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| 1 | Dating questions while reconnecting with my faithIn the Greek, the word is "epithumeo," which means "covet." Sexual desire is merely passively appreciating someone's beauty and sexuality. It doesn't become "epithumeo" (i.e. lustful intent) until you actually start desiring to have it for yourself. - Sexual Desire: "she has nice boobs" - Lust: "the things I'd do to those ..." Of course, this still falls into the realm of Romans 14:14 - if you think it's sin in your heart, even if it's not for someone else, don't violate your own conscience beca… | /r/askRPC | 01/06/26 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Dating questions while reconnecting with my faithThe red pill means embracing the understanding of how the world really is. It does not mean embracing a prescription of behaviors. While the world appropriately recognizes that certain behaviors are good at producing certain results, the reality is that those behaviors also have consequences which even the most "red pilled of men" will tell you to respect. For example, if you're lusting after a minor child, we're all going to agree: "Yeah, don't act on that or you'll go to jail." Consequences ma… | /r/askRPC | 27/05/26 04:44 PM |
| 1 | I am considering getting rid of my desires for loveYou can say "porn." r/TrueChristian has a sidebar post on how to conquer porn permanently. I wrote it. But porn isn't actually your problem. It's just the thing you hold so close to your eyes that it blocks your vision and you choose not to see all the other stuff behind it. God has clear, Scripture-given purposes for your life. Making disciples of all nations is an obvious example, as it's the prime mission of all of His people. How are you doing at fulfilling that command? How many people are … | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/26 06:35 PM |
| 1 | I am considering getting rid of my desires for loveAmen. | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/26 06:17 PM |
| 1 | When Weakness Becomes the Gateway for God’s Power.Yeah, I definitely don't see Scripture telling us to strive to become weak or maintain our weaknesses. It's like when Paul writes in Romans that our sin increases God's glory all the more - because it's that much more that His grace has overcome in us. But then he says, "That doesn't mean we should go on sinning," and explains that we should still strive to stop sinning, even despite that our sin brings God glory. In the same way, our weaknesses certainly bring God glory because it's clearer tha… | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/26 06:13 PM |
| – | Where Are We Truly Investing: Earthly Things or the Kingdom?I don't see the dichotomy, unless we treat "investing in the Kingdom" as synonymous with "your own spiritual growth." Under this (inaccurate) definition, sure, you have to choose between "character, obedience, prayer life, and love for others" and "lifting, charisma, confidence-building, family-leading, career development, etc." because one would be drawing a line between what advances spiritual development v other forms of development. In reality, "investing in the Kingdom" is about seeing it g… | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/26 06:05 PM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/25/25)**Info**: I'm now 40 years old, been married for 17 of those years. 4 kids ages 8-13. **Read**: All the sidebar stuff recommended by MRP and obviously what I wrote. **Lifts**: Had some injuries, but picked it back up again this summer. 5 rep sets (lbs): 275 squat / 300 deadlift / 165 overhead / 205 bent over row / 255 bench press **Mission**: Make disciples of all nations / **Vision**: 60 disciple making ministries in 60 countries by age 60 **Physical**: I pigged out with my kids this summer. Su… | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/25 06:21 PM |
| 1 | How to avoid self-pity?This is a weak post. You can't solve your own sins. Galatians 3:3 makes that pretty clear. Only God can prune these away. John 15:2 says he does this for fruitful branches. Focus on bearing fruit for Christ and you'll see your brain warping to think of things on God's terms instead of your own, and the self-pity will wash away naturally because you'll be less worried about dumb stuff and more focused on things that have eternal impact. Consequently, this will make you a more confident, assertive… | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/25 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Anyone looking for a biblical marriage. Super old fashioned completely submissive godly wife material?Gotta also remove the post, otherwise psycho idiots would just DM her after reading the title, haha. | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/25 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Unknowingly married someone with BPD (and was pressured into doing so)**PART 3/3** **CONCLUSION on What You Should Do** With all of that said, you need to stop worrying so much about her. Grow in your faith. Develop a biblical mission. Be a godly man. Expect her to get on board, and be a good leader to her. If she violates your boundaries in the home, enforce those boundaries instead of letting her emotions rule your life. If she doesn't like it, she can leave. Specifically, if she is rude and disrespectful to you, she is living in unrepentant sin. Matthew 18 says… | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/25 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Unknowingly married someone with BPD (and was pressured into doing so)**PART 2/3** **Answering Your Questions** > God hates divorce, but does He call us to endure this kind of constant abuse? Can I even call this abuse? This is manipulative cop-out wording here. God didn't "call you" to endure constant abuse - and to your second question: no, I'm not even convinced that what you've described is "abuse" yet - though it may get there. God called you to be faithful to whoever you choose to marry. You chose to marry someone hastily and under pressure. You state that i… | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/25 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Unknowingly married someone with BPD (and was pressured into doing so)**Caution to ALL Men** This is why I **DO NOT** recommend marrying someone on less than a year of knowing them. 2-3 is more ideal. Yeah, yeah, "But I want to have sex now!" Sure, if having sex a year earlier is more important than ensuring you don't get into this type of situation, go for it - your decision, your risk, your consequence. If she truly has BPD, I give you 80% odds you end up divorced. If you have a kid when you divorce, you are dealing with it for the next 18 years, including likel… | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/25 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Unknowingly married someone with BPD (and was pressured into doing so)History of abuse or significant number of sexual partners/sexual impulsivity are DSM-V diagnostic criteria for BPD. When I do premarital counseling I make the couples take the MMPI test for personality disorders just to make sure they know what they're getting themselves into. In this case, having that information before marriage would have been significant for someone (whether OP or someone else who is advising him who might be more familiar with what red flags to look out for in terms of menta… | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/25 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Asking 100 Women Out - Catholic Edition: Girl #1Super fun read. I always love field reports. I'm glad you're taking a level head between developing confidence through practicing your approach and developing your social skills, while also not doing it from a standpoint of leading people on or screwing with people's feelings just because you "can." Looking forward to more of these. | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/25 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Not sure what to do, need guidance.**Part 2** - Tag: u/Secure_Fudge2485 - With the kids still living in your home, find 1 hour a week to have one-on-one time with each of them. Do something THEY enjoy, not something you want to introduce to them. Don't resort to "Johnny and I do this, it's our thing." Scratch that out. Maybe Johnny doesn't like it anymore and is too scared to tell you. If you don't know what your kids genuinely like to do, you're way too far out of touch and need to figure it out anyway. Just ask them. - Make a l… | /r/RPChristians | 16/08/25 07:19 AM |
| 2 | Not sure what to do, need guidance.I was going to give a bullet-point list of all the obvious red flags in your post, but u/Praexology already did that, so I'll move on. I saw you post your stats in a comment and u/DonnieWearsVelvet hit the nail on the head. You're a super low-value man right now. Physically, spiritually, mentally ... you have nothing to offer her. Why in the world would you expect her to stick around? I'll give you a reason: because you can be better. That's what every girl wants - a husband who's constantly imp… | /r/RPChristians | 16/08/25 07:19 AM |
| 14 | DivorceI'm going to be super blunt on this and say: this seems like useless victim puking. You said you already made the decision to file for divorce. The Bible doesn't list that as an exception to the "no divorce" principle, so it's a sinful choice. Either own it and follow through or repent. But bringing it up the way you did looks like you're just looking for validation from this community. To soften up a bit, I get it. I see this situation constantly in my career - where one spouse goes mental. And… | /r/RPChristians | 16/08/25 06:36 AM |
| 3 | Submissive Christian wifeThis is a male-only sub, so you probably won't find many women's opinions. I'm not really present enough to care to enforce that rule right now, though, so you lucked out. There's another RPCWomen sub out there, if you want to check that out. Regardless, for a legit answer, it's probably best to understand what the Bible means by submission in the first place. - The word for "submit" is *hypotasso* - it is a military term referencing subjugating oneself under another's authority. - A different w… | /r/RPChristians | 16/08/25 06:09 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)If it's a shallow copy then it's not actual joy, right? No, it's still joy. For example, if we were to talk about "love," the Bible definitely talks about non-Christians loving someone. But that love is still a "shallow copy" compared to what we have through Christ. Are we to conclude, "No, I will only think of the idyllic concept of love and deny anything else as being love" and therefore deem the Bible wrong when it says that a non-Christian loved someone? Or do we embrace that shallow copies … | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/24 06:55 PM |
| 5 | The Courage to Be DislikedGlad you find it helpful. This book is basically all about figuring out how to live in your own frame, but assuming you've already been fully indoctrinated by the world's way of thinking and trying to undo all of that. The first 1/2 is mostly tearing down wrong ways of thinking and the rest is about how to rebuild it correctly. That's the overarching framework. | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/24 03:27 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)Thank you for the recommendation Solid. You won't regret it. I did just put up a post covering the first 1/3 of the book in summary form. Might be worth reading before you listen so you know what to expect and make it easier to wrap your head around the concepts. ingrained in our personalities Humorously, the book denies the existence of personalities and focuses more on "lifestyle." But I'll let you get to that on your own :p Which is why spreading joy inherently means spreading Christ. You're … | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/24 10:48 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)I believe that my mission is to spread the joy of the Lord, satisfaction in Christ In follow-up to what I just replied on your prior OYS, to come to this newer comment, this is a perfect example. Phrases like "of the Lord" and "in Christ" are just filler. Joy and satisfaction can't actually come from other sources anyway, otherwise they're just false expressions/shadows. Your mission is now to cause other people to be joyful and satisfied in life. If that's what you produce into the world, that … | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/24 05:44 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)She ... she ... she ... my wife ... she ... she You're so hung up on what she thinks and how she behaves that you're not figuring out your own life. You're trying to manipulate her through sexual expression techniques. That's why it's not working. Set aside some other reading material for a bit and go through the book: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. The audio book is on Spotify (not sure if you need premium or not; do the version with the tree on the cover). This… | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/24 05:29 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)How wet she could get before using lube Why are you married 6 years and still using lube? I haven’t analyzed it yet. Yes, a lack of analyzing is the problem. Or perhaps you just push through the LMR and see if that works. If it does, turns out that was the problem. If not, then go guess at what else it might be. She begged to be allowed to give a handjob as an “appetizer” before we had sex. On the whole, listen to u/Moist-Bath5827. He's solid. That said, while the underlying principle of his app… | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/24 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Complaining and Comfort TestsRight. There's a reason I referenced comfort tests in the title and only used examples of her complaining about external things. If she's complaining about you, it's not a comfort test; it's a compliance test. Different test = different response. It's that simple. For the most part, your approach is perfectly appropriate with regard to compliance/fitness tests. I'd recommend a more positive, teasing attitude in those more heated moments, but we all have our own style. | /r/RPChristians | 22/03/24 05:31 AM |
| 3 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022However, I'd like to mention that this is predominantly in the West. In East Asia, Africa and Eastern Europe, women don't prioritize a men's looks or rather, natural physical features as much as Western European and American women do. I totally get that. It's not a genetic trait. It's a product of the culture. If you move to East Asia, Africa, or Eastern Europe, let's revisit this conversation. Otherwise, it's irrelevant to you. Your argument reads like the girl who has a dozen one night stands … | /r/RPChristians | 13/10/22 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022Perhaps, but I'm not sure if this is a fair comparison. Think about it this way: if God interacts with us a certain way and you have the option of "follow in God's example" or "make up my own way because I'm not sure God wants us to do with others what he does with us" - which option is the safer route? I get it. There are some things that are unique to God that we simply can't do. I can't create an entire universe, so I can't follow God's example on that issue. Jesus was a carpenter. I can do s… | /r/RPChristians | 13/10/22 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022Then the RMV checklist posted here is useless: That checklist isn't an "all or nothing" thing. You don't have to have every single criteria met. It's just things guys should be thinking about before committing the rest of their lives to someone. So, if she isn't Godly, then does that mean she's not Christian or just not a devout Christian as she should be? Could that mean she's still saved and not yet Godly? Or does that mean she's outright secular/agnostic-atheist? When a non-believer becomes a… | /r/RPChristians | 09/10/22 02:34 AM |
| 3 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022while women might not care about looks as much as guys do You've actually got that backwards. Research shows that women actually have higher standards than men when it comes to physical appearance. Prime example is when OKCupid did a research study on how men rate women and vice versa. When they analyzed the data from the men, they saw a pretty typical bell curve with most women being "average" and lesser were below/above average and very few were far below/above average. For women, the data was… | /r/RPChristians | 09/10/22 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022Extremely black pilling... Eh, I think you're misusing the word "black pill" here. Black pill is more about whether or not your own looks preventing women from showing any interest in you, and the hopelessness associated with that. Genetics matter, especially to me which is why I vet them based on this too. Hence why I'm not willing to settle. Sure, so that affects the "attractiveness" quality. But personality is mostly non-genetic. Although it has genetic traits, it's more a product of how you'… | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/22 03:58 AM |
| 2 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022That means that my prospects ... are extremely low Relevant: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueChristian/comments/3s17lr/do_dedicated_christian_women_still_exist_out_there/cwtr1hu/ I agree that the prospects are generally really low if you're in "I'm going to find someone ready-made" mode. I mean, this rule's essentially asking men to settle for less in terms of physical attraction in favor of the other two attributes Not at all. I think you're missing the point, which I'm going to get really repetit… | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/22 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022Makes me wonder out of curiosity if these ugly or unattractive people are Christian simply because they're not desired by people for the most part, thus going to Church out of desperation or for personal comfort that they'd otherwise believe would not be needed if they were attractive? Right. Isn't this the very heart of why Jesus says it's so hard for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God? When people's lives are good, they don't feel the need for him. The reverse is also true: when people … | /r/RPChristians | 07/10/22 06:29 PM |
| 6 | Vaginismus & Concerns About Wedding NightMission - Excel in my career as an actuary, raise a healthy, God-fearing family, live out my heritage, and constantly improve. If you're at all familiar with me, you know I can't let this go. Read Matthew 4:19 - "Come, follow me, and I will make you fishers of men." Now, re-read your own mission. Jesus said if you follow him you will become a fisher of men. Is that part of your mission or not? In secular red pill, trying to "excel" and "constantly improve" sounds like a good mission, but it's ul… | /r/RPChristians | 06/10/22 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Question about dating as a single Christian man who's looking for a Christian Woman in 2022Are there still attractive Christian women out there who aren't egotistical via being corrupted by their beauty and secular world, but instead remain faithful/devout and true to Christ? If so, where would a man like me be able to find them? Sure, these women are all around. You just have to remember that the more attractive a woman is, the higher degree of temptation there will be for her to abandon her faith for worldly passions. Unattractive women don't get many men pining over them with love … | /r/RPChristians | 06/10/22 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill ChristianityHi there. The topic of "Red Pill can be integrated into Christianity" has already been beaten to death here, so I won't rehash that other than to say we aren't integrating anything. We're merely showing where the overlap exists, especially as it stands in contrast to the things mass-culture promulgates. What I'm more interested in is where you say: Purpose breaks down into particularities and is different for everyone: someone can be a fireman, an artist, a lawyer - we all have different purpose… | /r/RPChristians | 06/10/22 03:57 AM |
| 3 | To what extent is a wife allowed to withhold sex and affection if she doesn't feel supported emotionally?Welcome to the club. Your story tracks with mine pretty closely (including the 4 kids and "I'll never want to have sex with you" stuff) ... up until the point of cheating. I found MRP and eventually started this sub shortly before I got to that point. Feel free to check out my testimony/RP-imony in my post history for more. You definitely had some big mistakes there. But what are you doing NOW in the wake of all that? How are you living for Christ TODAY? | /r/RPChristians | 10/09/22 04:36 PM |
| 3 | To what extent is a wife allowed to withhold sex and affection if she doesn't feel supported emotionally?I gather that you're reformed Eh, I wouldn't say that. Curious where you got that from, though. nearly all of the counselors I sought out either 1) acknowledged the problem but wouldn't rebuke her, 2) blamed me or told me to lower my expectations. Of course, when I went to them on my own and confessed my regrettable episode of sin to them, they didn't waste any time removing me from any formal ministry involvement, meeting with me to express their concern, and assigning me a weekly counselor Fun… | /r/RPChristians | 10/09/22 06:50 AM |
| 4 | Praise God for this communityI'll second Deep's book. While TRM definitely has a lot of interesting and useful things to ponder in it, there's a lot of secular/unbiblical information too, so you have to approach it with great caution, as you would any non-Christian book. That said, when you read those books, the goal isn't to "reconcile" them through a "biblical lens," nor do you want to put a "red pill lens" over the Bible. It's just the Bible. We've emphasized that on this sub a number of times. The fact that God's way ha… | /r/RPChristians | 10/09/22 04:18 AM |
| 5 | To what extent is a wife allowed to withhold sex and affection if she doesn't feel supported emotionally?Our mod /u/RedPillWonder already wrote an entire post on this subject, so I'm going to defer to him for most of my thoughts on the main angle of this: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/hd1v5a/worthy_of_love_earned_respect_and_other_biblical/ In short: "God's commands are not conditional." That sums up the main point. God didn't say, "Thou shalt not murder ... unless you have a good reason, then it's okay." God didn't say, "Do not steal ... unless your neighbor is a bad person, then … | /r/RPChristians | 10/09/22 04:09 AM |
| 1 | No, it's not okay.Psalm 1: 1-3. Psalm 119. John 17: 15-17 The word "abide" doesn't appear in any of these, so none of them are defining the word "abide" like the 1 John passage I quoted. John 15 Two things here: Us abiding in Christ and God's Word abiding in us are not reciprocal. They are different concepts, each with distinct value. It says God's Word can abide in us, but it doesn't say that us abiding in Christ is meditating on his word. The concepts aren't necessarily reciprocal. It's like saying, "Food goes … | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/22 03:23 AM |
| 1 | No, it's not okay."whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked" ~1 John 2:6 God's work is how we abide in Christ - doing what Jesus did. | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/22 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Smash The Overton WindowI think the rendering of: "make disciples of all nations" is less clear than the Young's Literal Translation (which I recall you tend to appreciate) as "disciple all the nations" which makes clearer the object of the discipleship. I do like the YLT :) That said, it's still not perfect. Here, we have two clear textual clues and one point of ambiguity that lead me to the opposite conclusion: Even the phrase "disicple all the nations" is, at best, ambiguous as to whether it's referencing intangible… | /r/RPChristians | 01/08/22 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Smash The Overton WindowThat's why I don't Oh, I know. I was agreeing with you. Just emphasizing your point. Great video, haha. highly literate population of Twilight readers Nice. Point well taken. You're just not talking about literacy anymore. Normal is the new radical Right. I think we talked about this on one of the podcasts on the topic of "reactionary politics" or something like that. | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/22 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Smash The Overton WindowAs I recall, OZ interprets "make disciples of all nations" to mean that the national, corporate entity is "discipled." I interpret Jesus as saying, "What I just did with you for the past few years, go do that with people throughout the whole world." The pragmatic difference is that my work, then focuses on the individual. Politics is a hobby interest that brushes shoulders with moral responsibility, but not a biblical imperative. For OZ, politics is a biblical mandate. I'm not sure where he stan… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/22 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Smash The Overton WindowAgreed. The issue is that the righteousness aspect, from a population perspective, is subjective, whereas form is objective. To a nonchristian, killing babies is he righteous thing to do, to ours/God's it's "unthinkable." The objectivity of righteousness (which is arguable, even from a Christian standpoint) won't be made clear to anyone until judgment day. From there, the best thing people know to do is to argue for a form of governance that is most likely to achieve the brand of "righteousness"… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/22 02:04 AM |
| – | Welcome Disciples!I appreciate what you're doing, but promoting other subs isn't allowed here - especially brand new ones with no history to show if they're actually reliable or not. | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/22 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Smash The Overton WindowGlad to see you back. Solid post. Lots of things to process. While generally a useful tool, the Overton Window image makes it look like the window is in the dead-center of the two opposing extremes, whereas modern political climate shows otherwise. If 0 are the "unthinkable republicans" and 10 is the "unthinkable democrats," the Overton Window would be between 6-8, not 4-6 ... EXCEPT FOR ... It's important to remember that the "Overton Window" is location-specific. The cultural centers are exact… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/22 08:44 PM |
| 2 | No, it's not okay.This comment is the definition of malicious interpretation. | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/22 03:49 AM |
| 4 | No, it's not okay.Agreed! | /r/RPChristians | 26/07/22 04:44 PM |
| 1 | No, it's not okay.Eh, I don't agree with a lot of what I read either. It's not an offense issue. It's just common-sense that you have to filter the good from the bad when you read anything on the internet. | /r/RPChristians | 26/07/22 05:44 AM |
| 10 | Basically “666” and still no genuine desire from wifeMission is doing my work and helping as many people as possible while praying and seeking to speak the gospel boldly. My wife has helped me with this by challenging my thinking and helping me build a household that motivates me to provide. Let me open with saying this is one of your big problems. Your mission is so vague and useless that you're not actually doing anything, and I'm sure she sees that. This type of mission lends itself to a lifestyle of just living day by day in the work-eat-sleep… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/22 03:05 PM |
| 3 | ParentingI like this post and it's a worthy topic. Here are some thoughts: Modeling Does Work I think you dismiss this too quickly. Let's take a look at your excuses. We are all doomed to be imperfect If that's the case, then all techniques will be imperfect and are to be equally embraced or thrown out with modeling. Even if we were, perfection doesn't necessarily inspire patterning behavior I don't see how this connects. Your argument is why modeling won't work, not why being perfect won't work. There's… | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/22 09:51 PM |
| – | Top tierThis got to stay up for a day, but I'm taking it down for being low quality. That said: welcome! Best way to get to know many of us is through the discord. Post an introduction to get access to the full thing. | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/22 03:36 AM |
| 12 | Christians and divorceMake disciples. | /r/RPChristians | 26/05/22 02:53 AM |
| 5 | Does it make sense to marry as a man with high earning potential?I'll echo this and add reference to all the 1 Cor. 7 stuff that always comes up with this question. | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/22 02:40 PM |
| 3 | Getting Out of Woods and On MissionJohn 15 says: "Every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit" but "Every branch in me that does not bear fruit ... is thrown away like a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned." If you want your baggage dealt with (i.e. pruned), including your porn and masturbation issues, mission IS your answer, not the thing you do after you're pruned. You cannot be pruned until after you start bearing fruit. He has to see fruit before he … | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/22 06:42 AM |
| – | Why is marriage special if there is no ONE soulmate?Read this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/cnoykj/understanding_why_sexual_sins_are_sin/ And this one: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/85wf8w/is_sex_outside_of_marriage_a_sin_an_official/ The second one is on our sidebar. The other is also highly relevant. As another user said, do read the sidebar before posting basic questions like this. | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/22 06:36 AM |
| 1 | BPD wife - I need a miracle from GodBud = marijuana? That doesn't mean anything anymore. If she's on marijuana and you're on meth, you're going to get hammered and they'll overlook her use. Marijuana isn't a concern to most courts anymore, for the most part. If that's your trump card on her, you've got nothing. I think you're overestimating the significance of T-levels, especially if you're naturally within normal ranges anyway. It sounds to me like you've been drinking the kool-aid with all the "low-T" scare that goes around on c… | /r/RPChristians | 21/04/22 07:19 PM |
| 10 | BPD wife - I need a miracle from GodWhy the heck are you still on drugs? Stop that. IMMEDIATELY. I don't care how hard it is. If you won't give this up today, all other advice you get here will be pointless because your drug abuse will undermine whatever other protective measures you take with the court - both in falsified criminal charges (which will become actual, not falsified, when they discover your use) and in the domestic court. This is the dumbest decision you could possibly make. If you think anything can get better while… | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/22 09:38 PM |
| 2 | BPD wife - I need a miracle from GodThis is wrong. They will not "return to some semblance of normal SOON." If there's going to be a change, it will take lots of time and years of therapy. You have to make the decision now if you're in it for the long-haul to get her help or if you're out the door. There is no "soon" when it comes to borderlines. | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/22 09:34 PM |
| 1 | BPD wife - I need a miracle from GodEh. 1 Cor. 7 says if you separate it should be "for a short time" and for the purpose of prayer. I don't personally believe long-term separations are "biblical," even though I embrace them as a pragmatic necessity in the same way that divorce was never "biblical" even in the case of cheating, but Moses deemed it a pragmatic necessity anyway ("because of the hardness of your hearts Moses issued certificates of divorce"). | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/22 09:31 PM |
| – | HelloHello to you too. We don't normally let posts like this stay up, but I'd highly encourage you to join the discord and start conversation there. | /r/RPChristians | 16/03/22 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Very Basic "2-2 Dinner Party" Social SkillsHah. I'm so confused. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/03/22 06:02 PM |
| 5 | Stop Pointing the FingerWell-said. | /r/RPChristians | 28/02/22 07:15 PM |
| 3 | Stop Pointing the FingerRight, this reminds me of /u/RedPillWonder's post: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/hd1v5a/worthy_of_love_earned_respect_and_other_biblical/ God’s commands are not conditional By virtue of being your husband, you are to respect and reverence him. By you being his wife, he is to love you regardless of your actions. You are to submit to your husband even if he’s not a good leader or Captain. Pointing the finger treats God's commands as conditional. | /r/RPChristians | 28/02/22 08:24 AM |
| 6 | Interactions on this subTo tweak a semantic issue that might resolve what /u/rocknrollchuck said - men and women can both be at fault in different ways for crappy marriages. But fault is a stupid and worthless thing to waste time assigning. Pointing the finger has never once helped my kids better their relationship with each other. It won't help a husband/wife better their relationship either. What really matters more than fault is responsibility. A CEO of a corporation is responsible for the mistakes of his subordinat… | /r/RPChristians | 28/02/22 04:31 AM |
| 6 | Interactions on this subalso, you can always just choose not to engage with people on the sub you don't want to interact with What? And let someone saying bad things about me have the last word without me defending myself? No way. | /r/RPChristians | 28/02/22 04:12 AM |
| 8 | Seriously. What would Jesus do.STFU. It takes two to argue, dude. She doesn't respect you because you DEER like crazy and don't have a mission she's actually excited to be on. My mission in life is please God. What you do to please God is your mission. This is just a vague statement. How I am going about that mission is by becoming the best version of myself. Good - you took it the next step to something active. I respect that. But do you see how your mission is so introspective that she has no actual place in it? How will sh… | /r/RPChristians | 27/02/22 05:18 AM |
| 2 | Very Basic "2-2 Dinner Party" Social SkillsThat's a Wisconsin thing? My brother and I do those here too. Good stuff. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/02/22 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Very Basic "2-2 Dinner Party" Social SkillsI agree in principle. But people have also quoted me 3 times this week without me even realizing I was the one who said it. So, sometimes people remember things you say too :p | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/02/22 02:19 AM |
| 3 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)I'm also reminded of Titus 1:12-13 - "One of the Cretans, a prophet of their own, said, 'Cretans are always liars, evil beasts, lazy gluttons.' This testimony is true. Therefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith, not devoting themselves to Jewish myths and the commands of people who turn away from the truth." The "Jewish myths" were from the ritualized culture the Jewish Christians, like Paul, were being called out of. Just as Judaism lost its way and abandoned Yahweh for … | /r/RPChristians | 25/02/22 12:55 AM |
| 5 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)Often whatever your focused on is going to be wrong anyways because that's why you are in the situation you are in. If you were focused on fixing the correct things you wouldn't be here asking for advice in the first place. This line is gold. You could write a post on that. | /r/RPChristians | 25/02/22 12:46 AM |
| 8 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)Okay, you're way too emotionally invested in this. You do need a time-out. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 10:44 PM |
| – | Read the SidebarI'll endorse it. This is now an announcement post. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 09:57 PM |
| 6 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)people actually discussing my questions vs people finding ways to insult someone new for not using the "mission" section properly The real issue here is that you're not comprehending the way that your mission (or lack thereof) is contributing to the issue you're asking about in the first place. The concepts are inextricably intertwined. By addressing the issue with your mission, we are leading you to a better path for handling the issue you're talking about. Imagine someone banging their head ag… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)there's nothing you've done other than look butt hurt over nothing /u/redpill-cool is testing your frame. You're failing the test in your responses. This is something you'll learn over time. He insults me this way too. Everyone, in fact. It's his thing. Annoying as it is, it serves a purpose. But yes, he needs to figure out better discretion on when to apply this strategy and not. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 09:47 PM |
| 6 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)New to the faith ?? Did you read my post or are you just here to rant? Juxtaposed with ... I started my celibate journey this year Translation: "Before this year, I didn't actually take my faith seriously." Conclusion: "Treat like someone who just started taking his faith seriously in the past year." You might have a history of biblical knowledge, but that's not what I'm addressing. I had a massive wealth of biblical knowledge stored up from being raised in the church, but wasn't actually saved … | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Abundance Fatigue and "The Meaning of Life"Agreed. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/02/22 09:03 PM |
| 3 | MissionSolid post. The only tweak I'd make is: Don't get hung up on the details ... AS LONG AS your method is based on how you see Jesus doing it in the Bible. That's the one detail that matters. My method of discipler-making is going to differ from Francis Chan's, which is actually even different from the guy who discipled me. The key in these differences is that we're all looking at how Jesus did things and using that as our model. I knew another guy who decided he would look at secular mentoring mod… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 06:30 PM |
| 12 | Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion)prioritising my career and hoping to start a family in the near future and Mission: I want a big family, with a loving wife and children. This is what's killing you. I'm with /u/redwall92 on this one. You're wasting your life here. I get it, though. You're relatively new to the faith. The concept of "mission" is something the Church won't teach you (lots of reasons for that), so you probably won't hear it from many other places, unless you get to know the Bible directly. Anyone who actually read… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 06:21 PM |
| 1 | I took a dose of finasteride to see how the body would respond. The drug has irreversibly emasculated my brain.Nah, I just like him for his musically-gifted brain. Jeremy Jordan, on the other hand ... | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Fixing Your OYS - Your Life Will Keep Sucking Until You Read and Apply This PostThis could be a low-testosterone issue, but I'm not so quick to jump on that bandwagon. I have found through personal experience that an abundance mentality can (not always "will") have an "I've taken this too far" effect where the previously unattainable becomes so easy and commonplace (i.e. actual abundance, beyond just the abundance mentality) that it no longer holds value to you. Women do this all the time. They have an abundance of male attention. Women don't get wet from male attention any… | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 04:09 AM |
| – | I took a dose of finasteride to see how the body would respond. The drug has irreversibly emasculated my brain.I'm taking this down. Not enough substance here. Feel free to repost on /r/askRPC. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 04:00 AM |
| 1 | I took a dose of finasteride to see how the body would respond. The drug has irreversibly emasculated my brain.Musicals? You intentionally trying to bait me? Haha | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/22 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Fixing Your OYS - Your Life Will Keep Sucking Until You Read and Apply This PostHot, sweaty, and fast paced. | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/22 04:06 PM |
| – | Need Help with Recurring DreamsI'll leave the askRPC post up and remove this one. | /r/RPChristians | 08/02/22 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Fixing Your OYS - Your Life Will Keep Sucking Until You Read and Apply This PostI have. Did the weight start coming on when you had your first kid? That's when all mine began. Once you have kids it gets way harder to keep it off. | /r/RPChristians | 01/02/22 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Sales and Discipleship37, actually. | /r/RPChristians | 31/01/22 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 07, 2021Speaking of vague - did you see his mission? This guy has no clue what he wants out of life yet. Can't improve much if you don't know what you're improving into. That's where he needs to start. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/12/21 11:42 AM |
| 3 | Stop Blaming Your KidsBetter for avoiding losing custody down the road too. I can't count the number of cases I've seen where the allegation comes up, "So and so still sleeps in the same bed with the kids," and the court basically says, "That's gotta stop now or you lose all overnights." Worst case I've seen is one I have right now: Dad (45-ish) still sleeps in the same bed with his billboard/magazine-model daughter (16). My client (Mom) insists it's not sexual, but she's still creeped out by it. I'm not so sure she'… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/11/21 07:25 AM |
| 1 | FR: Spank your wife.But not to a woman with a HVM. She thinks she's disappointing me. I remember when this shift happened. Crap used to happen to her and somehow I was to blame ever single time. A few months later, crap happens to her and suddenly she's not good enough for me. Large-scale shift from fitness tests to comfort tests as her primary operating dynamic (not to say the former don't still come, but it's not the same framework). Truth be told, I've never actually ventured into spanking. This post makes me in… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/11/21 07:16 AM |
| 1 | What's the end-goal?Indeed. | /r/RPChristians | 05/11/21 01:02 AM |
| 5 | What's the end-goal?"Put serious money into a Church, and you'll care about it a whole lot more." I've heard this type of argument a lot before too and there are some good points to be made from it. I think it makes a lot more sense when we personalize it, the same way the other expenses listed are personalized. It's YOUR beachside house. It's YOUR Landcruiser. It's YOUR crypto. But it is NOT your "church" (unless you are actually the pastor). In this, investing money in someone else's venture doesn't achieve the s… | /r/RPChristians | 04/11/21 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Sexual needs in deadbedroomI would not discourage seculars from posting here when the issues abut our faith. We know the truth of Scripture. Better for a person to get biblical truth than secular speculation of the truth, however close it may be to actual truth. | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/21 05:20 AM |
| 2 | Sexual needs in deadbedroomWhat do Christinians red pillers do when there’s no sex? This is an oxymoron. While it's vaguely possible in some remote parallel universe, your wife is not a special snowflake. If you were a "red piller" you'd be getting sex. It's as simple as that. So, there's no scenario where a Christian is a "red piller" but not getting sex. More to your original post, /u/UpTanks has some great comments here, so I won't push too much further. The main thing I'll toss out in addition is this: Because you're … | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/21 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Reading through the guide and having some trouble, can someone help me out?Top sprinters lift weights. Distance runners too. My old cross country coach used to emphasize that hill-running had a significant influence from abs and pecs. I'm not sure exactly how he came to that conclusion, but at the time the articles he showed us made a lot of sense. | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/21 05:05 AM |
| 1 | Reading through the guide and having some trouble, can someone help me out?justify replacing it with a lesser lazier variant FTFY | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/21 05:03 AM |
| 2 | Reading through the guide and having some trouble, can someone help me out?Agreed. /u/bekfastinbed - studies have been shown that women are more aroused by a muscular guy with extra lbs over a thin guy who has no muscular build to him. | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/21 05:02 AM |
| 1 | I loved the 2022 Toyota PriusI would guess XLE or Limited. | /r/RPChristians | 29/09/21 05:04 PM |
| 1 | I loved the 2022 Toyota PriusPretty good. You? | /r/RPChristians | 29/09/21 04:47 PM |
| 5 | Sometimes I resent my pregnant wife because of her pastThey've got you on the wrong track here. You had the right idea initially - no need to bring this up. You have to make peace with it yourself first before you go blabbing your mouth to her. Otherwise, your emotions are bound to get the better of you and things will almost certainly get worse - either because you'll look weak or because you'll look butthurt or it'll affect your frame in some way, or any other number of possible issues. Don't do marriage counseling. There's a reason that modern ma… | /r/RPChristians | 15/09/21 05:53 AM |
| 11 | Sometimes I resent my pregnant wife because of her pastThis advice is so bad I'm going to issue a 1-day ban just for shock value. | /r/RPChristians | 15/09/21 05:50 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes I resent my pregnant wife because of her past1 Timothy 5:14 - "So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander." Those men they ought to marry gotta come from somewhere. Broadly, though, I agree with you. Widow isn't a "high priority" wife candidate. But I don't see why it should be a deal-breaker either. That said, there are certainly the "wrong kind" of widow that the passage talks about too, so a guy's still gotta be wise about who he considers. | /r/RPChristians | 15/09/21 05:48 AM |
| 5 | Sometimes I resent my pregnant wife because of her pastThis. And I don't mean that dismissively of OP. I mean that fixing the mission will likely solve his problem. We get emotionally invested in the things that matter most to us. Right now, sex is what matters most to OP. How do I know? Because his mission sucks and he's here complaining about sex instead. If he had something actually worthwhile to be thinking about, he wouldn't care as much about whose dick went where. To be fair, I can appreciate the frustration. I get it. Imagining some other du… | /r/RPChristians | 15/09/21 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Christian Plate Spinning (Part 2)Isaac is an anomaly. That's a bad example to look to. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/21 07:58 PM |
| 3 | what do you thinkThis is exactly what I was going to say. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/21 04:52 AM |
| – | In defense of the top moderator of Christian Marriage (who wrote a long essay earlier today rebuking this subreddit)I wanted to politely advise the members of this subreddit not to brigade his subreddit Let me be clear about this: we do not permit brigading. If anyone is instigating brigading, let the mods know and we'll put a stop to it. MedianNerd is a good Christian who simply doesn't view the world through a red-pill lens. That statement should also be true for every godly person on RPC also. He's kind, caring, polite, and friendly as long as you reach out to him in good faith. So is the devil, when it su… | /r/askRPC | 07/08/21 04:49 AM |
| 3 | In defense of the top moderator of Christian Marriage (who wrote a long essay earlier today rebuking this subreddit)Agreed entirely. Well said, brother. I miss chatting with you. | /r/askRPC | 07/08/21 04:34 AM |
| 2 | Anyone want to explain how this post is right/wrong? And in what ways? I’m new to RP and still learning what it’s all about...Solid. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/21 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Anyone want to explain how this post is right/wrong? And in what ways? I’m new to RP and still learning what it’s all about...So many that the joke is quite tired 😉 | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/21 04:28 AM |
| 2 | Conversation Strategies You Won't Find in WISNIFGI can get behind all of this. But the "be overt and direct" strategy is not always the best one, and even when it is best it only works for guys who have the frame to pull it off. That's more for communicating plans and expectations, not long term character build and development. | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/21 07:25 PM |
| 1 | The Polarizing, Yet Equable and Rational MaleIt took me way too long to get back to this. Question is, what is the proper course of conduct? That which satisfies how he wants to live? Or that which gives him the results he wants? That's for him to decide. And I think this is the thrust of what you're saying, with the caveat that some (most?) people don't know enough about themselves yet to make an informed decision. In that case, they have to explore to figure out who they are before they can begin to prioritize things like personal charac… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/08/21 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Christian Plate Spinning (Part 2)I completely agree with you on the benefits of having children early. That was one of my goals and I succeeded in it - all of my children will be 18 by the time I turn 50, when I intend to retire. That said, on a purely marital level (excluding the parental), I've seen so many guys who have found "a high quality attractive woman" who 5 years later turns out to be AWALT anyway and the guy was just too young to see through his emotions, creating a halo effect around her and everything she does. So… | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/21 07:10 AM |
| 2 | Christian Plate Spinning (Part 2)Having an affair as a Christian means you have a weak frame and no business trying to spin plates at that point anyway. To be clear: if you're a Christian, part of your frame will naturally evolve as you are sanctified toward Christ-likeness to a rejection of infidelity. If you're already there, then having an internal stance of being against infidelity would require you to be weak in order to cave to temptations toward infidelity. If your frame is weak enough that you'd do that, then it's weak … | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/21 07:06 AM |
| 1 | Christian Plate Spinning (Part 2)While technically correct, a lot can be said about pre-marital processes by looking at what the Scriptures say about how Christ drew his bride to himself prior to his union with the Church or the Spirit's indwelling us as "one." So, I don't think it's fair to say that the Bible doesn't have anything to say about pre-marriage processes. It may not say it directly, but it shows it. Watch what they do, not (just) what they say. | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/21 07:01 AM |
| – | How to survive ‘no sex before marriage’ when your Love language is physical touch.Per this post, which is still an announcement on our main page, I have to remove this post and redirect you to /r/RPCWomen. That said, I agree with what /u/HughBeaumont500 said. Love languages aren't in the Bible. They're a human classification system and not something ingrained in us by God. They are just a classification system based on generic preferences. It's like Myers-Briggs typology. It would be ridiculous to say, "I'm a P, not a J, but my boss wants me to be on time to work. What should… | /r/RPChristians | 22/07/21 04:38 PM |
| 4 | Plan, Act, and Wait on the Lord (PAW)I just responded to someone on the discord who private messaged me about the exact topic of "waiting on the Lord." Didn't realize you had a post on it. Here was my reply: Yeah, it's certainly in the Bible. But it's not emphasized the way it gets emphasized today. Most of that emphasis stems from a recently popularized book: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, by John Mark Comer. I've known lots of people to read it and it's created something of a fad among pastors. Comer gets his popularity from … | /r/RPChristians | 22/06/21 05:11 AM |
| 2 | The Image You ReflectOne of the dangers of red pill Christianity I see is that it tricks many men into thinking they have arrived at their sanctification, not realizing that you never arrive until you are dead and raised to life anew Yeah, I'm not aware of many Nazarenes around here who buy into total sanctification. If anything, the RPC concept of OYS shows that even the most mature and experienced people are still working on making progress. None of us have 'arrived,' and if you see someone who seems to pretend ot… | /r/RPChristians | 13/04/21 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Why does RPC hate feminism?There's a difference between hating something and believing it is unbiblical or morally corrupt. I can love people who are non-Christians and morally corrupt - and I have great relationships with many such people. So to be clear: we don't hate feminists; but we do disagree with their philosophies and believe they are unbiblical. That doesn't mean we think that every single thing feminists say are false or that we disagree with every single point they're trying to make. Even the devil makes good … | /r/askRPC | 13/04/21 06:24 PM |
| 0 | My Daughters Rules for Dating My Daughter.My theory would be that it would breed resentment if she were forced into it Do you believe that's the case because you come from a society that encourage people to choose their own spouses for any reason they feel like, and therefore shifting them to an arranged-marriage structure would be offensive to your values? Or are you looking at this from the viewpoint of a society where that is all people have ever known, and the idea of choosing your own spouse would seem not only foreign, but even of… | /r/RPChristians | 10/04/21 03:00 AM |
| 1 | My Daughters Rules for Dating My Daughter.supposedly it's a Christian environment, but several of these kids seem to be hellions when mom and dad aren't around That's how it was when I was in high school. The local Catholic school was known for being far more morally bankrupt than the public school - drugs, sex, violence, etc. The teachers were fine, but it forced the parents into the dynamic of: (1) pay lots of money to get biblical teachers, but highly corrupting peers, or (2) get unbiblical teaching with still-corrupting-but-less-so … | /r/RPChristians | 08/04/21 06:07 PM |
| 9 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spaceBiblical structure. I understand that you're not a Christian, so you don't agree with the Bible. But that's how it is. I believe u/Deep_Strength and Dalrock have written posts on some of the concerns with women being in total authority over each other without a man involved. u/AnnaAerials, who was the original mod/co-founder of RPCWomen was also clear that she did not want herself or another woman as a head mod and believed the men should continue to have authority. That certainly doesn't mean l… | /r/RPChristians | 26/03/21 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spaceOne step ahead of you. | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/21 06:28 AM |
| 1 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spaceGood point. Consider it done. | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/21 06:21 AM |
| 6 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spaceOne of the goals of this announcement was to help build the community at r/RPCWomen by funneling more content toward them which would otherwise have been expressed here. By making this a male-only space, when women post things, it will be much easier for mods simply to reply: "Great question/interesting situation. This isn't the place for this, but we'd love to see it posted on r/RPCWomen." Before the rule-change, there was little room to force these comments over there. Perhaps it's the lawyer … | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/21 06:21 AM |
| 4 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spaceYes. At least, for now we have no plans on changing this. | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/21 06:14 AM |
| 2 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spaceI don't intend to take anything down that was up. It's not a retroactive thing. But I haven't run that by the other mods. Maybe they think differently. I'd be surprised, though. | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/21 05:03 PM |
| 11 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spaceSeriously? | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/21 12:13 AM |
| 6 | Dropping the Shield and Finding the TruthSolid post, brother. I've definitely times of feeling in the muck - even recently. But a wise man asks God to remove the scales from his eyes as he begins the new journey. A wise man knows the ego is there attempting to reflexively protect him from any discomfort or risk. The ego can act like a shield protecting you from what is in front of you, but like a shield it can obstruct your view as you hold it up This bit has been my prayer and lesson as of late. Great way to word it. | /r/RPChristians | 21/03/21 03:02 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/17/21)If the party signing receives no benefit, then just don't sign. There is no such thing as a unilateral contract. The notion of "imbalanced power" in the creation of a contract doesn't void a contract. What it does is creates a presumption that the contract should be interpreted in the manner most favorable toward the person who had no power in its creation. That's the proper remedy. I've never heard of a case where a contract was thrown out based on a "disparity of power." I think what you may b… | /r/RPChristians | 21/03/21 05:01 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/17/21)I'm familiar with the concept, but it's mostly an urban myth. No statutory or case law has adopted this. All it does is create a statement of belief in the moment. But no court will automatically assume that your belief in that moment was accurate. Many people claim they're under duress when they're not. So, what you're really doing is saying: "I reserve the right to claim I was under duress at the time of signing this document." But that statement is true even when you don't put VC, so the valu… | /r/RPChristians | 20/03/21 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Why Lifting is Not a SuggestionHaha, touche. | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/21 09:56 PM |
| 5 | Why Lifting is Not a SuggestionRight. I wouldn't even care except that people complain when life sucks, but can't handle it when they're told to do basic things that will usually make the largest impact. Everyone wants a magic button to let them maximize all their life goals while still being able to maintain all their vices (in this case: laziness or gluttony). Heck, I want that magic button too! But if it exists, the red pill doesn't have it. Until it's found, what we advise here is still the most efficient way to accomplis… | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/21 09:05 PM |
| 4 | Why Lifting is Not a SuggestionIt’s more important to be attractive than it is to be lifting. Are you suggesting guys aren't allowed to set their own goals? In general, I agree with you. But there is merit to both lifting and staying lean - preferably in balance. The reality is that power lifters tend to have too much fat on them and generic "just be attractive" guys aren't as attractive without the muscle as they think they are. | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/21 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Why Lifting is Not a SuggestionAre you suggesting credentials don't matter? A guy who's never lifted should be teaching on lifting? Someone who's never read the Bible should be okay to teach theology? Someone who's never prayed is somehow good to lead a community in prayer? 2 Timothy 2:2 - "And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others." People have to be reliable and qualified in their field to assume teaching positions. Hebrews 5:… | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/21 02:03 AM |
| – | My Current Status in this SceneGlad to see you back. With the number of bloops and mental masturbators who have flooded into this place since the COVID boom, it's good to see someone around who knows their stuff and at least has the capacity to add value to the conversations here - something I really need to get back to, as I've spent too much time on the discord and neglected this sub lately. I no longer run anything concerning these groups but I do have men in my life that I have my own independent group with ... I just enj… | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/21 06:03 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/10/21)FYI, you posted this as a general comment, not as a reply to anyone. Who was this addressing? | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/21 09:19 PM |
| 3 | I.O.A. -- The Illusion Of ActionMental masturbation fits in here too. Lots of guys think that reading about how to pick up women or studying game somehow is, in fact, action when it is not. Don't fall into that trap either. Learning something doesn't mean you know how to apply it. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/03/21 07:00 AM |
| 8 | Is it crazy that I actually want a kind of “controlling” husband and do the stereotypical “woman’s place” stuff?Plot twist: OP never identified as a woman ;) Now re-read the post, haha. | /r/RPChristians | 09/03/21 06:52 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 02, 2021As /u/brainmeatjuice alluded to, I started RPChristians as a way of bringing order to chaos, so to say. I saw people in TRP and MRP observing God's created world and coming to the same conclusions the Bible predicted they would - conclusions that others have ignored with a blanket default cop-out of "that was just past cultures," not realizing that women haven't changed throughout history. Only their strategies and methods for expressing their nature has. But just as secular "note-swapping" has … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/03/21 12:26 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone suffer from chronic pain due to lifting injuries?I've had a consistent lower back pain for years - especially bad since late-August. It sucks. Somedays it's hardcore (like yesterday) and others it's just a dull ache. I find that when I'm cutting and my weight is down, and I'm also continuing to lift, it hurts less. When during COVID my weight went back up and I wasn't lifting, it hurt more. I don't know all the details of what you're specifically dealing with, but my guess is that "no weights at all" is not a doctor's prescription, and that th… | /r/askRPC | 08/03/21 07:29 PM |
| 12 | NMMNG married sex pause vs 1 Cor 7:5I agree with /u/SkimTheDross - this isn't something you should have done openly. MMSLP also holds a much more valuable principle: never reject an initiation from your wife. Now, if your whole marriage is falling apart and sexual issues are behind it, then yeah, it might make sense to say: "Let's just stop trying to force it, take a break for a couple days [1 Cor. 7 says SHORT TIME, not 3 months] to pray about the situation, then try again." I'm not opposed to that. But you haven't told us nearly… | /r/askRPC | 03/03/21 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone run a "Red Pill" type course for men at their church?Amen on that. Love the analogy. To OP: join the discord and it'll be easier to engage back and forth about what you're trying to do. | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/21 05:55 PM |
| 2 | The problem of guiltThis is the way. Too many people get hung up on wanting to blame other people. Blame is a waste of time. Even if you're right about who to blame, it doesn't solve anything. Even worse: blame, when reasonably placed, makes you feel better about the situation. That feeling placates us so we accept our situation rather than working to improve it. | /r/RPChristians | 24/02/21 07:16 AM |
| – | Question for wivesFirst off: Why are you asking women? Watch what they do, not what they say, brother. Second: There's an r/RPCWomen sub for a reason. This type of question belongs there. | /r/RPChristians | 23/02/21 03:58 PM |
| 10 | What does it mean that Christ is the image of the invisible God and the firstborn of all creation in Colossians 1:15?I fail to see the relevance of this post to this sub. So, let me create one for you: if we are designed to reflect the image of God, then Jesus is the first man since Adam to show us what that looks like in human, tangible form. As such, he is the prototype of all we, as men, aspire to be. Be cautious going forward to remember what sub you're on and that you keep the content relevant. | /r/RPChristians | 21/02/21 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Why God Doesn't Love You.Because lots of people struggling through the issues I'm addressing will say to themselves, "Because God hasn't fixed this issue yet, He must not love me." | /r/RPChristians | 20/02/21 03:50 PM |
| 2 | What does it mean to be "fruitful?"Jesus started with uneducated nobodies. Paul spent his entire life training to be the exact opposite of what God was creating within the Church. Timothy was very young. No excuses. You're also thinking within the destinational fallacy of discipleship. It's not about arriving at a destination. It's about the direction you're going. If you're going the right direction, even if you've only just begun, you can invite others to follow you. | /r/askRPC | 18/02/21 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Can Christians pirate? Christians *should* pirateThis subject has nothing to do with the red pill. Way to be a sore sport about your post being removed. | /r/RPChristians | 18/02/21 08:11 AM |
| 1 | Can Christians pirate? Christians *should* piratePost removed. Surprise! This isn't the right forum for this type of question. A buddy of mine has a post on the r/TrueChristian sidebar about "Is this sin? Is that sin?" type posts. I agree with it. Go read it and realize why you wasted all that time worrying this post unless you have a good answer to u/TheInventor49's question. | /r/RPChristians | 18/02/21 07:34 AM |
| 2 | What does it mean to be "fruitful?"Review my comment history. I have addressed this exact question dozens of times quite thoroughly with references and analysis of the relevant passages. Hint: the answer is "make disciples." | /r/askRPC | 18/02/21 07:28 AM |
| 1 | Why God Doesn't Love You."There's something so attractive about a person whose confidence is in the Lord," That's so, so true ... if he also has pecs and abs. Contextually, I don't think John 12:32 (not 13:32) applies, but I get your point all the same. I'd just want to be cautious to avoid the "godliness is sexy" fallacy - or even the concept that a man can "confidence" his way into respect and authority without other supporting traits. I know countless men who have an alpha DNGAF degree of laser-focus on Kingdom-build… | /r/RPChristians | 17/02/21 05:57 PM |
| 4 | Why God Doesn't Love You.Glad to hear it, brother. You were one of four people I had in mind while writing this. | /r/RPChristians | 17/02/21 05:35 AM |
| 0 | Backwards sexual dynamic?Spiritual reproduction = causing people to be "born again," as Jesus puts it, and then raising up your spiritual children. More commonly: evangelism and discipleship. Post is up: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/lld7is/why_god_doesnt_love_you/ | /r/RPChristians | 16/02/21 08:48 PM |
| 5 | Backwards sexual dynamic?Just a thought here: Is it possible that what you're experiencing with your husband is the same thing that Christ experiences with you? You've got a strong desire for physically reproductive acts. Are you engaging in spiritually reproduction with Christ? I'm about to write a post to flesh out in greater detail why God doesn't solve the problems of well-intentioned people. Keep an eye out. | /r/RPChristians | 16/02/21 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Backwards sexual dynamic?Unlocked. | /r/RPChristians | 16/02/21 07:06 PM |
| – | Would you wear a mask in church?This is way too off-topic. Removed. | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/21 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Christian Marriage is not a good sub for young men looking for directionYou can mention it and even outright complain about it. Just make sure you do it in a way that adds value to the people of this sub. Whining just to whine isn't value-add. | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/21 04:36 AM |
| – | Christian Marriage is not a good sub for young men looking for directionI just removed this post and you're going to re-post it? If it doesn't add value to our community, it doesn't belong here. Just because you're butthurt about what a mod on another sub did doesn't mean this is the place to whine about it. | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/21 04:28 AM |
| – | Christian marriage sub is banning those who don’t want their wives to hang out with the opposite sexYeah, some subs suck. This isn't the place to complain about them unless you have an analysis that actually adds value to this community. Removed. | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/21 03:46 AM |
| 6 | Husbands and Hindered PrayersI often note that the way we relate with our spouse is a physical representation meant to point us toward understanding the spiritual relationship we're meant to have with Christ. Is it any surprise, then, that I can predict with great accuracy what a man's weaknesses in his walk with God are by the way his wife treats him? Women follow their husband's example. If you show no respect to God, she will show no respect to you. If she's nagging and pestering you to do things for her, it's probably t… | /r/RPChristians | 10/02/21 05:58 AM |
| 0 | Is there a subreddit to post Christian Discord Servers?You mean is there a subreddit that will let you advertise your server for free to all of their user base so you don't have to put in the work to build it yourself? Good luck. | /r/RPChristians | 07/02/21 05:35 PM |
| 3 | How I Overcame Porn PermanentlyDid Jesus call his disciples to follow him, or did he wait for them to ask to follow him? Always look to what Jesus did for your model for discipler-making. | /r/RPChristians | 03/02/21 05:42 AM |
| 6 | How I Overcame Porn PermanentlyI'm going to go with no. In a very, very broad sense, if something is put in front of me, there's still a choice to get rid of it, which is a conscious decision. But I do not sit at my computer at night, for example, and feel like I have to make a conscious choice to avoid putting on porn. The thought doesn't even cross my mind anymore. | /r/RPChristians | 02/02/21 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Merry Christmas - I've put together my "Tricks of the Trade for a Fun Frame" list as your present - good ideas for fun during the holidaysNice. I've done some variation of all the of these also. Good reminders. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/01/21 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Sectarian issues finding relationships?You'd be surprised by how many celebrities are beta and blue pill, despite having attractive qualities. The fact that you call it an "alpha facade" and say "no man can keep it up forever" tells me you have no idea what alpha really is. | /r/RPChristians | 26/01/21 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Children before marriageI was a virgin at the time I married my wife lawfully before the state and God. My position changed after I married based on a study of scripture. There are several posts early in this subs history addressing the issue thoroughly, but I don't have time to hash it out again. I'd encourage you to do some digging. | /r/RPChristians | 26/01/21 01:47 AM |
| 2 | Children before marriageI think my comment went way over your head. Suffice it to say you're too worked up about this issue and your statements are inconsistent. Take a time out. | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 06:22 PM |
| 5 | Sectarian issues finding relationships?You're making no sense. Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers OP was asking about dating from other denominations of believers, not unbelievers. | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Wife took out loan aginst my willAnother one of your big weaknesses is making compromises. | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 05:20 PM |
| 7 | Sectarian issues finding relationships?First, if you're still in "I gotta find a wife" mode, your thinking is off. Read my "finding the girl you can't keep yourself from banging" posts on the sidebar. Second, sectarianism within the Church is stupid and unbiblical. Third, women will adapt to your frame if you're an attractive, competent leader. Who cares whether they think differently from you before they're in your frame? | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Book Notes: When To Walk Away, by Gary ThomasGood to know. I'll pass on the referral to my in-laws. Is it biblically based or secular? | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 03:19 PM |
| 1 | LJBF ContinuedPart of me wants to ... Everything from this point on shows just how far in her frame you are. All those "reading more and more RP content" hasn't gotten you very far yet. Get back to it, brother. Also, what could be some reasons that she is texting me? I'm going to go with: an alien crash landed in her back yard and asked for you by name, but told her not to tell you about it. Seriously, it could be anything. Why bother wasting a single thought on this? | /r/askRPC | 25/01/21 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Children before marriageYou're very confused and wasting tons of time defending a stupid position. Here's the bottom line: To God, Marriage = Covenant + Sex. This has been well established through numerous posts throughout this sub's history. I encourage you to scour back to our early days to find them. When people marry before a governmental entity, the government requires a covenant. By definition, lawful marriage in virtually every known government and religion requires an exchange of vows (or, in secular terms: agr… | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 05:35 AM |
| 7 | Children before marriageThis is the way. I have spoken. | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Book Notes: When To Walk Away, by Gary ThomasIt seems to me that Jesus specifically cites "wife" instead of "spouse." Right. It's probably worth noting that Jesus didn't say "divorce" in this passage, although he's used the word elsewhere. In fact, I imagine he's specifically not talking about divorce, given that Peter - who did not divorce his wife to follow Jesus - is the one who said, "We have left all we had to follow you!" as the statement to which Jesus is replying. He's giving Peter an assurance: "Yes, you have. And I have noticed a… | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Book Notes: When To Walk Away, by Gary ThomasThe book addresses this. But like you, I didn't find much value in a bunch of quotes identifying what qualifies a toxic, so I left most of that out. | /r/RPChristians | 24/01/21 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better.Interesting. Got a link? | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/21 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better.Read the sidebar. The discord link is there. Also, what type of fiction do you write? I write fiction (and non-fiction) as well - a fun hobby, though I've never really pursued being published. | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better.I'll give you credit that looks are not everything. As I occasionally say: looks decide the difficulty of the mode you're playing on. But why play on hard-mode when you don't have to? Just because you're too lazy to hit the gym every now and then? That kind of attitude actually shows that you're weaker in the other areas than you think you are. If you can't show drive and commitment to take care of your body, which is easy, why should any woman - especially a high-value attractive one - assume y… | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/21 09:13 PM |
| – | NoFap Accountability Telegram GroupRule 4. | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/21 07:09 AM |
| 8 | How to vet for virgin woman quickly without wasting time?Some good advice on this thread, but this hasn't been hit on yet. I could ask a girl on a first date: "So, are you a virgin or are you slutty trash?" and have her begging to come home with me later that night, regardless of the actual answer. The reason? I have the frame for it. You don't. You attempt that and people will think you're "a judgmental repulsive woman hating jerk for even asking." Put an attractive guy with a strong frame and high social charisma in front of her and she gets a compl… | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 06:06 PM |
| 3 | How to vet for virgin woman quickly without wasting time?Look at the number of down-votes you've gotten on this comment and let that mean something to you. | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 05:57 PM |
| 2 | How to vet for virgin woman quickly without wasting time?Eh ... the ORM calculators have been fairly inaccurate for me. They calculate my actual ORM much, much higher than it actually is. For example, I remember using it at one point when I could do 285x5, but capped out at 305 1x. It suggested I could do 320. I did eventually work up to a 315 ORM, but certainly not when I ran the calculator. Of course, maybe I've just trained my physique and psychology to push higher reps at close-to-max weights than a normal person. That was when I only did max-weig… | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 05:56 PM |
| 2 | How to vet for virgin woman quickly without wasting time?My thoughts exactly. | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Great Resources about Marriage, Divorce, and SinglenessRight. I removed the post for these and other reasons. | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Great Resources about Marriage, Divorce, and SinglenessI'm removing this. Generally, rules 4 and 8 (just noticed 8 only references videos - it should be all outside content) don't prohibit this type of post without a clear, detailed analysis of the content on the website and why it's valuable or what you found valuable out of it. For anyone else who wanders back here, this stuff is as blue pill as they come. I took his quizzes: The "affair-proof" quiz asks only about how much room there is for temptation. It doesn't even ask about actual temptation.… | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Why is the single parent rate rising in the US??Bear in mind that "single parent household" in stats includes divorced couples with co-parenting arrangements. The stereotypical "single parent" is the mom whose boyfriend ran out on her and wants nothing to do with the kid. The far more common reality is that dad is fighting for equal rights with the kids and mom is doing everything she can to keep him out of the picture, then she goes around complaining how she's a single mom and the kid's dad is a deadbeat and she needs the world to sympathiz… | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/21 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Getting your wife back after a separationDeciding to divorce is impulsive. This is a joke, right? Very rarely do I find my clients taking divorce lightly or impulsively. This sounds like you're just making things up out of your butt to justify your position. I do agree that there are some who file just as a threat. And maybe a couple of my 11+ were still living together. But the vast majority of my clients are already separated at the time of coming to me - sometimes in an apartment, other times with family. | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/21 08:07 AM |
| 3 | Getting your wife back after a separationExplain that difference. | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/21 01:09 AM |
| 4 | Getting your wife back after a separationA better idea is to seek the Lord, and get His thoughts and ways on how to proceed. This is where I think his confusion is. I think he mistakenly believes that because God hates divorce, prioritizing the reconciliation of his marriage IS prioritizing God's will in his life. Maybe I'm giving him too much credit here, because that argument (however wrong it is at its core) at least has the appearance of cogency, and therefore I can empathize with OP being misguided in this direction. But if he can… | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 4 | Getting your wife back after a separationI might do that. Since RP, I've had at least 11 couples I've counseled reconcile after coming to my office to file for divorce - and that's out of 13 who attempted it (note: I'm not counting those with whom I had no guidance/influence who just retained me for a time). Pretty good rates there. A heck of a lot better than marriage counseling rates, anyway. The best summary advice I can give in a situation like this is what /u/bluepillprofessor has noted: "When a woman wants a divorce, the best thi… | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Getting your wife back after a separationEh, I've said my peace. If you want to keep DEERing your way out of learning today, maybe you'll get it tomorrow. | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 07:14 PM |
| 5 | Getting your wife back after a separationyou probably can't understand that a different strategy is needed in comparison to not being separated It's still going past your head. Strategy for what? If I'm separated from my wife my strategy at winning a game of Risk with my friends will not change. The problem here is that you're supposed to be playing the "Go therefore and make disciples" game, but instead you're playing the "gotta get back with my wife" game. You're in the wrong game in the first place, and that's the problem I was tryi… | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Marriage is a disaster and I'm not sure where to go...Gotcha. I'd avoid using those terms interchangeably. Words have to keep their appropriate meaning or else we end up in the same craziness liberals create when they start redefining words. ;) From what I can tell, the most accurate statement would be: "I don't know if he's red pilled or not - probably not. But he does come off as alpha." Alpha and red pill aren't the same. | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Getting your wife back after a separationAmen. | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Marriage is a disaster and I'm not sure where to go...The biggest problem you have is your mission is STILL based around your wife. You said you don't need a woman for that, but it's still based on healing which has her at the center. Bingo. Nuff said. When he gets past this point, I'll weigh in. | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 07:41 AM |
| 3 | Marriage is a disaster and I'm not sure where to go...I'm 90% sure he isn't blue pilled Is he fluent with concepts of fitness tests, hypergamy, etc.? Or are you using "red pill" and "blue pill" interchangeably with other concepts such as "alpha/beta" or "liberal/conservative"? | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 07:40 AM |
| 23 | Getting your wife back after a separationI was very red pill (unknowingly) when we were dating, but then thought that I needed to be blue pill as a married man I'll assume this is poor terminology. I expect what you mean is that you had alpha qualities while dating, but became beta in marriage. There is no going back once you're red pilled. You cannot unlearn the truth once you know it. However, my wife didn’t know how to process these changes and wasn’t getting the comfort that she needed from me. Ah, so your initial run at the red pi… | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 07:37 AM |
| – | Getting your wife back after a separationMOD NOTE: This post does NOT represent the position of this sub. I'll write up a reply separately, but at least wanted to sticky this much. My actual analysis is, of course, subject to peer review. | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 07:37 AM |
| 3 | SERIOUSLY considering leaving Christianity help! [Short]"The Sermon on The Mount" in which there are five times Jesus takes a teaching of the law and then amplifies it Except that he doesn't. He's just referencing concepts that already existed in the OT. He was emphasizing that the pharisees were picking and choosing from OT law what to follow and not, and that there were many concepts easy to ignore, yet when broken make you equally a law breaker. As for the rest of the post, others have addressed the main points well enough. I'm more curious at the… | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/21 06:52 AM |
| 2 | Has anybody read rollo’s book on red pill and religion?Would you suggest it to someone whose faith has been a little shaky lately? I would not. From the way he talked in precursors announcing the book, his views probably aren't all that different from my own, but he definitely takes it from the perspective of a secular red pill man looking at religion - not as someone from within evaluating our own. As a result, there's bound to be lots of condemnation. The book is high on my priority list to get through soon. | /r/RPChristians | 11/01/21 08:24 AM |
| – | Women are snakesI agree with the others. I normally enjoy our conversations on discord, but this particular post doesn't resonate with me and seems more likely to produce weeds than fruit. Even if you're right about much of this (I don't know enough about snakes to confirm), it's not something that most people will be able to learn from. | /r/RPChristians | 11/01/21 08:22 AM |
| 4 | FR: DiscipleHaus, My Vision and My MissionI ironically just posted this video in the discord. The context is Andrew whining about "What if we fail Jesus? We don't know what we're doing." Peter answers: We'll probably both do it wrong. It's like fishing. Remember what Dad taught us? Andrew: Dad didn't teach us anything. We just sat there. Peter: And watched. And then it was our turn and we made our own mistakes. So, challenge point: was /u/redirectedfs showing this guy first: "Hey, watch me do it, then I'm going to ask you to do it"? Or … | /r/RPChristians | 11/01/21 06:20 AM |
| 3 | Lactation and intimacyIf she's not producing enough, you're certainly welcome to try, but I don't think you'll get any out, so I'm not sure how much it will actually help to supplement what she's lacking. | /r/RPChristians | 04/01/21 06:17 AM |
| 3 | Idolatry, The Marriage of the StateI agree with /u/husky-viper in that I like where your head is at, but you're trying so hard to write like you're a KJV translator or philosopher that it's hard to find anything actionable in this. I can get pretty academic at times myself, so in posts where I find myself doing this, I add a "Conclusions" or "Application" section that gives the bottom-line reason the post should matter - and that, then gives the interpretive metric to go back and understand the beauty and depth in everything else… | /r/RPChristians | 31/12/20 06:31 PM |
| 3 | Is the podcast in podcast form?u/redirectedfs also mentioned recently that he may put things up on Apple music. | /r/askRPC | 29/12/20 11:34 PM |
| 2 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?I was an avid disciple-maker at the time we met. But even though this expression of maturity was present, I believe she was ignorant of biblical criteria for maturity and she likely assessed my maturity on more superficial things that can be faked to give an appearance of maturity, like the fact that I was the worship leader in our organization, on the leadership team, she said I was the first person she'd ever met who knew the Bible better than her, and I was extremely well respected by other b… | /r/askRPC | 26/12/20 06:18 PM |
| 1 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?Is that a dig or a legit question? | /r/askRPC | 26/12/20 06:02 PM |
| 1 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?Solid. I don't think this guy actually wants to engage, though. He's just looking for a platform to share his thoughts and self-validate be deluding himself into thinking he's "winning" some debate. | /r/askRPC | 26/12/20 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Merry Christmas - I've put together my "Tricks of the Trade for a Fun Frame" list as your present - good ideas for fun during the holidaysWho rinses beer cans? And why is this thing I've never heard of even worth getting upset over in the first place? Funny. Agreed though. Tamales are great. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/12/20 03:28 AM |
| 3 | Merry Christmas - I've put together my "Tricks of the Trade for a Fun Frame" list as your present - good ideas for fun during the holidaysMy guess is you stopped because after the wedding you gradually became unattractive and instead of tickling being a fun way to tease her, it was unwanted touching. Same behaviors will always be interpreted differently when done by an attractive man and an unattractive man. At least, that's part of why I remember pulling away from it :p | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/12/20 08:31 PM |
| 1 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?If she married you purely because of your personality Nah, she married me because she was told by the church all her life: "Find the most spiritually mature man you can and marry him." She commented at one point that she regretted it and found it to be horrible advice. She's fortunate that "spiritual maturity," if it continues in biblicality, should inevitabl lead to RP-ness and thus development of attraction, eventually. At least that's how my story went. they aren't exclusive to lifting Sure, … | /r/askRPC | 25/12/20 06:51 PM |
| 2 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?I was told by a professional that vaginismus is psychosomatic. Solve the psychological factors and it goes away. When she desires sex, the anxiety about it greatly diminishes, and when that desire is consistent over several months, the anxiety completely withers away altogether. Vaginismus cured. Apparently doctors who treat it are trying to figure out the physical condition, hence all the unknowns. Many therapists/counselors who run across it never conquer the blue pill framework that precludes… | /r/askRPC | 25/12/20 07:14 AM |
| 2 | How to prevent or assess sexual incompatibility in a potential wife?Considering that they agree to marry, they are most likely attracted to each other I wouldn't make that assumption. My wife commented years after we were married: "I was never attracted to you. Not even when we were in dating, or newlyweds, or when you were in great physical shape." doctrine that you need to get into bodybuilding to build a fancy body that is sexually desirable That's not right either. TRP emphasizes lifting because it makes PUA easier. But that's ultimately a cessation to a wom… | /r/askRPC | 25/12/20 05:20 AM |
| 7 | 3 Year RP Field ReportWithout taking a firm stance, how would you reconcile that view with 1 Timothy 3:4-5 - "for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?"? | /r/RPChristians | 25/12/20 04:52 AM |
| – | Day 2- working from homeThis post isn't substantive for the main sub. This looks like it should be one part of an OYS comment. Also, your method for dealing with temptation is purely human effort. Galatians 3:3 - "Are you so foolish? Having begun by the Spirit, are you now being perfected by the flesh?" Or in the NIV: "human effort." You didn't list spiritual reproduction as one of your strategies for conquering PMO, so you're doomed to fail. Good luck. In the meantime, if you want to share this, do it in a broader OYS… | /r/RPChristians | 24/12/20 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a matchAt finding a wife, agreed. But by skipping online connections, he's losing out on a lot of silver-plate improvements that can be made to his social game along the way. Sure, "the hard way" will usually net the better result, but why ignore the easy gains to focus exclusively on the hard way? | /r/RPChristians | 21/12/20 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Redpilled Christian marriage and pregnancy-bodiesno one has been able to give you an answer to your legitimate question about how to maintain sexualized attraction to your pregnant wife Because you can't negotiate attraction. You can't will it into existence. We are biologically wired in ways that are beyond our power. As /u/OsmiumZulu occasionally says, if Rosie O'Donnell were your wife, there's nothing she could do to make you spontaneously horny for her. She might be able to get you worked up into it with serious effort, but no matter how g… | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/20 12:42 AM |
| 5 | RP Christians and the Black PillThe black pill is no better than liberal trash because it pretends that men and women are exactly the same. Men almost exclusively assess a woman's sex appeal by looks, and it mistakenly assumes women are identical to men by also almost exclusively assessing male sex appeal by looks. Men and women are not the same. The sooner you learn that the sooner you can overcome not only idiotic liberal notions, but idiotic black pill notions also. Even if I find a beautiful Christian woman, would she not … | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/20 12:21 AM |
| 31 | Redpilled Christian marriage and pregnancy-bodies"Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting," brother. From what it sounds like, your problem isn't keeping your dick wet - it's getting it hard at all. You want to get hard? Abandon your faith to watch porn and hook up with randos ... if that's your priority. But if your priority is your commitment to God and raising a united household for the large family that YOU want to have, you're just going to have to deal with it. I'd think with 6+ years in the red pill, you'd have learned stoicism by now… | /r/RPChristians | 18/12/20 11:33 PM |
| 3 | What is Dominance?Not bad. Another perspective to frame this is that women momentarily enjoy external behavior, but long-term thrive on what's internal to their man. That's why fitness tests exist, right? She wants to know if you're an outwardly showy phony or the real deal. In this, a guy isn't actually dominant in the relationship until he shifts from "faking it" to actually "making it." Internalization. But there are still "dominance moves" that don't make much sense to me - as if dominance doesn't exist until… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/12/20 09:37 PM |
| 1 | How long did you wait till the next pregnancy?At one point my wife and I had kids who were 0, 2, 3, and 5 years old - 4 kids who were 5 and under. I wanted kids close together (1) so they could play with each other and (2) because one of my life goals was to have all my kids turn 18 by the time I'm 50, facilitating early retirement at that point. Yes, there are aspects where this is more difficult, but I am extremely glad we did it this way. | /r/askRPC | 18/12/20 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Do not be unequally yoked, part two: electric boogaloo.Dang, bro. My heart goes out to you for that one. I've been robbed before too, but nowhere near as elaborately. | /r/RPChristians | 18/12/20 08:58 PM |
| 4 | Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a matchis it possible to have someone else successfully do preliminary vetting for us? Ish, sure. Nobody here denies that there are benefits to online dating services. But for all the benefits, you'll never overcome the primary flaw: the people who use them are mainly people who need to. Put more clearly: higher quality people who have no problem finding matches without the help of online dating won't be found in online dating. There are some exceptions, of course. But they're rare. I spent a chunk of … | /r/RPChristians | 18/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 1 | What do you want to see covered on the Red Pill Christians podcast?Anecdotes about disciplining Did you actually mean disciplining or really mean discipling? | /r/RPChristians | 18/12/20 08:45 PM |
| 7 | Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a matchIt's super blue pill to expect someone else to go find you a woman. Like most of the arranged marriages in the OT times? Genesis 24 comes to mind. I don't think the distinction you're making is a red/blue one. I think the laziness in the online approach is the blue pill problem. And even that can be red pilled if you're using the online marketplace not as a substitute for in-person approach (or even your primary approach), but as a low-cost, high-opportunity resource at your fingertips for expan… | /r/RPChristians | 18/12/20 08:36 PM |
| 2 | My Kingdom ComeI like this. First thought that comes to mind (and this will be more a monologue of thoughts inspired by your post - maybe not directly related): I can't remember the last time I prayed for some of these thigs. Most of my prayer time is just talking about life with God, and if I ask for help, it's in an OYS capacity - "I'm struggling with this. Mind helping me out?" When I make targeted requests, it's usually big stuff - things that seem impossible for me to do with the empowerment he's already … | /r/RPChristians | 18/12/20 08:29 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/16/20)OYS - 12/16/20 PHYSICAL: This is my "feasting" time of year. I'm doing a better job controlling the food intake than I have in past years, but definitely feel the tension between all the celebrations (not just holidays, numerous birthdays as well) and fitness goals. Still hitting the gym, but I remember after a single bowl of chili feeling like I was going to vomit with every deadlift. Lifting is on track, though. I lowered my weights to go for higher reps, so currently doing 225 bench, 300 dl, … | /r/RPChristians | 17/12/20 06:09 AM |
| 1 | The ChurchJesus sang a psalm Cool, in that same meal he also called Peter "you Satan" in rebuke. So let's make sure we incorporate into every single weekly meeting harsh rebukes against those who aren't submitting to Jesus properly. Ephesians 5:19, Colossians 3:16, James 3:5 Right. Nobody is saying "don't sing songs!" But are you really telling me Paul intended these passages to be a how-to manual for weekly meetings? More specifically: James' example references singing as a personal expression of cheer, … | /r/RPChristians | 16/12/20 10:35 PM |
| 2 | How do you interpret 1 Peter 3:7?Given that someone else just asked a parallel question today on the discord, I'll just paste my answer there over here also: QUESTION @Married I've been taking a look at 1 Peter 3:7. What has it looked like for you to apply "show honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life" in a practical sense? What specific actions have you done which "honor" your wife? Even though I do not have a wife, I can see how having this understanding will free you up sin… | /r/askRPC | 16/12/20 07:38 AM |
| 3 | (M22) Interested in a Muslim girl - Advice?This is a ridiculous conversation. | /r/RPChristians | 16/12/20 01:06 AM |
| 1 | The Church2/2 Jesus Himself went to the synagogue meetings regularly, and those were more formal gatherings Yep - he invaded groups of non-believers to teach them the truth. This is just like my discipler, when he was a missionary in Thailand, attending buddhist temple services for the purpose of sharing Christ with the people there. If you want to go attend Jewish synagogue services to preach the Gospel from their pulpit, and you can get away with it - by all means, do it! I'm not saying any of this to d… | /r/RPChristians | 15/12/20 09:45 PM |
| 1 | The Church1/2 I do think a lot of what the traditional church does on a Sunday morning is defensible Scripturally Right. Nazis, racism, pro-slavery, LGBT, pro-choice ... are all also "defensible Scripturally." I can find verses to back up any cultural notions I get in my head, if I want. I often teach that there's a difference between: Scripturally Contradicted: the Bible directly says it's false. Example: "Jesus didn't rise from the dead." Direct contradiction. Scripturally Clueless: the Bible just doesn… | /r/RPChristians | 15/12/20 09:44 PM |
| – | Where should I get started with sidebar readings?Yet another question that really should have been on r/askRPC. Thread locked. I'm going to keep locking/removing these until people get it. Just leaving a few up so others can see that these low-quality questions don't belong on the main sub. We started r/askRPC for a reason. | /r/RPChristians | 15/12/20 06:45 AM |
| – | Book recommendations for my single brotherThis really belongs on r/askRPC. It's already gotten a good number of replies and attention, so I'll let it stay up, but bear in mind that we have the other sub for a reason. Yeah, there are fewer total subscribers - but the active users here are over there also, so you're still getting the same quality of replies - you just bypass all the lurkers and bloops who concern troll around here. | /r/RPChristians | 15/12/20 06:43 AM |
| – | surrendering prideI'm locking this for a few reasons. First, I'm not sure how it connects to the purpose of our sub. There are lots of other forums to comment on general concepts of Christianity. This particular forum is meant to be more targeted to issues affecting relationships, sexuality, masculinity, and mission. Yes, "pride" as a general concept can tangentially relate to these categories, but you made zero effort to connect them, so I'm not sure why this post belongs here as opposed to somewhere else. Feel … | /r/RPChristians | 15/12/20 06:40 AM |
| 9 | The ChurchThe Church is not a lost cause. The local congregational structure is. There are many "congregations" that are popping up nowadays, abandoning the traditional structure for something more biblical - and they're finding FAR more converts than the norm. Bryan Sanders' book Underground Church is an example of this, though it's far from perfect. If you want to build something biblical, and you agree that Jesus is the head of the Church, then you agree we should follow Jesus' model, not the historica… | /r/RPChristians | 15/12/20 06:30 AM |
| – | Reviving the Lost Pursuit of Christian ManlinessI haven't yet seen anything of unique value on that sub which isn't already addressed here. Significantly raise the quality bar and maybe we'll let you refer there in the future. | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/20 03:50 PM |
| 1 | 23 year old woman desperately looking for help.I could still see room for lots of holes. I'm leaning more and more to the point of saying: that's an individual conviction you have to reach before God. At the end of the day, it's not my place to judge what Scripture doesn't set forth. I'm okay with that conclusion. | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/20 06:57 AM |
| 3 | 23 year old woman desperately looking for help.I'm not in a position to suss out the exact line right now - or even confident that an exact line is possible to create, though I'd wager the bar is lower in God's eyes than we'd prefer to make it. But when OP says this: We made an oath between ourselves, with God, saying we would be together forever (and all the other pretty things) I'd be pretty confident that's above the bar. | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/20 04:31 PM |
| 12 | 23 year old woman desperately looking for help.I don't share my faith, as no one cares Practice the art of invoking curiosity. It's the best skill you'll ever learn. Our obligation is to make disciples. If people don't seem interested, with all that meditating you do, meditate on how to make them interested. has no job (like most men currently) ... Everyone under 28 yo is in the same boat. Stop making excuses for him. Lots of people in that age-range have jobs and are continuing to find them. knows just about everything Except how to get a j… | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/20 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Calling BS on Red Pill gurusI'm more curious: why was this posted here? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/12/20 02:59 AM |
| 3 | A Word to New Userseveryone sticks to the main sub, even for basic questions It's probably worth mentioning that RPC proper has lots of passive lurkers. I think some people are deterred form r/askRPC because it has a smaller subscriber base, therefore they don't think they'll get the full gamut of answers. The reality is that anyone worth listening to is among the subscriber base there (among others who aren't worth hearing out too, of course). So, I continue to encourage people to use askRPC rather than RPC prope… | /r/RPChristians | 05/12/20 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Prayers Unchained InitiativeI'm not sure how this has anything to do with our sub. | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/20 09:32 PM |
| – | This is a good and easy way to share the Gospel! It’s basically Ray Comfort in your pocket!No link posts. | /r/RPChristians | 30/11/20 08:10 AM |
| 2 | Podcast Debut Today on The Red Pill YouTube channel: Christianity vs. ChurchianityI initially misread this as basura. | /r/RPChristians | 19/11/20 12:38 AM |
| 2 | Don't Be AutisticPick one or two concepts a week and apply them before moving on. Also, keep an outline of things you want to practice so you don't forget. Add to it when you learn something new. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/11/20 09:44 PM |
| 1 | The Basics of Female FrameYou're about to be banned for trolling. I've told you what to do if you have a legitimate question. | /r/RPChristians | 13/11/20 09:02 PM |
| 3 | The Basics of Female FrameNot ask questions completely unrelated to the topic of the thread. Start your own post and give details. | /r/RPChristians | 13/11/20 08:05 PM |
| 3 | What to do about GF?What's your actual question? I actually have one for you. My brother is dating a girl who isn't a Christian. She doesn't have the qualities he wants in a wife. She's materialistic and vain. He wants someone who will prioritize family over career and she isn't all that interested. They sound like a horrible match, but he does seem to have some degree of emotions for her. I can't figure out what he should do. Do you have any advice for him? | /r/askRPC | 13/11/20 05:03 AM |
| 13 | HillSong Pastor Carl Lentz' LoverIn retrospect, Ranin said their relationship was likely a product of the pandemic — “He hadn’t been doing anything for so many months, he hadn’t been onstage, what else was going on in his life? You say "spreading the gospel wasn't enough." The problem is: he wasn't even doing that. He was preaching sermons. Mostly preaching to the choir. That's not spreading the Gospel. And certainly none of this rings anywhere near making disciples, even if the Gospel was preached and a few non-believers were … | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/20 07:01 PM |
| 3 | The Basics of Female FrameThe law doesn't prohibit people from being alcoholics. We do not owe a duty to the government to avoid alcohol. Does that mean I'm advising people, "Therefore, go get drunk as often as possible and become alcoholics because the law doesn't prohibit it"? That's a somewhat ridiculous interpretation of the facts. But as /u/husky-viper already noted: I did address the issue in the post itself. Just gotta keep your eyes open ;) | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/20 05:37 PM |
| 2 | The Basics of Female FrameI like this as a starting point, though it needs to be re-organized. I'll work something out - but I appreciate adding to the thought-pot. | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/20 05:34 PM |
| 4 | The Basics of Female FrameI actually started to type that out and realized it was 3:30am and the post was already really long. So, I deleted what I started and figured I'd save that for a subsequent post. If this one was "Basics of Frame" the next post will be something akin to "Building Frame" and should address those issues. | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/20 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersThis is by far your biggest issue Glad somebody said it. | /r/RPChristians | 29/10/20 03:33 AM |
| 2 | “Alphas” at gym, “betas” at lifeMaybe you're at a "cheap" gym and all the successful older people are at "expensive" gyms. This. I was at one of the expensive gyms. I ABSOLUTELY knew people 45+ who were jacked and successful. Their college-age kids worked out with them. I also think /u/ScholarLad is possibly confusing "successful-looking" people with "successful" people. If you assume successful people aren't jacked except in proven cases, like Arnold, then when you see jacked people you assume they're not successful, then you… | /r/RPChristians | 25/10/20 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Look at what they do, not what they sayThat would be cause for distrust. | /r/RPChristians | 25/10/20 06:56 AM |
| – | Getting back into lifting.This is for /r/askRPC. | /r/RPChristians | 25/10/20 01:58 AM |
| 2 | Look at what they do, not what they sayBut doesn't that make them liars by default? No. If my actions and words are not congruent, wouldn't that make me a liar and untrustable? Most people believe what they're saying and, therefore, are by definition "not lying." The problem is that they don't realize the incongruencies between their words and actions. That is, they are mistaken about their own motives, behaviors, impulses, etc. People subconsciously disillusion themselves all the time in order to cope with the incongruity between th… | /r/RPChristians | 24/10/20 06:19 AM |
| – | The impact of being Christian while dating.This is a post for r/askRPC. The main sub is for more substantive posts. | /r/RPChristians | 24/10/20 06:10 AM |
| 10 | How much do you share here on this subreddit regarding your personal beliefs about women?How much do you care about the reputation of this subreddit from the vantage point of other Christian communities here on reddit? We've had lots of people hate on us. r/Christianmarriage, for example, will ban anyone on sight who has any affiliation with our sub. Oh well. At the end of the day, we have to ask: Is our primary ministry to save the lost or fix the saved? We attempt both, but Jesus focused very little attention on the religious haters. They may be saved, but if they want to have inc… | /r/RPChristians | 24/10/20 06:08 AM |
| 3 | Simple Question, How Do I Know If I am Truly Red Pilled?Looks like someone read my Are you Truly Red Pilled? post. I endorse this. "The Red Pill" is ultimately "truth," as Rollo puts it. I'd narrow it to "truth about intergender sexual dynamics." 2+2=4 is truth, but not a "red pill truth." In theory, one is "red pilled" if they know the truth. But many people live in a cognitive dissonance between what they know to be true and what they're actually willing to do, then act completely baffled when they're not getting the life they want. The reason is t… | /r/RPChristians | 23/10/20 07:40 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/14/20)You've got deeper issues to address than this conversation warrants. You need a discipler and as helpful as OYS can be, it's nowhere near the same. From there I'll just say: Even Jesus preached fire and brimstone. Perfectly valid way to share the gospel in some circumstances. Get in the word more. Start memorizing scripture. Start with the book of philippians. | /r/RPChristians | 19/10/20 07:17 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/14/20)I mainly resent God because of him sending people to hell Have you ever stepped on a spider? You don't think much of it because you're such a higher life form with such a higher degree of intelligence that the spider's pitiful expression of sentience is so heavily inferior that it hardly even registers in your brain that his feelings, physical pain, terror, etc. might factor into the decision to chase him down and kill him. All you care about is that the spider is interfering with your plans and… | /r/RPChristians | 18/10/20 08:29 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/14/20)I resent God for a number of reasons and can't get over it in prayer or reading the bible. As a former pastor once commented to me: "It's not submission until you disagree." Many biblical figures have questioned and even directly opposed God's perspective on things. Yet they still obeyed, and that's what mattered. Consider the wife in 1 Peter 3, who is told that she ought to submit to her husband - even if he is an unbeliever - and that her gentleness and internal character and submissiveness ar… | /r/RPChristians | 18/10/20 05:03 AM |
| 8 | Loving my wife like Christ loves the ChurchStats: 30 years old, 6’0”, 185, bench 100, squat 100 As /u/OsmiumZulu noted, this is where you've got to start, brother. If you're so fixated on making your wife happy all the time, don't you think she'd be happier with a more attractive/in-shape husband? Yes, I'm picking on this one peripheral issue that you think isn't the point of your post because it shows the problem with your post: you're only focusing on the areas that are culturally acceptable to discuss openly. Consider ... That means i… | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/20 07:44 AM |
| 7 | Loving my wife like Christ loves the Churchwhen I hear things like this... OP is not a mod or endorsed contributor. He doesn't speak for the sub. What you've expressed is more along the lines of what we hold to. If you find a mod or EC who has posted anything along the lines of what OP wrote, let me know and I'll personally deal with it. | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/20 07:11 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/14/20)I don't know what I want to do with my life. This is a clear sign that you're not being sanctified. Christ has a plan for you. If you become like Christ, his plan for you will become your own plan for yourself. That plan is to make disciples, which was Jesus' own plan for himself too. The more you are like Christ, the more this will become your plan also. I have my doubt's that making disciples would be wise for me considering I might not be saved or even be unforgivable. Fair enough. Figure you… | /r/RPChristians | 16/10/20 05:35 AM |
| 3 | Are you guys ok with premarital sex?marry them all. Gonna love that child support bill Unless you're legally separated, there's no basis at law for child support between married individuals. it IS fornication, and the man should be married to the woman immediately after ... And if he chooses to bring them into my life, then I’m going to have faith that he is allowing me to have them. Come on, dude. You know better than this. Everyone in Israel knew the law that if you deflowered a virgin, you were obligated to propose. Nobody has … | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/20 04:14 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/14/20)Still no progress here. It's hard to make time for reading when I'm not in a deerstand. Everyone makes time for the things they love or that are important to them. This isn't a "no time" issue. It's a "not as high a priority to me as other things" issue. MISSION: You danced around associated concepts, but never actually used the phrase "make disciples." Back to Scripture to figure out why God created you. PHYSICAL: 2 Sorry to hear about the injury. I have a recurring problem creeping up in my lo… | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/20 03:36 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/14/20)Holy cow, your mission is all over the place. That's the first thing to get on track: what do you actually want to do with your life? Despite listing something like a dozen different mini-missions (really: short-term goals), you never once mentioned making disciples, and the vague reference to the great commission seemed focused more on sharing the Gospel than discipleship. Here's the thing: the sidebar has an entire pathway to get you off your butt and where you need to be. Let me summarize it … | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/20 03:24 AM |
| 3 | Priestly ministry to menIt was actually around 2%, but still much better than virtually all other averages. I believe the study also ignored divorces that occurred prior to salvation. | /r/RPChristians | 12/10/20 07:05 PM |
| 2 | A letter my Fiance wrote me after I began implementing the red pill threating to leave?The theology of mutual submission is wrong. That's called egalitarianism and it's unbiblical. It's based on forced and obvious misreadings of Ephesians 5. I also don't agree with the whole "duty" concept of marriage. This is based on complementarianism, which sounds biblical to many because it appropriately teaches headship (man = leader; wife = follower), but it mixes in other roles that aren't found in the Bible, making it ultimately an extra-biblical view of marriage (possibly even unbiblical… | /r/askMRP | 06/10/20 10:18 PM |
| 28 | A letter my Fiance wrote me after I began implementing the red pill threating to leave?A Tyler engaged to a Taylor? Look at me gushing over the cuteness. Where is your frame, brother? This isn't "partially operating in her frame." Literally 95% of your post is you telling us what she said rather than what you're doing. You want us to write a reply that you can copy and paste to her or something? I suppose I can give it a shot: *Dear Taylor, Thanks for your letter. It was cute, and I understand what you're saying. I'm going to the gym with a couple guys tomorrow at 6, then have som… | /r/askMRP | 06/10/20 09:11 PM |
| 1 | What are Your Thoughts on Cold Approaches?My thoughts exactly. It's a skill worth developing for more reasons than merely picking up girls, though for some it can have that benefit too. | /r/RPChristians | 03/10/20 09:39 PM |
| – | why does it seem many former protestants convert to eastern orthodox rather than catholicism if both orthodoxy and catholicism are technically part of the same church from Jesus?You had it up for a while, but I'm removing this because the question really has very little to do with our sub. It's more for r/askRPC. | /r/RPChristians | 24/09/20 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Don't Be AutisticYou can learn probably more from in-person friends than on here Something I wish more guys on reddit could figure out. Part of the reason I'm not online as much these days. Too much crap in the real world to get done. Let the internet be a hobby, not the primary. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/09/20 05:20 AM |
| 7 | Don't Be AutisticIf there wasn't clear data showing that women prefer muscular men over runner/swimmer builds, I'd agree with you. But you have to remember that the red pill is still a praxeology of intergender sexual dynamics. So, what attracts women inherently has to be part of that dynamic. | /r/RPChristians | 24/09/20 05:15 AM |
| 4 | The First AmongI love this. It's very mature to take this perspective. I love Dawson Trotman's quote in [Born to Reproduce](www.discipleshiplibrary.com) when he's talking about interviewing prospective missionaries: "I found that most people were willing to cross an ocean, adapt to a new culture, and learn a new language - but they hadn't even won their first at home." Start local. In his talk The Need of the Hour (same site) he talks about how you can't reach the world until you reach your country; and you ca… | /r/RPChristians | 22/09/20 04:42 PM |
| 5 | Don't Be AutisticONEitis -> rejection -> monk mode -> ONEitis I like the way you put this. I definitely see how the mental masturbators can easily fall into this cycle, while telling themselves they're red pill because that ONEitis "isn't really ONEitis, I've just found a really great girl who is actually worth my time more than all the others." putting in the work A good friend has taught me a lot about handyman work around the house. I've been putting it to good use lately. Built a gigantic playground for my k… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/09/20 04:52 AM |
| 4 | Don't Be AutisticIf it helps, re-reading is key. I remember in the first week after I discovered RP reading the top 50 posts at the time, NMMNG, WISNIFG, and most of MMSLP. That was way too much information for 1 week, so I went back and re-read many of these in a better pace. Much, much more useful doing it that way. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/09/20 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Don't Be AutisticNo clue. I assumed that's a mod thing. Edit: Hey, there it is! Thanks for the fix. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/09/20 12:16 AM |
| 3 | Don't Be AutisticWell said. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 9 | Post-Divorce ReportsGo for it. | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Don't Be AutisticEvery now and then I joke with people that I have "obsessive OR compulsive disorder" ... just never the two together. A psychologist laughed when I said that and added: "that's why conjunctions in the DSM matter." | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/09/20 09:47 PM |
| – | Post-Divorce ReportsLet's be clear: RPC does not endorse casual divorce, especially for the purpose of "trading in for a much better wife." Your post is conspicuously absent of any biblical context. That said, while the post inappropriately encourages men toward divorce, we'll leave it up for now on the expectation that maybe a few men in the process of divorce or who have recently been through divorce can be encouraged. Another cuationary: being less than two years after divorce and remarried This tells me you're … | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 09:44 PM |
| 1 | any Eastern Orthodox on here?This is for /r/askRPC. | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | How important is context to communicating mission?Working on the weight loss/working out. Not a part of my mission. I used to say the same thing. I used to also say things like, "Doing house chores isn't part of my mission, so why does MRP put such a big focus on 'maintaining the ship'?" As I matured I realized that's all crazy talk. People follow attractive people who have their crap together. Nobody wanted to be discipled by me when I was a 35% slob. As I developed my physical appearance (and still going), I noticed my influence among others … | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Looking for Wisdom from MenI know I want to be with her, I’m looking for ways to work through demons. This sounds very much like you're preparing an "it's not you, it's me speech," but just don't want to deliver it. | /r/RPChristians | 17/09/20 06:32 AM |
| 5 | Looking for Wisdom from MenMission: Composer and Music Teacher. I need a woman to help me fulfill a beautiful life, raise children, have a home. Try again ;) I recognize that you're new here, so lots of grace on this. As you go through the RPC sidebar, you'll see a lot of content on mission. It might be worth skipping to those posts first, then going back to read the rest, as the direction of your mission is the foundation of everything else. Spiritual: mature With the above as your mission, I challenge this statement. It… | /r/RPChristians | 17/09/20 06:31 AM |
| 8 | My story. Am I on the right track?none of my beliefs had come from a personal study of the Bible and that almost everything I believed involved me simply accepting another human's interpretation of scripture without checking it for myself So you identified the problem. How long ago did you actually start trying to solve this issue? hour of church before the preacher even opened the Bible. When he did read the scriptures, it was usually no more than 10-15 verses that seemed to be handpicked to support the sermon Yeah, that's pret… | /r/RPChristians | 14/09/20 03:30 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/02/20)Much appreciated. | /r/RPChristians | 03/09/20 11:06 PM |
| 12 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/02/20)PHYSICAL: Home gym set up. Dieting has gone great lately. Losing some of what I re-gained after the close of gyms. I'm also realizing that my strength isn't what it used to be. Instead of 275x5 I'm stuck back at 245x5 with 265 as an ORM instead of my former 305. I'm hoping this comes back quickly, though while dieting I'm sure this will take longer. That said, I did cut back on the dieting because it was causing serious fatigue, which I can't have right now because ... MENTAL/EMOTIONAL: Hardest … | /r/RPChristians | 02/09/20 08:13 PM |
| 8 | As men, you need to do betterI'm on the edge of my seat: did he get what he asked for?!? | /r/RPChristians | 22/08/20 12:50 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/19/20)Stats: 35, 6'0", 18% BF, Married, 1k lb club Weekly Summary: Crushing it with billing, having great time with my kids, still need to connect with one of the guys I disciple locally who bailed on me yesterday due to his kid's tennis camp. Making progress on the playground again. Looking forward to a weekend with no travel, no guest visitors. Physical: Body weight lifts on track. Cardio down from previous weeks - shifted to intervals, as I tend to talk to guys I disciple on the phone while getting… | /r/RPChristians | 20/08/20 07:41 AM |
| – | Desire, Love and Intimacy: Red Pill Christian Podcast - Ep. 12FYI - It got too complicated for /u/r_horizon to be the one to edit everything, then me to make these posts, so I delegated to him. When he posts them, it's still official. | /r/RPChristians | 20/08/20 06:39 AM |
| 1 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")Not that I have any plans to look up again. Whether it's German or Proto-Germanic doesn't really make a difference because the base definitions still fall within the framework of my original post. https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Reconstruction:Proto-West_Germanic/kirik%C4%81 - Even a simple wiki search on the word kirika that you're referencing shows this. It doesn't really change anything, so it's not worth the effort. | /r/RPChristians | 19/08/20 08:15 PM |
| 1 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")In all my studies on the subject, every resource (with extremely limited exception) has pointed to the English word coming from the German-speaking populace where kirche was the term ultimately transliterated to "church." There was no direct transliteration from Greek to English. That's not to say the German word wasn't related to some Greek word before that - it's certainly possible. But by the time we got the English "church," the cultural baggage from the German kirche was already carried wit… | /r/RPChristians | 19/08/20 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Break up hurtsYour post got removed for profanity. Also, you didn't follow Rule 2, which requires adding your stats for advice threads. This may also be a good question for r/askRPC. | /r/RPChristians | 19/08/20 05:20 AM |
| 3 | The Art of Asking QuestionsKaren, I'm so sorry to hear about all you're dealing with. Thanks for sharing all that. Does anyone else have similar struggles? Maybe we can learn from each other. Alternatively: Karen, that really sucks. I'm kind of curious about what the Bible has to say about stuff like this. What were we supposed to be talking about today? I bet God had us talking about this subject for a reason, and it might end up giving you an indirect solution to your problem. Or ... Karen, it's too bad this situation i… | /r/RPChristians | 19/08/20 05:16 AM |
| – | Nowhere else to turn: Husband seeming to have trouble accepting a baby girl and I don't know what to do/how to support himFYI - while this is also an appropriate place for this question, I'd also recommend posting on r/RPCWomen. | /r/RPChristians | 18/08/20 03:15 AM |
| 3 | "Spiritual Growth" - such an awkward phrase.Do you think that personal sanctification in the form of the fruit of the spirit or Christ-likeness in one's own life can also fall into the category of "producing fruit?" Fruit of the Spirit: No. To say as much would mean that when Jesus is preaching on "fruit" we would have to imply extra dialogue by Jesus: "Oh, and by 'fruit' I mean something this guy Paul will teach you a couple dozen years from now, so just remember these words because you'll be able to interpret them then, but right now ju… | /r/RPChristians | 16/08/20 05:08 AM |
| – | Official RPC DiscordWhen you join, do note Rule 1: THOU SHALT USE YOUR REDDIT USERNAME. | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 07:23 AM |
| 3 | "Spiritual Growth" - such an awkward phrase.Well said. I believe I agree with all of this. Definitely worth further thought and exploration. As noted elsewhere, I really don't have any problem with the term "spiritual growth." This is one of those situations where I'm posting more of a thought process with the expectation that people in the community, like you, give some push-back where it's due. Thanks for that. | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?it must've been worded differently. Or maybe I'm just learning more as the days go by. "How do I become Kingdom oriented to the point where I am not concerned with the feelings and actions of others towards me?" Yes-ish. This is the point of my "mission matters, nothing else" post in the 200 series. I say "-ish" because technically there's value in being "concerned" in the sense that the way others think of us affects our ministry. I know a ton of hugely obese preachers who take the view: "I don… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 04:03 AM |
| 3 | "Spiritual Growth" - such an awkward phrase.This makes me smile just reading it :) Literally nothing gives me greater joy than to see people living out their faith - especially for those who I've had a hand in, as I hope the one(s) who brought you to Christ can experience the same. What else should I call the growth I've experienced ... ? So, on the podcast I've referenced that sometimes I post things that I know aren't quite fully developed thoughts, just to read the comments of people who challenge me and help refine my view. This is on… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 03:55 AM |
| – | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?Mod Note: This post obviously does not reflect the views of this sub. OP admitted to being a troll on this sub, so he naturally got banned. That said, I'm leaving the post up anyway. I think there's enough value in the comments - especially from /u/Deep_Strength and /u/RedPillWonder - and I'm sad that /u/Praexology's comment didn't get much reply, because that would have led to some fruitful discussion too. Well done boys - and I mean everyone here, not just the guys I named. | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 03:09 AM |
| 3 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?And this brings us around to the fact that you haven't shared or referenced a single scripture to buttress your points here. You can go to the sidebar and see numerous scripture references for the things we encourage men to do. You seem to be basing your argument on feelings and "fairness" (at least as you define or apply it, not God's standard), rather than scripture. Nail, meet head. So much good stuff in this comment. | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?I think what u/Datanami is getting at is simply this: I'm an attorney. I have another attorney who is starting his own law practice who I'm "mentoring." He's exceptionally good at researching legal issues. After all, that's what law school taught him to do. He knows absolutely nothing about building a case for court. Should I spend all my time talking to him about how to do legal research because it's important to his role as an attorney? Or would my time be better spent giving him a framework f… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 02:15 AM |
| 7 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?you don’t care about God or his vision only yourself Founder of the sub here. If you spent even 10 seconds looking around, you'd see that about 90% of what is taught from myself and even several other mods/ECs is about living up to Christ's mission: to make disciples of all nations. This level of ignorance makes it abundantly obvious that you are not actually reading what's taught here; you just wanted to stereotype and rile people up. No trolls permitted here. | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 02:08 AM |
| 6 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?"How do I become worthy enough to be followed?" Even that's off. That still feeds into the blue pill notion of the man needing to be worthy of his woman, as if she sets the standard he's trying to live up to. Rather, the things that a man does to pursue Christ and the joint mission he has called us to follow are the exact same things that will make others want to follow us - including women. It's not about being worthy to lead her; it's about being dutiful to Christ. This is why Jesus succinctly… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 02:04 AM |
| 5 | Do you have any concerns about how it seems like this view errs on the side of control of your wife over her personal growth and freedom?authorizes you to control her life /u/Praexology is spot on. It has nothing to do with "controlling" the wife. I was literally just talking about this with u/BornRedy a week or two ago - that you never want to control her. You do you, as we often say. If she doesn't want to follow, you keep doing what God has you doing and if she wants to rebel, that's on her. You always invite her to join you in following Christ. You always seek her redemption and sanctification if she's out of line. But at the… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/20 01:50 AM |
| 2 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"I knew you had one not all that dissimilar. The baseball bat story is one of mine ;) "Abuse" now means....made a woman feeeeeeeel bad or "raised your voice." You notice nowadays that "yelling" has also been redefined to "talked to me in a way that made me feel bad"? My business partner literally just told me a story about how he told the secretary: "I've told you 3 times now, and here it is again: you need to ask opposing counsel where that entry is. That's all." The secretary does so, gets off … | /r/RPChristians | 14/08/20 07:19 PM |
| 2 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"My definition of love in short is to act in someone's best interest I'd recommend exploring Scripture more on this. not necessarily more accurate in the legal setting as you point out, but I would still contend that general public understanding of abuse has improved I'll still differ. The courts wouldn't be assessing abuse cases the way they do if there wasn't a public opinion inspiring these women to make the claims as they do. Again, most women who make false allegations of abuse actually beli… | /r/RPChristians | 14/08/20 05:15 AM |
| 2 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"idea of the husband should be the primary pursuer in the husband-wife relationship https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/84gbdv/for_singles_finding_the_girl_you_cant_keep/ I've also commented before about a study I did of every time the Bible uses the words "pursue, pursued, pursuing, seek, etc." and found that for every one example of God pursuing us, we see 20-22 examples of us being implored to seek God and His Kingdom. Huge role reversal there from what's standardly taught. | /r/RPChristians | 14/08/20 01:42 AM |
| 2 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"Haha ... brings back memories. | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/20 10:01 PM |
| 5 | Be the Judge"Hey, I'm thinking of blank. You have any thoughts?" | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/20 05:35 PM |
| 3 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"I see the remedy for this to be an equal if not greater emphasis on Men loving their wives, as Men being in authority over their wives. What you're saying sounds great in theory, but fails in practice. This is EXACTLY how feminism crept into churchianity in the first place. Pastors read the Bible, but wanted to appease women, so instead of preaching on these matters equally, they address headship/submission maybe 2% "love your wife" 98%. In all that talk, they began to confuse Scriptural interpr… | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/20 05:34 PM |
| – | I'm waiting on God to tell me who my wife is.You get one. This is your one. Best for /r/askRPC for anyone else reading this. Expressing anger is fine, but the way you've acted in the comments (which I've removed) is completely out of line. Your frame sucks. Fix it. That's got to be high on your priority list while you're here. Also: stats? That's another rule. Yeah, you're not technically asking for advice - but your post is implicitly calling for it. It's relevant to the responses you'll get. Put them up. | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/20 04:36 AM |
| 3 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"I ultimately made my husband agree That's not an agreement, haha. In other words, are my actions loud enough for this topic to not be brought up again, or should I voice my changed views to my husband? For men, I'm generally a fan of acta non verba. For women - especially if the husband is still blue pill (which yours is, if he is still living under this prior "agreement") - this changes and you'd probably be better off communicating it directly, because he won't figure it out on his own just th… | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/20 02:40 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/12/20)Fair enough. If it's actually to hurt you, record the incident immediately after (without letting her know, if your state permits), and get her to admit that she hit you while you talk very calmly. Call the police and file a report. Show them the video. Tell them she's threatened to file false charges on you before - even if only implied. Once that's documented they're far less likely to mess with you if she goes running to them later. | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/20 01:33 AM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/12/20)u/johnmic07 - she hits you like that because she wants to know you're strong enough to take it. Instead of a verbal or emotional fitness test, as are most common, it's a physical one. I'd suggest spanking is lower risk than general domestic violence, but still not something I'd screw around with without a consent agreement. I also have a post on actual quotes from abuse victims. That one may be a bit better to help you understand the female psychology on the issue. | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 10:32 PM |
| 3 | Where's the Victory?(Cross-posted from r/TrueChristian) Thanks for actually posting it here rather than redirecting to TC, otherwise I would have taken it down ;) God doesn't immediately take away the full weight, he gives us just enough to handle with the help of the Holy Spirit. So here's another lifting reality I've come to embrace: Being strong doesn't mean heavy weights are less heavy; it means your capacity for heaviness has gone up. I remember when I was struggling to bench 225lbs. I'd push and push and push… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 05:43 PM |
| 2 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"even if you are RP conflict is inevitable I disagree. As /u/rocknrollchuck often says, "It takes two to argue." I have a post on this on MRP that was pretty popular a while back, titled Be the Judge. Probably time for a re-post, as I apparently never put it on RPC. Edit: I just created an updated version for RPC, which you'd be better off going to: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/i8hx6w/be_the_judge/? | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 04:39 PM |
| 7 | I feel stuckMy mission is to start my own brand of outdoor clothing/equipment and to act in films in order to influence culture in a more positive way instead of culture influencing us. Here's your first problem. Your mission sucks. Yeah, it's your mission. If you claimed to be a non-Christian, I'd say go for it. But if you're in Christ, that should change. When guys like /u/Praexology and I ask what your mission is it's not because we want to change your mission or see how disciplined you are in fulfilling… | /r/askRPC | 12/08/20 02:51 PM |
| 3 | I feel stuckSolid. | /r/askRPC | 12/08/20 02:04 PM |
| – | The Southern Baptist Convention is going SJW. You read that correctly.Removed. This is a link post without adequate explanation. Please refer to Rule 8 and my comment linked there. u/Aaaquad also did a post on the subject, showing what a good link post looks like over here. | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 01:58 PM |
| 6 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"I figured as much ;) | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 03:56 AM |
| 10 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"Is that not exactly what Christ did for the church? Hmm ... I'd have to think on that. My gut is to say no, he didn't. He took the punishment for our sin, but not the blame. Otherwise, why would God require that we confess our sins as an "if" condition to his being faithful and just to forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness? (1 John 1:9, of course). The confession bit is an acknowledgment that we are to blame before we are excused of the penalty associated with that blame. It… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 03:56 AM |
| 7 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"If a guy wants to take the more physically demanding tasks, go for it. That's his prerogative. But good luck finding a verse that obligates him to do so. Besides, mowing the lawn is hardly what I'd call physically demanding. If you're talking about hauling bales of hay, that might be a different story - but even then I'm sure u/willow-girl would have some words for you. Even my own wife, who has practically never lifted in her life, has proven a competent helper on major construction and home re… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 02:16 AM |
| 1 | A picture of a relationally solid church communityOf course, we would all like to say that if we were held at gunpoint and told to renounce Jesus or die, that we would choose death, but we can't really be completely sure... I'm not even talking about that situation. I'd wager far more people would be willing to die for Jesus than live for him. Dying is easy. But the same people who legitimately would take the bullet before denouncing him are the same people who on a random Tuesday are going to watch porn and not have a passing thought about whe… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 12:29 AM |
| 1 | A picture of a relationally solid church communityOne of the guys I reached out to and brought to church is doing very well, and he's discipling others. That's beautiful to hear! Is he doing this because you intentionally trained him how and he saw you doing it with others, or is he doing it because of the congregation's teachings and what he's picked up from his time there? Our leaders have commented before how 2 Timothy is like THE handbook on how to do discipleship I'm glad to hear that! Personally, I preference John 13-17, if you want to be… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 12:24 AM |
| 1 | A picture of a relationally solid church communityFor singles houses, there's often an older man/woman who serves as the house manager Ah, crap. And you had me going for a second. Then it became overly structured and rules-driven yet again. Husband and wife just each do what needs to be done around the house. Right. But why? And according to whose standards? Suppose it's been 4 days since the floor was last vacuumed. Husband thinks it needs to be done once every 2 weeks, wife thinks it needs to be done every 3 days. How do you deal with that? T… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 12:14 AM |
| 1 | A picture of a relationally solid church communityOkay, now go back and re-read what you just wrote here. You have recognized the first step: that people developed an unhealthy codependence on the original congregational structure. The second step, then, is that they need to have the goal of starting a new structure in order to get their spiritual life back on track. One of the things I write about in my book is the difference between a non-Christian -> convert -> disciple -> discipler -> leader. The non-Christian doesn't have Jesus. The conver… | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 11:34 PM |
| 4 | A picture of a relationally solid church communityBOTTOM-LINE Now, as you can tell, I'm being exceptionally hard on you. Your congregation actually seems like a fantastic place. As long as it's not run by some psycho like Steven Anderson (obviously I don't know all the theological beliefs and if they're biblically sound), it's a place I'm sure I'd prefer to attend over other options. My point here is not to prove you wrong about your congregation. It's not to denigrate your congregation. It's simply to get you to take off the rosy-colored glass… | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 10:36 PM |
| 1 | A picture of a relationally solid church communityI've seen how plenty of people interact with their kids Because they're discipling you and intentionally inviting you to watch that interaction? Or as a passive observe? Huge difference. I've even literally lived with my leaders before and seen how they live That's more like it. But when you say "my leaders" do you mean "I stayed with the pastor for a while because reasons made it a good idea at the time" or do you mean: "The pastor was discipling me and asked me to live with him for a time so h… | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 10:36 PM |
| 1 | A picture of a relationally solid church communitythere's a lot of context and nuance that's probably being lost I thought about that, and am still hopeful that this is the case with a lot of what you've written! :) That said, I do believe there are some things that are so blatantly unscriptural and blue pilled that I'm not sure how "nuance" could explain them away. All I can say is that I have not lived alone for many years, and have lived with other church members (often times with 10+ people) sharing a single apartment or house, and so have … | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 09:44 PM |
| 2 | A picture of a relationally solid church communityWell said on a lot of this - and spot on with your conclusion! All of this sounds like behavioral modification rather than internal transformation. It's the leadership saying, "You're not allowed to have your own frame, so you must live in mine," rather than teaching them how to develop strong, healthy frames for themselves. | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 09:07 PM |
| – | A picture of a relationally solid church communityMOD NOTE: We, as a sub, do not endorse the content written here. I have written more about this in my underlying comment. While the post is being left up for the interesting discussion it can generate, what this congregational structure is doing is neither red pill nor biblical, as far as I can tell based solely on OP's representations. I do believe this congregation's intentions are noble, but still ultimately misguided. | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 06:48 PM |
| 7 | A picture of a relationally solid church communityThis is some scary stuff here - and holy cow do you have rosy-colored glasses on. This is about the most blue-pilled congregation I've heard of lately ... so why are you promoting it here? I mean, I can see how your leaders thought this was a good idea, just like most blue pill churchianity leaders think they have some fantastic ideas ... but there are HUGE concerns that I expect will have massively negative long-term consequences. I started writing up a long response to individual points, but d… | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Spiritual Orphanages and MGTOWNotice the language - "The Church in/at" implies, "those within the Church who are at this city." Paul expresses this sentiment more clearly in Philippians 1:1 - "To all God’s holy people in Christ Jesus at Philippi." I believe this is what the apostles meant in all their letters when they say "the church at ..." - not that they're validating congregational structures (which, for the most part, didn't even exist in those cities at the time), but the fact that God's Kingdom included people in tho… | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Update: Looking for guidanceIf a woman married someone she was not sexually attracted to it would make sense why she would not want to have sex with him no matter what he does. This is the whole point of the red pill, though. Even these marriages are salvageable. While there's some split on the issue (I know /u/deep_strength has debated it with another blogger), I'm in the camp that even in the circumstance when there was ZERO sexual attraction going into the marriage, at least SOME can be developed through what the red pi… | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Update: Looking for guidanceI know I wouldn’t want to have sex with a man who is lazy and entitled. Of course not. But that's just the thing: you don't want to. But even when the man isn't lazy - he's actively doing things to make his wife happy all the time - the overwhelming majority of women still don't want to have sex with such a man. I've been there. Countless other men have too. It's the Nice Guy Syndrome - the belief that if we are just "nice" enough and "serve" enough and "help out" enough that eventually these th… | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Update: Looking for guidanceI know many wonderful Christian therapists and I don’t know a single person who had regretted going to therapy Christian therapists are extremely rare. Secular therapists who happen to be Christian in their private lives and want to make a dime off a Christian client-base and are willing to quote a Bible verse every now and then (and therefore fraudulently call themselves "Christian therapists") are the norm. People walk away from "therapy" happy because anger subsides naturally over time. Many … | /r/RPChristians | 11/08/20 04:19 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/20)Guess I’ll surrender, right? What does that even mean? I've long held that this is horrible advice. Would you be surprised if I told you that phrase is never actually in Scripture? It's the same fallacy as "let go and let God." It leads people to passive inaction, assuming God will just take over. It's a cop-out. Don't buy into it. We aren't meant to surrender to God. We're ON THE SAME TEAM!!! We are his soldiers. We fight for him, not surrender to him. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/20 04:53 PM |
| 2 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")Right. You have some fair points. I'm not fully persuaded. But, admittedly, I haven't looked into the concept of the OT assembly of Israel as a paralle for the Church before. I'll give it some thought and study soon. But I'd be extremely skeptical to take a tangible-tangible approach. Generally, everything God does in a physical/tangible way in the OT is meant to foreshadow spiritual concepts in the NT that couldn't be known until after the cross. So, to say that (to make up an example) the asse… | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/20 04:22 AM |
| 4 | Decoding towards a better world?Can you point out some of the books that you have in mind? Given my constant opposition to scientific apologetics, I'd prefer not. That's like asking a Satanist if he knows any good books on how to love God. If this knowledge could be made accesible to everybody It is. It's called the internet. There are dozens of websites dedicated to this exact purpose. I'll cave and give you three of them: Answers in Genesis, The Gospel Coalition, and CARM. I want to make it accesible to those who are current… | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/20 04:18 AM |
| 2 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")I think it's safe to say that the core concept of "ekklesia" in the NT is whatever the "assembly of the LORD/Israel" was like in the OT This would make sense if it weren't for 2 things: Jesus was constantly condemning the Jewish people for their misunderstandings of God's intentions, making the Jewish practices generally unreliable for God's spiritual Kingdom While the Septuagint was in Greek, Jesus was likely speaking in Aramaic or, I'm sure at times, Hebrew. When the apostles were writing the … | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/20 02:45 AM |
| 9 | Decoding towards a better world?if someone knew how to decode the word and translated some aspects into our modern way of thinking You're going to have to explain what you mean by this. The Bible isn't written in code. It is meant to be understood. Yes, there are debatable issues, but there are already LOTS of resources out there for understanding both aspects of the debate and how each are reconciled with our understanding of the world, science, human nature, etc. to show that there are no contradictions between the sciences … | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/20 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Spiritual Orphanages and MGTOWI agree with the premise of what you're saying, but not the practice of it. We're adopted as sons! And we're being built into God's household! Right, except the household is being built. Jesus is preparing the place for us. It doesn't exist here on earth and we're not living there yet. First of all, these converts are not abandoned by their heavenly father. Agreed. But it also has the practical effect of a distance relationship. Jesus said he was going away to prepare a place for us, and we have… | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/20 08:51 PM |
| – | Update: Looking for guidanceI'm sorry to hear about your situation. I've been there. But here's something I do want to comment on: I think basically any relationship issue can be rectified through prayer, communication, and possibly therapy Yikes. I mean, I might agree in the sense that you said "can" and I agree that it's theoretically possible. But the reality is that if you take 1,000 couples with serious relational problems and told them: Use prayer, communication, and therapy as your primary strategies for fixing the … | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/20 05:19 AM |
| 3 | Are you *TRULY* Red Pill?I address much of what you're saying in this post. The short conclusion is that as long as you're living the spiritual reality, you don't have an obligation toward the tangible expression. For anyone already making disciples and evangelizing, you don't need to have the roadmap of physical relationships because you're already at the destination. Should I continue to just wait? Yes. It would be pretty blue pill to be pursuing relationships you don't care for simply because you feel compelled to be… | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/20 07:04 PM |
| 2 | Are you *TRULY* Red Pill?RP Option D is a red pilled man. He just discovered the red pill independent of the red pill community. Right? Rollo has a number of podcasts where he talks about certain celebrities and the dynamic of "are they red pill or blue pill?" Chances are, for anyone we'd label "red pill" out in the world, they haven't actually read the red pill forums. But that doesn't mean they're not red pill - it just means they're ignorant of the formal concept and they would know it by a different name - by their … | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/20 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Are you *TRULY* Red Pill?Define "trust." | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 1 | When you have "feeeeelz" for someone elseI guess what strikes me with this movie is this idea that you fell out of something good that you know you won't get back Right - another commonality with La La Land. a relationship that made you happy that is something to not take for granted True. Key word there, though: made. Past tense. What happens when a relationship made you happen, but doesn't make you happy anymore? That's what happens. The relationship, in this case, isn't what you take for granted. It's the happiness you had in the be… | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?Huh ... I could have sworn yours always showed up blue for me. | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 07:07 PM |
| – | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?If I'm not mistaken, this is a copy/paste of the last time you wrote a similar post. As such, some of the endorsements need to be updated, but I get the point. That said, as a note of explanation: flair is almost always with black letters on a green background ... In some cases, it may be a blue background. Green represents married men; blue for singles; pink for women. | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?Right. I get things wrong. I always encourage people to challenge everything they read against Scripture - including the things I write. As I've alluded to before and in the podcast, if I were doing things again today, there are significant chunks of even the sidebar material that I'd re-write. If anyone finds anything that needs correction or updating, just let me know and we'll talk about it. In this, there's a delicate balance between TEACHING and NOTE-SHARING. RP claims, primarily, to be the… | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 05:03 PM |
| 2 | OFFICIAL: Cross-posting from other subs. Do's and don'ts.Two things to add, which I thought of after the fact of reading this: When you paste a link, use a .np link and no suggestion of brigading. For extra clarity, "ideally" doesn't mean some redirect posts are okay, just not ideal. What he means is that redirect posts WILL be taken down. Period. I don't care how useful the discussion is over where you're redirecting. | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 06:41 AM |
| – | Almost every single response is blue pilled af. What should we do as Christians to make the baseline of Christian social views more properly in line with the Bible so this doesn’t happen?I'm removing this. I didn't, at first, realize it was a direct link to the other sub. It's not even an np link, thus could instigate brigading and get us in trouble with the Reddit admins. /u/RedPillWonder just wrote up a post on how to deal with this going forward. | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 05:08 AM |
| 2 | When you have "feeeeelz" for someone elseHave an up-vote for actually watching the movie! I've probably seen it a dozen times now - and listened to the soundtrack many more. So much food for thought, especially when understanding that it's based on a true story. Both of them resort to unhealthy habits to stand the situation, he starts cheating, she becomes a harpy. I interpreted the song If I Didn't Believe in You as his "last effort." After that, she completely detaches from him and, essentially, ends the relationship, at which point … | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/20 04:43 AM |
| 1 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")Gotcha. While scripture doesn't directly address the issue, it's a fascinating thought that could lead to some interesting results. | /r/RPChristians | 03/08/20 07:13 AM |
| 1 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")What would this do on a national spectrum? This is one of the structural aspects I do, personally, reject. The apostles are clear that they had the right to demand compensation through the Gospel - though they often refused to do so if it would compromise their ministry, contrary to many congregations' positions today. More to the point, there's plenty of precedent that even the local gatherings required some sort of funding - though certainly not to the degree we see it today. I don't believe p… | /r/RPChristians | 03/08/20 03:32 AM |
| 1 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")Gotcha. Your position on wanting to have perfect theology is supported by such passages as: when Jesus cast the legion of demons out of the man by the decapolis and told him, "Now study the Scriptures and learn everything about them before you tell anyone what happened to you. Or ... when Jesus healed a blind man, he said, "Make sure you understand exactly what happened and how it happened any why before you talk to anyone about this." And when the pharisees questioned him he said to them, "Sorr… | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 11:19 PM |
| 2 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")Very well said. I think I agree with all of this. Two points to note as clarification, though: Shepherding/pastoring is a legitimate gift/role in the church. Just because people who falsely call themselves pastors have tarnished the word doesn't mean it isn't a legitimate position that many are called to fulfill. Bearing in mind everything you've said - there's still no better place in the world to find people who at least claim to want to follow Jesus. So these congregational structures are sti… | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 11:02 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)Right. This all makes perfect sense to me and I agree. The only place where I might clarify is that I've seen a distinction between two camps of "full preterists": (1) those who believe Jesus returned and the 1,000 years are over, yet the New Earth/New Jerusalem are still yet to come (maybe you'd call this "partial, yet mostly full"), and (2) those who believe this world we're living today actually is heaven, and being sanctified to its described state in Scripture, thus literally every single t… | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 07:14 AM |
| 1 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")My concern about the correct interpretation, including mine (I really want to nail it right and I fear otherwise) is not of atheistic or worldly origin; I really want to do exactly what God wants. Name the last 5 people you've discipled and the last 5 you've brought to Christ and when each of them was. | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 07:06 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)I believe it's on the discord. Just ask /u/r_horizon or /u/aaaquad for it. I think one of them has a pdf index that includes my latest version (which is still, admittedly, extremely old). | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 03:41 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)I was under the impression you did believe or push full preterism No. I'm undecided on the issue. I've noted in the past that I lean in that direction, but only to the degree that I admit it's a possibility and would explain a lot. I believe that partial preterists and futurists are less logical in their approach and that the evidence for full preterism resolves the logical conflicts about the return of Christ and its timing, which cause Christians to come under a great deal of scrutiny that's w… | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 03:39 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)To be clear, I'm not intentionally a preterist evangelist. I don't care one bit if anyone wants to be a preterist or a futurist. It doesn't matter nearly as much as it is interesting to think about. That's all. I wouldn't urge anyone to spend more time on the issue than is warranted - which is none at all if you haven't mastered the art of raising up spiritual children first already. | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 03:23 AM |
| 3 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")How do we know the teachings of Jesus and the Apostles ? Through Scripture. How do we know which of the multiple interpretations out there are correct ? Through faith. What you're asking, which many others do as well, most likely stems from the atheist disposition toward us. They demand absolute proof. Christians are so used to flailing around trying to give it to them that we have that same mentality within our own framework: We must pretend that we have absolute proof of what a passage means, … | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 03:18 AM |
| 3 | The Origins of the Ekklesia ("Church")This requires hours of continuous study on our part and many long conversations with more mature believers. I don't know that I agree. In this comment I referenced /u/1timothy47's post, which goes further in depth on the subject, but essentially runs the conclusion that based on (for his namesake) 1 Timothy 4:7, we have an obligation to train ourselves to be godly. I do believe much of the responsibility for our spiritual growth is on our own heads. We can't sit back and assume we must learn fro… | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/20 02:57 AM |
| 10 | In marriage, how much control should the man have and act upon?how much control should the man have and act upon? How much does Christ force and control his bride, the Church, to do things his way? The very fact that we have a churchianity culture today is a testament to Christ's red pill nature - that he does not control his bride; he merely invites her to follow, then goes about his business. If she follows, he engages; if she doesn't, he withdraws and does his own thing. I’m not sure if this problem could have been averted if proper vetting was involved … | /r/askRPC | 01/08/20 03:59 AM |
| 6 | Is Church attendance a command from God?The Church is the totality of God's people who hold unity in the Spirit and assembly in heaven. The congregational structure is a tool utilized by many within the Church because they believe it will facilitate greater growth. It is the only useful structural aspect to the Church available to the majority of the world - but as useful as it can be, it has the equal potential to be harmful when viewed as a substitute for discipleship rather than a fishing pond for disciples. Those who forsake the c… | /r/askRPC | 01/08/20 03:30 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)/u/Torn4_025 wrote: God is not the author of confusion I've heard this phrase chanted many times regarding revelation, and I used to buy into that belief. And while it sounds like a feel-good notion, it's not a reliable metric for understanding God's communications to man. 1 Cor. 14:33 is where the phrase comes from, but it's in the context of explaining orderliness in worship and part of a command not to cause disruptions and instability. The word is akatastasia, which is defined as "instabilit… | /r/RPChristians | 31/07/20 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Episode 10 - No Frame, No Game Part 2You're interpreting the verse to read: When you show affection for an older man, encourage him as you would a father ... younger women as sisters, in all purity." It looks to me like this verse is talking about how to approach someone when they need to be rebuked. Also, I prefer to assume this couple is married - and there's no reason to believe they're not. Why assume they're sinning when we can assume the best in people? | /r/RPChristians | 31/07/20 04:19 AM |
| 6 | Episode 10 - No Frame, No Game Part 2Haha. I'm tempted to just for the hilarity. | /r/RPChristians | 31/07/20 12:11 AM |
| 6 | Episode 10 - No Frame, No Game Part 2Learn to hold your frame, brother. I think you're confusing a lot of biblical passages. But if you can show me one that references it being sinful for two people to hug - married or unmarried - I'm all ears. To address the most obvious issues: Lust: This sub has covered it a million times. Lust is not sin. Adultery is sin. Covetous intent (translated "lust") toward someone in an adulterous context is adultery of the heart, even if not the physical act of adultery. There's no evidence that this c… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Episode 10 - No Frame, No Game Part 2inappropriate and will undoubtedly lead to stumbling for men (and possibly women) I don't agree - or even if I do, to no greater a degree than Amish boys beating off to pictures of a woman showing her ankles. Look, everyone can be triggered by something. It's not our obligation to remove every possible trigger that anyone could ever be tempted by. If that were the case, we might as well just leave the planet because some women might start masturbating just because they happened to oversee /u/Osm… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 08:55 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)2/2 13 The angel sounding his trumpet likely occurred in heaven as a command from the angels to initiate the next phase of God's plan. 14 The "four angels who are bound at the great river Euphrates" were Antiochus, Agrippa II, Sohemus and Malchus, who were kings within the Roman empire who helped Titus during the siege by sending him supplies and additional soldiers. 14 The "bound at the Euphrates" notion is because two of the kings, Sohemus and Malchus, ruled kingdoms on opposite sides of the E… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 07:16 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)1/2 1/3 of the world being killed I assume you're referring to Revelation 9. For context, remember that John isn't in this vision wandering the entire earth with a tape-measure and a calculator to assess everything in global proportion. There's no indication that he's in a space-craft orbiting the earth to see the 40% or so that would be visible even if he were zoomed out all the way to see the whole earth. He's watching the war between Rome and the Jewish zealouts at Jerusalem. We have to assum… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 07:16 PM |
| 1 | 40 million reasons and not a single excuseTo say you are responsible for either of those things is foolish and a lie, you are responsible for neither. I agree. We're not responsible for everything. But in my hypothetical between myself, the other attorney, and the judge, I was the one who was late. I have to acknowledge that or respect is lost - even if my lateness was due to uncontrollable factors. Part of this also comes into the believability of so-called "uncontrollable factors." People hear excuses of uncontrollable factors all the… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/20 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Leadership Lessons Through a Comparison of Christ and Alexander the GreatNot every test is conscious or intentional. | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/20 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Locked down and lacking motivationIt'll be posted next week. | /r/askRPC | 28/07/20 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Locked down and lacking motivationFunny ... /u/skimthedross was literally just talking about that distinction in today's podcast. | /r/askRPC | 28/07/20 05:26 AM |
| 2 | Leadership Lessons Through a Comparison of Christ and Alexander the GreatHe's fitness testing you. He threw some negative comments your way and you fell for it by getting caught up in the conversation. If you disagree with him, why care so much as to reply? If it benefits you to do so, in order that you learn better how to process the issues, that's one thing. But this seems more like you're just getting huffy. Maintain frame and move on. | /r/RPChristians | 28/07/20 05:25 AM |
| 2 | Leadership Lessons Through a Comparison of Christ and Alexander the GreatWell, if we want to get technical ... yes. Jesus did do this in a more perfect way. Death: Jesus accomplished it through his own death. Destruction: Jesus refers to his death as "the destruction of this temple." Also, the destruction of the physical temple of Jerusalem in 70AD contributed to the expansion of Christ's spiritual Kingdom. Pain: Jesus was whipped and crucified, experiencing horrific pain. Satiating the need for power and position: this was the pursuit of religious leaders before Chr… | /r/RPChristians | 28/07/20 05:21 AM |
| 2 | How do I support my brother while also being loyal to GodI agree with much of what you and /u/Billy_King have said. I think what /u/NoFaithInThisSub is referring to is the way that Jesus and John the Baptist were preaching repentance and baptism to who we generally presume were non-believers. This argument is used a lot for a works-based "salvation through repentance" soteriology (not to say NoFITS meant it that way). The key here is to remember that they were both preaching in a pre-Gospel world. Jesus hadn't died yet, so grace through faith, while b… | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/20 07:38 PM |
| – | Blocking PornWho are you discipling right now? | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/20 07:16 PM |
| – | For when you stumbleI'm removing this because it doesn't seem substantially related to the purpose of the sub. This would be better posted on r/askRPC, where shorter, lower-effort content is permitted. | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/20 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Saw a post asking about porn addiction the other day. Here is a really great video that’s helped me a lot already.I get what you're saying. The rule on the sidebar is, as /u/rocknrollchuck referenced, that posts must have a reasonable quality. In the case of link posts, people are arguing that the link is where the quality is found. But that doesn't mean the post itself is of a reasonable quality. The quality relates to the post on this sub, not the content off the sub that's being referenced. | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/20 04:34 PM |
| 1 | 40 million reasons and not a single excusecouch, verb: (a) to arrange or frame (words, a sentence, etc.); put into words; express; (b) to express indirectly or obscurely The idea is that you're framing the way you communicate in a manner that will be received the way you want it. If you're too blunt about some things, it can work against you. But if you're not blunt enough, it can also come off as evasive or deflecting. How you "couch" your words/express your situation can make a big difference on how it's received. your definition for … | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/20 04:30 PM |
| 4 | Saw a post asking about porn addiction the other day. Here is a really great video that’s helped me a lot already.Right. If you found value out of it, explain what value you found out of it. The reality is that we can't vet every video link that comes through here. Some people have tried to post really nasty and heretical content. Others post videos that are 3+ hours long. We're not watching all that to figure out which ones are legit and which ones aren't. So, if you want the video up, you have to do the vetting for us by explaining the content of the video in your post so that we can see if there are any … | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/20 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Divorce and Biblical Dread GameI know the biblicalgenderroles website has some pretty terrible content. /u/Deep_Strength has addressed some of this before. I can't recall the others off-hand. I do agree that Jesus was openly aggressive when confronted by those who would intentionally lead others away from godliness and repentance. There are a lot of blue pill people today to whom that kind of treatment is warranted. But what I saw in your post was not warranted aggression. It was bitter resentment mixed with exaggeration to t… | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/20 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Divorce and Biblical Dread GameNo. Mods can't edit someone else's post. It's either all or nothing. And I know at least one of his linked sources is not content I would want anyone here reading. | /r/RPChristians | 24/07/20 06:12 PM |
| 4 | Anyone familiar with Tony Dungy’s stuff?This. | /r/RPChristians | 24/07/20 04:41 AM |
| – | Divorce and Biblical Dread GameI'm removing this until you remove the links. We generally don't permit link posts unless it's within reddit or to a clearly established source. Take those down and the post will go back up. Also, I appreciate your zeal here. You have a lot of good things to say. If you could tone down the bitterness you might actually gain some influence for your cause ... otherwise people will object to you - not necessarily on the basis of your content, but on your exaggerated communication style that makes y… | /r/RPChristians | 24/07/20 04:34 AM |
| 2 | Episode 9 - No Frame, No GameFor most guys, that's actually the truth. In fact - even for the vets, it's still the truth. The issue is less about whether or not she has a frame and more whether or not it overlaps with his. | /r/RPChristians | 22/07/20 04:38 AM |
| 2 | Episode 9 - No Frame, No GameFoundational Truth is the material you build your frame out of I'd clarify that it's the ideal material. Many people built their frame on lies. They even have extremely strong frames built on lies. Look at North Korea. They've persuaded everyone in their country that their leader is a god and the rest of the world is destitute compared to their glory. That leader has a massively strong frame built on falsity. Crazier yet: people LOVE living in that frame. It's both strong and alluring to them. T… | /r/RPChristians | 22/07/20 04:37 AM |
| 6 | New Sidebar Compilation!Unfortunately, I don't think I ever did finish the 400 series. Thanks for the reminder! | /r/RPChristians | 21/07/20 01:39 AM |
| 10 | New Sidebar Compilation!This is great, brother. Thanks for putting it together. | /r/RPChristians | 21/07/20 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?Haha. "Actual meaning of ekklesia"? You do realize the original ekklesia was an outdoor meeting of the Greek populace and didn't involve a building, right? The ekklesia was a reference to the people, not the location. It's like the word "council." The council might meet in a building, but the building is not the council itself, and many council meetings happen outside the normal meeting place, such as at restaurants or even over the phone. And the fact that a group of Christians in 233AD in Syri… | /r/RPChristians | 20/07/20 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?As I understand it, the apostles and early believers were going to the temple courts and synagogues not to congregate with one another, but to preach the Gospel, and their participation in the eucharist afterward was, as Jesus modeled, a time to share the Gospel and discuss the imperative to spread it to the nations. This is clear from not only the many examples where they were proclaiming the Gospel in the temple courts, but also the examples where the Jews were running them out for doing this.… | /r/RPChristians | 19/07/20 03:28 AM |
| 9 | The Perversion of Critical Theory: Nadia Bolz-WeberI like this post. I don't share the same "gospel of works" concern that ENTPunisher did, though I can see how he'd get there through your post. Rather, I see you saying that this "critical theory" concept is allowing faith alone to be segregated from any imperative toward holiness. That said, I get a lot in this about why "critical theory" is dangerous, but you might want to expand on exactly what it is. I don't see that in this post, which can make it hard for someone to know how to avoid it. A… | /r/RPChristians | 15/07/20 06:03 AM |
| 2 | 40 million reasons and not a single excuseSo many up-votes ... so few comments ... so confused. Solid stuff, though, brother. I have often discussed the difference between reasons and excuses with small groups or men I've discipled. Because you didn't toss in a definition (at least not that I saw), let me give the simplified way I have tried to boil this down for people: Reasons: When you accept responsibility, but other people want more information for why you made the mistake. Excuses: When you deny responsibility and insist that othe… | /r/RPChristians | 15/07/20 05:48 AM |
| 3 | Help. // Porn sucksI'm glad you found this helpful. The one thing I'll add: I’m still convinced it is, just due to his past use I don't take the "once an addict, always an addict" view. I believe Jesus can fully cure someone from addiction. That doesn't mean the person will never commit that sin ever again. It does mean that the addictive compulsion is completely gone. For example, I have a friend who was an alcoholic. He'd had multiple DUIs and totaled at least 3 cars due to alcohol abuse. It lasted into his late… | /r/RPChristians | 15/07/20 05:34 AM |
| 3 | Make it easy for your spouseCould you explain further how you arrived at the conclusion that sanctifying our wives is optional? Simple: I can't control her. Working toward her sanctification is mandatory. The sanctification itself is not. Many women will reject their husbands and continue in sin and defiance regardless of how hard their husbands try. The result is what's optional, not the imperative toward it. I see how husbands need to get their own relationship with God in order first before bringing up something our wiv… | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/20 08:05 PM |
| 4 | Make it easy for your spouseI remember an excellent post you wrote that went into great detail about this. You gave the 30,000 feet and the street view that explained how the process usually unfolds, and it's not always how many men expect it to go. Hmm ... I'm not sure I remember that one. I'll note one of the main thoughts in my head when writing the post was how many men will think or say "My wife is supposed to do or be "abc" and it's true, but their own actions are making it that much more difficult for her. I remembe… | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/20 04:52 PM |
| 18 | A younger girl. Is this an opportunity or a disaster waiting to happen?What's your mission? At least you vaguely skimmed Rule 2. But seriously ... I put "MISSION" at the top of the list for a reason. As for your post, imagine me asking this community: I want to buy a house. It was built in 2002 and has some of the issues you'd expect from a house built in that year. But I like it a lot. It's a really fine looking house, and the seller's agent gave me some indication at the open house that the buyer might like me to put in an offer. What do you think, should I buy t… | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/20 05:14 AM |
| 7 | Make it easy for your spouseI'm always glad when you put a post up because I know it's going to be good. making it easy for your spouse to do what God commands Part of this is actually giving them an opportunity. For the longest time, I thought that by having no expectations over my wife I was making life easier for her. In reality, by having no expectations or commands for her to follow, she had no ability to do what God called her to do in our marriage: submit and follow. This was incredibly unsatisfying for her and infu… | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/20 05:08 AM |
| 2 | Help. // Porn sucksHaha. That's a good way to put it. Admittedly, I didn't read the comments on this one. | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/20 04:43 AM |
| 15 | Hey guys check out this really neat 3 h YouTube video I watched!Haha, I almost removed this post because of the title, then saw your username and clicked through. Then I thought about side-barring this to give an example of how link posts should be done ... then realized that, while having value, some of the points aren't on-point enough to warrant being on the sidebar because it might confuse some people into thinking that everything in the video is endorsed. The main point of contention I'd have with Fr. Chad is his idyllic views on masculinity. He says me… | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/20 04:27 AM |
| 2 | Help. // Porn sucksI'll ask you the same thing I ask every single person who complains about not being able to overcome porn: Is he discipling anyone? If not, it's like asking the question: "How do I take this screw out?" I ask if you're turning your screwdriver the right way and you say, "Oh, we don't really think we need a screwdriver. That has nothing to do with getting screws out. But can you help us get this screw out?" Spiritual reproduction is the screwdriver and porn (watching fantasizing about physically … | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/20 04:12 AM |
| – | How to raise a man - Fr RippergerThese types of posts require a description of the content before I'll allow it. This means at least an outline of his major points, not just a short blurb about the general topic. Thanks! | /r/RPChristians | 13/07/20 07:14 AM |
| 3 | RPC Podcast Episode 7: The Importance of OYSAgreed. It took a while to record it because we wanted both chuck and dross to be in for that conversation. It's not always easy working with everyone's schedules. Any topics you'd like to see addressed? | /r/RPChristians | 10/07/20 02:13 AM |
| 7 | RPC Podcast Episode 7: The Importance of OYSFair enough. You could go without your video if you want. Or do a non identifying picture like oz.OZ. Your call when we get there though. Just know the invitation is outstanding. | /r/RPChristians | 10/07/20 01:39 AM |
| 6 | RPC Podcast Episode 7: The Importance of OYSThat means a lot from you. You interested in joining us sometime? | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/20 09:56 PM |
| 4 | Staying humble and RPCThe key is realizing that being humble is not thinking less of yourself. Rather, it’s thinking more of others. I don't even think it's that, though there is certainly value in appreciating others' needs and potential above our own, as I do with every man I disciple. I always ask God that when I invest in a man, they go on to do greater things than I do - and some have done exactly that! I'm encouraged by this, and not upset that they have surpassed me. More to /u/NoFaithInThisSub, in this conver… | /r/askRPC | 09/07/20 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?Yikes. That's some of the poorest exegesis I've seen in ages ... if it can even be called that. | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/20 06:45 AM |
| 5 | How I Communicate Now, Without WordsRight on. Glad to hear I'm not the only one doing this. Lots of thoughts on this, but it sounds like you've been at it longer. Maybe revive an old post, or write a new one with what you've learned since then? I'd read that in a heartbeat. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/07/20 06:42 AM |
| 10 | How I Communicate Now, Without WordsI know that even when I was trying to STFU, I wasn’t really doing so Over the last few years I've worked with some guys in real life on this. They had the same problem. Their version of STFU wasn't actually STFU ... it was "I'll shut up about the things I'm really thinking and only talk about things that affirm her and make the conversation go away." Idiots. So now instead of showing her how whiny you are, you're showing her how supplicating you can be and how much you pedestalize her and will m… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/07/20 03:34 AM |
| 2 | How the Truth Set Me Free From Masturbation and Pornography"Give no regard" in the beginning is best understood in the context of "do not seek after them" immediately after. It's not saying to ignore them. It's saying not to have any respect or desire for what they may claim to offer. As /u/Praexology has said, there are many examples where Jesus and the apostles talk to them directly. Your other comment makes me think you understand better than your comments above let on, but I wanted to say this just to be safe. | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/20 06:28 AM |
| 1 | How the Truth Set Me Free From Masturbation and PornographyI don't mind recording anything. But let's chat further in PM. | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/20 06:24 AM |
| 1 | How the Truth Set Me Free From Masturbation and PornographyHaha. Want to make it a recorded walk and talk? Let me know the topics in advance and we'll make it happen. But deliverance/healing is a more prominent thing I've been involved with, having led a team in putting on a conference on the subject last year, and being one of the keynote speakers. I didn't see eye to eye with everyone involved, and my primary function was to keep the more ... "spiritually minded" people grounded in scripture rather than demonic philosophy or spiritualized psychology. | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/20 01:07 AM |
| 1 | How the Truth Set Me Free From Masturbation and PornographyI'm confused. | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/20 12:58 AM |
| 2 | How the Truth Set Me Free From Masturbation and PornographyCan you give time stamps? I don't have time to listen to these. | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/20 12:56 AM |
| 2 | How the Truth Set Me Free From Masturbation and PornographyYour discretion here is wise. I live by a similar principle. There are some things I believe, including along the lines of this topic and deliverance ministry, which are best left to very specific situations rather than open forums. | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/20 12:55 AM |
| 2 | How do I build competence?Haha. Well said. I once heard frame described in terms of characters in a movie. If you're in someone else's frame, you're the supporting character. If you're the star, everyone else revolves around you, even though they may have their own separate lives and separate movies. In this sense, the narrative comes from the script-writer. We are conditioned through social scripting to believe certain narratives about our lives, many of which are untrue. But if we can take not only the role of the star… | /r/RPChristians | 05/07/20 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Reformed? Or Arminian?If you'll forgive a "No True Scottsman" logical fallacy It's not a fallacy if there's an actual authority who gets to decide what's true and not. God's intentions and decrees are compatible with man's sinful nature and behavior. Hence compatibilism. This is not the definition of compatibilism I'm accustomed to. "limited free will" position ... man is free to do whatever he wants, but he is not free to want whatever he wants Right, this is the first "predestines our circumstances in a way that he… | /r/RPChristians | 05/07/20 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Reformed? Or Arminian?Like I say, I'll have to look into this more. This is in contradiction with most everything I've heard from every other self proclaimed "reformed" person. At best, I've heard people try to give explanations that pretend to give room to free will, while undermining its validity by arguing things like (as only one example): "Good lets us choose, but predestines our circumstances in a way that he knows we will only be inclined to choose the path he wants" - which I call the inevitable choice argume… | /r/RPChristians | 04/07/20 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Reformed? Or Arminian?Interesting. I've attended 5 ish congregations in the last few years that self identify as reformed who preach predestination in the absence of free will as their soteriological model, and this has also been the position of those identifying as reformed on r/TrueChristian. Of the many, you're only the second to tell me that reformed believe in compatibilism. I'll have to research this more sometime because my anecdotal evidence of those who call themselves reformed, while vast, may end up being … | /r/RPChristians | 03/07/20 01:48 PM |
| 4 | Reformed? Or Arminian?Nah. From what I recall, reformed says that some things are predestined and others are on free will. That's not the same as saying both are always on simultaneously. | /r/RPChristians | 03/07/20 09:05 AM |
| 1 | Religious Gf of 4 years broke up with me a month ago. Messaged me today that she wants to get back together. But she doesn't not want any sex during the relationship. Need advice?This is not a mission. It's a set of vague career goals. If it is technically a mission, it's clearly not influenced at all by your faith. I recommend examining this further and why your life ambitions are separate from your faith. | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Religious Gf of 4 years broke up with me a month ago. Messaged me today that she wants to get back together. But she doesn't not want any sex during the relationship. Need advice?I have no idea where you're getting this paradigm from. Please elaborate. | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 07:17 PM |
| – | Reformed? Or Arminian?reformed or Arminian? Compatibilist. Imagine being a two dimensional being looking at this three dimensional object. One person looking from the bottom would swear it's a square. Another looking at it from the side would think the first guy is crazy because it's obviously a triangle. The two appear completely incompatible, right? Yet those of us existing in 3 dimensions see how plainly simple the shape is. Complementarian or egalitarian in marriage doctrine? I say this as a mod and founder of th… | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 07:12 PM |
| 7 | Feeling discouraged with many churches' support of the Black Lives Matter movement, including my own.. Are there any truly alt-right/conservative churches left that don't buy into this?This is what I've been trying to tell people. I have a degree in statistical methodology, which is the study of how statistics are gathered and what they mean when applied to real-world conclusions. It's incredibly disappointing to see how so many bad statistics are put out - not that they're false. Many of the statistics the media references are true. But they only investigate far enough to confirm their biases and then stop. They never ask the questions: "Why might this be happening?" or "Is t… | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 06:47 AM |
| 12 | Religious Gf of 4 years broke up with me a month ago. Messaged me today that she wants to get back together. But she doesn't not want any sex during the relationship. Need advice?Locked until Rule 2 information is added. Until then, know that when a woman breaks up then wants to get back together, it's her way of saying, "I'm not happy with you, but realized I couldn't do any better, so I'll settle with you and rush back before I lose my chance and you're with someone else." Also, THIS SUB DOES NOT ENDORSE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. No advice will be permissible here that supports your apparent intentions of continuing in a sexual relationship outside of marriage. If you belie… | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 04:58 AM |
| 4 | Feeling discouraged with many churches' support of the Black Lives Matter movement, including my own.. Are there any truly alt-right/conservative churches left that don't buy into this?That's not a viable long-term solution, though. What you're suggesting is either: (1) that the entire police force be dispanded and we devolve into anarchy because "you can quit being an officer" if the hostility against the police grows far enough and private security is a better-paying gig anyway. That's the natural end-conclusion without some protection for officers; or (2) that because we HAVE to have a police force, SOME people should be forced into a low-paying, thankless job that is hated… | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Feeling discouraged with many churches' support of the Black Lives Matter movement, including my own.. Are there any truly alt-right/conservative churches left that don't buy into this?The same responsibility white believers have to any other believer. James 2 dives into this quite clearly, warning against showing favoritism in the first half and against inactive faith when others are in need in the second half. Consider: I see a black man being beaten up by white men. What do I do? I intervene and stop the assailants, or (if I'm incapable of doing so), I get help. I see a white man being beaten up by black men. What do I do? I let him get beaten up and do nothing to help him … | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 04:19 AM |
| 1 | Refreshing words and an encouragement to start conversationsMost of it is already in the 300 series. But yes, some of them could use more expansion. | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Feeling discouraged with many churches' support of the Black Lives Matter movement, including my own.. Are there any truly alt-right/conservative churches left that don't buy into this?Right. The problem is that someone who's a true comic book fan will realize all the ways superman has been over-feminized by different writers over the years, so he's not always the ideal man. He always has absurd oneitis for Lois, for example - and that strings through even some of the better portrayals of him. Of course, this is going to be true through virtually every heroic character because they're off doing so many other things on their mission that there's not enough pages to write about … | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Feeling discouraged with many churches' support of the Black Lives Matter movement, including my own.. Are there any truly alt-right/conservative churches left that don't buy into this?Haha, that was the reason for the reference. Any time I can sneak superman in I will ;) I once thought about writing a post on superman as the epitome man who wears and balances both blue and red. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 11:38 PM |
| 4 | Feeling discouraged with many churches' support of the Black Lives Matter movement, including my own.. Are there any truly alt-right/conservative churches left that don't buy into this?This is my view. Simply put: we're part of a heavenly Kingdom, not an earthly one. We are here as part of a spiritual military force, rather than a physical one. With physical military forces, it's often a running joke in movies that some people get stuck stationed in a research base in the arctic, right? There are crappy assignments. But they're usually also important assignments, whether we want to admit it or not. Can you imagine the researchers stationed in the arctic revolting and insisting… | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 06:50 PM |
| 5 | Feeling discouraged with many churches' support of the Black Lives Matter movement, including my own.. Are there any truly alt-right/conservative churches left that don't buy into this?Right. Better to word this: Don't defend churchianity or the congregational structure; but do defend The Church. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 06:29 PM |
| – | What is this subredditI'm removing this, as the answer is on the sidebar: Welcome to Red Pill Christians We are a subreddit that exists to provide a place for Christians to discuss problems, solutions and insights on relationships, sex, and biblical masculinity according to biblical principles. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 06:24 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?Fair enough. Yes, the media decides what is sin for many people to the degree the people develop their own personal convictions from the media rather than Scripture. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?As I recall, the original ekklesia in Greece was on a hill, not in a building. The term referenced the people, not the location or the structure. It was tied to specific purposes, usually war-related and focused on how to achieve the objectives of that greater community purpose. This purpose had little to nothing to do with getting more people to show up to the next meeting; it had everything to do with the advancement of the nation. This is a far cry from the modern concept of "church" which re… | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 02:38 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?I've met many people who think it's a sin. My own mom and her sister got in a big fight over the issue and haven't talked since. Several congregations are up in arms saying that if you don't wear a mask you're defying God's imperative to love and protect our neighbors, whereas others say the exact opposite. I don't agree it's sin. I've just seen it from soooo many sources that it can't really be denied. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 02:22 AM |
| 4 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?Yeah, you're changing the framework with this comment. My framework: Don't do anything that will cause someone else to sin by violating their own conscience/convictions. Your framework: Don't do anything that could be potentially harmful to someone else. Switch back to my framework and you'll see the conversation is much simpler and doesn't leave nearly as much room for that slippery slope. Of course, we do have to leave room for those who are mature to educate those who are immature on what the… | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?Right. But the current congregational structure folds without the pastor. So, if the pastor chooses within his own conscience not to attend Sunday services, then the whole thing falls apart anyway and it'd be better for the congregation just to hold out longer until the pastor does feel comfortable and safe again. Don't get me wrong, this whole setup is a tragedy in the first place, which is why I embrace, yet simultaneously fight against the congregational structure. But it's worth spending tim… | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?Actually, I believe you're mistaken. Paul in 1 Cor. 8 expressly authorized eating meat sacrificed to idols, and he fought against it being enforced in the early church in the Acts 15 council. There was a big debate over the issue and the council ultimately concluded that even though these things may not technically be sin, it was a necessary command to keep the peace between the Jews and the Gentiles, after which Paul confirmed this view by authorizing eating food sacrificed to idols as part of … | /r/RPChristians | 30/06/20 10:09 PM |
| 0 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?I don't disagree. But what of those pastors congregation leaders who make the personal decision that they wouldn't go? This approach basically forces all pastors congregation leaders to align their own preference with those who want to attend services in order to give them that opportunity. The reality is that some places will open sooner than others. If someone whose congregation is closed wants to attend a service, they're welcome to go somewhere else that's actually open. This will, in the lo… | /r/RPChristians | 30/06/20 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?The link I cited specifically says "The case fatality rate is the number of confirmed deaths divided by the number of confirmed cases." Right. This affirms what I said - that they're only looking at "confirmed deaths" and not necessarily the cause of death. From what I've read, many of these statistics are including causes of death that may have occurred even if the person wasn't corona positive, but because they were corona positive, it's getting included anyway. For example, someone has a seve… | /r/RPChristians | 30/06/20 09:56 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?I'm going to reiterate what I just said on another thread: YOUR LOCAL CONGREGATION IS NOT "THE CHURCH" It's a dangerous mentality to confuse the two. This mixup between congregations and The Church is what shifted CHRISTianity to CHURCHianity, which was the pathway to the feminization of mainstream congregations. The Church in Scripture is the whole of God's Kingdom. The congregation structure we have today is a tool that The Church has utilized to aid in the spread of the Gospel. It's a good an… | /r/RPChristians | 30/06/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?This is wrong. I assume /u/CentralParkWst (OP) was referencing the stats for his own age group, which is generally referenced as (I'm assuming) 25-34 or 35 to 44. The .5% number is combining all age groups into a single statistic and focusing on only corona-related deaths, whereas the 4.8% number (I usually see it as 5%) is the percentage of corona-positive deaths (even if the cause wasn't corona itself) relative to total deaths from all sources. This link shows that .676% of all corona deaths o… | /r/RPChristians | 30/06/20 05:36 PM |
| 8 | RPC Podcast Episode 6: Fitness Tests (and a crucial announcement)We do have a Voat site reserved, if needed. We are obviously not using it yet and have not migrated our content at this point. | /r/RPChristians | 30/06/20 04:18 AM |
| – | How do I start serving in church?I get frustrated with the framework most people operate in when discussing things like this. There's a fundamental difference between "serving in the church" and "serving the Church." It's subtle, but do you notice it? The Church = God's Kingdom, not these pockets of communities that amass in a particular building. Serving the people who congregate in your building is not the same as serving the interests of God's Kingdom. Yes, often-times they do overlap, but not nearly as much as you might thi… | /r/RPChristians | 29/06/20 10:43 PM |
| 14 | Clever ways to share the gospelThis is a useful post. None of these are what I'd call "sharing the Gospel" by any stretch, but they are certainly non-forceful ways to let other people know that you're a Christian, which has value. To that end, in light of my 304 post on evangelism, I'd consider this post a great extrapolation of the Aware of Messenger's Spiritual Beliefs section. The activity that leads up to this awareness is described in that post: The Christian's job during this phase [...] is to start gradually exposing t… | /r/RPChristians | 29/06/20 10:36 PM |
| 2 | How to know if I’m (F) dealing with a narcissist or with someone who has narcissistic traits (who is a bit arrogant & entitled)?I literally almost wrote: "He sounds more like an ENTP than a narcissist." I am also an ENTP, and on the spectrum from "My life is completely pointless, I might as well just not exist" to "I am the god of the universe and everyone must bow to me," ENTPs err slightly on the latter end. Those who err on the other end naturally assume ENTPs are farther along than they actually are because they're more in that direction than the non-ENTP is. This stems from a fallacious view that we assume we, ourse… | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/20 09:47 PM |
| 4 | How to know if I’m (F) dealing with a narcissist or with someone who has narcissistic traits (who is a bit arrogant & entitled)?I deal with psychological diagnoses of NPD in my career ALL. THE. TIME. It's the number 1 source of business for me. Most people find us by googling, "Divorcing a narcissist." narcissist ... or narcissistic traits According to the DSM-V 1a - Identity: Excessive reference to others for self-definition and self-esteem regulation [i.e. "Do you see how much better I am than they are?"]; exaggerated self-appraisal may be inflated or deflated, or vacillate between extremes [i.e. "I'm the most respecte… | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/20 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Why You Must Be Willing to Nuke Your Nuclear FamilyIn order, they're 1 Cor. 7:29, 1 Cor. 7:15, and Luke 14:26. There is a LOT more, though. I was just giving the low-hanging fruit relevant to the post. I created a whole sub for this: r/RPChristians (as well as the newly created r/RPCWomen) to talk about all of these things from a biblical angle. Our sidebar content goes into the Scriptural foundation of pretty much everything. Enjoy. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/06/20 04:41 PM |
| 8 | Sparking a Husband's Sexual Desire (RPCW)The "RPCW" tag in the title means it was written for the women over there. I just know there are some women at RPC who haven't migrated there too yet. It's probably better to say nothing, but if you want to show it to your wife, that's your call, just exercise extreme caution in how you do so. Instead of, "This is from a blog I read. Read it," it's better to go round-about: "Someone sent me this link and asked what I think of it, but I'm not a girl so I don't really think that's my place to say.… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/20 04:32 PM |
| 6 | Sparking a Husband's Sexual Desire (RPCW)Physical appearance - Create a schedule that involves time at the gym, running, body weight exercises, etc. so that it's planned in your schedule. Once you have a good body, it takes time to lose it, so it's not like it can be gone overnight - you just have to keep up with it, generally. Set clear rubrics for yourself not to cross. One rubric I have for myself is that if my belly goes out further than my pecs, it's time to cut. That standard doesn't work for women quite as well ;) but you get my… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/20 05:49 AM |
| 10 | Sparking a Husband's Sexual Desire (RPCW)I'm a sucker for a girl in a skirt. And the long hair worn down is 100% on the money. My wife has curly hair, so it's a bit harder for her, as wearing it down does get frizzy, but she's put a lot of work into it and she looks gorgeous to be able to have hair down her back again. She used to do short shoulder-length hair to make it easier to manage and I just lost interest. So, it's very possible that, as you say, a reason a guy loses sexual interest in his wife is her short hair. It happened to … | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/20 03:48 AM |
| 2 | FR: Rejection is Better than RegretThis is almost worse than your original reply I actually liked /u/Continuous-Metanoia's original reply. But I agree the modified version is a step-down. It's self-depricating, saying that you're the type of guy no other girl wants to be with and they all give the boyfriend excuse. It's also not absurd enough to be taken completely as a joke, so the woman might believe there's some truth to it. You're better off amplifying even worse and go with a number like 42. In this case, an amused "Oh reall… | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/20 04:22 AM |
| 2 | FR: Rejection is Better than RegretI like your conclusion. One of my more popular MRP posts ("Initiate Often, Confident Always") was based on the same premise (RPC Draft Here). You might find it useful in bolstering your own view on the value of facing rejection. I'm not sure why the "missional dating" thing had to come up as a preface here. But because you brought it up, note my comments in OZ's thread (which I'm going off of memory; didn't actually re-visit the link). I'd encourage guys not toward evange-dating, but "evangelism… | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/20 04:08 AM |
| 6 | What would you do if you were suddenly single?This comment makes me smile. | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/20 03:53 AM |
| 6 | What would you do if you were suddenly single?I've literally asked myself this exact question a few dozen times over the last couple years. I'm glad you put up a post on it. It's the proper frame of mind for married men to be processing their sexual goals and why they may not be achieving them. | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/20 03:51 AM |
| 3 | What do I need to learn from here since I came from the og TRP?the whataboutism of not choosing a bad pastor is a bit broad and a bit unnecessary I wasn't addressing the topic of choosing a pastor. I was noting the reality that many people here are in congregations with weak pastors who enforce blue pill ideologies on the men in their congregations. This is the large majority of congregations today. For many people, finding a congregation with a "good pastor" is simply not even an option - either because the options are so limited or because they're in an u… | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/20 03:48 AM |
| 2 | RPCC Episode 3: The State of MarriageGotcha. I think I was referencing some of his general writings. I know he has a book titled "Saving a Low Sex Marriage," which addresses some of this. His podcast series also addresses this. Both of these are on the sidebar. His newer stuff (the "intermediate course" on Gottman) addresses more heavily the tools a man can use when his wife is acting out, which can be helpful. | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/20 03:16 AM |
| 6 | Just thought I’d post this here if any of you want to chime in and shed some light!I see this misnomer in Christian circles all the time. The verse doesn't actually say sexual sins are worse. It just points out one way in which they're unique. Inevitably, some smart-Alec tries to quip that verbal sins are actually worse because "if anyone can tame the tongue he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check" (a la James 1 or 2). But even that doesn't say it's the worst sin - only that it's the hardest to beat. So, someone else complains that all sins are equal, implied… | /r/RPChristians | 20/06/20 07:25 AM |
| – | What do I need to learn from here since I came from the og TRP?As /u/r_horizon said, what you need to learn from here is on the sidebar. The most common answer to virtually any question that gets asked here is: "lift, sidebar, STFU." What that means is: Lifting is the foundation of being attractive - not only to women, but to make friends, earn respect in the workplace, gain influence in your social circles, etc. We could debate over whether the world should function this way or not, but the reality is that attractive people fare much better than unattracti… | /r/RPChristians | 20/06/20 06:40 AM |
| 6 | What do I need to learn from here since I came from the og TRP?This. | /r/RPChristians | 20/06/20 06:21 AM |
| 3 | What do I need to learn from here since I came from the og TRP?I'm glad you honed in on this phrase, as it's crucial. But let me challenge things in a slightly different direction. Jesus is clear that all believers are to "make disciples of all nations." The ministry you serve in is not a fulfillment of your obligation to Christ; it's your fulfillment of your obligation to your congregation. And if you're committed to your congregation, then you should appreciate and value that obligation. But it shouldn't trump what Jesus has asked of you, me, OP, and ever… | /r/RPChristians | 20/06/20 06:16 AM |
| 1 | RPCC Episode 3: The State of MarriageGet me a more specific time-stamp. I'm hearing nothing at 3:30-5:30 about BPP. | /r/RPChristians | 20/06/20 05:39 AM |
| 4 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsSo dread is really just a consequence of the wife not following her calling where the husband is Not really. It's a man's response to his wife being sexually defiant/rebellious. In some sense, we can say her "calling" by God or by her husband includes not to deprive one another (1 Cor. 7), so technically the verse fits. But the language wouldn't resonate with most people. A wife could easily say, "I'm following my calling. I'm evangelizing, making disciples, and taking care of the kids and house… | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Are women really "saved through child-bearing"? Yes.Interesting perspective. | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 07:37 PM |
| 3 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsMatthew 7:12 I assume you mean, "Would you want your wife to use dread on you?" To that, I would love nothing more than for my wife to become more attractive to me and others :D For the rest, I'm not sure how you're trying to connect these concepts to dread. At best, you might be arguing that dread is somehow in conflict with loving your wife. I get the impression you don't understand dread. Level 1: "Learn to recognize and start passing fitness tests" (i.e. not be a pushover to your wife). You … | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 06:50 AM |
| 1 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsHaha, exactly. | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 06:50 AM |
| 3 | Are women really "saved through child-bearing"? Yes.I have no clue where you got that from. | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts about fraternity/sorority culture?Fraternities have value in the sense that you learn to relate with other men, which is a skill many men end up lacking. Most guys lack this type of relationship with a variety of men, instead only having one or two close friends. The life-on-life nature of fraternity culture also has value in understanding what discipleship can look like when you're living alongside others so closely. Of course, in fraternity culture you're among peers, not under a true authority structure as the foundation of y… | /r/askRPC | 17/06/20 03:59 PM |
| 6 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsFantastic. This whole topic probably deserves a post in itself. You want to write it? If not, I'll put it on my list ;) She simply doesn't want to / isn't willing to put in effort with her husband To re-bolster a point from my previous comment: even if she did overcome the obstacle that you're presenting, it still doesn't go the next level of actually showing (even if only by faking) enthusiasm in the process. I remember a time when my wife was clearly unenthusiastic. I had a seriously hard time… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 06:58 AM |
| 1 | The Narrow WayI just noticed this was removed. If that happens again, just message us and we'll approve it, as long as it generally follows the rules. The post is approved now. | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Are women really "saved through child-bearing"? Yes.So the reason for the Holy Spirit inspiring Paul to include that verse/phrasing in regard to women is to point to spiritual reproduction? Yes, That's how I'd take it. We have studies today that show how children in single parent households fare in comparison ... It's not a stretch to think the same is true in regard to godliness. You'd think, logically. But the stats on retention rates within the church are extremely low. Now, I attribute this more to the failures of churchianity in its lack of … | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 04:18 AM |
| 13 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead Bedroomsis duty sex really better than no sex? That's up to each man and the way his wife approaches duty sex. Is she star-fishing with a frown on her face or fulfilling her duty with a smile on her face? Huge difference between the two. Think about it - prostitutes give duty sex all the time. There's no way they're actually into it with many of their clients. Yet that wouldn't prevent them from giving their client a wild ride anyway, right? From there: if a prostitute will do it for $100, and yet your … | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 03:51 AM |
| 3 | RPC Video Chatu/r_horizon has taken point on this for now. I'd suggest contacting him to see if there are ways you can help out so he doesn't, in time, run the risk if burning out on it. | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 02:56 AM |
| 3 | Are women really "saved through child-bearing"? Yes.Right. I agree with everything except your last paragraph. It's true at times for some people, but not necessarily universally. It's more accurate to say that perfect human marriage as God designed with completely parallel our relationship with Christ, even in the face of humanity's individual sinfulness. | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts about fraternity/sorority culture?Read the sidebar: r/askRPC - While RPC proper exists for higher quality content, r/askRPC is available for quicker questions or content you're unsure about, but for which you'd like feedback. Substantive questions, the answer for which would be beneficial to all, are still welcome on RPC - especially as they pertain to field reports. But if you're asking about a more niche issue, go to askRPC. Yes, the mods do actively check both subs regularly. | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/20 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Actual Conversations With "Abuse" VictimsHaha, never been there, but I might visit. Thanks for the tip. | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/20 03:57 PM |
| – | Thoughts about fraternity/sorority culture?This is a post for r/askRPC. Please relocate it there. Thanks! | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/20 03:17 PM |
| – | How to reach to being “ghosted”?I'm removing this post for two reasons: It doesn't include your stats. It cross-posts to another sub. Please add the stats (see Rule 2 on the sidebar) and paste the post onto this sub so we're not redirected elsewhere, then you'll be approved. You may also want to post this on r/askRPC instead of r/RPChristians, as it's meant for these types of questions and the pool of users is more likely to evoke responses from quality contributors, as passive lurkers who decide it's time to chime in are less… | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/20 03:16 PM |
| 3 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexThat's what lube is for. And I agree - men have some pretty awful attributes too. It's not just women. The differences is that men are held accountable for these openly and everyday. | /r/RPChristians | 15/06/20 12:51 AM |
| 3 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexI think you're missing the point of what I was saying. These normally annoying or disgusting chores can become actually enjoyable with the right attitude going in. It's not "close your eyes and think of England" or "putting up with it." I legit enjoy doing the dishes or changing diapers at times when I'm in the right frame. I don't enjoy it because I magically convince myself that dirty diapers or dishes somehow became anything other than disgusting, but because I know how to amuse myself while … | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/20 06:00 PM |
| 6 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexExactly why I left it up. | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/20 08:08 AM |
| 5 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexI don't think anyone would deny that such a situation is less than ideal, and perhaps even undesirable. But the only alternatives are indefinite celibacy or engaging in the willful, conscious, and ongoing sin of divorce without biblical grounds (or direct cheating), which is extremely dangerous with passages like Hebrews 10:26-31. You frequently tend to give way too little credit to a woman's ability to find reasons to do things she doesn't want to do. No woman WANTS to change a baby's diapers o… | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/20 08:07 AM |
| 7 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexIf by "train wreck" you mean "mods and ECs have drastically improved their lives, marriages, and sex lives and are making more of a difference for the benefit of God's Kingdom than they were before," sure. In the meantime, trolling isn't permitted here - and yes, that rule does apply to you insofar as this sub is concerned. You're welcome to read, but your commenting rights are being revoked. | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/20 07:43 AM |
| 2 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexHaha, I had the same thought and would have replied as such if you hadn't already. | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/20 07:40 AM |
| 2 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexSpot on. | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 05:14 PM |
| 7 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexHysterical. The blogger uses the exact same mental gymnastics women use in order to avoid saying the church is feminized. So cute. | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/20 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.It's funny how riled up you get over a disagreement with a rando on the internet. You don't have to read any of this if it upsets you that much. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/06/20 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.Oooh, so you're a woman. I thought this sub was male only and was handling the conversation as such (u/bluepillprofessor - is that not the case?). Either way, what I'm hearing you say, then, is: "I don't like having sex with my husband, but he gets mad if I don't, and it's not worth it to fight him on it, so I agree. See? My abuse is real." You're literally affirming the exact point of my post. I also come from a place of believing: "Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/06/20 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.In most cases I've referenced, there's no evidence the person felt coerced at the time. It was regret after the fact, once divorce proceedings started, that caused them to recharacterize everything. Stop trying to white knight by pretending these cases are more credible than they are. I'm not taking these from some random third party. These are from my own cases that have mostly been tested in court. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/06/20 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.You're missing the point. What you're describing may be a form of coercion, but it isn't abuse and there's nothing unlawful about certain types of coercion, such as what you're describing. At the end of the day, if she didn't like it, she could leave and the laws will help her do it. "He gets angry and makes me lose sleep every now and then" v. "I'm being sexually abused/maritally raped" aren't even close to the same spectrum. You ask any woman: Would you rather be sexually abused and raped by y… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/06/20 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.This is true in most states. My mom did that to my dad. There's also an attorney I know who charges $1,000 just for an initial consult because he's so unethical that everyone wants to rule him out for the opposition while not hiring him themselves either. As a result, he earns $250,000 a year on initial consults alone, 90% of these people never hiring him. The strategy does backfire occasionally because if you get caught doing that the judges will consider it a sign of bad faith and dishonest ta… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/06/20 02:58 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)I've heard of apps for pay that will do this. We're still using freeware at this point. But if you have suggestions, we're open minded. | /r/RPChristians | 11/06/20 02:52 AM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)Contact u/r_horizon. He's helping with some of those things also, but his ambition for what he'd like to accomplish with all of this might require assistance on some stuff like that, which I'm otherwise incompetent to handle. I know /u/annaaerials has also been assisting with some of this stuff and just last night added a lot to the YouTube stuff, which was fantastic. The team of people helping with this kind of stuff is small right now, but could easily have room for growth as we keep putting o… | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 05:36 PM |
| 8 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)PHYSICAL 6'0". 230lbs. 19% BF (higher than a couple months ago). Current lifts are unknown; immediately before corona lock-down I was doing BP: 275 x5, OHP: 175 x 5, SQ: 335 x5, DL: 335 x5, Row (dumbells): 200 x5. All lifting (including body weight) has stopped pending work on the playground I'm building for my kids. I'm usually too exhausted to do much more once I'm done for the day (11-12hr days on weekends; 2-4hr days on weekdays after I'm done with work and feeding the kids dinner). On the p… | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 05:28 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)have you guys thought about doing a livestream on YT? Absolutely. I read at one point that you have to have 1k+ subscribers to qualify to do those. So, until we have that, it's not an option. We do intend to start having guest speakers come on fairly soon. I have some other fun ideas in the works. | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 04:46 PM |
| 2 | RPC Video ChatWorking on it. | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 03:15 PM |
| – | Need some dating advice...I thought I didn't need to put down things that didn't have anything to do with the question I'm stickying this so EVERYONE can see this PERFECT example of why stats are absolutely necessary on advice threads. Asking a theology question? Screw the stats. Advice? Mandatory. Period. Let's break this down. She would also like to, but one thing is holding her back: I'm going into law enforcement ... I am 5'7", 125lbs FTFY. /u/OsmiumZulu's advice to you is solid gold. He said pretty much everything I… | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 05:27 AM |
| 4 | Need some dating advice.../u/redwall92 is saying that you're DEERing to us about your scrawny physique before we even brought it up as an issue. Pre-emptive DEERing is worse than regular DEERing. If you know this is a problem, at least own it and accept the criticism when it comes. It's not a big deal, just remember for the future ;) | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 04:47 AM |
| 3 | Need some dating advice...This is a weird conversation. The answer should be quite obvious here: Decreasing abundance doesn't increase abundance mentality. Dumping a girl won't actually increase abundance or abundance mentality; it is a byproduct of what someone who already has an abundance mentality is willing to do if a woman turns out not to be a good candidate. Abundance mentality comes from a variety of other factors: A shotgun, rather than sniper approach Becoming the prize and knowing it Receiving IOIs Basically, … | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 04:44 AM |
| 1 | RPCC Episode 3: The State of MarriageUnfortunately, I sold my psych 101 book as soon as the class was over. I do know there are mixed opinions on the subject, but most people I know in person - especially those who like to zoom through podcasts, as /u/OsmiumZulu and I apparently do, affirm the conclusions of the study. I believe slower speech rates can assist in comprehension if you're working with children or people with generally low IQ who need lots of time to process information. Also, I've read that quantity of information aff… | /r/RPChristians | 09/06/20 06:39 PM |
| 2 | RPCC Episode 3: The State of MarriageI noticed the same thing. u/angusisin had me listening to a series on Revelation that was 29 episodes long, each over an hour. I started it at 1.5x speed and found it too fast, so I dropped to 1.25x. After about 15 minutes I put it back at 1.5x and had no problems, and the next episode and from then on, I was at 2x, which was the fastest the player supported. I've had to learn to keep my speech pacing down for the sake of the court reporter. At times, it sounds awkward in how I leave pseudo-inte… | /r/RPChristians | 09/06/20 06:26 PM |
| 3 | RPCC Episode 3: The State of MarriageFast talking isn't generally a problem. Most people's brains can process at 500 words per minute, whereas the average person talks at about 150 words per minute. I've read research studies that show people remember more from people who speak faster than slower, theorizing that they are filling the extra brain capacity, leaving less room for distraction and engaging the listener. | /r/RPChristians | 09/06/20 05:30 PM |
| – | Practical Ways to Become More MasculineI agree with /u/Deep_Strength about needing the Rule 2 information. This post is locked until edited to include that information. | /r/RPChristians | 07/06/20 07:44 AM |
| 3 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.WISNIFG Bill of Assertive Rights #4 - "You have the right to change your mind." Society thinks that once you make a statement, you're locked into that statement for the rest of your life. Changing your mind isn't an option. Do you know how many political leaders could have gotten out of a jam if they'd simply said, "Yeah, I did say that back then. I changed my mind because I'm smarter now." Done. My wife used to pull this crap on me. "But you said ... !" "So? I changed my mind." Done. No need to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/06/20 05:29 AM |
| 2 | A Complete Idiot's Guide to ConversationDang. I thought I was long! Good stuff though. I'm reminded of the conversation stack, which helped me early on. The idea is that it creates a series of pictures that follow through a general order of how to start a conversation and keep it going when you are otherwise unable to make it happen organically. Imagine a name plate. "Hi, I'm John. What's your name?" The name plate is on a house. "Where do you live?" or "What part of town are you from?" The house has a family inside. "Do you have any … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/06/20 05:22 AM |
| 1 | A Complete Idiot's Guide to ConversationAlways assume they do Indeed. This is my standard mode of operation. I've found that it's true about 95% of the time. As Blarg notes, there are rare occasions when someone legitimately doesn't want to talk, but even those are usually just a tact issue. The only examples I can truly think of where that's not the case are when people are sleeping or pressed for time and you can't help them. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/06/20 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.As expected, she is totally on board. I do not think it is unreasonable either. My own children do not live with my full time. I'll never understand guys who don't get this. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/06/20 07:23 AM |
| 2 | Actual Conversations With "Abuse" VictimsAgreed. | /r/RPChristians | 05/06/20 04:30 AM |
| 5 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.Solid. More to /u/ciscokid12345 - I usually advise my clients to have zero contact with the other party at all unless they've specifically run it through me first. In about 20% of my cases I'm holding back my client from making progress. In 80% it saves their butts. I'll take the 20% hit to avoid losing 80% of the time. People aren't as smart and tactful as they think they are. I do make exception for some of my extremely competent clients who I've already coached for some time. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/06/20 02:23 AM |
| 3 | Actual Conversations With "Abuse" VictimsI actually had 7. | /r/RPChristians | 05/06/20 02:17 AM |
| 3 | [60DOD] Week 8, Social Life [MRP]Intentionally leading someone on, sure. Per Romans 14, you can't biblically and rationally do that in a place coming from faith. But as long as you're acting in faith, you can't take personal responsibility for how others decide to feel about you. Too many guys feel like they owe an obligation toward other people on stuff like this. I'd lump it in the category of things churchianity teaches that aren't actually in Scripture anywhere, except for indirect connections that are never applied consist… | /r/RPChristians | 05/06/20 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.The first is absurd because "yes" means "yes" under any system. The only time there's an actual dispute is on whether or not "no" means "no" or "no" means "I'm playing hard to get, but I really want you to show your dominance by trying harder." The second is absurd because because it's obvious he didn't actually "make" her give blow jobs. She didn't feel like it, but decided to do it anyway because it was the path of least resistance for her over saying no. If he actually did "make" her, she wou… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/06/20 02:11 AM |
| 10 | Actual Conversations With "Abuse" VictimsRight. That's why I specified twice that actual abuse is real and I explicitly limited this post only to those issues where it was never substantiated so as not to conflate actual abuse with these other absurd remarks. | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 03:16 PM |
| 6 | Actual Conversations With "Abuse" VictimsNo, as I haven't revealed any personally identifiable information. | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 03:12 PM |
| 7 | Actual conversations with "abuse" victims.Admittedly, a couple of these things are from my own wife during our "dark years." Completely agreed on not letting them define you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/06/20 02:21 PM |
| 3 | RPC Video ChatGood idea. I'm really going to look into having someone else be responsible for video processing and uploading. Personally, I simply don't have the time and capacity to keep doing that every week. But I'll keep this in mind for whoever takes over. And if nobody takes over, I'm not sure exactly how long we'll keep this up! You'll notice very fast that video editing is not my strong suit. But I'm definitely encouraged that a few more conversations in, Dross decided to turn his video on and OZ put … | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 05:52 AM |
| 6 | RPC Video ChatWe definitely want to do that. It works best if we can do that through YouTube live, but that requires 1k subscribers to your channel first. We do plan in the very near future to start having uniquely authoritative guests join on the chats. | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 01:16 AM |
| 2 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?Exactly. | /r/askRPC | 03/06/20 05:00 PM |
| – | What is this subreddit about? I can’t figure it out based on the postsThis is more a post for r/askRPC. But yes, the answers are on the sidebar. | /r/RPChristians | 03/06/20 05:32 AM |
| 5 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?Are you suggesting that staying in a marriage in which you're unhappy is more sinful than divorce? I seriously am not getting where you're trying to go with this. Divorce is sin. Staying married, even in an unhappy situation, is not. Being defiant and spiteful toward your spouse because you cannot divorce him is also sin. A prenup can cover that kind of behavior too. | /r/askRPC | 03/06/20 05:27 AM |
| 4 | How to create sexual tension/make conversations man-to-woman as a Christian?How to create sexual tension ...? and ... Reading : first 5-6 posts on RPC sidebar You're asking the question too early here, brother. I appreciate wanting to skip ahead to what you think are the fun parts, but you have to lay the foundation first. | /r/askRPC | 03/06/20 02:25 AM |
| 4 | [60DOD] Week 8, Social LifeIt's gotta be a priority. Exactly. The "when you move someplace new" is me right now. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/20 02:19 AM |
| 3 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?From a secular viewpoint that prioritizes feelings over godliness, what you're saying makes perfect sense. | /r/askRPC | 02/06/20 06:45 PM |
| 5 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?I advise all of my clients to have a provision that obligates a wife suspected of adultery to drink from a clay jar filled with holy water mixed with dust from a tabernacle floor. Seriously, though, I don't ever look to the Mosaic law for dealing with non-ancient-Israelites. I do recommend basic stuff: Consequences to infidelity that would affect support or property division. Consequences to concealment of asset that would affect property division or claims of separate property. Consequences for… | /r/askRPC | 02/06/20 05:38 AM |
| 3 | How should Christian men seeking to marry respond to women guilty of fornication claiming that males using porn is the same thing?Matthew 5:28 says a man is guilty of adultery in his heart if he lusts inappropriately. It DOESN'T say that all the other negative impacts of fornication are also imputed to him. So, watching porn and riding the CC are like apples and oranges. They're simply not the same and should not be placed on the same level. Now, if a girl actually researches the effects of pornography and fornication and how they are distinct from one another, and concludes, "I've slept around, so I'll take a guy who slee… | /r/askRPC | 01/06/20 08:55 PM |
| 1 | When do you realize it is the right person?You sound like a woman. Are you a woman? Sure, you said "(M21)" but I'm not convinced. "Do you go with your gut FEELINGS?" "Do you have to FEEL strong connection?" "We both have FUN. But when we go on a first date ... [the fun FEELING is] just not there." "No super magical moments FEELINGS we would be really EXCITED from." Because for a long time I haven't FEEL any super romantic EMOTIONS whatsoever." Did you even read what you wrote? Emotions are an awful metric to go by. They're fickle and cha… | /r/RPChristians | 01/06/20 07:07 PM |
| – | Pre-marraige sexualityWhile this is an interesting question, I'd prefer you re-post it on r/RPCWomen and r/askRPC. Thanks! | /r/RPChristians | 01/06/20 05:10 PM |
| 12 | What are your views on prenups with Christianity?I'm a divorce attorney. I HATE the "prenups are planning your divorce" argument because it's absolutely false. It's really the opposite. Since no fault divorce became virtually universal, the default laws of most states encourage divorce, making it easy and painless to get divorced. Prenups add consequences to get divorced, making it less likely that either party will want to. The deterrents usually include things like penalties for cheating on the other spouse, filing without just cause, financ… | /r/askRPC | 01/06/20 05:09 PM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)I am terrified of going to hell Have you read 307 - Assurance of Salvation yet? Assurance of salvation: 5/10 I just don't know What you're describing is more like a 1 or 2. It sounds like the base knowledge of the Gospel is there, and you may actually be saved, but you lack the capacity to be secure in this. And here's why ... Mission: First to set my own life into order. Mainly get myself in routine including a healthy sleep, exercise and study schedule. Overcoming my extremely introverted natu… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 05:33 AM |
| 2 | How do I stop being a nice guy?On the spectrum of nice to jerk, most Christians stay far on the nice side because it's more socially acceptable than being a jerk. But both extremes are destructive. The thing is, if you've been on the nice side for too long, you have to live on the jerk side for a while before you can figure out how to find balance - otherwise you're going to end up being slightly less nice, but feeling like a jerk and thinking you're done, while still being pathetic. So, go be a jerk for a while. You can do t… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 04:16 AM |
| 3 | Response to "Why Men Hate Going to Church"You're seriously going to mince words on that? "He used a dog as a metaphor to represent a woman." That better? | /r/RPChristians | 26/05/20 01:22 AM |
| 9 | FR: Potty Train Your ToddlerFantastic. While you didn't lay it out as clearly, this reminds me of the same process of 208 and /u/chaddownunder's recent post ... I talked my wife through what I was going to do You told her what. I just asked her to watch while I give it a go. You showed her how. I took on the role of mentor and instructor, teaching my son how to use the potty and teaching my wife how to potty train a toddler You let her try. By Sunday night, my wife was equipped, empowered, and ready to pickup where I left … | /r/RPChristians | 22/05/20 05:45 AM |
| 2 | r/RPCWomen is now active.I'm not active enough there. But I do encourage you or others to do so :) | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/20 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Some good news and some questionsWhat makes me curious here is why you replied to a 3 month old comment? Haha. I'd completely forgotten about this post. Either way, if you don't like what someone has to say, just STFU and move on. No sense arguing with internet strangers, unless you feel like you have something to prove to them or you want to learn from them and the "argument" is more about fleshing out different angles of the conversation. | /r/askRPC | 21/05/20 05:09 PM |
| – | Women are the beloved creation of Gods hand before they are temptation to youI thought about removing this thread for the blatantly unbiblical view it expresses, but maybe there's more value in leaving it up and just locking it instead. Before doing so, though, let's clear up some things ... Looking at someone with lustful intent It's amazing to me how many people call "lust" or even "lustful intent" a sin. Have you not read Matthew 5? Is it wrong for me to lust after my own wife? Of course not. Let's quote Jesus: "Anyone who lusts ... has committed adultery in his heart… | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/20 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Women are the beloved creation of Gods hand before they are temptation to youLet's be clear. Lusting isn't a sin. Lusting after a woman who isn't your wife is adultery and adultery is a sin. There is no sin of "lust" in the Bible. As I've often noted, Romans 14 is pretty clear that "nothing is unclean in itself." Rather, it's the context and motive that makes a thing unclean. Is murder a sin? We have to look at what murder is. "Killing with malicious intent." Killing is an act. Malicious intent is the context in which it's performed. Killing is not sin - God ordered peop… | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/20 04:06 AM |
| 4 | Introduction and OYS #1At first I thought you wrote it, haha. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 11:16 PM |
| 4 | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?Imminently. I just have to write the announcement post. I will not be a huge content creator there, myself, but I'll participate from time to time. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 10:11 PM |
| 10 | Leading your wife in Scripture MemoryI can't up-vote this hard enough, brother. EXCELLENT break-down of the intersection between discipleship and marriage/dating. I'm adding this to the sidebar series. (Here) | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 09:07 PM |
| 1 | What is the Christian right's future in American politics?Agreed. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 06:51 PM |
| 1 | What is the Christian right's future in American politics?the government isn't the one calling the shots. It's people with enough money I disagree here, at least on the political level. The rich have influence over their own sphere. But the government is influenced by the rich on both sides of the line. There are countless liberal rich people and conservative rich people who are lobbying for conflicting results. Do you think Trump, as rich as he was, had much influence over Obama? Or do you think the fact that he didn't have much political sway during … | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?Haha. I'll think on it, but I don't want to encourage too much fundamentalism. If liberal theology is one extreme, fundamentalism is the other. The truth is much closer to fundamentalism, but fundamentalists generally have very, very wrong interpretations about the way the OT is to be understood and applied, which is made clear by the NT quite directly. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 06:06 PM |
| 5 | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?I added a sticky comment, part of which notes that if any women want flair, we'll give it to them. It just won't be an endorsement on this sub - more for gender identification purposes, hence u/Willow-girl self-identifying as "participation trophy wife" or u/humectantmenace asking to be titled "Christian Nympho." I would not be opposed to adding an "RPCWomen Endorsed" flair for women who prove their value to the female community. Someone like u/g_e_m_anscombe would have been ripe for that type o… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 04:47 PM |
| 3 | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?I've thought about giving you a "hardcore fundamentalist" flair from time to time. Not sure if that would work for you or against you, so I've refrained. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 04:43 PM |
| – | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?Thanks for posting this, brother. I want to clarify that being endorsed here isn't purely about reliability to the rest of the community, though that's definitely its primary function. It also determines the pool of people we select from for other projects. Examples of "other projects" include: Giving one-on-one attention for phone calls/zoom meetings to discuss important issues related to the sub, personal life, etc. I have on a couple occasions hosted small groups online, and when we set these… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 04:32 PM |
| 6 | Who should you listen to on RPChristians?His flair specifies that he's an "MRP Mod" and therefore his endorsement is to the degree of his familiarity with MRP. That said, even endorsed contributors get things wrong sometimes and shouldn't be relied upon blindly. There are things I've written on this sub that were off-base and should be modified, including in some of the sidebar content. Always test what anyone says. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 03:55 PM |
| – | Christians who have used the dating site E harmony, what was your experience like?This is a post for r/askRPC. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 03:23 PM |
| – | What is the Christian right's future in American politics?I'm removing this temporarily. You haven't done enough to explain the content. We removed the option to give link posts for a reason. If you want to post a link, that's fine, but you've got to summarize what we'll hear so that people can engage without actually having to click on the link if they don't want to. Too many people will not actually watch the video. I don't want discussion confused between those who did and those who didn't. What are the main points in the video? Add that to your pos… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 03:22 PM |
| 0 | What is the Christian right's future in American politics?What you're describing is called, by some, "missional communities" (a term that's expanded to mean other things too, as of late). The goal here, of course, shouldn't be to create political change because Jesus never intended the church to be a political kingdom on earth. That's what made Catholicism go so cockeyed. They tried to become a political force and lost track of the spiritual nature of God's Kingdom. Do you really want to repeat their mistake? Let human governments do what they will. We… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 03:20 PM |
| 1 | What is the Christian right's future in American politics?I blame the country less for it and more the church for getting lax at best and scared to upset someone at worst Oh ... you mean because the men who run it have lost their masculinity? You're describing a beta - passive and always in someone else's frame. This is why biblical masculinity is so critical today - and always has been. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Is marrige worth it?I'm a divorce attorney. I have drafted many prenups. I've also shredded many that other attorneys drafted. So yes, if a crappy attorney does it, it's worthless. I've never had any of mine be discarded by the court. And no, she doesn't have to keep her job. She just has to keep current on her credentials to qualify for the job. The will can impute income to someone who isn't working at capacity. If she quits, file for legal separation instead of divorce. It splits the financial entanglement under… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 02:08 PM |
| 4 | Does Man Really Findeth A Wife?You should check the whole sidebar. It's all recommended reading, not just the ones that get specifically named. | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 02:00 PM |
| 2 | A Quick Reminder about Women's CompetencyRight on. There are differences, for sure. But there's no sense throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Take what's valuable and leave the rest. | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 08:38 PM |
| 6 | Does Man Really Findeth A Wife?They're usually spoken of as being mutually exclusive because most men commit so much time and emotional energy into dating/relationships that it becomes a distraction from your mission. On the sidebar I wrote a 2-part post on "How to Find the Girl You Can't Keep Yourself from Banging." In it, I explain how you can simultaneously explore interest in women without compromising your mission. The problem is when you prioritize that search over your mission, which is where most men go wrong. | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 08:32 PM |
| 12 | Response to "Why Men Hate Going to Church"I thought about removing this post, but there's enough value in the comments to keep it up. I could do a point-by-point analysis about why this guy's response is chock full of half-truths, but /u/RedPillWonder and others have already done some of that. I agree with /u/DeChef2 that all the ways he's wrong isn't really the point. The point here is that YOU are deferring responsibility to someone else. This is why I tell guys not to read commentaries when they are learning to study the Bible. Yeah,… | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 07:26 PM |
| 4 | Is marrige worth it?Don't have kids, use a prenup. Do both of those and you'll be fine. Alternatively, only marry a woman who earns as much as you or more. That's the other easy way to avoid divorce rape. | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 02:18 PM |
| – | How do I approach my husband about this issue?"HOLY TINTINNABULATION, BATMAN!" The comments in this post are sending off all kinds of alarms. It's like the bloops were chomping at the bit for an opportunity to play white knight for the damsel in distress against the mean, evil husband ... despite not knowing his side of the story, which OP respectfully pointed out in the comments. I'm truly shocked at the advice given in this thread. So many people are quick to hop on the "communication" bandwagon. Seriously? Do you all really believe that … | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/20 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Is marrige worth it?I do agree with you on this comment. If a guy feels like paying for a date, what's the harm in him expressing generosity? Yes, she may use and abuse his generosity for a quick meal, then ghost him. But that's kind of the point of generosity: you're doing it without expectation of anything in return, not because you demand she spend at least the next x months at your side or because you're trying to buy her affection that simply wasn't there. I'm more concerned with the fundamental compulsion of … | /r/RPChristians | 18/05/20 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Is marrige worth it?Is marrige worth it? Yes. Your answer here shocks me in the face of 1 Cor. 7 and Matthew 19, where Jesus and Paul both say that it's better not to be married if you can avoid it. I don't see any way to interpret this than as a de facto way of saying, "The benefits of marriage are not worth the cost of marriage." Even though marriage is recommended in the case of one who cannot remain sexually pure, it's still phrased as, "The one who marries does good, but the one who does not marry does better.… | /r/RPChristians | 18/05/20 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Is marrige worth it?I can obviously only speak to my own jurisdiction, but our office did have a case where the parties specifically avoided filing a marriage certificate with the state, thinking this would protect them. They remained together for 25 years. They had a ceremony in their church about 10 years into the relationship (again, with no marriage certificate). The wife filed for divorce. The husband moved to have the complaint dismissed for lack or jurisdiction over a non-marital relationship. The wife prese… | /r/RPChristians | 18/05/20 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Is marrige worth it?Is marriage worth it? No. Paul says in 1 Cor. 7 that it is better not to be married. Jesus also says in Matthew 19 that if you have the ability to avoid marriage, you should. This is definitive biblical evidence proving that being married is NOT better than being single. The only exception in Scripture is if you can't keep your pants on, then you're better off marrying than having extramarital sex - and there's nothing wrong with this. Yes, you make a sacrifice by tying yourself to another perso… | /r/RPChristians | 18/05/20 10:12 PM |
| 4 | How do I approach my husband about this issue?Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel Followed by quoting: they may be won over WITHOUT words by the behavior of their wives Huh? | /r/RPChristians | 18/05/20 06:18 PM |
| 7 | How do I approach my husband about this issue?Please make your comments in a single comment. Clogging the thread with 4 different comments won't be permitted going forward. If you think of something after you make your original comment, except in rare circumstances, just hit the "edit" button and update your original comment. | /r/RPChristians | 18/05/20 06:04 PM |
| 1 | How to evaluate sexuality compatibility as a Christian with no pre-marital sex and only chaste behaviorShe and I were both taught FAT in a ministry we were both part of. I added the S. But yes, she's well aware of these traits. | /r/RPChristians | 15/05/20 07:25 AM |
| 19 | How to evaluate sexuality compatibility as a Christian with no pre-marital sex and only chaste behaviorThere is certainly value in this list. The one caution I'd give is that AWA still LT. If you become unattractive, whatever "compatibility" you think you had will go down the drain. More to the point: women are often intentionally deceptive, especially when it comes to the lure of their sexuality before marriage. They will make promises that they will not keep (even if they actually intended to at the time). For those of you who know my story, I'm a prime example of that - and I've met many other… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 02:53 AM |
| 4 | Why an Adulterous Nation Seeks After a SignWell said, friend. I'm surprised you didn't delve into the adultery angle a bit more, which would have connected the dots a bit more clearly. As /u/DeChef2 noted, looking for a sign doesn't make you an adulterer; but people who already are adulterers are the ones who will ask for one. In this case, the Pharisees had abandoned God - their first spouse - for legalistic practices and "rules taught by men," along with their lust for the power that came with their position. They were looking for the … | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/20 05:59 PM |
| 4 | Why an Adulterous Nation Seeks After a SignThis guy gets it! | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/20 05:48 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with irreconcilable differences of opinion on very serious issuesAt the launch of my drunk captain phase Okay, so this isn't a current situation. I feel like the same dynamic keeps playing out in my life, and I keep making the same mistakes. Why not tell us about the current mistakes? Don't get so hung up on how you handled something in the past that you can't change. Ask about the current problems and how you're handling them now that you should know better. | /r/askMRP | 13/05/20 05:39 AM |
| 12 | Being a servant sexy?Agreed. Also, churchianity is so hung up on looking for opportunities to serve. But how often do we see Jesus telling his disciples, "Let's go find someone to serve today!"? It doesn't happen. Jesus primarily helps those people along his path who are in need and who call out to him. I don't support the "let's go out of our way to find service opportunities" approach. Instead, I see Jesus out making disciples, and his drive to do so brought him across so many people in need that his compassion ca… | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/20 04:31 AM |
| 6 | Christian 'Red Pill' booksWhat do you hold as the Red Pill standard? I'm not sure I understand the question. My Defining the Red Pill for Christians post might address what you're asking. The principals you just spoke about or marriage principals in the Bible? The red pill is not religious. When people say things like "the Bible is the true red pill," they're speaking colloquially, not intending to redefine a secular term. The red pill is understood by the broader community to be "the truth," whatever that may be. Howeve… | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 08:41 PM |
| 11 | Christian 'Red Pill' books/u/Deep_Strength wrote one - and that's about the closest you'll find on the market. I know there's one other out there somewhere, but I haven't read it and the link is buried somewhere in our content history. You have to be careful with calling books on biblical masculinity the same as "red pill." There may be some overlap, but they are still separate venn diagrams, and many authors on masculinity get a lot of things wrong. Consider ... Biblical Masculinity Books: Talk about being strong, leade… | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 05:20 PM |
| 1 | What is your opinion on women who have had a breast reduction?No asking for pics. | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 05:01 PM |
| – | What is your opinion on women who have had a breast reduction?These are the types of posts that belong in r/askRPC. It's a question worth discussing. But it's not substantive enough for the main page. | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 04:49 PM |
| 5 | Discovered an inappropriate relationshipIf I wasn't responsible for this community I would. But if you're going to teach something unbiblical that ultimately advances cultural ideologies of churchianity, I have an obligation to pull things back to a Scriptural foundation. You have made no effort to even try. At best, you're just arrogant and misguided. At worst, you're here to troll. | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 04:15 AM |
| 3 | Discovered an inappropriate relationshipYou're missing the point. I didn't say it was a good idea. I'm simply challenging your contention that feeeeeeeling a certain way toward someone is somehow sinful. That's the same logic that makes guys constantly beat their heads over a wall every time they get a hard-on. | /r/RPChristians | 12/05/20 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Discovered an inappropriate relationshipSure. But Jesus also judged the pharisees pretty harshly for adding rules and laws that weren't from God. So, if you have a biblical basis for saying that "Emotional intimacy with anyone of the opposite sex is cheating" - knowing full well that people will interpret "cheating" as synonymous with "adultery" - then you'd better back that up. Or if you mean something different by "cheating" and that your view of "cheating" is that it's not actually sin at all, then explain that. Or maybe you don't … | /r/RPChristians | 11/05/20 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Discovered an inappropriate relationshipThat's not at all apparent from your comment and the context of his frequent references to initiating divorce. | /r/RPChristians | 11/05/20 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Discovered an inappropriate relationshipI suppose this is where one's views on exist soteriology actually matters. Some believe you can go in and out of salvation, which would be akin to a couple getting divorced and remarried a number of times (most I've seen in my career is 5; 2-3 is common). Others believe that you can't lose your salvation at all. That is, once you're one with Christ, you're one forever. The "never really saved in the first place" card can't be played when translating this to human marriages because there are extr… | /r/RPChristians | 11/05/20 07:59 AM |
| 2 | Discovered an inappropriate relationshipAre you suggesting that talking and laughing with an attractive person of the opposite sex is adultery? Yikes! I guess I've committed adultery a number of times then. Obviously that's not the case. Yet this is about how most people characterize the "emotional affair." Emotional affairs are not a concept in Scripture. Covetous lust is equated with adultery. Not feeling any particular emotion. | /r/RPChristians | 11/05/20 07:46 AM |
| 5 | Discovered an inappropriate relationshipRealistically, you can't legally kick her out, even if he owns the place outright. The cops won't enforce trespassing laws on a resident who hasn't left of their own vocation. In many jurisdictions, you can't evict your spouse - you have to be divorced first. The alternative is, of course, to file for legal separation instead of divorce, then have the court issue a temporary order on a motion to vacate the premises. However, if she has substantially less means to move out than he does, it's prob… | /r/RPChristians | 11/05/20 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Frame Fail?Right now my immediate mission is just to be the best man, husband, father I can be This is fine in the immediacy. Long-term, you're going to need more than this. If you stay on this path too long, you're going to end up having your life defined by their expectations. If your "mission" (if you can call it that) is defined by your relational context to them ("husband, father"), then it's too easy to slip into letting them have too much influence in directing how you live your life. https://www.re… | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/20 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Frame Fail?You don't have to try to keep up with me because that also includes loving you, understanding you, and honoring you as best I can as the Bible says. I'm not sure I'd say this. It over-affirms and gives the impression that she doesn't need to follow because he'll always be good to her no matter how nasty she becomes to him. I'd word this: "The things God has called me to do will always have a role for a wife to help me fulfill." This lets her know that she will always have a role in his life, but… | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/20 01:47 AM |
| 4 | Starting, Developing, and Evolving HobbiesI love this post, brother. Very well done. In no particular order, some of my hobbies include ... (1) Reading/Writing (including reddit) I chat with other writers I use it to advance my mission It's a fun, creative outlet (especially when I write fiction) (2) Lifting/Running I usually do it with other people, making it socially engaging It's a fantastic time to parent my children and have deeper, more stimulating conversations It provides internal confidence and physical stimulation, as well as … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/20 05:20 PM |
| 1 | What’s up fellas. Would love to hear your thoughts. I am also a strong believer.Removed. Please don't do link posts. Just copy/paste the text into a new post here so it doesn't redirect people. | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/20 03:57 PM |
| 14 | Why You Must Be Willing to Nuke Your Nuclear FamilySolid post, brother. I didn't get this for the longest time. I remember my first ever post on askMRP (6/26/17) making the comment that "divorce is not an option for me" and getting reamed for it. Initially, I ignored those comments on the principle that "they just don't understand my Christian faith." Truth was: it didn't matter if you all understood it or not. The cold, hard truth is the cold, hard truth. So, 2.5 months later (8/15/17), after sufficiently eating my ego on that point, I ended up… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/20 05:23 AM |
| 6 | Why You Must Be Willing to Nuke Your Nuclear FamilyThis reminds me of a comment u/redpillcoach once made to one of my field reports: STFU, smile, and nod. That set her off: "You're so manipulative. You have this power over me. It's all one big power play and you're just flaunting that you have all the power. I hate it. You know I have no power over you, but when you just stand there like that, it's like you're waving all your power in front of my face." I think I just came. Sorry, what was that? Something about you having all the power and the w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/20 04:51 AM |
| 3 | How is one to navigate as a biblical masculine man in a female-dominated workspaceFor discipleship specifically, The Lost Art of Discipleship, by LeRoy Eims (referenced on the sidebar) and my book (also referenced on the sidebar) are the two I point people toward up-front. There are many other good ones, but those are great primers. The others out there tend to be tangential and less on-topic, or they muddle their definition of discipleship to veer away from what Jesus actually did. | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/20 09:17 PM |
| – | A biblical sex commentary./u/Deep_Strength has a book on the subject. Our sidebar here also has pulled together a lot of content like what you're describing and put it in readily readable format. While I have put it on hold for some time, I have a book in the works that I will be returning to soon. This content is certainly out there. I know there are plenty of other Christian manosphere authors as well. Some of them are more reliable than others. Just take a look around. That said, I have no idea how reliable you are, s… | /r/askRPC | 04/05/20 08:53 PM |
| 13 | How is one to navigate as a biblical masculine man in a female-dominated workspaceJesus lived in a pretty depraved society too. The Romans were chock full of false idols. Prostitution was commonplace. After his ascent, the apostles lived in a time when the government was ordering the execution of all Christians and literally hunting down and killing the Jews. Imagine them asking that same question: Can I really call myself a man following God if I see all these things and do nothing? The thing is: they were doing something. They were doing exactly what Jesus did and told them… | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/20 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Roosh V on Jessie Lee PetersonRight on. | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/20 08:35 PM |
| 3 | Roosh V on Jessie Lee PetersonYes | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/20 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Roosh V on Jessie Lee PetersonBe careful to balance this view with 1 Cor. 9. | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/20 06:52 AM |
| 4 | Roosh V on Jessie Lee PetersonRemember how many scientists made fascinating discoveries in the 70s because they went on LSD and it caused them to set aside their preconceived notions and come to very real conclusions about how to proceed with their work? | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/20 06:46 AM |
| – | Single church groupThis is more appropriate for r/askRPC. Removed. | /r/RPChristians | 02/05/20 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Idealism and Opportunism are not sex specificboth are what we would call blue pill idols ... For women, it's creating an image of a Prince Charming (that no man can meet) Right - but why does any woman want a prince charming? Because he's always rich, gives her all kinds of emotional validation, treats her like a queen/princess, etc. But even in the Disney fairy tales, why does prince charming like her back? Certainly not for what she brings to the table. She's just pretty ... but far be it from Disney to sexualize that attraction, so it c… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Idealism and Opportunism are not sex specificWell said. I obviously missed that when I watched them a decade ago. I keep waiting for my son to be old enough. | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 08:22 AM |
| 1 | About to file for divorceHe did put it up. It didn't have the issues I was expecting. I mostly agree with what he says, though there are certainly some differences in our underlying framework for understanding it all. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and filled in the gaps. | /r/askMRP | 01/05/20 08:21 AM |
| 2 | Every Christian Man's MissionI'm a little disappointed ... after our prior discussion, I was expecting this to be something I'd disagree with and we could start a fascinating conversation on mission ;) This is all good stuff - and I greatly appreciate the references to back it all up. A few things to think about ... Jesus told his followers their Mission - To make disciples of all nations ... Mark 16:15 Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation I'm a bit surprised you didn't use the more obvious Matthew 28… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 08:17 AM |
| 3 | Is working out THAT important to find a potential spouse.Lots of comments here - but no one has hit on this yet. Look at the arena you're working with. Adam is obese. He's a 1/10. Let's say his entire immediate social network of people he might brush shoulders with involves 10,000 women in a given year. Maybe he has 100 women who would give him the time of day ... out of ten thousand. He doesn't know which those 100 are. Good luck, Adam. Bob has a male-model body with chiseled abs. He's a 9.5/10 - not just physically, but on the whole in how women eva… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 06:39 AM |
| 3 | Is working out THAT important to find a potential spouse.I'll ditto all of this, but especially emphasize your first point, as it's pure gold - and a concept that I haven't iterated on here in a long while. You just need to change one word: It may be possible for you to be fat and still attract persuade a good looking Christian woman with beta game. She's not attracted. It's an intellectual game at that point. As others have said and is commonly known: women are told to marry for spiritual maturity, not looks. They aren't attracted to such guys, but b… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 06:07 AM |
| 2 | Is working out THAT important to find a potential spouse.Spot on. And this is why we see so many "good Christian women" who somehow magically forgot about 2 Cor. 6:14 for a few years, then suddenly rediscovered it when they decided being married to a non-Christian guy was far more disruptive to their faith than they expected. Go figure. | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 06:04 AM |
| 2 | Is working out THAT important to find a potential spouse.Working out is not about attracting women. This. The same act can be done in the female frame or in your own frame. Guys need to figure that out. If a guy doesn't want to lift, he doesn't have to. That can be part of his frame. But don't be surprised if your weak body results in having a weak frame because you don't get the psychological benefits of lifting ... or that your weak body doesn't get you the results you want. So yeah, you can be in your own garbage frame that nobody else wants anythi… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 06:02 AM |
| 2 | Idealism and Opportunism are not sex specificThis is an extremely polarized post for me. When I first started reading, I thought, "This needs to go up on the sidebar, it's so good!" But then there were other parts that seemed off. "if we look to Jesus we see that He initiates but does not pursue" I don't know why I've had a hard time putting this so succinctly. I've had long conversations around this concept with guys (and girls) who just don't seem to get it. This puts it EXTREMELY well. men generally don't ask out and pursue women that t… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Refreshing words and an encouragement to start conversationsWho says I'm afraid or encourage anyone else to be? | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/20 12:43 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/20)I use an Excel spreadsheet. I'm actually studying Daniel right now too. Interested in a zoom call? I can walk you through how to do all this. Chapter 7 will throw you for a loop too. I'd be interested in your thoughts when you get there. | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/20 06:29 PM |
| 3 | About to file for divorceJust seeing this. You're correct here - Jesus was internally validated, not externally. He did not pine over whether or not some guy would follow him. He had abundance, knowing if he kept doing his thing, people would join him. He even commented at one point that if nobody else would do it, "the rocks would cry out." Yeah, he did specifically call people to follow him, and that's fine too. But the imperative was not merely to "go spread the word." It was to "make disciples." In short, he's sayin… | /r/askMRP | 29/04/20 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Refreshing words and an encouragement to start conversationsNone of the above. I generally avoid labels like these as much as possible because most of my views don't align very well with any of the labels I've seen. It'd look more like an incredibly complex multi-part venn diagram all over the place. If you have specific questions, feel free to ask them. | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/20 06:36 AM |
| 9 | Is it worth it?It takes two to argue. So how are they happening often if you're STFU? You sound very in her frame too. You care too much about what she thinks and "keeping the peace." How fluent are you with amused mastery? It helps you enjoy the tension rather than being stressed out by it. Some people hate the pressure of tip-toeing around egg shells. Others find it a fun game to see how long they can go before cracking them. My 4yr old is the type of person who would stomp all over them just to watch them c… | /r/askMRP | 29/04/20 03:17 AM |
| 2 | No / Bad Sex - Always His Fault?Body fat - doesn't have to be super accurate. Most online tools just ask for a few quick measurements and you can get a ballpark within a % or so. But if you're 22% or 9% - that's a huge difference that matters. his mentality (of automatically assuming that it must be the man's fault no matter what) Show me where he communicated this mentality. Quote me the exact words he used. | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 09:50 PM |
| 6 | No / Bad Sex - Always His Fault?How fluent are you with the concept of frame? | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 09:32 PM |
| 4 | No / Bad Sex - Always His Fault?Frame issue, much? This validates my comment in this thread about your lack of frame. Chill out. He's just pointing out the obvious. If you're not charting your progress on significant matters, why should we assume you're actually making good progress? There's a reason these things are REQUIRED by the sidebar for these types of posts. Lots of what you're discussing is addressed by the exact literature he referenced. More to the point: putting words in his mouth that he didn't say, then calling h… | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 09:30 PM |
| 13 | No / Bad Sex - Always His Fault?Been there, done that. In worse of a context than you're describing. I had the same questions and concerns you did. Turns out AWALT, even my special snowflake of a wife that even MRP guys told me was an outlier. So, is there a possibility that she has a problem? Of course. Is it possible that many Christian women have psychological issues about sex being dirty, shameful, or taboo, and that this causes unhealthy sex lives in marriage? Absolutely. My wife had these exact problems and deep-seated p… | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone seen dynamics change latelyI do believe it's pretty well established that you cannot emulate whoever's body type you want. Not everyone can look like Dwayne Johnson, no matter how much they lift, or even dope. Maximize your body type. There was a research study done a few years back on this exact issue. Granted, it focused on college students, so take that for what you will. But the results were clear: women always preferred a muscular-looking man over a weak-looking man, even if the muscle brought extra fat with it. Of c… | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 06:17 PM |
| 4 | BiblicalGenderRoles.comI've seen some of their stuff. I'm not a fan. I'd probably agree with /u/OsmiumZulu - there's probably some value in reading alternative viewpoints, even if they're wrong, because you're probably already reading a ton of wrong viewpoints on the other side anyway. Better to balance yourself out if the truth is somewhere in the middle. It's like saying you're a political moderate, but refusing to watch any news source other than CNN. You claim you can see how liberal it is, and therefore think you… | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Are there some worship songs you enjoy?Very encouraging to hear! | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 02:07 PM |
| 4 | Am I in the right place?If mega churches didn't have a constant barrage of new faces each week, I'd agree with you, to some extent. But since when is the easier path the best path? I have had no problem turning around my image with others. I'm not sure why that would be so objectionable. | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 02:06 PM |
| 3 | Are there some worship songs you enjoy?u/ChadDownUnder hooked me on Keith Green for a while. Yeah, he's old, but check some of these lyrics: Well, you speak of grace and my love so sweet How you thrive on milk, but reject my meat. And I can't help weeping at how it will be If you keep on ignoring my words. Well, you pray to prosper and succeed But your flesh is something I just can't feed ... I want hearts of fire, not your prayers of ice. And I'm coming quickly to give back to you According to what you have done. (To Obey is Better … | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 07:39 AM |
| 14 | Am I in the right place?everyone there will only ever see me as the beta billy I used to be I hate to break it to you: if you're worried about how everyone sees you, you're still beta billy. This probably deserves a post/video sometime, but this idea that your historical impression in someone else's mind is a hindrance to you is 99% psycological. You've put yourself in a box that you're unwilling to break out of because of what people will think of you. It's self-generated pressure to conform to previous patterns in yo… | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 06:46 AM |
| 2 | Can’t stop disrespecting women.Right. Plus the fact that /u/lilrobin50 had no problem writing in proper English without the use of ebonics. Most writers are encouraged to "write the way you speak" to make it flow more naturally. OP, try speaking the way you write. That's not to say you should give up ebonics in every scenario. But you do need to know how to communicate in an effective manner to accomplish your goals. If your goal is to build relationships for Christ among those who speak in ebonics, then speak ebonics with th… | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 05:48 AM |
| – | Do you think the pandemic, is the foundation for the mark of the beast?This is a question for askRPC, not here. Also, I'm a preterist (partial, leaning full). The beast/antichrist are a thing of the past, so no sense looking forward to any of that. For further reading: https://revelationrevolution.org/ Feel free to repost on r/askRPC | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Do you think the pandemic, is the foundation for the mark of the beast?This. | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 03:37 AM |
| 6 | Has anyone seen dynamics change latelyAre you lifting? That might explain why women are being nicer. | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Is compatibility essential (or even useful!) in a marriage? No, not really.Right. My point is that compatibility in itself is a myth. Consider ... Birds of a feather flock together /// Opposites attract So are "birds of a feather" more compatible or are opposites more compatible? There's really NO usable pragmatic definition of "compatibility" to base a relationship off of because everyone is going to have a different theory of compatibility. | /r/RPChristians | 28/04/20 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Question about my youth groupRight. TRP was born out of PUA discussions, but the MRAs, PUAs, MRPs, and TRPs all splintered in different directions. | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Question about my youth groupI don't think being married and being red-pill are at odds with one another Why would they be? There's an entire sub, which is where this sub was primarily born from: r/marriedredpill. Check it out. I see red-pill more of a lens into our animalistic nature. The natural world. For the secular crowd, that may be true. They are looking at the way God created humanity and learning from observing it. At RPC, "the red pill" is the exact same "truth" that the secular crowd is uncovering through observa… | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 08:07 PM |
| 3 | Teacher reflections on behaviour managementIf I were writing to a group of trained psychologists, then yes, I would have worded this differently. The same behaviors can be classified as either punishment or negative reinforcement, depending on the context of how they're being used. I don't think that distinction is particularly relevant here, as parenting involves both getting kids to stop bad behaviors and start good behaviors. The long-term study I referenced was focused primarily on looking at the overall success of children who were … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/20 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Question about my youth grouphttps://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/wiki/glossary | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Question about my youth groupIt is not "area dependent." As I've commented before: there are no red pill congregations that I'm aware of. Too many people think that a congregation is "red pill" just because they preach biblical headship. Even the congregations that do preach this often don't have a flock whose marriages follow it - or they pay lip service to headship in the Bible, but teach practices of living out headship that completely undermine what the Bible means by it - such as "happy wife, happy life" as a framework… | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Is compatibility essential (or even useful!) in a marriage? No, not really.Read the verses around that. She's asking, "Why won't you give me a child?" If they were sleeping together, she'd know it's a pointless question. More likely, her infertility was a cause of tension that interfered with their sexuality. This is made clearer from the timing of the conversation, being more than enough time after everyone would have known about Rachel's infertility. Also, she throws her servant at him, as if to say, "Fine, if you won't keep trying to impregnate me because you think … | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 06:46 AM |
| 1 | So, what if you're into military type men?I'll give this caution: men are men, whether they're in the military or not. Each one is still an individual, and each one has the same attraction triggers. Each one is going to have their own plate of issues - and they're going to be different from one military guy to the next, though some may overlap from time to time. You might find military guys more susceptible to things like PTSD and highly controlling behaviors - which is fine if that's your gig. But don't exchange the CONCEPT of a milita… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Choosing and Developing HobbiesThis is an excellent start. I recommend taking it down, I can give you a few pointers, and then you put it up on RPC AND MRP. This is the type of content they could use over there too, if developed properly - and I rarely post even my own stuff over there. If you're up for it, shoot me a PM and include the text of this post (as I won't be able to access it if you delete this). | /r/askRPC | 27/04/20 06:25 AM |
| 5 | Should I give my Dad a copy of NMMNG?I agree completely with Deep. That's how I approached things with my dad. I think he ended up reading about 3/4 of it. It didn't stick. Oh well. Don't think giving him a book will be a magical solution to his problems. You're better off taking something like /u/Deep_Strength's book and saying, I'd really like to do a small group, but churches are shut down right now. You want to do one with me? Someone I know wrote a book that I've been meaning to read, and I'd love to go through it together." E… | /r/askRPC | 27/04/20 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Is compatibility essential (or even useful!) in a marriage? No, not really.I second this. Also, vaginas don't have MBTI distinctions. Just their brains. If you want work her brain a certain way, knowing her MBTI can be helpful (though less than many would make it seem). If you want to work her vagina a certain way, MBTI isn't designed for that. | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 06:18 AM |
| 4 | Is there anything that we can do to help him?What's with all the "LTR, breaks up with her after two months" and "LTR for another few months." Do you not know what LTR stands for? He insists ... so we have no choice Well, apparently his frame is strong enough to drag you into it. So he might have something more figured out than you do. Here's the deal. I've had incredible success with persuading guys of the things I write about here - discipleship, hypergamy, fitness tests. All of it. I can include at least 4 pastors in that list, 2 of whom… | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Is there anything that we can do to help him?CHRISTianity where Christ has been replaced by the church. CHURCHianity. In short, the focus is on the growth of the church, not the mission of the church. There's little care if the growth is artificial, as long as people are in the seats. To maximize this growth, compromise with Scripture had to be made, maintaining political correctness and an appeasement of feminists. | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 05:44 AM |
| 35 | Question about my youth groupYour story is very inconsistent in the comments and you come off as very whiny. Worry less about what he thinks and does and fix your whininess and ability to self-evaluate. We're here to help YOU get your life figured out. Not to be your source of emotional validation when someone doesn't do things your way. Yes, the mainstream church is blue pill. That's a fact of life. Deal with it and work toward changing it. | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 05:37 AM |
| 2 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brainAmen. | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brainI think you're foolish if you sideline the importance of lifting just because your wife told you so. Other than that, what you're saying makes sense. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Is compatibility essential (or even useful!) in a marriage? No, not really.Sounds like you got it all figured out. Go write a book. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Is compatibility essential (or even useful!) in a marriage? No, not really.Seems hard to assess. A trait only has value if you can discern it. But really, what you're describing is a unicorn. Good luck finding one. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brainIf she's denying you, she does. It's taking you too much effort to get her worked up before she's started. A girl doesn't say no (with limited exception) to a man she trusts after she's already wet. She's saying no to you because it takes you too long to get her worked up. She should start with the tingles before you even initiate. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 09:25 PM |
| 5 | Is compatibility essential (or even useful!) in a marriage? No, not really.I advocate for three qualities to look for in a discipleship candidate and spouse: Faithful Available Saved Teachable If you give me those qualities in a person, I can instill any other quality in them. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brain"You don't feel like? Then why'd you wear that outfit today?" Glide you'r hands across her body, let her feel how hard she's made you, then add, "You know what it does to me when you go around looking/acting that sexy." That's one of countless examples. You go figure out more and report back. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brainYour listening to what she says. Feel he panties after she watches Magic Mike, then we can chat. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 07:00 PM |
| 9 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brainshe usually doesn’t want to. And I don’t know when to ask Are you only allowed to ask when she wants to? Women respond best to sexuality when they feel sexual. They feel sexual when you express your sexual desire toward them. The stronger your sexual desire, the more sexual they feel. A sexual desire that's turned away by, "I'm not feeling it today" is so weak it's hardly going to make any panties wet. This is all on the sidebar. Have you read it? 104 ... One of the most powerful libido-stimulat… | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 06:03 PM |
| 14 | Teacher reflections on behaviour managementPenalties and negative consequences do not change future behaviour for the better ... Rewarding the 'right' choices is the most powerful strategy of all ... ignoring the negative if possible This dynamic is the exact opposite of the more recent testing and experimentation that is coming out. What you're speaking about is the traditional preference for positive reinforcement over negative reinforcement, which is based on the theory (that until recently had minimal actual field testing) that negat… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/20 03:41 PM |
| 5 | Is compatibility essential (or even useful!) in a marriage? No, not really.Right. Stick around long enough and you'll see countless stories of men whose "good Christian wife" "would NEVER do something like that" ... until he becomes attractive and suddenly she's doing "that" and more. Top post of all time on MRP is a perfect example if this: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dmpqgv/i_almost_lost_my_marriage_of_32_years_and_turned/ Check my post history for my testimony and rp-imony and you'll see I'm another example of a guy who married a frigid prude wh… | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 08:46 AM |
| 5 | Is compatibility essential (or even useful!) in a marriage? No, not really.Yes. She can learn. Also, how were you planning on assessing this before marriage? I again refer you to u/Deep_Strength's Christian Brad Pitt thought experiment post on the sidebar and also linked in this thread. ... unless you're talking "sexual compatibility" in the sense of gender and sex. I assume that compatibility in the sense of not entering a homosexual relationship is just understood in this sub. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 08:38 AM |
| 3 | Any Christian women who participate here that this idea appeals to, I would love to hear your advice!One would think. The majority of church culture in most first world countries shows a much wider chasm between biblical views on marriage and relationships and what is actually taught by the mainstream church, which has predominantly caved to cultural appeasement and political correctness. Dalrock used to write on this a lot. We also address this on r/RPChristians, of course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Reposting as text: Advice on how to manage and potentially create a Red Pill women’s subreddit for Christian women.Yes, James 2 seems pretty obvious from its own terms. 14, "What good is it, my brothers, if someone CLAIMS to have faith but has no deeds?" - he starts the conversation in the context of someone who only has an intellectual acknowledgment that he calls faith, but is not actual faith. 18, "Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds" - showing that the deeds are the evidence of faith. 22, "his faith was made complete by what he did" - showing that the faith is the i… | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 04:59 AM |
| 0 | Response to RPChristians from a HinduBiblically, it's hard to make a case for polygamy as a black-and-white sin. Really, as I understand Romans 14, really nothing can be called a black-and-white sin at all. Rather, sin is based on an assessment of one's own heart toward the situation, as well as the prompting of one's faith (which flows from Scripture) toward the behavior. Back on track: there are numerous godly men who were polygamous and never condemned for it or experienced the disastrous consequences that the anti-polygamists c… | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Reposting as text: Advice on how to manage and potentially create a Red Pill women’s subreddit for Christian women.Agreed. It's shocking that even with how controversial our content comes off, you're 10x more likely to get into a heated debate on r/TrueChristian here. I think that speaks a lot about the character of men we're trying to breed. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 03:40 AM |
| 5 | Reposting as text: Advice on how to manage and potentially create a Red Pill women’s subreddit for Christian women.Agreed. The short duration of your marriage doesn't seem problematic to me. I'm more interested in how well you are able to connect application of Scripture to your daily life in the contexts applicable to a sub like this - and that you do have experience to share from, whether it's recent or from years ago isn't as big of an issue. Yes, longevity adds credibility, but it's not the only source of credibility. | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 02:01 AM |
| 2 | Reposting as text: Advice on how to manage and potentially create a Red Pill women’s subreddit for Christian women.That's a fair point. I do give more credit to Catholicism than most do. If I had to boil it down, my view is that Salvation = Grace + Faith +0 (i.e. nothing else) ... whereas some people tend to hold to the (in my belief) FALSE view that Salvation = Grace + Faith + Proper theology on other issues, like the role of works ... or Salvation = Having a soteriological model of Grace + Faith + 0 in which case the soteriological understanding becomes of greater significance than the grace and faith itse… | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 01:47 AM |
| – | Response to RPChristians from a HinduI agree with /u/justforgigs96 insofar as I'm unsure what the purpose of your post is. If you want to post something here, you've got to engage the community in some way. That means either discussing an aspect of red pill or Christian truth that would be beneficial for the community to understand and that is not contrary to Christian belief (which it sounds like you may not be able to do) OR you can ask questions for the community to answer (which you certainly could be doing). Also, given how th… | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 01:34 AM |
| 4 | Reposting as text: Advice on how to manage and potentially create a Red Pill women’s subreddit for Christian women.I don't think johnmic07 is being fully honest with his representation of the deuterocanonical/apocryphal books. most Catholics haven't read them This can be said of the other 66 books too. My previous congregation was 68% ex-Catholic. Virtually all of them, after becoming Protestant, were shocked at the fact that those who weren't previously in a Catholic church actually read their Bibles. They said that they were never (or rarely) encouraged to do so, or that if they were, they were told to do … | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 10:26 PM |
| 1 | How important is compatibility for marriage?Women will always change. Accept it. This means that whatever "compatibility" you had when you got married will only remain in place as long as you keep changing with her. Men are averse to change. We can, and sometimes do, but not as fluently. If you're changing with her, you're in her frame and headed toward destruction. You're better off having her change to mold to you. If you're already compatible up-front, then it means you have to keep growing and developing in the direction you want to g… | /r/askRPC | 25/04/20 10:05 PM |
| 2 | How to make wife stop being a hysterical bitch anytime the kids cry or she is stressed?Everyone's already said it, but you have no frame. Seriously, did you even read what you wrote? You probably could have deleted the post before submitting it because it's so obvious. No, you're not a great dad if your 3yr old tells you what to do. That's not "picking your battles." Picking your battles is about STFU during the ones you can't possibly win. If you're a good dad, there's no such thing as losing a battle with your kids. If you're a great dad, you not only win, but you get them wanti… | /r/askMRP | 25/04/20 09:56 PM |
| 9 | Emotional connectionA woman feels emotionally connected to a man when she is attracted to him and he gives her the tingles. It's really that simple. All the other stuff around here is a playbook for giving the tingles. Things from my playbook that make my wife feel "emotionally connected" to me (in no particular order): Teasing her Tickling her Kino Picking her up off the ground Really good sex Rubbing my hands through her hair or scratching her head while sitting next to her 10 second kiss Should I keep going? You… | /r/askMRP | 25/04/20 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectAgreed. | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 06:32 PM |
| – | Reposting as text: Advice on how to manage and potentially create a Red Pill women’s subreddit for Christian women.As u/TheChristianAlpha referenced, I'd be interested in chatting further about this. You're not the first woman to ask about doing this, and my advice to you is the same as I gave to the others: start out by posting content here that you find valuable for other women to know: What are unique things single girls need to be thinking about? How to inspire your husband to want to lead you? Why some men won't initiate and how to overcome that problem? How to handle marital conflict as a woman? Share … | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectLiteral and metaphor has nothing to do with forcing a 2020 definition onto the way a word was used 2,000 years ago. Also, conflating biblical exegesis with an alpha/beta designation? We don't take kindly to the "anyone who disagrees with me is beta" attitude. Take a 3 day ban and learn to knock it off during that time. | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectI seriously hope you don't take that approach to word meanings when you study Scripture. | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 03:34 AM |
| 4 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.According to your comments on the r/TrueChristian sub, you're making countless false conclusory statements without any fair representation of anything said in this thread at all. This is hardly "trying to understand it." Goodbye. | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 02:37 AM |
| 2 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectEveryone deserves respect in a general sense Absolutely not. People must earn my respect. I think what you mean is that everyone deserves common decency. But even that is unbiblical, if you look at what God says we actually deserve. Perhaps a more biblical way to put it would be: Nobody deserves our respect, or even common decency, but we give it to others consistently with the way Jesus modeled his life for us because we respect Christ and we recognize and honor the way he views and interacts w… | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectRight. I just had this conversation with /u/thechristianalpha. To some degree, the post is something of a bait and switch. It comes off with one clear and obvious meaning to the majority of the world, but the actual meaning turns out to be something quite different, and it only comes out once you really dive into the technicalities of what OP is talking about. While I only skimmed the post, from reading the comments (including some of his), I'm inclined to think he meant well because he already … | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Let's Have a Little Talk About Respectsemantic problem ... "respect" in English ... noun: a feeling That's really all you had to say. Emotionalism culture has redefined every word of biblical substance it possibly can. It's even taken words that aren't of biblical substance and tried to make them substantive. Good luck having a rational argument with an emotionalist without having to spout out semantic differences half a dozen times. | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Let's Have a Little Talk About RespectTitus 2:4 also more directly answers the question without having to beat around the bush. Tag: /u/Willow-girl | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 01:59 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/20)Don't forget teaching them to pass it on too ;) You want spiritual grandchildren, right? Just as a man must teach his sons about relationships, sex, and reproduction, you have to do the same with your spiritual children. | /r/RPChristians | 24/04/20 05:30 PM |
| 1 | “Why won’t he be the king I know he is, the king I see inside?”"Good this" and "Good that" ... but really the +1 is for a post inspired by a musical reference ;) | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/04/20 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Can you SEE it?I was in the same spot, brother. I understand the frustration. My wife was 100% on board with making disciples when we married. After we married she admitted she lied and really didn't care about that - she was just saying it to get me to marry her. I spent 7-8 years in obese beta bux land, having relatively little hope before figuring myself out. She's turned the corner. You present a strong lead and the chances she'll follow go way up. And if not, you'll be more effective at carrying out your … | /r/RPChristians | 22/04/20 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Bible Studies for Men’s small groupI've heard mixed reviews on Tony Evans. Some people really like him around here. Others say he caves to the same "everything is the man's fault, women are never to blame" type of thinking that the rest of churchianity pushes. I haven't done the studies he has, but for those looking, treat it the same way as with everything else (including this sub - and even my own posts): (1) always challenge everything against Scripture, and (2) take what's true and works and leave the rest behind. | /r/RPChristians | 22/04/20 06:24 AM |
| 7 | Bible Studies for Men’s small groupWhy are there so many Bible study groups, but no Scripture memory groups? Try something unique. Pick a book of the Bible and try to memorize it together. Talk about it as you recite it to each other. Philippians has 102 verses. That's 2/wk. Say your group is 1/4 of a year. That's 8 verses/wk to memorize. Very doable. I GUARANTEE you will find more value out of this than everyone showing up after reading the passage once, pretending they actually studied it in-depth, and proceeding to BS around s… | /r/RPChristians | 22/04/20 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Defining My Mission Statement - OYS follow up.Your mission statement is good. I have no idea how your vision connects to that at all. Think about it this way: OVERARCHING GOAL This is the broadest level of understanding your purpose. When a nation takes action, its overall purposes are broad: to keep its citizens safe, develop economic success, and improve the world. God's overarching goal is that he be glorified by building a kingdom for himself. This is what he asked Adam and Eve to do when filling the earth with godly offspring - it's wh… | /r/askRPC | 21/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 16 | Genuinely curious about your philosophies. Not looking to debate just want to listen.Very well said! Given that this is going on the sidebar, for future readers, there are a few things I want to clarify: 1) My personal view is that the feminization of the church started much sooner than 100 years ago. I believe the first woman was ordained in 1815, but it really started picking up by the 1850. But I'd go even further back into the middle-ages when romanticized concepts of love crept into the church and began glorifying women through literature, skewing church interpretation of S… | /r/RPChristians | 21/04/20 04:31 AM |
| 39 | Sex workers say they have been left out of Canada's COVID-19 responseI get the tax issue at play here - you don't pay into taxes, why should you get the benefit of them? But there's something bigger: The article says sex work there is still ILLEGAL - that the women are protected from prosecution, but not arrest; yet the men who buy it are fully open to prosecution. In other words, SOMEONE (a man) has to break the law and risk going to jail for them to get money from their "job." They're now complaining that their 100% ILLEGAL income stream is gone and the governm… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/04/20 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Find Something to Lift around the HouseNo one had a problem because not as many people here are as sensitive and judgmental as you seem to be. That's okay. I encourage you to stick with it and strengthen your emotional stability. This seems a better option than running away from views that rub you the wrong way. Try to understand how others think rather than hating on them for not thinking like you. Even if you still end up disagreeing with them, you'll be far more capable of loving them. No need to be so bitter over a silly internet… | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/20 08:18 AM |
| 3 | Find Something to Lift around the HouseJust noticed your user name. This conversation makes a lot more sense now. Bottom line: you have this rainbows and butterflies view of Jesus that churchianity has shoved down your throat for as long as you've been attending services. I get it. We all came from there at one point. If you read the bible with a mind to challenge whether what you were taught was actually true (as the Bereans did in Acts 17) you're going to find a lot of inconsistencies and that most "pastors" don't know as much as t… | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/20 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Find Something to Lift around the HouseBut Jesus isn't a pussy. So why would I say that to him? | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/20 07:53 AM |
| 2 | Find Something to Lift around the HouseI thought about removing this ridiculousness for a number of reasons ... but the community has spoken. I'll let this stay up as a warning to you and others. If you assume everyone will pussyfoot around your emotional temperament or that you have the right to demand that nobody else every says anything to offend you ... this isn't the place for you. Unless you're learning and trying to grow. Then we can be patient with you. | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/20 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Someday is a dangerous wordRight. You go find me one. | /r/RPChristians | 18/04/20 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Someday is a dangerous wordI haven't seen any other content online that breaks down how to map out a person's life goals through various categories, mile-markers in each category, timelines for accomplishing the goals, etc. Feel free to refer me to as many as you think are better. But the most I've seen are people who generically say, "Write down your goals and set mile-markers," but give no actual example to look off of. If you can't handle hearing someone share their own sinful thinking, how do you even exist in the wor… | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/20 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Someday is a dangerous wordYou're still missing the point. I didn't tell anyone to watch this for its fantastic financial advice. | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/20 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Can’t stop disrespecting women.You read NMMNG yet? It's a foundational book. He talks a good bit about how to build a backbone, but without being a ridiculous caricature who craps all over the world. | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/20 07:22 AM |
| 2 | Someday is a dangerous wordYou're like my grandma who turns the TV off and walks out the room the instant she hears a cuss word in a show. "I can't handle that godless filth." Seriously, take what value you can out of this and leave the rest behind. It's not that hard. The primary thrust of the video is about how to map out goals for your life. I'm not telling you to adopt his goals - just the strategy of mapping them out. Apply common sense and this shouldn't be that hard. | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/20 07:11 AM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on tattoos?Deep: do you want to do an official full write-up on your directional response to "is this/that sin?" questions and we can just put it on the sidebar so you don't need to keep copy/pasting over and over, and you can just direct people to the sidebar instead? Also, if you agree to do this, I'd recommend going over ruiz's take on this too, as it's the response I subscribe to and seems to work hand-in-hand with a lot of what you write on the subject. Alternatively, I can just put ruiz's post on our… | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 08:10 PM |
| 4 | Someday is a dangerous wordI like this. It's a perfect call toward something I often advise guys: Set very clear goals and deadlines for yourself. If you leave it vague, it won't get done. While I certainly don't endorse everything he says, Coach Red Pill (not to be confused with u/RedPillCoach) on YouTube does have a fantastic video on this point, which I encourage a lot of guys to watch and follow through with outlining their own life goals. I have a spreadsheet I keep on my desktop for this as well: https://www.youtube… | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 08:06 PM |
| 6 | ABC FOR XYZMoses is usually my go-to example. God forbade the entire generation that he took out of Egypt from ever entering the promised land. If the promised land is a physical representation of the spiritual concept of heaven, this would be like the pastor whose entire congregation would be going to hell for being so rebellious and refusing to listen to the pastor, all the while letting him stay in charge. Does that mean we condemn Moses as a horrible, ungodly leader? No. It means the people refused to … | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Galatians 5, or The Answer to "Is XXXXXXX a Sin?"Or, rather, making disciples. I wrote more about this here. The most relevant part: So, what's God's purpose for you? They're summarized in the three Greats: Love God (greatest command), Matthew 22:37-38 Love Others (second greatest command), Matthew 22:39 Make Disciples (great commission), Matthew 28:19-20 These are inextricably linked. If you fail in one, you fail in all three. If you don't love God, you can't love others (1 John 4:8) or make disciples (Matthew 12:30). If you don't love others… | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 07:20 PM |
| – | Galatians 5, or The Answer to "Is XXXXXXX a Sin?"u/ruizbujc beat you to the punch on this one. He just uses Romans 14 instead of Galatians 5, but it sounds like the conclusions are the same. His analysis is a much more thorough break-down, and it gives a much clearer explanation for why you can't just go around sinning whenever you feel like it. Either way, I'm glad you've discovered this very important aspect of how we ought to relate with God and orient our lives. I'll investigate Galatians 5 further, as I don't think I've read it recently e… | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 06:56 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/20)allow me time to read more through the 300 material on the topic and begin to develop those skills. Find a partner and practice your observations. u/TheChristianAlpha (at least when he had more time availability) was interested in practicing this skill too at one point. I'd encourage you to reach out to him to partner in your Bible-study skill development. | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 05:50 PM |
| 1 | six words onlyI'm removing this. Feel free to repost on askRPC if you want. But this is too much of a low value gimmick post for the main sub - especially in light of u/OsmiumZulu's latest post. | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 05:39 PM |
| 19 | Listen up you pricks, we have work to do.I endorse this. | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 08:04 AM |
| 1 | Living Out of YourselfBeautiful story, sister. Thanks for sharing this! You should post this note publicly. If not here, r/TrueChristian could benefit from this too :) | /r/RPChristians | 16/04/20 02:21 AM |
| 1 | A Primer to Visual Arousal PatternsGood points. Hopefully this post adds some substance to that list if/when you create it. | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 10:55 PM |
| 2 | A Primer to Visual Arousal PatternsYep. I've seen that before too. I forgot about it. I can't remember if it's that study or another one, but the result was that women overwhelmingly were more attracted to stronger guys, even if it came with extra fat, over a weakling who had a 6 pack out of scrawniness. | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 08:57 PM |
| 5 | Was gonna go on mission this year, and now they changed the staff. I don’t feel like goingI think you missed the point I was making. Think bigger than your immediate concerns and you'll realize how trite they are and that you can mister whether you go or not. So who cares what they do with their group? You do you. | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Bible Study with Wife?I strongly encourage you NOT to use a study, but to go straight into Scripture. Read the 300-series posts on quiet times and Bible study to get a picture for how to study Scripture on your own. Pick a book and go at it. I recommend Philippians to start with. It's short, but has a lot of depth to it. I memorized the book and haven't found a single aspect of daily life that isn't addressed by something in that book. I've done the same things with other more popular books, like James and Romans, bu… | /r/askRPC | 14/04/20 07:54 PM |
| 7 | Was gonna go on mission this year, and now they changed the staff. I don’t feel like goingWas gonna go on mission this year Huh? You're not on mission every day? It is wrong for me to think this way? When it comes to serving in mission YES! Because your mission isn't about where you go. That's just context. Your mission is to make disciples wherever you are. Some people go to do that, some people stay to do that. The reality is: you can't actually make a disciple on a 2-week mission trip. It took 3 years. Are we so arrogant to believe we can do in 2 weeks what he spent 3 years doing … | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 07:49 PM |
| 7 | Why Men Hate Going To ChurchSolid, brother. I had been meaning to write a post parallel to this, focusing primarily on the idolatry of the congregational structure, made even more plainly obvious by the present lockdown. Maybe I'll hold off a bit to let these words here settle in for guys. For now, let me piece together something for you that might even further enhance your church-going Sunday-service-attending experience: As a Bible believing, Jesus following, hardcore Christian man who's mission in life is to evangelize … | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 07:25 PM |
| 4 | Godliness is sexy (companion post)Haha, you missed the point. | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Godliness isn't sexySolid post, brother. You need to cross-post more of your stuff here. The only thing I'll note, which has been alluded to in less clear terms by a couple people: what you really mean is "godliness" in the way churchianity defines the word. True godliness does, of course, inherently encompass a variety of attractive traits, including the significance of maintaining one's physical appearance (at least to a degree - one doesn't necessarily need to be a male model to be godly, but one does at least h… | /r/RPChristians | 14/04/20 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Living Out of YourselfThat's my issue here. If becoming a new creation is exclusively the work of the Holy Spirit Yes, that is certainly the issue. I don't believe this view is biblical. That said, as already noted, I'm a compatibilist, not a hard-core Calvinist. This is probably where we're not seeing eye to eye. Black pill has been generalized to mean "truth of a hopeless reality" just like red pill is generalized to refer to truths suppressed by society Good luck trying to use that definition with any of the mods … | /r/RPChristians | 11/04/20 04:09 AM |
| 1 | is love between women and men real?I think you're trying to boil down all types of love to a single kind. On that, we'll have to agree to disagree. | /r/askRPC | 10/04/20 05:44 AM |
| 7 | When do you know that they’re the one?I was fascinated when a former pastor of mine mentioned at a small group once, his wife at his side, her hand on his leg: "I love my wife. If she died, I would be sad. But my life would not be over. I have bigger things going on in my life than her, and she knows that - and those are the things that keep me going. I'd mourn for a time - it might be a few weeks, it could be months, but I'd ultimately be fine. Why? Because I don't need her. I need God. I want her, but my emotional well-being does … | /r/RPChristians | 10/04/20 12:19 AM |
| 1 | is love between women and men real?God's love is defined as extending to all of humanity, even in their sin That's not the same thing as being unconditional. It's like a TV announcement that says, "Anyone who comes to our store will get a free handbag." The invitation goes out to everyone, but it's not unconditional. They're not giving the handbags to everyone. They're conditioning the gift on you actually going to their store to get it. The benefit of God's love is absolutely conditional - if nothing else, on faith. People who r… | /r/askRPC | 10/04/20 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Living Out of YourselfVery good point! | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/20 09:14 PM |
| 5 | When do you know that they’re the one?There is no "the one" unless God specifically ordains through prophecy a particular bride for you. This is extremely rare. I agree with /u/reformedpolak - your "one" is whoever you pick to marry. Just don't be an idiot about who you pick, and don't expect that marriage will somehow transform her into your soul mate. Even after marriage, "she's not yours, it's just your turn." Your question is too much of an effort to defer responsibility for a prospective failed marriage to someone else. If it d… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/20 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Living Out of YourselfI struggle to see how to apply it all the way through. Much of this is outside the human sphere of influence. The primary application is to have guys really stop and look at what they want to do so that the desires of their heart are more naturally exposed. This paves the way for authentic repentance when they realize they are not who they thought they were based on the outward behaviors they present to others. The only way this works is if the Holy Spirit intervenes. Otherwise, man is doomed to… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/20 03:43 AM |
| 1 | Living Out of YourselfI like that. And good reference. I'd completely forgotten about that post. Glad to hear it helped you! | /r/RPChristians | 08/04/20 08:50 PM |
| 3 | Living Out of YourselfAgreed. We will still sin. But when you say this: So saying 'Do what you want' can be a dangerous thing to say to many christians who are not constantly being transformed by the renewing of their minds, as that is a crucial first step I agree in theory, but perhaps not in practice. First, I'd question if a person who refuses to allow God to change them is even a Christian in the first place. And if they are non-Christians, it's pointless telling them not to sin because everything they do is sin … | /r/RPChristians | 08/04/20 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Living Out of YourselfRight. When they're young, they need to listen to their parents, but the goal is always to instill an internal character in them that they innately do what you would have them do without telling them to do it. This, I believe, is God's goal with us. I like the reference here. | /r/RPChristians | 08/04/20 08:29 PM |
| 2 | The 3 wisdomsRight. I'd love to see you do just that! Just make sure you're actually using a biblical lens. This means making sure you have biblical support for what you're saying. If there's a passage (or series of them) that says, "There are three types of wisdom, here they are," then add that and it's far more likely to go up. Otherwise, it comes off the same as someone who says, "There are 5 stages of grief." That's some psychologist who came up with that. It might have some value to categorize behaviors… | /r/RPChristians | 07/04/20 07:55 PM |
| 1 | 2 "Redpill" lies and deceptions built to enslave us.What would He want me to do? This is a/should be a Christians primary/ first thing on our minds. Wrong. I just put up a post to address this. But is the chase for excellence in a lot of Red Pill men out of a godly stand point or is it more primitive and debased? If you were writing on one of the secular subs, this might make more sense. But on a Christian sub, your point is still off-base. Yes, many men might be doing it for secular reasons, but the underlying premise of the biblical reason is a… | /r/RPChristians | 07/04/20 07:35 PM |
| 1 | The 3 wisdomsI'm going to take this down as it seems a little bit too unrelated to the purposes of this sub. Your last post, while off, was still worth thinking about. This would make a better edit into that post than a substantive separate post of its own. | /r/RPChristians | 07/04/20 06:04 PM |
| – | 2 "Redpill" lies and deceptions built to enslave us.I think you're lacking insight of the oneness bond between God and man among those who are saved. Is God not excellent? Is he not sanctifying us into his likeness? Is God not in us? And if God is in us and he is excellent and he is sanctifying us into his image, should we not also become excellent in all the same ways he is? A failure to do this would seem to be sin to me. The fact that God is in us is significant here. I've often commented before that the ultimate goal is not that we do things … | /r/RPChristians | 07/04/20 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Lifting Troubleshooting QuestionsThe wrong thing to do is try to force it and muscle through it. That increases your likelihood of injury Whoops. I've been lucky then ;) You're getting heavy enough now that you will have a much harder time making progress if your form isn't really solid I'll echo this. After all my early noob gains when I got back into lifting plateaued after about 6 months (and I know /u/SkimTheDross is much longer in than that). I had to take another 3+ months with no gains at all, just working on doing my ex… | /r/RPChristians | 06/04/20 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Lifting Troubleshooting QuestionsGood progress, brother. Others have already given good and clear input. I know my general rule of thumb is that my 5-rep sets are based on 90% of my ORM. Remember also that a brand new ORM exists within an error margin. I've had some really good days where, at my peak last year, I was able to put up 300, but the next day I couldn't. That means that my error margin is on the low-end. So, if I were to try to bench 270 (i.e. 90%), I might only get 3-4 reps out of it on some days because I haven't f… | /r/RPChristians | 06/04/20 06:38 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts?When I was in college I had the same prerequisite. There were girls who were hot and into me who offered to "convert" to Christianity for me. But I knew it would never be a genuine conversion if they were doing it for me. It sounds like you found the same thing: her conversion clearly wasn't genuine. From a spiritual angle, it doesn't matter if "she will go back to being a hoe." Biblically, all non-Christians can do is sin. A "break from Christianity" means she's going back to being a non-Christ… | /r/RPChristians | 04/04/20 04:05 AM |
| 2 | When do the lines begin to blur in Christianity?That's understandable. This can be a tough crowd at times. I will say, there's a reason I included the 300 and 400 series, but you'll also note they get referenced the least in comments and other threads. I'll also note that my original intent was to make the 300 series the 100 series, as that is truly more foundational than the other stuff. But then I had to remember the target audience and realize that if you want people to get to the things that actually matter, you have to start with the thi… | /r/askRPC | 04/04/20 03:42 AM |
| 3 | On TestosteroneThree years ago I wouldn't know what the heck any of those words meant. Thanks for the added info! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/20 03:39 AM |
| 2 | When do the lines begin to blur in Christianity?"Therefore, we don't need the law, all we need is faith" Yeah, I don't take that conclusion. As I understand it, he's just saying that you don't follow the law for the law's own sake, as if it creates black and white lines. Rather, the law is there to reveal the character of God, as you noted, and to tell us the operative principles of our faith. That's why Jesus was able to "work" on the Sabbath - because he read the law, understood the operative principles, but also recognized that (1) his pic… | /r/askRPC | 04/04/20 03:39 AM |
| 2 | On TestosteroneGotcha, I'll ignore, then. Unless there's a short-term reason to want to have that look ... like our annual weekend waterpark trip. Thanks for the tip! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/04/20 10:48 PM |
| 4 | On TestosteroneRight. My first reaction at the pic was to assume it was two current shots. Turns out it was supposed to be a before/after. Who knew? I have no problem with those who want to use steroids. But I'll stick with my protein shakes. You have any thoughts on creatine? I've toyed with the idea of using it once the gyms open up again. I've heard stellar reports from some. But I also know 2 guys with a masters in exercise science who say the gains go away as soon as you stop taking it, so it's artificial… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/04/20 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Have you swallowed the Red Chewable Tablet?Haha. I'm definitely wordy, but that's no excuse for someone else to be lazy. If a guy doesn't want to read a lot of words, just don't read them. Pretty simple. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/04/20 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Have you swallowed the Red Chewable Tablet?Now I'm curious what he said. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/04/20 07:30 PM |
| 3 | LTR no longer Christian. Next her?I don't see it yet. About to head to bed. askRPC might actually be the preferred place, as you'll need to put in all the Rule 2 information if you're posting on RPChristians proper. I'll check for it in the morning. | /r/askTRP | 03/04/20 07:06 AM |
| 4 | LTR no longer Christian. Next her?Short answer: yeah, her numbers are higher than she admitted, and you're better off moving on. As /u/osmiumzulu often refrains: "If it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no!" Lots more to say, given your core starting point, but I usually try to avoid religious talk on the secular forums. Post this on RPChristians and we can discuss further. | /r/askTRP | 03/04/20 07:02 AM |
| 2 | When do the lines begin to blur in Christianity?So what would be your take on this post a buddy of mine wrote on r/TrueChristian? https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueChristian/comments/f8vuke/is_this_a_sin_is_that_a_sin_not_the_right/ I'm 100% on board with what he said there. | /r/askRPC | 03/04/20 04:46 AM |
| 4 | What Does the Future Hold for Us as Christians? Should We Be Considering House Churches at This Point?These are fantastic things to think about, brother! Given my recent affirmation in my leanings toward preterism, I'm not as persuaded that anything is a sign of prophecy yet to be fulfilled. Rather, I would take all of these prophesies as having already been substantially fulfilled in the first century. But that doesn't mean we can't recognize the spiritual imperative that such difficult times creates and the possibility that things will get worse before they get better. What would you do if all… | /r/RPChristians | 03/04/20 04:44 AM |
| 2 | When do the lines begin to blur in Christianity?Right. So why don't you be the one to make one of those posts? I usually try to avoid recycling old content. But from a fresh source - that can have value. | /r/askRPC | 03/04/20 01:12 AM |
| 2 | When do the lines begin to blur in Christianity?I would argue that Mosaic law isn't meant for sanctification either. But I get and agree with your underlying point about the way it was never intended to be used. | /r/askRPC | 03/04/20 01:11 AM |
| 1 | When do the lines begin to blur in Christianity?/u/UpTanks is spot on. His second paragraph is pure gold. That's a great summation of my thoughts on these issues. | /r/askRPC | 03/04/20 01:10 AM |
| 2 | When do the lines begin to blur in Christianity?I endorse this. | /r/askRPC | 03/04/20 01:08 AM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/01/20)Been there, done that, brother. Your position with your wife/kids is incredibly common. It's probably the most common dynamic in households with young kids. In fact, it's so common that I'm probably going to write up a full post on it instead of replying here. Look for that very soon - I wrote half of it while starting a reply to you anyway, so it shouldn't be much longer, but I do have to get some work done. | /r/RPChristians | 02/04/20 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Most Christians Do Not Love WomenThis is exactly what I was going to say. These things often have negative connotations in society - not because they're inherently evil (they're not: nothing is inherently unclean, per Romans 14:14), but because the feminist influences in the world have decided they don't like associating these historical traits of women with who they want women to be today. It is a cultural conditioning that causes people to see certain traits as negative, not an inherent design by God through creation. | /r/RPChristians | 02/04/20 02:33 AM |
| 5 | Most Christians Do Not Love WomenSpot on. But when you ask how men are saved, you neglected to ask how women are saved. Through child-bearing (1 Timothy 2:15). While in one sense, this bolsters a pragmatic aspect of your entire post, in another - the more theological sense - it explains something much deeper that I have been getting on for some time about. Child-bearing and raising is inherently paralleled throughout all of Scripture to the discipleship process - especially in the New Testament. Jesus references the fruit of a … | /r/RPChristians | 02/04/20 02:29 AM |
| 6 | Most Christians Do Not Love WomenI'd add the fact that Ruth's intentions were also not to build a successful career for herself. Rather, she set her eyes on the highest value man there (the owner of the whole place) and seduced him into marrying her. Props for the last point. Well put. | /r/RPChristians | 02/04/20 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Most Christians Do Not Love WomenThey can't force you, but they can punish you for not feminizing yourself. Yes, this is happening. The impact of the APA study finding "traditional masculinity" to be "harmful" is already reaching the courts. | /r/RPChristians | 02/04/20 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Most Christians Do Not Love WomenI'd argue that a single woman can be 100% fully satisfied in Christ in this life, but she won't be "complete" as a person until the resurrection when her marriage to Christ is manifest more pragmatically and physical marriage, as we have on earth, will be done away with. To that end, I'd also suggest that the "completeness" any man or woman has on earth is still little more than a shadow of the "heavenly things" - whether they're married or not. | /r/RPChristians | 02/04/20 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Most Christians Do Not Love WomenI agree with /u/RedPillWonder, but in light of your comment let me take things a step further. Your interpretation that women are most in God's image when they are married is also the way I would take what I think you're asking. A woman without a husband is like a man without Christ, or Christ without the Father. She is as incomplete as a person as Adam was without God. But as RPW is saying, the reverse doesn't play out quite the same. Christ without mankind is still perfectly fine. There is no … | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/20 09:57 PM |
| 4 | Most Christians Do Not Love WomenI was just going to remove the troll's comment in the first place, but it's worth keeping it up just for this comment. | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/20 06:07 PM |
| 1 | If a man were able to change the bible would that prove they are the 2nd coming of Jesus?I still don't see how all these concepts are connecting for you. My underlying point hasn't changed: just because someone changes what the ink on the page says doesn't mean they can change what the original authors wrote. To do that, you'd have to be able to travel through time. And I'm pretty confident Einstein proved that backwards time travel is impossible (at best, one could travel forward in time at a slower pace than the rest of reality). As for the end times stuff, I'm a partial preterist… | /r/askRPC | 31/03/20 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Married Man's Guide To DatingI can agree with that. | /r/RPChristians | 31/03/20 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Is kissing before marriage a sin?First you're going to have to read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueChristian/comments/f8vuke/is_this_a_sin_is_that_a_sin_not_the_right/. It's along the lines of what /u/Deep_Strength commented, but much more fleshed out. Second, we have a post titled "An Official Stance on Sex Outside of Marriage," indicating that the question early on in this sub's histor was whether or not SEX before marriage was even sin (conclusion: it is). Now you're suggesting that even kissing might be too? Per ruiz's … | /r/RPChristians | 31/03/20 04:07 AM |
| 2 | Married Man's Guide To DatingSolid post, brother. I realized some girls just don't like me. Worrying about why is pointless. This is the point of the polarization concept from Models. It's not that you are bad, it's that the top 5% are so much better. Right. This is hypergamy at its most basic levels. exchange numbers with plans to hang out. I do this with both men and women This is key. It shows that it's who you are, not a facade you're doing just to get a date that will fade away once you're married. You can be great at … | /r/RPChristians | 31/03/20 04:01 AM |
| 3 | If a man were able to change the bible would that prove they are the 2nd coming of Jesus?I've been fascinated by this type of stuff for a while. But don't get too hung up on it either. For context, I do a lot of writing in my spare time, including a fantasy series where quantum entanglement is the underlying premise for the way a relic works that the main character finds, allowing him to see things from the other end of the universe. I worked alongside a physicist to help me figure out how other relics in subsequent books (I'm part way through book 3) would function if realistically… | /r/askRPC | 29/03/20 04:48 AM |
| 3 | An MRP Mod makes a discipleAbove and beyond, my friend. Well done. | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/20 11:57 PM |
| 4 | FR: Teaching a 16yo kid to Lift.Now you know what I'm talking about when I say my mission is to "make disciples." This is exactly what it looks like. Life modeling. Welcome to my world, brother! Linking this on r/RPChristians for others to see how simple it is compared to the way some people try to over-complicate it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/03/20 04:23 AM |
| 5 | I thought I could get over it5 times ... 12 times ... 25 times Why are you so hung up on how many times another guy's willy has been inside of her? If it's one time or 42 times, or even 1,000 times, you need to make up your mind if you're okay with this or not. This is an insanely bizarre detail to share. Also, this is trickle truth, brother. Whatever numbers she gives you: triple it. This is my first serious relationship Sounds like you haven't had your first yet. Seriously, are you trolling us? | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/20 12:28 AM |
| 10 | Daily Game Plan For QuarantineSolid, brother. I assume it's implicit that people should create their own checklists and this is just a springboard to get them thinking. But the point is: be intentional with this time, don't let it just pass by idly - which should apply even when we're not on quarantine. | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/20 12:22 AM |
| 11 | I thought I could get over itExcellent reply. | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/20 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Wife is 8 months pregnant. Need advice.I've been a lot better at this whole alpha male stuff This sounds like the epitome of the purple guy. "I want to maintain all my blue pill hopes and dreams, and maybe by sprinkling some alpha on it I can actually get them." Don't be like that. When women comfort test it's not just for empathy. They want to know that it's actually safe for them to be in your frame. You can't display this if you're still weak-minded about how you view your relationship. It's like a civilian telling the Hulk when h… | /r/askMRP | 23/03/20 03:28 PM |
| 5 | Is it weird for me to require a virgin or nobody?It feels like a competition because for these girls IT IS A COMPETITION. That's how hypergamy works. They want to know you're better than the last guy. So, they start talking up the last guy with the expectation that you'll try to one-up him. These aren't the wrong girls; they're all girls. Some are just more vocal about it than others. My post history and the sidebar include posts on how to win competition games by not playing them in the first place. I agree that virgin girls are rare these da… | /r/askRPC | 23/03/20 03:06 PM |
| – | I’d like to talk [20M].Locked until edited for Rule 2 information and more information on what advice you actually need. Also, while there are certainly a few people I would endorse for personal, one-on-one chats (ex. mods, /u/TheChristianAlpha, other ECs), it's generally a bad idea to open the door to a 3k+ community and assume that whoever randomly says "yes" will be a reliable source of information. We have ECs for a reason. | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/20 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?Of course. A woman can and likely will divorce a man without warning as soon as she's decided she doesn't like being married to him anymore. There's never a guarantee. That said, MRP doesn't give any guarantees on anything. Ask any mod you like. All of them will tell you: If you're doing any of this to get guaranteed results, you're a fool. And I did note in other comments (or perhaps it was in my r/RPChristians post on these comments) that a guy would waste his time having a crappy mission that… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/20 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?Generic success, yes. Highest-tiers of success ... possible, but unlikely. So, I suppose this depends on how you want to define success. If it's something that can be accomplished while being fat and/or ugly, my guess is that your bar for success is too low. Think bigger. As for the money component: "get rich" is a crappy mission, if you can even call it one. Your mission is the way you get there. Many of the examples I gave do have the end-result of becoming wealthy, but the wealth isn't the po… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/20 02:23 AM |
| 7 | Don’t use a virus as an excuseI just wrote this in another thread: My setup ... A stationary bike. This is the one I use; goes for $200. A bench. This is the one I use. $100. Note: I don't have the bar, I just use it with dumbells. Some dumbells. Highest I have are 45lb. They're $90 for a ste at Walmart. That said, I probably need to get a couple more sets - 45s aren't enough to curl with anymore, but 100s would be perfect for doing heavy sets of the standing row and high-rep sets on the bench. Now, I've bought these things … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/20 07:15 PM |
| 1 | I encourage my American friends to be fully stocked, supplied, and able to effectively work from home by Sunday, 3/22, though EOD tomorrow would be ideal.My setup ... A stationary bike. This is the one I use; goes for $200. A bench. This is the one I use. $100. Note: I don't have the bar, I just use it with dumbells. Some dumbells. Highest I have are 45lb. They're $90 for a ste at Walmart. That said, I probably need to get a couple more sets - 45s aren't enough to curl with anymore, but 100s would be perfect for doing heavy sets of the standing row and high-rep sets on the bench. Now, I've bought these things over the past few years, not all at o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/20 07:11 PM |
| 3 | I encourage my American friends to be fully stocked, supplied, and able to effectively work from home by Sunday, 3/22, though EOD tomorrow would be ideal.You forgot home gym equipment. Can't let yourself go just because the gyms are closed. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/20 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?1 and 2 just seem too focused on your wife/partner They were meant to be. It was an explanation of how your mission improves your attractiveness. If I were addressing general benefits of having a mission, I'd certainly have included your third point, among many others. I would just hope it's not at the expense of her own A woman's mission IS her husband's mission. She is called by God to be his helper. God gives him a mission (i.e. he follows God), and the husband gives her a mission (i.e. she f… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/20 08:59 PM |
| 2 | Why is mission so important? Because ...Give me a couple examples please The obvious ones are what I've heard from a number of guys on MRP: Grow my business to become a fortune 500 company Become a 10-millionaire Sleep with over X number of women These are missions. They just don't involve making disciples, so they're unbiblical. I think you're looking at this purely from the perspective of a mature believer who has already bought into the great commission. Props for you on that! But even on r/TrueChristian I've had encounters where p… | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/20 08:51 PM |
| 2 | Why is mission so important? Because ...Solid, brother. I love this. I'll just clarify: a man CAN have other missions, but if they don't involve making disciples, they're unbiblical. I also commonly tell people that God has given us all a singular mission (whether we're accept it or not), but our specific gifts, passions, and life circumstances create the context for carrying out that mission. Glad to see you get it! | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/20 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Coronavirus Mega ThreadNot as good as squats and bench press, but among the best if bodyweight routines. | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/20 11:38 PM |
| – | Are women allowed to post?Yes, women are certainly permitted to post here. However, this particular thread is locked for lacking Rule 2 information. Please edit with this information and PM or another mod so we can unlock the post. In the meantime ... I really have a sense of feeling like he deserves someone with undying love for him no matter what and believe he should find someone new that is making him happy. Way to hamster this one. You're unsatisfied and want out, but you find a way to rationalize that somehow it's … | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/20 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Are women allowed to post?Interesting. So you think her husband is 100% at fault for all of this? At least, that's how your reply reads. Even if that were the case, it's better to challenge people to take ownership over their problems rather than give them more and more encouragement to point the finger at someone else. | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/20 07:58 PM |
| 3 | Coronavirus Mega ThreadWait for it to drop a bit more first. There are lower days yet to come. | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/20 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Coronavirus Mega ThreadWell said. | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/20 03:07 PM |
| 3 | Whose game are you winning?Right. Most people are also getting divorced, eh? A mission that can be completed in a year is a short-term goal. It reinforces a "Next-Thing-itis" mentality because once that year is up, what's the next thing you're going to invest time in? Missions that could take a lifetime other than pure money-making: Become a best selling author on the NYTimes list Write a show that gets produced on Broadway (one of my second-tier "missions") Start a non-profit that will cure world hunger Create a cure for… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/03/20 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Whose game are you winning?It's different for every guy. I talk about my mission enough on r/RPChristians that I don't need to push the idea here. But you can come up with your own mission. But if it's a weak/crappy mission that's too easy to accomplish and doesn't ultimately amount to anything, it's not going to be attractive. Missions can even be ridiculous and still be attractive - but only if they have long-term substance and aren't wife-focused. For example: Bad Mission: "I want to build up the courage to yodel in my… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/03/20 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?I wouldn't say it's so linear. The stages can (and likely will) come in different orders for different people, and you can repeat stages if you're not paying attention. They're more like zones on a map. Some people just wander around the map and randomly find themselves in different areas, whereas others select a destination and purposely plot out the best path to get there. Obviously I believe the latter is the best, as even when the wanderer gets where he should be, if he doesn't know that's w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/03/20 03:37 AM |
| 10 | I am not sure if I should marry my fiancé - advice needed, new to RPCTo say in slightly longer fashion what /u/OsmiumZulu already said: However you're feeling now, expect it to get worse after marriage - especially if your guy doesn't know how to generate the types of feeling and support you will need long-term to remain attracted to and interested in him. If you've got some buffer on the low end and are willing to take that chance that even after the emotional fade-away hits you'll still want to be with him ... that's your call. But if you're already questioning… | /r/askRPC | 15/03/20 05:04 AM |
| 2 | So... you got the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" (ILYBINILWY) speech?There's that too. Then again, my mom just commented recently about how shocked she is at how some of her 300lb co-workers with bumps on their faces will still manage to find reasonably good looking, in-shape guys they wind up getting engaged with. The power of the blue pill knows no bounds at deluding men. As long as guys remain clueless, women will retain the advantage in the sexual marketplace against them. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/03/20 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?Right. But it would make more sense to assume some degree of common sense rather than pretending I operate on some extremist attitude. | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/20 05:49 PM |
| 3 | is love between women and men real?Men love idealistically. Women love opportunistically. As others here have noted, there are pros and cons to each. Idealistic love is virtually unconditional, optimistic, and develops deep loyalty. On the other hand, it's also blind, irrational, and fosters subservience and inequality, as the other is placed on a pedestal. Opportunistic love is pragmatic, predictable, and easy to foster. On the other hand, it also comes off as cold, selfish, and insincere, if misunderstood. As /u/Rifleshoot said… | /r/askRPC | 12/03/20 05:48 PM |
| 1 | is love between women and men real?Right. Just be cautious with the "God's love is unconditional" bit. I believe this is part of the blue pill lie used to manipulate men into presenting an unconditional love toward their wives, letting them get away with anything, whereas women are still permitted to have conditions on their love toward their husbands. Nothing in the Bible says God's love is unconditional - at least in regard to our ability to have access to the benefits of it. If it were unconditional, Jesus wouldn't have been a… | /r/askRPC | 12/03/20 05:38 PM |
| 6 | So... you got the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" (ILYBINILWY) speech?True. Everyone thinks they're the exception to the rule. That's why it's so important to understand the foundation of hypergamy as a universal compulsion within all women. Yes, some can control it better than others, but the impulse will always be there. When men can understand that she's not unique and special among women, they're more willing to be honest to themselves about these types of things. I always tell my clients: if you don't know what to believe, the safest route is to assume the wo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/03/20 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Whose game are you winning?Yeah, I feel like sometimes with me you try to force some kind of flaw in my approach. But there are some things that are just basic common sense :p | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/20 05:22 PM |
| 17 | So... you got the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" (ILYBINILWY) speech?The list of examples is certainly proof that guys need to be cautious when hearing this phrase. That said, I've also known marriages to recover after the phrase and remain in-tact for a decade after (and going). Some of these guys figured themselves out. Others learned to be bigger suck-ups than before. But if there's true value in this post, it's this: When your woman gives you this speech it usually means that all of her feelings for you have not only been drained, but she is also actively see… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/03/20 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?If she saves up, there will be funds in the account to cover it and I wouldn't say no. | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/20 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?I'm confused. What are you talking about? | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/20 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Whose game are you winning?Right, which is what we do. Under $50 a few times a month - no questions asked. No sense wasting my time micro managing her. | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/20 07:57 AM |
| – | How to deal With People that have Contempt on you?Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. What are your stats? Rule 2. | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/20 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Whose game are you winning?That's a fair caution. Materialism is so far from me that there's no chance I'll ever come close to out-spending her. If I do spend funds, it will be on taking guys I disciple out to eat. Beyond ministry-oriented expenses, I save up for joint vacations to do together. | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/20 05:11 AM |
| 4 | Whose game are you winning?Right, but to some degree there's truth in the old saying that "if you're not doing what you want, you're doing what someone else wants." The only alphas without a mission at all are pure anarchists who don't want anything at all - they just want to burn down what everyone else wants ... which in itself becomes a mission. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/03/20 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?If there was any recent history of that working on me, I'd entertain the notion. But she knows very well right now that when I make a decision, that's the answer. And she hasn't tried to bring any of her requests up again since. | /r/RPChristians | 11/03/20 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Whose game are you winning?u/Sepean is correct. You can read more about my mission and goals on r/RPChristians, but the bottom line is that it doesn't really matter what it is as long as it's something you can get her on board with. There are some things you'll just never get a woman on board with, though, so there's that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/03/20 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Does plausible deniability & hypergamy absolve women’s sins?I agree with everything /u/helaughsinhidden said to your original post. As to this particular question, I'll simply add that the prevalence of blue pill ideology throughout the world is evidence, to me, that men are even more delusional, on the whole, than women. It takes a special kind of delusion to accept such fantastical notions of how the world should operate - and the fact that I lived in that delusion for so long makes me all the more confident of the capacity of men to be at least as, if… | /r/askRPC | 10/03/20 04:39 AM |
| – | How to game my fiance?Rule 2. Edit to add this info. Locked until then. PM me or another mod when you do so I don't miss it and forget to unlock this. In the meantime ... things get a little dry, definitely not her fault as she is a reflection of me She's not a reflection of you yet - especially if you're not even around each other often. She's only a reflection of you after she's had time to mold to your leadership. It sounds like you're not even close to having been together long enough for that to happen. It's pos… | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/20 03:52 AM |
| 6 | IntroWelcome, brother. Here are a few thoughts: Read: NNMNG, MMSLP, post series through 200s, plus others. I know you're still new, but WISNIFG really has to be on this list. With how you describe your ability to handle conflict, this is your #1 greatest need right now. While I am committed to my wife, it is driven by duty, not by passion. Given how quickly you got married, pregnant, etc. it sounds like you didn't lack for passion early on. What changed? What would you need to see in her to restore t… | /r/RPChristians | 09/03/20 04:00 PM |
| 1 | How has God humbled you?God's humbled me in a number of ways, but the most consistently effective is that when my pride rises without my realizing it, I notice an impact in my ministry in the way it becomes off-putting to those I'm trying to reach for Christ, and this is a clear reminder to get back on track. In short, God hinders my mission until I am right with him so that I am clear that it's on his power through which I work, not my own. | /r/askRPC | 09/03/20 04:43 AM |
| – | ConfusedAs others have noted, our community is predominantly men, but this sub intentionally keeps the door open for women to participate. The sidebar contains the following introduction: We are a subreddit that exists to provide a place for Christians to discuss problems, solutions and insights on relationships, sex, and biblical masculinity according to biblical principles. We are certainly open to topics on biblical femininity as well. Our stated core principles are also on the sidebar: Genesis 1:28 … | /r/RPChristians | 09/03/20 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Appreciation Post - For advice given 1.5 years ago and Question about how to identify Masculine Churchesadvice given 1.5 years ago ... Reading: 1. Read 60% of RPC sidebar I'm glad you've finally found some release from a bad relationship. But this incongruity needs to be fixed. The 300s and 400s are where the depth of spiritual growth takes place. In reality, if you are solid with those, you can figure out the 100s and 200s for yourself. As such, they're even more foundational because everything you live by will be derived from those spiritual disciplines you learn therein. Also, they directly rel… | /r/RPChristians | 09/03/20 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Appreciation Post - For advice given 1.5 years ago and Question about how to identify Masculine ChurchesRemoved for link spam. A link here or there isn't a problem if you're explaining what you're linking to, but you can't just start spewing off propaganda videos. | /r/RPChristians | 09/03/20 04:20 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/20)Props for the reply, chuck. I didn't mean to call you out or shame you - this is actually one of the most commonly misused passages, especially on r/TrueChristian. So, I don't fault you in the slightest. That said, on further thought, the relationship between Paul and Timothy is another great example within Scripture of an adult discipling a minor. Their relationship shows an incredibly close relational bond throughout Scripture, referencing parental terms as though it stretches beyond the mere … | /r/RPChristians | 05/03/20 07:03 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/20)I'm disappointed with the comments you're getting on this. It seems like people are trying to get you to empathize with the position the leadership is taking here. But the fact is: they're wrong. Not just for failing to give you up-front notice of their rules. Their rules are wrong too. They are uniquely designed to prevent actual discipleship relationships from forming. If they want to have a rule that says you can't interact one-on-one with girls in your ministry, I can at least understand tha… | /r/RPChristians | 05/03/20 05:39 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/20)For the most part I am very concerned with how others see me Galatians 1:10 - "For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ." Everyone is afraid of what others think because they think others have some power over them. They assume that a wrong impression will make them not want to be friends anymore, which will lead to loneliness and depression. The irony is: over-worry about what other… | /r/RPChristians | 05/03/20 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 03, 2020Right on. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/03/20 05:21 PM |
| 2 | The Wife Who Truly Loves YouExactly. | /r/RPChristians | 04/03/20 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Communication Doesn't Work....or Maybe...Excellent post, brother. This is truly good stuff. I find myself on the other end of the conversation when people tell me: "You've said what I've been thinking for some time, but didn't know how to put into words." I started to type a longer reply, but it eventually evolved into a post of its own, as I continued to process some things (here - though I imagine the direction I take things might not be of particular interest to you). One thing that I didn't address in that post is the similarity I … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/03/20 09:06 AM |
| 2 | Anger, Frame, and PowerI'm not sure about all of this, but I do agree with your conclusion. The most essential phrase you've given: "The truly strong don't feel a need to prove their strength." Solid. If you're trying to prove anything to anyone, you're in their frame. Now, there are concepts when it's okay to operate in someone else's frame. If you want a promotion, you might have to prove to your boss that you're the right man for the job. He has power and authority to decide within his own framework who gets the po… | /r/RPChristians | 04/03/20 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Question regarding classification of beliefsThis is all kinds of screwed up. If that's really your only purpose for the question, I'm taking your thread down, as this forum isn't designed for ego stroking and personal questions that have no application to the rest of the community. | /r/RPChristians | 04/03/20 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 03, 2020IF there was a god...do you think it would please him more that you followed his way and did well in life because his priests told you to? Or because you took ownership of your life and CHOSE to live a life he gave you? Certainly the latter. I take the view that doing anything "because I'm supposed to" is just as much sin as doing it maliciously. While priests/pastors may at times have wisdom to share (and at many, many other times, trash to share too), if one fails to operate within their faith… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/03/20 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Question regarding classification of beliefsI agree with /u/Praexology. You are very obviously eisegeting your own personal philosophies in how you interpret Scripture. When you do this, you're always going to deviate from the mainstream denominations because your line of theology is your own personal concoction. There are as many combinations of interpreting the numerous Scripture passages as there are people who have lived or ever will. Some of your views overlap with Catholicism, others with Orthodoxy, and others with numerous Protesta… | /r/RPChristians | 04/03/20 04:37 AM |
| 2 | I tried to share the good news but I think I failed miserably.Props for the turn-around in your life and actually trying to share your faith with those in need. A few notes: explaining the holy spirit, if they keep on sinning then they are not spirit led yet You can't become Spirit-led by quitting sin. You quit sin by being Spirit-led. You've got the process backwards. How do you be Spirit-led? First, Luke 11:13 says to ask God for his Spirit. Second, you repent in your heart - which means not just a repentance AWAY FROM sin (which is not actual repentance… | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 07:49 PM |
| 3 | What about BDSM and Roleplay?Matthew 18:6 is the most common reference for that point. With passages like that available (not to mention 1 Cor. 8, Romans 14, and so on), it's pretty well undisputed and commonly known to all that a Christian shouldn't do something that will cause someone else to stumble. There's no value in trying to dispute such well-established issues simply because the particular verse chosen might not have been the best one (rather, we often use the first one to come to our minds when we write these post… | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 07:02 PM |
| – | should men be the head of the house?This question shouldn't need to be asked here. It is plastered everywhere on our sidebar and inherent in all of our discussions. This is such a low-quality, over-basic post that I'm locking it from further discussion. | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 06:19 PM |
| 2 | What about BDSM and Roleplay?What are you trying to insinuate here? | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 06:11 PM |
| 2 | What about BDSM and Roleplay?This seems like needless bickering. /u/Deep_Strength already included in his original comment "form/appearance" - so both translations were covered ("kind" is the other common translation, which is included in "form"). More to the point, are you really challenging the premise that if "you think it can cause others to stumble or you think it might be questionable, don't even engage in that behavior"? Or are you just nitpicking on which verse he used to get to that otherwise perfectly biblical con… | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 06:08 PM |
| 1 | What about BDSM and Roleplay?I agree with /u/Deep_Strength. If you're asking the question, you're already in the wrong framework for understanding godliness. A friend of mine who mods r/TrueChristian just wrote a fantastic post addressing these types of questions in great detail. I strongly recommend you read it. | /r/RPChristians | 02/03/20 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Q&A on Sexual "Brainwashing"I don't think the connection to a workplace romance would be at all apparent to most people outside the red pill. When I first got here, I didn't understand how it connected either. | /r/RPChristians | 21/02/20 02:25 AM |
| 3 | Q&A on Sexual "Brainwashing"It would be nice if I could say stuff like that in a Q&A ministry and be done with it. But in this particular situation the guy is asking, "WHY can't I crap where I eat?" Answering, "Don't crap where you eat" does nothing to answer the question. Plus, his question was a bit more nuanced. | /r/RPChristians | 20/02/20 03:38 PM |
| 5 | The Philosophy Side of The BibleIf you were spiritually responsible for a community, you might feel differently when certain bad advice is given. Not to say that the other guy is one, but there is a large group of cult-like KJV-onlyists that can be dangerous. I don't prohibit people from reading the KJV. I just want them informed before developing their translation preferences rather than being influenced in potentially risky ways. Note that we did not make a debate of it. He made one comment, I made an extremely short reply. … | /r/RPChristians | 20/02/20 03:33 PM |
| 3 | Q&A on Sexual "Brainwashing"Agreed. I think I noted as much ;) I just used Jacob and Rachel as a fairly extreme example of presumably waiting 14 years just to have sex with one girl. | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/20 09:47 PM |
| 3 | The Philosophy Side of The BibleA number of them - usually ESV for generic reading, Young's Literal or an interlineal Bible for study. | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/20 09:44 PM |
| 6 | Q&A on Sexual "Brainwashing"I'm a question-answerer for gotquestions.org. Sometimes, if the question seems relevant to the sub, I'll post what someone asked and my response. | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/20 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Many Christians believe that the Christian red pill ideas promote an anti-Christian perspective on marriage. What’s your response? What would you say to someone who says that the Christian red pill ideas are too process/result oriented?Solid. | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/20 07:57 PM |
| 12 | The Philosophy Side of The BibleNon-Christians find value in reading the Bible all the time. Even if they don't go into it for the purpose of developing a belief system, there are numerous non-Christians who recognize it is a valuable source of human history, poetic intrigue, and food for moral and philosophical thought. Given that many moral debates throughout the world today involve the Bible on one side of the line or other (sometimes both), it would probably be of great interest for someone like you to want to know what it… | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/20 07:55 PM |
| 4 | The Philosophy Side of The BibleI would certainly take issue with the characterization of the KJV here. But yes, it's better to read any generally accepted version than none at all. | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/20 07:51 PM |
| 8 | If you are struggling with repetitive sin, especially if you're a coomer, you need to commit to scripture memory.Often-times people will find immediate freedom from an issue and be incredibly excited about it for weeks, believing they have discovered some secret that has eluded the masses for centuries. Most of the time, these same people regress, discovering that their miracle solution wasn't quite as miraculous as they thought. Scripture memory certainly helps. I would even say it's essential in overcoming certain sins. But as /u/Cloudy_Pirate noted, it is not sufficient in itself if unaccompanied by oth… | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/20 07:47 PM |
| 6 | Dating friends vs. dating women you don’t know entirely wellYou're missing the rule 2 information. What's your mission? There's no problem dating from your friend pool, but you don't even have that. And without a clear mission and strong frame, even when you do get friends, the relationships will be shallow and directionless. Too many guys want to skip building the foundation and go straight to chasing girls. For nonchristians, that's fine. The chase is practice, and if they can get laid a few times before they're actually worth it, they say, "All the be… | /r/RPChristians | 16/02/20 04:33 PM |
| 5 | Q&A With an untrusting wifehttps://deepstrength.wordpress.com/ https://loydwalker.com/ | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 11:57 PM |
| 6 | Q&A With an untrusting wifeIf you're asking whether women go to hell for denying their husbands, I don't believe that's the unforgivable sin. If you're asking if it's sin, yes it is. Even Jewish culture had a term for these women: Moredet. Research that for a more historical take. Otherwise, the New Testament should show that Christ gives freedom for men to manage their own homes appropriately within biblical standards as they see fit. | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Q&A With an untrusting wifeMost q&a on got questions is private conversation and not publicly published. This is one of those. Sometimes they notify me a year later that they're publishing one of my answers, but that'd be a while off for something like this. | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Q&A With an untrusting wifeI'm guessing it will be too long to transcribe. I'm anticipating it to be 1+ hours per session - more akin to red man group than BPP's audio series. | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 09:46 PM |
| 6 | Q&A With an untrusting wifeI had considered it. u/deep_strength and u/redpillwonder seem to be handling the blogging front well enough. Anything I would blog about I'd just put here anyway. I do plan on starting a podcast soon. More info on that soon - hoping to begin in a month or so. | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Are all missions related to becoming a Pastor or Missionary? Or can it be anything?Hah! An amusing analogy. | /r/askRPC | 28/01/20 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Are all missions related to becoming a Pastor or Missionary? Or can it be anything?I do believe career missionaries are perfectly appropriate and necessary. The apostles and Jesus model it both ways. That said, Paul was careful never to let his financial needs compromise the message. If a vocational missionary is asking for money in a way that causes anyone to be skeptical of their ministry, I'm automatically skeptical because Paul would sooner take up tent making again before allowing his ministry to anyone become compromised. Vocational missionaries (whether local pastors or… | /r/askRPC | 27/01/20 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Are all missions related to becoming a Pastor or Missionary? Or can it be anything?It's more a frame of mind thing. To say, "I am both a missionary and IT technician" implies that they are separate vocations, as if you do your missions work when you're not doing IT work. Wording it the way he did, while sounding "sneaky," as you put it, is really a misnomer to communicate the broader concept that missions work is an underlying foundation of our identity and function in the world and that our day job is nothing more than context. | /r/askRPC | 27/01/20 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Seeking Godly Counsel 1/2A few quick tips: A man with an abundance mentality will never be hurt and "sobbing" when relationships end. Shift from a sniper approach to a shotgun approach to inviting women into your life. The invitation doesn't have to be for the purpose of dating. But having a broader social network, including of women, does help with not only dating, but virtually everything else you'll need for your mission also. If you want to go overseas, how do you think you'll get funding with no social support syst… | /r/askRPC | 27/01/20 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Are all missions related to becoming a Pastor or Missionary? Or can it be anything?The guy who discipled me (Justin) often told a story of a guy we'll call Bob. Justin discipled Bob while Bob was in college. Bob was studying for a career in IT. Justin often asked him for updates and Bob would waver: "I can't decide whether to be a missionary or an IT technician." At graduation, Justin pressed him: "The time to decide is up, so what's your answer? Is it missionary or IT worker?" Bob answered, "I've decided to be a missionary ... disguised as an IT worker." This is the proper fr… | /r/askRPC | 27/01/20 02:36 AM |
| 3 | Are all missions related to becoming a Pastor or Missionary? Or can it be anything?I would argue that the exercise of one's spiritual gifts aren't the mission itself; rather, they are the context that creates the pathway for how the mission will be fulfilled. That is, the mission is the same for us all: "Go and make disciples of all nations." Some will insert their life context into that mission: "I'm a plumber, so I'm going to make disciples of those who need plumbing work done, or fix the plumbing of those I disciple." But if one is gifted at ... teaching, then he will say: … | /r/askRPC | 27/01/20 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Joseph’s journey—and maybe yoursWhat I can't understand is what is the purpose of presenting my requests to God through prayer and petition? My wife has brought the request to me many, many, many times that she wants a dog. I always refuse and say we will never get one. But she still loves dogs. She still tells me how much she'd love to have one. Somewhere, deep down, she's hoping she can change my mind, even though I am steadfast in my determination on this issue and have reaffirmed the same repeatedly. At some point, it's no… | /r/RPChristians | 27/01/20 02:19 AM |
| 1 | David and MichalYes, not the other way around. | /r/askRPC | 15/01/20 09:50 PM |
| 1 | David and MichalRight. We can notice the overlap when they occur. But seeing something "through a lens" usually means you're letting that lens affect how you interpret it. We should not go into Scriptural study trying to force red pill concepts into the way we interpret the Bible; rather, we let the Bible speak for itself and marvel at the way the secular red pill crowd has independently discovered through observation of creation the same things the Bible could have told them if they'd only looked. | /r/askRPC | 15/01/20 06:44 PM |
| 3 | A Series of FRsYes. Bob is their father. He's a solid believer, very present, active at the gym (even at 60+) ... but does struggle with some OCD issues. The dichotomy you notice is extremely common. I see it in my cases all the time. Even in my own family, I have a man child brother who lives in my dad's upstairs staying up to 6am every night drinking and playing video games. It's usually the younger sibling who had these issues, as is thre case with Debbie and Fiona. Many people guess it's because the older … | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/20 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Empirical evidence to support RP in general?Census Bureau has good stuff. The FBI public statistics also helps a lot when it comes to anything criminal as well. Domestic violence stats, for example, come to mind, demonstrating significant variances from public perceptions of men and women (ex. overall, women are more physically violent toward men than men are toward women). /u/Deep_Strength also cites a lot of good material in his book, which is worth a look. Tag: /u/SingularityOne198 | /r/askRPC | 12/01/20 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Empirical evidence to support RP in general?I thought he went Orthodox? | /r/askRPC | 12/01/20 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Are all relationships that explore sexuality prior to marriage headed towards failure?Well-put. | /r/askRPC | 12/01/20 06:52 AM |
| 3 | David and MichalNever try to look at Scripture "from a RP perspective." Don't eisegete your own ideas into the text - especially when trying, as this post intends to do, to force some reconciliation. Michal saw David dancing in front of other women in his underwear. Why is it hard to understand why she would be upset by this? She's embarrassed at her husband's indiscretion. Are you married? How would your wife feel if you hired a housekeeper and danced around the house in your underwear while they were trying t… | /r/askRPC | 12/01/20 06:49 AM |
| 2 | WISNIFG - the 1st assertive right through GodShouldn't I consider God's judgement and frame as my guide instead of my own? First, God hasn't judged you yet. That won't happen until Judgment Day. So, it's more accurate to say you will be judged by God someday, but until then you must judge for yourself your own life and actions. Second, the function of sanctification is to make you more godly/Christ-like. In doing so, your own judgment becomes more aligned with God's so that your self-judgment is consistent with God's eventual judgment over… | /r/askRPC | 12/01/20 06:45 AM |
| 2 | 2 Year Field ReportSolid report, brother. I appreciate you sharing this. Being mission-oriented is certainly one of the most foundational concepts RPC has to offer, without which everything else falls apart no matter how well you seem to master it all. Her priority was everyone EXCEPT me and it was a major irritation. A simple note here: this is natural for women raised in modern society. They believe the husband is to pour his attention on her so her cup fills up to pour out on everyone else. This originates from… | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/20 06:38 AM |
| 3 | How to Live Life without Women (MGTOW until the Lord Provides)?I know that it is in my best interest to forget women and turn my heart towards God, but once I accept this frame of mind, what will life be like for me? 99.9% chance that once you accept this, life will be like ... everyone else's, but more fulfilling. You're still going to end up married, you're still going to struggle through the same life hurdles everyone else does. But instead of being controlled by your wife, you'll be driven toward more important things and able to enjoy your wife. My per… | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/20 06:23 AM |
| 1 | One Year FRI had fun reading this. I see a lot of growth, but I'm more impressed at your recognition of your ongoing areas of need for improvement. Keep at it, brother. | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/20 06:14 AM |
| 1 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Yes we have :p I don't think the debate is as big as you think, though. I know a lot of people (pastors even) who will vouch for the validity of old testament law off the cuff, but I have yet to meet a single person who maintains that view after studying that particular issue directly. | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/19 07:51 PM |
| 2 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.But practicing homosexuality in itself is a false reflection. | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/19 04:01 PM |
| 2 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.I think the relevant thing here is that it's not wrong because Paul said so. It's wrong because it reflects a false image of God to the world. This is the essence of the new covenant: not only that we are free from the law into grace, but also that we are reconciled to God and restored in our capacity to reflect his image. Our obligation to obedience is not "because the bible says so" - whether that's the law, or Paul, or even Jesus. Our obligation is to live up to the perfect creation we were o… | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/19 03:25 PM |
| 1 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Note the context of the conversation was my telling him you can't use old testament law as an authority on the issue of homosexuality. OT law is informative, but non binding on all issues. | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/19 03:06 PM |
| 2 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Note the context of the conversation was my telling him you can't use old testament law as an authority on the issue of homosexuality. OT law is informative, but non binding on all issues. | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/19 02:49 PM |
| 3 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Acts 15 Romans 6:14 Romans 7:1-6 Galatians 2:19 Galatians 3:10-14 Galatians 3:23-24 Ephesians 2:14-15 Hebrews 7:18-19 Hebrews 8 (especially 13) Those are the ones that come to mind off the top of my head. Jesus saying, "It is finished" (in conjunction with him saying that the law would not pass away "until all is accomplished") would be another example. Paul, as a Jew, saying he is not under the law is also telling (1 Cor. 9:20). In Galatians 5, Paul becomes so enraged at the Jewish believers tr… | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/19 03:11 AM |
| 4 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Because context matters. Jesus says: "If your eye causes you to sin, gouge it out." Would it be biblical or unbiblical for every man on earth who has ever watched porn to blind himself? Or for every woman who ever gossiped to cut her tongue off? Unbiblical, of course. That would be a wrong interpretation of that verse. The context must be considered before we make stupid choices based on uninformed interpretations. Regarding OT law, we are never to follow it blindly at face value. That ignores i… | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/19 12:52 AM |
| 2 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Then what do you make of all the passages in the new testament where Paul says non Jews aren't subject to old testament law? | /r/RPChristians | 22/12/19 12:29 AM |
| 3 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Are you Jewish? | /r/RPChristians | 21/12/19 06:14 PM |
| 3 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.When was the last time you sacrificed an animal? | /r/RPChristians | 21/12/19 05:10 PM |
| 5 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Right. But using levitical law out of its context is unbiblical. | /r/RPChristians | 21/12/19 05:00 PM |
| 3 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Calling for the execution of homosexuals, or to put them in concentration camps. That's the main one that comes to mind. | /r/RPChristians | 21/12/19 04:52 PM |
| 8 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.You can't convert a modern congregation to biblical principles because modern congregations aren't even a biblical structure in the first place. You'd have to close shop and start something completely new. That said, you can start something new within an existing congregation. That's the best route. | /r/RPChristians | 21/12/19 03:35 PM |
| 6 | How would a turnaround for the church look like? Making it more RP than Feminist.Just be cautious of some of his extremely unbiblical views along the way. | /r/RPChristians | 21/12/19 03:32 PM |
| 1 | FR: Fatherhood. Some early observations.splurge on conveniences for the first month That's fair. The biggest convenience, in my view, is having a decent swing. With a good enough swing, you can have your life back for several hours. I know you're not technically supposed to, but I used to let my kid sleep overnight in those things when they were particularly cranky. Worked every time. My son pisses straight through the disposables Weird. I've only ever had that happen twice and it was because we went hours past a normal changing time … | /r/RPChristians | 17/12/19 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Advice on moving forward with Christian dudes who are bp?Solid. | /r/askRPC | 17/12/19 07:15 AM |
| 5 | Advice on moving forward with Christian dudes who are bp?"The Lord disciplines the one he loves" - Hebrews 12:6. Respond back: "Excellent reference, my friend. I totally agree that we should love our wives the way Christ loves the church. So, what would you say is the proper way for a husband to discipline his wife?" Wait 10 seconds through either shocked silence or objection after objection. "Oh, so you think we should just single out one aspect of how Christ loved the church and ignore all the other ways?" Done. Works every time. Sometimes I still g… | /r/askRPC | 17/12/19 07:15 AM |
| 3 | So what *can* you negotiate?You can negotiate compliance. That's about it. Anything internal has to be there on its own. Often-times, even if the desire is there, negotiating compliance doesn't make the desire come with it. For example: I've had situations where I wanted to perform a task at work. Then my boss would come and tell me I had to do that task. Instead of thinking, "That's great, I wanted to do that anyway!" the mandatory compliance took the fun out of it, so my desire to do the task suddenly felt like an obliga… | /r/askRPC | 17/12/19 07:09 AM |
| 3 | GotQuestions.org says "God pursues us". What's is RPC's response?I'm a writer for gotquestions and they've published many of my pieces among their articles. They get a lot of stuff right and a lot wrong. I've already written a lot about this quite a bit on the RPC sidebar regarding the "orientation of the pursuit." Look up that term and you should find it. To summarize: I did a study twice (partly to make sure I wasn't mistaken; mostly because I lost my results from the first time) on the number of times the words pursue/pursues/come after/seek/etc. are used … | /r/askRPC | 17/12/19 07:01 AM |
| – | How to find Devout Christians my Age?Devout Christians are rare anywhere, not just Australia. The solution isn't to look harder. The people who often come off as "devout" really aren't "devout" at all. They're pious. They have an appearance of being "devout" because they "devote" so much of their time, money, etc. to churchianity, but they're not actually doing the work God called them to do. They're not making disciples. They're not sharing their faith. They just serve in 3-4 different ministries and show up to all the volunteer p… | /r/RPChristians | 17/12/19 06:54 AM |
| 1 | How God Saved My MarriageExcellent FR, brother. I bet this lesson would have been a whole lot easier if someone put up content on the sidebar about how having a mission can turn a marriage around. I mean, does anyone even talk about these things? It's so important that maybe someone should write a very simple step-by-step guide for how to develop a solid, biblical mission. Teasing aside, I'm glad it finally clicked and you're well on your way! The next challenge is refining your mission into something that actually matt… | /r/RPChristians | 17/12/19 06:51 AM |
| 2 | Christmas SongsWhat about A Weight in a Manger? The one where baby Jesus shows the wise men how buff he is? | /r/RPChristians | 17/12/19 06:39 AM |
| 2 | Christmas SongsFor that matter, most practices we see in Sunday services have pagan origins. Are we to give up on Sunday services too? Some say yes. I'm not there yet. | /r/RPChristians | 17/12/19 06:37 AM |
| 2 | FR: Fatherhood. Some early observations.Excellent post in its entirety! Babies have amazing frame. I'd contemplated doing a series on parenting and this was exactly one of my points. Kids, in general, virtually always operate from their own point of origin. Most parents believe their entire job is to train their kids to stop doing that. I'm taking a slightly different approach with my son. Results TBD, but it's working. I admit, when my son is screaming his head off for reasons I have yet to diagnose, it can become frustrating. That w… | /r/RPChristians | 17/12/19 06:30 AM |
| 1 | The Truth About PornIt's a mutual thing. 1 Cor. 7:3-4 - "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife." | /r/RPChristians | 12/12/19 09:25 PM |
| 2 | no offense but wouldn't islam/judaism accomplish your goal faster of having a nuclear family and resisting feminism?(correct me if I am wrong) But it seems like you guys want This is obviously where you're wrong. Our goal/desire has nothing to do with this world. We want what God wills. It just so happens that God wills a lot of the things you referenced. They are our goal not because we want them as an end in themselves - we want them because God wants them. If God desired feminist domination and that men lick toilets to clean them, that's what I'd be fighting for as well. We are not manosphere guys who have… | /r/RPChristians | 12/12/19 05:49 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 10, 2019You're an idiot. I've had cases where we subpoenaed video footage from gas stations, restaurants, grocery stores, etc. You going to avoid all those too? I had one case where the other party got info from a friend of a friend of a friend. Another where it came through contacting the contractor working on a party's house. GAL wants to do a random screen you're not prepared for? You're done. Can you get away with it? Sure. It's possible. But you're a fool if you're banking on that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/12/19 05:41 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 10, 2019Some people just can't see their own issues. This guy's obviously one of them. You picked the exact two statements I was going to single out until I saw you already did so. The thing is: he thinks his drinking isn't a problem so no one else should see it as a problem either. But that's not how it works. If there's a claim of alcohol abuse, ANY drinking at all is viewed as a problem and a risk. I just went through this with another client. He was furious that the mom was drinking and using meth w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/12/19 11:44 PM |
| 3 | Three Strategies to Maintaining Good Nutrition Over Christmas and New Year’sSolid advice. I usually fast the day before or limit my calorie intake to those binge-worthy events and eat nothing else that day. Another thing that helps is simply to remind myself that I'm there to build Kingdom-advancing relationships (whether it's family, friends, co-workers, strangers, etc.) and, therefore, I focus primarily on the conversation rather than the festivities themselves. If alcohol is involved, rather than binging, keep one glass in your hand and sip it for hours. Can I handle… | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/19 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Men are the prizeIs Jesus not our prize? Does God not say in Genesis 15:1 - "I am your very great reward"? Like u/deep_strength said (though I take a slightly different spin), the secular concept is a shallow mockery of the deeper theological truth of the role between a husband and wife as modeled through God's relationship with his people and Christ's relationship with his bride, the Church. Their concept is true - but they're only seeing 10% of the whole picture. In the reverse, Jesus says that if we won't pra… | /r/askRPC | 06/12/19 04:04 PM |
| 9 | How would you ask out a girl if you are always around friends when you see her?Why do you need to get her alone in the first place? Are you too nervous/shy/embarrassed/whatever to communicate your thoughts in front of other people? "What if they reject me?" is a question TOTALLY in their frame. So what if they reject you? Do you not have abundance yet? If you don't, you have no business getting worked up over asking out a girl in the first place. Also, check out my post: "initiate often, confident always." It'll really help you out here. Also, hone in on what /u/TheChristi… | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/19 03:44 AM |
| 9 | How would you ask out a girl if you are always around friends when you see her?Don't make it humorous. This leaves room for plausible deniability, which is a display of weakness/low-value. A strong man just says what he wants. If it doesn't work, he doesn't play it off as a joke to "save face" - he owns it and moves on. Also, if you leave any room for it to be taken as a joke/ironic/sarcastic/humorous, you're making it easier for her to reject you by creating the plausible deniability FOR HER. Why do her work for her? LMR, ASD, certain types of fitness tests - these are al… | /r/RPChristians | 02/12/19 03:40 AM |
| 8 | [Serious Question] What is the proper way to treat a female these days?u/fictitiousfishes once commented that 99% of God's will for our lives has already been told to us through scripture, so there's really no point getting hung up on praying constantly for some divine revelation of your purpose. If you're in a bizarre or unique situation, sure. But why do you think you're so special that God would give you special revelation for your life to tell you the same thing he's already said in the bible that you're not yet doing in the first place? Start making disciples.… | /r/RPChristians | 30/11/19 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Some good news and some questionsI was going to respond, but /u/Deep_Strength (and several other people) already said everything I intended. This relationship is headed for long-term disaster. How do I know? Because I too have been exactly where you are. Underlying problems aside, let me skip straight to your actual questions and then not answer them: How do I make her feel more comfortable being the one to initiate physical affection? You don't. Men are spontaneously sexual. Women are responsively sexual. Yes, they will initia… | /r/askRPC | 26/11/19 04:42 AM |
| 1 | FR: Phone Repair (WISNIFG)I rarely see anyone writing about WISNIFG techniques being applied to everyday situations, most men tend to only make use of it in their relationships I use them in my job every single day. | /r/RPChristians | 26/11/19 04:20 AM |
| 1 | Thank you JesusSorry, this is too low quality. You're welcome to repost this on r/askRPC. | /r/RPChristians | 26/11/19 04:13 AM |
| – | The Importance of Being Happy/u/redwall92 is spot-on on this one. RP is not about finding happiness. It's about discerning truth. There are many happy people on both the red and blue lines, just as there are unhappy people on both sides. You're trying to affix a false relationship between happiness and the red pill. That said, you're right: the red pill cannot be the source of someone's happiness - not sex, nor women, nor amusement parks or money or Netflix. Our satisfaction and happiness is found in God - and it is that re… | /r/RPChristians | 26/11/19 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Tips for Utilizing Passive Dread, Isn't It Toothless?Yeah, my point was simply that there's more to it than just qualities that prove you're a good leader. You get that, though. The way you had it worded made it seem like leadership was the primary focus, though. | /r/askRPC | 21/11/19 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Tips for Utilizing Passive Dread, Isn't It Toothless?Solid. Women usually get offended if you bring up how pretty other women are The one exception I'd give is passive comments about TV/celebrities. They know you're not trying to make them jealous because it's not realistic, so they're not hurt or offended. But it does show them that you have sexual thoughts broadly and not merely for her alone. Or to put it another way, it's more honest about the sexual thoughts you have, bringing out overtly what most men are too afraid to communicate in front o… | /r/askRPC | 21/11/19 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Attention Whore Starter PackI was once told: "You're not really a practicing attorney until you're grossing a quarter-mil. Anything less than that and it's just a hobby that pays." That's about what photography is for most women: a hobby that pays. And it usually doesn't even pay - or when it does, it's like $250/yr because they charged 5 friends $50 to take a few shots. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/11/19 07:47 AM |
| 2 | I feel like this girl wanted me to kiss her last date.Me. | /r/RPChristians | 15/11/19 07:38 AM |
| 4 | Non-believing spouseWhat do I do with her? "Let those with wives live as though they had none." ~1 Cor. 7:29 I know the Bible tells me to pray for her but in all these years she never was genuinely interested in meeting my needs. How long is long enough? Long enough until she leaves. She is escaping her motherly duties with work You own 2/3 of the company. You're her boss. If you need to, "buy her out" (whatever that means when you're married) and replace her with an employee. Or just give her a workload that's con… | /r/askRPC | 12/11/19 06:03 PM |
| 3 | Should Christian men & women only accept Christian counsela book I got her to read This is where you first went wrong, my friend. thinking she finally is changing Don't worry. You'll swallow the pill eventually. Right now you're letting the taste of it linger in your mouth, hoping it's not true. Should Christian men & women only accept Christian counsel? That depends on the topic. As /u/conk2000 says, there are countless things worth getting advice from non-Christians from. A non-Christian taught me how to practice law. He was darn good at it, and now … | /r/askRPC | 12/11/19 05:43 AM |
| 6 | MissionThis is beautiful. Let me be clear: THIS SUB DOES NOT ENDORSE COMMUNISM. Though I/we may have strong preferences, socio-economic structures aren't something the red pill or Christianity specifically prescribes. That said - I have often said things very much like this about my commitment to the great commission to the small groups I have led. What's also interesting is that just as you say a man with this kind of drive for his mission is marriage-material, as soon as he gets a wife her aim will b… | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/19 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Service and MissionI agree with you that many men are looking for ways to deflect responsibility. I also agree that this post could very well dissuade them from serving in opportunities when they should be serving. However, I'm also persuaded that most forms of service performed by congregations are not at all what God intended in the first place. I have served on numerous service teams and engaged in ministries serving the homeless, victims of human trafficking, orphans, children with no money for lunches at scho… | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/19 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Service and MissionHe means my book on discipleship, which I wrote 9 years ago :p | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/19 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Service and MissionAs the beginning of discipleship, yes. I don't think they have to accept the gospel to be served. But they do have to show that they're at least not obstinate against it and that they want what other believers have. I mean ... do we see Jesus washing the pharisees feet? | /r/RPChristians | 12/11/19 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Sharing church with soon-to-be ex-wifeThe legal/psychological term is parental alienation. Also ... even if you've done nothing wrong it doesn't mean she won't twist the narrative into you being the bad guy No matter the situation, there's always some contribution to the problem, even if it's unknowing or unintentional. And an ex will always spin it against you in court. | /r/askRPC | 11/11/19 03:50 PM |
| 1 | The Truth About PornVery interesting idea. I like it. I'll think on it. Any suggestions? | /r/RPChristians | 10/11/19 08:10 PM |
| 2 | A place for your questions and off-topic discussion.You don't see the line that says "Refer to the RPC sidebar for rules and recommend reading materials"? | /r/askRPC | 08/11/19 03:43 PM |
| 2 | A place for your questions and off-topic discussion.The sidebar incorporates thre RPC rules. Maybe that never got ported to the redesign, if that's what you're looking on. | /r/askRPC | 08/11/19 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Proposal, Engagement and Marriage TraditionsIntegrate better into society. Tell her: "It's sexist to assume the man should bend his knee. You should bend your knee to me when I propose." Win win, right? | /r/RPChristians | 07/11/19 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Sharing church with soon-to-be ex-wifeSolid. | /r/askRPC | 06/11/19 04:49 PM |
| 3 | The Truth About Pornuse porn to satisfy his BDSM kink So he had this kink already and porn was simply an outlet for it. He really needed to find a wife who shared his preferences rather than marrying 'vanilla' chicks and using porn! What I'm reading is that the mismatched sexual preferences are what caused the imbalance here, not necessarily the porn use in itself. Eventually I went outside the relationship to get my needs met So the porn is apparently what ruined the marriage, not this, right? I'm teasing, and ass… | /r/RPChristians | 06/11/19 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Sex and SinThe role of correction is only among other believers. This is clear from every time it's brought up in scripture. It's impossible to get a nonbeliever to stop sinning anyway, so correcting them is the definition of futile. By their very nature, everything they do is sin. | /r/RPChristians | 06/11/19 07:35 AM |
| 1 | The Truth About PornWhat's the story there? | /r/RPChristians | 06/11/19 07:31 AM |
| 7 | The Truth About PornI agree with u/iseeitnow7. Your thoughts here only apply to the degree the wife is actually willing. Your question implies that her obedience to God should appropriately depend on her getting what she wants from her husband first. This is a wrong framework. I do agree that a man should not look at porn and that this will have a negative impact on his marriage. My point in this post wasn't to prove otherwise. It was more to show that there are other more damaging things to marriage than porn use … | /r/RPChristians | 05/11/19 05:01 PM |
| 6 | The Truth About PornAmen to that. | /r/RPChristians | 05/11/19 08:27 AM |
| 7 | The Truth About PornHaha. In fairness, I edited that in at the end after realizing I didn't have time to edit the whole post. | /r/RPChristians | 05/11/19 08:26 AM |
| 1 | what is the RPC reason for not engaging in hookup culture?Why don't RPCs spin plates? Game lots of girls? We have more important things in life to do. As Rollo often says, RP isn't about prescribed behaviors; it's about knowing the truth - and what you do with that truth is up to each man. The secular subs have a strong bias toward making sex with multiple women their primary mission in life. Those of us on RPC find that to be a relatively weak and useless mission and we've prioritized other things over sex such that we maximize our sexuality without h… | /r/askRPC | 05/11/19 08:17 AM |
| 3 | The Truth About PornHaha. That's about what I'd expect from the crowd these days. | /r/RPChristians | 05/11/19 02:05 AM |
| 2 | Confession & Repentance?It's up - unedited, but I ran out of time. | /r/askRPC | 04/11/19 10:04 PM |
| 4 | Confession & Repentance?I spilled my guts and she just kinda looked at me blankly Because she's thinking: "Why are you telling me this? Are you looking for my approval and validation? Do you want me to be your mommy?" I've been thinking about writing a post on this exact topic. Perhaps now is the time. | /r/askRPC | 04/11/19 04:52 PM |
| 6 | Using Kanye as an ice breakerGood tip, brother. Really, any cultural topic can be used this way. Political election: Ask about the candidates and the conversation inevitably ends up in issues of morality and you can ask where they get their moral framework from. Popular movies: Ask about a difficult decision the main character had to go through and what they'd do. Transition it to whether or not they've had to make difficult choices in their own lives. Video games: You're playing call of duty and racking up kills. You ask, … | /r/askRPC | 04/11/19 04:41 PM |
| – | What are your thoughts on kissing a girl on the first date?This is more of an r/askRPC question. Because I didn't see it in time, I'll leave it up anyway. But low-effort stuff like this belongs over there in the future. | /r/RPChristians | 04/11/19 04:15 PM |
| 1 | On creeps and romantics and obedience to GodAs I noted elsewhere, I think what /u/lololasaurus was alluding to is the fact that a man's compliance to his wife is what's unattractive and makes him less attractive to her. The guy could be earning 6-figures and still doing most of the household chores himself. The issue isn't one of whether or not he does chores. It's the reason why he does them. If he does chores because his wife nags him into it, then his motivation is to appease his wife - an unattractive reason. If he does it because he'… | /r/RPChristians | 04/11/19 04:13 PM |
| 3 | On creeps and romantics and obedience to GodI think you're missing the underlying point /u/Deep_Strength is making. You're only looking at the immediately proximate cause and not the interconnectivity of these issues. A man does the dishes at his wife's request. She doesn't think, "How dare he! I'm leaving him." Instead she thinks (subconsciously): "Why does he succumb to everything I say all the time? It's so unattractive. I'm not attracted to him anymore. I'm leaving." Yes, this mentality does happen a lot. | /r/RPChristians | 04/11/19 04:08 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on kissing a girl on the first date?not some "line" that you cross but are rather a "direction." Beautiful. I often teach guys the difference between a "destinational" and "directional" mentality. Most of Christianity only makes sense in a directional framework. The destinational crowd often makes an idol of their own view of Jesus rather than the living, moving, active Jesus who's on the go. "how much can I do until I'm sinning" is establishing a law that you have to work to keep when, as Christians, we are told to live under gra… | /r/RPChristians | 04/11/19 04:14 AM |
| 21 | Sex and SinI'm going to cut you some slack because you're new to the faith. You've clearly got some screwed up ideas about what the Bible says, no doubt from stereotypes rather than the Bible itself. Let's set this straight. sexual pleasure and pursuaing "alphadom" is sin False. Source: entire book of Song of Solomon. Also: Proverbs 5:19 - "may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love" ... among many other passages. Salvation demands ... direct their wills away from attaini… | /r/RPChristians | 04/11/19 04:01 AM |
| 3 | The goal for Christian husbands whose wives deny them should not be sex but their wife’s repentanceIs God immune to our efforts to disappoint him (intentional or unintentional)? Yes. Disappointment implies an expectation that wasn't met. God knows exactly who we are and we always live up to exactly what he expects of us. Do you as a father want to be immune to your wife's or kid's efforts to disappoint you? Yes. If I expect my wife to be AWALT, nothing disappoints me from her. If I expect my kids to be kids, I'm not disappointed when they make kid mistakes. Does this immunity come at a cost? … | /r/RPChristians | 01/11/19 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Encouraging leadership in with non-rp husbandAnd speaking for myself I don't mind a little (or even a lot) of extra weight. And again, speaking for myself, attraction is a large part mind game But that's just the thing - you're only thinking for yourself here. Are you so sure that he thinks the same way on this? If he's at all like 99.999% of other men, he doesn't. He might make you think he does because he's too afraid to disappoint you or to sound shallow in any way. Culture has conditioned him to give these types of responses. But you'r… | /r/askRPC | 31/10/19 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Killing the BlueI can't believe I'm the one saying this, but you and /u/Blarg_Risen are way overthinking this. My point was simple: rather than letting a woman or culture tell a man how he must lead his family and what roles he will or won't fulfill, he should decide for himself. It doesn't matter what is nature from nurture - he can deny them both if he wants. The reason this doesn't go into an "everything in the entire spectrum" result is that there are still clear data points that are attractive and not and … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/19 03:29 AM |
| 5 | Encouraging leadership in with non-rp husbandLots going on here, but I have to hammer this point up-front because it's unbearably often that this happens: EDIT: Rule 2 as requested You obviously looked at Rule 2 because you quoted it, but you skipped the "mission" category. That's the single most important thing that affects EVERYTHING you've written here. Everything else is just guess-work without that piece. Nevertheless ... I do generally agree with (most) of the [RP] ideals, as it pertains to what I personally want in my relationship a… | /r/askRPC | 31/10/19 03:02 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with atheist parentsif they're already dismissing something as concrete ... then something as abstract ... would not really touch their hearts For your purposes, the point right now isn't to persuade them. It's to set a clear boundary. By focusing on the abstract, as /u/helaughsinhidden suggests, you're showing them that conventional atheist thinking will not persuade you away, so they are wasting their time trying to pull you away. When this happens, they will respect your commitment - and when they respect your d… | /r/askRPC | 31/10/19 01:29 AM |
| 8 | The goal for Christian husbands whose wives deny them should not be sex but their wife’s repentanceSo much gold in this. Well done! One thing that needs to stand out more than I expect people will give it credit for: Yes, sin is offensive to God, but God is not hurt by any man's sin. So much guilt, shame, self-condemnation, etc. could be overcome if people could just understand this. It's one of the driving principles behind the entire 400 series. I mean, I hope 99% of guys here understand at a very basic level that frame means a guy isn't upset or hurt by the ways other people try to offend … | /r/RPChristians | 30/10/19 04:43 AM |
| 3 | Killing the Bluezero scripture This post was written for MRP. I cross-posted it here, as I do with most of my MRP posts. "If she doesn't like it, she can leave."? Come on, that is not the attitude Jesus or Paul on the topic of marriage This is precisely their attitude. Those who follow Christ are part of his bride. He often sets clear boundaries and says, "If you don't abide by this boundary, you cannot be my disciple." This is true for the rich young ruler, it was true for the man who wanted to bury his father… | /r/RPChristians | 29/10/19 05:37 AM |
| 3 | Killing the BlueThe bible, brother. That's the best book for interpreting that and every other verse. Study Jesus's life inside and out so you can always answer what Jesus did in a particular situation. | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/19 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Killing the BlueWell, I'm the founder of RPC, so I'd say that what I wrote in this post is pretty consistent with what RPC would say on the topic ;) On a biblical level, I always tell people to look to the example of Jesus and when/why he sacrificed. He never once sacrificed simply for our happiness - it was always oriented toward his glory and to fulfill a larger purpose. While he certainly expressed his love for us through his death, the Bible is also clear beyond question that Jesus's primary purpose through… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/10/19 08:00 PM |
| 3 | Killing the BlueAlmost everything a wife does can be done by the husband, friends, family or even complete strangers who you influence to follow you and support your mission. I liked the way /u/OsmiumZulu put it once: "Sex is the only thing you can't biblically outsource in your marriage." As such, it's critically important. Even child-bearing, as you referenced, can be outsourced through surrogate mothers who receive your DNA, and most Christians don't necessarily have a problem with this. Good thoughts all ar… | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/19 04:23 PM |
| 6 | Killing the BlueServant leadership is a concept most often addressed in Christian circles, and discussed from time to time on r/RPChristians. The framework usually goes something like this: There are egalitarians who believe the biblical authority structures are culturally dated and therefore those passages can be ignored. Modern culture claims equality among the genders within marriage (while implicitly elevating women). They suggest if the biblical authors were alive today, they would have catered to the mode… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/10/19 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Killing the BlueEvery man should set his own. Yes, my wife is aware of mine. To be clearer, though: this was referencing conditions on a man's expression of love to his wife, not necessarily the boundaries over which he will divorce his wife. On that, when people discuss this in churchianity, they always quote "Husbands, love your wives" - stop. They often leave off the "as Christ loves the Church" bit, which is a limiter. We aren't called to love our wives in ways or circumstances when Christ does not express … | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/19 02:56 PM |
| 4 | Covert contract with GodSolving sin is a byproduct of faith in Christ, not a prerequisite to it. The whole point of the Gospel is that you don't have to worry about sin anymore because God gives you more important things to do. When you start doing them you stop caring about clinging to your sin the way you used to. Right now you're holding back because of your investment in your sin, but after Christ the luster of it all just fades and you don't really care anymore ... the same way a blue pill guy stops seeing thre lu… | /r/askRPC | 27/10/19 05:08 PM |
| 2 | How to communicate self-improvement to a potential partner?More accurately: you don't have a frame yet; you've learned to be confident and assertive within someone else's frame. | /r/askRPC | 27/10/19 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Straight from the horse's mouth: Fuck Chad while you string along Beta Billy for months on end. Another WAATGM in the making.This is how you get r/deadbedrooms. This is how you get r/theredpill, r/marriedredpill, and r/whereareallthegoodmen. Hey, you forgot r/RPChristians ;) The Christian guys are by and large the most duped among all the beta males - and I was once their royal blue king. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 24/10/19 02:54 AM |
| 3 | How to communicate self-improvement to a potential partner?Is she actually strict about sexuality or is she that way with you? It's a fitness test that he hasn't realized yet. It's like all those dating profiles that say, "I don't do hookups, so don't even bother." Yet the very next sentence says, "I'm pregnant and the dad's not in the picture anymore, and you'd better be okay with that." /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen seemed somewhat exaggerated of the sexual marketplace until I actually created a tinder profile to research what it's really like and ... dang… | /r/askRPC | 23/10/19 07:44 PM |
| 4 | How to communicate self-improvement to a potential partner?I'm not fully religious yet Good. Don't be. Religiosity is what ushered in the transition from Christianity to churchianity. RedPilled 3 weeks, redpill aware 3 months I probably need to do a post on this, but what you said makes no sense. The Red Pill is truth. Once you're aware of the truth and accept it as truth, you're red pilled. The only way I can interpret this phrase to make sense is to say that you became aware of the existence of the red pill 3 months ago, but didn't start reading conte… | /r/askRPC | 23/10/19 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Is my marriage salvageable?Ah, then you're good. | /r/askMRP | 23/10/19 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Is my marriage salvageable?The books ARE the sidebar. How can you read the sidebar if you don't have the books? You mean you read the names of the books that you're supposed to read on the sidebar and then saying, "I've read the sidebar"? Are you kidding me? | /r/askMRP | 23/10/19 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Is my marriage salvageable?Then support isn't as much an issue. Who saves more for retirement? | /r/askMRP | 23/10/19 06:14 PM |
| 4 | Is my marriage salvageable?You've already gotten a lot of good advice here: Stay plan is the go plan Recognizing incongruency in your statements OYS You get the idea. Here's why none of that is going to work for you, though: you're still so stinkin' blue pilled that your goal is to save your marriage, or in the alternative: to find happiness in life through another woman instead. This goes beyond the advice to avoid validation-seeking. This is at the very core of who you are as a man. What's your purpose in life? What's y… | /r/askMRP | 23/10/19 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Is my marriage salvageable?Right ... so he read the books before he ordered them? | /r/askMRP | 23/10/19 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Is my marriage salvageable?If he's a reasonably higher earner (i.e. more than 20% higher income than her), right now he's looking at 6-7 years of support. If he waits too much longer, that's going to turn into lifetime support. It also means another several years of accumulating retirement benefits, interest in the market, asset value appreciation, etc. that's all going to be split rather than nipping that in the bud now. That decision's got to be made quicker if he wants to limit his damages. Of course, doing another sep… | /r/askMRP | 23/10/19 04:34 PM |
| 3 | 44 year old single Barbie, mother of 4 kids and 2 MORE ON THE WAY. Not here for games or sending nudes. Looking for a real man who respects her life decisions and her kids.I am an easygoing person until you piss me off Isn't that the exact definition of someone who is NOT easy-going? Catholic Uh huh ... she apparently signed up for the "no contraception" bit, but decided she didn't like the "no sex outside of marriage" part? It's shocking how common this is. I'm convinced this is an ASD mechanism. Girls don't want to believe they're as depraved as they are, so they tag a spiritual affiliation to their name to feel like a good person. "It's okay, I go to church, so… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 23/10/19 02:28 PM |
| 5 | Emotional self sufficiencyThat's a lesson I've tried to word succinctly a number of times to guys who want to rush into marriage and relationships. They get all excited because when they're a 5 they get super pumped when a 6 actually gives them the time of day. It's usually because there's junk that drops her value significantly that guys don't find out about just by looking at her, hence her still being single. But the guy doesn't care in the moment because he's blinded by feelings of "love". He's super pumped to marry … | /r/askRPC | 23/10/19 07:06 AM |
| 16 | I let my LTR show me her DM’s after she asked me about it. Does that show weakness on my part?"Sorry, not into MMF. Let me know when another chick DMs you and we'll talk." | /r/askMRP | 21/10/19 05:50 PM |
| 2 | DEERing? DAREing? Something else?You're spending too much effort trying to condition your wife. Stop that. You're in her frame, caring too much what she thinks or feels. If your wife thinks the moon is made of cheese, how does that belief stop you from living out your mission? What is your mission, by the way? I didn't see that in your post. I think STFU wouldn't work here because it implies that I can't disagree with her because she's right Implies it to who? If you know your own reason, then it doesn't imply anything of the s… | /r/askRPC | 21/10/19 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Amused Mastery, Outcome Independence, Agree and Amplify, Frame, etc.In addition to what /u/Praexology said, the way you explain how "they come together" is really, really broad. It's like saying that (1) having a stable prayer life, and (2) memorizing tons of Scripture are basically "not separate from each other per-se" because "the higher one's spiritual maturity, the more easily one will be able to" do these things regularly. The fact is, they're very difference concepts. You can be great at one and awful at the other - even among "spiritually mature" people. | /r/askRPC | 21/10/19 04:37 PM |
| 6 | Amused Mastery, Outcome Independence, Agree and Amplify, Frame, etc.Amused Mastery - Approaching a situation from a higher perspective that lets you appreciate the light and humor in it, while simultaneously conveying a depth of insight that transcends those caught up in the immediacy of the circumstances. "My ways are higher than your ways; my thoughts are higher than your thoughts." When we let ourselves escape the immediate frustrations we deal with and see from God's perspective, our attitude in difficulty shifts from frustration to appreciation and intrigue… | /r/askRPC | 21/10/19 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Question: Understanding Passive game vs. ApproachingI must say - I'm impressed at how spot-on all of your comments are in this thread. I couldn't agree more. /u/SingularityOne198 - If it helps, imagine a guy who's a 2 learning all kinds of "active game" strategies to pick up women. His mastery of active game might get him up a couple points to a 4. But what has he really accomplished? His goal is obviously to get a woman in bed with him - something Scripture says is a distraction from his mission that should only be engaged in to avoid temptation… | /r/RPChristians | 20/10/19 03:34 AM |
| 1 | App Review: BodBot - Two Thumbs UpYes, I use it off and on. It's not as good as one of the standard gym routines, so I don't use it for that. But it's excellent for home routines once you learn to filter out all the worthless exercises it throws in there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/10/19 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Question: Understanding Passive game vs. ApproachingPassive game sets the difficulty. Active game is the game itself. A guy who has mastered passive game (physique, confidence, social status, etc.) is playing on easy mode and doesn't need to apply much effort to win the active game. A guy without good passive game needs immaculate excellence at active game to have success - but it's still doable. Another way to think of it: passive game sets up for longevity, whereas active is about short-term wins. Without a passive foundation, the active game c… | /r/RPChristians | 18/10/19 08:35 PM |
| 3 | Boundaries and Boundary EnforcementI had boundaries ... I of course did nothing ... she just brought her social binge drinking out in the open, and I began to occasionally join Hmm ... you needed her more than she needed you and look what happens: you're following her around instead of her following you. See how that works. It's u/Rollo-Tomassi's cardinal rule of relationships. The one in power is the one who needs the other the less. Memorize and lean on that. I told her if we were going to stay together, shut down all contact o… | /r/askRPC | 18/10/19 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Boundaries and Boundary EnforcementI fully endorse this answer. | /r/askRPC | 18/10/19 07:37 PM |
| 3 | 6 years into a LTR, but now something is going on with me - Constructive criticism and discussion will be appreciatedShe is submissive, caring, loving, taking care of me and having me as her priority in most of her choices in life Except the choice of where to live/work, apparently. Also, it's easy to be "submissive, caring, loving," etc. when the other person isn't actually there 90% of the time. You only have to be these things 10% of the time. My wife was the EXACT same way you described when we were in our LTR for 1 year - and then we got together and suddenly everything started changing and she wasn't at … | /r/askRPC | 18/10/19 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Question: Understanding Passive game vs. ApproachingAssuming you're single, yes, approaching women is still a good idea. The reason for the approach is what changes the value from a positive to a negative. If you approach because you have these fantasies of getting married and having lots of sex, you're going at it the wrong way and ultimately doing yourself more harm than good. If you're approaching because you've got important crap going on in your life and you need help getting it all done, then you're doing it properly. As /u/Deep_Strength sa… | /r/RPChristians | 18/10/19 07:14 PM |
| 1 | [FR] "Happy Life, Happy Wife" & Empathy TheoryHamilton is my jam! But my love of musicals is no surprise here. Women typically value group success over individual success This is only true among women I disagree with you here, because if a guy is doing loser-ish things it will lower her standing within her girl group ... women use men to raise their status around other women You're not disagreeing with me here - you're just still talking about her status as among other women. But between a husband and wife alone, taking out the other women,… | /r/RPChristians | 18/10/19 06:57 PM |
| 4 | How to handle Labor / birthYikes! Lots of "beta up" advice here. Seriously, the whole labor and delivery thing isn't as big a deal as your wife will make it out to be. Seriously, you'd be surprised at how many cases I get where the guy doesn't even go to the hospital at all with his wife, or will just visit her and his kid for a couple hours at a time. u/osmiumzulu is right. Don't make a big production of it all. It's definitely not the time to be a jerk, but there's no point sublimating yourself either. It's just as much… | /r/askRPC | 17/10/19 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Being Supportive on Attitude IssuesOpus Dei, which emphasizes work as a path to sanctification I've heard this theology before. It's dangerous. He said his spiritual director said he was actually farther along than many men because he actually WANTS to be home with his family (rather than using work as an escape) I'm guessing his spiritual director (whatever that means) is a baby boomer. That was true of their generation. It is not true of the majority of men in the present generation of middle-class workers, who are generally la… | /r/askRPC | 17/10/19 04:17 AM |
| 7 | [FR] "Happy Life, Happy Wife" & Empathy TheoryI can't prove this, but at least in my life it's the trend When you give the examples in your life to go with it, we call those field reports. Individually, they are only anecdotes. En masse, we get enough of a sample size to start understanding with statistical reliability how people actually function. This is the essence of the red pill's method of discerning its praxeology. Don't just state your conclusions: give the stories to back them up as field reports. This is where the true value of po… | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/19 03:30 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Comfort Test About Finances and MoreThey're won't be for everyone, but will be for some. I do have exclusively joint accounts with my wife, but have contemplated doing away with this, as it gives her too much access to spend money without me knowing what on. This has been an issue at various points in our marriage. For us, we make enough money that the problem is less about what's actually being spent than it is sm authority issue ... but I'd hate to be in that position on a tighter budget. Also, there are legal and psychological … | /r/RPChristians | 16/10/19 10:23 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Initiate Often, Confident AlwaysIf a man is divorce-proof, and his wife would lose immensely more by losing him, would her perception of the power dynamic favoring him raise his SMV to her specifically? No. I see this ALL THE TIME in my career. The woman just feels trapped. She does not like him more. She just knows she can't leave ... until a white knight comes to save her. | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/19 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Developing charm?Is that research based on what women say or what actually makes them tingly? | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/19 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Developing charm?More to /u/mrpmonk - again, while not "red pill" (as virtually no comedian is), my favorite clean comics are Jim Gaffigan and Jerry Seinfeld. John Crist is a Christian comedian who I'd put in the b-tier category, but is good for a clean show. Jeff Dunham is also b-tier, but still relatively clean. I'd keep Dane Cook and Dimitri Martin on that clean list too. Dave Chappell is definitely not clean. His latest Netflix special was hilarious ... but also possibly the most inappropriate routine I've s… | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/19 06:23 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Initiate Often, Confident AlwaysI just gave a reply to that last bit to the other guy. Feel free to read my answer there. | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/19 06:15 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Initiate Often, Confident Alwaysdid/does this make you lose respect/desire/love for your wife? Too many people try to lump words like "love" and "respect" as holistic concepts. "Do you love your wife?" could simultaneously evoke both answers. I love her smile is just as valid an answer as I don't love her nagging. The refrain comes: "Yes, but do you love HER?" But who is she? What defines a person? Is it a mere balancing act, asking if the things I appreciate about her outweigh the things I don't? You can see how quickly the c… | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/19 06:14 PM |
| 6 | [FR] Initiate Often, Confident AlwaysI love that quote! I may steal it sometime. But also: when applied to a singular woman, this is a covert contract: "If I keep <blank>, eventually she will <blank>." She may never. What are you going to do then? Do you have options? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/10/19 01:25 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Initiate Often, Confident AlwaysShe works from home. And no, she hasn't rejected me when I initiate - I was commenting that if I initiate, she follows and does likewise; if I stop initiating, she stops initiating too. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/10/19 01:21 AM |
| 6 | [FR] Initiate Often, Confident AlwaysBeautiful application! Just make sure the rejection isn't because you're spiritually unattractive (i.e. preaching hellfire and brimstone), haha. | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/19 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill observations at a coaching seminarBut what are his thoughts on intergender relational dynamics? A guy like that can still look to his wife for validation. He can still make her his primary mission, as he seeks to excel in his job in order to provide for her every need. He can still fail fitness tests. He can still get butthurt when she rejects his sexual advances. This is why we can't confuse mere self-improvement with an understanding of sexual dynamics - at least not if u/Rollo-Tomassi has anything to say about it. This man ma… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/10/19 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Developing charm?I wrote a post on SMV and long hanging fruit. If my break-down is even remotely close, 1/10 of your SMV is dedicated not to charm alone, but "charm, personality, charisma, wit, etc." My guess is that you already have at least 1/2 a point there, as most guys do. It's one of the few things that guys are at least given the green-light by culture to utilize in the sexual marketplace. The other 1/2 point that you may not have is the seductive aspect of how you utilize your personality/charm/charisma/… | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/19 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Going to the same church as your exI'm with /u/ENTPunisher on this one. You said this below If you're talking about committed Christians active pursuing Christ, then yes the behavior would be important regarding the church's quality If these are the only people the congregation leader is influencing, he's preaching to the choir. Biblically, the role of the pastor is not to hone the quality of the good sheep who don't wander (that's the job of prophets and teachers); it's to keep the wandering sheep from going too far. If the cong… | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/19 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Going to the same church as your exI’m just not able to get the same spiritual connection on my own doing my own devotions You're focused too much on spiritual feelings here. Note: there are no such thing as spiritual feelings. There are only feelings. This is part of the emotionalist agenda that churchianity pushes nowadays. If you're attending a congregation to get an emotional boost, you're doing it for the wrong reasons. Congregations are a tool. You use a tool. You don't go to your tool box to get gushy feelings. Figure out … | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/19 03:29 PM |
| 5 | Dating apps for Christians?You updated with your stats in a comment, but I still want the other Rule 2 information: Mission Reading Finances Spiritual Maturity Those things will tell us a lot of necessary information as to how successful you're going to be with any girl once you get past the initial swipe. Otherwise, I agree with /u/Deep_Strength that it's doable on a dating app, but mostly not worth the time. You're really just trying to skate around the easy way to find someone at that point. My brother did just marry h… | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/19 03:19 PM |
| 7 | Hey there @mgtow_judge, here's another profile for your Instagram, and while you're at it we'd appreciate you mentioning our sub every once in awhile. Thanks!I just assumed she was punctuationally illiterate and didn't realize commas went between those words. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/10/19 07:33 PM |
| 5 | F/R Sunday's ArguementEasy path to nip this in the bud: Stop caring so much. When she screws up this hard, instead of getting mad, just say, "I thought I could trust you to do what you said you'd do. I can't. Now I know. Here's what we're going to do ..." and in this case you finish: "I'm going to stay and cook dinner. You can go to small group and food will be ready when you get back." ... There is no third step. That's really it. Your wife will fail you. It's inevitable. Expect it. If you know it's coming, you won'… | /r/RPChristians | 12/10/19 05:11 PM |
| 5 | I fell in love with a Muslim girl. What now?John 1:3 - "Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made." No, there are not two gods, there is one triune God. If you deny the divinity of Jesus, you are not a Christian and you're free to date whoever you want. So, that's a simple answer to your question. If you are a Christian, then you may not marry someone of another faith, and therefore it's pretty pointless to date someone of another faith. | /r/askRPC | 11/10/19 03:54 PM |
| 2 | I fell in love with a Muslim girl. What now?The Muslim god is not the Christian God. The Christian God is triune: Father, Son, and Spirit. If they worship a non-triune god, it's not the same god. Cue the stereotypical, yet highly appropriate "don't be yoked together with unbelievers" verse. Also, you don't "fall in love" with people. You get obsessive infatuations with them. This is called ONEitis. It is a psychological disease that is unhealthy. Why would you feed into it? | /r/askRPC | 11/10/19 03:52 PM |
| 3 | How to overcome awkward self consciousness?Haha, this is great. Seriously, though: eye contact is the source of so much awkwardness for beta men. There's some truth when you say: "Weaklings will cower in fear, look away, and quickly move." Eye contact alone is the first way to demonstrate frame to a woman - and it can be done without even asking them out or showing any actual sign of interest. 99% of the time, when a girl notices a guy looking at her, he turns his eyes away immediately to diffuse the awkward eye contact ... because it's … | /r/askRPC | 11/10/19 03:48 PM |
| 5 | Being Supportive on Attitude Issuesthe feedback he gets from above may be right only half the time If a boss provides critical feedback, the boss is always right, even when he's wrong. If he's saying, "You're not drafting those TPS reports the right way," and then you look up the company manual and it turns out you're filing them the right way, what the boss really means is: "I don't care what the manual says, you're not doing it the way I WANT you to do it." It's all a matter of personal preference for most evaluations like this… | /r/askRPC | 11/10/19 03:37 PM |
| 3 | I'm torn between two womenSolid. | /r/askRPC | 11/10/19 05:44 AM |
| 3 | I'm torn between two womenBest reply here. Well said, and so succinctly. | /r/askRPC | 11/10/19 05:43 AM |
| – | religion and the red pill and booksRemoved. I have no objection to posting to Rollo's content that are relevant here - in fact, I encourage it. But you can't just post a link. We don't allow link posts for a reason. Please provide some insights on what you learned from the video, some of the interesting points, things you might disagree with, etc. Posts MUST be substantive. | /r/RPChristians | 10/10/19 05:54 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Comfort Test About Finances and MoreShe's fiscally conservative but we seem to spend our excess on improvements and projects the last few years as opposed to regular savings These two statements don't add up. My wife is the same way. If I let her, she'd drain every penny we have on home improvement projects. Most of them are a waste of money. Aesthetics. Women do this. They like pretty things. They realize that if the pretty thing is a trinket for their own personal enjoyment, they're going to get backlash for the waste of money, … | /r/RPChristians | 09/10/19 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Recommendation for a Patriarch's Study Bible?There's going to be human error no matter how you translate it. But if you have to lean feminist or patriarchal, because the authors were writing in patriarchal societies, translations that lean patriarchal in their language choices are going to put you closer to what the author was thinking when he wrote it. This leads to more accurate interpretations. As for an existing translation, I study out of the Young's Literal or a Greek-English Interlinear Bible. I read from the ESV. Personally, the KJ… | /r/askRPC | 09/10/19 06:48 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Comfort Test About Finances and MoreDon't do it. Too many problems arise. | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/19 07:38 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Comfort Test About Finances and MoreI don't necessarily pick up on this from OP, but for reference purposes: what you're talking about is a covert contract. | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/19 04:43 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Comfort Test About Finances and MoreMy wife's an accountant and is horrible with finances. She even overtly says: "If I see money in the account, I'm going to spend it." I wouldn't trust it just because of the job. | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/19 04:41 PM |
| 1 | AWALT and M/W-ComplexInteresting story. You should elaborate on that a bit more and what lessons you've learned since then and make a post on it. | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/19 04:32 PM |
| 1 | AWALT and M/W-ComplexHaha, true. That's the difference between RMV and SMV. | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/19 02:26 PM |
| 2 | AWALT and M/W-ComplexTrue. This topic really deserves more than the snip I gave it - especially among Christians. | /r/RPChristians | 07/10/19 10:23 PM |
| 3 | Difference between congruence-test and genuine need for help or a taskI agree with /u/OsmiumZulu whole-heartedly. Have you read MMSLP yet? It's on our sidebar and he has a section specifically dedicated to this topic. | /r/askRPC | 07/10/19 03:12 AM |
| 4 | How to Hide Your PornThe RPC way is to stop using porn. Why make excuses? You slip up, just repent and move on. The advice here isn't to hide anything from your spouse. It's to avoid the internal pressure toward compulsory disclosure. Too many guys assume that there's some biblical command: "Thou shalt tell thine wife all secrets and sins of your life." That command doesn't exist. If you can get past the internal compulsion toward disclosure, then you can decide logically if you want to tell her or not. When you're … | /r/askRPC | 06/10/19 07:02 PM |
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