what am i missing if avoiding dating completely through 20s?

DangZagnut · 2020-03-16T09:17:21+00:00

So date if you want to. Just don't make any permanently stupid decisions like catching a disease, knocking a chick up and paying child support, of marrying and cohabitating with anyone.

You don't have to go monk if it doesn't appeal to you. You have the knowledge, just don't be stupid.

rogerira · 2020-03-16T11:10:39+00:00

You can date if you want. You will get some good feelings, there are some dates that can be fun. Just don't get stupid and get married or have a kid with somebody you barely know.

But if you decide not to do it, you are not missing out on as much as you might think. Most of the time it's just going to an expensive restaurant you wouldn't normally go by yourself, and paying for a stranger's meal, while she struggles to keep up with any meaningful conversation, and you sit there being bored while she tell you about trivial stuff. Honestly, the percentage of times I get sex after a date is low, and the times I get actually satisfying sex after a date is none, maybe that's just me, I don't know.

Nowadays I just take them out for lunch to a $25/person restaurant, and go for a walk in the park afterwards.

peepeeandpoopooman · 2020-03-16T10:16:29+00:00

You're missing having someone spend all your money.

westnblue · 2020-03-16T10:52:32+00:00

Pain and heartbreak

anon_likes_tendies · 2020-03-16T10:56:02+00:00

Pain. Suffering. Being broke. Pandering for attention.

Morphs_ · 2020-03-16T11:56:56+00:00

Two things for you my friend:

First, dating in a blue pilled world is only frustrating. You'll be wondering why women are acting weird, why you suddenly lost have your net worth, etc. It's not fun. Besides, you're already red pilled so you know more than the stupid guys.

Second, you're not really missing much because the hot girls in their 20's won't care about you because you're too young. Guys reach their SMV peak somewhere between 35-45 and then it goes down very slowly. Plenty of time to get in your best shape and get successful in life.

I'd say it's ok to have fun with women, but making mistakes is costly and you'll probably make one sooner or later. In that sense only monk mode will protect you.

custoscustodis · 2020-03-16T13:58:42+00:00

Don't waste your money dating. Find women for whom YOU are the alpha. Hook up with them, protect yourself, and keep it moving.

Today's woman dates men she's not overly sexually attracted to. He may be attractive, but if he is emotionally stable and available, she will push him into a simp role. That's what you want to avoid if you want to deal with women.

And watch out for the "success trap." Once you reach your goals, you might start slacking off. As you get bored, you'll start looking for a relationship to fill the void. Because you are young and successful, women will be swarming you (especially older women!). The trap is when you decide to get married and have children, thus putting yourself in a very compromising position.

I know because this happened to me in my late 20s. I was successful in my career and an older woman latched on to me. My career and drive slackened as she literally and figuratively sucked the life energy out of me.

2020-03-16T15:37:11+00:00

dating was invented by girls for girls .. so since you are a man .. you ain’t missin nothing

ColdCommunication1 · 2020-03-16T09:47:43+00:00

Dating will just reassure you that your decision to go monk was the right one, that is all but I think dating would help you gain experience that you were right in your decision all along. I think you should date solely to be 100% sure but I believe you will come to the same conclusion you started with,

Hateussoyboys · 2020-03-16T16:12:14+00:00

Nothing really

ilikerelish · 2020-03-16T13:37:19+00:00

Do what you are going to do, but I can tell you from experience that what you are missing is a whole heap of bullshit, dotted very sporadically with a sprinkling of good times. Essentially, relationships in the 20s are a dumpster fire of high emotion, and immaturity. The way it goes is that in general most of the time is that you are living with a roommate, a bad one. Except this roommate cock blocks you by default even when they aren't around. They are constantly doing shit to cause drama and arguments or discontentment. They are smart enough to know when they pushed it to he brink to reel it back in so that you stick around, and give just enough enjoyment at critical times. Basically, you are given good emotional reference material so that when things are "meh" or bad, your mind goes back to the reference material, and keeps you stick around longer...

You'll do this to yourself anywhere from 1 to 30 times, maybe even more, until you get into your 30s, at which point you will become a target for provisioning.

Go.. have your sex. Very safe sex.. I do not suggest you entertain the idea of a relationship.

maxtorrz · 2020-03-16T18:14:50+00:00

I'm 29. Have dealt with loss of friendships and a false accusation over women. It ain't worth it man. Especially if you never want kids like me. Lifes too short for the drama and bullshit women stir up. They can also ruin your life at the drop of a hat.

TheBeefanator · 2020-03-16T20:00:21+00:00

In my 20s, I wanted to find out if it was all true. Do I really just have to lift and be an asshole to invite women straight to my house and get laid?

The answer was yes. You really do just have to lift, dress decent, and turn the conversation towards sex ASAP to get laid.

Now I really don’t care now that I know how the game works. Would probably fuck a skinny chick with glasses in her early 20s if she offered honestly.

Givemeanamedamn · 2020-03-16T21:18:02+00:00

Better off without feelings. First time you'll be very irrational and probably leave this group until fate brings you back.

2020-03-16T23:51:06+00:00

I married my fourth girlfriend and stayed married until I was 30. Being 30 was way more attractive to woman than being 20. Especially women your age.

They go for older guys with nice cars. I had a mercedes and a good job.

I got plenty of girls in my 30's. Then I fucked up and married for the purpose of procreating. This lead to 22 years of heartache, emotional pain and 300K in lawyer fees.

Needless to say I don't date anymore.

SGoMM · 2020-03-17T00:16:03+00:00

I have never dated throughout my teens and twenties, right to my mid-30s. I got redpilled more each time I got stonewalled and ghosted by women I'm interested in. I had to avoid feeling like a creep and starting minimalizing interactions with them.

Subject_Advice · 2020-03-17T02:33:14+00:00

I'm in my 20s, I set up multiple dates a week with different Women. (Though it's been put on hold since the Corona Virus) I interact with Women on campus, get their number & schedule the date (All in person & at that moment). The "problem" I became aware of was that once I got a hella hot girl (this last Women was exotic, vegan & fit), I would try to manage the relationship with her and stop seeing other girls... (Alpha essence reverting to Beta essence). I'm not going to do exclusive relationships anymore. My game always seems better/sharper when I date multiple Women.

beardedbliss · 2020-03-17T14:20:06+00:00

You are only missing out on used up gash looking for a free meal that most times won't put out unless you are a Chad, Tyrone, or Rico. You are missing out on stress, drama, baggage, single mums wanting a daddy for their kids. You are missing out on gonoherpacockasyphillaids, the HIV , or whatever you want to call it and getting rodded off the range. You are missing out on woes, possible child support, and getting sperm jacked. Basically...nothing important. If you want to date, then date. It is all up to you.

2020-03-16T13:45:28+00:00

Nothing if they're bad women.

If they're unicorns it's something else. I would have this big boobie girl bring me steak, pizza and a few other things and we'ld then watch movies and play console games for hours. She would also let me fuck her without a condom whilst she was on the ring contraceptive.

Didn't know at the time that was going to be my peak Girlfriend experience. No other girlfriend came close to that but I am not saying this out of regret but past analysis.

Title	what am i missing if avoiding dating completely through 20s?
Author	karlis1993
Upvotes	16
Comments	32
Date	March 16, 2020 9:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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