Hey folks, do you guys get angry when you look back to the past?

Mgtaoteching · 2019-01-21T03:28:57+00:00

I used to. But then I realized it’s a useless thought that has no present value. It’s also an illusion...anything that has happened in the past doesn’t exist any more. I just try my best to let things go that anger me, and observe what is happening right this moment.

gadabout13 · 2019-01-21T03:35:39+00:00

The same...I used to...but now I just shake my head at my dumbness.....and get more determined to save my sons

NVCowboy · 2019-01-21T03:48:33+00:00

I’d have to say that it’s more embarrassment that I feel for not recognizing my ex’s behavior for what it was and calling her out on it. I think my newfound knowledge of women’s nature is what freed me from the anger. As others here have stated, you don’t hate a rattlesnake for being what it is, you just avoid them.

QuantumSanta · 2019-01-21T03:38:13+00:00

Mistakes are learning opportunities. You cannot change anything you have done, so it is pointless being angry.

Live and learn.

sadndangry · 2019-01-21T03:49:39+00:00

Thanks for sharing your views.

I went to some anger management classes.

You know ,the classes didn't really help.

I sometimes just really hate myself for being so dumb in the past.

DangZagnut · 2019-01-21T03:49:49+00:00

Nope. You can't live in the past. Just try and do slightly less cringe things in the future, mostly centered around fashion choices and haircuts.

If you get angry at things you did, stop doing them. if you're getting angry at other people, then you shouldn't have trusted them.

It's really easy to get angry at an external force, but in the end, ultimately you are responsible because that's the only way you can make changes and not repeat mistakes.

If mom was mean to you, then you can reject her in the here and now, you can't change the past, just never get in a dependency cycle again.

[deleted] · 2019-01-21T04:19:05+00:00

You can’t change the past brother. It’s gone. Make tomorrow a better day

westnblue · 2019-01-21T05:01:22+00:00

if you get angry, you're the one who feels the pain the other person feels nothing

Texian_Fusilier · 2019-01-21T03:43:07+00:00

Some but theres no point.

[deleted] · 2019-01-21T03:54:41+00:00

I get angry at all the time I wasted on women in my 18/19/20 years old horny phase, but I get past it after realizing my current MGTOW powers make me AWESOME.

CiceroVoltaire · 2019-01-21T04:00:14+00:00

" The past encourages me, the present electrifies me, and I have little fear for the future; and my hope is that the rest of my life shall by far surpass the extravagances of my youth. " - Marquis de Sade

everythingisatoms · 2019-01-21T04:01:27+00:00

Whenever you get angry, pause and ask yourself a simple question “Is this useful?”

Most of the times it’s not, and you can figure out why you shouldn’t waste more time doing something useless.

wtf_bob · 2019-01-21T04:29:53+00:00

I used to. My fault for trusting her, so won't stay angry with myself. It's looking like time makes things better. 😁

mgtow-zen · 2019-01-21T05:36:51+00:00

The zen answer: by feeling the anger.

Seriously, just let it surge through you, like a power surge. It hurts, it's not fun and luckily, it is temporary. Just feel it.

I didn't say act on the anger, nor did I say feed it. Anger, regardless of form or apparent "cause" is never justified, never sensible and never worth hanging on to. But that doesn't mean we don't experience it.

Yet the anger itself will say it is justified, you'll think of how innocent men are in jail and how men got raked over the coals in divorces and how no one gives a shit about you because you are male. You'll think about all the advantages women have, while they bitch about how you've been oppressing them....

And the anger will seem justified. When you're pissed, you probably won't even realize you are angry and certainly won't want to tell yourself "this anger is not justified". But that's the skill, first being aware you are angry, then not clinging to the anger, not "owning" it as yours. The anger is just passing through, clouds do not affect the sun in any way.

Don't try and deny the anger, or make yourself feel ashamed of it. Just simply feel it, being thankful it is temporary. Try not to invest in it if you can.

ikhwan_arif · 2019-01-21T06:38:40+00:00

Build new and positive experiences to replace the old ones.

madriverdog · 2019-01-21T08:47:03+00:00

No, never angry. I keep my eyes looking ahead.

As Valentino Rossi says, “ The riders behind you don’t matter”.

Friendlyfire8102 · 2019-01-21T09:35:34+00:00

Little story about handling rejection and anger. I had a hard time dealing with my ex cheating so I went to a work authorized female therapist and when I told her my ex left me for an African hand drum instructor her eyes immediately opened wide and she started talking on and on about how much she loved her drumming circle. This women has a 6 year post secondary education based solely on how to help people then she is payed over $100k a year to do the same yet her opening line is basically "Oh, I totally agree your wife, drummers are hot." Therapy works, I realized AWALT is true and women don't give a shit about anyone but themselves. Other than that time is the best healer, try hard to move forward so you don't see too much of the past and the anger will die down.

dirtydog113 · 2019-01-21T11:09:14+00:00

Turn it into a positive and exercise with the anger as my fuel.

Samuraidweeb · 2019-01-21T13:03:26+00:00

Why get angry at the past? That's stupid.

[deleted] · 2019-01-21T15:22:38+00:00

No. If you're referring to past relationships, there's nothing to be angry about. I had one LTR that I ended when she cheated. Today, I own multiple homes and properties, retirement is coming along great, I take vacations abroad, and my weekends are free and open to do whatever I want whenever. She's a side chick for some dirt bag and still lives with her parents. Worked out great. I send her family Christmas gifts every year to throw it in their face.

ThrowThrowThrone · 2019-01-21T22:52:10+00:00

Nah. Sometimes I remember something cringy I've done, and then push that thought out of my head. Anger isn't productive, so you aren't bringing yourself value by indulging. Feel it, sure. But don't wallow in it.

Title	Hey folks, do you guys get angry when you look back to the past?
Author	sadndangry
Upvotes	19
Comments	23
Date	January 21, 2019 3:25 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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