Redpill theory as described in the sidebar says women are "solipsistic" i.e. incredibly self centered. This is interesting and one can get some good conclusions from this observation. But not so many conclusions because there's not much psychological literature on "solipsism".
But there's a condition described in the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, for psychiatrists and psychologists) called "narcissism". There was "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" in DSM-4. In the new DSM-5 it's no longer considered a disorder, because it's become so damn common I guess, and it is adaptive and describes many very rich and successful people. But you should still know if your girl is like this.
An awful lot of girls are like this. An awful lot of relationships and marriages can be saved or resolved successfully if the guy understands this and learns about it.
If the guy understands, he'll automatically react better. Same as when I understood the Oedipal relationship and how one must think of all other girls differently from my mother, I suddenly became a total non-beta.
Here if you understand narcissism, you will not give the narcissistic supply they are after, it just won't happen when you think properly about that person and their frame of mind, and so they won't do that bad shit any more. It's been like magic for me.
A place to start is Sam Vaknin's channel on youtube. He's a very interesting guy, trained as a physicist but discussing psychology, and he says he is a psychopathic narcissist because of an abused childhood.
But he tells you to run away from a narcissist. I think you should try hanging in there for a while at least, because an awful lot of women are narcissists, and you might find one that is good in other ways. For long term, or at least short term.