Text advice - Setting up date?

rocknrollchuck · 2020-02-03T00:31:28+00:00

Don't waste time, set it up! Invite her to do something with you soon:

"Hey I'm going to be [doing this really cool thing] next Saturday, you should join me as my date." Make it an action date rather than dinner or a movie.

Deep_Strength · 2020-02-03T01:36:54+00:00

I'd personally do something like what chuck said.

Please remember that the "RP" take on texting is only for logistics is neither right nor wrong. If you're good with teasing a girl through text and building up to your next meeting then it can be great. If you know that you sabotage yourself a lot through text then you might want to pass or know that you need to work on it more.

AlanNoles · 2020-02-03T15:26:16+00:00

Just ask her out. She already knows what is up. If you find her attractive then just do it.

I do not know how long your initial interaction was, but when I was single and in the process of getting numbers I normally tried to set up something to do later that week on the spot and tried to initiate at least one inside joke between us that I could reference.

It makes it easier when you are texting them since you already have something fun planned.

For example, I had a really dope waffle place 5 mins from where I stayed. I knew all the waitresses in there and they would normally come and talk with me and my date while I was there and would boost me.

Initial Convo: (Introduce self), 5 mins of conversation. (Mention food and that I really like waffles).... btw I have this really good waffle place near my house and just hype it up. If you are into it and she is into you it should be fairly easy after to set up a date.

Set the date up within 48 hours of getting her number. If she is an attractive girl, she will have others blowing up her phone constantly and also prevents you from over-texting. 24 hours before the date, I used to send a cocky funny text like "Can't wait to eat some waffles, I have been craving them. Make sure you straighten your hair, otherwise I am sending you home ;)"

That text normally opens up the chance for some fun push and pull texts and puts "the good emotions" you want in her before the date. One hour before the date I say, "I hope you are straightening your hair ;). This reminds her about the date and if she forgot and cannot show then she has the opportunity to re-schedule. (It is also pretty funny because in my experience they actually did straighten it).

Not saying you need to use this structure, but it is the first date. You will probably have a lot of them. I used this same text on the 100 first dates I went on in my life. Doing the same first date over and over again also gave me confidence while I was on the date which set the tone for the relationship. Just make a structure congruent to you and your own interests.

But the most important thing is to have fun on the date.

Some will, some wont...so what.

juliusstreicher · 2020-02-22T07:41:41+00:00

You may be too late as it is. You've met in person, and connected on text. What more do you expect from texting?

Title	Text advice - Setting up date?
Author	SingularityOne198
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	February 2, 2020 11:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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