Brothers I really need help this evening....

bieberblows · 2020-01-27T02:30:06+00:00

Tomorrow morning get on the phone to an attorney. Don't delay it. I am not an attorney but since you have the kids that means you can get her ass for child support.

I don't trust the police but ask the attorney about filing a police report. You need to do this all very quick to avoid her abuse claims. Document everything. It's a very sad world where a woman's word will carry the most weight without proof. You need to beat her at her own game.

God bless you.

Bignuke95 · 2020-01-27T02:28:06+00:00

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angmendosal · 2020-01-27T02:09:53+00:00

Guys please help this brother with anything you can asap. We need to support each other a lot or we will lose the gender war.

I am not the an american and I guess you are, not much I know about how the law works there, but I would say get definitive proof that she lived with you guys and that she just left, after that, someone with a legal background is a better choice.

binbagaccount · 2020-01-27T02:37:38+00:00

Get yourself a lawyer and make sure you get full custody of the kids it means to survive.

If you are how you say you are, you need them kids, you need to make sure is screwed into child support. It's rares but make you are the first one there and make sure you get that divorce and win the kids. Make sure the kids know there so called mother have left them and doesn't love them.

You need full control, you can't have her know, make sure you always 5 steps ahead of her, so everything blows up in her face and you avoid being homeless.

MuchIndependence · 2020-01-27T02:15:31+00:00

And my wife of six years just walked out on myself and our three young children because I’m “too immature and she’s done” (she’s sleeping with someone else).

WTF? Bye kids? That's all, mummy's GONE? Damn... Sorry man :(

If you want to make some social contact from home a good way for me in the past has been gaming, if you have the time for it MMORPGs are good since there's a lot of downtime where there's nothing else to really do but get to know your teammates. I've met a number of guys disabled and retired who game, gives em something to do. There's also guys that do it with kids screaming in the background, I'd say it's worth giving it a go if ya can

Cryptolexicon · 2020-01-27T02:37:23+00:00

You're not alone. You have this whole community - we are with you.

Guys, if anyone can provide some info on the next steps, I tried Google however someone who had to go through this before can definitely provide better intel.

Hang in there, it's going to be hard to keep it together initially, however your children are with you and you will emerge stronger from that experience.

Don't delay - act quickly.

Do you have access to a lawyer or free legal advice?

Guys upvote this and share it!

eatshitanddie666 · 2020-01-27T02:29:10+00:00

Who ever cheated loses the kid. Don’t give your house up and don’t give any property to her. Who ever gives in is the one who loses the house and kids when it comes to a divorce. Not saying you’re going to get one I don’t know you but keep that in mind while the next few months unfold. Good luck OP hope things work out for what’s best

coffeemancan · 2020-01-27T02:30:31+00:00

Don't have any legal advise, but hang in there man. Unfortunately the stay at home dad thing doesn't work out well most of the time. Women don't tend to respect men who earn less than they do, so the contempt has probably been building up in her for a while.

humbleprotector · 2020-01-27T03:00:40+00:00

Only communicate with her via text. Ask her when she plans on seeing the kids. Best way to have documentation of her abandonment as well as establish evidence of your ability to care for the children as a primary parent. Do not imply that you can't do it alone, keep your requests simple. Protect yourself. Having a simple security camera wouldn't hurt. Self centered women facing divorce almost always fake serious things inorder to gurantee their child custody and financial security. In some states it is completely legal to record someone without their knowledge in person to person conversation. They must only be made aware during recorded telephone conversation inorder to be admissable in court. Focus on the children and don't let yourself be defeated. I went to court 6x and ended with sole custody of my sons in 2001. Raising them was the joy of my life. And raising them without her was a much better life than I could have ever imagined. You will be ok, infact you will likely be happier than you have ever been.

humbleprotector · 2020-01-27T03:06:44+00:00

Your mind is like a garden and your thoughts are the seeds. The more you think about the same things they will grow. Good thoughts and bad they will grow and grow, they will seem worse or better. You need to make your best effort to focus on the kids and the life you see yourself having. Plant only good seeds and quit watering the weeds.

mistermgtow · 2020-01-27T03:48:22+00:00

Brother, lawyer up. Sometimes you can find help through veterans organizations.

Also, brace yourself. She is your enemy now. The one you loved is no longer in that body. Her soul is dead. She is not the woman you knew. You have to work hard to mentally brace yourself for this awful person you thought you knew.

Find a counselor and go to him to talk through what you are feeling. Sometimes that can be found for free, as well.

I am sorry this is happening to you. I hate it.

Be as strong as you can, and find purpose in the children. Or elsewhere.

Reach out to men. Men like us who have been through this shit are the only ones who know.

Prepare for a couple of years of stormy weather.

Most importantly, don't date. For a long while. I suggest never. Especially right now.

I am truly sorry. It is the worst.

Also, to close, I don't mean to insult your wife but she is a rotten crotched cheating whore. Her entire being is a puss filled asshole zit and I hope she gets so many fungal infections that her vagina looks like bright red cauliflower.

Prayers, bud.

oceansarevast · 2020-01-27T04:03:26+00:00

So many things going on here.

Immediately : legalize your situation now. Get a lawyer and ask for advice about your legal status and kids. Follow instructions and in case of doubt don't hesitate and to get a second opinion or switch lawyer. Goals custody, house, financial security. Donts: let her inside the house / remove personal items without a witness present. Arrange visitation without documentation/agreement in place. She can take the kids any time and claim victimhood. You will be toast. Don't get soft. Never argue with her of fight. Handle everything by email. Block her from social media. Goals establish yourself as the custodian parent and take control. Set boundaries, don't become a victim Yourself: Married six, broken 4 years, still 3 kids. Don't blame yourself. Society will do that for you. F@ck them. Mentally you were depending on her and not planning your own way. Don't blame yourself. That is how nature works. Now establish the new you. Lose bad habits. Don't drink, smoke, use drugs. Sleep on time , wake up on time. If you can't sleep take a melatonin tablet. Make sure your kids are safe when you are deep asleep. Never ever beg her to come back. Never ever get soft when she wants to come back. Pussy is expired and not consumable, too much shit happened, broken glasses can not be fixed, they are replaced. You are a vet. Personally I don't serve country/society, but you did your thing and you paid the price for it. Now let your country serve you.

Watch the mother of your children. She is in pussy heaven now. But the moment reality sets in and dick did not pay up/out/was not worth it/all men are scum yada yada. She will be back for those kids, alone or with the help of the state. Prepare yourself.

NakedValhallaBoyy · 2020-01-27T06:08:59+00:00

I have no advice to give, went MGTOW young and never had to worry about such things. Just chiming in to wish you luck and strong shoulders for the burden you're carrying.

Bignuke95 · 2020-01-27T02:55:17+00:00

Gaming is great as one person already commented!

KneeDeepThought · 2020-01-27T03:29:03+00:00

Go over her head. Document everything. Her organization has to have an oversight committee- you need to make sure this goes to them and not her office where it will obviously get trashed. Call the state offices, find their official watchdog for CYS and start filing every complaint you can. And make sure you get on the record with tha family court asap that she abandoned you with the kids- you can use that to keep the property and make her pay support. Write down what happened tonight and assemble evidence of her abandonment and infidelity.

lulz3r · 2020-01-27T03:58:54+00:00

If you decide to have any communication with her make sure it’s through text. Don’t answer her phone calls, if you do she can twist the words out of your mouth or outright lie about the conversation. Recording the interaction with her might be inadmissible in court depending on where you live.

You need a lawyer yesterday.

wiwilliam · 2020-01-27T03:59:13+00:00

Hope this help brother video

Bignuke95 · 2020-01-27T06:06:58+00:00

I’m not allowed to legally keep her locked out even though she left correct??

NietzscheExplosion · 2020-01-27T06:09:22+00:00

Llllllllaywer up. You will win.

Frankbond123bond · 2020-01-27T07:21:45+00:00

I think the legal advice is all done here.

I would add to keep your cool and keep it professional as she will use anything against you.

I wish you all the best.

Equivalent-Craft · 2020-01-27T08:11:45+00:00

Buy a full page diary NOW. Write everything as it happens see a GOOD attorney keep the kids n get maintenance. Were here for ya mate👍

Philosophipster · 2020-01-27T12:03:40+00:00

This is very sad to hear man, must be a punch in the gut. In spite of being a bit more aware of what can come. Emotions are like that.

If you need someone to talk to, pm me man. No one should go through that shit alone. Big hug in the meantime!

2020-01-27T13:33:30+00:00

BigNuke95, let it go. Breathe.

You are alright. People do things, it is how it is.

I admire you for having spent your precious time on your children. So what she's done ? It's all good. People come and people go, in friendships and in love. Be thankful for the great times you had with her and the children. Remember that no matter what happens, your children will always be there. They may not live with you, I wish you they will but either way they'll always be family.

Don't feel bad about the time you spent you may feel like you lost. You didn't.

I think that what matters most is to hold onto your values and to who you are. If she cheated on you that's her problem, not yours. You were invested in the family, you did the right things, you probably treated her right too. Her loss. But at the same I don't know the whole situation.

Lawyer up and move on. Stay strong.

Wish you strength and the very best !

WILLNOTLAND · 2020-01-27T18:32:28+00:00

24/25 Y.O. I’m guessing?

Damn... shouldn’t have to deal with this so young.

I’m not sure what your living situation was beforehand, but, if your wife was the primary provider, you need to figure out your funds. Cut/mitigate costs and start finding local job opportunities; you’re effectively a single dad now and you don’t have the luxury of choice when it comes to work. It might be tough depending on what’s available, but this is one of those hard choices you’ll need to make as you need to provide for your kids now.

Get as much assistance as you can from the resources others mentioned.

Document all your interactions with your wife from now on. From your story, she might return to fleece you of your kids or whatever money you get your hands on. Don’t give her any chance to kick you while you’re down. As far as relationships go, she’s your enemy right now.

As for social needs, it’ll be tough depending on what you can and can’t do. I’d recommend picking up a free game online and join a guild (or whatever’s the equivalent) with discord. Hang out with them when you can.

Absolutely no alcohol or drugs — you don’t have the funds for it! And those are only short-term solutions to emotional pain; the only real solution is to understand it and make peace with it.

Title	Brothers I really need help this evening....
Author	Bignuke95
Upvotes	84
Comments	70
Date	January 27, 2020 2:03 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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