The best response when requested to do something by LTR?

SpicyYeetJuice · 2020-01-12T19:29:10+00:00

I forgot where I learned this but the best ways to deal with a command that you don’t want to is to just agree and then not do it. Raising an objection causes unnecessary conflict. Sounds retarded but people just want to think their being heard. You could’ve said yes waited in till time was an issue and just left.

But this whole thing sounds retarded she made you coffee and pie and it’s not like she asked you to scrub the floor with your tongue, in my opinion you’re being stubborn and overthinking it. And the whole controlling thing needs to be stopped immediately it’s beta male behavior and it will ruin your LTR

The1ndex · 2020-01-12T20:02:42+00:00

If you’re in a LTR, she is going to ask you to do things.

Your mentality can either be defensive where you think she is trying to control you, or it can be offensive where you think you’re providing for her.

Why not just reply with a: I got it baby, wink, slap ass, and tell her to put on her pretty panties for later.

RiffRaffAmerican · 2020-01-12T21:45:24+00:00

Clean up after yourself, you animal. There's no RP lens to look at this through. Either move home with your mother or act like a grown man, take pride in your home, and keep it tidy.

MattyAnon · 2020-01-13T00:26:29+00:00

Again, I went to do it acting indifferent.

Stop being obedient.

She made breakfast, so washing the dishes is reasonable..... but NOT on her whim.

You say "Sure honey", but you do it when it's convenient for YOU.

CainPrice · 2020-01-13T11:47:51+00:00

Not cleaning up after yourself is childish. The fact that she had to ask you at all puts her in the mommy role. Having the initiative to take care of your shit is manly and attractive. Sitting on your ass waiting to be asked is not.

If a woman asks you to do something reasonable, that you should have already done, she’s not trying to order you around like a good little beta loser. She’s asking you to act like an average adult instead of a below average slob. Which is a perfectly reasonable request.

When she starts asking you to pick up tampons on the way over and cuts back sex to once a month while declaring that she’d feel more attracted, if only you’d buy her jewelry and scrub her toilet for her, then we can talk about shit tests and control.

MarkJohnPaul · 2020-01-12T20:35:52+00:00

Dude you got played the fuck out

She gave you the pie and pussy like heroin then made you do the chores for payment with the bonus of you getting logistics done.

First one - not a big deal and I'd of said sure - BUT GOTTEN TO IT WHEN I WANTED TO. NOT WHEN SHE WANTED ME TO.

Second one?

I woulda said "nah i'm busy figuring out what we're doing tonight, you do it"

Also...I gotta question...did you ask her to make you the food or did she just do it?

BrodinsOats · 2020-01-12T22:41:56+00:00

This is such basic common courtesy. When someone fixes you up with food, taking care of the dishes afterwards is the least you can do to say thanks.

fannyfire · 2020-01-12T20:14:29+00:00

Depends on what type of guy you are.

Are you the type of guy who half asses everything? Do put a dish in the sink but then mommy has to clean it for you because you don’t do it later?

Are you the type of guy that picks up where he left on his time? If this is you then she needs to understand that you don’t work on her time. You do things when you want to but the important thing is that you do them.

If her asking you to clean the dish at that time is her way of getting you to do it then she knows that you’re a lazy faggot and you can’t blame her.

Honestly, from a responsibility standpoint. You should take care of your castle and make it your priority. I understand that’s not always easy. I shuffle work and school so I don’t always do everything on time. However, I do make a list and make sure to get those things taken care of. TRP for me is about personal responsibility so taking care of your home should be just as much of a priority as getting laid is. The way you keep your things is a reflection of you. Don’t rely on women to do shit for you. I could boot my wife out the door tomorrow and still cook dinner for myself.

amwfhunter · 2020-01-12T22:32:19+00:00

Is this a trend or just a one time thing? One time thing I really wouldnt even think anything of it. It is just common courtesy. I'd be more concerned if it becomes an ongoing thing. I tell my best friends who are male (guys that regularly visit) to do the same shit when they are at my house and my cleaner is away.

omega05 · 2020-01-12T23:11:47+00:00

it's her crib and she did do the gesture of giving you the pie and coffee in the first place. When you bring her to your crib and she has some food ask her to clean up after herself

HurricaneHugues · 2020-01-13T22:59:42+00:00

Is it that much of a big deal to you to clean up after yourself you slob? It would be weird for me NOT to take the plates to the kitchen to clean them. Learn to be self sufficient. Your attitude towards those things should inspire her to want to serve you. If you don't need her, she will go out of her way to become useful to you.

RPNorvell · 2020-01-12T21:24:18+00:00

Tell her it's women's work.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-01-12T19:16:32+00:00

"can you actually clean those dishes?".

"Nope."

If she tries to argue, just grin and say. "If you only do what's important, you'll never get to relax; unless you consider relaxing to be important."

Honestly, did not know how to react in this situation.

A simple "Nope" or "not right now" usually works if you're unsure about the situation.

The issue is, you gave a fuck which is why you were afraid to say "No" to a woman.

Read "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" by Mark Manson.

She did make the coffee and pie and brought it to me.

Therefore putting up your own dirty dishes like anyone who isn't a junkie or compulsive hoarder, isn't unreasonable.

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-01-12T19:26:03+00:00

“Nope. That’s what YOU’RE here for”

Won’t work if you aren’t ready to drop her though

Title	The best response when requested to do something by LTR?
Author	DetroitGangster
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Comments	33
Date	January 12, 2020 7:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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