be able to go to the government to get a ruling anyway. The only time something like this would work is if there was an actua… | /r/RPChristians | 26/07/21 03:00 PM |
| 1 | How to know if you're not BB if you're waiting until marriage?but she could be totally fine with waiting for sex because women want their BBs to wait for sex anyway. It's sex in exchange for commitment if you are the BB. Unless you're AF and both want to have sex with each other but both trying your best to honour God That's why you don't don't disclose your finances early on. If she's after a BB she'll be on your back to find out if you earn good enough for her. If you're living a modest lifestyle and she never brings it up that's a pretty good sign (one … | /r/RPChristians | 17/07/21 03:18 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/12/21)Turns out when you make moves towards being attractive, your wife wants you. I’ve also pushed her boundaries throughout this by being more dominant, and she’s responded well. Almost too well. In fact, it’s obvious to me that I’m still LARPing, because of a couple things that have happened. I won’t get too explicit, but during sex she said “I would do anything you want right now”. After years of attempting to negotiate my way to this point, and failing, I finally made it. And I was speechless. I … | /r/RPChristians | 17/07/21 12:53 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/05/21)Yup, once they hit the 2-2.5 age they love to play pretend. Definitely a good opportunity to bond | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/21 01:01 AM |
| 11 | Iron Rule #6: Your Wife Will Never Love You!I want to offer some of my thoughts on Rollo Tomassi Iron Rule #6: Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved. Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of. I read The Rational Male when I first discovered the Married Red Pill subreddit almost 4 years ago. Rollo's book was part of the required sidebar reading. Early this year, I revisited the book. The rule that hit me immediate… | /r/RPChristians | 12/07/21 12:43 AM |
| 7 | Iron Rule #6: Your Wife Will Never Love You!It might help you to remember that your wife will never be your mother, loving you and obsessing over you. Your wife is a partner, and she certainly did not go through the traumatizing bonding process known as birth and childrearing. She won't have that same kind of relationship with you that you may be expecting. This is absolutely correct. It's common for men to marry someone like their mother, and for women to marry someone like their father (however good or bad those role models might be), b… | /r/RPChristians | 12/07/21 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Wanting to date a girl that already has a boyfriendShe won't be back until like another half year but if that's the best thing to do then I'll go with it, I have been praying to God and haven't gotten a very clear answer and ik most people say that means just wait but I'm glad to follow it if that's what it should be. Thank you Should I still keep in contact with her the whole time? Or should I just not, bc I know she would probably be alittle bit sad if I didn't but she said she would be okay if I didn't Bruh. Move on with your life. If you sti… | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/21 04:08 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/05/21)I'm starting to worry about my 2yo's screen time. He doesn't play with our phones, and only has a little bit of time with a tablet, but he watches hours of TV. It's mostly semi-educational stuff, but I still worry that he isn't learning how to just play. So I've started trying to encourage more playing with toys. It's kind of easy. I think he likes playing, it's just that running to the TV has become a habit. All you gotta do is just leave the TV off. Kids will learn to play after that if you ha… | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/21 06:07 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/05/21)One major thing is still a problem, my marriage is an absolute joke. My wife and I both agree with that statement. She suffers from depression and anxiety still to this day and I still can't even get a 4 week rotation on sex. I have summed up our issue to one major thing. My wife RESENTS me. She compares herself to me and how I can "do anything" and therefore looks at herself and sees she is way more flawed. We had this discussion recently and now I know what the root of our issue is. One thing … | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/21 06:06 PM |
| 6 | Wanting to date a girl that already has a boyfriendGeneral comments since everyone has covered this. I need advice from a christian perspective here, so I'm a devout christian and so is she, we've been best friends for over half a year now and I've felt a confusion about her since I met her, and I've prayed about it alot bc I couldn't tell what it was. I've now realized that I've totally fallen for her and honestly we would work great together. Only problem is that she already has a boyfriend and she is very dedicated to him. How do I tell her t… | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/21 05:58 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/05/21)Things are good here. I get sex when I want it. My wife offered sex last night and I didn't want to. This I think is a first (I have rejected sex offers before, but in past times it was more out of anger than not caring) This is where you can flip the switch on her. You can say you're really not feeling into it, but just maybe her in some sexy lingerie trying to seduce you may help. | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/21 01:35 PM |
| – | Question for men who have married non virginsObligatory studies that show non-virgins have higher divorce rates than virgins: https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability Also obligatory RP podcast on "should I marry a virgin"? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6N_KiTJMAk0 In the end, statistics are useful to evaluate risk, but each individual case needs to be evaluated by it's own merit. Virgins come with their own hangups as well, but non-virgins are generally riskier. Would I … | /r/RPChristians | 03/07/21 06:11 PM |
| 2 | How to know if you're not BB if you're waiting until marriage?Controversial take: (devout) parents should be involved in the selection process, which eliminates a lot of these concerns. Not 100% but certainly more than just waiting on the sidelines, hoping that their child doesn't pick someone who is a complete loser but has their hormones hopping. Don't think it's too controversial, but there are potential big issues with this. If someone's parents marriage is dysfunction or they are blinded by cultural glasses then they can potentially be giving bad advi… | /r/RPChristians | 03/07/21 05:52 PM |
| 14 | How to know if you're not BB if you're waiting until marriage?ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues This appears to be a general question not a relationship issue (e.g. he's asking a question about what to do about a current situation within a relationship that he's in right now) which means he doesn't have to post stats. Although it's usually helpful if he does. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/21 10:52 PM |
| 23 | How to know if you're not BB if you're waiting until marriage?The women have technically made us wait before putting out, with the ball fully in her court. If she tries to have sex with me early on, tbh I'm not convinced she's taking her faith seriously. How can she make you wait if she's the one that wants to have sex? She's the one waiting. I told my wife up front in the first month or two that I was all in on God and obeying Him including things like sex. She agreed. If she didn't then I wouldn't have continued with her. I agree with your assessment tha… | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/21 10:47 PM |
| 8 | I'm lost, I'm stuck and I think I've given upStats: Height- 5'9 Weight- 201 lbs Bench- 205 lbs Squat- 235 lbs Come on dude, you just posted the bare minimum stats. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). (You can be single and have a mission without women too) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job an… | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/21 12:34 AM |
| 3 | Advice and prayer request for my long term relationship.Here's a good place to start: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Sc… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/21 08:30 PM |
| 12 | Could use advice. See belowto live a happy and productive life and be fulfilled, including sexually By far your biggest problem. There's a reason why our sidebar states: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). If you're a Christian what are you doing to further Christ's mandate to Christians in Matthew 28 through your life and the Church? 190/6’/body fat 15%/Bench 230/At the gym 5 days a week Great. So you have some good experience at the gym. Invite her to do it w… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/21 08:27 PM |
| 5 | Advice and prayers neededIt feels like she is constantly fighting for power and I’m not a passive guy. The smallest thing that she wants, and she would throw fits, and eventually, she straight up goes against my word in everything. If she wants to buy a dresser, I said wait 1-2 months for us to move to a bigger apartment (we are moving soon). She insulted me, called me abusive, and that I am the worst husband, stopped talking to me for 2-3 days. Then she begged me and cried. I said I still want you to wait, but if you w… | /r/RPChristians | 15/06/21 04:00 PM |
| 3 | Social skills and lonelinessI realised that my social skills were extremely poor, I hesitate a lot, and when I went to a young adults fellowship group I struggled until my friend introduced me to the other guys. I struggled to make conversation and lead them. I also felt like I wasn't as confident as the other young men, despite one of the pastors commenting on me having grown a bit more from going to the gym. Despite having friends to talk to, I am also quite lonely, I rely on God and trust in him but would enjoy meeting … | /r/RPChristians | 09/06/21 08:20 PM |
| 7 | figuring out if she's a virgin or not ?Leaving up this comment for the facts within it except this which is not factual: Virginity is a social construct. Biology is not your servant. Deuteronomy 22 for starters discusses why virginity is important. Banned for this reason. | /r/RPChristians | 31/05/21 01:15 AM |
| 20 | figuring out if she's a virgin or not ?This comes up every couple months. There are a few different ways to bring it the topic "naturally" that fits into a flow of serious conversation. Doing a Bible study of sex in marriage (e.g. 1 Cor 7) and what not denying each other looks like in marriage Talking about how your parents raised you and what they were like in regard to teaching you about the opposite sex and marriage Having a talk about sexual history if you're already in a more serious relationship that is trending toward marriage… | /r/RPChristians | 30/05/21 06:49 PM |
| 16 | figuring out if she's a virgin or not ?The past does matter statistically, especially when we see that seemingly "Christian" women divorce at rates like the culture. http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html | /r/RPChristians | 30/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Need advice on Mission, Discipling and faith, LifeWhat do I do know? All my hobbies (Voluntary Firefighting, Boxing) except for going to the gym, which I've been able to do for a month now, are on hold due to the pandemic. I've been pretty anxious about high school being over and being expected to be an adult. I don't even know what that means, let alone what I'm supposed to do now. I have also been thinking about my mission and I feel a calling towards curing disease and finding new treatment methods for them but I don't know how to connect th… | /r/askRPC | 28/05/21 08:13 PM |
| 13 | Discussion: how to train your SO to best help you?First off, the top comment by Yireh1107 is garbage in regard to training your wife. Scripture is clear that it is useful for training: 16 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, 17 so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. And it's a husband's responsibility to a wife that he love for her for the purpose of Sanctification, which includes all of which is Scripture and in particular training in r… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/21 06:50 PM |
| 31 | I need advice from god-fearing men about my GF wanting to wait until marriage before we have sex, while neither of us are virgins.We have done other stuff (oral, hand stuff) before, but we haven’t had sex yet, despite the 3+ month dating. Meanwhile I’m dating her and being an excellent partner for occasional oral sex. I was floored when she told me. I still can’t really quantify exactly why I’m so upset. It feels like it’s not fair. So basically you're a hypocrite, but you're unjustly mad about it. Get serious with God. Stop having oral sex. Abstain from anything sexual. Figure out your faith first - whether Prot, Catholic… | /r/RPChristians | 24/05/21 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Are you pleasing man or pleasing God?Putting a Christian label over something Red Pill, doesn't exactly make it Christian or Good. Yeah dude, you need to read the sidebar if you mistakenly have this impression. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/g51gme/genuinely_curious_about_your_philosophies_not/fo15t1m/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/anv2jz/ideas_to_consider_for_men_who_follow_jesus/eg8p0h9/ | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/21 08:10 PM |
| – | What should the Christian Man look like?Just temp banned OP for month. Too many posts, not enough action. 4-5+ posts this month. OP needs to do an OYS. More doing, less talking. /u/OsmiumZulu | /r/askRPC | 13/05/21 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Married and StrugglingThere is no politics there. I was showing the different aspects of the terms Red Pill and Blue Pill because the OP said he wasn't familiar with what they meant. Red Pill does have a conservative leaning and Blue Pill does have a Liberal leaning (particularly with relationship to Feminism). Christianity also leans conservative when it is biblical. I would agree with you except that most of "conservatives" aren't really Christians either. They're just cultural Christian which when push comes to sh… | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/21 07:05 PM |
| 5 | are signs of promiscuity not always an indicator of promiscuity?Should you not write off women just because there may be one or few red flags, because they may necessarily not always mean they're promiscuous, and further -bad quality christian women. Or no, if you see red flags, run? Remember the FAST acronym we use in disciple making here. Faithful, available, saved, teachable. Teachable in particular is very important. A woman could have no red flags on paper but if she's not teachable she's not a good fit for you. Why? Your wife is supposed to be your hel… | /r/RPChristians | 09/05/21 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Married and StrugglingPaul used "politics" to spread the gospel. He didn't use it to force Christians views on everyone. Remember, there was widespread pedephilia (pederastery), fornication, temple prostitution, and even abortion in the Greek and Roman empires. It's not like today is worse than back then. My point is that the apostles, including Paul, were so gospel and discipleship focused that changing laws or power structures did not matter to them. They knew that once Jesus had changed someone's heart that was th… | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/21 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Married and StrugglingRed Pill = Conservative Blue Pill = Liberal Disagree. Jesus did not endorse any political stances nor tell His followers to get involved with them. | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/21 12:57 AM |
| 8 | Am I weak for not being able to handle a woman's mouth?Post in the OYS consistently. Mention on what YOU are working on. Don't mention your wife. One this week: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/n0bep3/oys_where_progress_is_made_042821/ | /r/askRPC | 02/05/21 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Question regarding the "How to Lead" section of the RPC sidebarLead by example. Look at Jesus. On His mission to bring God's kingdom to the work. Invites the disciples on his mission ("follow me"). Shows them how to do things with his ministry. Trains and corrects them. Sends them out. Your wife is your helper. That first requires you to be doing something with your life for God to have her help with. Jesus never asked anything of anyone that He wouldn't do Himself and set an example of Himself doing. For instance, washing His disciples feet. | /r/askRPC | 29/04/21 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Should a man "marry down" and are there any studies that suggest this leads to a healthier long term relationship?Ask him how he thinks this squares with the verses in the Scripture on marriage. (Which should get him reading the Scripture on marriage since it's highly likely he hasn't) | /r/askRPC | 28/04/21 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Question about Critical race theory in churchesIf you just a question just post it straight up. Don't say you're crossposting it or anything. This would have been fine on /r/RPChristians I think | /r/askRPC | 28/04/21 06:38 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as mutual submissionWhat are you talking about? He agrees that kephale means authority. | /r/RPChristians | 19/04/21 03:04 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as mutual submissionLikely. Although CBMW is off on some things, he seems fairly genuine and in pursuit of the truth just like there can be true Christians in most denominations of Prots, Catholics, Orthodox, etc. | /r/RPChristians | 18/04/21 04:17 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as mutual submissionYup. Pages 11-12 in Personal Reflections on the History of CBMW and the State of the Gender Debate by Wayne Grudem He spent 16 years and even did a 132 lexographical sourced paper on all the uses of kephale in the Bible (they all were used to mean authority) and he still got disagreement. Then he realized that feminists just like to be rebellious against God and didn't actually care about proper exegesis and hermeneutics to understand what the Bible is actually saying. | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/21 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Will I go to hell for sinning?You can try that and let me know how it goes. The main thing we preach here is to lead by example first so you're not a hypocrite. This allows you to start to generate influence via ownership/authority of self which helps you to start to influence others such as your wife and children to better behavior. | /r/askRPC | 10/04/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Will I go to hell for sinning?But isn't that verse about how to handle an enemy? What does it have to do with handling a wife. Didn't Christ rebuke/chastise the Church, he didn't just pray for the Church... You're still not getting it. If you have a rebellious or contentious wife and tell them that the Bible says X, Y, and Z and then don't listen then what do you do? That's many of the men on here. They've already tried what you said. | /r/askRPC | 10/04/21 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Will I go to hell for sinning?How relevant to marriage is Matt 5:43? That's the point I was making. God calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the Church for the purpose of sanctifiction (Eph 5). However, OP is clearly not in obedience of the Scripture but sees his wife as an enemy since he wants to divorce her. If he's seeing his wife more of as an enemy than someone he should love then he should also know that God calls us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute you. So whatever situation he's in h… | /r/askRPC | 10/04/21 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Will I go to hell for sinning?Bit harsh dude. Context matters. If you read through his past posts you'll know we've talked about these things multiple times. Sometimes you need to be very direct to drive the point home if it's a continuing issue. | /r/askRPC | 10/04/21 12:37 PM |
| 0 | How do I find an RPChristian man to date?https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/maz13v/announcement_red_pill_christians_will_now/ If you'd like to re-ask your question please post it to one or both of the other subs. /askRPC and r/RPCWomen | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/21 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Will I go to hell for sinning?How about instead of asking if you can sin and not go to hell, you actually spend your effort on living out your Christian walk? Look my man, you're fond of Matthew 5 so here's some verses from it. Matthew 5:43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 so that you may prove yourselves to be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and … | /r/askRPC | 08/04/21 09:23 PM |
| 13 | I Want Marriage Badly, but Believe It Would Only Hinder the God's Purpose for my Life. What Should I Do?Back then, however, I was utterly firm that I would get marry one day, that I would have a great marriage, and that this was the will of God. Now, I'm not so certain anymore. And here is why I'm confused about it: All those things I've mentioned take time; lot of it. If I am to work to feed the family, that's ~45 hours a week right there. A podcast and a apologetics ministry? ~15 hours a week, I would say. That's 60 hours a week. And even though I'd control how I spend my time, I do have to work… | /r/RPChristians | 08/04/21 09:05 PM |
| 7 | The change in perspective that freed me from porn FOREVER. The Ultimate Guide.All it took me was to realize that the Porn industry is vastly controlled by the same people who crucified Jesus. While I like the sentiment, the fact of the matter is that everyone before becoming a Christian is a person who crucified Jesus. We were all sinners, and we still sin! That's why Paul was so ashamed of his past, but let it drive him to work hard for Jesus. | /r/RPChristians | 06/04/21 11:51 AM |
| – | How to lead a relationship spirituallyLocked for stats. | /r/RPChristians | 06/04/21 11:06 AM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as mutual submissionAccording to this Ephesians 5:22 doesn't have the "submit" verb. It only seems to make sense if you read it with Ephesians 5:21. So to me it makes sense to group 5:21 and 5:22 together. That doesn't mean I think 5:21 is talking specifically about marriage. I get the impression Paul is saying something like "submit to each other. For example: wives, submit to your husbands..." Yeah, that's one of the common talking points of feminists. That would make sense if it weren't common to do that in lang… | /r/RPChristians | 05/04/21 11:43 AM |
| 3 | There is no such thing as mutual submissionI believe part of the confusion also lies in many translations making verse 21 its own sentence and grouping it with verses 22 on Confusion is a kind word. Seems to usually be a deliberate translator thing typically advocating for destruction of God's headship-submission in marriage. | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/21 09:43 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as mutual submissionHowever, you're incorrect to interpret the "submit one to another" as meaning solely wife to husband, slave to master and child to parent. Verse 21 is a continuation of the exhortation of proper Christian living all the way from 4:1, wrapping up what it looks like to "walk in love" and "forbearing one another in love". The examples afterward are applications of that overarching premise. The Greek literally does mean "mutually submitting", though it is not in the context of obeying one another, b… | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/21 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Unpacking and tying together the meta-levels of Christianity, reality and the red pill into a hierarchical understanding: theological, scientific, and cultural/philosophicalWhat about Israel during the time of Moses, or David, or Joshua. And how easily they backslid within a generation or two. I suppose that shows the value of discipleship where you're not just ruling well but also passing off the baton to godly men. | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/21 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Do I (27F no kids) have to be indefinitely single after leaving an abusive, fraudulent marriage?Interpret tongue in cheek comments for what they are. Of course there are more than 5 on the planet. I knew it was tongue in cheek, but many men on /r/RPChristians do not think there are still virgin women due to the influence of the secular RP. We get at least 1 post every month or so on this. Therefore, I linked data on why that's not even the case now when it seems like there are no virgins. But you can't trust statistics like that either. People don't tell the truth in those surveys. Yes, pe… | /r/askRPC | 30/03/21 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Unpacking and tying together the meta-levels of Christianity, reality and the red pill into a hierarchical understanding: theological, scientific, and cultural/philosophicalI agree, although there are several points of why I didn't go there. It's hard to untangle where the modeling stops and the culture/philosophy begins for most people. The models are built on specific populations (e.g. having sex with promiscuous women) so some or many times specific things don't work. I did address that. The whole push of secular RP with Rollo and his evolutionary psychology stuff which is iffy and sometimes pseudoscientific. There's no need to really go too much into modeling i… | /r/RPChristians | 30/03/21 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Do I (27F no kids) have to be indefinitely single after leaving an abusive, fraudulent marriage?That's too many questions to unpack that don't have an answer. Generally, chuck is right. The Protestant Reformation had 5 solas come out of it. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_solae Sola scriptura ("by Scripture alone") Obviously, one problem with this is that different denominations and Churches have different ways they interpret the Scripture which leads to wildly different conclusions. Some denominations are likely heretical in that they try to twist the Scripture to support their own vie… | /r/askRPC | 30/03/21 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Unpacking and tying together the meta-levels of Christianity, reality and the red pill into a hierarchical understanding: theological, scientific, and cultural/philosophicalI don't know. I'm not concerned about views. I'm more concerned with people reading and understanding and applying. | /r/RPChristians | 30/03/21 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Do I (27F no kids) have to be indefinitely single after leaving an abusive, fraudulent marriage?Believe it or not lots of women were virgins before the sexual revolution. 30-40% of Christian women in their early to mid 20s likely still are. | /r/askRPC | 30/03/21 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Unpacking and tying together the meta-levels of Christianity, reality and the red pill into a hierarchical understanding: theological, scientific, and cultural/philosophicalI do already have a book on the topic. Biblical Masculinity Blueprint Although the book is on the Scriptures and relaying godly relationship advice rather than analyzing RP structures. | /r/RPChristians | 30/03/21 11:45 AM |
| 3 | Unpacking and tying together the meta-levels of Christianity, reality and the red pill into a hierarchical understanding: theological, scientific, and cultural/philosophicalHuh? What does this have to do with anything? Probably but I don't check that type of stuff. | /r/RPChristians | 30/03/21 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Do I (27F no kids) have to be indefinitely single after leaving an abusive, fraudulent marriage?Because Catholic and Orthodox have centralized power structures and doctrine. Prots are split by denominations and usually Churches themselves, and do not have formalized processes for evaluating the issue. | /r/askRPC | 30/03/21 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Do I (27F no kids) have to be indefinitely single after leaving an abusive, fraudulent marriage?Where is the biblical reasoning for this? Things like lying/deception resulting in fraud invalidate a marriage. Deuteronomy 22:13 “If any man takes a wife and goes in to her and then turns against her, 14 and he charges her with shameful behavior and publicly defames her, and says, ‘I took this woman, but when I came near her, I did not find her to have evidence of virginity,’ 15 then the girl’s father and her mother shall take and bring out the evidence of the girl’s virginity to the elders of … | /r/askRPC | 30/03/21 03:13 AM |
| 2 | Do I (27F no kids) have to be indefinitely single after leaving an abusive, fraudulent marriage?For Catholic and Orthodox yes. This is due to the understanding that both husband and wife must assent that they are entering into the covenant of permanence of marriage and the roles and responsibilities of such a covenant. They make a distinction between this "sacramental marriage" and "civil marriage" which is just two people being in a secular or governmental manner. If I got anything wrong from Catholic or Orthodox perspective maybe some other people can let me know. There's no such process… | /r/askRPC | 30/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 3 | Do I (27F no kids) have to be indefinitely single after leaving an abusive, fraudulent marriage?Generally speaking, the sum of the Scriptures state no divorce IMO from my study of it. However, different denominations handle what constitutes marriage differently. The Catholic and Orthodox believe in sacramental marriage which means both the husband and wife need to know that the marriage is permanent and know that they are to live up to the Biblical marital roles and responsibilities and such. Protestants do no such thing to their detriment and are the least likely to obey Scripture, which … | /r/askRPC | 30/03/21 12:53 AM |
| 2 | As a divorced woman, how can I show Christian men that I'm still a good option / what would you want to know?Not poster of the comment you were replying to but, I disagree. The husband here wasn’t loving the wife as Christ loves the church. The Scripture does not cancel vows or provide a "get out of marriage free card" if the other spouse was acting badly. The marriage roles and responsibilities are unconditional. Ergo: unequally yoked from the start. 1 Corinthians 7:12 But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she consents to live with him, he must not divor… | /r/RPChristians | 29/03/21 10:15 PM |
| – | As a divorced woman, how can I show Christian men that I'm still a good option / what would you want to know?Your post has been removed. Please post your post to: /r/askRPC - Co-ed space for men and women's questions /r/RPCwomen - the women space for questions Full explanation | /r/RPChristians | 29/03/21 10:09 PM |
| 1 | What constitutes sexual immorality for divorce?So what about whenever God allow divorce through Moses back before the cross. Why is it now that after the event of the cross that divorce is not allowed if Jesus actually came to withhold the law of Moses like he said? I understand it's still a sin but with what punishment comes from it? Wouldn't God be just to punish you for your sin? I guess what I'm getting at is shouldn't you go to hell for being an adulterer for committing adultery in this way without repentance? Jesus answers your questio… | /r/askRPC | 29/03/21 09:24 PM |
| 3 | If you are a man who is attracted to trans women, it means you are struggling with homosexuality, which is wrong according to the bibleRemoved as this has nothing to do with RP Christians. https://www.reddit.com/user/PoisonousButterfly7/submitted/ According to your post history you were having sex with your fiancee which is sin you need to repent of. Also, if you read this sub why are you with a woman who is consistently having pre-marital sex with other men including yourself? You and her need to stop sinning and obey God. Stop worrying about the motes in others eyes when you have a plank in your own eye. | /r/RPChristians | 27/03/21 12:20 PM |
| 3 | Are all women really like that? Men too? (Sin and sexual natures)Ok whoa whoa whoa back up he’s your husband not your dad Wrong. A husband is the head (e.g. leader and authority) of his wife. Ephesians 5:22 Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. John 13:12 Then, when He had washed their feet, and taken His… | /r/RPChristians | 26/03/21 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Gut feeling to leave job & invest in my business full timeGood advice, thanks. Is your friend a Christian? No, he isn't. But it required the people to step out on Faith and Faith alone. I don’t think we were meant to live life with logic/common sense as the foundation. Yes, but we are also to live with wisdom - Proverbs are a good example. Straight up quitting before seeing the feasibility of your ideas in action is probably not the wisest thing to do. Biblically, there is a pattern of God pushing his people out of Complacency/Comfort and into unknown … | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Are there any blogs or youtube videos to give to men on the main redpill subreddit who might have an interest in Christianity?Most atheists want nothing less than for God to show up and submit to testing, demonstrations, and verifiable experiments proving he is indeed omnipotent. Sow seeds and let God do the rest. I believe there was a poll or study some years back that showed most people who became Christians had to hear the gospel message at least 5-6 times before they came to Christ. Also, it typically seems like most people who come to Christ do it from a place of brokenness and humility when life is going bad. I m… | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 08:43 PM |
| 1 | What constitutes sexual immorality for divorce?Thank you for your reply but I can't say I agree. There have been men in the US justice system who have been prosecuted for plotting to murder, without actually murdering anyone. Because to plot a murder comes with real world consequences. Three men in my town where procucuted for planning to kill the Lead Homicide detective of a neighboring city. Okay, try not to tunnel vision and understand the points I'm trying to make. There's lots of difference scenarios. Someone who planned a murder in the… | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 08:39 PM |
| 1 | What constitutes sexual immorality for divorce?Show your pastor the link too. I doubt many pastors have been educated on the topic extensively. Maybe he will change his mind as well | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 05:35 PM |
| 2 | What constitutes sexual immorality for divorce?So by this I am believing that sin that exists in the heart is just as real and defiling to a man than sin that comes out of a man's body. Correct, but let's go further. Sin in the heart is as defiling to God as our actions. We need to repent of our thoughts and actions if they are sinful. 2 Corinthians 10:5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. However, sin in the heart doesn'… | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 05:27 PM |
| 2 | Gut feeling to leave job & invest in my business full timeThere's nothing stopping you from starting it on the side. One of my friends was working full time and started his side business. His side business was part time basically and then it eventually got so busy that it was close to full time. He was working 2 full time jobs. Then it got even busier and he was making more than his first real job. That's when he decided to quit that and go full time with his side job that turned into full time. He's killing it and even way more successful now, but it … | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 05:23 PM |
| 3 | What constitutes sexual immorality for divorce?So if an unbelieving partner seperates, or abandons a marriage relationship, the believing partner must not remarry? You don't think Matthew 5 contradicts 1st Corinthians 7 considering that Paul is trying to say that the Lord says we can't divorce but Jesus says that divorce has been aloud since Moses? In the place of a contradiction like this wouldn't we just add towards 1st Corinthians because it's all true and none of it is really a contradiction? Read the full analysis. It answers your quest… | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 05:03 PM |
| 2 | What constitutes sexual immorality for divorce?So you're saying adultery in the heart is not actual adultery? So we can get away with adultery in the heart and not go to hell? If that was the case why would Jesus even warned us if it wasn't real adultery? You mean to tell us that Jesus was warning us about fake adultery and real adultery? Come on man. You gotta use other Scripture to understand why Jesus is making the point He is making in Matthew 5. In Matthew, 5 Jesus is telling and showing us that the Law of Moses only judges actions and … | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 05:00 PM |
| 7 | What constitutes sexual immorality for divorce?This is a very contested topic because "porneia" (fornication or sexual immorality) is used in various contexts within the Scriptures. Specifically, however, in the context of divorce it's likely, at least based on the interpretation of the early Church fathers and Church, the grounds for divorce is: Only actual fornication (e.g. having sex) with another woman (for a husband) or another man (for the wife). According to some early Church fathers, the believer should divorce the unrepentant sinner… | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 04:37 PM |
| 3 | What constitutes sexual immorality for divorce?I assume sexual immorality is defined as lusting over a woman that is not the man's wife (if you even look at a woman with sexual intent, it's like adultery, I think that's what Jesus said). I believe a woman cannot remarry if she divorces her husband (it is also like adulery?). I remember reading it in the Bible once. Matthew 5 is the look at a wife with covetousness it's adultery in the heart. This is not actual adultery and not grounds for divorce. | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Are there any blogs or youtube videos to give to men on the main redpill subreddit who might have an interest in Christianity?To be honest, I don't have a page discussing benefits of being a Christian namely because someone who is living in hedonism won't think it's beneficial to save sex until marriage no matter what reasoning is put on it. There's obviously science articles that support saving sex until marriage, but these people are so convinced of their test drive model that they ignore science (yet accept other science when it supports their view). Here's one. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-… | /r/askRPC | 24/03/21 12:03 PM |
| 4 | What are your thoughts on unchecked female hypergamy and “she’s not yours. It’s just your turn”? Do all women eventually cheat regardless of how high your frame or SMV is because we’re genetically designed to be polygamous?Stop reading secular RP stuff. Read your Bible. Devote you life to Jesus. Your life will be better for it. I've posted this several times here in the past few months because the same variation of this question keeps coming up. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2020/12/10/doom-and-gloom-and-the-amount-of-attractive-christian-virgins-part-4/ 2 different studies showed approximately 30-40% Christian virgin women in women who grew up going to Church regularly and attend services often. Much more th… | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/21 11:46 AM |
| 9 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spacehttps://www.reddit.com/r/RPCWomen/ | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/21 03:32 PM |
| 6 | Sneaky Little IdeasActually, God made the people who turned out to be murders and thieves. They weren’t born that way. Homosexuals aren't born that way either. https://geneticsexbehavior.info/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/ganna190830.pdf Twin and family studies have shown that same-sex sexual behavior is partly genetically influenced, but previous searches for specific genes involved have been underpowered. We performed a genome-wide association study (GWAS) on 477,522 individuals, revealing five loci significantly a… | /r/RPChristians | 20/03/21 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Navigating young adulthoodHow do I deal with the emotional baggage I’m carrying from those 2 relationships? I want to be a good husband some day and I don’t want my future relationships to be hampered by this. What steps should I take to move forward and deal with these problems and my anxiety? Any help would be much appreciated. How do I deal with the emotional baggage I’m carrying from those 2 relationships? I want to be a good husband some day and I don’t want my future relationships to be hampered by this. What steps… | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/21 03:41 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on breaking up with girlfriend over her weight?IMO you should apologize because you lied first and foremost to God. Also maybe a break up with the reason being her weight is the catalyst she needs to make a life change even if she couldn't do it with you. "I want to apologize because I told a half truth that dishonors God. I am working on myself, but your weight was an issue for me too. I want to be in a relationship with someone who is as dedicated to their health as I am." | /r/askRPC | 18/03/21 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on EvangedatingSeems reasonable. I would still keep an eye out for already mature Christian women though, as this process can take several years or more. | /r/askRPC | 17/03/21 02:08 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts on EvangedatingDon't do it. If you really insist, then you must do things in a specific order. Evangelize Then if they convert you can see how they're growing in Christ and becoming more mature. Then you can date them Doing evangelizing and dating at the same time is a recipe for failure because then you're going to be one of the people who always post on the Christian subs about how you met an awesome woman but she's not a Christian... but you really want to marry her. Just no. | /r/askRPC | 17/03/21 01:58 AM |
| 3 | When you say "I need to read my Bible" what are you really saying?I am definitely remembering the context in which they are being applied. What would make you think that I am not remembering the context? If I can memorize the text, what makes you think I am not also memorizing the context? This makes zero sense unless this is an attack to my integrity. Context is text. Im remembering it. I remember because I read it over an over. You sound like a real dick. Absolutely nothing about what I said should have led you to that conclusion, please point it out Come on… | /r/askRPC | 13/03/21 11:00 PM |
| 1 | When you say "I need to read my Bible" what are you really saying?Brother, your problem is not with reading the Bible. You need to actively study the Bible. Look up the two terms: exegesis and hermeneutics. Now go through passages and study them in that way. Look up commentaries by some of the Biblical scholars to get more context. What exactly is Jesus teaching in the context of the culture? If there are not similar situations today, what principles can we take on how to apply those lessons today? You've said you've gone through these passages a dozen times b… | /r/askRPC | 13/03/21 10:20 PM |
| – | How to cope with my husband's absence?Locked until OP posts stats. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Same with women. Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your fa… | /r/RPChristians | 13/03/21 02:29 PM |
| 8 | How to cope with my husband's absence?Brother, you need to read your Bible more. I've told you this several times. Matthew 5:31 “Now it was said, ‘Whoever sends his wife away is to give her a certificate of divorce’; 32 but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Most people look at the first part of the verse, but the second part of the verse says something very stark too. This may not be the case … | /r/RPChristians | 13/03/21 02:22 PM |
| – | I think I'm in some deep doodoo.Caught late but locked until OP posts all stats. Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious). Same with women. Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP). Any other books? Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, evangelism, how you're using your … | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/21 05:22 AM |
| 11 | Is it crazy that I actually want a kind of “controlling” husband and do the stereotypical “woman’s place” stuff?I want to answer this even if it's locked because a lot of Christians get this wrong based on what the world tells them. If you're a man who's type A and likes to run set schedules then you should marry a woman who likes that and not a type A woman who you would butt heads with. If you're a man who has a more laid back leadership style then you should marry someone who can handle a lot of delegated authority effectively. Neither of these are wrong. They're just different ways marriage can be exp… | /r/RPChristians | 09/03/21 06:24 AM |
| 3 | How do you overcome anger and frustration?Brother. Stop looking for ways out. You made vows TO GOD 'til death do us part. So do your part to obey God. Stop focusing on her. Lead by example. You should be doing the things that you want her to do. That's how Jesus modeled to His disciples what he did. He did things and they said do these things with me and then had them try them for themselves. How else is your wife going to be able to learn how to be a helper if you don't model and show her? Sure, it would be nice if you could just tell … | /r/askRPC | 08/03/21 03:31 AM |
| 4 | How do you overcome anger and frustration?1 Corinthians 7:12 But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if any woman has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not divorce her husband. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. 15 Yet if the unbelieving … | /r/askRPC | 06/03/21 05:41 AM |
| 2 | How do you overcome anger and frustration?The Bible says that we are to love our wives with the same way Christ loves the church. If we believe that Christ serves the church and forgives the Church of any wrongdoing then husbands must also serve our wives and forgive our wives of any wrongdoing. Christ literally sacrificed himself for the church so we are to be the same for our wives. Can anyone say that this is biblically incorrect? Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for h… | /r/askRPC | 06/03/21 12:19 AM |
| – | How can I stop displaying my anger to others?Locked until stats. Actually, post removed as you already posted in askRPC on a different account | /r/RPChristians | 06/03/21 12:14 AM |
| 3 | How to Handle a Lazy Wife?Perhaps a better way to phrase the question is how do I motivate a lazy wife? She helped me when we moved the second time because I told her that if she did we could spend the money we saved on not hiring a moving company and spend it on some furniture she wanted. We rented a uhaul for like 80 bucks and moved almost everything the two of us in like 6 hours. Lead by example. That's how Jesus did everything. Dirty house? "Hey honey, I'll take care of this right now and you get that. Let's get this… | /r/RPChristians | 04/03/21 10:30 PM |
| 4 | Basic GameRead the OYS on mental and emotional: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/lr95c9/oys_where_progress_is_made_022421/ That's basic "game" from the reference point of view of improving "frame." You're kinda misunderstanding the whole thing though. Our goal is to get you to be an effective man to carry out God's mission. It just so happens that most of the behaviors that you adopt to be an effective leader and steward for God are attractive to women. God actually planned it that way since… | /r/askRPC | 03/03/21 04:19 AM |
| 6 | What the point of getting married for men? M18What the point of getting married for men? Have you read the Bible on what God says about marriage? I'm being serious with the question. No sarcasm. If you haven't then that would be a good start. There's some answers here that aren't exactly what God says about it | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/21 12:09 AM |
| 6 | Rock and a hard placeMay I ask, respectfully: do you believe that the intro to you and your wife’s intimate relationship would have been just as good if, say, she weren’t a virgin and you were? Would it have been better or worse if the roles were switched? This is hard to say as there are a lot of factors in play. For instance, was the pre-marital sex done before the woman was a Christian or not? There's a difference between a woman who has slept with men before she became a Christian, and a woman who claims to be a… | /r/RPChristians | 27/02/21 11:18 PM |
| 25 | Rock and a hard placeThe bible says to wait until marriage to engage in sex. I did not, and I know that’s in direct violation. So repent. But my question is how does Anyone expect to be good at sex (or with women in general) if they spend their whole live avoiding it until marriage. I know from firsthand that women respect a man who is good in bed, so therefore wouldnt you prefer your wife to feel the same? You learn with your wife. For the record, it was and is great. Most devout church guys I know are not very smo… | /r/RPChristians | 27/02/21 10:00 PM |
| 3 | Dating Scene in the ChurchDating in the same friends group? I generally think abundance mentality is fairly useless. Most men can't hold onto it in the moment. What is generally better is mission focus, especially on evangelism and discipleship. You get good at doing things that have eternal value then asking out a woman which is not even close to eternal value becomes easy and trivial. You only want someone who is enthusiastic to follow you anyway, so rejections are good in the sense that they weed out women who are ind… | /r/askRPC | 27/02/21 02:21 AM |
| 10 | How many still attend churchTypical RP montage. I have barely been able to digest church anymore with an RP mindset. It's so subtly anti male. I have three boys and I barely want them to go. Take them and correct stuff later. How YOU live your YOUR life is going to be most impactful on them. That's one of the big things like in Deuteronomy 6 - It's up to parents to teach their kids. Not going to Church? = Bad. They most likely won't care about Christ or fellow believers because they don't see you prioritizing it. You takin… | /r/askRPC | 25/02/21 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Women keep attacking me for desiring a pure wifeActually if a woman wants to reserve sex before marriage a huge chunk of the dating pool is locked off to her. I knew this was true, but it's still discouraging as a man with a daughter. Holding out used to be a good way for women to tell the difference between guys who just wanted sex and would never commit to those who would commit. It's generally not men you'd want to date anyway as a Christian. In fact, it tends to be good because it weeds most of the nominal 'Christians' out which is a good… | /r/RPChristians | 24/02/21 11:24 PM |
| 4 | Women keep attacking me for desiring a pure wifeI see this preference on the other sub quite often. Can you help me understand why? All I can think of is these men come across as overly judgmental. Statistics indicate that divorce risk is much higher in virgin vs non-virgin women. http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html Obviously, as a Christian it is a good idea to want to mitigate divorce risk. No man or woman wants to go through that type thing. I do think being a virgin is overemphasized though at leas… | /r/RPChristians | 24/02/21 04:43 AM |
| 4 | Women keep attacking me for desiring a pure wifeWhat we wrote IS building him up. Again, Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. Sharpening someone requires we expose and refine their weaknesses. Encouragement is building up as well, but it's not the only way to build up. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/21 04:24 PM |
| 6 | Women keep attacking me for desiring a pure wifeIMO post the stats then and let them speak for themselves. IFS posts a lot of Christian stuff and has thoughtful analysis much of the time too. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/21 05:59 AM |
| 7 | The problem of guiltBut occasionally, waves of piercing guilt overcome me, wondering whether I did the right thing, or should have tried harder to disciple her through her anger. Wondering if I had been a more biblical husband and less beta, could I have dealt with this sooner. She agreed to some joint marital counseling and admitted anger as a besetting sin but every attempt to get her to see the harm she was causing, was responded to with excuses - "If the children were better behaved", etc... Sounds like you tri… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/21 05:03 AM |
| 6 | Women keep attacking me for desiring a pure wifeMan all these replies are pretty unloving. By this metric, lots of things Jesus did is "unloving." Look, we probably all agree with him and know he's right. So what? We don't need to tell ourselves that and pat ourselves on the back. Male friends growing up do this to each other all the time. The only time I've seen this criticism is if it's coming from women or a man didn't have that many close male friends who did this with him when he was growing up. We can be harsh and critical of each other… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/21 04:57 AM |
| 2 | Communication in MarriageI was confused any time I read about loving my wife as Jesus loves the church. Red-Curious explanation in the side bar cleared up a lot of that confusion. Now I need to apply it as I am still not acting as the head, nor am I loving her in a way that could be sanctifying. Yes, there are multiple ways to do this. Jesus was mission focused. He didn't let anyone, even His disciples (and even a husband for his wife) get in the way of His mission. In fact, He rebuked them sometimes when they tried to … | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/21 04:48 AM |
| 31 | Women keep attacking me for desiring a pure wifeJesus told his disciples to go preach the gospel and then to dust off their feet and leave if people didn't go with what they're saying. Same concept applies. If people don't wanna understand then don't throw pearls before swine. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/21 03:07 AM |
| 96 | Women keep attacking me for desiring a pure wifeWomen keep attacking me for desiring a pure wife I was browsing Christianmarriage Bro, your problem is that your frame sucks. Why are you arguing with people that you know are going to disagree with you and not change their opinion even if they're wrong? Talk about a waste of time. Then you come on here and complain to us like you want some validation. Move on and do some important things. Don't get caught up in useless arguments. If you're arguing, you've already lost. | /r/RPChristians | 22/02/21 10:40 PM |
| 6 | How Do You Practice The Spiritual Discipline Of Sabbath With Children?I've tried to pin-point what's causing the problem and I think its the fact that I have kids (I'm open to the idea that I'm just not being disciplined enough). It doesn't matter what I do, the kids are always needing something from me. They fight with each other or get hurt. They feel tired so they get super whiny and also fight me when I put 'em down for a nap. I rule my family pretty sternly, but my children exhaust me and I have no idea how I'm supposed to sabbath in this situation. Plan fami… | /r/RPChristians | 22/02/21 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Communication in MarriageAre you in love with her and desire to put her happiness as a priority in your life and to let her make you happy too? No. Here's the reason why you are wrong. Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy an… | /r/RPChristians | 22/02/21 06:37 PM |
| 5 | Communication in MarriageMission: For the longest time I thought my mission was to make enough money so that my wife didn’t have to work anymore. Now I think my mission might be to reclaim the video game industry for God by creating video games that point gamers to him. Good start. Needs to be more specific and encompassed with how you are walking out the Great Commission not just in video games but all aspects of your life. For example, how are you involved with the Church? Are you utilizing your spiritual gifts? How a… | /r/RPChristians | 22/02/21 05:23 PM |
| 3 | The Black Pill:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 32This is the link to the charts that /u/Red-Curious talked about with virginity. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability Image: https://ifstudies.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/wolfinger-sex-divorce-table-1.png Please also note that the virginity statistics aren't this dismal in the Church, although lower than they should be. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2020/12/10/doom-and-gloom-and-the-amount-of-attractive-christian-virgi… | /r/RPChristians | 20/02/21 10:52 PM |
| 3 | Looking for Help and Council from Righteous Men (or Women)I know the bible very well. Off the top of my head, women submit themselves to their husbands, men are to love their wives like christ loved the church, mutual submission to what they owe each other sexually (except for mutual consensus to abstain for the purpose of prayer). Do not commit adultery, women are helpers to their husbands, if a man looks at a women in order to lust after her he has committed adultery in his heart. Good start. There are some others. So how are you putting that knowled… | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/21 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Should Christian's take antidepressants?Most people covered the other stuff, but we do recommend lifting My parents, sister, ex and friends have been pushing me for years to take SSRIs and I refuse on the grounds that they're a bandaid where stitches are needed. If you ain't lifting, you're not fighting depression effectively sans medication. Conclusions and relevance: Resistance exercise training significantly reduced depressive symptoms among adults regardless of health status, total prescribed volume of RET, or significant improvem… | /r/askRPC | 19/02/21 03:38 PM |
| 7 | Looking for Help and Council from Righteous Men (or Women)Spiritual: I'd say I'm avg maturity, however compared to the avg college student I'm practically ancient. A virgin (by choice lol), dont touch drugs, hate video games, and I'd rather put my money into a down payment on a house rather than "travel". I dont pray often surprisingly, get a lot of quiet times since the China Virus. I'll state my thesis: I'm having trouble waiting, and I'm.confused with God. I've been looking for a wife for probably close to 6 years, but more realistically 2. And I've… | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/21 03:22 PM |
| 5 | Backwards sexual dynamic?Being fat is unattractive to most people. | /r/RPChristians | 17/02/21 06:09 PM |
| 11 | Girl takes responsibility of her past mistakesHaving a good stable relationship before rushing in to marriage etc. Not a mission. What are you doing with your life to fulfill God's mission which is to make disciples of all nations? How are you using your spiritual gifts to love and serve others? Are you part of a church and serving in ministry? Spiritual: I can be mature but I also can act really childish. I pray daily. Bible reading? Quiet times? Scripture memory? Have you studied the Biblical marital roles and responsibilities? Are you le… | /r/RPChristians | 17/02/21 01:41 AM |
| – | Backwards sexual dynamic?Locked until OP posts stats. Yes, this is includes women asking questions ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) - in this case for wives, what your man's mission is if any and your mission for God as well. Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future pr… | /r/RPChristians | 16/02/21 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on this argument between me (29M) and my (26) GF?That works some of the time. Glad it worked out in your favor. | /r/askRPC | 12/02/21 11:21 PM |
| 2 | As far as I know, you guys are the Christian group most interested in discipleship and having a "mission." Maybe you can help me.As far as discipleship goes, you're already doing it. You don't have to be "official" with churches to make a difference. Sure, it's nice but it's not needed or in some cases you won't be able to find that. As for helping out in a support role you should investigate Churches in your local area to see who needs help. Generally speaking, it might not be in the capacity of regular preaching or anything like that but might start with something in a men's ministry. Our discord if you want to help wit… | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/21 09:33 PM |
| 17 | Should I Marry a Virgin?:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 31It doesn’t make a difference. Sure it does. http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html Vetting her background, behavior, and character should be used either way to eliminate the divorce probabilities of both virgins and non-virgins. | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/21 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29Got some stuff to work on, but at least you have some good progress so far. Charisma will help a lot and not get-to-the-point conversations. Aim to build meaningful connections with people and find out what their interests are and what makes them tick. | /r/RPChristians | 10/02/21 04:23 AM |
| 7 | Husbands and Hindered PrayersDoes this mean God will not hear or answer our prayer? The common theme throughout the Scriptures is that God hears the cries of the oppressed and down trodden. If you're not honoring her and treating her in an understanding way, presumably you're not "treating her as your own body" as it says in Ephesians 5. Likewise, "a fellow heir in the grace of life" coupled with the duty of 'loving her for the purpose of sanctification' means you aren't leading/loving her as Christ would. The prayers hinde… | /r/RPChristians | 10/02/21 04:06 AM |
| 2 | Need to diversify lifting regimenYou can actually alternate between the 5 and 8-10 reps. It's a simple form of periodization. If you get stuck on the 5 reps and you're able to progress the 8-10 reps then usually you're able to progress the 5 reps in a session or two because the relatively strength of improving the 8-10 helps to improve the 5 reps and vice versa | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/21 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Need to diversify lifting regimenDrop sets aren't actually that good most of the time because you're decreasing the resistance and thus the quality of the sets decrease. What you want to do when going for high reps is be resting at least 3 minutes between your sets and dropping the weight to go high rep. Same with your strength and hypertrophy range sets. Adequate rest to get high quality sets = high quality volume which is necessary for hypertrophy | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/21 03:31 PM |
| 3 | What advice would you give to a wife looking to help her husband become more of a leader/ more dominant.You're welcome. Above all, keep him in prayer and yourself as well to continually act in accordance with the Holy Spirit so your actions show the fruit of the Spirit especially when things are going tough | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/21 03:29 PM |
| 19 | What advice would you give to a wife looking to help her husband become more of a leader/ more dominant.Cane Caldo's post from the comment linked by chuck: https://canecaldo.wordpress.com/2013/10/13/you-bowed-up-when-you-should-have-bowed-down/ Basically, you can always defer to his decision. Even if he says "you decide" then instead of trying to make him decide, you honor his actual decision ("you decide") and go with it. In general, you need to be focused on building up leadership. Praise him when he makes good decisions. Affirm him and don't complain or have a bad attitude when he makes bad dec… | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/21 05:55 AM |
| 2 | Need to diversify lifting regimenI have rapidly progressed on 5*5 which is awesome. I want to make sure I am not becoming injury prone now that some of my weights are getting (for me) up there. For instance, my deadlift 205>250, Squat 185-245, particularly. How do you all diversify your work out to make sure you are building all the other muscles ajacent to the main groups for these exercises? If you need to add some isolation work to balance things out or work on specific muscle groups that tends to be fine with a program that… | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/21 05:48 AM |
| 6 | Need to diversify lifting regimenEh, I think it's OK since we don't get a lot of lifting posts over here. Plus, we say lifting is not a suggestion so it's a good idea to see some here. | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/21 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29I've lived both east and west coast. My wife is from the west coast. | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/21 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29I'm 6'4", 200ish lbs 14% BF. Do you have a V-taper and broad(er) shoulders than waist? Wear fitted shirts? Style? Just like women who emphasize their femininity and waist to hip ratio with well fitted skirts and dresses, men can do that as well with their muscles. I'm not seeing any interest so the problem is obvious. I guess I've spent too many years in the library instead of the field. Are you comfortable chatting up anyone regardless of if they're women or men? If not, that's probably where y… | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/21 05:38 AM |
| 3 | Dating Scene in the ChurchI agree. Be selective in the same friends groups. | /r/askRPC | 09/02/21 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29Nah I'm not blasting you I'd rather converse than blast but I will say that it's good to say you're preparing your children, wise decision. I'm just another perspective (albeit a little jaded). I'm just tired of hearing the same line of "get more more X (jacked, style, etc etc)." If there aren't any women and you are getting anything online, what then? I remember our stats were roughly the same based on one of your previous OYS so it isn't like I'm some 5" dude who doesn't lift. I suppose some g… | /r/RPChristians | 08/02/21 08:02 PM |
| 9 | Dating Scene in the ChurchI have seen on more than one occasion, of Christian women in their late 20’s or early 30’s talk about how there are so many single Christian women in their church and that Men are simply not asking them out. They try to frame this as if these women are simply hidden gems that Christian guys should find and date/marry. But trying to look at this through an RP lens, it kinda got me thinking that they might be trying to simply tell men to “man up” and marry these women. It also made me think, “Well… | /r/askRPC | 08/02/21 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29I met with a girl a few weeks ago. We did some sexual things, not sex though. Read my OYS. But after that I asked straight up what she thought and she said that I'm slightly above average looking but also that she thought I was hot when she first saw me. I know I can get some women the question is are they attractive and Christian? Just today I just matched with a cute girl (from her photos at least) on a Christian dating app. And we texted about husband/wife dynamics and she's in agreement with… | /r/RPChristians | 08/02/21 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29What surprises me more is not the fact that RP worked for you, although it is somewhat surprising given your height and your claim of being a 6. I think you might be more attractive than you think? Unlikely. A man who is at least a 6 and definitely a 7 would have had at least more than 2 women in his life think he's attractive after just meeting him. Don't forget if you're aware of IOIs that you can see women becoming more attracted to you in real time or over time because you get none at the st… | /r/RPChristians | 08/02/21 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on this argument between me (29M) and my (26) GF?Thoughts on this argument between me (29M) and my (26) GF? If you're arguing you've already lost. I'm not in the mood to socialise. I also told her that from now on, I'd also like it if she could clear her house of people before I show up so I don't have to socialise if I'm not in the mood as I'd do for her. She got ultra defensive and argued that I should accept her friend which isn't my problem here. This is what you're arguing about? No one likes to do chores or take out of the trash or socia… | /r/askRPC | 08/02/21 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29Help out with other college ministries then. Cru and Navigators are one of the two better ones on most campuses. They usually always need help. | /r/RPChristians | 08/02/21 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29You do lose if you were initiating with a woman and she follows another man. No pedestalization here but you wouldn't be human if it didn't sting. Statistically, yes, there are always more women (and it only takes one :) ). Unfortunately, those same statistics are against me. No one loses anything. You may find out you have some weaknesses you have to work on. If you think you lose, you're already in a black pill mind set. I'm going to come off as facetious/trolling but I'm not. Coming from a an… | /r/RPChristians | 08/02/21 04:43 AM |
| 2 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29Keep working on that. Best thing to do in your situation IMO is get involved with churches who have college/university ministries and help out there. You'll meet a lot more younger women. That's how my former church's music leader met his wife (he was in his 30s and his wife was in grad school) and several others I know of as well. Our church had a strong college campus presence. | /r/RPChristians | 08/02/21 04:30 AM |
| 2 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29I'm not sure I'd classify this as black pill (unless you're not putting in serious work/effort then yeah do it for 6 months and come see me). Using a basketball analogy, it's more like you're down 10 points with 15 seconds in the 4th quarter. Yeah, you can come close to winning (and by some fool's luck maybe win), but losing by 10 or by 1 is still losing. I understand it varies by location but I'm curious when you were dating because things appear to be going downhill continually in the last fiv… | /r/RPChristians | 07/02/21 04:37 PM |
| 3 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29It's both for me. I can get dates with women who I don't think are very attractive. I did get one date with an attractive girl but she ghosted me after it. I do think lifting will help somewhat, cutting some bf, as will better fashion and confidence. I haven't been able to approach in real life so this has all been online which may contribute to the problem. Those things will help significantly more than you think. I did an analysis here. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2020/07/14/womens-attr… | /r/RPChristians | 07/02/21 04:30 PM |
| 3 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29Like I said, get that black pill crap outta here. | /r/RPChristians | 05/02/21 07:31 PM |
| 8 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29Some guys follows all of those rules and still can't get dates. Doubtful. Never met a man who had a Greek god physique who couldn't get at least a few dates, even if he was much shorter than average. Remember, women's average height is 5'3"-5'4" so even if you're much shorter than the average male height of 5'9" there's still a large percentage of women you're taller than. Most men don't want to put in the work for the muscles though or think their other "fitness" related activities are enough. … | /r/RPChristians | 05/02/21 06:17 AM |
| 5 | Dating & Social Dynamics for the Christian:Red Pill Christian Podcast - Episode 29Posted some follow up thoughts on how to categorize things: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2021/02/04/dating-and-social-dynamics-in-churchianity/ Generally, the ability to get dates is predicated on being attractive enough. The ability to sustain a relationship is having desirable traits. Recall the SNL skit: “Be attractive. Don’t be unattractive.” This summarizes the main two things to look for if getting dates are an issue. Be attractive Mission is attractive — you’re driven to succeed and… | /r/RPChristians | 05/02/21 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Question.These types of questions should be asked in https://www.reddit.com/r/askRPC Also, the 'official stance on sex outside of marriage' is on the sidebar. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/85wf8w/is_sex_outside_of_marriage_a_sin_an_official/ Please read the sidebar posts before asking more questions. | /r/RPChristians | 04/02/21 04:10 PM |
| 1 | "You should not have to leave your balls at the door of a church!" - Pastor Michael FosterRemoved until you summarize the content in the OP. The reply to this message. | /r/RPChristians | 03/02/21 10:55 PM |
| 5 | How I Overcame Porn PermanentlyYes, but it gets less as you build godly habits. | /r/RPChristians | 02/02/21 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Update from messed up introductionBrother. Edit your other post. Go to the post you made and there should be an "edit" button underneath of it that you can click and edit in your information. Also, read the sidebar. If you're on mobile you may have to click some links at the top of the sub. If you're on the computer, it's literally on the righthand side of the screen. Stop making new ones and posting on different accounts. Post on one username. | /r/RPChristians | 01/02/21 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Please pray for me I'm scared God will judge me.So get on it. | /r/RPChristians | 01/02/21 04:01 PM |
| – | My wife treats me like garbage and then blames it on me.Locked until OP follows rule 2. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. | /r/RPChristians | 01/02/21 03:58 PM |
| 4 | Please pray for me I'm scared God will judge me.Cannabis is my profession and it is literally the only thing I have other than prayer that does motivate me to keep going and believing In God. Mission, brother. How are you furthering God's Kingdom? Discipling/being discipled? Using your spiritual gifts? Loving and serving others? You'll find that as you start living out God's purpose for your life, you often won't need any other thing. It's was just a crutch to fill the void. | /r/RPChristians | 01/02/21 04:17 AM |
| 4 | Money.Luke 16:10 “The one who is faithful in a very little thing is also faithful in much; and the one who is unrighteous in a very little thing is also unrighteous in much. 11 Therefore if you have not been faithful in the use of unrighteous wealth, who will entrust the true wealth to you? 12 And if you have not been faithful in the use of that which is another’s, who will give you that which is your own? 13 No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he w… | /r/RPChristians | 31/01/21 06:51 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/27/21)Context: I have been considering alternative housing options to reduce the amount of money I spend on rent. I've mentioned this in passing at church. The pastor invited me over to watch a football game this last week. After the game he invited me to move in with him. There were several conditions. The condition that concerns me most (and sets me on edge) is that my tithing should occur at his church. I'd pray about, but my default answer would be no. Giving/offering is supposed to be of free wil… | /r/RPChristians | 31/01/21 06:15 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/27/21)Found out some excellent news this week. My wife is pregnant! Congrats brother! | /r/RPChristians | 31/01/21 06:11 AM |
| 11 | What are your guys thoughts on Rollos Rule II: “never, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you have slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover” ?One of the worse rules. Chateau's are generally more solid. This is a frame issue. If you're bending yourself out of shape with any of her potential responses then you're already in her frame. | /r/RPChristians | 30/01/21 01:20 AM |
| 1 | My father is in the hospital because of terrorismMost likely. I removed it. | /r/RPChristians | 29/01/21 04:05 PM |
| 3 | How do I motivate myself to enjoy lifting and doing gym stuff like you guys, especially during this pandemic?RPC discord: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/ia1omz/official_rpc_discord/ | /r/askRPC | 27/01/21 08:28 PM |
| 0 | Wife took out loan aginst my willit was in the end all my fault even if what she did was not right. Nah man. As Chuck said, it can't be "all your fault" even if what she did was not right. She's just going to walk all over you in the future if you don't grow a backbone and then likely divorce you as well. | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 04:44 PM |
| 10 | LJBF ContinuedSo this girl I had a huge ONEitis for in the latter parts of my blue pill days, just texted me asking how I am doing and all that jazz Also, what could be some reasons that she is texting me? Could she simply be curious with how I am? Is there a hidden reason that could be explained by RP truths to why she is texting me out of the blue? She's trying to draw you back in as her orbiter because she misses the attention. If she was actually interested in you she would've wrote "Hey I changed my mind… | /r/askRPC | 25/01/21 05:06 AM |
| 6 | Great Resources about Marriage, Divorce, and SinglenessAh, yes, the old "communication" style of anti-divorce Christian ministries. They don't work in the long run. They don't fix the underlying problems in most circumstances which are lack of actually following Biblical marital roles and responsibilities. Headship and submission Love and respect Not denying each other sex Notice how none of these are talked about. Same with things like attraction, especially physical attractiveness. | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 04:34 PM |
| 6 | How to vet for virgin woman quickly without wasting time?Because it's smart to be wise being that it is a divorce predictor. http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html | /r/RPChristians | 19/01/21 11:43 PM |
| 6 | How to vet for virgin woman quickly without wasting time?I chuckle when anyone doesn't take it seriously. http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html | /r/RPChristians | 19/01/21 11:29 PM |
| 1 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectAdded | /r/RPChristians | 19/01/21 11:24 PM |
| 3 | Another post about oneitis? How should single guys approach friendships with women?The guy who answered you was weird, but he is correct in a different sense. "Do you want to go on a date?" is weaker then "Let's go on a date" A statement is better than a question in most cases. | /r/RPChristians | 19/01/21 11:20 PM |
| 2 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectInfection of the Church via the culture or diversions has always been an issue. That's why Jesus rebukes the various Churches in Revelation 2 and 3 about areas where they're falling prey to culture. | /r/RPChristians | 18/01/21 04:22 AM |
| 2 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectI did dig into the stats here: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2020/12/08/marriage-and-cohabitation-data-and-analysis-which-refutes-common-assertions/ Overall, you are correct that the decline in marriage is mostly poor and some middle class. Though, a large part is being that marriage has been replaced with cohabitation which is more or less equally destructive. There still is somewhat of a gap even because of that and we'll see if that keeps widening in the future. | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/21 05:10 PM |
| 2 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectOK I added in another sentence to summarize that. College/STEM pushed for women via feminism — Women increasingly represented in college and graduate education (also due to above). Don't want to marry down in status or financially because of hypergamy. Also, disproportionate numbers mean there aren't "enough good men," and the women that earn more than men don't want to marry them. I'll try to think of a good vows one. | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/21 05:09 PM |
| 2 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectNo, but I've read interviews of her talking about it. She's been referenced in the sphere since like 2013 or something like that. | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/21 05:05 PM |
| 2 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectGood ones. Here's my rendition. Less stigmas for bachelors or bachelorettes — Socially single for longer periods of time is more accepted. There used to be preference to giving promotions to married guys over single ones. Marriage vows are literally just people saying stuff — "To have and to hold" where each spouse meets each other's sexual needs is out. "For richer or for poorer" and "in sickness or in health" are not taken seriously. Women, and to a lesser extent men, will just leave at the fi… | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/21 12:34 AM |
| 3 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectIt amazes me that a group of guys who constantly complain about there being no good women left to marry, are trying to push MORE women to casually date, be alone with guys, be against "side hugs", and the "i kissed dating goodbye" book. You realize you are a walking contradiction right? Trying to take the degeneracy of the contemporary redpill sphere and put it into christianity Nah dude. You got it wrong. We're pushing the Christians who overspiritualize dating to date more. They're the ones wh… | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/21 12:08 AM |
| 3 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectThanks. I will add that now. Due to brevity, I only added it as this: Social media and dating apps — Encourage narcissism and skyhigh unrealistic expectations, typically in women more than men, but can be both. Also, normalizes hedonistic lifestyles and presenting yourself as perfect without flaws. | /r/RPChristians | 14/01/21 05:20 PM |
| 1 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and Effect"Dating is only encouraged if you’re serious about getting married, and Christian friends hype up a date like you’re getting engaged." What's wrong with this exactly? Do you really want a wife who was been alone with hundreds of guys and had hundreds of "boyfriends"? Christians for thousands of years considered it improper for a woman to even be alone with a man and the women were VERY conservative and wife material in those days. I don't think anything is wrong with the former, but it almost ge… | /r/RPChristians | 14/01/21 05:18 PM |
| 15 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectBut, what are some solutions? There are no societal solutions. Both conservatives and liberals would laugh you out the building if you wanted to ban sex before marriage or no fault divorce and other such things as you said. The good thing is that Christ did not call us to change society but to make disciples. So we should use our influence wisely to teach our wives and children and those we disciple to stick closely to God's precepts so that they don't go down the road of destruction. | /r/RPChristians | 14/01/21 12:45 AM |
| 11 | Young Relationship Advice (venting)Young Relationship Advice (venting) Ended up having sex after a few weeks of dating Sounds like you should be repenting not venting. | /r/RPChristians | 14/01/21 12:38 AM |
| 9 | The Demise of Marriage: Cause and EffectThanks, though Dalrock was the man in terms of influence. | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/21 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Why is the single parent rate rising in the US??Just made a post on the demise of marriage that includes almost every reason that marriage is dropping and other things like single parent, cohabitation, and other rates are replacing them. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/kwmu8l/the_demise_of_marriage_cause_and_effect/ | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/21 06:43 PM |
| 7 | Getting your wife back after a separationDuring my separation, I decided that getting my wife back was the priority because then it would allow me to continue working on a red pill marriage. While we were separated, everything was on hold. For me, in that situation, I believe that was the right thing to do. Brother, you're reversing the orders of things here just like most men end up with inverted role relationships or marriages. Getting back with your wife should not be the goal, but it will end up as a possible or likely result. The … | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 07:12 PM |
| 2 | AdulteryMeditate on the Scriptures about forgiveness and God burying sin as deep as the east is from the west. Why worry about it if God doesn't worry about it anymore? Romans 8 is particularly great about how we're set free from the bondage of sin and are now children of God. Forget about what you did, and look forward to what God wants you to do. Then start taking steps to do it, even if it's hard right now. | /r/askRPC | 12/01/21 05:52 PM |
| 3 | AdulteryGod severely punished me with a deep internal pain that comes and goes, but mostly has stayed inside me for the past 4 months. The pain is very similar to how David describes his pain in Psalm 38:1-10. It's a pain that's taken away my energy and motivation. I've made it to the gym a couple of times since and I physically can't workout. I don't have any focus or motivation for any of my typical activities beyond the bare minimum. I can't eat as much as I used to. I only feel this pain in my belly… | /r/askRPC | 12/01/21 03:29 PM |
| 7 | Getting your wife back after a separationIt's just effective advice at achieving a mediocre goal in a very finite, specific set of circumstances. Yup. The big underlying issue I think most men probably won't readily get from the OP's post is that it's results based thinking. Results based thinking can often lead to the exact wrong conclusion. For instance, the common example of if you try to placate your wife as mentioned in the OP. Yes, it will often work for a time, but it's only just that: a time. It's the same patterning as "happy … | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 03:16 PM |
| 5 | Marriage is a disaster and I'm not sure where to go...I'm going to say to you what I've been telling every other man in your situation. Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. And your answers: As of now, my … | /r/RPChristians | 11/01/21 06:04 PM |
| 4 | SERIOUSLY considering leaving Christianity help! [Short]Yes, this is the correct interpretation from the commentary I've seen. Instead, let them sink so low in their actions that it’s clear that they’re the bad one. Yup, gotta remember that Jesus at the end of the day is all about bringing everyone to Himself, and that requires that people understand that they're sinners in need of a Savior. If helping your enemy go overboard helps them realize that they're in the wrong that's the first step to a seed that can grow to repentance. Just slapping you wo… | /r/RPChristians | 11/01/21 05:46 PM |
| 37 | The Laziness of MenTLDR Matthew 7:3 Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and look, the log is in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye! | /r/RPChristians | 08/01/21 04:46 PM |
| 1 | How Men Lose Alpha-Status To Women Naturally In Modern Society And How They Can Get It Back...Sort of.The essence of my essay is that a wife is a liability. When you make oaths on your temple (or upon the labor and offerings from your temple) that submit your will and mark you as a servant in mans kingdom, you make yourself a liability to that organization. You give up your responsibility to that organization. You are under the authority of that organization. That's ignoring that a wife can be a good helper/helpmeet too. Many (perhaps most) wives are liabilities now, but that doesn't mean it sho… | /r/RPChristians | 08/01/21 02:44 AM |
| 2 | How Men Lose Alpha-Status To Women Naturally In Modern Society And How They Can Get It Back...Sort of.Bruh. You're in the frame of the world, worrying about the consequences of the world, and attempting to counteract the world. It's a waste of time. Christians are supposed to be in the world but not of the world. If you're trying to "out alpha" something you're already "beta." You're too invested. You have no outcome independence. Obey the government where you are able that it doesn't conflict with God, but wherever else that is including marriage: Acts 5:29 Peter and the other apostles replied:… | /r/RPChristians | 08/01/21 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Should I go on a date with this girl?Get into the Word! | /r/askRPC | 07/01/21 12:21 AM |
| 1 | How to have a relationship while being redpill?The 'alpha' is a position in a woman's mind about where you stand in her world. Correct. You can't out-alpha the state and the woman has that alpha-god at her disposal, so you can't be an alpha and also give your power to women. False. If the first premise above is correct, both of these must be incorrect. As you said, if a woman has you first in her mind above the state, you have out-alphaed the state. This is why ride or die women will go down guns blazing with their alpha rather than rat him … | /r/RPChristians | 07/01/21 12:19 AM |
| 1 | How to have a relationship while being redpill?Sure. | /r/RPChristians | 07/01/21 12:16 AM |
| 4 | How to have a relationship while being redpill?You're focusing too much on being "RP." If you focus on how to be consistent to what the Bible says -- man is the head of the wife just as Christ is the head of the Church & men should love and honor their wives and wives should submit and respect their husbands -- then you're already going to be in a "RP" frame of mind already because you will be acting as the leader. Women only have what power you give them. The reason men are alpha isn't because they are with or without women. It's because th… | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/21 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Should I go on a date with this girl?Hit the gym dude. Don't worry about appearance for now. It will come. | /r/askRPC | 06/01/21 04:40 PM |
| – | I’m about to marry my LTR, but she’s not a virgin. Next?Locked until OP provides stats. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/21 03:00 AM |
| 3 | Should I go on a date with this girl?I then went to red pill to black pill very fast this year. Reading looksmaxx, bodybuilding, and incel forums messed me up. Drop the majority of any non-Christian RP reading. I realized it was negatively affecting me in like 2014 or 2015, so I stopped and it's helped my faith since then. Get in the Scriptures more. Do you suggest I just drop this girl entirely? If we were to meet and she wasn't repulsed by me I think I would really gain confidence. But if she thought I was too ugly then I would b… | /r/askRPC | 06/01/21 02:57 AM |
| 5 | Should I go on a date with this girl?She's liberal, smokes weed sometimes, and probably has a high N count. Basically a really attractive, liberal, partying sorority girl. Not worth the time if you're looking for a potential spouse. Maybe worth the time if you're open to potentially evangelizing (though NOT missionary dating). Maybe worth the time if you want to practice your social skills. Another factor is that I've been feeling pretty crappy about my appearance lately. Due to learning about black pill stuff. But I thought that i… | /r/askRPC | 05/01/21 06:15 PM |
| 20 | Lactation and intimacybut then I remember about not spilling seed and wasn’t sure if it was a similar thing Spilling seed was not prohibited in the Bible. The sin of Onan was that he was spilling seed so he wouldn't give his brother an heir. This is an offshoot of being a "Kinsman Redeemer" if you want to look that up too. https://www.cgg.org/index.cfm/library/bqa/id/64/why-did-god-slay-onan-genesis-383-10.htm Also, that's part of the Old Covenant, which Christians aren't under, to produce physical offspring for each… | /r/RPChristians | 04/01/21 06:18 AM |
| 3 | How do act when woman are sarcastic, ironic etc. to filter you out?Sure, but most men getting advice here don't have the frame or stats to do that at least quite yet. It's generally better to recommend advice that is the easiest to follow and has the greatest chance of success. Then when frame and stats are better this specific type of thing comes off better. | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/21 05:51 AM |
| 10 | How do act when woman are sarcastic, ironic etc. to filter you out?Agree and amplify typically has better results. Framing it as an attitude problem and being single has a much higher chance of coming off butt hurt as well. | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/21 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Will you circumcise your sons?This is my line of thought as well. It doesn't play a role in being a Christian or salvation. The interesting thing about US hospitals when I was doing research on circumcision is that they consider it a "cosmetic procedure" though when I was reading through different studies on the topics it showed that there are some potential medical benefits and the doctors seemingly denied that. Clearly the push is to do away with it from a atheistic/humanistic perspective. Anything that potentially agrees … | /r/RPChristians | 01/01/21 05:41 PM |
| 1 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?So I would like to ask further, based on your knowledge, which one do you think is more preferable? The bear mode, which isn't very lean, usually hairy, overall pretty manly build or the lean, "aesthetic" look that most juicy bodybuilders represent? I mean, both would seem reasonable to me. Like compare Baywatch Zac Efron with his later physique: here. The latter one would require stacking up as much muscle as possible, while not getting fat, but not being lean. However at other places I heard p… | /r/askRPC | 26/12/20 11:20 PM |
| 2 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?Then the author goes on to describe the factors that play into the arousal of women - but there is no exact body type that girls prefer. There are girls who like guys who are fit with a six pack, but they are turned off by guys who are overly muscular. There are girls who go for guys that are bodybuilder big. There are girls who like guys with a dadbod. Now, I know the red pill community likes to claim that the more muscles a guy has and the leaner he is, the more objectively attractive he is to… | /r/askRPC | 26/12/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?Yes, I have a bunch of experience in this area doing it with my own marriage (and my wife and I having a great sex life!) and helping others through here and real world so why not post a lot when people need help :) | /r/askRPC | 25/12/20 12:28 PM |
| 3 | Why did you chose to incorporate the belief system of the red pill community into your life?I wrote one of the posts rocknrollchuck mentioned: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/g51gme/genuinely_curious_about_your_philosophies_not/fo15t1m/ My personal story is that I noticed a lot of incongruencies on Church dating and marriage advice that clearly did not work, and I found that though much of the secular manosphere was mired in immorality they understand correctly how attractive works. Women are not "attracted to godliness" and "wait on God to bring you a spouse" like many … | /r/askRPC | 25/12/20 12:57 AM |
| 7 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?I've been reading Christian relationships stories, and I have noticed how Christians who didn't fornicate before marriage found out after getting married that they weren't sexually compatible with their partner. 1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of sexual immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. 3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise the wife also to her husband. Because of sexual immoralities infers... Find each other attracti… | /r/askRPC | 25/12/20 12:51 AM |
| 1 | How long did you wait till the next pregnancy?Yeah, my wife's period was delayed significantly after her pregnancy. The doctors made it seem like a second kid was a common sickness instead of a blessing. That's the world for you. | /r/askRPC | 21/12/20 09:53 PM |
| 3 | RP Christians and the Black PillMaybe an issue. If you think it's a big deal and affects confidence that much you should potentially consider shaving your head and see if that can work for you. I've seen men get married despite that | /r/RPChristians | 20/12/20 04:48 PM |
| 2 | RP Christians and the Black PillIt seems like women are more constrained in terms of what they can do to raise their attractiveness, at least physically. Maybe. Since men's attraction to women is primarily physical, facial attractiveness is usually important to most men. That can't be changed, but there are ways to frame it better with hair style, skin care routine, jewelry to a certain extent, maybe light make up, and such. Women do want handsome men, but a man's masculinity or money does increase a woman's attractiveness rat… | /r/RPChristians | 20/12/20 05:39 AM |
| 2 | RP Christians and the Black PillInteresting, but aren't a large portion of women overweight too? Yes, but generally assortive mating occurs in that people will generally pair off with someone with similar attractiveness. Yes, there are some EAPs ("evangelical american princess") or similar denominational women, but the more attractive you are the more attractive women will want to date and/or marry you. Just avoid the EAPs who would think if Jesus was here Himself He wouldn't be worthy to date her. But it seems like from some … | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/20 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Help with this sub?You can post here if you put in all of the stats (on the sidebar) that are required to for relationship or marriage help and describe the issues more thoroughly. If it's just some simple questions then you can post over at /r/askrpc | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/20 11:03 PM |
| 5 | RP Christians and the Black PillYeah, if you even just start to look like you work out you're ahead of the game and will get some decent interest usually. However, keep striving at that point and get to where it looks like you're muscular and the attraction definitely comes. | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/20 02:11 PM |
| 14 | RP Christians and the Black PillNot going to rehash everything that has been said so I'll give some more insight. The Black Pill is narcissism by making your looks an idol except in a negative way rather than a positive way. It's not really hard to get into the top 20% of men even looks wise with a below average to average face. 70% of the adult population is already overweight or obese. Most men don't have any sort of fashion or grooming sense. Decent discipline will get you there in a year or less. | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/20 05:11 AM |
| 1 | How long did you wait till the next pregnancy?But the doctors and online articles seem to think we need to wait at least a year before second conception. I've never seen any scientific basis for this in terms of health. It's usually cause the mom is working and too frazzled to handle another kid straight off which are not biological issues. Breastfeeding tends to do this for you anyway. Many women don't have their period for several months up to a year after pregnancy because they are beastfeeding. Anyway, you're never going to get a defini… | /r/askRPC | 18/12/20 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Book recommendations for my single brotherDon't get Tim Keller's books. Dalrock has done numerous take downs of his stuff too. | /r/RPChristians | 14/12/20 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Book recommendations for my single brotherDon't go for this. The Masculinist did a take down of Wild at Heart: https://www.aaronrenn.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/The-Masculinist-33-Wild-at-Heart-and-the-White-Knight-Mentality.pdf | /r/RPChristians | 14/12/20 05:58 PM |
| 2 | My StoryJoin us on the discord: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/ia1omz/official_rpc_discord/ | /r/RPChristians | 13/12/20 03:44 AM |
| 2 | My StoryYup, sounds like you have a good handle on things at the moment! Keep up the good fight. | /r/RPChristians | 12/12/20 09:57 PM |
| 10 | My StoryA huge breakthrough for me was realizing that Jesus was a sacrificial servant, but never let anyone else define what that meant for Him. He served people the way His Father in heaven called Him to, and a lot of the time other people didn’t like this at all. I always harp on it but... Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He mig… | /r/RPChristians | 12/12/20 07:57 PM |
| 1 | 21 M, need general life advice, thinking of hooking upYes my faith has been lacking. Covid isn't helping but that's not an excuse. I've been having doubts, normally they don't bother me but recently with learning about RP it has a bit. Scarcity mentality is definitely a problem, but how can I have abundance mentality when it seems like no one is out there? I feel desperate like I would want to marry the first attractive, Christian woman who came my way Mission is everything man. If you're so focused on serving Jesus, girls becomes much less importa… | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/20 06:41 PM |
| 3 | 21 M, need general life advice, thinking of hooking upIt's not that hard to be top 20% in the Church nowadays What do you mean by this? There's numerous factors. Bible verses are taking out of context to say physical appearance is not important whereas spirituality is, so you tend to have more overweight and obese men and women. Most Churches are engaged in churchianity - playing church and marrying the culture with the Bible and not based in Jesus' mission for us which is evangelism and discipleship. Complementarianism and egalitarianism (as oppos… | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/20 06:35 PM |
| 8 | 21 M, need general life advice, thinking of hooking upMission, bro? You answered everything on the sidebar except the most important thing. So this has led me to thinking of going for a hookup. I'm so tired of being beta and only dating nice but unattractive Christian girls. I feel a strong urge to just remake my dating profiles, hit the gym, and go for a hottie or even just a decently cute girl to bring to my room. I know that's wrong, I do believe in my faith but I just don't know how much longer I can stay on the right path. You need to evaluate… | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/20 05:00 AM |
| 3 | 23 year old woman desperately looking for help.I know that. Still, it is hard to accept things. I am weak. I have my boyfriend (who still has a lot to learn, he is by no means an authority, but is better than me in this regard) to guide me, and I try my hardest. You are not weak. This is false humility. In reality, you are being prideful that you believe that you think you are more than Christ's work for us. You said it yourself: you can do everything by yourself, you are trying to do good works to earn salvation, you think you are a good wo… | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/20 06:06 AM |
| 2 | 23 year old woman desperately looking for help.Wedding Courthouse and private ceremony is fairly standard for marriage if you want to make it official. Regardless of the 'churches' there are not Christian, God would witness any ceremony you had. The courthouse or such a 'church' makes no difference because they are both by unbelievers. The important part is generally witnesses and hopefully a community of family and friends. Spiritual: I have always read a lot of philosophy. Maturity? I guess very? I can do everything by myself. I pray every… | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/20 03:59 AM |
| 0 | Can a Christian man....That would be impossible since God created marriage, and we have instances of both Christians with other Christians and Christians with unbelievers in the Scriptures. | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/20 03:44 AM |
| 5 | Need some guidance about my relationship. Please RP me.Are we not supposed to show the same love, grace and forgiveness that God shows us? How can we judge women we date for their sin if God views all sin in the same light? This is a false equivocation. You are right that Christians are to love and forgive others that come to Christ. However, this does not mean you should or have to marry someone. Marriage is one of the top 2-3 most important decisions you make in your life. It's pretty clear statistically that women who have been promiscuous are a … | /r/RPChristians | 04/12/20 06:22 PM |
| 20 | Need some guidance about my relationship. Please RP me.You want a RP response? You shouldn't be having sex before marriage period. You need to make this commitment to God, and if any woman tries to pressure you into having sex you should dump her. She told you about her past, you should have moved on. Her behavior is clearly not Christian nor different from her past - she's still sleeping around and doing clearly immoral things. You should have moved on. She lies to you or is deceitful. You rebuke it. If she doesn't repent and change her ways, you m… | /r/RPChristians | 04/12/20 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Adjusting Volume and Set Effort(training to Failure or close) with sleep issues and broken SleepYou need to find something that is sustainable in the long run so cutting back might be the best bet and then finding the volume where there are no sleep disruptions. Then going from there if you need to add some volume. Work capacity should improve from there. Sets across is better to manage fatigue. You don't need to be sore for improvements in strength and muscle mass either. | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/20 04:07 AM |
| 3 | Can a Christian man....I think we're pretty much on the same page then. Socially and historically speaking, yes. But for Biblical reference, you still need to show me a Bible verse, not a statistic. I agree with statistic, I agree with marrying virgin is better for marriage, for both men and women. But still for Biblical reference, it's still need to be a Bible verse, not statistic or what our mind think. I confirm with virginity is better, I never denied it. But for Biblical reference, it's still need to be a Bible v… | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/20 04:05 AM |
| 3 | Can a Christian man....I find it interesting that non-practicing religious people tend to be worse than non-believing people. You're not wrong. It's been my impression that most of the Christians in Churches aren't true Christians. I was one myself for years. For most of western Christianity, it seems like the majority in Church are there for buffet Christianity - pick and choose what you want, prosperity gospel thinking that God will make you rich, the social club (sunday only Christians), or are trying to be religio… | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/20 03:55 AM |
| 3 | Adjusting Volume and Set Effort(training to Failure or close) with sleep issues and broken SleepAlthough it's a normal amount of volume, it can be too much if you're going to failure every set or not taking enough rest between sets. Those are two things you can fix that you didn't mention, and broken sleep generally means you're not recovering as well so those are two things I'd consider. If it's still an issue, you can try to build up your work capacity by decreasing all sets by 2 and if you're still making progress even on a lower volume that's a good thing in the long run. Then start ad… | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/20 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Adjusting Volume and Set Effort(training to Failure or close) with sleep issues and broken SleepWhat is your workout routine? FYI I'm ADHD and OCD if that matters Adding in meditation and deep breathing should help a lot. | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/20 11:14 PM |
| 7 | Abandonment > Abundance?You're close. God's mission is the most important above all because we committed to follow Him ("take up your cross and follow me"). Most Christians now simply gloss over it, but "taking up your cross" means you were taking your cross to your execution as Jesus did. When you truly realize how important God's mission for us is and how we're supposed to be committed to it, asking out a girl and getting rejected or having your girlfriend leave you is nothing. It's only men who put the women woman o… | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/20 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Dating as a Single ChristianYes. The general section isn't too active, but after you post an Introduction and OYS you're given access to couple dozen more channels. At least one voice chat Bible study is going on most days going over the Scripture and some of the sidebar material, and I'd say half the channels are active at least every day. | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/20 11:05 PM |
| 3 | Can a Christian man....There's no Biblical reference of marrying a virgin is best for your best interest. That debatable. Israelite women were supposed to be virgins at marriage. We can corroborate God's wisdom for that with statistical evidence now that shows virgin women divorce at a much lower rate at 5% for virgins vs. 20%-40%+ for all others. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability What if she had a lot of sexual experiences but that was before C… | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/20 10:59 PM |
| 4 | Can a Christian man....How are you supposed to "find" a virgin? I've analyzed this before. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2018/01/07/review-of-vetting-virgins-and-new-info-on-virginity-pledges/ At least in Southern Baptists Churches when the study was reviewed, it seems that around 30-40% of women in the 21-24ish range were virgins at marriage. A solid percentage and one that I would expect for regular Church-goers since they were younger. Should be way higher obviously, but I'm not surprised it's not given we're … | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/20 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Can a Christian man....The only other thing I took into consideration is the in 1 Corinthians 7 about a spouse being an unbeliever. That, I'm not sure. It seems like she piggybacked off my relationship with God...only wanting to read the Bible when I did and sometimes me only reading out loud to her...unless she was letting me lead. I just cant recall her taking initiative except maybe in the beginning. Her actions at the beginning of the seperation speak more. She started drinking, cussing, spending money on tattoos,… | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/20 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Dating as a Single ChristianPersonally, I'm always looking to go up in weight but what standard is used for the lifts? Symmetric Strength? It's weird though, I seen those pictures from Legion and (I think) Ripped Body and see myself as somewhere around 15% or 16% but the measurements say 19%. I suppose it's a moot point since I have to bulk, catch-22. Symmetric strength is good. The good part is that interest will tend to go up and down in waves, but if you chart it then it will still go up at least a linear fashion over t… | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/20 04:48 AM |
| 9 | Can a Christian man....Can I remarry after my wife has cheated on me during the separation period and she’s planning on divorcing me? I have read what has been written in Matthew 19 and 1st Corinthians 7, but have heard different views on these passages. Depends on your denomination. Protestants are all over the place. Catholic is no. Orthodox is no, but recognize that it's easy to fall into sin so possible 2nd marriage is allowed but it's not celebratory but penitent. Personally, having studied the Scriptures on this… | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/20 04:22 AM |
| 3 | RP Advice on Attraction/ConversationYeah, maybe plan a workout time where you do your stuff and she does her physical therapy and other workout exercises at the same time | /r/RPChristians | 01/12/20 05:57 PM |
| 2 | RP Advice on Attraction/ConversationYou should build that into this relationship or any future relationship - you should be consulting godly friends and family for wisdom for relationships. Going it alone tends to not work out so well in the long run, and you do want to be involved with community. Yeah, sometimes people can get nosy or up into other people's business too much, but that's not a reason not to get good counsel when you need it | /r/RPChristians | 01/12/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Dating as a Single Christian19% BF (currently bulking to 20%) Squat: 230; Deadlift: 240; Bench: 200; OHP: 125; Pullups: 10 (max set) Yeah, your lifts are low so you have a bunch of room to grow muscle. Generally, unless you're fairly muscular or husky already, women's attraction tends to wax and wane with BF%. I've noticed personally and written on it that you tend to start getting some interest at 12-15%, kicks up a notch at 10-12% and then you really start getting a bunch generally at 7-10% cause you see more and more mu… | /r/RPChristians | 01/12/20 04:10 AM |
| 2 | RP Advice on Attraction/ConversationYeah. I can see that. I think she’d be pretty devastated if she knew I was talking about this on the freakin internet. Why? If you get wise counsel then it shouldn't matter where you get it from. | /r/RPChristians | 01/12/20 03:40 AM |
| 3 | RP Advice on Attraction/ConversationEarly on like within a few months of dating. Same with going over the Scriptures as pertains to husband and wife. I recommend single men constantly escalate expectations early on in a relationship because you want to know if they are at least going to want to attempt to be a good follower to you or not. If not you can just drop them pretty quick. I've been working on getting in shape since the beginning of July - got my BF down from 30% to 22.5% so far. Working on trying to gain muscle for now s… | /r/RPChristians | 01/12/20 12:00 AM |
| – | Devastating BreakupLocked until you post your stats. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. S… | /r/RPChristians | 30/11/20 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Dating as a Single ChristianHow is this balanced with the "approach" mindset? Once you receive some IOIs you approach? Other than a couple of non-Christians and a single mom (came back to the faith after becoming pregnant, surprise), I've never been approached by a woman I was truly interested in. It was the other way around and it resulted in nothing or literal ghosting. It's easier if you make it a mindset. If you're standing in line at a store, make some small talk. Like I said in the comment you replied to, you should … | /r/RPChristians | 30/11/20 04:00 AM |
| 4 | RP Advice on Attraction/ConversationThe hard thing for me is that she doesn’t seem to know how to do it with topics of her own. For example when we talk, I usually leave lapses in the convo just naturally to gauge interests. I have tried to help her bridge into other topics with these lapses. But she just doesn’t get it. As far as social interactions go, sometimes I feel like I need to answer for her. I don’t like feeling responsible for that. Could this get better? Or is it somethin I will have to decide on? I'd just ask her abou… | /r/RPChristians | 29/11/20 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Dating as a Single ChristianI hear some people say that I should have a Monk Mode mentality like in some of the sidebar posts, to chase after my Mission (and not after women) and that I will gain potential options for a LTR/Wife in the process. This is generally a good choice if you are new to the faith, your career, working out, or other things and need to time establish yourself and get good things going. Be open to a relationship if it potentially comes up but don't go out of your way as it's usually the case that the w… | /r/RPChristians | 28/11/20 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Dating as a Single Christian"Good" Christian girl, who goes straight for beta bucks Most Christian women eventually go for this, but don't mistake that they are happy about it. That's why there's so much complaining about "where did the good men go?" That why men who actually care about being in the top 10-20% have many more opportunities than your average joe schmo Christian man | /r/RPChristians | 28/11/20 08:54 PM |
| 8 | RP Advice on Attraction/ConversationI struggle in a few ways. Firstly, I feel like most of the time she is just listening to me talk. In my single 20s up until meeting her I really put forth a lot of time learning how to analyze different topics from theology to economics. I don’t want to be a person that talks people’s ear off if theyre not interested. So I kinda struggle because although I know she is listening (her recall is fantastic) I feel as if she expects me to carry the weight of not only our conversations but our social … | /r/RPChristians | 28/11/20 08:48 PM |
| 9 | *I am 15 Year Old Christian and I am starting To LOSE MY FAITH. Some encouragement and Advice would Help Tremendously*Suffering - The problem of suffering is a very long topic, but it's something that people -- regardless of Christian nor not -- have struggled with for millennia. Overall, God allows the consequences of our actions to affect others. There are times when people sin and hurt other directly or indirectly, but it seems the hardest cases for people to swallow are that we live in a fallen world and seemingly purely innocent people like starving kids or kids with cancer can happen. We honestly don't kn… | /r/RPChristians | 28/11/20 08:36 PM |
| 4 | Start Thinking Like A Churchian ApostateNo, they may be deceived or rebellious but they still need the real Jesus as do other sinners. | /r/RPChristians | 26/11/20 05:40 PM |
| 0 | Approaching christian women online.The best way is if he can ask her if she's interested in meeting other singles, and if she is then have him hype you up as your wingman. Pre-selection as it's finest. This is by far the best option, but there are others if your friend doesn't want to help you out more. I messaged my wife first online, and I would not recommend any sort of compliment at all whether on her appearance or her work. Once you compliment a woman in any form she will either subconsciously or consciously know that you're… | /r/RPChristians | 26/11/20 05:33 PM |
| 4 | Looking for RP Bible Study GroupBible studies on the discord almost everyday. I think there's 2 times at the moment. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/ia1omz/official_rpc_discord/ | /r/RPChristians | 25/11/20 03:42 AM |
| 3 | Just for fun -- Is this the most BluePill song EVER?From Cardi B's wiki: Cardi B is Catholic;[250] she has mentioned her "strong relationship" with God in interviews, often saying that she directly communicates with God.[251][252][253] Per 1 John 4, I don't think that's God she's communicating with. | /r/RPChristians | 24/11/20 12:34 AM |
| 7 | Polygyny as a cure.I've seen an argument by a Greek scholar that the verse should actually read; married to his FIRST wife. Instead of married to one wife. Implying stability in the home and that he has not sent her back to her father for displeasing him. Grasping for straws. This is dubious "scholarship" just like the ones on divorce. Even if that was the case, polygamy is a bad witness both to Christians and non-Christians and not to mention illegal. Paul is all about arguing to not cause others to stumble becau… | /r/RPChristians | 22/11/20 07:07 PM |
| 11 | Polygyny as a cure.Polygyny, like divorce in the Law of Moses, was permitted but it is in no way the ideal. 3 Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” 4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but… | /r/RPChristians | 21/11/20 10:15 PM |
| 9 | Leadership isn't about competence?Piper is right and wrong. Like most ministry in the Bible is not about competence (at least at first) but willingness. Jesus chose a bunch of fisherman, a tax collector, and other outcasts as disciples. However, the process ultimately result in competence. Jesus didn't think they were unqualified because of their jobs or positions, but He did require that they follow Him, learn from Him, be equipped by Him, and be sent out by Him to minister to others. Headship/leadership is similar. God said th… | /r/RPChristians | 21/11/20 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Podcast Debut Today on The Red Pill YouTube channel: Christianity vs. ChurchianityGood intro guys. Might have been useful to have a comparison chart to throw up to summarize all of the talking points. Maybe you still can do it and have them put in the comments? | /r/RPChristians | 19/11/20 03:43 AM |
| 7 | Is the fact that most Christians are cucks a misinterpretation of Christianity?Falling into various evils is something that is always present no matter where and when the Church (body of believers) is. Remember, the whole NT, especially Paul's and the apostle's epistles and Revelation 2 and 3, are literally instructing the Church on getting rid of various cultural practices that don't honor God. The same is true of the Church in the US, Europe, Africa, Asia, and so on. Just different areas. | /r/RPChristians | 18/11/20 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Joining the military during the coronahoax?coronahoax Come on dude. | /r/askRPC | 16/11/20 06:52 AM |
| 6 | Been trying to focus on myself and God; resist every form of temptation and approach.First, here's the process: Ephesians 4:17 So I say this, and affirm in the Lord, that you are to no longer walk just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their minds, 18 being darkened in their understanding, excluded from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart; 19 and they, having become callous, have given themselves up to indecent behavior for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness. 20 But you did not learn Chr… | /r/askRPC | 16/11/20 06:46 AM |
| 7 | PSA: Stop thinking about dating non-Christian girls. It’s pointless.The real battle comes when it's between two supposed believers. I do believe that there is such a thing as two believers being unequally yoked. Sort of but your example is of a "believer" who is not a believer. Let's say there's this Christian girl whom he wants to pursue. And while she may be Christian, she isn't necessarily someone who's very interested in seeking God's will for her life or building a relationship with God. She doesn't care much about growing in character and in faith in the L… | /r/RPChristians | 16/11/20 03:59 AM |
| 4 | Christian roommate refuses to be alone with a girl, pressures me to chaperoneGotta get your pastor to sit him down and tell him that he shouldn't be going hyper-legalistic in response to his past sins. | /r/askRPC | 15/11/20 08:43 PM |
| 1 | RPC’s Solution for ‘Dopamine Addiction’Can this process be done alone or does it always require the help of a brother in Christ or the wider Church? Ultimately, you are responsible for yourself to God. But there are a significant number of "one another" verses in the Bible that you need to be engaged in good fellowship too. I laid bare my known faults, over the course of many years, to brothers within the church. Following Jesus’ command in Matthew, I started one on one with a pastor, then with individual elders, then with a group of… | /r/askRPC | 14/11/20 07:54 PM |
| 5 | RPC’s Solution for ‘Dopamine Addiction’First, here's the process: Ephesians 4:17 So I say this, and affirm in the Lord, that you are to no longer walk just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their minds, 18 being darkened in their understanding, excluded from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart; 19 and they, having become callous, have given themselves up to indecent behavior for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness. 20 But you did not learn Chr… | /r/askRPC | 14/11/20 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Christian roommate refuses to be alone with a girl, pressures me to chaperoneSure, hang out for a couple of hours. Sure, check in him by text. Take off an entire week? You better be asking him if he's going to pay you for your lost wages. She's spending a decent chunk of change driving out. Least he can do is get a motel for her or if maybe stay with family or friends if he can find a place for her if he thinks the temptation is too much. | /r/askRPC | 14/11/20 05:45 PM |
| 5 | HillSong Pastor Carl Lentz' LoverI assumed he was replying to the quote I quoted in which case my comment makes more sense, but if he was replying to my unicorn comment then you're correct. | /r/RPChristians | 13/11/20 01:05 AM |
| -3 | HillSong Pastor Carl Lentz' LoverYou read it wrong. He said he was friends with the Kardashians to impress her. LOL | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/20 11:20 PM |
| 12 | HillSong Pastor Carl Lentz' LoverSpeaking of unicorns, She said he called her his “Middle Eastern unicorn woman” and told her she reminded him of his friends the Kardashians, which bothered her. “I don’t like when people drop names,” she said, noting that she used to work bottle service in Manhattan and has celebrity friends, too. Thinking any woman is a unicorn always leads to pedestalization and sin. | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/20 06:51 PM |
| 2 | A wife struggling with sex in her marriageTake heart. Most women don't orgasm during intercourse, so if you can that's already a good thing :) | /r/askRPC | 12/11/20 03:38 AM |
| 2 | A wife struggling with sex in her marriageHey, hopefully I'm not too late that you don't see this! Female 25 145lbs, not sure bf%, though not overweight, I am curvy and husband is satisfied with my body. Married 4 years. You should improve on that regardless. More sexual attraction can increase a husband's willingness to do more. Same with vice versa if he was here asking about your sexual attraction to him. I did genuinely enjoy delighting my husband. I still do find moments of joy in that. I love seeing that I can make him happy sexua… | /r/askRPC | 11/11/20 08:52 PM |
| 2 | How do you personally stay motivated to read the bible?Get on a dedicated Bible study plan. /u/rocknrollchuck has one that he uses that he has shared before | /r/askRPC | 02/11/20 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Root of bitternessGet into the Bible. If your eyes are focused on Jesus, you'll have the fruit of the Spirit - love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, humility, and self control. Ultimately, we are all broken and lied to. That's what Jesus came and died for. He came for you and your wife and for all of the people that have lied to us. The best thing we can do moving forward is to set an example in our marriages so that they can see the power and truth of Him. | /r/askRPC | 02/11/20 05:42 PM |
| 4 | Do you believe that God is as active in interacting with the world in this modern era compared to when the Bible was being written?/r/TrueChristian would be better for all of the basic faith questions you are asking. The general Christian response is yes. God is working His plan through everything. | /r/askRPC | 02/11/20 05:40 PM |
| 3 | How do you personally stay motivated to read the bible?How do you personally stay motivated to read the bible? There's your problem. Motivation comes and goes. Habits and discipline are what you need. If something is good for you especially of eternal value, then do it everyday. | /r/askRPC | 02/11/20 05:37 PM |
| 2 | I’m curious if I’m allowed to share what I feel like is a divinely-inspired message here on this subreddit 🤔Resurrection of Jesus and reliability of the gospels. Also, read 1 Corinthians 15 as it explains why Jesus resurrection matters to Christians and everyone. | /r/RPChristians | 02/11/20 05:36 PM |
| 2 | I’m curious if I’m allowed to share what I feel like is a divinely-inspired message here on this subreddit 🤔I truthfully do not know with 100% certainty which religion is true/valid or even if any of them are. It is within the realm of my possibilities that even Islam stands a slight chance of being the true/valid religion. That should be the first thing you do then. Stop going to other subs and trying to change people's views when you don't even know what you believe. Read the Bible. From a Christian perspective, Mike Licona has stuff on evidence of the resurrection. https://www.youtube.com/c/milico8… | /r/RPChristians | 02/11/20 06:00 AM |
| 3 | How a ban from a Mormon subreddit led to my ban on TRP-proper (the main red pill subreddit)Bro. You're about to get a ban from us too. None of your posts have to do anything with the purpose of this sub: We are a subreddit that exists to provide a place for Christians to discuss problems, solutions and insights on relationships, sex, and biblical masculinity according to biblical principles. We already told you to quit posting in other subs and proselytizing other groups. If you continue to do that then you'll be banned. Consider this a final warning. | /r/RPChristians | 02/11/20 03:40 AM |
| 3 | I’m curious if I’m allowed to share what I feel like is a divinely-inspired message here on this subreddit 🤔No not yet, but I plan to be because their religion can control its members tendency toward embracing hedonism whereas our religion can not/does not. How about you plan to be something because it's true rather than other things. | /r/RPChristians | 02/11/20 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Confessing sexual sinIt's not grounds for divorce. Matthew 19:4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.” 1 Corinthians 7:10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wif… | /r/askRPC | 01/11/20 11:22 PM |
| 11 | Confessing sexual sinNo one size fits all answer. Some wives are mature enough Christians to handle it. Most aren't and may even weaponize it against the husband such as denying sex or making threats. God and accountability partner are best in most circumstances. | /r/askRPC | 01/11/20 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersDeep_strength, somewhere above you asked about my involvement in church and evangelism. There were a couple years I was heavily involved in local mission stuff and discipling. My marriage was worse then. I was barely making ends meat and I didn't make time for my family. It was chaotic. Since then my attitude has changed to being open to opportunities for evangelism instead of seeking them. I think you're conflating two things here. If you have crap frame with your wife while you are heavily dis… | /r/RPChristians | 30/10/20 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersI don't think you're wrong in most what you're saying, but most of these things are the cherry on the top or at least the upper part of the pyramid. Most of the stuff I'm talking about is grounding the fundamentals into husbands which is the base of the pyramid. I think the usual thing to keep in mind is the giving flowers analogy. If an attractive man gives a woman flowers he's romantic. If an unattractive man gives a woman flowers he's a creep. No amount of "communication" is going to help a w… | /r/RPChristians | 29/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 4 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersInterestingly enough Deep_Strength, I am by far the most physically attractive man she has been with according to her, but obviously I drop the ball big time in all the other areas that are needed for attraction. Yes to the bold. Keep working on physique as it can help -- the hotter you are, the harder it is to say no even still -- but your main priorities should be on leading by example and removing other unattractive behavior. | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 10:07 PM |
| 3 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersIf talking really doesn't work 99% of the time there is likely a crucial communication problem. Spouses need to be able to talk, and it's often not about advice. That is part of what it means to be one with your spouse. Being able to express yourselves and problem solve. I mean, in all honesty, how can a man expect his wife to be a help mate if she doesn't know what she is helping with. How do you expect to find resolve in such an important martial problem which involves the background of your w… | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersGo be clear "mission" was mission of the post, not mission of my life. Mission: Feeling grieved of being the runner up with my wife's passion. Hard to feel like I want to continue sacrificing for her with no reciprocation on her part. How to change this or get over it? Current mission is raising a godly home and producing fruit with godly children that will live for Him. I strive to lead my home well for the sake of the name of Jesus. Both of these are still wife/home focused which is treading w… | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 09:52 PM |
| 8 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersMaybe she doesn't enjoy giving bj's and did so in the past out of fear? I mean you say you want her best - maybe her best is not giving BJ's. Maybe she hated herself while doing it. I don't know if that's the case, just guessing. This is literally RP101. Women are more enthusiastic about having sex and doing various sexual acts for men they are more attracted to. Ergo, OP is more unattractive than her previous sexual partners for various reasons. | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 08:38 PM |
| 5 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersTalk to your wife about this and let her know how you feel. In the end, if there's love you'll make it and if not then idk. The reason why I think you're getting downvoted is because he has talked about it with her and it isn't working. Also, talking doesn't work 99%+ of the time. It must be backed up by actionable advice. | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 06:14 PM |
| 30 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersMission: Feeling grieved of being the runner up with my wife's passion. Hard to feel like I want to continue sacrificing for her with no reciprocation on her part. How to change this or get over it? This is by far your biggest issue. Your wife is not your mission. God's mission is your mission. Some examples: What role are you playing in God's mission to make disciples of all nations? Are you part of a Church? Are you evangelizing? Are you helping to disciple others? What are your gifts of the S… | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 06:05 PM |
| 13 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. These are the stats you need to add… | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Look at what they do, not what they sayPeople lie for any number of reasons. When women turn down men for a date it could be a hypergamy. It could also be because they have a hard time saying no so they give a waffling answer. Who knows. Depends on the person probably, but there's usually not one single reason why people are lying. | /r/RPChristians | 24/10/20 02:21 PM |
| 6 | How much do you share here on this subreddit regarding your personal beliefs about women?Stop going to other subs. Read your Bible and ground your faith. | /r/RPChristians | 24/10/20 02:19 PM |
| 5 | How to handle delusional Christians? (honest answers only please)This is probably one of the most popular by number of comments: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2015/09/01/doom-and-gloom-and-the-amount-of-attractive-christian-virgins/ These few are probably some of the more important at least for men who are looking to be married. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/actionable-steps-to-finding-a-wife/ | /r/RPChristians | 24/10/20 02:43 AM |
| 12 | How to handle delusional Christians? (honest answers only please)All good brother. A good read through the New Testament especially the gospels and Acts shows a lot of supernatural occurrences and the scope is pretty vast. You have some of the ones I mentioned but also some things like demonic fortune telling, children throwing themselves into the fire, and things like that. Eph 6 talks about that our struggle is not with flesh and blood but spiritual powers. I would keep an open mind and don't assume that everything is cut and dry to some specific things. Wh… | /r/RPChristians | 23/10/20 10:15 PM |
| 6 | The impact of being Christian while dating.From my experience, it's easier in the sense that you're more selective because you want a woman who puts God first and is walking the walk. She will actually have some developed character and virtue. This also makes it easier and better because your selectiveness is simultaneously decreasing your divorce risk at the same time. However, also from my experience, it's more difficult in the sense that since you're more selective there's much less candidates and it can feel like you're a fish in the… | /r/RPChristians | 23/10/20 09:45 PM |
| 18 | How to handle delusional Christians? (honest answers only please)where she said a demon was inside her that made her as powerful as 3 grown men who were fighting her Mark 5:They went across the lake to the region of the Gerasenes. 2 When Jesus got out of the boat, a man with an impure spirit came from the tombs to meet him. 3 This man lived in the tombs, and no one could bind him anymore, not even with a chain. 4 For he had often been chained hand and foot, but he tore the chains apart and broke the irons on his feet. No one was strong enough to subdue him. 5… | /r/RPChristians | 23/10/20 09:40 PM |
| 29 | Look at what they do, not what they sayBut doesn't that make them liars by default? If my actions and words are not congruent, wouldn't that make me a liar and untrustable? Or is it only women who are not consciously aware of RP concepts that we need to observer this way, where as a feminine RP woman will not be this way? No. The majority of the time when you meet someone, man or woman, you'll talk with them first. The goal is to evaluate what they say and usually later you'll see if they back it up with their actions. In other words… | /r/RPChristians | 22/10/20 10:45 PM |
| 13 | “Alphas” at gym, “betas” at lifeThere's diminishing returns at everything. If you get to a place where you're happy with your physique and it has been effective at helping you meet your goals (leading by example, attract and maintain attraction with a wife, be disciplined, build willpower, good example in ministry, etc.) then you can always just dial back training and diet to maintain. You don't shouldn't have to let yourself go or give it up. It takes way less time to maintain which is about 1-2x a week at most with less sets… | /r/RPChristians | 22/10/20 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Advice for feeling guilty for wanting to break upThe weight conversation Should have mentioned that! "Hey I noticed you've been putting on some weight (if you've done the same you can mention it too - "both you and I have been putting on some weight"). We should hit the gym and figure our some nutritional strategies so we can stay attractive for each other." Going with the "you're getting fat" is too blunt for most women. If you word it kindly like the above, women will almost always be able to read the underlying context that she's been putti… | /r/RPChristians | 20/10/20 12:13 AM |
| 12 | Divorce on the table?Come on man it's been 3 days since your previous post. As other people have said, you are going Rambo. These things take time. 8 years will take at least several months up to a year or longer. Even if you're making big changes you don't have to be overt with them all the time. The biggest way Jesus modeled is to lead by example. You don't necessarily need to be talking much, but showing with your actions you're going to lead the marriage and care about her. but rather she felt as though I was co… | /r/RPChristians | 19/10/20 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Advice for feeling guilty for wanting to break upIdeally, you don't enter these situations in the first place because you are intentional with any of your dating or courting or whatever you want to call it. Having conversations about it isn't that hard though. You just sit down and talk. Ask her and help her ponder her motivations for marrying and her potential range of years she would be comfortable with engagement and marrying. Bring up your own and your thoughts on progressing the relationship in your timing. If they don't match up that wel… | /r/RPChristians | 19/10/20 04:30 PM |
| 3 | Where to go from here?Well, their are 2 relationships that I care about, and that is God and my wife, God commanded us to go and make disciples of all nations, so if He cares about your relationships with others maybe you should too. and I'm pretty confident neither one of them care about this. Everyone thinks their wife doesn't care until they build more muscle. Most of the time a wife will says she doesn't care, but when you do the results are clear as day. Remember: don't listen to what they say, watch what they d… | /r/RPChristians | 18/10/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Where to go from here?It has nothing to do with christianity That's an obtuse statement. I just explained how it increases your influence in relationships in various good ways as a Christian. Is it required to be saved? Nah. Is it a good idea in the vast majority of circumstances on your mission? Yes. | /r/RPChristians | 18/10/20 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Where to go from here?Ignore at your own peril my man | /r/RPChristians | 18/10/20 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Loving my wife like Christ loves the ChurchIt sounds like OP was trying to justify his situation to this group by using his according thinking and actions, and that coupled with the other things I’ve seen posted here lead me to believe this is the kind of thinking being instructed here. But if I’m wrong, please correct me. Most posts here will be men trying to figure out their situation which is inherently steeped in feminist and chivalry dogma. That's the whole point to help them out. As RC said, if any of the mods or endorsed say that … | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/20 05:29 PM |
| 6 | Loving my wife like Christ loves the ChurchWhat does that have to do with this sub? Most of the men who come here (aside from the trolls at least) are trying to take off the feminist and chivalry lens they have on. Hopefully this guy ain't trolling and is here to learn. | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/20 05:54 AM |
| 5 | Loving my wife like Christ loves the ChurchThis "Christian Redpill" subreddit needs to stop being feminists who worship women instead of God, like our culture does. Huh? | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/20 05:44 AM |
| 19 | Loving my wife like Christ loves the ChurchRead your Bible man. It's literally explained right there. What does it mean to love your wife like Christ loves the Church? Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought a… | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/20 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Where to go from here?My mission is to place myself in the position where God can best use me to advance his Kingdom, regardless of position, and in doing so draw so near to God that the desires of the flesh actually don't hold power over me, and spiritual renewal and transformation creates a new person who is positive, joyful, happy, and thereby magnetic. To answer this question fully, I'm unable to discern why I need a woman to accomplish this, considering I'm already somewhat on track, and my current wife is for t… | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/20 03:18 AM |
| 3 | Where to go from here?That means you didn't read the sidebar. Here's a link from it: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/9l4fij/lifting_is_not_a_suggestion/ TL;DR The main reason why it's including specifically for posts with relationship issues is that your physical appearance plays a rather role in influencing your wife both sexually and leading by example. This goes for any position though. If you go to a personal trainer would you be more positively influenced by the ripped athletic looking trainer or … | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 6 | Where to go from here?I'm coming to this sub I suppose for guidance on where to start, and honestly a bit of support. I took a cursory look at the about page and saw some of the beliefs, and I agree with much of what I read. I've been lifting for years. Have a <5% body fat. Diet is very clean Mediterranean. Relationship with God going strong. Not addicted to anything I'm aware of. Thanks everyone. This is from the sidebar and you only hit some of these, and definitely not the most important one. ALL posts asking for … | /r/RPChristians | 16/10/20 09:13 PM |
| 8 | Do any other Christians feel repulsed by the amorality or the main TRP subreddit?Until today, I lived under the (apparently false) idea that the red pill community was mostly an intelligent group of people that had at least some reasonable threshold of decency even if it was much lower than societal standards. I guess it's my problem to fix if I care about the community enough, but it's a lot of work for one person. Don't bother with the secular RP communities. It could be a hindrance to the gospel if you try to impose morality on them. The men and women will go down the rab… | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/20 11:22 PM |
| 1 | 8 Resolutions for Christian Husbands (fixed)About the anger, how long did you stay in your anger phase? I think the anger phase depends on how much you were lied to by people, especially those in the Church and women about how great a catch you are but they don't want to date you or that godliness is sexy and so on. My anger phase was pretty short, but it seems like some people can get angry for years if they don't address it head on with the Scriptures. It is irrational getting frustrated with truth or facts but I am frustrated seeing ti… | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/20 09:01 PM |
| 8 | Bodyweight exercises?I've learned a lot from this group. So I'm wondering, what do you think? Can the same thing be accomplished through bodyweight exercises as lifting? and have made a lot of progress with pushups, pullups, planks, and squats. Not with those exercises. /r/bodyweightfitness goes through a bunch of harder and harder progressions. The key to building strength and muscle is progressive overload. You can't do it with basic exercises. You need harder progressions. Also, legs need weights for strength and… | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/20 06:44 PM |
| 16 | Are Christian women any different than worldly women?Yup. All women are hypergamous, rebellious, and contentious to varying degrees, but Christian women will strive to fight against their temptations with the Spirit. Just as Christian men need to fight against their own temptations with the Spirit. | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/20 02:43 AM |
| – | At a crossroadsLocked until your post has these: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. A… | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/20 02:39 AM |
| 4 | 8 Resolutions for Christian Husbands (fixed)Because feminism has covertly infiltrated the Church with chivalry being more overt. It's kind of like the frog in the pot analogy. If you slowly raise the temperature they don't know until they're cooked. Same with many in the Church now. Jesus in Revelation 2 and 3 talks about how different errors that have infiltrated His Churches. The same still happens today. You get garbage like complementarianism and egalitarianism being pushed instead of what the Bible advocates. Taking off the feminism … | /r/RPChristians | 13/10/20 08:27 PM |
| 5 | 8 Resolutions for Christian Husbands (fixed)Servant "leader." With emphasis on being her servant. Basically, chivalry in action. Instead of king and queen it's more or less she's still the queen but he's a knight. | /r/RPChristians | 13/10/20 05:43 PM |
| 5 | Priestly ministry to menAnyone else feel a distinct call to ministry in order to help men? Yup, that's why I'm here and involved with mentoring and discipling men. Why risk being married if the chances are high it’ll end in divorce or dissolution, and harm to both our souls. Not really a good reason. As /u/Red-Curious has said before, the divorce rate for Christian marriages that are actively focusing on mission is 1% or less. The vast majority of divorce among Christians is because people are marrying people who say t… | /r/RPChristians | 12/10/20 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Advice for feeling guilty for wanting to break upIt's best to figure that out before marriage anyway. Also, make sure you focus on obeying God (staying celibate) as you mentioned that in the comments. | /r/RPChristians | 12/10/20 05:42 PM |
| 11 | Advice for feeling guilty for wanting to break upA lot of the responses in here are pretty confusing to me because they don't address the underlying issues. My gf and I have been dating since freshman year, so far that is about 5 years of dating... This is a yellow/red flag on you. Why are you in a relationship if you don't intend to marry? I get going on lots of dates to figure out what you want and vet different girls to see if they're a good fit for you. But if you are in a relationship without the intent to marry or at least be ready to be… | /r/RPChristians | 11/10/20 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Quesion.Better question for /r/askRPC so I'm removing it. If you want to re-post it over there go for it. Take all your thoughts captive to Christ. Flee from the temptation by putting it out of your mind, and focus on doing what is right. We can't control our dreams, but we can control how we respond to our dreams or anything. | /r/RPChristians | 10/10/20 07:14 AM |
| 6 | Why is the temptation to sin even tempting in the first place?Why is the temptation to sin even tempting in the first place? Temptation overall is almost always based on gratification of selfish desire. This desire could be pride, lust, sloth, gluttony, greed, wrath, envy, and others. Porn specifically satisfies the selfish desire of lust, So it makes no logical sense why I'm tempted by it in the first place. On the contrary, it's logical that temptation to sin and thus sinning leaves you feeling empty. It's a violation of God's original intent of creation… | /r/RPChristians | 10/10/20 07:12 AM |
| 7 | Why is the temptation to sin even tempting in the first place?At the first sin, in the garden, sin entered the world and we are all fallen and are born with a sin nature. Close, but the OP is talking about temptation. God created man with the capacity to be tempted, otherwise Adam and Eve couldn't have been tempted to eat the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and disobey God. Thus, the ability to be tempted is intrinsic of free will. One must be able to choose between right and wrong. /u/Jnebbe2 | /r/RPChristians | 10/10/20 07:05 AM |
| 4 | Question for Married men who have submissive wivesI am puzzled at just how much arguing goes on in most Christian marriages. We've had materially zero arguments in our marriage because we've agreed that the tension between wifely submission and achieving the best possible decisions rests on me leading effectively, which means listening intently to my wife and showing her love and respect. Same. We don't argue in my marriage either. From what I've seen it seems that the marriages that do aren't basing their structure on the Bible first and forem… | /r/RPChristians | 09/10/20 08:57 PM |
| 14 | Question for Married men who have submissive wivesBeing submissive doesn’t mean she falls in line and never has opposing opinions. And it certainly does not mean that she doesn’t voice those differing opinions. This is a dangerous topic because misunderstanding can lead to abuse by the husband. Agree with the first part but disagree with the last part. It's a feminist talking point. The people (men or women) who have issues with this usually married a non-Christian or a person who called themselves a Christian but actually isn't a Christian. I … | /r/RPChristians | 09/10/20 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Question for Married men who have submissive wivesAnytime | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/20 11:56 PM |
| 17 | Question for Married men who have submissive wivesDo you like that your wife is submissive or would you prefer she not be? Yes, headship and submission is a beautiful design. Does having a submissive wife take away a lot of the prevailing issues in modern day secular marriages? Do you argue as much as worldly couples? Is your household more stable because of this? We don't argue or fight. We trust each other. She trusts my judgment in all matters. She's never denied me sex, and we'll always try for the other even when were tired or give grace f… | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/20 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Why do Rich People marry Ugly Women?I don't think anyone really answered you question. Some people are looking for different things in marriage than just the most attractive woman you can get. A lot of the things you mentioned like also rich, socioeconomic class, ambitious, etc. are all commonalities that men and women like in a spouse. Most rich men who want super attractive women will just play the field (e.g. Leonardo DiCaprio and his serial dating supermodels). Some rich people want a trophy wife. Some don't. Some get sex outs… | /r/RPChristians | 06/10/20 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Prayers for godly Christian friends that I can talk to often and tell anything to, preferably at my collegeDiscord: https://discord.gg/y5tfBra | /r/RPChristians | 06/10/20 02:50 AM |
| 12 | Why do I still hold appearance so highly in my partner consideration?Would you say it’s lustful to seek a woman with a nice body too? The word translated as "lust" in the NT is also translated as "covet" in Romans and the same as in the OT. You can only covet a woman who is not yours (AKA married to someone else or you are married and coveting another woman). God made both man and woman be outwardly attractive and appreciate outward attractiveness in others. Obviously, it can be taken to narcissistic levels, but being outwardly attractive and desiring someone who… | /r/RPChristians | 04/10/20 08:52 PM |
| 7 | What are Your Thoughts on Cold Approaches?But what are your thoughts also as a Christian? With Red Pill concepts it should be helpful, even if it leads to not much as of results. But as a Christian, is it lustful to do this since it’s primarily based on looks? You’re most likely approaching a non-believer, and the sexual attraction is probably what’s driving you to do it. Any questions and comments are welcome! No. How else would you meet women? Wait for them to come to you? However, the alternative is using cold approach evangelism. St… | /r/RPChristians | 03/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 8 | How to Stop Watching Porn (A Christian Perspective)What have you guys' experience been with porn, and how have you tried to combat it? Ephesians 4: 20 But you did not learn Christ in this way, 21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught in Him, just as truth is in Jesus, 22 that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, 23 and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been cre… | /r/RPChristians | 03/10/20 08:03 PM |
| 1 | How to be a better leader for my wife?I would suggest that the suggestion of you telling her how it it’s going to be, and backing it up with Bible citations is probably the worst idea I’ve ever heard. Nah, it's a good idea as a Christian to do so they know the Scriptures and to do your due diligence as a believer for God. It's important for other Christians (or maybe "Christians") to know God's expectations, even if they're not going to follow it. Will it often work? Probably not if they're not trying to put God first. The thing tha… | /r/RPChristians | 03/10/20 03:30 PM |
| 5 | Luke 19:10Practicals brother. I need to lift but I hate going to the gym because I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing. So educate yourself on lifting or ask others questions. It's normal to feel this way when you start something, but it shouldn't be an excuse to do nothing. Post in OYS and be accountable for it. I need to eat well but I don’t feel like putting in the effort. Motivation is fickle. Focus on being disciplined, despite your feelings. I need to study my Bible but lately I’ve felt so dista… | /r/RPChristians | 02/10/20 10:16 PM |
| 1 | How to be a better leader for my wife?Other people have covered what you can do, but this is not normal. Like right now, my wife has not spoken to me for 4-5 days because I made a decision that I know is best for us in the long run. Have you called her out for this childish behavior? Aside from that, this level of controlling/manipulative behavior is definitely worth having her see a psychologist if she's willing to go. Volunteer both of you to go, but do it separately so they can work on your issues separately. | /r/RPChristians | 02/10/20 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Extreme FOMOFOMO is temptation. It's the same sort of temptation that mid-life crisis men and women get to make them thing the grass is greener and leave their marriages. Don't be that guy. The answer to temptation is to flee it, and in this case the Scripture is clear that contentment is the answer. Philippians:10 I rejoiced greatly in the Lord that at last you renewed your concern for me. Indeed, you were concerned, but you had no opportunity to show it. 11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I… | /r/askRPC | 30/09/20 11:54 PM |
| – | Married with childrenLocked until OP provides stats per rule 2. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scriptur… | /r/RPChristians | 28/09/20 05:22 PM |
| 2 | why does it seem many former protestants convert to eastern orthodox rather than catholicism if both orthodoxy and catholicism are technically part of the same church from Jesus?if that is so what is the point of converting from one problem sect of christianity to another That's what I'm saying. There's no point in converting,unless you believe that there are some irreconcilable differences between them. I personally don't as I think there are true believers in any of the major 3. However, as you can see from this post, a lot of Protestants/Catholics/Orthodox are at each other's throats constantly for things they perceive to be "not Christian." | /r/RPChristians | 24/09/20 03:00 AM |
| 1 | why does it seem many former protestants convert to eastern orthodox rather than catholicism if both orthodoxy and catholicism are technically part of the same church from Jesus?Much of the same stuff in the West that I mentioned up there. Cultural rot is just that - it's cultural. The west has various forms of feminist rot and I'm sure the east does too. But they have their various sets of problems. Ask any Orthodox Christian here and they would say they see the same problems in their own congregations | /r/RPChristians | 23/09/20 09:41 PM |
| 2 | why does it seem many former protestants convert to eastern orthodox rather than catholicism if both orthodoxy and catholicism are technically part of the same church from Jesus?There's cultural rot in every denomination: Catholic, Orthodox and Protestant. It tends to vary on where you're from too. For instance, the US makes up something like 5% of the world's Catholics if I remember correctly, but they've gotten 50% of the world's annulments to break marriages. The decline in Protestant denominations correlate with how much they cater to the feminists/SJWs. In general, as long as you've repented from your sins and striving to obey Jesus and be about His mission I don't… | /r/RPChristians | 23/09/20 04:16 PM |
| 10 | Post-Divorce ReportsWell you my friend are in the correct sub. I would recommend joining the other red pill subreddits too I don't recommend joining any secular RP subs. Most men don't have the discernment to see what is wrong and what is right, as evidenced by a lot of people coming in recently asking about sin, polygamy, spinning plates, and so on. Case in point is Roosh post here: https://www.rooshv.com/game-is-for-fallen-women Get into the Word. See what truth of what the Bible has to say about men and women be… | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 5 | How important is context to communicating mission?AWALT bro. Their vaginas aren’t any different. The problem is you're having trouble discerning what I'm saying, namely because you've been too engrossed in the secular red pill. Yes, all women are hypergamous. A fat husband will make it harder for a wife to respect or want to be with her husband. True Christian women will fight against their hypergamy (resist temptation) as opposed to non-Christian women who go on the whims of their feelings. True Christian men and women will place God first, so… | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 08:55 PM |
| 2 | How important is context to communicating mission?You can’t rely on Jesus to keep your woman’s pussy happy. Sort of. A true Christian woman/wife should be able to fight her temptations, and following Jesus' marital role to be the head is helpful in staying attractive. OP is increasing his chance of divorce/getting cheated on by being fat. Agreed. Don't need to increase temptations for your wife. | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 05:24 PM |
| 2 | How important is context to communicating mission?But yes very active Christians (attending church MORE than once a week) have a 33% chance of divorce. That's cause attending Church is only correlated with but not causative divorce risk. There's many people who call themselves Christians who go to Church a lot, but they're only doing it because they grew up in the Church or it's a social event or whatever other else reasons there are. Not because they believe in Jesus and want to do what He says. /u/Red-Curious has done some study/investigation… | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 03:34 AM |
| – | Is anal sex a sin?Mod note: OP was banned for trolling. Says he wants to discuss whether or not things are Christian or sin (in his other post on premarital sex), but has no intention of changing his ways once he was properly shown Bible verses that what he is doing is sin and destructive. For reference, the sidebar is clear: We are a subreddit that exists to provide a place for Christians to discuss problems, solutions and insights on relationships, sex, and biblical masculinity according to biblical principles. | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 03:30 AM |
| – | Will I go to hell for having premarital sex?Mod note: OP was banned for trolling. Says he wants to discuss whether or not things are Christian or sin, but has no intention of changing his ways once he was properly shown Bible verses that what he is doing is sin and destructive. For reference, the sidebar is clear: We are a subreddit that exists to provide a place for Christians to discuss problems, solutions and insights on relationships, sex, and biblical masculinity according to biblical principles. | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Will I go to hell for having premarital sex?I don't know how much you understand red-pill or the times we're living... Because if you did, you wouldn't be clinging on to these old beliefs. I can see you're not here to learn about Christianity, but only confirm your own beliefs. Have at it. Just don't call yourself a Christian. | /r/RPChristians | 20/09/20 05:40 PM |
| 4 | Will I go to hell for having premarital sex?Agreed. The way I see it modern women are either sluts or former sluts. Marrying one is gonna destroy happiness from your life. I generally agree that any man should take a long hard look about marrying a non-virgin or virgin for that matter. Behavioral habits are things that are hard to break So I would replace pre-marital sex with marriage from a man's pov. Unless you are living in Islamic countries, sure marriage can benefit both parties. No. That's sin. Christians flee from sin and want to d… | /r/RPChristians | 20/09/20 04:54 AM |
| 3 | Will I go to hell for having premarital sex?By marrying you're allowing govt into your private life & granting them power. So how can a red pill admin pontificate marriage is beyond me! The institute of marriage today is upheld by govt, not by the Christian laws. There's nothing godly or Christian about it. False dichotomy. Don't get a marriage certificate from the government then. Marriage in the Scriptures is typically getting the father's permission, has witnesses, and you take vows before God. Catholic and Orthodox distinguish natural… | /r/RPChristians | 20/09/20 04:52 AM |
| 4 | Will I go to hell for having premarital sex?You won't go to hell for having pre-marital sex if you repent and don't do it anymore. Literally from the sidebar: 1 Corinthians 9:24-27 - God wants us to take care of our bodies. That means staying fit and exercising restraint both sexually (i.e. porn, pre-marital sex) and in our diets. There's several verses in the Bible that tell us that sexual immorality including pre-marital sex is sinful. This is standard Christianity morality. Galatians 5:6 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not … | /r/RPChristians | 20/09/20 04:15 AM |
| 11 | How to Address Previous Sexual Sin in a RelationshipNah, that may work for secular RP who doesn't care about sin and don't think marriage is permanent, but it's not good for Christians. As Christians it's generally better to be forthright so you can build trust and weed out a potential spouse with past sexual history you can't get over and same for her for you. You don't want any of these things potentially hanging over you or your wife's head because marriage is permanent. | /r/RPChristians | 16/09/20 07:54 PM |
| 12 | How to Address Previous Sexual Sin in a RelationshipMy question is how/when I should address my sin with this girl (or another girl I end up dating). I want to be honest, but this isn't obviously a topic you broach on a first date. Any suggestions? I had a similar past where I never had intercourse but did other things. What I did was wait until after dating to the boyfriend/girlfriend stage and bring it up then. That's when you would want to discuss past sexual history with her too and include your own. You can usually segue from discussing past… | /r/RPChristians | 16/09/20 05:43 AM |
| 2 | QuestionI married in my early 30s and my wife was mid-20s. In general, it's true that men tend to get more attractive as they age, although larger than about 6-7 year gaps are generally frowned upon by most of society (not that it matters all that much, but it is something to consider). If you're muscular and masculine and take care of yourself well then you should have options as you get to your late 20s to mid to late 30s. Once you start hitting early 40s and beyond it might be harder and you might ha… | /r/RPChristians | 15/09/20 03:08 AM |
| 6 | At a crossroads. Need some guidance.Infatuation is not real life. It's usually part of the newness of a relationship if there's a vague thing called "chemistry" for some reason. For most couples it was never there or is only there a few months. Sometimes it lasts for year or two in some couples. Sometimes only the boyfriend/husband has it and sometimes only the wife has it. It's not something you should base your relationship off of. In the Scriptures it talks about marriage per 1 Corinthians 7 as something that is a concession to… | /r/RPChristians | 15/09/20 03:05 AM |
| 8 | At a crossroads. Need some guidance.I am attracted to her yes but not head over heels, crazy attracted to her. That said, I would rather a simple and sensible 7 whom I enjoy her company over an 8 that I can't have a discussion with. So attractiveness is definitely not the only thing on my list. You do not have to be head over heels. That's fairy tale stuff. Not reality. Even if you were, it generally can and will fade as the infatuation leaves and then where would you be? Lots of people are chasing it in relationships and get marr… | /r/RPChristians | 14/09/20 06:53 PM |
| 5 | QuestionAren’t all the guys here all about themselves? All the men here should be about God's mission: make disciples of all nations. That’s why the want submission so their will supersedes their wives and they get complete and total control over their wives and the relationship. When you meet a woman you're not married to her. Seeing how she acts with those close around here gives you an idea. A man leading a relationship as Jesus did the Church doesn't need control. After all, Jesus led by example and… | /r/RPChristians | 13/09/20 10:10 PM |
| 24 | QuestionSo I am talking to this girl, she is an Independent, Fundamental Baptist who says she is against pre-marital sex, is for submission to the husband, believes in big families, believes that the husband should be the leader and the wife should be the helpmeet. OK cool. So how does she act when her parents / her friends / or YOU want her to do something she doesn't want to do? That's where the rubber meets the road. Like others have said, watch what they do not what they say. Lots of women talk a go… | /r/RPChristians | 13/09/20 04:40 AM |
| 2 | Where else to find Christian girls on college campus?Like the others said, I would step down if you want to date. Tell them why. Then go on your dates. You can still serve unofficially like non-commissioned officers in the military. You don't need to be "official" to be obedient to God's mission, but you still should abide by the rules of the congregation/Church. | /r/RPChristians | 10/09/20 04:05 AM |
| 5 | 27 year old virgin male. What are the chances of me finding a very good looking woman that's a Christian woman and a virgin outside of church? By virgin I mean, someone that has never done anything sexual with a man physically.I believe OP said seattle in one of the comments. Most of the women I know that call themselves Christian are still sleeping with men. I know women in the church still having one night stands. Plus Seattle is a bunch of tech bros. Hypergamy is significantly higher here. I'm not surprised about any of that. I would try to search around until you can find a Church that teaches actual Christianity where people want to obey God. I would guess you're going to have to look at smaller churches. Often t… | /r/RPChristians | 10/09/20 04:03 AM |
| 3 | Is John Eldredge considered red-pill by this community?Dalrock has written extensively about why Chivalry is anti-Christian if you want to search through his blog for the posts. https://dalrock.wordpress.com/?s=chivalry | /r/askRPC | 10/09/20 04:00 AM |
| 5 | Is John Eldredge considered red-pill by this community?Aaron Renn's Masculinist has covered this extensively. TL;DR More or less what /u/KickingLikeWiggle said. https://www.aaronrenn.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/The-Masculinist-33-Wild-at-Heart-and-the-White-Knight-Mentality.pdf Renn is familiar with and has posted on various Christian manosphere blogs before. Subscribe to his newsletter and look at his archives as they cover a lot of stuff from the Christian perspective. https://www.aaronrenn.com/masculinist/ | /r/askRPC | 09/09/20 04:17 AM |
| 8 | 27 year old virgin male. What are the chances of me finding a very good looking woman that's a Christian woman and a virgin outside of church? By virgin I mean, someone that has never done anything sexual with a man physically.Are you a virgin? Even if he wasn't so what? Lots of Christians say it's hypocritical, but it's not. Hypocrisy is saying one thing and doing another. Any Christian who has had sex or is a virgin but is now abstaining from sex until marriage is not hypocritical if they want a virgin. Having a preferences can't be hypocritical either. | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/20 04:10 AM |
| 5 | 27 year old virgin male. What are the chances of me finding a very good looking woman that's a Christian woman and a virgin outside of church? By virgin I mean, someone that has never done anything sexual with a man physically.As ENTPunisher said, the best age group to aim for is probably the 21-24ish range as that's where most of the Christian virgins are that are saving themselves. As the years go up after that they get harder and harder to find. Seattle might not be the best place though. You'll need to find some conservative Churches or areas where the prevalence of Christians are higher which means more Christian parents have taught their kids to abstain from sex until marriage. Leverage your social networks as w… | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/20 04:09 AM |
| 21 | Where else to find Christian girls on college campus?The problem is I'm not allowed to ask out or date any of the girls involved in the fellowship because of my role in helping out and volunteering in the ministry Your best bet is to talk with the leadership about this. Honestly, they are doing a huge disservice to Christians who want to be involved with Christian groups but still want to date/marry within the faith. Something someone said on here several weeks ago really stuck with me. It was something in a Church or seminary where the professor … | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/20 04:00 AM |
| 6 | Polygamy?These two statements seem to be in opposition. And it’s only illegal if you try to marry them both. Read 1 Corinthians 8. It will most assuredly kill your Christian witness, not only to believers but to unbelievers. Gf will be lucky if I even marry her. Even if polygyny is not sin, you are still living in sin. Pre-marital sex is sin. Galatians 6 and 1 Corinthians 6 are clear fornication is sin. Stop having sex. Figure out if this is a woman you want to marry. If not, have her move out and remain… | /r/RPChristians | 05/09/20 01:50 PM |
| 20 | Polygamy?I guess I’m looking for a biblical justification to this being okay. It's not. The Bible is not anti-polygyny but neither is it pro-polygyny. Most of the cases are there in extenuating circumstances (e.g. kinsman redeemer, war, etc.). It will most assuredly kill your Christian witness not to mention the fact that it's illegal the last time I checked. Christians are first and foremost to be about Christ's mission. Your OP is only about your own selfishness including pre-marital sex and cohabitati… | /r/RPChristians | 05/09/20 04:59 AM |
| 5 | How fine is the line between a man's frame and a woman's frame?Frame is not what you do. It's the meaning behind what you are doing. Frame is driven by mission and purpose. If a man thinks it's important in this stage of life to focus on growing multiple streams of income (one of which is growing his wife's started business) and raising the kids in a godly manner to leverage that for God in both short and long term that's a great thing. If a man is pressured by his wife into doing stuff he doesn't want to do but does it anyway, that's a bad thing. One is pu… | /r/askRPC | 03/09/20 02:15 AM |
| 8 | When can you tell a girlfriend is a future wife?Let's start here. Mission: I want to first be more materially comfortable. My family was rather on the poor side growing up. Poor in eastern Europe. I don't want a repeat of that. For a man with few responsibilities I am comfortable. But having few responsibilities is not comfortable. Sometimes I think that I should not worry about material comfort so much. God will provide, no? But God also gave me the means to provide. I've always been the studious kind, so I plan to go "back to school". (I wa… | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/20 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Advice for a convert ?Yes, there's a bunch of Orthodox. Not sure about Catholic. I'm not sure if any of the mods are reformed. I grew up in a non-denominational Church but wasn't really Christian per se (even though I went to all the youth groups, served, etc.) before finding Jesus for myself after college. Regarding your statement here: Obviously I am aware that both Catholic and Orthodox Churches reject fornication, that was not my point. My problem stems with what I find to be serious incompatibilities between Red… | /r/askRPC | 27/08/20 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Advice for a convert ?That's neither here or there. OP has specifically said spinning plates means sex outside of marriage to him. | /r/askRPC | 27/08/20 05:21 PM |
| 5 | Advice for a convert ?It seems to me that everyone here comes from a Christian background and discovered TRP along the way. It was the opposite for me. I wasn't raised in the faith. It is only after finding and applying The Red Pill, spinning plates for 3 years (n-count over 50), that I found Jesus Christ. Many, but not all. Not sure how many frequent here. Obviously I have a hard time to stop spinning plates, and I'm not sure I really want to honestly... You need to choose whether you are in or out. If you are going… | /r/askRPC | 27/08/20 05:18 PM |
| 9 | Had Drinks with a Girl Last Night: She Had a Strong FrameLike wonko said, humor or jokes or agree and amplify or whatever else are not a competition. Relationships and marriage are not a competition. No one gets a gold star if a you can outdo a girl or she can outdo you. Being the head/leader of a marriage is first and foremost about purpose and mission. Everything flows from that. A good leader values competent people under them and doesn't try to compete with them. | /r/askRPC | 21/08/20 05:03 AM |
| 10 | Had Drinks with a Girl Last Night: She Had a Strong FrameYou're looking at frame the wrong way. Frame is ultimately grounded on truth - who you are in Christ. Your purpose and mission. If those are unshakeable you are unshakeable. Sure you can be challenged and be uncomfortable during dates, but it shouldn't make you question your frame unless your frame is built on an improper foundation. | /r/askRPC | 20/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Following Jesus for 3 years. Life is a bit of a mess; seeking guidance as it pertains to RPCCollege/universities are one of the best time to meet Christian women (ones that actually go to more serious Christian groups like Cru or Navigators). In general, if you have your mission down and are consistently growing and discipling others there's no reason why you should wait until you look more successful on paper. Sure, you might not be as successful with women in general, but women who want you for your success are not women that you want to be with in the long term. If you find a Christ… | /r/RPChristians | 20/08/20 03:48 AM |
| 2 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?It was always: "How do I become worthy enough to be followed?" To add to what RC said, the Scriptures are never about worthiness. Jesus didn't die for the worthy, but those who need grace and mercy (and repent). God's marital roles and responsibilities are unconditional. The husband is the head regardless of whether he is worthy or not. He should love his wife regardless of whether she is sinning or not. And vice versa for a wifely submission and respect. | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 01:54 PM |
| 7 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?You realize Genesis is describing a curse, right? One we overcome through Christ’s redemptive power? You know you're making yourself look foolish, right? I literally said that same exact thing in my comment: Genesis 3:16b Yet your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you.” Husbands and wives often default to their fleshly sin nature and need to actively war against it. Clearly, you are here with an agenda rather than trying to understand that we actively teach the Bible without… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 12:49 AM |
| 12 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?This was literally discussed by /u/Red-Curious in the headship post the other day. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/i7zwv9/no_your_congregation_does_not_preach_biblical/g1cl2zn/ Red pill seems to see the relation between the sexes as adversarial. Which is also what the Bible teaches: Genesis 3:16b Yet your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you.” Husbands and wives often default to their fleshly sin nature and need to actively war against it. I also see how peop… | /r/RPChristians | 14/08/20 10:41 PM |
| 1 | I feel stuckYeah man no bad questions. We all have more to go to be more godly and make disciples. We're all at different stages of the journey though. I wish I could have told myself these things even as early as a few years ago! | /r/askRPC | 12/08/20 05:11 PM |
| 3 | I feel stuckIn any passage, you should be asking God: "What do you want me to learn from this to become a more godly man?" "What blinders do I have to your Word that are causing me to miss the lessons?" I used to think the Bible was boring to read, but I wasn't searching for what God had for me. I was just used to all the stories and thought it was repetitive. There's lessons from every passage in the Bible. In the prophets, it's a lot about how men and nations go astray from God or how he wants to forgive … | /r/askRPC | 12/08/20 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Puff, this one was hard for me to read.https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/i3d6bf/official_crossposting_from_other_subs_dos_and/ | /r/RPChristians | 10/08/20 02:52 AM |
| 5 | Can’t stop giving into temptationA post every week where you can update the progress you made across all categories. They're stickied https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/i470vi/oys_where_progress_is_made_080520/ | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/20 02:30 PM |
| 3 | When vetting for a potential LTR, how would I test a girls Faith in God?"Watch what they do, not what they say" Are they involved with things that are actively growing their faith? The lists in OYS about growing in spiritual, physical, emotional/mental maturity are a good place to start. Are they actively evangelizing and discipling or being discipled? Can they articulate what they believe and why? Oh just saw /u/rocknrollchuck said the same thing. There ya go. | /r/askRPC | 05/08/20 10:42 PM |
| 5 | Looking for guidanceThat could certainly be the case. It's easy to be blinded to negative traits in a new relationship because of infatuation and seeing some things you are looking for. | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/20 04:13 AM |
| 7 | Looking for guidanceI think some example would be that he would lead me in prayer and studies of the Bible. He also led a men’s group at our church. That's a pretty shocking turn around. What happened there? Did he just drop out when he lost his job? What has he said when you talked to him about getting back into things at Church? Additionally, the jealousy issue didn’t just pop up. He’s always been jealous about the attention I get from other men, even from before we were dating. I always thought he was just prote… | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 05:00 PM |
| 46 | Looking for guidanceTwo years ago I started dating my boyfriend. He was a strong biblical leader, exactly the kind of man I was looking for, and in turn I’ve done my best to act in a way mirroring biblical submission as best I can. I have never been particularly head strong even as a child, so it’s a role I have taken with joy and enthusiasm. Examples? Most people think someone is a certain way, but it's hard for them to give examples. This may be a yellow or red flag. About a year ago he broke his arm playing foot… | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Almost every single response is blue pilled af. What should we do as Christians to make the baseline of Christian social views more properly in line with the Bible so this doesn’t happen?As an FYI, this is why this sub was created: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/g51gme/genuinely_curious_about_your_philosophies_not/fo15t1m/ We believe what the Bible says without cultural contamination. If that makes us fundamental then OK. BThe mods don't believe the typical things in the US fundamental Christianity. We think Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 shows that a wife's focus should be in the home, but that she can still run businesses or work if that's what her husband wants. We a… | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 03:47 PM |
| 7 | What would you tell your 20 year old self?Take your faith extremely seriously. The faster you ground character, values, and godliness into your being, the more confident you will be operating in daily life and it will spill out into everything else. Evangelizing and discipleship are harder than talking with women, so if it eventually comes to women it's no big deal talking to them. Be excellent in all you do, and plan accordingly. As someone else said, career-wise it's good to focus and plan a few years ahead on what you need to do to b… | /r/askRPC | 04/08/20 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Abundance mentality and the ruinsThe broader issue I'm wondering about is how people around here deal with the mental stress of trying to find a good marriage, knowing how much the odds are stacked against you. Why stress if you believe in God? If you're using all of your ability to be wise about who you choose for your wife, there's nothing to worry about. Keep your eyes wide open for any character issues and see if she is teachable and vet for other characteristics and you're in good hands. | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 01:01 PM |
| 6 | Abundance mentality and the ruinsThe core of "abundance mentality" is not needing validation from women. Attractive men have abundance mentality because they have numerous women wanting to be with them. Hence, they don't need validation from women (or a certain woman) because there's always another women. It is a ward against ONEitis, but doesn't necessarily stop it. It should generally stop most needy (unattractive) behavior though. If you're on mission and putting in effort to be attractive, don't worry about the validation o… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 01:03 AM |
| 1 | resisting oneitis in a secular cityYup, only think about one step at a time. Your life/mission and possibly ask her out. Don't go through too many future scenarios as they're not worth the time | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/20 12:57 AM |
| 5 | resisting oneitis in a secular cityI keep sensing my mind falling into the "this is meant to be" trap even though I know it is an illusion. Small church with only two young singles, I show up as she's figuring out next steps in life, she fits my type to an almost uncanny degree, her parents have been very welcoming and seem to like me a lot, etc. ONEitis is mainly a blinder to flaws or bad traits and character or blinds you and makes her your focus rather than God and your mission. One of the best ways to combat it aside from foc… | /r/RPChristians | 28/07/20 02:19 PM |
| 6 | Locked down and lacking motivationLuke 16:10 "He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in a very little thing is unrighteous also in much. Focus on being faithful and consistent in the small things. | /r/askRPC | 26/07/20 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Discipline or Desire?Desire and Discipline They're never in any way mutually exclusive. Discipline in the faith is essentially good self control to do the right thing - it's a fruit of the Spirit. Ideally, we should have both desire and discipline/self-control to do the right thing, but if you only have the latter that's good too. Doing the right thing is never wrong. Just don't let a lack of desire tempt you to become more lukewarm (Revelation 3). | /r/askRPC | 26/07/20 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Saw a post asking about porn addiction the other day. Here is a really great video that’s helped me a lot already.Please summarize this for people who can't watch the video! | /r/RPChristians | 25/07/20 11:45 PM |
| 4 | How do I support my brother while also being loyal to GodI've generally found what /u/Billy_King says to be true when presenting the gospel. You don't need to call out specific sins that they have. That usually makes people defense. A generic gospel message of Jesus came to die for our sins so that we can be reconciled to God tends to be the most effective. Once they are convicted and want turn to God and repent, that's when you help them identify the sins in their life that they need to remove and repent of. Gospel Conviction Help them realize their … | /r/RPChristians | 25/07/20 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Blocking PornTopic comes up fairly often. Here's my copy pasta Ephesians 4:17 So this I say, and affirm together with the Lord, that you walk no longer just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, 18 being darkened in their understanding, excluded from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart; 19 and they, having become callous, have given themselves over to sensuality for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness. 20 But … | /r/RPChristians | 25/07/20 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts in Every Man's Series?In addition to the "total hack" comments, Dalrock has written on Arterburn some so search for his book series or his name. http://dalrock.wordpress.com One example: https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2018/03/08/complementarian-soul-essence/ | /r/askRPC | 24/07/20 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Retaining Christian relationship morals outside of the churchBut what if it's not that simple, or at least if it isn't simple for us, here and now, at all? We treat the Bible as a historical document, but the falsifiable events could've been... well, falsified. Also, St. Paul's "if the dead are not raised" appeal just kinda feels me with dread of the possibility that it's all fake and therefore for naught. It's like he's saying it's dangerous not to believe it, even in spite of everything, because reality would be intolerable then... but what if reality i… | /r/RPChristians | 23/07/20 02:18 PM |
| 15 | Retaining Christian relationship morals outside of the churchNamely, I've got great troubles with believing in the resurrection of the body and the existence of any afterlife whatsoever. I can only barely imagine Christ Himself coming back to life for some people in some way, let alone everyone else actually getting permanently physically resurrected at the end of time (and why should the bodies of the dead be preserved at all, if God can perfectly (re)create them out of nothing?)... and I guess I "justify" some of my doubts/unbeliefs using the idea that … | /r/RPChristians | 22/07/20 10:35 PM |
| 1 | What to do when you've aged significantly more than your husband?Yeah, if you legitimately have a body that holds weight well in a good waist to hip ratio that is ok. If you have a pic (no face) that could help confirm at least. Gear the lifting to get the weight up to build muscle in the hips and legs which helps improve waist to hip ratio. | /r/askRPC | 20/07/20 02:43 AM |
| 3 | What to do when you've aged significantly more than your husband?If all is true and I simply have aged out of my youth, why can't my husband sleep with younger women? RPC is anti-porn and anti-sleeping with other women you are not married to. We take the same sexual immorality stance as the Bible. God's ideal for marriage, reiterated per Jesus in the gospels, is one man and one woman. Sex outside of marriage, even to single women is adultery not to mention a bad Christian witness to others. Lol what do you want to know my bra size I'm 5.6 and normally 150! (1… | /r/askRPC | 19/07/20 09:13 PM |
| 3 | What to do when you've aged significantly more than your husband?I thought Red Pill Christians thought it was ok to watch porn and to sleep with other women as long as that woman was not married? I've def seen that on this sub. That is false. The OYS are anti-porn: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/hrpaff/oys_where_progress_is_made_071520/ How are you doing with lifting? Losing weight? Where's your body fat %? What have you been eating lately? How about your porn/alcohol/drug/cigarette/whatever use? Topics on breaking the porn habits. https://www… | /r/askRPC | 19/07/20 08:57 PM |
| 4 | What to do when you've aged significantly more than your husband?The passage does not specify whether concubinage also contributed to his idol worship. Aside from the fact that such things are illegal and generally considered adultery in most places, this includes the fact that Jesus reiterates in the NT that marriage was created by God to be one man and one woman which is the ideal. As a Christian, I don't think there's any reason why you shouldn't want to strive for the ideal either. The goal is not to get away with as much as you can. It's to be a disciple… | /r/askRPC | 19/07/20 08:44 PM |
| 2 | What to do when you've aged significantly more than your husband?Stats? Only have your age. What's your weight and measurements? Maybe something to work on there. I am very insecure about it and I honestly know my husband can do so much better than me. He has girls look at him all the time, sometimes they do it out of spite for me in public. The only one who can help insecurity is God. You need to read and meditate on the Scriptures about joy and peace. I dress well, do my makeup, keep fit, am actively respecting him, etc. All good stuff. Keep doing it. I don… | /r/askRPC | 19/07/20 08:39 PM |
| 3 | What to do when you've aged significantly more than your husband?I suppose it is sin yet David and Solomon - and many others - had many wives and God commended them. The some to many wives also brought them much trouble, and in some cases turned them away from God. | /r/askRPC | 19/07/20 08:35 PM |
| 5 | How can you tell when you need to change things up?I want to start my own business and employ people as well. I’ve got some money saved up to go for it. So pray about it and seek some godly counsel from your family and friends. If you have peace through prayer and support and prayer from family and friends then shoot your shot. Getting a job elsewhere would be a better option but not sure how long it’ll take considering the virus. But it is possible. Weigh your options here and update your resume and put out some feelers. Do you think there are … | /r/RPChristians | 18/07/20 12:44 AM |
| 12 | How can you tell when you need to change things up?Job fires a lot of people. Now you’ve been working 4 times the amount of work you used to in order to fill the gap since their work was handed over to the rest of the people that weren’t let go. And you’ve been doing this for 8 months. The pressure is high and the stress even higher. The volume of work continues to increase but people are leaving and they are not hiring any new people to replace them The mistake you made here is to not ask for more compensation when they loaded you up with more … | /r/RPChristians | 17/07/20 06:54 PM |
| 5 | Next stepsStats 3 months ago and stats today? Need more detail about said incident and changes as well. Could be bull in a china shop if you went too hard too soon. | /r/askRPC | 14/07/20 05:03 PM |
| 11 | Help. // Porn sucksTopic comes up fairly often. Here's my copy pasta Ephesians 4:17 So this I say, and affirm together with the Lord, that you walk no longer just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, 18 being darkened in their understanding, excluded from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart; 19 and they, having become callous, have given themselves over to sensuality for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness. 20 But … | /r/RPChristians | 13/07/20 07:42 PM |
| 7 | Dating While Progress Still Needs to be MadeBefore I begin with the question, I should let you know I understand exactly where I should be focusing: lifting and gaining weight. I have plans to hop into the gym right away as soon as my school starts in a month and opens its rec center. (I don’t do home workouts and there isn't a gym nearby that I can easily get to). I already have gained some weight since my last OYS, although it's probably not muscle. Start now. Bodyweight at home workouts aren't as effective, but building the habits and … | /r/askRPC | 11/07/20 12:07 AM |
| 5 | I lost 30 lb due to fasting. How do I gain it back without being a glutton?That's a good start. /r/bodyweightfitness should have some good ideas for you I think | /r/RPChristians | 10/07/20 03:21 AM |
| 11 | I lost 30 lb due to fasting. How do I gain it back without being a glutton?How do I gain it back without being a glutton? Workout Eat enough calories and protein Everyone has time to workout. No excuses. Even if you're doing long fasts you don't have to lose weight as long as you eat in enough in the other periods when you do eat. | /r/RPChristians | 10/07/20 03:15 AM |
| 6 | RPC Podcast Episode 7: The Importance of OYSAgreed | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/20 11:11 PM |
| – | Remarriage questionALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/20 05:06 AM |
| 5 | Sort of a boner “problem”When you're tempted take off the old and put on the new (Eph 4). New = mission for Christ. From the OYS posts lots of stuff you can be doing: PHYSICAL: How are you doing with lifting? Losing weight? Where's your body fat %? What have you been eating lately? How about your porn/alcohol/drug/cigarette/whatever use? Are you employing kino on your wife properly? Are you going too far with your girlfriend? How's your fashion sense? Are you still lounging around the house in gym shorts and using your … | /r/askRPC | 07/07/20 08:11 PM |
| 12 | Modern Christian women rejecting submission and male headshipHow do you guys deal with this? Avoid women who act like this if you're dating. Find the women who are actually following God, start dating them go over the Biblical marital roles and responsibilities with them, and then see how respectful and submissive they are when they disagree with you (conflict will show true colors). Will they also admit to their mistakes and repent? Some will, some won't. But you won't know. If married or in a relationship, have the tough conversations with men about the… | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/20 11:43 PM |
| 5 | How to prevent being taken advantage ofI've recently dealt with an issue where a personal trainer tried to take advantage of me by working out with his friends during our slotted time. "It seems unprofessional to me that you're interacting with your friends during our slotted time" If he's still unprofessional then go to the manger. If you go above right away, you're almost always going to build animosity as most normal people generally want the opportunity to correct their mistakes. I've probably done this inadvertently before too. … | /r/askRPC | 06/07/20 11:39 PM |
| – | Help submitting to husbandALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. Add and we'll unlock | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/20 04:08 AM |
| 2 | Teenager Seeking Christian AdviceBro, what is your mission? How are you a part of the body of Christ? Making disciples? Being discipled? Using your gifts of the Spirit? Everything flows from that. | /r/askRPC | 05/07/20 08:36 PM |
| 1 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsAre your wives aware of this channel / podcasts / content? I'm curious what they think about it. My wife is aware of and reads my blog. I told her several months after we were dating. I was already teaching her in Bible study about marriage roles and responsibilities without a feminized lens, so she already knew much of this stuff already and it was just par for the course. | /r/RPChristians | 04/07/20 01:10 AM |
| 2 | RPC Podcast Episode 6: Fitness Tests (and a crucial announcement)Makes sense. Heart -> character -> actions -> words A lot of the men tend to focus on changing words and actions, but don't get to the root of the transformation of the heart and by extension character that needs to occur. One can easily just memorize fitness test answers, but if it doesn't come from a place of real transformation you're just a dancing monkey. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 04:58 PM |
| 3 | RPC Podcast Episode 6: Fitness Tests (and a crucial announcement)Stfu, A&A, AM (might be flipping those) then Pressure Flipping immediately brought to my mind this thought: in order to use those more advanced techniques, you need to have greater and greater levels of full character congruency. Character congruency is partially it. If you know who you are (in Christ) and what you are here to do then everything flows from that. No one can throw you off your mission. Ephesians 4 has an excellent analogy: Ephesians 4:14 As a result, we are no longer to be childre… | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Help a skeptic...The parts that I was referred to that seem to be nonsense are old testament passages like adam/eve It may be helpful to look at these through ANE (ancient near eastern) Jewish interpretation. If we use the lenses of our own time and/or cultural thinking, a lot of stories from the Scriptures don't make sense. Exegesis and hermeneutics are important. God sending a bear to maul children who made fun of some prophet, killing of the first born in Egypt etc. Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; … | /r/RPChristians | 29/06/20 10:32 PM |
| 7 | Help a skeptic...Chuck's post is good. I'll give you my story. Personally, for me I grew up in a Christian home but I wouldn't say I was a Christian. It was by association: I went to youth group and served but my heart wasn't in it. I was sort of agnostic for a while, but a few things bothered me. Origins of life and abiogenesis. How can life come from non-life? That is one of the things make makes the least sense especially the more you study science. This is one of the better videos about how complex life is. … | /r/RPChristians | 29/06/20 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Advice on cannabis use and my future marriageNo True Scotsman is really your answer. So your going to tell me if a Godly man picks a woman he thinks is Christian to marry and then she divorces him that he wasn't a real Christian. No true Scotsman does not apply in this scenario. Jesus defines what a Christian is: "If you love me, obey my commandments" If any man or woman is not following Jesus and turning away from sin, then yes, they're probably not a Christian. Hence, the importance of watching people's actions. RP has the similar saying… | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/20 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Advice on cannabis use and my future marriage4) The constitution does say in the 10th ammendment that anything not spelled out in the constitution is to be left up to the states. The Constitution also says the Supreme Court has jurisdiction on interpretation of laws, and they did rule in the federal governments favor in Gonzales v. Raich (2005) that the fed can prohibit marijuana for all purposes. I see your point and think it's logical, but agree to disagree. I also think the law itself is dumb and banning marijuana is dumb. The prohibiti… | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/20 04:04 AM |
| 0 | Advice on cannabis use and my future marriageThe Supreme Court absolutely and emphatically does NOT have the power to legislate, which is exactly what it did in this recent Bostock decision. Have you read any of the majority opinion? The logic is laughably infantile and clearly designed to arrive at the conclusion that title 7 protects transgenderism despite having zero basis in the civil rights act. An even worse and more insidious case of legislation from the bench was Roe v. Wade. Are you going to argue that the decision was a matter of… | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/20 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Advice on cannabis use and my future marriageExcept the Supreme court does have the power to do just that (interpretation of the law henceforth) from the same Constitution to which you are appealing. You can't appeal to the same Constitution for state's rights and ignore that the Supreme Court is given the power of interpretation. Inconsistent logic. Also, not an apples to apples case. Transgenderism is clearly in violation of God unlike marijuana, so Christians would not necessarily have to obey the law if it's in conflict with God. I per… | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/20 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Does TRP kill love?Trust issues suggest my position is unjustified. From my point of view it's extremely justified. If by work on it you mean professional mental services I have spent a lot of time and wasted it there. Yes, given the overall thrust of the Scripture. But if you can stay single for God and serve Him then great. Actually I am the one that doesn't get it. I've seen people that act just like indicated True Christians in that post and then boom they are joining a rainbow march or become the town bicycle… | /r/askRPC | 27/06/20 10:15 PM |
| 4 | Advice on cannabis use and my future marriageIt's interpreted by the Supreme court as a truism for the most part. But in any case, that's not really a technicality that I'd want to take God at judgment day personally. Others may differ. | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/20 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Does TRP kill love?I can love for the purpose of sanctification and my own self, but not trust or love more than some other people. Huh? So you have trust issues? Then work on those. I couldn't tell you what a true Christian woman actually is. I once believed the answer wasn't hard, but now I don't trust myself to know. Teachable works until it doesn't and feels cause them to support ungodly act's. The girl wearing head coverings to church then does head on Friday night. The girl leading a small group and voluntee… | /r/askRPC | 27/06/20 05:49 PM |
| 4 | Advice on cannabis use and my future marriageI believe marijuana was put on this planet for us to use as medicine. I also live in a legal state. I’m following the law of the land. Counterpoint: it's still illegal federally, so you'd disobey God when He tells us to follow the laws of the land? | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/20 05:37 PM |
| 7 | Advice on cannabis use and my future marriageAs an occasional partaker myself, my line of reasoning when dealing with uppity fellow Christians has been this: Recreational alcohol consumption is repeatedly looked down upon in Scripture, yet you do this with zero conviction. Marijuana is never mentioned in Scripture, or at least not as overtly as alcohol. Furthermore, if God made all the plants, then God made marijuana. And Paul's response to you would be to make sure not to use your liberty to cause other Christians stumble. 1 Corinthians 8… | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/20 05:33 PM |
| 7 | Churchians vs ChristiansWhat are some differences between the Churchians and real Christians we could watch out for as red flags? Churchians know the Christianese language, but if you look at their lifestyle they're more similar to the world than a Christian (e.g. obedience to Jesus' commands). Some examples: Are they living like they're following Jesus? Do they have a solid spiritual life? Bible reading, prayer, using gifts of the Spirit, want to love and serve others, etc.? Do they have a Godly mission? Are they disc… | /r/askRPC | 26/06/20 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Does TRP kill love?I realize that's what the bible says, but pragmatically I don't see viewing my wife as more important. It doesn't say to treat her as more important. It says to "love her for the purpose of sanctification" and "love her like your own body" in Ephesians 5. It's kind of like quoting the verse to not deny sex to women. They might submit to starfish, but heart wise don't feel attracted. That's why we say to marry a woman that is a true Christian, teachable, and attracted to you. Yeah, that can still… | /r/askRPC | 26/06/20 10:23 PM |
| 3 | Does TRP kill love?I don’t think I’ll ever “love” again or at least the way I thought love was supposed to be like. If your "love" was based in infatuation and ONEitis then hopefully not. Next time I get a girl, I’d pretty much just desire her sexually and to create some babies and start a family. I don’t think I’d love her emotionally if that makes sense. I’d treat her right and respect her and be kind but definitely won’t be bringing flowers every month. You're thinking about this wrongly. You can live how you w… | /r/askRPC | 26/06/20 06:24 AM |
| 2 | Does TRP kill love?Can you just love your wife though choices like helping around the house or in an extreme case laying down your life to protect her. Or does this need to involve some romance stuff. Because truthfully it's unlikely I could get very emotionally attached to whoever I married as I won't trust them like I do family. Huh? Your wife IS your family now. In fact, the Genesis 2 verses that Jesus quotes in the gospels about "a man leaving his father and mother and cleaving to his wife and becoming one fle… | /r/askRPC | 26/06/20 06:21 AM |
| 7 | Alright, so at first I simply thought this post was due to the fact that this wife will not submit to her husband, but now there are debates here questioning whether or not scripture allows for divorce on differences of theology. I'm curious, what are your thoughts?This strikes me as two people who say they're Christian, but don't understand what being a Christian is. | /r/askRPC | 25/06/20 03:11 AM |
| 3 | Sparking a Husband's Sexual Desire (RPCW)From what I've seen it could be either of them. Some wives respond overtly to their husband to their husband's change... others do it subconsciously though in this case typically in response to seeing other women started to be interested. | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/20 03:12 AM |
| 4 | Sparking a Husband's Sexual Desire (RPCW)That is good to hear! Keep up the good fight brother. | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/20 03:10 AM |
| – | How to know if I’m (F) dealing with a narcissist or with someone who has narcissistic traits (who is a bit arrogant, a bit entitled)?ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. Locked until added. If you just wan… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/20 11:12 PM |
| 6 | Sparking a Husband's Sexual Desire (RPCW)Yeah I am improving myself but I don’t trust that the rise in my SMV is noticeable enough to have that talk yet. Get 'er done then! If you've been around a while, you'll see that some wives jump on board the train without you having to tell them either. They'll start working out or dressing up without you telling them to | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/20 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Sparking a Husband's Sexual Desire (RPCW)/u/Red-Curious answered the question, but the better question might be have you actually sat down with your wife and had a conversation about what each of you find attractive in the opposite sex? I had a few of these with my wife before we got married, so I knew we were on the same page and we were trying to actually be more attractive for each other. However, if there are issues then you may need to take the slower approach. We obviously say lead by example as Jesus did, and that's why getting … | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/20 09:53 PM |
| 8 | Is this normal?The same habits you have before marriage are the ones you take into marriage. If he was doing that before marriage then she should've expected him to continue doing that after marriage. It's something that needs to be addressed before marriage ideally because after it's going to be a lot harder. | /r/askRPC | 19/06/20 01:19 AM |
| 1 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsWhere I had got concerned is if a man revels in her dread, recognizing that she is in distress, and taking joy in it. I guess it can be a thin line the way I’m thinking of it, we are one flesh after all. Correct, but there's no point for a man to do that. Original red pill says to create dread by making her jealous if I’m remembering that right and that is not Jesus like at all. Fixing your life to focus more on mission and God and start to clean up all of the areas where you've been slacking (s… | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 08:34 PM |
| 1 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsClassic agree & amplify works well in that situation. To be clear, personally do not advocate for going out and flirting with other women. But if you're attractive other women will start to gravitate to you, sometimes even if your wife is there. | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 08:24 PM |
| 3 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsHow can you bluff other women liking you? Unless you pay some women to fawn over you or something. | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 04:49 AM |
| 5 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsDread in the context of marriage is about a woman understanding the gravity of her situation. She should be all-in for her husband, but maybe she has turned away, is disrespectful, or denies him sex. Thus, when a husband becomes someone who is desirable to others (usually other women) it provokes his wife to dread. If it helps you understand better, you could use the Biblical term: righteous jealousy. Romans 11:7 What then? What Israel is seeking, it has not obtained, but those who were chosen o… | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Are women really "saved through child-bearing"? Yes.Before reading this post, my position was #7. I still think it can be RC's view and #7 too. I don't think they are mutually exclusive. For wives having children represents a challenge to her solipsism in needing to care for other humans that are totally dependent on her. This gives wives a stronger perspective of being totally selfless and opportunity to raise godly offspring (which is opposite when women teach as they seem to more often fall to cultural standards instead of reinforcing the gosp… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Are women really "saved through child-bearing"? Yes.Yep, it's not all about the woman because Deuteronomy 25:5 says that the first son of the redeemer shall be called his dead brother's name "so that his name will not be blotted out from Israel." But anyways, there's redemption for the woman as well. You can think of Boaz as a picture of Christ and Ruth as a picture of the Church. Yup, I agree with that. Thinking about "collateral redemption" for the woman when the main object to redeem is the lineage, took me to Romans 11:11. What if the "lineag… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Are women really "saved through child-bearing"? Yes.I associate it to OT commandment to marry and reproduce with the childless widow of a relative (Deuteronomy 25:5-10). In the book of Ruth, the person who will take up that duty is referred to as the woman's redeemer. The word used for redeemer in Ruth 4:1 is also used in Psalm 103:4 in a soteriological sense. Kinsman redeemer is specifically so that the line (e.g. offspring or seed) of each man and therefore his inheritance in the land is not extinguished. This is why lineages are important, and… | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/20 11:13 PM |
| 1 | What's the difference between a red flag, a red flag that can be resolved? Am I being too picky?Ah, that makes more sense. | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/20 06:05 AM |
| 1 | What's the difference between a red flag, a red flag that can be resolved? Am I being too picky?Hmm, interesting. Our church's stance has always been that 3x a week is a bit excessive given the amount of time it takes, time that could be better spent on the mission / reading / prayer / fellowship. That's why typically it's just once a week, sometimes even once every other week when times are busy. That's weird. Per 1 Corinthians 7 it should be about not depriving each other so that the husband or wife may not fall into temptation. Thanks for the advice. Your blog is great and I've been rco… | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/20 03:08 AM |
| 1 | What's the difference between a red flag, a red flag that can be resolved? Am I being too picky?I wouldn't change my advice based on anything you said. In fact, I would be a bit more wary that 1x a week is the norm. Most Christian men I've discussed with want at least 3x a week minimum but would prefer more. However, you do you. If you think it's a situation that is normal given your circumstances then fire away. | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/20 12:14 AM |
| – | Am I crazy?ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. Locked until you add your stats. Me… | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Is r/Christianmarriage a BP sub?Just got perm-banned for trying to help a guy out who wanted to be more manly and directing him to RPC lol. Many subs including that one have rules that you're not allowed to reference other subs, except generic ones like /r/TrueChristian Especially controversial ones that have the name RP even though we've repeatedly explained it's like XXX Christians | /r/askRPC | 13/06/20 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Should I (21M) prioritise losing fat and building muscle?Unfortunately Unis in Australia generally don’t have free gyms. Ouch. Although you guys probably don't have as bloated tuition as we do. I think I’m going to go against my mentors advice and grab that gym membership- I think it’s very affordable for me. It's a good choice. You'll notice a difference as you get stronger and bigger. | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 02:39 PM |
| 6 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexI believe majority of marriages are doomed to fail and as such think marriage is a poor choice for majority of men especially with the nature of women. Of course there shall be outliers to this, but I'd rather focus on God whilst doing my own thing, living my own life having fun and not have a woman (despite not being capable of attracting one), as a huge burden on my shoulders. Sure, if you can stay single for God and wholeheartedly serve Him. Most marriages are not doomed to fail though, at le… | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 02:36 PM |
| 7 | Born-again women with high body countsGood points. Will just be asking for stats next time. | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 02:24 PM |
| – | Resentment because of sexual inexperience2 ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. PM after you have done this and w… | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 02:22 PM |
| 7 | Should I (21M) prioritise losing fat and building muscle?Thanks for adding stats. studying Law at Uni full time If my goal is to be more attractive to Christian women, should I be prioritising losing fat and building muscle or working more and saving money (to move out from home)? Doesn't your university have a gym that you can use for free? That would be the best option. Running is not enough. Bodyweight training can be OK (/r/bodyweightfitness) but it's not as good as weight for building muscle. Prioritize gaining muscle if you're around 10-15% body… | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 08:00 AM |
| 2 | What's the difference between a red flag, a red flag that can be resolved? Am I being too picky?I've given this advice a couple times before when there is a good prospect but may not be ready yet. Break up or put the relationship on hold for 6-12 months and explore other options other than each other. This ensures that she continues to do whatever she needs to do to allow God to fix her brokenness. If after a year she has continued to make improvements (and yourself as well) and you still want to try again when you both are more mature in Christ then go for it. This eliminates the overarch… | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 07:34 AM |
| 7 | Recommendations for solid Christian fiction for tween daughter (11)Coming from it with the other perspective: I've seen enough sheltered homeschoolers go crazy acting out in high school and college. "In the world but not of the world" doesn't really mean you have to only do things that avoid all mentions of sinning. For instance, watching some of the popular TV shows out now (that have lots of sinful behavior) can be a tool to discuss things with non-believers and segue into the gospel. I'm generally not against having kids watch and listen to secular stuff as … | /r/askRPC | 13/06/20 12:25 AM |
| 3 | What's the difference between a red flag, a red flag that can be resolved? Am I being too picky?The next step would be to hopefully take a photo together, as she mentioned that's something still difficult for her to do. I'm probably going to get ridiculed and crucified by everybody here for dating a girl who's still literally learning how to interact with men, but that's the kind of person I'm working with here. I have a lot of compassion and pity for her, and for how she's still learning how to do basic things like take a photo with a man. She doesn't know or understand how romantic relat… | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 12:13 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)We were in marriage counseling for 3 years while she tried to decide if she wanted to be married. This devolved into me doing every single thing she asked because I was so afraid of losing her. She told me "I'm tired of waiting for you to be someone else." Yeah, marriage counseling often leads to that result ("do everything your wife wants to make her happy") which is counterproductive. She becomes the leader and thus dissatisfied and makes excuses to divorce. It will take a while to break those… | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 12:10 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)Thanks. And yeah, that's definitely a good area to work on. Having a good mission statement that encompasses everything you want to do for God is good though. Some questions to consider: What are you going to accomplish for God in this life? How are you going to use your gifts of the Spirit to build up the body of Christ? How are you evangelizing and disciple-making per Matthew 28? | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 11:51 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)Divorce was a clean break. We already had the paperwork done for a legal separation and that converted to a divorce at her request. We're no contact except logistics. I meant why was there a divorce. Mission. That's a hard one. I'm in the middle of a financial transition, from student to working. My mission is to be a human being, to seek my God, to have hobbies, to live out His love for the people around me, to learn to lean on His timing and trust Him. OK good start. Some questions to consider… | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 11:50 PM |
| 30 | Born-again women with high body counts2 ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. Post these up in your OP. To answ… | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 11:44 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)Marriage: Going to admit something here - even with how much better things are with my wife and I now from when I first started improving, I still struggle with outcome independence. I still have a tendency to get angry when she rejects me and even though I don't say anything and just try to let the anger go, she still senses it. She knows that it makes me mad when she rejects me because she starts asking "is something wrong" within 5 minutes of rejection. I don't have to say anything for her to… | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 11:37 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)Excellent consistency. Keep it up. | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)What happened with the divorce? The biggest thing your missing is mission. What are you supposed to be doing that God wants you to do? | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 11:26 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)Yeah, true mission is hard for most Christians. Usually it's something that you're passionate about and have the gifts of the Spirit for. For me, it's men's ministry (both married and unmarried) to help them navigate things in a Christ-like manner. For married, obviously a wife and family is part of that mission, but that's not all that God wants to do with your life. A big issue that I've had since swallowing the red pill, is that I've assumed that every single time my wife is irrationally upse… | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 11:23 PM |
| 4 | What's the difference between a red flag, a red flag that can be resolved? Am I being too picky?Some questions for you to consider. How much of these changes (e.g therapy for neglect and sexual issues) were prompted by you vs. her working on changing before you showed up? How much initiative does she show? If you've read my blog, you know I've posted before on me getting girls to start working out and be healthy. Yeah, they did but they generally weren't super serious about it, and they stopped once I didn't date them anymore. It's generally much superior to have them doing it before you s… | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 09:17 PM |
| – | How can I be more masculine?From the sidebar: 2. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. Thread has bee… | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 05:32 AM |
| 3 | Practical Ways to Become More MasculineHe added and I unlocked. Looks to be the issues that I brought up from rule 2. | /r/RPChristians | 07/06/20 11:53 PM |
| 16 | Practical Ways to Become More MasculineFrom the sidebar: 2. ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. Most of your p… | /r/RPChristians | 07/06/20 02:46 AM |
| 10 | Husbands Being Christ Like and LeadingIt isn't easy to be a modest woman either. Men are flocking after the type of women that you described. You're conflating two different things. As a generality, lots of men give attention to women who dress sexy and immodest because they want sex. They don't want to marry that type of woman though. Men also give attention to women who dress classy, and these are the types of women they want to marry. The problem is that few women dress feminine and classy (form-fitting but modest dresses and ski… | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/20 04:54 PM |
| 4 | Problems with my Family.IMO: There's not much of a reason to be talking about politics if they're incendiary topics that drive wedges between family and friends. Very few people change their views on this, except through the power of Jesus. Christ did not come to change politics or laws or overthrow the government. Nor did He do much for race equality He ministered to everyone. He came for the sake of the gospel and transformational change of our hearts. | /r/askRPC | 06/06/20 04:40 PM |
| 5 | Problems with my Family.I’ve just had a big fallout with my entire family, ending with my father calling me a ‘racist white supremacist likeable to hitler’ after passionately articulating, expressing and defending my views (like any self respecting man would do) on current affairs. My mother and brother pretty much agreed with him, neither coming to my defence in any shape or form. Need to know what was said. | /r/askRPC | 05/06/20 09:15 PM |
| 3 | How would you remedy self hatred?God almost always intervenes when you pray according to His will. For instance, pray to be put into situations where you can practice patience and self control. Then remind yourself each day as you're walking through it with Scripture verses. When you encounter these situations, take note of them and practice your patience and self control. We grow as Christians by incrementally following the Holy Spirit in these situations and lots of small things will add up to large things. Luke 16:10 He who … | /r/askRPC | 05/06/20 08:24 PM |
| 4 | How would you remedy self hatred?Paul has a similar thought pattern in Romans Romans 7:14 For we know that the Law is spiritual, but I am of flesh, sold into bondage to sin. 15 For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate. 16 But if I do the very thing I do not want to do, I agree with the Law, confessing that the Law is good. 17 So now, no longer am I the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me. 18 For I know that nothing good dwells in me, tha… | /r/askRPC | 05/06/20 03:06 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/20)I need to be better at initiating sex, but my interest in my wife (physically, I mean) hasn't been there at all. We had sex around the end of last week, and she's still talking about how good it was, but I just don't get much from it. Schedule it. Scheduled sex does not have to be bad or non-romantic or anything like that. In fact, if it's good your wife will be looking forward to it. Some husbands get too entrenched in doing it for their wife and forget to enjoy themselves. So enjoy yourself. I… | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 11:58 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/20)I am single and a virgin but I’ve been really horny lately. I’ve been tempted to watch porn but I haven’t pressed play luckily. I might get Tinder again. Don't do either. Replace the temptations (old) with putting on the new. What can you do instead that is godly? I don’t have a necessary mission but just goals for myself. Everyone has one. What gifts of the Holy Spirit do you have? How are you going to use those to evangelize, serve the body of Christ, or make disciples? | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 11:53 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/20)With red pill, I think I've been getting a lot of the basics down but I've been having a hard time reconciling dread/DGAF with being loving and emotionally supportive of my wife. I'm hopeful that after I've done some more reading I'll be able to better articulate my RPchristian game. So the problem that most men have with their wife's emotions is that if they start to do things to try to change their emotions (e.g. make them happy) that is implicitly making her feelings the leader of the marriag… | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 11:50 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/20)Coincidence or can someone help out with an explanation? Practicing a movement a lot makes you better at it In the interests of not discussing Fight Club, I did not take the opportunity to explain the role of FO. Is this necessary, would you suggest? It doesn’t seem to be at this stage (I’m effectively wrestling the Captain’s hat off her still). Explain it in terms of Genesis or Ephesians. Helper. But, having achieved that goal, it seems empty and I’m not too interested in sex any more!?? Normal… | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 11:44 PM |
| 1 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?Ah, the common "sin" of men. Does that mean you're for fining women if they spend too much time on or post too many pictures on social media? | /r/askRPC | 03/06/20 07:55 PM |
| 6 | How to create sexual tension/make conversations man-to-woman as a Christian?I agree with redwall that escalating usually isn't the issue. It's probably she's somewhat attracted but it kinda fizzles Attractive man giving a woman flowers = romantic Unattractive man giving a woman flowers = creep You're probably somewhere in between, or you have behaviors or traits that turn a woman off so the relationship fizzles in the dating stage. The attraction thing is hard to tell over the Internet, but if you have a muscular physique then the other things to look at are usually sty… | /r/askRPC | 02/06/20 10:14 PM |
| 1 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?Good way to look at it. What types of penalties would you suggest be imposed in a pre-nup? Something along the lines of what "fault divorce" once was? Or something akin to actual Scriptural laws? | /r/askRPC | 02/06/20 05:21 AM |
| 3 | How should Christian men seeking to marry respond to women guilty of fornication claiming that males using porn is the same thing?but where I have gone to church no one has yet been shamed for saying a virgin is what they want. Harder to shame someone in person, even if they think that. I don't really intend to be open about my preference's since there is no point in giving ammo to others. Yup, if you are comfortable with who you are and your own preferences there's no need to tell others. If I told others I don't like tattoos then tons of Christians who have them would get mad. I don't particularly care if they got mad at… | /r/askRPC | 01/06/20 05:02 AM |
| 0 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?Getting a prenup is like trying to avoid a state marriage license. Generally, it is a waste of time due to the distrust it will sow with likely not only your spouse but also your family, her family, and the Church community if they hear of it. Not getting the state marriage license is more troublesome in some respects (much more difficult to do medical stuff, insurance, taxes, etc plus courts can interject anyway with child support and other stuff like that). That said... if you have assets you … | /r/askRPC | 01/06/20 03:10 AM |
| 2 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?Removed your post and let the AskRPC one stay up. If you want this one back up you gotta follow the rules here and put in your stats and more substantive content in the OP. | /r/RPChristians | 31/05/20 11:40 PM |
| 9 | How should Christian men seeking to marry respond to women guilty of fornication claiming that males using porn is the same thing?Recently wrote a post on the topic of having preferences. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2020/05/24/unshameable/ Accepting fellow Christians and treating them rightly is not the same as having preferences in marriage. You can have any preference you want. If you are a non-virgin and want a virgin then go for it. It's not hypocrisy as long as you are chaste. Hypocrisy a la Matthew 7 is specifically doing one thing (continually and concurrently) and saying another. Taking the plank out of your… | /r/askRPC | 31/05/20 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Social MediaThat could make it awkward, but TheChristianAlpha's way to do it is still fine. If she doesn't follow it, I'd consider talking to her dad since as a pastor he's responsible for shepherding his family well as qualifications for leading the Church via 1 Timothy 3. If she still wants to do that after having warned her then that's up to her. | /r/askRPC | 30/05/20 10:41 PM |
| 4 | Social MediaI’m not going to do anything about it because we all make choices and this isn’t my responsibility. Uh, yeah, you do. Christians are supposed to help each other if they get off track. Matthew 18 and other verses from the Scriptures are pretty clear on that. | /r/askRPC | 30/05/20 09:47 PM |
| 19 | (M25) My fiancee (F24) isn't sure if she wants to marry me anymore after we've had to cancel two weddingsI know you've posted this on multiple subs already, so I'll just give it to you straight. I seem to be linking this all the time recently: The Christian Brad Pitt thought experiment How would she act if she were marrying Christian Brad Pitt (or insert Christ Hemsworth, Chris Adams, or whoever is the super handsome, muscular, popular celebrity if he was a Christian)? She would be ready to rush down the altar to meet him there despite if there were difficult issues getting a wedding planned. She'd… | /r/RPChristians | 30/05/20 07:01 AM |
| 2 | The way of manI agree with you as a general theme, but you know as well as I do the context of his post was more in line of changing the things "back to the way it used to be" (which is a common theme in the manosphere). | /r/RPChristians | 29/05/20 04:30 AM |
| 2 | What to do when I am tired of doing first moves? Am I missing something?It honestly doesn't matter if she's attracted to you. The only time it really matters is if you come off as feminine or needy over text which is unattractive and she will lose interest. This is certainly a concern if you have beta tendencies, which many men here do so it may be a good idea to abstain from too much texting until you have a better handle on how lead and have fun over text well. | /r/RPChristians | 29/05/20 04:26 AM |
| 9 | What to do when I am tired of doing first moves? Am I missing something?+1 Remember guys: The Christian Brad Pitt thought experiment. How would she act if she was REALLY attracted to you? (She would be messaging you all the time and trying to meet up with you as much as possible.) | /r/RPChristians | 29/05/20 04:21 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)Saw this cause of your tag. I got advice for this situation based on mine. Today was a big milestone particularly as I managed to speed walk/jog 3k without stopping, considering I was totally immobile just over 3 weeks ago. I'll be taking it easy and slowly getting back into a workout program that will keep me pain free. I do worry that I am losing strength and muscle size at this time, however I am making a small trade off so that I can recover fully and significantly reduce the chance of re-in… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 08:58 PM |
| 2 | The way of manMarried guys - if you were to redo things, what would you have done differently? Have you weighed out the pros and cons now that you’ve experienced marriage? Wouldn't really change anything. I would say my marriage is perfect, but my wife does not really do any of these things: I love women, I really do but their solipsistic, passive, narcissistic, hypergamous nature creates more cons than pros. The juice just isn’t worth the squeeze. She's not a unicorn and I'm not claiming NAWALT, but I have b… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 07:57 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)Yeah, it is broader in some respects, though you could say that about some of the other books as well. If you do need help though don't hesitate to ask | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Praying with my wifeI would bring up Matthew 7:7-11 and Philip. 4:6 as I think God does want to give you desires of your heart, (Psalm 37), but those desires will be in line with his will if you are 'delighting yourself' in him Yeah, I agree. Though many Christians in the west seem to think its material prosperity (which is why prosperity gospel is so popular). I also get the feeling that our concept of 'needs' is much different than Gods. Agreed. Many Christians have died of famine, disease, and lack of what we ca… | /r/askRPC | 28/05/20 03:17 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)What john said. Exercise is the big one that is going to help give you not only the physical help in recomposing your body, but also helps build the mental toughness along with the Holy Spirit to overcome addictions. Focus on putting on the new (building good habits spiritually) rather than agonizing on the old (the addictions). You not only need to take off the old but put on the new. If you don't put on the new, you're going to default back to the old. | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 12:04 AM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)Not to toot my own horn, but my book goes through most of the RP concepts in non-RP terms. I think it's still the only Christian book on the topics. The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QPQ9FRD/ A large chunk is geared toward singles, but these are things most husbands still need to work on as well. It's just harder now that you actually have a wife. I lost my temper and I'm not ha… | /r/RPChristians | 27/05/20 11:59 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)In most cases when she is being a buthole due to hormones or whatever I just make sure I don’t let it trigger me internally and stay busy doing stuff. she apologizes for her behavior like an hour later. If she's growing in this area, you can start to address it in the moment eventually. "Hey I know you might not mean to come off this way, but it seems like you're [doing this] or have [this attitude]" Being pregnant is not an excuse for bad/sinful behavior. Sex is like one time a week. Sometimes … | /r/RPChristians | 27/05/20 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Praying with my wifeBecause the oft stated "Don't worry God will provide" is often misinterpreted as including wants. It's right there in the same chapter. Same for the "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" which is about being content in all circumstances. I don't think it's wrong to pray for wants (or even selfishly in some cases), but I wouldn't expect them to get answered. Plus, if you're newer, it's good to get straight on the fundamentals and seeing answered prayer is very helpful in growing… | /r/askRPC | 27/05/20 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Praying with my wifeBrother, you're overthinking this. Matthew 6:9 “Pray, then, in this way: ‘Our Father who is in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. 10 ‘Your kingdom come. Your will be done, On earth as it is in heaven. 11 ‘Give us this day our daily bread. 12 ‘And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 ‘And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil. [For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.’] v9 - Praise God v10 - Pray for God's will to be done on eart… | /r/askRPC | 26/05/20 11:36 PM |
| 3 | Did I do the right thing by blocking this woman?That's good. And yeah move on. It's possible something could happen, but it's 99% of the time better to start off fresh with another woman. | /r/RPChristians | 25/05/20 02:52 AM |
| 2 | Finding an RP Christian WomanYes. I like to lead off topics like this "I was recently reading an article online (or book) that had some interesting analysis about [topic]. They asserted [insert controversial topic here]. I admit they had some compelling arguments. What do you think?" "I was studying the Scripture and came across [topic]. I dug into the commentaries and it looks like this was interpreted a certain way until now, but it seems like recently the Church has changed on the stance and maybe went the way of culture… | /r/askRPC | 25/05/20 02:50 AM |
| 3 | Finding an RP Christian WomanBut is it worth continuing with someone who is so deep in the collective liberal ideology? Why wouldn't it be, if they are responding to the gospel? (and not social justice). Christians are to help each other onto the right path when they are in error. It it's bad soil and they're not responding then maybe it's not worth your time. | /r/askRPC | 24/05/20 11:30 PM |
| 11 | Finding an RP Christian WomanThe majority have been great and some have turned into plates. You're having sex with them? If yes then stop and repent. However when the questions of faith come up (for the Christians I talk to) all of them so far have very liberal BP views (equality etc... the usual liberal stuff) which is fed to them by secular society and modern church groups. It’s probably a lost cause trying to change their views to RP, as my focus is my life plan and mission anyway. That's exactly what you should try to d… | /r/askRPC | 24/05/20 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Did I do the right thing by blocking this woman?Excellent brother. I've had a few situations like this in the past, and it almost never gets resolved but at least your conscience is clear and hopefully God can help them to work through their actions and hurt down the line too. | /r/RPChristians | 23/05/20 11:09 PM |
| 3 | How to make sense of all this? I am scarred.Report it to the authorities and/or church. If nothing comes of it, it's not on your conscience anymore. Move on. How can I cope with the fact that I was lied to our entire time and her, along with her family put up a front towards me. How could I cope with the fact that I never knew my girlfriend and she might have had NPD and BPD all in one? We told you to move on because we saw all the red flags. You ignored red flags. Move on now. Don't repeat the same mistake (ignore red flags or sound advi… | /r/RPChristians | 23/05/20 06:55 PM |
| 13 | Did I do the right thing by blocking this woman?Multiple issues here: Pass off younger girls to older women disciplers. You can see the problem when a younger girl likes you, especially if you're in an LTR. Generally, it can be OK to disciple a woman if you are interested romantically (as you would do that as a husband for your wife anyway as shown in Ephesian 5), but this is all sorts of weird with the LTR and then you wanting to be friends despite obvious interest. That's a no go zone. You were giving her mixed signals like receiving the gi… | /r/RPChristians | 23/05/20 04:50 PM |
| 1 | The Gospel and White PrivilegeIt's the apex fallacy, just in different terms. Everyone cares about the rich white businessmen and politicians. No one cares about the poor white "trailer trash," the poor white farmer, the white blue collar worker, and the average white retail worker. Who, by the way, vastly outnumber the amount of rich white businessmen and politicians. That's how Trump got elected in the first place. Liberal/democratic contempt for white privilege, better treatment of illegal aliens than their own poor citiz… | /r/askRPC | 22/05/20 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Some good news and some questionsDeflecting? Butt hurt? Really? You are so immature and antagonizing, and you’re considered a leader here. Don’t conflate my objection to such childish behavior with an “emotional reaction.” You implied I lack critical thinking skills and an apparent obedience to God, and shared nothing but negativity in response to a very positive post. Your post screams of a superiority complex. This type of response is the definition of butt hurt. You admitted it yourself too saying you're emotionally unstable… | /r/askRPC | 21/05/20 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Women are the beloved creation of Gods hand before they are temptation to youShe still disobeyed abrahamic law to have sex with chad warrior poet. Not just that. Uriah was one of David's mighty men. There was no way she didn't know him and had probably met him before. Classic adulterous trade up. All the women in the woodwork are coming out today to make sure David has 100% of the blame and none is Bathsheba's. Like women don't know right from wrong. Give me a break. | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/20 03:18 AM |
| 2 | Women are the beloved creation of Gods hand before they are temptation to youThe Bible does not explicitly say that, and what David did was take Bathsheba into his own hands even though he had brothels of other women already. He took what wasn’t his and he is responsible for doing so, Bathsheba wasn’t the one who came into him first. I don’t know what her intentions were, but since the Bible is silent regarding that, let’s just assume she was bathing for now before we fill in space that need not be filled or assumed without context. Unfortunately, you're wrong. They knew… | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/20 12:45 AM |
| 5 | Women are the beloved creation of Gods hand before they are temptation to you“This is what Jesus was getting at(in regards to Matthew 5 v 27-28). Looking at someone with lustful intent is looking at someone purely as a means of gratification for you- as a means of satisfying a desire you have. It is turning them into a commodity to be consumed, rather than a person to honor. It makes their sexuality something for us to be satiated by(67).” “This is what lust does. It reduces how we see others, in the process dehumanizes us. We become those who see less and less of humani… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 11:32 PM |
| 7 | Bridging the Gap -- Christianity and TRPChristianity is a system to get a man to heaven Christianity is a mission to repent of your former sinful life and follow Jesus. Heaven/eternal life is a side effect of the mission, but it is not the goal. The goal of the mission is to make disciples for Jesus just as we are disciples of Jesus. Ignoring plate theory completely will result in a man focusing all of his time and effort on one girl at a time like a beta blue pill loser. There's nothing wrong with "focusing time and effort on one wom… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 10:42 PM |
| 3 | Response to "Why Men Hate Going to Church"Don't post it multiple times please. One comment. If you want to compile your research into a post on Christian music and how it's gone to crap, then submit it as a post on the subreddit. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Response to "Why Men Hate Going to Church"Here's the full archives of the newsletter. Sign up. https://www.aaronrenn.com/masculinist/ His bio can be accessed from that page near the top | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 05:42 AM |
| 5 | Response to "Why Men Hate Going to Church"That is one way to look at it. To be more clear: Nice guys = Chivalrous guys = White Knights Defending women feels good to men, but the problem is when you do it when women are sinning. For example, denying sex from their husbands, frivolously divorcing (frivorcing), sex/children out of wedlock, etc. Not so easy to call out these sins when you know the congregation may get angry at you. | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 06:00 PM |
| 14 | Response to "Why Men Hate Going to Church"Perhaps instead of getting his response to that post, you should actually grab the book "Why men hate going to Church" and have him read it. Aaron Renn's Masculinist does a good job at covering the feminization of the Church (including Murrow's book) historically by examining the evidence and not being as opinionated on the 'whys' at least. https://www.aaronrenn.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/The-Masculinist-3-The-History-of-Church-and-Men.pdf The real crux of the issue (beyond the opinions of w… | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 06:07 AM |
| 3 | How do I approach my husband about this issue?Aside from what RC said, I didn't see this mentioned in OP. Is he a serious Christian that will respond to Scripture? That's the clearest Biblical route you can go. Example: Ephesian 4:29 Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. "I know you may not mean to come off like that but when you say [insert insensitive thing here] it doesn't feel to me like you're bu… | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 04:49 AM |
| 8 | The Gospel and White PrivilegeSomething like this could work: "Yes, there is still injustice in the world today especially in America. Although I'm not black, I am a Christian and one of Jesus' sayings really resonates with me that I try to live out: Love God and love your neighbor as yourself. Although I'm not perfect at it, I try to love everyone the way Jesus taught" In general, it acknowledges there are injustices still happening which is true. It doesn't speak to any particular situation though which is a good thing. Th… | /r/askRPC | 19/05/20 03:46 AM |
| 3 | Is marrige worth it?Yeah, that seems like a waste of time, effort and money. Plus, introducing a potential distrust factor. | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Is marrige worth it?In this, I believe your comment was not necessarily from a biblical standpoint and more a pragmatic assessment of the general benefits of marriage compared to the legal issues OP was talking about. In this, I agree - with proper legal planning, the legal benefits of marriage certainly outweigh the legal risks associated with it, especially if you're already intending to have sex with the person - not just because of the "premarital sex" issue (which is effectively resolved through spiritual marr… | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Is marrige worth it?I'm more concerned with the fundamental compulsion of a man to seek a wife in the first place - that he would want one so badly that he starts paying for things to get her to give him the time of day. That's backwards to me. Agreed. I don't think that was the premise of the post (or maybe it was?), and I'm not speaking about the scenario. | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 03:27 AM |
| 3 | Is marrige worth it?So are you saying that in a "no common law marriage" state that even if you don't legally marry, don't have children and don't have joint property that some woman can still drag you into court and get a judge to bend the law backwards to divorce rape you anyways? I'd say it's a high probability. I doubt most people aren't going to have children, and it's unlikely that you don't have any joint property. Even if you don't then to family, friends, the church and others you are going to say you are … | /r/RPChristians | 17/05/20 08:00 PM |
| 5 | How to heal from previous relationship?I am left with a large dark void in my life. I feel like I will be alone forever. God used me and her to bring each other back to Him. I didn’t think it’d be temporary. This experience paralyzed me. My goals and aspirations took a back seat as my goal of starting a family with her died. I lack motivation to start on my goals again besides the gym - obviously, no gym during quarantine. The only thing that permanently fills and fixes holes is Jesus. Focus on the gospel and reflect what Christ has … | /r/askRPC | 16/05/20 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Does anybody battle daily depression at looking at the current moral state of affairs?Does anybody battle daily depression at looking at the current moral state of affairs? Why would you when you can reflect on the gospel and see what Jesus has done for us? And then want to spread that to others? Romans 5:1 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. 3 And not only this, but we also exult i… | /r/askRPC | 16/05/20 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Is marrige worth it?and if I really want settle down rather then to be alone Marriage is not about settling down, it's about making disciples through a family (and having that as an influence through others). Celibacy for God is the same, but ministry and evangelism for God through the Church as your family. | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Is marrige worth it?Avoiding legal marriage is a waste of time. Even if you don't legally marry and you live in "no common law marriage" states the courts will still interject with joint property and children. And good luck sorting out various insurances and how to put a non-wife and children onto yours or vice versa. I considered it, but looking at how the courts will still interject anyway it's just a waste. Heck, they might come down on you harder because if the judge gets wind you were trying to avoid legal mar… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Is marrige worth it?In today's dating climate, who pays for dates has been the metric by which we judge a person's level of desire of wanting your company. It's a very reliable metric, too. I respect Deep_Strength and his contributions, but please do not guilted by this comment. Traditions are gone on most people and dating standards have changed. Says who? The secular RP who base much of their information off trying to bang promiscuous women? If you want to do that it's up to you, but don't try to act like its not… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 04:36 PM |
| 1 | What is RP?Read the sidebar. There's literally a post called "what is RP for Christians" | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Is marrige worth it?Your wife is a reflection of you. If you're weak and pathetic, your wife will treat you that way and eventually divorce you. If you become a man worthy of respect and sex, then your wife will respond accordingly. The secular RP says this all the time, and it's not totally correct. God and Israel and Jesus the Church/disciples are obvious examples. God and Jesus perfectly led, but Israel and the Church and disciples went wayward all the time. Tons of Jesus' disciples left Him in John 6. One can b… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 06:19 AM |
| 8 | Feminism is Satan's weapon into separating us humans from god/Jesus. *Hear me our before you disagree*To be honest, Satan is scapegoated too much. There's only a few times in the Bible where Satan tempts people to sin. In the garden with Adam and Eve, Jesus in the wilderness, and maybe a few others. The rest of the time it's men and women giving into their natural temptations to want to sin either by vices, ideology, hedonism, or whatever. Feminism is the same thing. Scapegoating Satan is used by people to absolve themselves of their behavior. Own your sin and repent of it. Satan didn't make you… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 03:50 AM |
| 5 | Is marrige worth it?Is marrige worth it? Yes. Hebrew 13:4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. 1 Timothy 4:1 But the Spirit explicitly says that in later times some will fall away from the faith, paying attention to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons, 2 by means of the hypocrisy of liars seared in their own conscience as with a branding iron, 3 men who forbid marriage and advocate abstaining from foods which God has… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 03:45 AM |
| 14 | questioning male sex drive and porn useYou would have more credibility if: You used proper grammar, capitalization, etc. You used quotes when you use them. Use the > sign before the start of a paragraph to quote. Keep the opinions on particular topics to a minimum. Just state how men's biology via their sex drive makes it really difficult for men in today's society and we need support and help rather than cutting down. The more cutting down of men the Church, other men, and women do to men who are struggling the more they are going t… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 03:34 AM |
| 9 | Does Man Really Findeth A Wife?My question is, in this situation, should I even be trying to find a woman of God to build an empire with? Or should I just pray about it and move on? Generally speaking, as you become a strong, masculine leader, you will start to attract more women including Christian women. I personally don't see anything wrong with going out and looking, but you have to be aware that you should not pursue only initiate. I've compiled a bunch of posts here https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/actionable-steps-to… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 03:30 AM |
| 1 | AdviceI really don’t want to be treated by my future husband in the same way my dad has treated my mom; how can I avoid such a guy and what qualities should I look for in a man? Watch how he treats others and you. Listen to your godly friends and family and don't get blinded by infatuation. What is a biblical perspective on a man’s responsibilities to his wife? Treat her as yourself (Eph 5) and be understanding and honor her (1 Peter 3). 1 Corinthians 13 on love is always a good one. Do you think a ma… | /r/askRPC | 15/05/20 03:14 PM |
| 7 | A Quick Reminder about Women's CompetencyI know. Alot of the women hate is cringe. My wife has an IQ of 163 and regularly gets job solicitations from Google. Yes. She's not only smarter than me, but also smarter than you. She is extremely fast at solving problems is often far ahead of others. So, yes, I listen to her often. Lol. Glad your wife can be a good helper to you, but this sounds like an awkward, cheap commercial. Wives who have husbands who are smarter than them could easily say the same thing, and it looks pretty dumb in retr… | /r/RPChristians | 15/05/20 03:10 PM |
| 12 | Should we guys listen to our mommas?Should we guys listen to our mommas? One should always honor your father and mother, even if you don't use their advice. For instance, you can tell an overbearing parent respectfully: "Thank you for the advice. I'm an adult now and trying to navigate these things by myself, but I appreciate your advice and will take it under serious consideration" However, on the topic of the actual advice it varies. Women usually give great advice about how to spot another woman's BS. That's because they are in… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Christian 'Red Pill' booksDalrock doesn't mention it here, but he agrees with the plain reading of the Bible: Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3, and Titus 2 show the behavior a wife should have even if she disagrees. The "wake up call" is clearly a disrespectful power grabbing move. Thus, it is rebelliousness drawn from the inventory of feminists. Yet many Christian leaders are advocating it under the guise of godliness. That is the scary part. | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 07:14 PM |
| 20 | Modern dating makes me feel like I need to sin to get involved with women.It's sinful to lust, but the only way to make a woman attracted to you is to show her that you lust after her, and make her lust after you (create sexual tension) No, this is often taken in the wrong context. Matthew 5:27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery’; 28 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman/wife (gune) with lust (epithumeo) for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Romans 7:7 What shall we say then? Is the Law sin? May it ne… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 03:25 AM |
| 7 | How to evaluate sexuality compatibility as a Christian with no pre-marital sex and only chaste behaviorIf you become unattractive, whatever "compatibility" you think you had will go down the drain. Definitely true. Many a marriage where the husband and wife were having tons of sex early but it petered out as the wife took over leadership as a husband gets lazy and/or fat or the wife is just rebellious. So, definitely address the things in this list, but also look for the FAST qualities as your overarching imperative. Yup. these criteria are a good filter assuming you're already on mission and hav… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 03:06 AM |
| 7 | How to evaluate sexuality compatibility as a Christian with no pre-marital sex and only chaste behaviorCan she hold a beat with her whole body? This is a fairly good one I think. The more comfortable she is with her body to put herself out there dancing and holding rhythm the more likely she will be for sex which can be awkward at first as well. Does she clam up when things are "weird"? Also a good one and goes along with broaching a lot of the topics mentioned in the OP. This is especially important if you're both virgins and learning to have sex with each other. It's going to feel weird and awk… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 03:02 AM |
| 5 | How to evaluate sexuality compatibility as a Christian with no pre-marital sex and only chaste behaviorThere is no such thing as sexual compatibility in scripture. Agreed. Drive etc are irrelevant. Husband and wife are mutually obligated by marriage covenant to not deny the other their conjugal rights and are encouraged to frequent sexuality with the only excuse for not having sex being a mutual break to better devote oneself to prayer, fasting, etc. Disagree. If you visit any RP sub, /r/christianmarriage or /r/deadbedrooms and anywhere else you will see many so-called Christian men and women den… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 02:58 AM |
| 2 | What she does before, she does afterSomething I've continually wondered is given the validity of watching actions vs. words and that the above quote is also true (in the Christian framework), how does one judge that aspect of a potential spouse? In a common phrase "sexual compatibility." Here's my writeup elaborating more on this: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/gj9u54/how_to_evaluate_sexuality_compatibility_as_a/ /u/Redpillwonder and /u/capn_bn as well | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/20 10:58 PM |
| 8 | Christian 'Red Pill' booksNo. Dobson, Mohler, and the rest of the Focus on the Family tree do not dispense Biblical advice on relationships and marriages especially when a wife is unhappy. Example: https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2014/03/03/the-wake-up-call/ | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 10:46 PM |
| 10 | Being a servant sexy?You should love and serve others because God commands us to do it. Full stop. Doesn't matter what the explanation is. Second, this is just the same part of the attractive/unattractive dichotomy that women (and men for that part) also have. Here's the explanation though. An attractive man who gives a woman flowers = romantic An unattractive man who gives a woman flowers = creep Pretty stark difference An attractive man who opens a door for a woman = "wow, he's so kind. I want to get to know him b… | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 10:37 PM |
| 13 | How do I get my husband to workout and eat healthy?You can't change other people but you can influence them. If you're working out then invite him. If you're eating healthy or cooking then offer to do that for him. Etc. Don't nag. Don't get butthurt. Don't respond negatively but only positively. He can make his own choices, and your positive behavior should influence him over time. Negative emotions and behavior only reinforce someone not wanting to do it. | /r/askRPC | 12/05/20 05:54 PM |
| 3 | How to Deal with Helicopter/Overprotective Mother?"Thank you for the advice mom. I appreciate it. I am trying to figure out things on my own because I'm an adult now, but I will take your advice under consideration because I think you give wise advice." | /r/askRPC | 12/05/20 05:51 PM |
| 2 | What to do about my dad?Definitely something you should discuss with your Church leadership and board. The reason why Christian pastors and leaders are to be blameless and upright is to serve as a good witness to the congregation. If he's not serving as a good witness, he's actively destroying not only your family but the Church as well. He can be driving away people from knowing God. There's many former Christians, agnostics, and atheists who have had bad experience with so-called Christians and hate God over it. This… | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 04:29 AM |
| 2 | What to do about my dad?Matthew 18:15 “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. 16 But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. It says brother, but as Christians we are supposed to do this for any oth… | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 12:04 AM |
| 4 | When Paul writes that we shall sin no more post-salvation, why do I still want to? Why doesn’t life steer towards good?I get that part but in the beginning of my Christian walk things were much smoother. I would pray and things would be revealed the next day or week. Now my prayers aren’t being heard it seems. Are prayers answered based on obedience or behavior? What type of prayers are you praying? Praying is not about getting what we want or based on our obedience or behavior (most of the time at least), it's about praying in the will of God to bring His kingdom here on earth (e.g. God's will). If I pray for t… | /r/askRPC | 11/05/20 03:16 AM |
| 14 | Must read: What to make of revelation in Jeremiah 31:21 "The woman will go after the man"Read up on exegesis, eisegesis, and hermeneutics: http://www.spirithome.com/bible_exegesis.html Then don't read into texts based on eisegesis. Jeremiah 31 is speaking about Israel, which was already destroyed by the Assyrians. By the time that Jeremiah was a prophet to Judah, they were close to their own destruction through Babylonian captivity. Thus, when you read Jeremiah 31 you need to take into context that Israel had already been dispersed by the Assyrians and are basically in captivity (wh… | /r/RPChristians | 09/05/20 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Frame Fail?Good call on the wording | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/20 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Frame Fail?Right now my immediate mission is just to be the best man, husband, father I can be. Good. Becoming the leader of my household is critical to accomplish that. That said, I need to do a better job of not losing sight of mission instead of other motivations. You don't need to become the leader. You are the leader, per God in Ephesian 5, so act as one should. I guess I am being somewhat secretive about my intensions with my wife. All I have told her is that I am working on becoming the man I am sup… | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/20 03:07 AM |
| 2 | How would you all address this?Great. Sounds like you guys are on the right track. | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/20 02:47 AM |
| 7 | AccountabilityHad a friend ask me to be an accountability partner in his fight against pornography. Can't believe no one has really said it yet (and there are some good ideas), but you might want to ask him how he wants you to help him. Go over the Scriptures with him? Does he want you to check in with him frequently? At times of day when he is most vulnerable to sin? Text? Video chat? Do things together and talk about it? | /r/RPChristians | 05/05/20 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Frame Fail?That's when she tried to have a talk with me, “RBdadbod, I don’t know if I can keep up with you. So much is changing, you seem like a different person. Am I ever going to be enough for you?” If she's talking about herself, it's comfort. If she's talking about you, it's a shit test. It's comfort. You deflected which is OK, but it will come up again. How should I have handled my test? Your main issue is that you don't understand your mission. If you understand your mission, you always have an answ… | /r/RPChristians | 05/05/20 10:13 PM |
| 4 | How would you all address this?Both are at fault. Both need to repent to God, each other, and their friend for their bad behavior. I believe I don't need to explain both of their bad behavior as it is clearly obvious. Both also need to develop strategies to discuss any conflict in a better manner, with the fruit of the Spirit. See: God taking Adam and Eve to account in the garden, even though they wanted to play the blame game as they both sinned. | /r/RPChristians | 05/05/20 05:23 PM |
| 6 | 80/20 percent hypergamy80/20 is the general rule of thumb that girls are attracted to the top 20% of men. Not that they're in relationships with them. The OKCupid observational data showed that women rated 80% of men as below average while men rated women in a normal distribution. But women may be incentivized to lie make it seem like they are in a relationship if they are being asked by an unattractive man so that he "doesn't get the wrong idea." | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Idealism and Opportunism are not sex specificAgreed. But again, that doesn't make it useless. It just means your post is written for the low-minority of men who aren't in the norm. But that also makes it dangerous because it means the majority of men reading this might feel validated in thinking, "So maybe my wife truly is a special snowflake!" I don't think most men would take it like that. I was careful to say that the opposite was much rarer, but you are right that men do have the tendency to think their woman is a snowflake. Agreed ...… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Idealism and Opportunism are not sex specificmen generally don't ask out and pursue women that they are unhappy or not satisfied with, but women do accept dates, boyfriends, and even marriage sometimes with men who they aren't satisfied completely with This is another fact that needs to be ingrained into EVERY single guy's head. I can't stress this point enough! That said, this very claim undermines part of the point of your post. It's another generality that can easily be said in the reverse because there are so many women out there who w… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 05:23 PM |
| 2 | No / Bad Sex - Always His Fault?No piracy. Unless I am unaware that it has been given out freely. | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/20 02:50 AM |
| 18 | No / Bad Sex - Always His Fault?There's a lot of weird conventional (and wrong) RP thinking where women have no moral agency to women in these comments. Many things in a marriage may not be a man's fault. She is convinced that she "just has low libido." She shows affection to me in other ways on a very regular basis, including physical affection (leaning into me, wanting to hold my hand even when we're sitting down, hugging and kissing me, wanting to cuddle, etc...). I flirt with her on a regular basis, including physical flir… | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brainHave you seen that movie where a couple is about to divorce but the guy starts doing a bunch of nice things and going above and beyond for her! Maybe try that! Fireproof is a terrible movie. https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2011/10/30/firebombed/ | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 08:35 PM |
| 9 | Should I give my Dad a copy of NMMNG?Bring it up in conversation. "Oh that reminds me... I was reading this book, and it was teaching me some good lessons on how to avoid behavior that enables such and such" If he's receptive to it and wants to know more then ask if he wants your copy of the book. If he doesn't care, then don't bother because he probably doesn't consider it an issue. It's almost never a good idea to just give people advice out of nowhere unless you have an extremely close communication with others. Just bring it up… | /r/askRPC | 26/04/20 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueChristian/comments/g7bp59/red_pill_christians/ Ah, I see you're here to troll. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/g51gme/genuinely_curious_about_your_philosophies_not/fo15t1m/ You already know why this sub is here because you read my comment and RC's comment below mine in this post. Yet you're not correcting any of the people posting in the post you made. Not worth my time to discuss this with you then. | /r/RPChristians | 24/04/20 11:05 PM |
| 2 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.You clearly did not read the link above thoroughly. A bunch of examples are in the "The Church Turns Anti-Male Circa 1800" section. Here's some more: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2015/04/07/the-demonization-of-masculinity/ And in what world woman are seen as angels and pure?? There’s also a lot if typical sin woman fall into like , jealousy, comparison, envy, prostitution, etc etc Many Churches in the US portray women similar to the culture: they can do no wrong or if something is wrong it… | /r/RPChristians | 24/04/20 10:55 PM |
| 5 | Just getting started. Want to make OK into great.Welcome. She has brought up how she has noticed my changes even though I have tried not to bring attention to them. It's kind of hard to hide the fact you are changing your diet and clothes without her noticing. She actually felt really guilty about worrying that I was doing it for her, and she didn't want me to change to try and make her happy. I started out doing it for her, but really it was ultimately for me as I wanted my changes to influence her to my benefit. I do want to just be better f… | /r/RPChristians | 24/04/20 08:44 PM |
| 5 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.It's mainly the Church following culture where masculinity is demonized, and men are pushed to be more feminine while women are pushed to be more masculine ironically. For instance, it's common to think of women portrayed as angels and pure (angels are neither male or female, but in the Bible they only have masculine names) or to think that problems in a marriage are mainly the man doing something bad. These themes slip into Churches and are especially emphasized on holidays like Mother's day an… | /r/RPChristians | 24/04/20 08:30 PM |
| 5 | How important is compatibility for marriage?Compatibility in values, personalities, hobbies, politics, role expectations, goals, etc. If they're the Christ's mission/goals and the Bible's marital roles and responsibilities then 100%. The rest is only a cherry on top. | /r/askRPC | 24/04/20 03:48 AM |
| 1 | How do you reconcile Christ's commandment to love others and RP advice to be emotionally unavailable, jerk, dark triad, etc.?I agree to a large extent, but that's not what you usually see (because the Church is neutered) so you have to make the distinction for most men. | /r/RPChristians | 23/04/20 04:33 PM |
| 3 | How do you reconcile Christ's commandment to love others and RP advice to be emotionally unavailable, jerk, dark triad, etc.?It's very reassuring to know that as long as I aim to be like Christ, pursue godliness and holiness, I'll become attractive to the kind of godly and righteous women I want to attract. Not technically correct. You could be the best janitor or parking lot coordinator in the history of the world at your church and women wouldn't look twice at you. Women would still look more highly upon the pastor, worship band leader, or the charismatic Bible study leader. I go over how attraction works in regard … | /r/RPChristians | 23/04/20 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.So you would disagree with the statement that men have treated women poorly historically? No. Men and women treat each other poorly all throughout history because we're all sinners in need of a Savior. How has the church become women centric? Church attendance is a higher proportion of women than men but that seems like an indication that men today don’t pursue spirituality as much as women. Read the above link. Men don't like going to Church for many reasons. A greater proportion of women in Ch… | /r/RPChristians | 22/04/20 10:05 PM |
| 4 | How do you reconcile Christ's commandment to love others and RP advice to be emotionally unavailable, jerk, dark triad, etc.?For example, reading through some of the examples on the sidebar, one example from 211 (An Anatomy of Butthurt) is this poor example of beta positive: BETA POSITIVE: "Sure honey, I'll warm up your car. And maybe when I'm done, will you let me give you a foot rub too? After I get the dishes done first, of course." Context brother. An attractive man who gives a woman flowers is romantic. An unattractive man who gives a woman flowers is a creep. My wife is already attracted to me and respects and s… | /r/RPChristians | 22/04/20 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.Would it be fair to say that the way men have historically treated women may have been the cause of the current upward trend of women being placed into higher positions and status? If men have been the typical leaders and decision makers historically are we to blame for any current situation we find ourselves in? No. Men have a difficult time saying no their wives, and this has always been a temptation since Adam and Eve. I personally don't particularly care for the cultural milieu, but but conc… | /r/RPChristians | 22/04/20 07:51 PM |
| 15 | How do you reconcile Christ's commandment to love others and RP advice to be emotionally unavailable, jerk, dark triad, etc.?Let me ask you a question. Much of the secular RP understanding is based on trying to get sex with many promiscuous women. Do you think that every tactic that works with promiscuous women works with Christian women who only want to have sex in marriage? The answer is no. The process that secular men do to have sex with women outside of marriage will tend to weed out true Christian women in that process. This does not mean NAWALT/AWALT, but true Christian women will be more adept at resisting tem… | /r/RPChristians | 22/04/20 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.It's on the sidebar. chuck linked my post and RC's post is nested under it. | /r/RPChristians | 21/04/20 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.My personal view is that the feminization of the church started much sooner than 100 years ago. I believe the first woman was ordained in 1815, but it really started picking up by the 1850. But I'd go even further back into the middle-ages when romanticized concepts of love crept into the church and began glorifying women through literature, skewing church interpretation of Scripture with the cultural philosophies of the times. True. You can also argue the roots of chivalry go back to early 1400… | /r/RPChristians | 21/04/20 03:44 PM |
| 46 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.I'm a mod here and have been around all of this for over a decade. I'll give you the full background. Over the past 100+ years (perhaps 1000+ years), much of western Christianity has incorporated a lot of secular beliefs into their sex/gender perspectives. Christianity has been increasing feminized while male masculinity has become more demonized. Fake perspectives like Christian egalitarianism and complementarism have arisen. Many in the Church espouse typical cultural phrases like "happy wife,… | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/20 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectWell, isn't that convenient? It demonstrates that you have a lack of understanding of how the Bible uses words and prefer using worldly definitions. Do let us know how not respecting your wife works out for you ... Very well actually. She reads my blog and I've discussed the article with her. She's also never denied me sex nor have I her. I am appreciative of her skills and strengths, but that doesn't mean I 'respect' them in a Scriptural sense. To use the other Scriptural terms that 'respect' i… | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/20 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectOnce again, if we interpret Paul's instructions to mean husbands should love their wives, but NOT respect them, does it correspond that wives should respect their husbands, but NOT love them? Insofar as the Scriptures and Scriptural definitions of words are concerned, it is against a husband respecting his wife in the Scriptures. God's command is that the husband be the head. Thus, husbands should not Biblically respect/reverence/fear (phobos) their wives as that would hold them up as an authori… | /r/RPChristians | 19/04/20 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectI don't think this is what Paul intended. Note that he only gives an affirmative command, to love (husbands) and respect (wives). Nowhere does he prohibit husbands from respecting or wives from loving. No, but Scripture is inspired by God, and He knows that when men start to "respect" women they start to put them up on a pedestal as an idol. Have you never felt respect for a co-worker who does an excellent job? Have you never felt respect for the gifts of a talented artist, author, musician, ath… | /r/RPChristians | 19/04/20 04:05 PM |
| 6 | What she does before, she does afterShort list that could use more elaboration in the future (maybe I'll write up a full post)... Vet for background (e.g. how she grew up, what her parents taught her about sex, if there is any abuse, etc.) to ensure there aren't any yellow or red flags there which may interfere with intimacy Look not just at virginity but overall chastity. It helps to differentiate if she may hold virginity as an idol, or if she's being obedient to God Look at her attitudes toward physical intimacy and acceptance … | /r/RPChristians | 19/04/20 03:27 AM |
| 5 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectHe doesn't mention it a whole lot in his posts, because he doesn't view it as relevant, but he has mentioned it a couple times. I know he's mentioned and claimed it before, but his writing and recommendations do not evidence it at all. Roosh, Victor (Bold and Determined), and others show what men look like when they find God. They repent and turn the other way, and remove any of their writings that may contribute to fornication and other sinful activity. There is no neutral or anything like that… | /r/RPChristians | 19/04/20 03:13 AM |
| 3 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectThe Bible says to be understanding/considerate of wives to honor them as fellow co-heirs in Christ (1 Peter 3). Men are to love and honor their wives, not respect them. Men and women don't think of respect the same way. Respect to men is something where you give deference to someone as an authority figure, which means any man who respects a woman is putting her on a pedestal. Men should not respect women, especially their wives. Women think of respect as something they should get/deserve from th… | /r/RPChristians | 18/04/20 03:46 PM |
| 9 | Let's Have a Little Talk About Respectand another (from a fellow Christian no less!): "Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of." (Iron Rule #6). Rollo is not a Christian. I agree with your post and have written on it before. Why I don't respect women Additionally, it's worth pointing out that men and women don't think of respect the same way. Respect to men is something where you give deference to someone as an authority figure, which means any man who … | /r/RPChristians | 18/04/20 03:41 PM |
| 7 | Simon of Cyrene?Why are there differences in the gospels: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aF6_zwYVa3A TL;DR. Ancient biography (including secular authors like Plutarch) use different forms of literary devices such as transferal, time compression, and others to get straight to the point sometimes. For instance in one gospel where Jesus heals the centurion's servant, in one gospel the centurion visits Jesus and asks Him to heal the servant and in another he sends the elders of the Jews and then more servants whil… | /r/askRPC | 18/04/20 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Dating a girl with lots of past baggageJust for clarification, what you're saying is that she'll feel pressured to change or improve because I'm dating her, right? Some of the other posters are commenting about female solipsism, and that's the issue that even if she wants to avoid it, she might do it anyway subconsciously right? Yes, and that entangles with conflict of interest as well. To give an example I went out on several dates with some women who worked out and ate healthy because they knew I liked doing that. After a while I c… | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/20 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Dating a girl with lots of past baggageI think you should break up, but leave the possibility of it getting back together if things change. The major issue is that you can't tell or know if someone is just changing because you are there, and it appears your emotional entanglements are getting in the way of making rational decisions. You're not going to be able to help her walk through these issues which she needs to walk through with God and counseling because it's a conflict of interest. She needs the time and space to do this herse… | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/20 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Can’t stop disrespecting women.What Chuck said. Also, STOP reading the secular red pill. Read your Bible on what God has to say about men and women and husbands and wives. That will give you the proper frame for relationships. | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/20 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Listen up you pricks, we have work to do.Not to my knowledge. You can participate here. | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/20 04:00 PM |
| 16 | ABC FOR XYZYup. It's weird how men go off on this weird tangent that assumes that women don't have free will. You can be a perfect leader and a wife could still be rebellious. Other pertinent examples: God is the perfect leader. Even Israel and Christians stray from Him all the time. Jesus is God. Many of His "disciples" left Him in John 6. Hosea was a prophet. That didn't stop Gomer from continuing to participate in prostitution. The sanctification process can be influenced by husbands and wives as God us… | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 04:08 PM |
| 2 | How should we run a household post industrial revolution?https://www.aaronrenn.com/masculinist/ All of the issues are listed near the bottom. Sign up for the newsletter too. Support him if you are able. One of his newsletters was incorporated into my book for men, and he helped a lot with it. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QPQ9FRD/ | /r/askRPC | 16/04/20 03:12 PM |
| 9 | Listen up you pricks, we have work to do.Yes. The mods have agreed on that. Mostly men post though, and there are men who think women should not be allowed. However, the current culture affects Christian women badly too, and women are rarely getting godly feminine advice from the Church either. | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 02:58 PM |
| 4 | How should we run a household post industrial revolution?The Masculinist has a good article analyzing this phenomena: The Masculinist #26: The fall of the household https://www.urbanophile.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/The-Masculinist-26-The-Fall-of-the-Household.pdf If you are leading your wife and family and making sure they are on the road to sanctification with you then it doesn't matter in my opinion. You're already way ahead of the game as most men don't know or are lazy. Deuteronomy 6 reinforces this point with the husband/father being the lea… | /r/askRPC | 16/04/20 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe in the core attraction principles of the red pill?Attraction must be interpreted in the context of the Bible and marriage, as God created it that way. I have a long post on that here: https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2016/06/29/a-christian-understanding-of-attraction-and-the-role-it-plays-in-marriage-part-2/ Women are attracted to you because you have a stronger frame than they do. That’s all. There’s nothing else to it. This is wrong on many levels. Women are attracted to celebrities all the time for their fame, power, and status. You can se… | /r/askRPC | 16/04/20 01:14 AM |
| 4 | Pain of birth Vs epiduralMy wife wanted to do a natural birth. Couldn't handle it, so we got the epidural. This isn't a big issue. If you want her to have natural birth then just tell her to try and present you reasoning. If she can't handle it then get the epidural. Perhaps the bigger issue is if your wife isn't acting respectful of you regardless of disagreement, but that may be reading too much into the situation. | /r/askRPC | 14/04/20 11:46 PM |
| 9 | What are your thoughts on tattoos?Literally the same question gets ask a zillion times. Just sub in "do you think tattoos are ok" into the question that is being answere. What do you considered to be “okay” to do in a relationship? I’ve always thought that anything other than kissing should probably be avoided. Thoughts? You're asking the wrong question here. Chastity/purity/modesty and all these things are not some "line" that you cross but are rather a "direction." Approaching these topics from the angle of "how much can I do … | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Teenage Relationship AdviceOne of these behaviors includes intrusive thoughts of self-hatred of my image which includes me checking myself in the mirror 20-50 times per day That's narcissistic behavior just like teenage girls who take dozens of selfies per day. That's all I'm going to say. Move on. If you choose not to, I hope it doesn't end up too badly and you end up repenting and coming back to God eventually. | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 06:38 PM |
| 5 | Teenage Relationship AdviceImagine you're Brad Pitt or other male Christian celebrity. Do you think a woman would say she doesn't want to be exclusive when he would ask her? Fat chance. A woman who thinks you're an amazing catch would be trying to lock you down and go exclusive as soon as possible. She wouldn't try to make excuses about not going exclusive, and she wouldn't blow up and be mad at you suggesting it. She's stringing you along by giving you some affection here and there. You're her beta bux who she can come a… | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 06:31 PM |
| 13 | Was gonna go on mission this year, and now they changed the staff. I don’t feel like goingI don’t feel like going Good thing Christianity doesn't operate on feelings. Legit they changed staff and the leaders are now 7/8 guys and one legit cuck. Really frustrating, was talking with the male leaders that where suppose to go. And I think we talked for about like 2hours in the phone. Just talking about male leaders and how it’s important, for young men to have male leaders. But duo to covid 19 he had to drop out along with 3-4other males. If there are going to be less good male role mode… | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 06:25 PM |
| 4 | Why Men Hate Going To ChurchThankfully we've found one that's good in our area | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 04:46 PM |
| 22 | Why Men Hate Going To ChurchI'd love to find a new church that caters to men. I'd like to change my church and make it more apt to attract men. But until that day, I will change my heart. From my experience small Churches are usually better because they're not catering to the crowds of women and tend to more faithfully preach the Bible. | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 04:35 PM |
| 7 | Teenage Relationship AdviceBro. You're infatuated with her. You're putting her on a pedestal. It's getting in the way of your thinking. More details actually make the situation worse. God says plainly in the Scriptures to not marry unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6), and states plainly in many places the qualities you want to marry in a Christian and wife (Prov 31, Eph 5, 1 Peter 3, etc). She does not have them. She doesn't even want to be with you anyway. You're trying to convince her to date you. I can guarantee you that it … | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 04:29 PM |
| 9 | Should I tell my girlfriend? (porn slip)AskRPC has had this question a lot. My answer is there too. https://www.reddit.com/r/askRPC/comments/dr69cf/confession_repentance/ Generally speaking, I think accountability partners that are men are best to share this with. I wouldn't lie if she asked or you want to discuss both of your expectations about sexuality, but I wouldn't bring it up either. You don't bring up every time you gossip and repent or say an unkind word. As long as you both are Christians and getting discipled and discpling … | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 05:14 AM |
| 7 | What is an acceptable N count in a woman for you?A lot of women lie, particularly non Christians, but find yourself a humble honest Christian woman and she’s more likely to tell you the truth early on. Yes, this is one of the times where a lot of men are getting a good deal of false information from the secular RP. Secular men pursuing sex with promiscuous women are going to get a lot of lying from the promiscuous women because even though they think that casual sex or serial monogamy are OK in speech, they still feel uncomfortable with it eno… | /r/RPChristians | 10/04/20 04:09 PM |
| 10 | What is an acceptable N count in a woman for you?False. 40% virgin marriages if the women were age 20-24 over a bunch of Southern Baptists churches. If you're looking outside the Church for women, it's going to be slim pickings. | /r/RPChristians | 10/04/20 04:02 PM |
| 2 | How to work on not DEERing?Yes. Our identity comes from being at peace (shalom) with Christ because He paid the sacrifice for our sins and bore the wrath of God. "Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the sons of God" (Matthew 5) - We are peacemakers to the world by carrying Jesus' mission to make disciples of all nations. The main "emotional states" that manifest in Christians who are saved and walking in God's will are His peace and joy (fruit of the Spirit). Deep seated peace in the heart which is assura… | /r/askRPC | 10/04/20 03:55 PM |
| 5 | Friendly Reminder BrothersMmmm... steak and burgers! I could go for some good ribs right now too | /r/RPChristians | 10/04/20 03:50 PM |
| 3 | What worked for you to get rid of the pleasure from porn, masturbating & viewing women sexually?Copy paste from /r/askRPC Ephesians 4:17 So this I say, and affirm together with the Lord, that you walk no longer just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, 18 being darkened in their understanding, excluded from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart; 19 and they, having become callous, have given themselves over to sensuality for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness. 20 But you did not learn Christ… | /r/RPChristians | 10/04/20 03:48 PM |
| 1 | How to work on not DEERing?All of the problems I am having are coming from a lack of belief in God of who I am in Him. Part of me knows this all intellectually, but part of be doesn’t... and most importantly, the part that I do believer intellectually hasn’t sunken into the heart/spirit of my inner being. How do I reorient myself towards believing this and “knowing” it? Sounds like you need to drop all the stuff with girls at the moment and focus on this. No distractions. Just dig into the Word and meditate on Jesus' sacr… | /r/askRPC | 10/04/20 03:25 AM |
| 5 | How to work on not DEERing?DEERing mainly results from a lack of mission, and strong frame regarding that mission. Someone challenges you on why you're doing something DEERing results when if you're not confident about why you're doing it If you were confident about doing it, then you don't need to defend yourself, explain yourself, make excuses for it, or rationalize why you're doing it (DEER). You're just do it because that's who you are. Think of this in terms of the Christian walk. If someone asks if you're a Christia… | /r/askRPC | 09/04/20 08:26 PM |
| 1 | When do you know that they’re the one?The "one" is who you marry. As for how to choose a wife, let's ask Jesus on the test of discipleship: Luke 14:25 Now large crowds were going along with Him; and He turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple. 27 Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple. 28 For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower, … | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | unattractive yet godly girlPost-Wall nonsense has zero to do with what anything God counsels in the Bible regarding male/ female interactions. All you guys are doing with this RP BS is focusing on the externals while neglecting the true person, their soul, their spirit, their character. False equivocation. Just because someone has great character and is a mature Christian does not mean you have to marry them. The same is true if a woman (or man) has any type of sin in their past. Yes, you should accept and forgive them as… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/20 08:07 PM |
| 1 | unattractive yet godly girlbut not one upright woman among them all. This is not a literal saying. There's tons of examples of righteous women in the Bible in the OT and NT. They're just rarer. AWALT does not mean all women are harpies. It means all women have hypergamous impulses to marry up, just as men have impulses to want to marry someone attractive. If she's restrained them via her faith that's a good thing. But I agree it still does not mean he should marry her. /u/perezuza | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/20 08:00 PM |
| 2 | What else can I pray for?You're welcome. I think too often in the western world, God gets used as the vending machine or crutch where He just helps us do our own thing. That's not what God is about. We need to focus on aligning our will (and by extension our prayers) to Him. It's truly tough, but it is fruitful! Often times, we are the answer to the prayers we pray... if we're asking God for help in reconciling with family or friends, He gives us the strength to approach the conflict with kindness and love providing tha… | /r/askRPC | 09/04/20 03:26 AM |
| 3 | unattractive yet godly girlYou say that 1 Co 7:2-8 implies that believers need to know each other for some time and feel attracted to the point of not being able to resist the temptation of sex out of wedlock, then they must get married That's one interpretation. I prefer the interpretation that "burn with passion" generally means you have a strong sex drive so you know that being married is part of your mission. In that case, you'd probably want to be married to a woman you find attractive. I personally dated several wom… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/20 03:21 AM |
| 7 | unattractive yet godly girlWhen in doubt, look at the Bible: 1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. 3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devo… | /r/RPChristians | 08/04/20 11:30 PM |
| 5 | What else can I pray for?Matthew 6:9 “Pray, then, in this way: (1) ‘Our Father who is in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. 10 (2)‘Your kingdom come. Your will be done, On earth as it is in heaven. 11 (3) ‘Give us this day our daily bread. 12 (4) ‘And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 (5) ‘And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil. [For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.’] Look at the components of Jesus teaching us how to pray: Praise and glory Go… | /r/askRPC | 08/04/20 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Advice for DM’ing (for the first message) a girl on FB (details below)?This happened in the fall You gave her your number She didn't message you right away It is now past winter and into spring In other words, she might have been interested in your questions, but she was definitely not interested in you. Not even enough to connect and see where it went. Don't waste your time. Remember the Christian Brad Pitt thought experiment? If she was attracted to you what would she do? She would definitely go out of her way to message you, and likely right away right there sen… | /r/askRPC | 07/04/20 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Approaching during social distancing?What works fairly well is friend zoning women in my mind. It's their job (unknowingly of course) to convince me to to be interested in them from both their outer and inner beauty. As a default if they're a friend you're generally not going to try to impress them or prove yourself. You can just be yourself (assuming yourself is the best you can be and acting on mission for God with excellence). | /r/askRPC | 05/04/20 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Approaching during social distancing?One part of me is seeing it as a good idea so my social skills/cold approach skills don't deteriorate (which may be focused on myself to the detriment of the other and not loving the other as I should; as I will come to from the other part of me). The skills don't really deteriorate. It's mostly just getting over or getting used to social anxiety, especially with women. I can assure you it goes away over time as you get to a point where you don't care about impressing or proving to yourself to w… | /r/askRPC | 05/04/20 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Approaching during social distancing?I'm curious as to why you don't see it as a generally bad idea. Even if you're immune yourself or can't be a carrier (which is debatable as there's a lot we don't know), how is approaching others being considerate in a stressful time... unless perhaps you're doing it to comfort them or share the gospel or something like that. I'd look at your motives rather than trying to get to know girls. | /r/askRPC | 04/04/20 11:42 PM |
| 0 | Myers Briggs Personality - Are any of you INFJ’s?Other personality tests would do that more accurately. Glad it helps you though, but it can also hurt if used incorrectly (like fortune telling or astrology or crap). | /r/askRPC | 04/04/20 11:36 PM |
| 0 | Myers Briggs Personality - Are any of you INFJ’s?No. I think it's fun to talk about if you want to do that though, but people get different results all the time so it's not a reliable indicator of someone's personality. Some raise it to the level of stuff like fortune telling or astrology. | /r/askRPC | 04/04/20 11:34 PM |
| 11 | Does Marriage Lower your SMVwhen marriage is one of the fastest ways to lose respect in the eyes of your girl. Says who? Fornicators who are banging women that have no self control and easily branch swing? Be careful about who you get your information from. I'm not saying NAWALT, but they don't understand marriage as well as you think they do. Before marriage her idea of you is very exciting, but once she lives with you and gets to know you as a person who has short coming she comes to respect you less. Or if you're dedica… | /r/askRPC | 04/04/20 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Approaching during social distancing?Come on man. Be smart and wise. This is a good time to be working on things like building up relationships through texting or video (not just with women). | /r/askRPC | 04/04/20 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Myers Briggs Personality - Are any of you INFJ’s?Myers briggs is pseudoscience because it can't be well replicated in the scientific literature. I suggest not taking it seriously and dropping it, other than perhaps fun discussions with women. Things like Big 5 personality traits are more validated. | /r/askRPC | 04/04/20 07:22 PM |
| 5 | Best book in the bible to start with for a non-believerI agree with John and it's one of the standard answers. Goes into a lot of the reasons why Jesus did ministry more than just the stories of Jesus like the synoptic gospels. | /r/askRPC | 03/04/20 08:17 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts?[–]Domebeers [score hidden] an hour ago does she suck dick [–]cataclysick[S] [score hidden] an hour ago Sensationally. 10/10 spiritual maturity but you're having pre-marital sex? Come on man. | /r/RPChristians | 03/04/20 08:16 PM |
| 7 | When do the lines begin to blur in Christianity?It worries me because some people are not truly saved. They do not know the difference between Religion/Churchianity/Denominations. If you notice it, speak up about it. Chuck is usually pretty good at presenting the gospel when these come up, but even he can miss some. I’ve noticed an influx with newcomers on /RPChristians and the quality has definitely gotten lower, which is to be expected. Hopefully, people will wake up and receive God unto their hearts and the quality posts keep on coming. Ag… | /r/askRPC | 02/04/20 03:03 AM |
| 12 | Is kissing before marriage a sin?Copy paste for similar question. What do you considered to be “okay” to do in a relationship? I’ve always thought that anything other than kissing should probably be avoided. Thoughts? You're asking the wrong question here. Chastity/purity/modesty and all these things are not some "line" that you cross but are rather a "direction." Approaching these topics from the angle of "how much can I do until I'm sinning" is establishing a law that you have to work to keep when, as Christians, we are told … | /r/RPChristians | 30/03/20 08:08 PM |
| 7 | Tried everything, deep in 11 year porn addictionEphesians 4:17 So this I say, and affirm together with the Lord, that you walk no longer just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, 18 being darkened in their understanding, excluded from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart; 19 and they, having become callous, have given themselves over to sensuality for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness. 20 But you did not learn Christ in this way, 21 if indeed… | /r/askRPC | 30/03/20 04:48 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/20)Even more annoying is when I pray about it. My answer is consistent: "You're not ready for one yet. Focus on me (God) first". It's aggravating, frustrating, and a little humiliating. If I had a mission, I'd be able to check myself if I'm following the right path or not. I'd be able to figure out where I really want to go in life. I think I'd find a lot more peace. But it is what it is: I do think I need to draw nearer to God first, especially if that's what He wants. Joseph didn't start his "min… | /r/RPChristians | 29/03/20 04:24 AM |
| 6 | I'd like to talk [Revised Post]To recap: 1. Talk to a pastor or counselor. 2. Cut her off. 3. Flee immorality. 4. No more relationships until you are mentally stable and a faithful disciple of Jesus. Only then will you see rightly. Excellent list of steps. | /r/RPChristians | 28/03/20 11:24 PM |
| 2 | Christian girls and hypergamyStop reading the secular red pill. It's giving you unBiblical views. | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/20 06:19 PM |
| 5 | Christian girls and hypergamyBut There Will Always be men 2x better then yourself all the time, its impossible to be her top all the time. Your problem is that you care too much. There's a reason why "IDGAF attitude" is so popular with secular RP. It's outcome independence. If you're trying to constantly impress a girl, you will inevitably fail because you're focusing too much on her and not enough on God and your mission. It would suck if my wife left me, but if she did I can still serve God wholeheartedly. I am not contro… | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/20 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Male/female dynamics in churchSo how do you attract them if they don't give most guys the time of day Read the sidebar and move on from that group. I've also written a bunch of stuff on my blog explaining attraction in a Christian context. https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/actionable-steps-to-finding-a-wife/ | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/20 06:11 PM |
| 3 | I thought I could get over itThere's been a couple guys in between the 3 that she was casually dating that she didn't sleep with. And you think that's better? So she hops into even more relationships but just picks and chooses who to sleep with. Not better at all. Probably worse. In fact, my biggest question is where she is spiritually. Is she just an immature Christian or maybe really well read on theology but not spirit lead? Actions speak louder than words. If someone is calling themselves a Christian, but is not acting … | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/20 06:05 PM |
| 10 | I thought I could get over it... having someone who values sexual purity is very high on my list. Sounds like you know what to do then. Move on. Is she even a serious Christian if she's hopping from relationship to relationship and having sex with all of them? That's not what a true Christian does. In fact, it sounds just like what non-Christian women do. Another issue I noticed even right off the bat is anger. If you were staying with her, which I suggest you don't, you should start guiding her spiritually and practically … | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/20 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Is it weird for me to require a virgin or nobody?You just have to modifiy your game to focus on this (there is VERY little content in the manosphere that helps with this). There is but you just have to find the scattered Christian blogs rather than go to the popular secular ones. | /r/askRPC | 23/03/20 03:20 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on Plan B and other contraceptives?Yeah, you can do that with any of the symptoms I mentioned. Blood clots, libido and others. It's crazy that these are almost never mentioned or even never heard about. People love fornication though. | /r/askRPC | 21/03/20 08:59 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on Plan B and other contraceptives?Googling this one is easy. I just typed "contraceptive pill and cancer" and it brings up a ton of good sources. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/causes-prevention/risk/hormones/oral-contraceptives-fact-sheet | /r/askRPC | 21/03/20 04:55 PM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on Plan B and other contraceptives?Many forms of contraceptions including plan B and IUDs prevent implantation of the fertilized egg to the womb which is why many Christians think they are abortifacient drugs (e.g. causing miscarriages). The pill and other hormonal drugs increase rates of cancers, life threatening blood clots, and other serious side effects including libido. Funny how feminists don't talk about that. I would never recommend them, and I would never let my wife use them. Overall, you're asking the wrong questions h… | /r/askRPC | 18/03/20 08:37 PM |
| 3 | Are women allowed to post?The mods stance is that women are welcome, but you will get some push back from some men who want to keep it mostly men. Edit your OP to post your stats like RC stated and we will reopen it. | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/20 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Are women allowed to post?Divorce is directly against the Scriptures. Do not recommend this on a Christian sub. | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/20 08:41 PM |
| 4 | Thank God I found you guys.The thing about leadership is that no one is being forced to follow you. That includes your wife (1). If you’re a leader, she will choose to follow you (2). This is wrong Biblically. (1) God says the husband is the head, so the wife should respect and submit regardless if he's being a bad leader. The reason for this is that submissive and respectful behavior (per 1 Peter 3) influence the husband toward God/godliness. A husband is to love his wife for sanctification regardless of her bad behavior… | /r/RPChristians | 16/03/20 04:30 PM |
| 3 | I am not sure if I should marry my fiancé - advice needed, new to RPCI don't think you necessarily need to next him like everyone is saying, but you do need to learn how to encourage (not force) him to take the reigns in the relationship if you want to succeed in the long term and not just find someone else to marry. One way to do this is to always "bow lower" (e.g. submit to his submission) if he brings out his own submissive attitude wants you to make the decision. Example: "I like it when you take charge and make the decisions" If he's really beat down in his … | /r/askRPC | 16/03/20 04:02 PM |
| 1 | I am not sure if I should marry my fiancé - advice needed, new to RPC"Complementarian" is CBMW's attempt to cater to marry the Bible with feminists outrage. The Biblical marriage structure is Patriarchy (specifically, headship like Christ-Church), but that word is poisoned for many Christians because it's association with feminists calling it bad. | /r/askRPC | 16/03/20 03:52 PM |
| 3 | I am not sure if I should marry my fiancé - advice needed, new to RPCChristian red pill theory Christian "red pill theory" is literally just what the Bible/God says about husbands and wives. | /r/askRPC | 15/03/20 09:30 PM |
| 4 | How to deal With People that have Contempt on you?Basic Christianity: Romans 12:17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on hi… | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/20 02:54 AM |
| 2 | Victor Pride has turned to Christ and repented of his sinsI used to read Heartiste, and before his ban, he would occasionally reference God, C.S. Lewis, and/or put thoughts and ideas out there that suggested he was moving in God's direction. It was rare, yet a noticeable change. The moniker Heartiste after 2012-2013 or thereabout (not really sure on the year tbh) when the original author gave it up was a conglomerate of several people writing for the blog under the same name. If you've been following that long, that's when the blog went from just sexua… | /r/RPChristians | 11/03/20 09:47 PM |
| 1 | IntroThis is so far outside of my normal personality, I couldn't pull that off today, if ever. I know that my power to persuade needs to be stronger than her power to resist if it is to have an effect. I also know that I am still too attached to appear unaffected by her attacking resistance that is going to be issued. I refuse to get drawn into another long tirade from her about how miserable her life is and how it is everyone else's fault... Get into the word more my brother. Romans 5:3 And not only… | /r/RPChristians | 09/03/20 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Grief of loss and moving forwardSorry for your loss and difficult situation. How engaged or non-engaged in Church is she? That would be the place I would try to get her involved if she isn't already. Fellowship with believers is definitely one good way to help cope with the grief and understanding the loss but knowing that death is not the end and that we need to keep our eyes set on Jesus. | /r/askRPC | 05/03/20 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend's past bothering me, and other things (Warning: sexual past discussed)I wouldn't say there's enough info to know if she's attracted to you or not based on what you provided (it could be both that she's attracted but not as much as with the other stuff). However, Last time I visited her, she basically said she would kiss me if I would commit to at least looking for work in her country for a couple years. The more concerning point here is not attraction but the fact that she thinks she can leverage kissing (and this is the same attitude as leveraging sex in marriage… | /r/RPChristians | 03/03/20 02:35 PM |
| 1 | What about BDSM and Roleplay?I agree that some translations aren't straight forward (e.g. the divorce verses) but this one is. I believe RC listed out a bunch of the other relevant verses. | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 07:20 PM |
| 1 | What about BDSM and Roleplay?Actually, I recently did some mild study on that verse and I currently have the impression it's a mistranslation that happens only on KJV translations. If you review just about every other translation of the verse, you'll be able to tell the wording is different and makes the verse mean something completely different. So have I. Just look at the Greek translation of the word eidos: G1491 - εἶδος - eidos - i'-dos From G1492; a view, that is, form (literally or figuratively): - appearance, fashi… | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?That said, there are still verses that suggest we should be able to experience God directly in our lives, not solely through the bible Of course. When Jesus says 'ask for anything in my name' He's obviously talking about what God wants for our lives, so if you want direct answers to prayer, you should definitely pray for things that God wants for your life. For instance, asking God to bring situations where you can practice the fruit of the Spirit during the day. I've joked to my wife before tha… | /r/askRPC | 02/03/20 02:02 AM |
| 14 | What about BDSM and Roleplay?Again, any time this topic comes up in any form ("how far can I go before I'm sinning"), you're asking the WRONG question. You're trying to find a line or boundary, when following after Christ is a direction. Stop that. Approaching these topics from the angle of "how much can I do until I'm sinning" is establishing a law that you have to work to keep when, as Christians, we are told to live under grace. This is the same conceptual question that comes up over and over again in things like "is wat… | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 12:51 AM |
| 6 | I tried to share the good news but I think I failed miserably.Any advice lads? Don't sweat it. Until you do it a lot it can be awkward. Practice giving your testimony and/or the gospel message at home or with your Christian friends in a simplified manner. 1 Peter 3:15 but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, This will help you be ready the next time. Remember, it doesn't matter if you fail. It's God that i… | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 12:39 AM |
| 7 | Girlfriend's past bothering me, and other things (Warning: sexual past discussed)You have several problems. She's grown much since then. Examples? What is her behavior like now when you're not with her? How does she show she serves Christ? What's her mission for Christ? What is YOUR mission for Christ? struggle with materialism because I want to boost SMV. Again, what is your mission for Christ? SMV usually comes as you embrace God's mission (e.g. being excellent in all you do for the glory of God). If you have this right frame of mind, why worry about it? If you don't know … | /r/RPChristians | 01/03/20 04:37 PM |
| 4 | Should I believe her?Huh? Billy is asking the right questions here. What's the context? Dates? Relationships? When and why are you asking these questions or did she volunteer the info> How does she live her life now as opposed to in the past? | /r/askRPC | 01/03/20 06:56 AM |
| 5 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?Fast forward 10 yrs, bible college, and a whole lot of life in between, and I'm doubting more than ever. Re-examining The Case For Christ there seem to be so many counter arguments to everything Lee brings up, and the more research I do the more I'm doubting. Wintery's blog goes into lots of scientific and historical reasons to believe in God. https://winteryknight.com/ All my life I've tried to know God, sense his Spirit, and live the way he wants. But never have I experienced anything other th… | /r/askRPC | 01/03/20 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Christian GirlsBut you do seem to think the holy women's vagina has ability to detect holiness. Or at least the ability to detect unholiness No, I don't. You're not reading what I am writing. A woman's vagina has the ability to detect attractiveness/hotness A woman's brain has the ability to detect if a bad boy is a bad choice. True Christian women are hopefully using their renewed minds in Christ to filter out those deemed attractive by their vagina. | /r/RPChristians | 26/02/20 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Really struggling with turning down non-christian women. Not sure how best to turn them down. Just need some encouragement.Thinking simply, the most appropriate response would be to say "I'm not interested in a relationship, I'm a christian and in my experience dating non-christian girls causes me to compromise my morals". In reality, I don't want to come off as a judgmental prick, and maybe she just wants to be friends (or at least will hold to that plausible deniability). The implication there is that she is too morally deficient for me to date her. Which, while true, is maybe not the best way to express it. How w… | /r/RPChristians | 26/02/20 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Christian GirlsI appreciate your comment but you are making a lot of assumptions about me. The only thing we can go off of are any of the words you put here. Clarifying is a good thing, but you are still missing the mark. To go back to the original intent of your post: You still should be involved with a community of believers. It's the body of Christ working with each other for a reason. Your loneliness is not going to be solved by a woman, but by God and the Church. Church is going to be where you will find … | /r/RPChristians | 25/02/20 12:20 AM |
| 2 | Christian GirlsOhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I see So that means if a man is very popular among "True" Christian girlsTM then chances are he must Godlier, right? I can see you have problems with reading comprehension right now. "Generally" = not always "better filter" = has a better knowledge to avoid someone who is attractive who exhibits bad character YMMV depending on how churchian an area is. | /r/RPChristians | 25/02/20 12:09 AM |
| 4 | The Differing Missions of Men and WomenA man and a woman's pursuit of God's kingdom is different in that a man should be seeking the kingdom and His righteousness first through ministry, evangelism, discipleship, etc... Where as a woman should be seeking the Kingdom and His rightesnous first through actively seeking a man who is in pursuit of this mission. 1 Corinthians 7 is pretty clear that both men and women are to be living for God as singles. Only if necessary "burn with passion" should they get married. In this, a wife is to su… | /r/RPChristians | 25/02/20 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Christian GirlsYeah but I still don’t even know what denomination I want to be part of. I am saved. Jesus sent me the Holy Spirit. What kind of church do you recommend? Yes, but there's tons of "one another" verses in the NT which also include Jesus' John 13 statement: By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. Living in fellowship is a huge part of the Christian life. You can't do it alone. As far as the girls, I have a fat house and I am lonely. Girls won't cure your lonel… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/20 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Christian GirlsHeh, you know that's not what I meant. "True" Christian girls will generally have a better filter for avoiding attractive bad boys than cultural or social Christian girls. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/20 10:06 PM |
| 17 | Christian GirlsPlease post your stats to the OP. It's rule #2 on the sidebar. Well I am not part of a church yet (got saved 8 months ago) This is a big red flag to other true Christians, not to mention girls. I specifically say I am only looking for true christians and am looking for a good, modest woman that is serious. Whenever I get them to match up with me, they barely talk. They're boring. If you put boring stuff, you'll get boring matches. They don't even want to hang out. No kidding. Dates probably. Han… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/20 05:41 AM |
| 2 | Should you ever continue dating someone if their values and beliefs and character are ideal, but you aren’t physically attracted to part of them?I didn’t burn with passion with her - what does the word for “passion” mean here in that verse? In the greek the phrase burn with passion is just burn or puroo. Basically, refers to fire. It could be interpreted to sex drive, but I think it also applies to the specific potential spouse as well. The marital obligations are two fold (her to you, and you to her). | /r/askRPC | 23/02/20 05:32 AM |
| 7 | Should you ever continue dating someone if their values and beliefs and character are ideal, but you aren’t physically attracted to part of them?Always try to evaluate based on the Bible. 1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. ... 8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. 9 But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. Do you burn with passion for this woman? If so, that might be a reason to get married. 1 Corinthians 7:3 The husband must [a]f… | /r/askRPC | 22/02/20 08:06 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/19/20)As I grow more in the faith, it appears to me that the majority of the time there are tough situations are to build character and learn to trust in God. If you were placed in leadership or other prominent position before you're ready it's very easy to burn out or turn to other vices that could destroy your life. Like I was writing about in a recent blog post, external circumstances often don't matter all that much. What matters is how we can respond to them in a godly manner by giving our all fo… | /r/RPChristians | 22/02/20 02:43 AM |
| 2 | When, if ever, is lying acceptable?One of the only places that affirms that God condoned lying in a specific circumstance. Exodus 1:15 The king of Egypt said to the Hebrew midwives, whose names were Shiphrah and Puah, 16 “When you are helping the Hebrew women during childbirth on the delivery stool, if you see that the baby is a boy, kill him; but if it is a girl, let her live.” 17 The midwives, however, feared God and did not do what the king of Egypt had told them to do; they let the boys live. 18 Then the king of Egypt summone… | /r/askRPC | 21/02/20 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Followup post...I guess you truly never know WHAT is going until you talk.It's neither right or wrong to move on or talk to her again if you were still interested, but making sure she's doing OK was a good idea. She gave me another paragraph, saying how she thought I had moved on, and didn't want to see her anymore, She was basically super nervous, and was waiting for me to ask, because she wanted to come, but thought that because I'm a leader in church that I'm just too busy with people around to make time for her. How this situation has given her a ton of anxiety be… | /r/RPChristians | 20/02/20 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Followup post...I guess you truly never know WHAT is going until you talk.If I were you, try out r/christianmarriage as they often give dating advice as well. See what they say, they're solid people and they have big hearts. I used to post over there for several months. Some of the time they have shockingly bad advice men and women that is in direct contradiction of the Bible such as 1 Corinthians 7 and 1 Peter 3. I wouldn't say "let it go and move on" is bad advice in this situation, but giving her space to calm down was definitely a good idea and not getting so emot… | /r/RPChristians | 20/02/20 08:28 PM |
| 5 | More productive ways to “lift?”Something I have not seen among the good points. Lifting for strength or hypertrophy is mostly doing 20-30 second sets, and 2-5 minute rest times. Use the 2-5 minute rest times to read and memorize Scripture, pray, meditate on God, or do other "productive" things. | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/20 05:38 AM |
| 3 | Many Christians believe that the Christian red pill ideas promote an anti-Christian perspective on marriage. What’s your response? What would you say to someone who says that the Christian red pill ideas are too process/result oriented?Blessings brother! Numbers 4:24-26. | /r/RPChristians | 18/02/20 11:36 PM |
| 6 | Many Christians believe that the Christian red pill ideas promote an anti-Christian perspective on marriage. What’s your response? What would you say to someone who says that the Christian red pill ideas are too process/result oriented?my concern about them is if I have a personality problem These tend to show up if a person is thorough about posting about themselves and how they interact with others. I may very well be aware of it and hide it from this subreddit, because after all it is the internet and I can be whoever I want. There's nobody who can call me out for lying. Yeah, but that's not a problem with the sub. It's an Internet problem. Plus, the less truthful you are, the less helpful advice you will get. Secondly the … | /r/RPChristians | 18/02/20 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Death in the familyI am in the military as well. Didn't see this mentioned, but talk to your CO. I'm sure that they have had this situation happen before and can give you a bunch of advice themselves or someone they know (for free too). | /r/askRPC | 18/02/20 11:16 PM |
| 5 | Many Christians believe that the Christian red pill ideas promote an anti-Christian perspective on marriage. What’s your response? What would you say to someone who says that the Christian red pill ideas are too process/result oriented?Chuck had a good reply, but I'll give you a more in-depth answer. My only concerns with this subreddit is that you expect a laundry list of a person to ask a simple question here, what does someone's accounting information have to do with their question about how they should deal with concerns that have nothing to do with money? This subreddits demands for people to give disclosure is laughable, most churches don't even expect that much personal information be given for membership, and they have… | /r/RPChristians | 18/02/20 11:12 PM |
| 3 | I tried to do good works, and effectively got insulted in return. Could use advice with handling this situationI tried to do good works, and effectively got insulted in return. Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. You do good works because that's what God did for us. You don't do them because you expect thanks from man (or woman in this case). Jesus also had something to say about this: Matthew 6:9 “Pray, then, in this way: ‘Our Father who is in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. 10 ‘Your kingdom come. Your will be done, On earth as it … | /r/RPChristians | 18/02/20 01:53 AM |
| 4 | Good second date questions for figuring out values?As corny as it is, there are a bunch from NYT's list of 36 questions that lead to love that can be some good conversation starters to get to know each other better. There's levels of deep, so you can start with the shallow ones. I actually told my gf at the time who is now my wife that we should go through them together. https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/style/36-questions-that-lead-to-love.html | /r/askRPC | 14/02/20 06:06 PM |
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