Bitchy/dominant shit test?

thatMGTOWguy · 2020-10-15T06:59:24+00:00

This entire interaction is pandering to what she thinks/wants. Forget her, you focus on you. If she wants, she can fall in line or you can have other options

Subutai_Baghatur · 2020-10-15T08:25:42+00:00

I was snapchatting with this girl with whom I have a long history and report built up.

So you haven’t fucked but you’ve been validating her by messaging for a long time. Is that correct?

Anyway, we are snap chatting and she starts acting bossy. I’m not at all a fan of that, so I tell her. Conversation went like this:

Her: “I’m the boss in this relationship”

Me: “lmao no”

Shit test failed. Would the ‘boss’ in any relationship actually need to be so overt and say “no” in order to reaffirm their status? No. Not only did you convey that you’re not the boss in the relationship and that you don’t know how to be the boss in a relationship, you showed that you don’t know how to play the game.

Her: “you don’t have a say in it”

Me: “Not digging this bossy thing you’ve got going lately”

Shit test number 2 failed. You reaction translated to ”pweaase stop this I don’t liiiiike it”. Would the ‘boss’ in any relationship actually need to be so overt and inform their subordinate that they don’t like them acting up in order to reaffirm their status? No

Her: “sounds like a personal problem”

At this point I try to redirect my approach to the convo by agree and amplify, so I say

Well if you’re going for the whole dominatrix thing, I’m down to be tied up... as long as you whip me”

After two failed shit tests, this is not a good agree and amplify as you’ve already established that she is the boss (although this was probably established long before she acted out like this). This is just you accepting her frame and using that to attempt to steer the conversation to a sexual one.

Her: “sorry, I’m taken” she sends this with a Snapchat filter of joe Biden kissing her neck

I say “tragic” and she sends me a pic of her shoulder with no text, so I leave her open.

The only correct thing that you did here is leaving her on read.

DullIntroduction · 2020-10-15T11:40:29+00:00

She's a brat, actively trying to defy you to get punished, meaning recieving that good old spank.

But you can't do anything since you're texting, and not actually there to be able to bring her back to the real world.

When she starts going bossy "you don't have a say in it", you do not keep on engaging virtually : "We'll see, let's meet in X at Y o'clock".

Leonardslemons · 2020-10-15T06:12:18+00:00

If you don't know where you went wrong, why do you feel like you didn't pass the shit test?

Not being facetious, just answer honestly.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2020-10-15T13:14:34+00:00

She’s the Alpha here.

michael1962-01 · 2020-10-16T19:19:01+00:00

You discuss issues in a relationship using text?

Ok.. modern times..

Boss position is negotiated?

That's also new to me.

I'd react different - but will not lecture you.

omkar-m · 2020-10-15T07:02:14+00:00

Don't worry man you played it well. She is just trying to test you whether you submit to her or not and you didn't submit. As far as her response it's just that you stroke her ego like "what is he think of himself?" It's a good thing, don't worry she will come around after some time and if she don't NEXT.

Title	Bitchy/dominant shit test?
Author	have-a-blast88
Upvotes	3
Comments	30
Date	October 15, 2020 6:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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