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The past month has had a lot of ups and downs in my life.
Ups
Down to 18% BF
All my lifts have gone up 30+ pounds
Starting a new job in the coming weeks with a sizable raise in pay.
Made a budget and have stuck to it the past 21 days.
Have stuck to a Bible reading plan the past 21 days.
Longer periods of having a balanced mood.
Downs
My oneitis is getting worse. We're getting a lot closer, but I'm having significant trust issues. I'll end the day feeling things are great, then wake up feeling dread.
This "overwhelming" desire to further this relationship has caused me to find it difficult to be happy outside of events in this situation. I'm realizing now that the timelines for when I quit gaming/watching TV except for with others lines up similar to when I started having issues, but those are crutches I don't want to go back to, but feel more drawn to, and the times I've dabbled have done nothing for me. But everything else seems bleak.
Me and her have started spending almost every day together, which feels excessive to me, but at the same time, when she goes and does other stuff or I do, it just feels bleh. And then I'll start struggling with jealousy, or that I got screwed over and she's moving on already. To add to that, she's going away for the summer, and I don't know what that looks like.
I'm starting to struggle with pornography again, and it makes me so mad and ashamed of myself, but at the same time I feel that it helps me deal with situations more rationally.
It's sad because I feel that I've made progress, but I feel nothing about it. I still feel like a fraud and failure that can't be happy by himself, and stupid because of how much this "Christian, quality" woman affects me. There's moments when my trust in God and his plan is strong, but most of the time I just feel lost in a storm.
As always, any advice and guidance is welcome.
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