What should I say when asking out?

FilthyStylish · 2020-10-29T15:26:16+00:00

Be a man and ask her out like a man. Just say “let’s meet tomorrow for a coffee at x place at y time.” Anything other than yes from her is a no.

constipulouspoon · 2020-10-29T15:20:25+00:00

What's more autistic is obsessing over semantics like this. Just say what you want to say man. If you don't then you will spend 10 years trying to figure out where to put a period and never get any action. If she's interested she will escalate when you ask her to do something. If she's not then you will learn from it and can try again with another girl.

Greaterbird · 2020-10-29T17:19:52+00:00

She already knows whether she's attracted or not before you say anything.

lowtierallah · 2020-10-29T17:37:31+00:00

Why does it always have to be coffe though?

radamesort · 2020-10-29T17:29:18+00:00

"Let's go out for coffee"

And if she asks "are you asking me out?" or "are you flirting with me?" confidently say yes with a shit eating grin looking her straight in the eye.

You can even pull do a George Constanza and say "I (pointing at yourself), am asking you (pointing at her), out!"

KeyRepresentative · 2020-10-29T17:26:18+00:00

“I’d like to see what you’re about. How about coffee, at this time, this place?”

You seem stared your intent without being desperate, and you’ve made a plan.

Indumentum97 · 2020-10-29T17:43:09+00:00

You make the plans, she can come along. It wouldn’t work any other way. Tell her about the plans you have and directly say (not ask) that you want her to join you and that she can come along. Make some plans for the weekend or whatever, maybe with a male friend of yours, and then tell the girl you wanna get to know what you have lined up or planned. Just do some smalltalk with her. Just casually say „you can join us if you want, we are looking for new people to meet.“ Maybe invite even more people you know and trust. Don’t make everything 100% centered about her. This is how you get her to know you more, and vice versa. This is what i did last time. Plus it shows you have some friends, which can be important.

comcain · 2020-10-29T17:45:06+00:00

Good point. "Let's meet at my place and do drugs. Molly and Percocet, man."

Well, it isn't coffee at least!

*Drug combination from Rick and Morty.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2020-10-29T20:12:10+00:00

"Hey let's grab a drink together. I'm free Tuesday and thurs"

FollowMeKids · 2020-10-30T00:44:29+00:00

“Hey you wanna go to Mcdonald’s and eat? I’m craving for a McGriddle.”

Point is, just tell her straight up what you wanna do and invite her. If she’s down then she’s down. Don’t over complicate a simple thing. Don’t listen to the other dudes that say coffee is boring and that you need to take her somewhere “fun”. Take her to the most boring place you can think of and if she’s still happy accompanying you then there’s your answer that she enjoys spending time with you regardless of where and what you guys do.

Taking her someplace fun and exciting and she’s always gonna expect something similar next outing. That should be reserved for a special occasion kinda thing. We all know us guys are lazy as fuck so how many times are you able to do “fun and exciting shits for her? If she needs fun and excitement just to have a good time with you then that’s all she’s chasing, not you.

cornbread07 · 2020-10-30T03:46:34+00:00

I normally dont hang out with women when I first meet them. I just ain't got time. That shit has to be scheduled. If you have that much time on your hands then you need to start getting on your purpose.

ppvknifefight · 2020-10-30T17:35:27+00:00

after gettin her on your dick figuratively

"im heading to place X at Y, meet me there"

any answer thats not a ok or different location/time

delete #

srs

throw-away-1709 · 2020-10-29T15:39:00+00:00

Let's have a coffee!

Atrp1961 · 2020-10-29T17:28:07+00:00

I kinda experimented with this silly idea. But it worked a few times perfectly. I was ok getting blocked. Proceed at your own risk. After a couple of hi, hellos etc.

"Hey can i tie you up for the weekend and have it my way till you beg me to stop"

Answer: yesss pleaseeeee

Seriously i did it as a joke but it worked.

FeministCrusader · 2020-10-30T03:51:50+00:00

First you need to ensure you are compatible, so just get a conversation going. Discuss politics, such as why Harris will make a better president than Biden someday when she institutes mandatory gender, ethnicity, and sexual orientation quotas. Also discuss equality, and how feminism delivers it to society. This display of open-mindedness will set you apart from the many primitive obsolete men that are out there, because women are now less attracted to those types of men.

cfbovernfl · 2020-10-29T18:11:25+00:00

Going to the cafe is stupid, do something fun. Tell her to join you, get her contact and text her the day of.

Title	What should I say when asking out?
Author	RoachxDDDDDD
Upvotes	20
Comments	31
Date	October 29, 2020 3:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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