I want to share my experiences dating here. I wasn't ever looking for the red pill, I found it on my own and it's led to great things.

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TLDR: Have obtained the perfect "red pill" relationship, the key I've found is to learn how to accept your dominance.

To start- I'd probably consider myself a 7 or 8 so it's not like I was in need of help pulling chicks. I am not particularly strong now but was very skinny back then-but damn did I have confidence. That was the first lesson I learned after being a bit of a dweeb early high school: fake it till you make it. Everyone else out there is also scared shitless and doesn't know what they're doing. You immediately stand out if you simply act confidently, speak up, and the most importantly I think: you need to not be afraid to be genuine.

When I say be genuine, I am reflecting on the fact that a lot of my male friends, or at least the "alpha" types, really aren't afraid to show their genuine emotions. Not anger; but comradery, appreciation, joy. Nothing gets people to like you better than if they think you truly enjoy their company. Weaker men seem to hide their feelings and come off wimpy, even bitchy.

My second lesson came in college. I was dating this girl with an enormous type-A "girl power" personality. I was infatuated with her, thought she was more intelligent than me and would be far greater than me at everything and I really didn't mind that. Looking back, I was totally her bitch, but I didn't care; I thought she was great.

In our relationship though there were a few moments where I made her submit to me, and they were truly amazing. It felt like I had awoken a different person inside of her. The first time I bent her over during sex she orgasmed harder than ever. She was also a chick who would say she never wanted to have children, and soon enough she started talking about baby names and all kinds of shit that really just showed be that her instinctive womanhood was starting to take over. Unfortunately, about a year in, I think she realized she was no longer this feminist icon who stood up to the patriarchy, had a huge identity crisis, and dumped me. It actually happened within a week of me getting an internship that she had been denied from, and that was on top of a number of things I started to suddenly be better than her at. In all, her blue pill reawoke, she realized she was not independent or the "alpha" of our relationship, and she bailed. Terrible break up haven't spoken since, but I find great comfort in knowing what I dodged. And even better, five years later now, her boyfriend is perhaps the most beta male I've ever seen. Very grateful that isn't me.

I was hurt, but then came the lesson : It either makes you bitter or it makes you better. I honestly owe so much success to that break up. I worked on myself hard, had a string of good, less intense relationships, and am pretty successful as a young man right now. I have never considered myself to be a player or anything, but I definitely got around and pulled some girls out of my range. The biggest thing I disagree with this board on is the significance of one night stands, fucking girls and not caring about them. I don't think that's healthy. I take pride in the fact that of the girls I've slept with, hardly any are one night stands, and nearly all of them I have a good relationship with, though we rarely will talk. Sex can and should be mutual at this stage of life. Young men and women are having a good time, exploring their bodies, finding pleasure, and it isn't necessarily evil. I do, however, think that I would have a much harder time accepting a woman that has slept around if I had not had the opportunity to do so a bit myself, though I do only mean in the realm of 10-20 partners.

Finally, I started dating a girl a year ago and we are going strong. I wasn't really looking for a red-pilled woman, but damn am I lucky I found one. On her first date she told me how much she hates modern feminism, how the sexes are different, and how we're better at certain things than the other. Most importantly, she fully embraces this idea of dominance and submission. I have never had a relationship like this fellas, I tell you I feel completely in control. It was hard to get used to. It felt awkward to be "the man" in the relationship, since I am still pretty young (23). At first I felt like a bit of a poser, but I learned to grow into it. And let me tell you, it was the best and more significant change of my life. Accept your dominance. Wear is proudly. Not just with your partner, but with with the rest of the world too.

These days, I am not worried about her being with another man at all. Never. I am not worried that I don't satisfy her, I am not worried that she will leave me, it simply doesn't feel possible. She looks at me with so much joy. She openly will tell me that she submits to me, especially during sex, and honestly I just feel like a fucking king with her. She makes me feel strong, smart, sexy, and most of all, like I produce for her. And in return I make her feel safe, adored, and respected. This relationship honestly could not be better and it truly feels like how every relationship should. So my last lesson was to learn to accept dominance, to exercise it, and also appreciate it and not take it for granted. The greatest gift a woman can give you is her submission. You've got to earn it. I did.

It's a damn shame to see how many young men are not acting like men these days. Everyone seems to wants to be the victim, everyone wants to be the one taken care of, everyone wants to be submissive. It's a shame. I am fortunate to have found a woman who pushed me into the dominant role, and I feel better about myself than ever before.