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In my last article, I talked about how I found TRP and how it affected my behavior towards women.

Summary

Today I want to debunk some myths. I noticed three myths spinning around a lot: The Good Alpha, The Good Girl, and Whining. I could find more but let's stop here. These three are probably most dangerous. Today, it's The Good Alpha Myth.

1. The Good Alpha (TGA)

Mind you, I do not have problems believing in TGA. I have problems with belief that this TGA gets laid.

Let's describe TGA quickly: powerful as humble; strong as good - he wants to serve society, family, and friends. He is that man we ask for when we need somebody who we can trust, who will get the job done. He holds on to his moral code and ideals. Probably a bit conservative. Strong family values. But also a guy capable of going to and dying on a fucking battlefield. His humor is lighthearted but never offensive. He knows all the social etiquette and manners in any situation. Straight, honest, real man. He plays fair, no games.

Let's say if one posses 80% of these or similar traits, he is TGA.

It would be beautiful if becoming TGA become main concern of most guys on this planet. TGA's are what we need to create a better society for us and our families. These are the guys I respect, and I myself am TGA.

As I said, this is not what I have problems with - I will defend TGA any given day.

What I have problems with is - belief that being TGA will get you laid.

That's right gents. Being the most respected, admired, and loved man, will not get you a bit of pussy. You get to be perfect provider. That's the role modern women assigned to TGA's. And let me tell you what role society assigned to TGA's - it is called doormat.

We need to let go of the fucking idea that being honorable perfect man will get you laid. For that matter, we need to let go of the idea that you will be rewarded for it. From women, society, anybody. Being TGA does not pay of well - you do not get laid and people are trying to use you. Most of the times it pays off just to you, because you lived up to your beliefs which gives you backbone, which creates framework for following your ideas (because now you know them), which might lead to achieving something, which will lead to confidence.

But be careful - there is the really thin line between being the doormat TGA or real man TGA (read on).

1.1 Short story - my way from loser to TGA

Few years ago, I was not TGA. I was fucking idiot. Muscular, but a bit overweight (fatty). Got myself in tone of debts, had problems with alcohol, was loosing job after job. I also treated people like shit. That is the same time I was nailing then miss of my country, had a relationship with beautiful thin and young pole dancer, and when I say relationship I mean it was crazy how I treated her and she was coming back for more. And the same time chicks were slipping their numbers like crazy. Let me not tell you about number of r-selected sex affairs I had, not more then 10 minutes after meeting the chick.

Of course, pussy did not save me from what was coming - punishment for living like a rich arrogant rock star. I got myself in swim or sink situation and I got out like a TGA. I am proud. Hardworking strong and humble man. Now, women will come right? As a reward right? I mean nature and evolution and everything right?

1.2 Consequences

Let me tell you, dry spell was long. I was young, good looking (ripped), intelligent, laidback man who chicks avoided as if I was fucking smelly horse shit lying somewhere near the sever in the junkie part of the dirtiest red light district in the world.

1.3 You are TGA but you also want to get laid. What to do?

I do not want to give any moral school or advice to anybody - live your own fucking life on your terms. However, to revert things, it was not option for me. Things are hard to change when you want to move forward, but once when you do it, reverting to your old ways is almost impossible. It would be like forgetting TRP. No way back, son.

Few realizations had to come to my mind in order to get laid (in contrast to having some 6ish scraps here and there): chicks does not care about what you are or what you could be or how honorable you are or what paths you had to travel in order to become it. They care how you make them feel at the moment. Let me tell you how it works - if she sees you and she wants to fuck you, then what you are might be sweet. A bonus. If she sees you and does not want to fuck you, you can go die and she would not blink (she might care for you if she is so sorry that she actually develop nurturing motherly traits towards adult man, which probably means you are so fucked up that you should go and take a dive from the bridge).

And does she want to fuck you or not, has nothing to do with you TGA traits (but does with muscles, aloofness, and IDGAF attitude). Any of your perfect traits are not sexual appealing for her and she does not care. She cares how hard can you fuck her.

And if she does not want to fuck you, you are not important. She can use you for fun to kill some time and when she needs a good provider. I mean who could be better then TGA right?

My solution was this: be the TGA. That is who I am and that is my life. I may be ripped and strong and bold but deep inside I am good guy with tons of empathy and good heart. This will not change. Optimization is the key.

But I had to understand, and every TGA have to: you have to develop your other side or you will crush and burn. Being TGA pays off just if you are capable of crushing and burning others who want to fuck with you.

When it comes to women, you have to forget about your TGA traits. You HAVE to revert to arrogant asshole who does not take them for serious. You can treat all the others good if you want but not the women you want to fuck. They are fucked up. It is not that I like the reality, but fuck them in their heads and the body will follow.

Women will appreciate your good traits, after and only after you established the order by treating her like a bad boy would. Even then, showing good traits to her lowers your value. This is as it is. They are as they are.

It is important to know a line between who you are and who do you need to be in order to be desired. And shit me not about honesty, shifting bullshit, being a player instead being honest real guy - this Mark Manson shit is good with your unicorn, not with the chicks that actually exists.

Only thing they have a thing for, is muscular and humble TGA's. So you think she respect how humble you are? I agree. She sees the real values.

Go back to fucking kindergarten. She sees good looking guy with a lot of muscles who is probably too naive to be anything then faithful. She want to fuck his fucking brains out day and night. She wants a prince just for herself. He is her private servant who also fucks her good. Oh and his dick is so thick teeeheeeeee .

She does not give a fuck about any of his traits.

The perfect world where TGA's got all the women probably never existed. Women of Spartan soldiers probably fucked local gambler while her husband was making history on the battlefield. Wake up, Neo. Time is ticking fucking fast.

1.4 The Thin Line

As I said, there is the thin line between a doormat TGA and a man. I want to emphasize this, and it will be short:

If you do not develop your other, dark, Machiavellian side, you will crash and burn. Being TGA to the T is definition of loser. It is not alcoholic gambler who is a loser, he is just dumb or whatever. Being TGA to the T and a doormat, is a definition of a loser. Give your good traits from position of power and control when it comes to everything if you want to be perceived as TGA the man instead of a doormat. Or you can give them from a position of good heart (with your family or close people) - just not from the position of a servant and a beggar.

I am not trying to spoil you, I am saving your fucking head. Also, one thing in this world will give you backbone - it is living up to your values. If you are TGA deep down, do not change it. You can change, up to the point. You can not deny yourself. Do not base anything on a false foundations. Rather, optimize yourself.

TGA man is truly valuable. If you enjoy being a good friend, father, and member of a society, be it, it is to be damn respected but, you simply must learn how to protect from parasites. Not just protect, rather counter attack.

Be that man who want to save lives but also who can take them. Choose your side of the line carefully.

Summary

If you are TGA, stay one. If you want to become one, become, it will be closest to your purpose. But, develop your other side or you will crash and burn as beautiful ripped virgin doormat. Know who you are and live to it, that is the only thing that will give you backbone, but also know who you need to be in order to slay pussy.

Just forget the myth of perfect man who gets laid.

I next article I will write about The Good Girl myth (I can't fucking wait).