I started working on myself at the age of 24, and am slowly realizing that my expectation have been too high and feel like a failure for having to lower them. What do you think?

monsieurhire2 · 2015-05-01T00:08:00+00:00

Dude, so-called "hot" blondes suck big fat donkey penis.

I remember when I used to think they were the "hottest." That's when I believed there was such a thing as "most attractive." There isn't. Everyone has flaws. There is what you're attracted to, and what you're turned off by. The reason I was even attracted to them in the first place was because of their presence in the mass media. There were always hot blonde bimbos running around on TV being featured as "the best," or hottest.

The more you narrow your attraction criteria in an arbitrary, irrational manner, the less opportunities you have.

Actually receiving interest from 7-8 brunette hipster chicks is doing better than 95% of the male population.

Also, as you pointed out: "party" chicks are so dumb that any decent human being would want to ship them to a desert island after spending 5 minutes with them.

_whistler · 2015-05-01T01:10:29+00:00

Sounds to me like you're just getting tired, and looking for a justification to abandon your goals.

Don't. Keep moving forward.

WallyHotvedt · 2015-05-01T01:27:18+00:00

I really have to agree, it's so hard and takes so much work, it'll be so much better if you lower your expectations, then you can go back to being who you were, cause that was awesome right?

/s

williesmokes · 2015-05-01T04:43:00+00:00

My man, don't think of it as lowering your goals. Think of it as setting sub goals to meet gradually until you ultimately reach your final goal. There's nothing wrong with taking small steps if that's how it's going for you. Or maybe you're basing your results on the wrong thing. Girls shouldn't validate your progress. Worry about yourself, fuck a bitch.

[deleted] · 2015-04-30T23:32:43+00:00

I kept telling myself that one day I will be good enough for them.

I do not really want to date any of them, just prove to myself that I am good.

I think that you need to read more theory.

I am in a much better place after those two years. I became fit, am slowly learning to be sociable, do not suffer from depression anymore, my social anxiety is much less, I am progressing at my career, I have many friends, many girls showing interest in entering relationships with me, etc.

Enjoy the process.

There is no end game to TRP, it's whatever the fuck you want it to be.

You said it yourself, you probably wouldn't even recognize the man you were at 24.

FWIW, I enjoy brunettes more.

[deleted] · 2015-04-30T23:25:41+00:00

But I am really pissed that my fantasy of being a bad boy who bangs party chicks is not going to happen.

What do you think?

I think your fantasy sounds fucking stupid.

You also sound like that bitter indian dude who keeps posting about how he can't get hot blondes.

40_SixandTwo · 2015-05-01T16:32:23+00:00

You're not lowering your goals, you're starting out small. Marty Friedman didn't start out shredding neo classical licks and Genghis Khan started out conquering small villages. Work at the small things and eventually, they'll add up.

As for the party girls, they're about good for fucking and that's it. The majority of them might be hot but they have the personality of a rusted doornail and room temperature IQ. What helped me out is remember that your time is precious. Spend your time with the chicks who you think are most deserving of it. If it happens to be that brunette hipster chick you mentioned, awesome. Go for it.

Best of luck, brother!

this_guy2001 · Sat May 2 7:58:03 2015 UTC

Maybe you watch too much porn and your standards are too high as a result of that.

PookIsLovePookIsLife · 2015-05-02T09:20:12+00:00

If you're actually consistently getting interest from 7-8s, fucking a 9/10 blonde is really not too much of a stretch.

milkyboon · 2015-05-01T15:55:01+00:00

I understand ya buddy. When I was in my teens I thought I was a genius, wanted to make millions and retire before 30. A few failed paper later and years gone by, I realized my goals is unreasonable.

It makes me unmotivated, being unable to reach those high expectations. So I just put down my damn ego, accept that I will never reach those filthy rich level. Maybe retire with just enough to die.

But you know what? It's better to move at 70% effort rather than being unmotivated at 50% effort.

So why don't you just put down that high expectation for youself, start putting in the proper effort, and see where it goes.

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