What up guys,

Before I start the body of this post, I have to say this one thing; This method I'm using is like training wheels on a bike. It is meant to be used until you are confident enough in your skills to take off the training wheels, and ride like a big boy. Use it to build confidence, try new things, hone your conversational skills, and then build toward a full approach. With that being said...

I recently have been getting back a little more into the pickup scene, after taking it slow for a while. When I say taking it slow, I mean haven't been going to the bars for weeks at a time, no approaches for about 3 months, aside from like a 2 week fling. And to say that I was a little more then nervous to do my first approach would be an understatement.

After a bit of liquid courage I sacked up and got rejected in about 4 minutes. Not exactly surprising considering it was the first I've done for a while, and the first I had been trying to incorporate RP/PU theory into the set. So the first Friday I ended up with 10 sets, 6 hard no's, 2 #close's (one of which was fake) , 1 who was way to drunk to feel comfortable taking her home, and 1 who "had a boyfriend" after 20 minutes and 2 rounds of drinks...

So this past weekend we head out again, after a fair bit more theory reading, and I kinda had a little lightbulb go off. Approach anxiety comes to me when I get nervous/insecure about my abilities and persona when trying to hook up with a girl. This little revelation made me change the way I have been approaching a set. Instead of trying to close her and bring her home as the end goal, I'm trying to open the girl to my friend group, and to hers with no intent of sexual interaction.

For an example; I went up to a 8/10 and asked her for a dance, and after some casual conversation getting to know each other (I should mention here the conversation is still following the normal RP theory. Negs, pressure flipping shit tests, the whole lot.) , I mention how great of a match she would be for my friend. She replies back with a "I thought you would be a great match for me." #close and first date set up the next day.

I approached 8 other girls all with the same mindset of no sexual interaction over the weekend, and it has helped immensely. I personally had a lot more fun not having the pressure put on myself of pass/fail since not getting a k-close, #, etc. wasn't failing, it was what I intended. I also noticed girls seemed a lot more open to merging friend groups, and the ones I was with more were so intent on trying to get my approval or to hit on them.

On Friday, I went from having to do the "alright on 3 your gonna go talk to her. 1. 2. fuck. 3." to Saturday night feeling completely confident on opening almost any girl. I must admit, I still have a little ways to go before I'll be good to do a full approach with no hesitation, but its fun as hell seeing my opening go from complete shit to where it is now.

Summary: Approach Anxiety is your fear of being rejected. It is your lack of confidence in yourself to close a girl. If you have AA, try switching it up a bit by approaching girls with no intent of sexual interaction, and letting the conversation and set go from there. With no intent of trying to fuck, there is no possible way to get rejected. If things are going good and you have a solid read shes into you, go for it. Keep using this method until you feel comfortable enough to go straight in showing intent.