Absolutely no social life or friends but it has to be this way?

reduxDev · 2020-12-24T20:40:29+00:00

I don't think you'll regret missing out on people who didn't really stick around.

In the future you'll wish you put more effort/time/energy into the things that gave you the best results over time. If that is school/music/gym (which it sounds like it is) then I don't think you'll regret it.

But you'll probabably regret not starting and nurturing lasting relationships, like family or good friends that will be there in the long run. Not seeing value in yourself, despite your accomplishments and potiential, only because you don't have some dumb bitch all over you that you won't care about a month after you break up is some huge beta shit no one talks about. You shouldn't value yourself based on how many chicks you have around, even tho everyone, especially in this sub, does exactly that.

red__Man · 2020-12-24T20:53:22+00:00

Friends are as important as your career and family, if you choose them correctly, they can literally save your life

AltruisticBeautiful7 · 2020-12-24T21:57:34+00:00

Doing medical school AND musical career: You don't know what you want and therefore waste half of your time. The consequence is obvious. It doesn't "have" to be this way, you chose to embrace two world, there is no time in the thay for more. Remove one if you want time.

Tip: Not the medical school.

MazerTag · 2020-12-24T22:50:47+00:00

I would try to find some balance. Yes, it's great to have goals and be working hard at them. That said, you could get hit by a bus and die tomorrow, having missed out on the prime pussy years. It really doesn't get easier than in college, when all of these single, horny women are basically living, working, and partying on top of you.

Edit: also, the friends I made in undergrad are by far my best friends later in life. You won't have the time to bond with so many people when you're into your career -- especially if you have a family later, too. Adult males don't have time for making friends.

2020-12-25T03:48:58+00:00

Lit. Sounds like you're killing it. What style of rap/hiphop do you make?

In terms of friends/girls, I'd say, yes, it's important to have them. But, as you pointed out, the demand of your goals seems to preclude being very actively social. There are always trade-offs. Could you make friends who are also musicians? Can you make friends/meet girls in the medical school?

I have experienced a similar predicament, having gone from performing highly in undergrad to getting my master's to getting my phd as well as being a writer who experiments with various genres (including rap, although I've sort of fallen off). While I was working on these things when I was younger, I knowingly eschewed finding new friends/prolonging budding relationships, because it just didn't seem like it would help me. I'm fortunate enough to have lifelong friends, but I do sometimes wish that I had been more attentive to meeting/keeping new friends. But this is my story, which, of course, has its own intricacies apart from your own.

To be more straightforward, I don't think you'll have any regrets working on your career and your art. And, if you do become a practicing physician/surgeon (let alone blowing up as a rapper lol), then you'll definitely be able to have an abundance of women, as you may wish. So I wouldn't worry about that.

Bear-With-Bit · 2020-12-24T21:44:40+00:00

Focus on your goals, make friends with those who are doing the same thing as you, in school or in music. There are lot of losers and mediocre ppl out there who will only take away from you, not add. You can socialize when you're practicing med and/or on tour.

Important_Mud_9909 · 2020-12-24T22:29:37+00:00

You're extra busy, so is hard to enter new social circles other than the ones available for you in the areas you spend most of your time in. You can try to make the most out of them or create new circles, but you'll need to reserve time to socialize and not be shy about it ofc.

Title	Absolutely no social life or friends but it has to be this way?
Author	TA6788889
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	December 24, 2020 8:32 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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