SUMMARY

You don't always need to wait for a first date. This is an outline of my day out and how it eventually led to a date on the spot.

BACKGROUND

I'm graduating from community college this semester (hold the applause) and I'll be attending a major university in the spring. I decided to drive a few hours yesterday to check out the apartment options and the main campus. Finals were last week so campus was almost deserted and everything closed, but there were still some people hanging around.

PREVIOUS APPROACHES

I arrived on campus after checking out an appt I really liked and purposely decided to wander around without a map, just to check it out.

After realizing I had no idea where things were, I decided to start asking random people for directions. I'd walk up to them and say "Excuse me, I'm trying to find X fountain." A couple pulled out their phones and used Google maps, I think they were worse off than I.

After walking around I decided to start stopping people and asking something different. I'd say "If you had 2 hours on campus and everything was closed, what would you go see?"

Notice how low pressure these questions are. I don't need to stand there for more than 30 seconds, but if I decide I wanted to, I could turn it into something else. Also, the second is slightly more of an investment than the first.

I want to make it clear to the newbs worried about PUA this, PUA that: I was not out with the intention of picking anyone up or approaching. I genuinely wanted to see these places, and I walked for 3 hours accross campus checking out what these people recommended. I was having a blast on my own, but being social along the way.

Looking back, though, I was building up social momentum. I was feeling great.

After a while, I was tired of walking and sat on a random swing and talked to my sister on the phone. Then I saw her. Hands down the hottest girl I'd seen all day. We'll call her Ginger. She was walking her dog around the yard I was in. I couldn't let this one go.

THE APPROACH

I smiled at her while I was talking on the phone, and continued as I was. She walked around the yard and sat at a fountain about 30 ft away from me. I hung up, and started walking.

As I'm a few feet from her, her dog barks at me, I smile and bark back.

Me: Is he friendly? (I have a dog, whenever I want to approach someone with my dog, this is my go to. It's saved my ass a couple times)

Her: yeah!

I pet her dog

Me: I got a question for you.. First, do you mind taking off your sunglasses? I like to see people I talk to.

Note: I always do this when I approach someone with sunglasses on. It's a good idea because you can make eye contact and you're immediately bringing her into your frame. I didn't notice until later but she spent the entire time holding her glasses for me because she didn't have where to put them.

I sat next to her and put my arm around her on the bench.

Me: If you had just a few minutes to go see something here, where would you go?

Her: Did you go see the stadium?

Me: I was just there. What's your name, by the way?

Her: I'm Ginger

Me: ironblacksmith

I shake her hand

You guys obviously know to begin touching her early on. Hand shake is an obvious way to start. I usually go for high fives. 90% of what's going on in this interaction is non-verbal, it's my body language, my tone, etc.

I mentioned something about her dog, she asked about mine and we talked about that for a minute. Can't remember the exact conversation. Point is: small talk

Me: I cut her off while she's rambling So what else is there to see around here?

Her: You could go see the blah blah blah (no idea what this was called)

Me: Sounds nice. What are you up to right now?

Note: This is the point where it changes from me approaching her and getting her number, to me inviting her to come along on my adventure. Looking back, she totally understood what my question meant. She knew exactly why I was there. (As you'll see from her response)

Her: Do you want me to go with you?

Me: I stand up Let's go.

THE DATE

At this point, you're essentially on a date. Call it whatever you want, point is, you brought her along with you and she decided to invest her time to get to know you. It's the equivalent of a 15-minute coffee date if you like.

We walked for about 20 minutes. The idea here is obviously to get to know her. Qualify her, tease her, kino, etc. You know the drill. I'll give some highlights.

Me: You're a psych major.

Her: Me? No, I'm doing economics and somethingsomething.

Me: Gross, my sister studied that.

Her: What about you?

Me: I'm majoring in knitting. look at her like I'm serious Also doing some math.

I teased her for a bit about how little math she needs to take (she hates math, not a surprise - what's with these economists not needing fucking math yo?)

She tells me about how she works and is so proud of paying for her own stuff. I praise her and tell her she's so empowered.... HA..

Me: I don't believe you

Her: gets frustrated What do you meeeean you don't believe me?

Remember the one thing you need to do is make her feel things. I always tell girls they're liars and I don't believe anything they say. They'll just start qualifying themselves.. If they like you.

Note: Thinking back, this is hands down the most calm I've ever been during a cold approach. I literally only felt anything while I was walking up to her, the rest of the time there was nothing. Part of that were my previous approaches. Remember this applies anywhere, at a club, at the park, etc. Be out doing your shit, be social, talk to everyone and this is easy. Oh also fucking lift and dress well. I was dressed like I was going out just to walk all over campus.

Her dog had been pulling her the entire time. I took this opportunity to do two things, at different moments. First, I made fun of her by holding her hand and pulling her along like her dog was doing. I waited till she let go first. Then, I took her dog from her and showed her how to walk her. She listened to me way more (my dog is way crazier so it was cake), both of these were establishing dominance.

On the way back, as we're getting close to the starting point, I was on my phone checking something. When I was done, I opened the call option and handed her my phone.

Her: smiles You want my number?

Me: Yup

I ask her her plans for the night and she says she's going go carting and mini golf.

Me: Got a hot date, huh?

Her: Sorta. What about you?

Me: I gotta go sign my lease right now and then drive back home.

She seemed disappointed. Good.

We continue walking to my car and found out she parked close to me. Obviously told her she was following me here. I gave her a hug and told her I'd call her when I'm back in town. Then I texted her and told her to save my number. And that was that.

(If there is more to the story I'll write an update just for those horny faggots that think this is erotic literature)

LESSONS LEARNED

-The best way to appear non-needy is to be non-needy. Don't go out to pick up girls. Find something you like doing, meet them along the way.

-Social momentum is a thing that needs to be built up. The more social you are, the easier interactions become.

-If a girl isn't doing anything (or even if she is) initiate a date immediately if you have the time. You don't always need to wait.

EDIT: The main point to make for the new guys is simply how easy this was. It was easy because I didn't put any pressure on myself to get anywhere. I had fun, walked around, met people, found a girl I liked and pursued it. I was never worried about hitting a quota or getting something from her. I didn't care and it was obvious. Who the fuck barks at a dog anyway?