Step 2- Come to the crushing realization that you didn't accept the pill Step 3 - Lift, Abundance Mentality, and Amused Mastery

TL;DR- was engulfed in a scarcity mindset and NAWALT. Took a break of frame

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This is a little realization I had over the past 48 hours. A little background I am currently traveling in Shanghai about to take an English teaching job somewhere else in China. While in my hostel I met this Chinese girl who we'll call L. L is Cute and smart. Her English is really good and we end up talking astrophysics, Quantum physics, etc. within 20 minutes of meeting and really get along. We end up with a friend of hers J and some Beta before we go to the club Muse 2. We all dance and then I isolate L and K-close. I shit you not it was like making out with a vacuum. Anyways nothing else happens due to us going to different clubs as the night progresses. As I arrived at the hostel for the night not seeing her in her bed I began wondering if she was with another guy and realized I had already attached myself to her since she was smart, cute, and obviously a special special snowflake.

The next evening Me, L, J, and our new hostel mate Grim end up going to a concert by some Swedish band. When the band finally made it she was freaking out like a stereotypical fan girl in the front row and she ended up kissing the drummer on the cheek. She was ecstatic. I knew I was easily outclassed due to their SMV and intermittently showed signs of insecurity. We end up going out to more clubs after and meeting her French friends she met recently. Dancing with everyone etc etc. I get separated and basically burn out all night at the club it was pretty rough. After the clubs 5 of us (L included) end up going to the river to catch the sunrise.

As I begin talking to her she tells me how when she became friends with the Frenchies that one of them told her to pick the hottest one and he would hook her up with him. She tells me she picked one but he had a GF. I go on to tell her I liked one of the French girls and we seemed to hit it off but She had a BF and I had no intention of being the other guy and that i'm not that type of person. She then proceeds to tell me neither is she then contradicts herself 5 minutes later saying she is going to try to do something with him before he leaves.

Not sure if i'm even going to see her again but regardless I'm glad because it helped me realize how I was merely reading TRP and not Embracing it.

Lessons Learned:

  1. Awalt, Awalt, AWALT!

  2. A compromised Frame is an opportunity to grow don't get butthurt