If you’re fun enough, you can get away with ANYTHING. I see so many guys who go out with serious looks on their faces- they’re taking themselves WAY too seriously. It’s time to end that...

 

People who read dating advice content tend to be very logically intelligent, but all logic must go out the window when you’re interacting with women. To a woman, logical conversation is like noise, whereas emotional conversation is like music. Your intention when interacting with a woman should be to make her feel specific emotions, and most of all, you need to offer her fun.

 

Sounds good, but how do I do this?

 

The most efficient way to be more fun is to snap yourself out of a logical headspace by doing something ridiculous.

 

One friend of mine accomplishes this by being romantic to the point of absurdity, he tells every girl she’s different from the rest (when she’s not), that she’s actually intriguing (probably not), and even that he loves her (he doesn’t). He finds this hilarious, and girls know he’s joking, that it’s just a role play, and that’s why it works, it’s fun and totally illogical.

 

All types of fun share one important attribute. Fun is an act of letting go. You can’t have fun while caring what people think, the two states of mind are directly conflicting with each other. Practice doing things that force you to let go of your self-image, many of us have spent our entire lives guarding our reputations and trying to seem ‘cool’, paradoxically, you won’t be cool until you finally let go of your need to look cool, and allow yourself to let go and have fun.

 

Practice LETTING GO

 

Here are a few exercises you can try to practice letting go of your self-image. If these seem difficult to you, then you probably take yourself too seriously. Practicing these will force you to stop caring what people think, and the less you care about what people think, the more fun women will have interacting with you.

 

(Note: Whichever of these you choose to do, I recommend that you do them for a week straight so you can deeply absorb the emotional lesson, just doing an exercise once is still useful, but lasting change requires repeated practice.)

 

Awkward Laugh in Public

 

You can do this in a bar, a mall, a college campus, anywhere with a high volume of people. The task is exactly what it sounds like, while you’re walking through the venue, laugh as loudly and awkwardly as possible. Do this for as long as you can. It might be uncomfortable, but that discomfort is a sign that you’re acting in a way that conflicts with your ego. (the part of you that takes your identity way too seriously) You’re basically punching your self-image in the face. You can’t take yourself quite as seriously after you’ve done this.

 

Dancing Through the Streets

 

You can do this with or without playing music, but while moving through any public place with a high volume of people, start dancing. You can dance in place or dance as you move, the style of dance is totally up to you, but the weirder and more flamboyant, the better. If this is a bit much for you, you can warm up by skipping instead of full-on dancing. Once you get comfortable with skipping, you can start dancing.

 

Propose to a stranger

 

Buy a ring pop from a nearby Walgreens. The next time you go out, walk up to a woman and say, “I saw you, and I know this is forward, but when you know, you know.” Then get on one knee and pull out the ring pop before saying, “I am completely smitten by you, will you marry me?”

 

These exercises force you to do things that openly conflict with your self-image. But it’s the parts of your personality that you usually would hide from strangers, that make you feel insecure, that you’d normally only show to someone you are very comfortable around, that are the most fun and likeable. We all have a playful side, a side that most of us rarely show because we’re embarrassed of it. By doing the challenges outlined in this article, you are proving to yourself that people won’t judge you nearly as much as you thought they would for letting your dorky side out. You’re proving to yourself that there aren’t any consequences for acting goofy, for having fun. These practices are incredibly freeing because you prove to yourself that your self-image is holding you back unnecessarily. And that you can act however you want to without negative repercussions (unless you are openly aggressive of course), and you can’t truly be fun until you let go of your fear of these imagined negative repercussions.

 

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