Hi so I’m new to the group (relatively) and I’ve been learning more about what RPW dating from helpful users in the community.

I realized my old problems were due to lack of information or understanding about how to date in the past. How to be a HVW and vet for a HVM. I’m the past I had always naively given someone the benefit of the doubt because I had already formed feelings. I gave love and affection without first allowing them to earn my trust and respect.

Some things I don’t yet understand are when is the appropriate amount of time to accurately trust someone or know someone enough to start showing love and affection? At what level of limitations to your put on yourself from being fun flirtatious and loving to someone, if it’s your natural state of being but you do not want to give someone undeserving your affections they didn’t earn then should you limit yourself completely? How else do men understand your value if you can’t yet show him your true value? I don’t understand the whole ability to determine each other’s true value without forming some sort of intimate bond or trust already. Because other wise the values would just be surface level correct? Or are the everyday moments the most important thing to vet a HVM for?

Sorry so many questions but you can see I still have a lot of life experience yet to have and I just want to go into dating not getting my heart broken over and over by handing it over willingly to someone undeserving. I know this is a character flaw of mine I’d like to fix because even dee down I do know my true self worth and I don’t want to act like I’m a cheap free give away. I want men to be able to see my true value and I want to understand the signs of a HVM

Thanks for this community helping women like myself who are lost when it comes to dating & men