Practising being more assertive what to do when they say no?

TheRedPillRipper · 2020-11-03T11:52:52+00:00

in cases like these?

Pick your battles. Gym bro won’t move? No big deal. You did well to continue on as if nothing bothers you; because it shouldn’t. The Strength of Frame comes not only from being assertive; but holding Frame regardless of people’s actions; or reactions.

I frame issues two ways; Life Threatening; or No Big Deal. Easier to keep things in perspective this way. Gym bro, losing 140k last quarter; all goes into the same basket. Easier to process and move forward too.

Godspeed and good luck!

vandaalen · 2020-11-03T11:52:00+00:00

you should think about stuff like this before you open your mouth

how far are you willing to got for shit like this? are you willing to having to switch to another gym because they don't allow you anymore, because you choked somebody out?

Also think ybout how you come off. Do you rub people the wrong way maybe?

I don't have problems like this, but I also don't make a dick waving contest out of everything and will assume that he didn't notice and ask him to move over in a nice tone.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-11-03T16:50:36+00:00

lick his knees, that'll show him.

MicksPickle · 2020-11-03T14:00:49+00:00

Burst in a fit of coughing all over him then apologise profusely while holding onto his shirt continuing to heave your lungs up all over him

variiex · 2020-11-03T11:50:14+00:00

Lol I'd just tell the front desk. They should get him for not respecting the distancing rule

14_steppenwolf_15 · 2020-11-03T12:28:39+00:00

Know when being assertive is effective and when its not. In your case this gym bro clearly saw a discrepancy between your person and behaviour, so he did not take you serious and didnt move. In this case it clearly wasn't effective and you didn't get your way.

On the other hand I'm pretty sure he would've moved if you asked politely. Majority of people would.

Also being assertive doesn't mean to be an asshole (Just in case some sperg reads this). Learn to be more assertive with people who already respect you. And not with some random testosterone fueld gymbro.

In a nutshell: Kill your ego and don't be a sperg.

Protocol_Apollo · 2020-11-03T17:36:13+00:00

Sidebar: there’s a post by NightwingTRP or mentorpehus literally on this

reduxDev · 2020-11-03T15:07:46+00:00

Fuck these cases, don't get the shit kicked out of you for dumb shit like that just to "be alpha".

Sign up for shit that will get you spam phone calls, like education referral services (or just wait for usual ones) and when you get some dumbass calling you trying to scam you into something, reject their proposition with as much force and assertion as you can. It's great practice. Then when a restaurant gets your order wrong, or some asshole at the gym is being bitch to you, it will feel more natural.

redpillman99 · 2020-11-03T12:02:56+00:00

You can only TRY to control people, but there is a chance they will say no. I am not saying you should not try. But accept it might not work. The higher your MV, the more the chances of someone saying no to you, at least when your case is justified, goes down.

However nobody is invulnerable to getting rejected. Frame is recognizing the world is too chaotic to get pissed off if everything does not go your away.

You are asking this question because you probably think you got insulted or put down in some way. No. You stated what you wanted, which is all you needed to do. Most bitches cant even do that. The gym bro said no. End of talk. You can't control gym bro.

Infact i usually do shit like this to see if the other person can be assertive and say no or not. Great way to find alpha friends and weed out the weak simps.

Title	Practising being more assertive what to do when they say no?
Author	skriker25
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	November 3, 2020 11:10 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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