For the aspiring Better Man on The Red Pill, there is often a major mental hurdle to overcome before you can find more success with women. And we talk a lot about him: how hot he is, how much he lifts, how little fucks he gives, how much fucking he actually does, hot wet girls panties are for him, etc, etc.

This mental hurdle is commonly referred to as Chad.

And – of course – Chad doesn’t actually exist. He’s the fictitious personification of the Red Pill ideals. He’s the example of what you or I should have done in a particular situation, instead of the Beta game we spewed. He doesn’t make mistakes, he always closes, and – most importantly – he’s better than you. And, ultimately, there’s nothing wrong with the Chad lingo or example.

But the mental mistake that’s often made by men trying to better themselves is thinking, in large, a substantial number of men – or at least enough to fuck your girlfriend – have reached this Chad ideal. We walk around assuming that, odds are, our plate or LTR is on the verge of bumping into a real world pseudo-Chad and branch swinging. After all, a lot of guys – myself included – talk a big internet game, no?

What most fail to realize is how much the Sexual Marketplace - especially for a woman - operates on imperfect information. There are a lot, and I mean a metric shit-ton, of loser guys out there. Hot losers, ugly losers, rich losers, poor losers, high-status losers, and boring losers. But losers all the same. What defines a man’s worth to a woman is not outward characteristics, but his own frame of mind. Internal confidence is the gold coin of our SMV, and most of the male population is below the poverty line.

This is not to diminish the importance of physique, grooming, a good career, sexual prowess, etc., but these are hurdles you must pass for women, not what creates lasting attraction. And even these hurdles can be difficult for girls to ascertain. Discovering a man’s inner confidence, though, takes even greater time, energy, and investment on her part.

When she’s evaluating you, another man, and the men around her in general, she doesn’t have each guy’s true SMV. Sure, she can see a particular guy is hot, but remember – there are a lot of hot losers. Again, there is a huge investment risk in her jumping ship without a guy’s full SMV picture, only to end up in the arms of a needy, insecure, hot chump. This is why girls tend to branch swing much more so than guys. They need to make sure a new guy actually has the gold coin of the male SMP, first.

So instead of entertaining thoughts of what opportunities a particular girl of yours has at her disposal, instead focus on things that make you a Better Man – one with more inner confidence. Pick up and fuck a new girl, take on a new hobby, lead a recreational group, develop social status at the places you patron. Find and do things you like, because you (should be) the great catch.

The battle for becoming a Better Man is not external conflict with other males, but an internal struggle correcting your own frame of mind. A man who possesses internal confidence (and meets women’s required hurdles) has no trouble attracting and sustaining a woman’s fancy.

Those that don’t, however, may be right to wary of any pseudo-Chad.

-EnterDiscourse