She fell for the "sex and the city" lie. Riding the CC with men above her level.

hodltaco · 2018-02-19T23:54:25+00:00

You pegged it exactly:

"I’m 36 and if I’m being completely honest I think I spent a little too long experiencing things after law school"

I speak girl and will translate: "I've been riding the cock carousel and have been subsidized by my parents since college and now regret it. Hopefully the world forgives me."

NabunagasRevenge · 2018-02-19T22:50:59+00:00

She did not fall for the lie she lived the life sex and the city is/was based on. Her post is validation for her selfish life choices.

Israfelll · 2018-02-19T23:05:41+00:00

If she is serious about marriage/family/children she needs to make some concessions. At age 36 she needs to make them NOW if she wants children. Do I mean settle? Not Necessarily but for christ sake woman your best child rearing years were 10 years ago. That was also your best find the right man years. When will women realize that feminism has sold them a bill of goods with a future of "YOU go gurl" at the cost of cats and being alone and childless post 35 years old? NO men did not do this to you WOMEN DID!! WAKE UP!

officerkondo · 2018-02-20T01:00:29+00:00

Practicing law at 36 and she still has a roommate? I've been my family's sole income since I got my license.

Yeah, no one has roommates for "the company". Roommates suck.

LawyerInTheMaking · 2018-02-20T00:57:35+00:00

she should start letting go of the dream of having kids. just because you can have kids at that age doesnt mean that you should.

fromthecrypt8 · 2018-02-20T00:30:14+00:00

It’s funny how that top comment by wet-blanket_why is so spot on, yet the OP chooses not to reply to what that comment said about her having to lower her standards radically. Because she wouldnt want that, would she, she probably deep down still feels entitled to top shelf men while approaching the bottom shelf herself.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2018-02-20T10:53:25+00:00

She had roommates.

She has an echo chamber that justifies her shitty choices. She likes in a sorority house where she has access to top tier guys because she lacks the social skills to attract a man based on her personality. She has no personality because she's only interested in access to high value guys and fucking them hooking one will wife her up.

She failed at life, knows it, and needs more validation.

maxt10 · 2018-02-19T22:56:45+00:00

She doesn’t sound too bad as others I have seen on this subgroup. At least she is honest and no baggage like all the others.

MyMorningCovfefe · 2018-02-20T11:18:09+00:00

Top comment: 36 is not too old to start having kids...go snag a beta bucks immediately. 😂

hatefulreason · 2018-02-20T15:43:04+00:00

funny how people tell her it's ok to keep doing what she's doing, she doesn't have to rush kids, harvesting eggs still works at 36, she'll definitely find someone awesome that would be GRATEFUL to date her, blah blah blah

sounds like something i'd say just to laugh in her face in a few years and be like " SIKE !!"

MGTOWManofMystery · 2018-02-19T23:10:15+00:00

She should own up to her choices. Nothing is stopping her from getting knocked up or getting Chad seed via a donor. But nothing in life is free. Everything has a cost.

MyLittlePonyofDoom · 2018-02-20T06:21:44+00:00

Amazing combination of academic and lack of common fucking sense.

BluepillProfessor · 2018-02-20T02:39:30+00:00

Good lord the title! 36 y/o attorney worried about her future. Darling, we know your future.

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-02-20T00:26:56+00:00

She would have liked to have had a boyfriend, but none of the guys thought she was worth it.

She will never have kids and never be married, and it's going to f*cking suck for her.

moorekom · 2018-02-20T02:22:38+00:00

Two things to note.

/all close in age and most of them are in my position but have trendier life styles than I do where living in the city make sense. I’m starting to worry/

She copied what her friends did. They were her yardstick. Notice how she mentions the men introduced by them pumped and dumped her. I assume her friends were rich, cupcake here wasn't but wanted to be and hung out with them in hope of it. They pegged her to be what she is. Or at least the men of that group did.

From the comments: /no kids could be a plus for a man looking for a mid 30s wife if he is interested in settling down/

First of all, no man in his prime is going to settle for a 36 year old slut with depression and huge regrets. The only ones who will settle for her won't be attractive to her. Her best case scenario is either one of those guys or an old distinguished gentleman in his 50s or late 40s. Then again, that brings a whole lot of issues in itself. Realistically, she sacrificed long term happiness for short term fun. And this stupid commentor would rather act like a crab dragging another crab down than to give her a little bit of honesty. Whether the commentor themselves is aware of reality is another discussion.

Westernhagen · 2018-02-20T03:49:00+00:00

where I grew up was little house on the fucking prairie and one of my first memories was gramma teaching me to make homemade scones for my husband someday. I eventually was able to outgrow that

Yeah and now your future is making homemade treats for your 20 cats. Yay!

I was literally raised from birth with a mindset that this is what makes a woman a woman. I know it’s outdated and completely wrong

Yet here you are whining about your lack of a husband to strangers on the internet. Maybe gramma wasn't wrong after all, and at some level you know it.

secant128 · 2018-02-20T04:00:44+00:00

As a 36 years old attorney living with her roommate, I'm guessing she would have a lot of savings and/or properties by saving from living alone?

novalueinvictimhood · 2018-02-20T11:16:57+00:00

The rates of autism, schizophrenia, and various other life long ailments skyrocket in children born to mothers over 35.

[deleted] · 2018-02-20T15:23:54+00:00

Here is the REAL kicker. She likely will not have that lucrative law job when she is 40. Someone like her is a "good worker bee." Eventually you get to a point at a firm where you need to feed yourself or GTFO. They never teach this, and many naive women (and men) realize this only when the door hits their ass after they are told they are not "partnership material."

So, in 6 years she likely will still be single, but instead of working at a 100 lawyer firm making 200K, she will be working for the government or legal aid making 60K and with a lifestyle she can't afford.

[deleted] · 2018-02-20T18:24:20+00:00

Let this be a lesson for you boys.

When a woman talks about "spending time experiencing things", that's a euphemism for

"wasted time having hot fun sexy sex with hot fun sexy men, none of whom would commit to me, but I wouldn't trade it for the world cuz that sex was so goddamn FANFUCKINGTASTIC!!!!"

[deleted] · 2018-02-20T14:52:38+00:00

Woman's education means nothing for men. It is a plus, but in general it is not needed. What is a plus though, if you aren't over 30 and have stable job and DO NOT live with roommates.

AllahHatesFags · 2018-02-20T15:11:49+00:00

Bitch will be a meal for her cats in a few decades.

RadicalAsceticMonk · 2018-02-20T19:46:43+00:00

Ah, the top answer...

36 is not too late to have kids.

Well, yeah, technically, but it's considered a high risk pregnancy. Spontaneous abortions and Downs galore!

But it might be harder to snag a man. Having no kids could be a plus for a man looking for a mid 30s wife if he is interested in settling down. I'd suggest radically lowering your standards, looking for Mr Reliable, not Mr Right. Otherwise, yeah, time's up.

Hahaha, that's amazing. Buckle up, Billy Beta, it's finally time for you to shine! Of course, that's only because Miss Prune here had to lower her standards and give up the Chad chase.

Drclaw411 · 2018-02-20T15:50:16+00:00

OOTL: What is the sex and the city lie?

[deleted] · 2018-02-20T18:49:35+00:00

she can still have kids at 36 but they'll likely be autistic and/or gay

Zefirez · 2018-02-24T12:07:18+00:00

ATTOURNEY - red flag right there. What kind of man in their right mind would marry one, knowing she has the knowledge and tools to divorce rape him at drop of the hat with 500% greater efficiency then the normal female.

Ofc that would be huge benefit if she can be trusted and relied on. So...when was last time women or lawyers were deemed honest and trustable?

[deleted] · 2018-02-25T04:31:37+00:00

I’m feeling pretty down on myself as I know my window to have kids has pretty much passed.

Don't worry, Darwinian selection will sort this all out.

silver-in-a-cloud · 2018-03-07T04:05:46+00:00

if i were a 36 year old lawyer ..male or female ..i would be more worried about not owning a house or having profitable investments .... a lot more worried about it ...rather than about not having a partner :D

Title	She fell for the "sex and the city" lie. Riding the CC with men above her level.
Author	MastersBlaster
Upvotes	110
Comments	104
Date	February 19, 2018 10:31 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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