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[–]SuckingOffMyDad6 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (10 children) | Copy Link
There has to be another way to get a girl.
Okay, here you go:
If you're extremely poor then get money. You can't do anything in life without money. You don't need to be rich, you just need enough money to be able to do the following steps.
Most men dress like trolls. Learn how to actually dress well. Learn to like men's fashion and find a style that actually makes you look as good as you can be. Get yourself a great-looking wardrobe.
Get yourself a good haircut. Most men have no fucking idea how stupid they look.
If you're too pale, get a tan.
Look healthy and smell good. Clip your nails, shower, use lotions and creams, shave, use cologne and wash your face.
Get yourself good social skills. Learn to be comfortable in all social situations. Learn what people find weird or unappealing and what makes them enjoy talking to you. Talk to a lot of people in your life and if anyone doesn't seem to enjoy talking to you, replace what you just did with something different and try it on a different person.
Be above the petty things in life. Be comfortable in your own skin, and treat the bad things in life with lighthearted amusement. Just be above it all.
Make sure that your apartment looks nice.
Don't overeat. If you're fat, lose weight. No need to exercise if you don't want to though.
When all of the above is fixed, do the following:
And that's it. I'm 100% beta, so if this works for me, it should work for you.
[+]hunteeer[S] -7 points-6 points-5 points 10 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, with the exception of "tried and failed". K, maybe because I'm pale and overweight, but I don't want to date a model, just a 'normal' girl.
Why the social skills? Most people talk about themselves or other people, that's boring.
[–]3NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
K, maybe because I'm pale and overweight, but I don't want to date a model, just a 'normal' girl.
Why would a normal girl want to date a pale and overweight dude, especially if he's broke and spends his time whining about how stupid and boring other people are?
Most people talk about themselves or other people, that's boring.
All you've been doing is whining about how you're not getting what you want + how you don't want to do anything about it, which is pretty boring too. Either find those rare few people that you care about, or become somebody better.
What are you doing on this forum if you don't want to improve yourself? Are you looking for someone to pat you on the back and tell you it's all going to be okay?
[–]SuckingOffMyDad1 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, with the exception of "tried and failed".
What do you mean? What is "tried and failed" an exception to?
If you're pale and overweight and want to meet someone on your level, then skip the "lose weight" and "get a tan" steps, and you'll end up with someone who is also pale and overweight.
Is this what you mean by normal girl? Someone who is also pale and overweight?
Why the social skills?
Why get social skills? Because nobody wants to talk to someone who is awkward, weird, negative or clueless. It's like saying "why eat good food?" People like good stuff, not bad stuff. Is this news to you?
No they don't. They talk about everything.
[–]hunteeer[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
So I know the wrong people.
Tried and failed is not the exception per se. It's months on Tinder, swiping every girl to the right and not getting any match at all. I would be content with pale and overweight. Last LTR was from this category and it went well for 7 years 8 months 13 days 21 hours and a bunch of minutes.
I don't think that being negative is a lack of skill. But I know what you mean. I'm not this inflated kind of douche clown the girls fall for, but I'm totally able to have a normal conversation with some gallows humor spread in.
[–]SuckingOffMyDad 1 points1 points1 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I'm having a hard time understanding what you're saying. Your English is very broken. Try to be extremely clear.
What do you mean? I have no idea what you're saying. I didn't say anything about knowing people.
Tried and failed is not the exception per se.
Again, I have no idea what you're talking about. "Exceptions", "trying and failing". What the hell are you talking about? Explain from the beginning exactly what you mean by this. I don't understand a single word.
It's months on Tinder, swiping every girl to the right
Why the fuck are you on Tinder if you didn't first do the steps I explained? If you're swiping right but you're very unattractive, then you're not going to get any matches.
Why don't you understand this? Fix yourself first. THEN go on Tinder.
I don't think that being negative is a lack of skill. But I know what you mean.
Once more I don't understand what you're talking about at all.
I'm totally able to have a normal conversation with some gallows humor spread in.
Who the fuck said anything about gallows humor? That's not the same thing as having social skills. Gallows humor is very risky, and if you don't have real social skills it will just backfire.
I REPEAT. FOLLOW MY STEPS, BECOME A BETTER PERSON, THEN YOU CAN START DATING.
LEARN REAL SOCIAL SKILLS, LEARN HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK APPEALING, GET A DECENT JOB, THEN START DATING.
[–]hunteeer[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Sorry, I said I know the wrong people, because I only know people talking about themselves and others a lot.
So in a few sentences: I meant to say that I tried Tinder and got absolutely 0 matches. You gave me a to do list as a rule set like 'Do this -> go Tinder -> get woman', but like I told you, my shortcomings compared to the list are being pale and overweight. What I'm saying is, that it's not working as easy as you proclaim, therefore I tried and failed.
Because nobody wants to talk to someone who is awkward, weird, negative or clueless.
But being negative is no lack of skill. May gallow humor isn't the best shot, but I like it. It's the same witch sarcasm. I feel damn stupid trying to be funny, I'm not a douche clown with a cap and his pants in his socks.
I REPEAT: I'm just pale and overweight. I follow a standard hygienic routine featuring the things you told. I'm not dressed like a troll and have a proper haircut. As for the job, fuck it as long as my fridge isn't empty. It's nobody's business how my flat looks. It's not pretty, but it's clean. I'm living in a rural area. Nobody will come to visit me anyways.
[–]SuckingOffMyDad1 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Okay now I can understand you. Thank you for explaining.
If you live in a rural area far from everyone else, how are you getting matches?
Maybe you need to move closer to where people are?
[–]hunteeer[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Let me explain this. Most people my age in Germany have a driver's license, but no car. I'm living 45 minutes from city center. But on weekends between 10pm and 8 am and workdays in the evening you basically don't get to or away from my place. I lived near the city center few years ago. Was pretty stressing for somebody that grew up in a village. The matches are mostly from surrounding villages and the city.
[–]SuckingOffMyDad1 point 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Then you have two potential problems:
You're full of shit and you're not just "pale and fat" but really, really gross and unattractive and really need to improve yourself a lot before anyone will want to date you.
You live somewhere where nobody is willing to go for a date and your only option is to move closer to where more people are.
Which one is it?
[–]3NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
You'll get the female attention you want if you head upstream and become the sort of man that women admire. This is universal.
[+]hunteeer[S] -9 points-8 points-7 points 10 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I just want a normal girl, no overstyled bitch or topmodel.
Most older people in Germany are bigger morons than the younger ones.
P.s.: Volunteering is stupid. People who work for free are stupid
[–]3NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]hunteeer[S] -2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
I never said I wouldn't work on it in any way. I just want what everybody else gets:
[–]3NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Slightly lower than average girls still have better options than you. If there's even one guy who's slightly less pale, less overweight, less broke, more attractive and more sociable, that's who'll they'll pick.
Women have options, and they'll always pick the best option they can.
[–]hunteeer[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And there has to be a less attractive girl, always.
Fuck it. That's pointless not only because I know you are right, but I just don't want to stay without female companionship for multiple years. Besser widerlich, als wieder nicht -> Better disgusting than nothing.
[–]recon_johnny -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I just want what everybody else gets:
There is no deserves, pal. Stop being fucking entitled. You have no fucking idea the steps needed to get 'what everyone else gets', but dude here is trying to help you.
All you're doing is shitting on him.
Guess what? We're not here to fucking hold your hand and tell you things will be ok, that you deserve the good things and life, and magically...you'll get those things because the magic fairy will fart good luck on you.
We're saying:
Own your shit. You're responsible for everything in your life, good or bad. Dude above has given you 4 concrete things to you, and you say 'Fuck it, that's hard'. No shit. You want a Disney fairy tale? You've come to the wrong place.
YOU are responsible for losing weight, dressing better, acting better socially, dropping your friends and improving your entire self (start reading more, learn more languages, etc) --- all of which improve your SMV to women.
And dude, you're just limiting yourself by saying all you want is an average girl. Once you realize YOU are the prize, you won't settle. So don't. Be the best you can be, and get the things you WORK for.
Get it?
You're bitching about your lot in life. I get it. You're frustrated. But doing the same things that you've always done will give you the same results. Change it.
I recommend monk mode. A serious 6 month frame to improve the core you. Drop your friends, spend time on the computer other than wanking and learn some shit, volunteer (as stated above with the reasons above), medidate.
Additionally, move. Get the fuck out of where you are. Learn what you can do (and this is up to you, what would you do if you had no limitations), and go elsewhere. Your current environment is stagnant, so fucking change it. I know you see it, but you're afraid to do anything about that. That should end today.
Stop being a pussy and work on you.
[–]hunteeer[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
what would you do if you had no limitations
Wouldn't change anything, as the only thing I want atm is get rid of my excess weight, but the physiological processes involved take their time. So I'm basically 'dead to the outside' til Feb/Mar 16.
I know that I'm the only one responsible for my life, but there are so many obstacles in my way to anything, I can't see the way, nor think of a goal.
Maybe to want an average girl is limiting, but I believe it'll be easier to keep a 4 than a 7+.
[–]ho-li-fuk 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey man.. not going to lie... you sound like a twat. Your experience is most likely a result of your own thoughts and attitudes. I'd suggest only two things:
Much love...
[–]hunteeer[S] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All this shit about 'experience is determined by thoughts' is nonsense. Water is wet, no matter if you want it to be or not.
[–]rectanglered 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I can see exactly why you can't get a girlfriend LOL.
[–]3NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep. There are broadly 3 ways to get a girl:
[–]hunteeer[S] -2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Because there are millinos of dudes out there believing they are something great? Life is worthless, as individualism basically is.
[–]recon_johnny -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This defeatist, bullshit attitude is not appreciated nor respected. Stop being a 14 year old girl and work for a change.
If you believe life is worthless, then end your now. No-one here will care. But...if you want something different, if you want value, if you want to BUILD something, then stop BSing yourself and realize you CAN fucking change, things CAN get better, you CAN be something great. You have to WORK to do that. You've not done that work so far.
[–]jackdoesketo 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can do a lot more social things which actually interesting people do when you are not overweight because of 1) being fit enough to do those things and 2) you will become more confident and people will become drawn to you instead of repulsed by you. Lift and all the rest will follow, this the the best medium-long term solution for you. But remember the journey is more important than the outcome.
[–]abetterarsonist 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You remind me of myself, to be honest. I grew up in Baden Wurtemburg and moved to the states when I was 12. I had such a hard time adjusting to American superficial bullshit and just wanted a regular existence as you do, with a regular girl and job and house, and I hated parties and loud music, although I forced myself to go anyway.
It's as if America exported itself to you in the 20+ years. And honestly, I still haven't found a good girl. Just abandon the idea and spend some time figuring out what you would like to spend your life doing.
[–]HappyScribe 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Here's some observations:
[–]HalfPastTuna 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You sound like a cool person to be around
"You shouldn't make your happinss depend on others, but be able to make others happy, so they can depend their mood on you" stenches out of all this "you should be a douche clown" statements
[–]SensibleCreeper1 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link
Well... this analogy should be taken into account; If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room.
I'm not calling you smart, but you were prob the smartest person in that room since they were all chads. You need to find a new room with smarter people in it. I'm sure you will find a plate to spin in a room more suited to your liking. Also plates will only be spun if you're not the constant negative type so stop talking like a jealous ass hat.
[–]hunteeer[S] -5 points-4 points-3 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Lol. I really like, when the gifted tell the poor to not be jealous
[–]SensibleCreeper 0 points0 points0 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
The world is not against you. You are against the world.
[–]hunteeer[S] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You misstyped it:
The world is against you, so you (alone) have to be against the world.
[–]3NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The world doesn't give a fuck about you. "The world is against me" is the worldview of a solipsistic, narcissistic child. You're alone AND nobody cares.
[–]BradPill 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The world is neutral: against you and for you. The world is half-empty, but also half-full.
Supposedly from native US Indians:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
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