Getting better "game"

Red-Curious · 2019-09-10T06:10:30+00:00

I have read Roosh V ... This doesn't sound genuine at all and I would hate to do it.

... coupled with

Does anyone have good tips on being a better conversationalist and having better "game."

You have an answer, but you don't like the answer, so you're looking for different answers. Game isn't about being genuine. It's about being fun. As you noted, you're not a fun person. If genuine you is not fun, then you have to learn to become fun. Either do that authentically, or practice it until it becomes natural to you.

That said ... the topic of conversation skills does warrant a post sometime soon. Maybe I'll get some time soon.

Bonus points: "I have read Roosh V's book" - and "Anyone know if there are any books out there on this?"

EDIT: second quote pasted wrong

SkimTheDross · 2019-09-10T09:18:18+00:00

It only takes a spark to get an conversation going.

Try starting conversation with random strangers you encounter in your daily life - not just HB’s. It’ll develop skills.

Ask questions and you’ll find people want to talk about themselves.

Take a genuine interest in people ... and smile.

Willow-girl · 2019-09-10T03:37:11+00:00

The easiest way to be a good conversationalist is to remember that people love to talk about themselves. Goodness, you'll hardly be able to shut them up!

Deep_Strength · 2019-09-11T03:06:44+00:00

I also find it hard to gauge people and in return have a very hard time "gaming" women. If I don't feel the conversation, I will just end it nicely and talk to somebody else.

The goal of a good date is get the woman to talk a lot about herself so you find out more about her and see if she's someone that you want to be a relationship/marriage with. It's not that hard. Most women love talking about themselves.

So... stop just doing whatever. Use your conversation skills to guide other people to talk about themselves. It's easy to start off by finding out things they're interested in and like to talk about. And then to build a connection you can tell stories about your past that are similar.

Praexology · 2019-09-10T19:07:04+00:00

I have a stereotypical jock bro attitude,so I have a hard time in social situations because I am oblivious to people's feelings and say what ever is on my mind.

Stfu, but also how seldom do you talk to other people seriously? If you stay on topic most people will give some pretty not-so-subtle cues on how they feel about a topic. Conversations work like this: person A talks, then listens to person B as they talk. If you are just saying whatever is on your mind are you even listening? Sounds even less genuine.

I also find it hard to gauge people and in return have a very hard time "gaming" women. If I don't feel the

conversation isn't not rocket science, if it's small group or 1-on-1 conversation ask someone about "what they're into" then just stay on track there. If a larger group just be generally fun. If there is a fun joke or quip throw it in. Practice story telling because that's how you control a crowd.

Does anyone have good tips on being a better conversationalist and having better "game." I would appreciate book recommendations as well.

live an interesting life so you have interesting stories. If you're 1-on-1 ask them more about themselves or for more information about their story. People like talking about themselves almost as much as they like talking bad about other people.

Rifleshoot · 2019-09-12T16:53:06+00:00

Become a funny guy. Watch stand up specials and learn some comedic timing and hone your sense of humor. Me, I like making dumb jokes that make people groan. But after the groan, they are always grinning, ear to ear. I’m always making bad puns and bad innuendo, and I always have a great time doing it. For me, that mindset of always looking for the humor in every sentence, every word, actually helps me to see the legitimately funny jokes in what people say. I’ve had several friends say I should do standup before. My wife loves it when I make bad jokes. She gets this expression on her face that’s just priceless. She’ll have a slight grin with just a touch of anger. That’s the game that works for me.

But that’s the thing about game: it’s got to come from a part of yourself. If you have no sense of humor, reciting knock knock jokes you heard on the internet is not going to do much for you. If you aren’t social at all, reading books about social cues will only make you into Sheldon Cooper when you try them. You have to pick out your social strengths and then put them front and center as your “game”. Maybe you’re a NASCAR driver. I would venture to say that telling cool racing stories will probably net you a lot more success than trying to make bad puns like myself. Do you have a cool hobby to talk about? Then talk about that. And don’t downplay yourself either. Humility isn’t downplaying yourself, it’s simply objective honesty. If you believe that you are truly hot stuff, then it’s okay to show it to attract a woman. If you don’t believe that, then you need to do things that will make you into hot stuff.

Title	Getting better "game"
Author	nattybbthrowawy
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Comments	8
Date	September 10, 2019 2:29 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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