I may have figured out why people say female orgasms are better (couples, read this) You probably know some people who are dazzled by the everlasting question of whether sex has it better, and media portrays woman pleasure as very elusive, even mystical (more on that below), so the universal conclusion is that woman have it better. This is further confirmed in comparison to the average male experience (an explosion on your loins) and the female one (a buildup wave in your body).

Well, I'm a bisexual male (mind you, despite this being an anecdotal evidence, it still applies in general) and had sex with a guy once, being a bottom. The touchy feeling when he was dominating me was identical to the related female experience, and could've been more if the pain of my first anal didn't stop the act halfway. Why was that so if I'm still biologically a male? Why some guys, even straight ones, related moments where they could even orgasm multiple times by their dicks once upon a time?

The answer is not in the sex you are born with, but the touch and connection, and letting you, man, be "fragile". Testosterone makes males want a release just for the sake of release instead of focusing on the moment, and a cruel joke of society is that both men and women expect us to "provide" the pleasure and serve because ours is taken for granted. So the pleasure of release is inferior to the touchy feeling a woman feels simply because it's a more mental experience than physical, and because of societal and biological reasons, women are more inclined to feel the latter, as they don't need to be influenced by their hormones, nor feel pressured to please someone in bed. That's why media stimulates women to be unashamed of their bodies and explore their pleasure to make it less elusive, and while this is great, I think MEN are the ones who need such advice more instead of being slaves to their hormones, as realizing this will make them focus on their female partners more, and everybody wins.

So, to all straight couples and all men reading this: ACCEPT YOUR PLEASURE. You may be skeptical at first, even repulsed by the idea of that possibly involve "butt stuff", but those limitations are exactly what is hindering you. Ask your wife or girlfriends to be on command for once instead of being on the top and the engager (and if they are so biddable to refuse this, rethink your relationship) and feel the connection you both have. There is nothing mystical and "chakra" about this, it's what love is about.