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El0vution · 2020-09-13T02:33:59+00:00

You are probably reflecting your anima on her. So no, she’s not a unicorn. She probably has many flaws that will surprise you. You don’t listen to what she says, you watch what she does. As of right now you have no idea if she’s a unicorn. You sound young. And you already told us you’re chubby. You want my advice? You need to spend more time focusing on and disciplining yourself. You have much to learn and more to grow.

Deep_Strength · 2020-09-13T04:40:14+00:00

So I am talking to this girl, she is an Independent, Fundamental Baptist who says she is against pre-marital sex, is for submission to the husband, believes in big families, believes that the husband should be the leader and the wife should be the helpmeet.

OK cool.

So how does she act when her parents / her friends / or YOU want her to do something she doesn't want to do?

That's where the rubber meets the road.

Like others have said, watch what they do not what they say. Lots of women talk a good game. Not a lot of women or wives are actually submissive when it's something they don't want to do, which means they are not actually submissive. They're still all about themselves.

DeChef2 · 2020-09-13T03:02:59+00:00

did I find a unicorn?

Nope. Unicorns are also hot and mature in their faith. I'll take the educated guess that she's not (though there isn't a way I can know for sure).

But there is a bigger problem here.

WATCH WHAT SHE DOES, NOT WHAT SHE SAYS

RedPill 101 my friend.

Lift, loose your fat, gain some muscle.

And go on dates with her, see if she walks the talk.

hopeunseen · 2020-09-13T05:02:48+00:00

You did not find a unicorn. Tons of girls like that - additionally, its not what they SAY they believe, but what they actually DO.

TAUTJ · 2020-09-13T03:15:08+00:00

Two things I see here,

I'd hit the gym and lean out

2.

did I find a unicorn?

Maybe. Maybe not. It sounds like it and maybe the foundation is there but you'll have to vet her to see if she holds up to her word.

you don't find women like that

They are indeed increasingly rare (from my experience) hence the need to vetting and, as others have noted, understand if she truly does walk the talk

steadfastkingdom · 2020-09-13T03:26:37+00:00

Focus on putting the fork down, read the sidebar, and work towards having a lot about you not a little about you as you stated. Become a Man of High Value.

cjandstuff · 2020-09-13T20:49:33+00:00

Every couple I've known who got married under these circumstances, well later down the line she cheats because her beliefs have changed and she wants to know what's out there.
All except one. A pastor and a preacher's daughter who literally got married on their first date, and they're still together 30+ yrs later.
Possible, yes. Likely, no.

2020-09-14T02:50:07+00:00

I reject all these ignorant comments... yes, there are plenty of girls like this. Of which I am one. Just make sure she believes those things by choice, not because it’s what she’s been brought up with.

We’re wondering where the dudes are that have the same values as us. 🙄

NoFaithInThisSub · 2020-09-14T04:16:56+00:00

So I am talking to this girl, she is an Independent, Fundamental Baptist who says she is against pre-marital sex, is for submission to the husband, believes in big families, believes that the husband should be the leader and the wife should be the helpmeet. So with all of this background information, the question in mind is, did I find a unicorn?

No you haven't found a unicorn. You ever see the birds that meow like cats? is that a cat, or a bird that "sounds like" a cat?

Is she a unicorn, or something that "sounds like" a unicorn.

You must test them on the things they think they believe. No obviously don't go trying to have sex with her, but test her in other ways. ask her to do little things such as "pass me that item please", start with that, see if she complies.

if it introduces weird or angry looks on her face. HARD PASS!

Note: I'm average looking, I'm chubby..so there is a little bit about me

You can improve that look by improving that physique. Lifting is not a suggestion. Go with Christ.

ENTPunisher · 2020-09-13T05:50:29+00:00

She's not a unicorn until she believes in the reprobate doctrine and a post-trib rapture. Lift.

DrowningInPhoenix · 2020-09-13T05:29:33+00:00

I have a few questions.

How old is she?
What is the population of her hometown?
How big is her church?
Does her church teach these beliefs, or did she bring them in from somewhere else?

redarcher99 · 2020-09-14T06:47:35+00:00

Girls like this do exist and it's a wonderful thing. Honestly, she's taking the Bible's teaching on pre-marital sex, submission, biblical leadership. The big families thing isn't a Biblical necessity but if you like that and like her then go for it! Obviously you need to be capable of leading and providing well. If you want a big family then you're going to need to earn enough to feed them!

amergent · 2020-10-11T20:05:33+00:00

Is she a unicorn? Depends on her attitude toward oral sex.

Noseatbeltnoairbag · 2020-09-13T01:55:51+00:00

Hey...I'm a female, but this popped up in my feed, so I thought I'd answer. I'm pretty much just like her, but I'm non-denominational and strongly believe in following the Word of God. I am 38. I was married for 2 years, and one of the main reasons why we are divorcing is because we were unequally yoked and he had a few mental issues.

So, why am I 38 and still single? A few reasons...I'm sure as a guy, you know how uncommon it is to meet a woman who won't have sex before marriage. That cancels out a lot of dates, or at least 2nd or 3rd dates. I also (especially now!) desire a man who is truly born again, and mature in his faith and walk with the Lord. Also, he needs to be in my age range, prefererably with no children, but I realize that a man in his late 30s or 40s likely has them, but maybe only 1?

Aside from spiritual things, he still has to find me attractive inside and out, have similar interests, values, etc. I'd also like to be able to find him attractive. I really would like someone who doesn't smoke or drink, so at this point, it's not even a man unicorn. More like a pegasus.

But, I trust God that He will allow me to meet the right man. I know that I am marriage material and that I can make a man very happy. Overjoyed, and a life full of peace, happiness, and fulfillment. But, it's just hard to meet this person.

3yeof0siris · 2020-09-13T02:32:52+00:00

Sigh

Title	Question
Author	ArchaeJay
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Date	September 13, 2020 1:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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