I’ll try to cut this short. Married for 14y, half of it spent trying to please her. We had dead bedroom and she was never happy, I dropped all my hobbies, friends etc. just to be with her and nothing ever worked.
So I got into all the DB sins one can expect and I guess I was fighting the devil and hit the rock bottom. I was an atheist at the time but I had an ”event” and I’m definitely spiritual now.
So I read the Bible. And some other books, researched online. And when I told my wife I wanted to go to a local Bible study she objected strongly. It was like I had asked to join a cult. So I backed off and went back in to her frame. I was BP, the dead bedroom was back, among other things. The sins were back on my heels.
Then I found RP. I can see now how to start fixing things but I’m concerned with my wife. I just dont see her ever accepting my spirituality or the life I want to now build. What do I do with her?
I know the Bible tells me to pray for her but in all these years she never was genuinely interested in meeting my needs. How long is long enough?
We have kids and all I really want is to build a functional family with her. She is escaping her motherly duties with work and the kids are at the grandma’s house all the time.