I believe that for many guys it's simply a part of growing up. Developing an interest in girls, starting to date, getting their first girlfriend, getting another one, falling in love and getting married - it all happens naturally as a part of life. They don't have to put any particular work or effort into it, everything just happens at its appropriate time.

And for other guys it simply doesn't happen, for various reasons. It's a huge effort to overcome each step, and even then many attempts end in failure. They end up doubtful and bitter, and mainstream society mocks them and calls them entitled losers if they even dare to talk about how hard it is.

I wonder if the "bluepillers" and so-called Chads are part of the first category - as are most women - and hence they simply can't understand the mindset of guys who went through a different life experience. It would certainly explain a lot.