Girlfriend Snapchatting Ex Bf

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2020-11-04T20:40:37+00:00

Demote to a plate or next if you want the nuclear option ...you wrote this on reddit meaning your gut has been shouting at you..listen to it you SHOULD be too good for this ( if you've been focusing improving yourself etc)

failingtheturingtest · 2020-11-04T20:41:42+00:00

Is it fair to jump to conclusions? Maybe not. But relationships aren't fair. You need to look after you. And sounds like you don't want an LTR that is snapchatting her ex behind your back (and rightly so).

Sounds like it's time to do the hard thing and maintain your boundary. There is no negotiation here.

spedoid · 2020-11-04T20:42:10+00:00

don't bring it up. dump her and find a new one. she obviously still has feelings for him. don't waste your time man

HurricaneHugues · 2020-11-04T22:26:36+00:00

I don't understand these guys saying don't bring it up. Bad behavior should always be nipped in the bud in your relationship. If this was a plate then who gives a fuck, but this is someone you said pushed for exclusivity.(I saw your original post in Married Red Pill). I wouldn't be a whiny bitch about it but I'd ask her what's up with that. If it's a deal breaker for you then you tell her. You should have already established those boundaries before you decided to enter a relationship with her. That way if this happened and you two already had an understanding, there'd be nothing to talk about and you would just next her.

One thing about women is you have to train them to meet your needs. Some niggas don't care what their girl does, so, girls think shit like talking to exes on snapchat is ok. Some guys are legit too pussy to check their girl on some shit like that, so, she thinks it's ok.

I would tell her what your expectations are of her if you haven't already. She can't read your fucking mind. Make it clear what you're not willing to accept. Aka not looking for. I had to do that a few times with my current, and each time she fixed her shit. Most times I just had to bring something up once and she would come up with a solution to whatever my issue with her was. Snapchat, she deleted it, her solution to an issue I had with her. Instagram, she deleted and made a whole new page, where she's built up a following of only women. Again, all it took was me saying, I don't fuck with social media like that and I'm not looking for someone who does. I think you should find someone who's into social media as much as you are. From their the choice is hers. It can be as simple as, I saw you still talk to your ex on Snapchat. If that's what you want to continue to do, fine, but don't do it with me. Then she can explain, and you can decide if you want to next her, or set that boundary. If she agrees, it's no longer an issue unless it happens again. In which you next.

TRP is quick to tell you to next a bitch, some cases I agree with. But through experience I know you have to open your mouth in some cases and let her decide if the price of admission, in her case submission, is worth the cost.

ay-fuh-q · 2020-11-04T21:46:52+00:00

how do I bring this up and discuss my distaste in a red pill way

DON'T bring it up. Just demote or dump.

TheRedPillRipper · 2020-11-04T22:07:40+00:00

I just legit think it’s rude

If it’s a dealbreaker act upon it, if not; let it go. If YOU’RE NOT OKAY with it; it’s not okay. You might choose to let it go but what might remain is The Doubt.

If however you don’t think it’s a big deal, and you can accept she’ll text this and other men; then it’s not a big deal. Remember; it’s just her turn. Eventually it ends. It may be due to old age; it may be to her getting emotionally validated through Snap. Either way; accepting this makes it easier to maintain perspective on how you want to run your relationship.

I was in the opposite situation at the start of my LTR. I was texting/chatting girls(an ex specifically too) even whilst we became exclusive. My response to her bringing me your exact same issue? You don’t get to choose who I talk to. She has neither the right nor the ability to dictate terms. Neither do you.

I did give her an option though. I told her ”no one has a gun to her head. That she’s free to do what she thinks best.” Just like you.

Godspeed and good luck!

bob--man · 2020-11-04T22:30:11+00:00

Just reread your post. This girls 21 and in college? LMFAO. Why are you even taking her serious enough to be on asktrp smh. Don't even bother bringing it up. She shouldn't be your only girl in the first place wtf.

MarsWasTakenWasTaken · 2020-11-04T22:30:58+00:00

Your LTR should have told you about it. If her ex texts or snaps her you should be the first one to know about it.

She did not tell you. Do you tolerate this behavior? You clearly don't so act on it. You want someone that recognizes you as the captain.

bookofcookies · 2020-11-04T21:02:05+00:00

Wear a condom. Look for new girls. Don’t mention it but know that it’s just your turn.

dr_warlock · 2020-11-05T01:54:05+00:00

Post: "Oh so that's what we're doing?"

IXseed · 2020-11-04T22:33:54+00:00

If you don't like your gf snapping other dudes don't make girls that snap other dudes your gf. Simple.

whiteindia · 2020-11-05T01:02:00+00:00

She is no longer your girlfriend

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-11-05T12:45:52+00:00

Then don't address it.

Why should you care?

It's just your turn. Just enjoy it while you have it,down grade her to plate(in YOUR mind),get all the hjs/BJ's you can, enjoy the feel if her body while you can,kiss her while you can...

...AND WEAR...HER...MOTHERFUCKING...ASS...OUT LIKE A SAVAGE BEAST!!!!!!!!!!!!

Besides,if she wants to she will regardless of what you say,stomp,put your foot down.

Females will do whatever they want,it's their nature.

FOCUS ON SELF IMPROVEMENT, NOT A BITCH.

"never get attached to anything that you can't walk away from in 30 seconds flat"

Good luck

Huxleys_Island_Dude · 2020-11-05T12:34:13+00:00

Drop her

moto101 · 2020-11-11T22:45:06+00:00

Don't listen to the advice about not bringing this up. She's a GF, not a plate so you're invested and you need to do what you can to make sure your investment doesn't tank.

This situation is simple, assuming you don't live with one another, next time you're done hanging out you tell her straight "You are free to do whatever you'd like but I don't date women who keep in contact with their exes." then leave and soft next for a few days.

You're not breaking up with her but you are setting a boundary. Ideally not talking to an ex is expected but she's a 21-year-old female so she will do dumb shit. If this is a girl worth keeping you will have to use these opportunities as training if it is a first time slip up.

Monitor her behavior closely, if she slips again you walk no contact.

Girlfriend Snapchatting Ex Bf

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"I don't understand these guys saying don't bring it up."

Title	Girlfriend Snapchatting Ex Bf
Author	Ape1Bear2
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Date	November 4, 2020 8:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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