I Lost the Gift Card

helaughsinhidden · 2019-10-19T20:37:06+00:00

If she knows about it and knows the amount just tell the truth. "Hey honey, remember that gift card we got? (She replies) well it was stolen from the car while I was at the gym". Keep it simple stupid.

The deeper issue here is not the lost value of the card, but that you seem scared to tell your wife bad news. If you are crafting stories for her benefit, you are in her frame and making her happiness or wrath like an idol where you are willing to consider a lie to cover it something she will find unpleasant or upsetting.

Just tell her the facts only and in a "by the way" kind of tone. As a matter of fact, who goes into a car to search for just gift cards? I'd make a prop bet that you have a 25% chance of higher she saw it and took it in the house herself thinking it wasn't smart to leave it there and forgot to tell you.

TheChristianAlpha · 2019-10-19T20:34:02+00:00

If you feel it necessary to tell her then just tell her what happened. It's pretty matter-of-fact. If you give off the vibe like it's a big deal then she'll follow your lead. But if you're just describing something that happened as matter of fact then it shouldn't be a big deal. If she gets upset at what happened or at you then you just need to hold frame and agree and amplify or if you have the mindset and frame of somebody who is amused at situations then that should be part of your frame when talking to her. There are other things you can do but that should cover it. Really this shouldn't be a big deal.

Title	I Lost the Gift Card
Author	CarelessBowler5
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	October 19, 2019 6:47 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askRPC
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